Confessions of a Parent Coach

Does your partner seem totally crazy sometimes?

This week, you get to hear my hubby Mike describe my behavior as totally insane, not once, but multiple times :)

Mike (Type 2) and I recorded an episode to describe what it's like to have the Enneagram in your marriage. How do a 1 and a 2 gel, and where do we clash? How do we use the Enneagram to navigate those rocky moments and reach a new level of unders...

What is it like to parent a child who really GETS themselves?

This week, I am sharing something incredibly special with you - my daughter!

Gigi sat down with me to talk about her Enneagram Type (4) and what it's like to know her Type, know my Type (1) and experience her childhood with the Enneagram woven into the parenting she receives.

People ask me all the time how the Enneagram can help with parenti...

How do your relationships become what they are? Back in the '30's Karen Horney was a psychologist who saw Freud's penis envy theory as the nonsense it was (barf) and went her own way (badass). She identified 3 main ways people try to get what they need. Later, her theories were overlain on the Enneagram and we can see that each Type's stance plays a HUGE role in how people show up in their relationships t...

Want to hack your brain? I've been talking a lot about the Enneagram lately, but do you have a clear idea of how to really USE it? Listen to this week's episode of Confessions of a Parenting Coach to see how each Type relates to ambition and goal-setting, and how to use that knowledge in your favor.

It's a great example of using the Enneagram to hack your brain! Understanding the way you work lets you gi...

Are you a head, heard or gut type?

It's another Enneagram episode this week in the Confessions of a Parenting Coach podcast! You know, the Enneagram loves the number 3 (it's the magic number, after all) and this week I'm talking about the three triads. They explain so much about why we do what we do!

Why do some people struggle to take action while others go for things without a second thought? Why can ...

Have you ever heard of spiritual bypassing? It was a new term to me when I began my Enneagram training and it helped me see on a whole new level the Enneagram's ability to impact people in meaningful ways. Listen to this week's episode of Confessions of a Parenting Coach to learn:

♦ What spiritual bypassing actually is
♦ Our need for both psychology and spirituality to really, truly grow
♦ How both of th...

So much more than a personality test: A personal roadmap

This week's Confessions of a Parenting Coach episode continues my Enneagram series, leading into my April workshop here in Denver: The Living Enneagram - Your Personal Roadmap.

Feeling lost in life is normal—whether it's lost about what direction to take on a particular decision or lost in a more existential way, we've all been there. It may surpr...

What your kid wants you to know: Decoding your child with the Enneagram

How many times do we ask ourselves unanswerable questions as parents? What does this kid need from me? What's going on inside them? What do I need to know that I'm missing? Why are they doing what they're doing? Wouldn't it be awesome if we could answer some of those questions?

In this week's episode of Confessions Of A Parenting Co...

Leap before you look. Did I say that wrong? Nope! In this week's episode of Confessions of a Parenting Coach, let's explore why looking before you leap is a TERRIBLE strategy! I will walk you through what the Enneagram calls your Centers Of Intelligence (the head, heart, and gut) and help you see why the head center keeps us stuck when we over-utilize it. Getting where you need to go in life and in parent...

Why discipline a child whose misbehavior isn't their fault? When I get this kind of question, I know that a parent thinks of discipline as punishment, and changing that mindset can be a revelation for most parents. Most of us were raised to think of the world in terms of blame, fault, guilt, crime, punishment, etc. But great parenting transcends this kind of reductive approach.

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How can you tell when you've gone too far with someone? Have you ever felt yourself ramp up with excitement in a conversation with your child, only to realize that they seem to be on a different planet, not plugged into your message at all? Especially if the conversation is about a mistake they made or a lesson you want to teach, your child could be feeling emotionally flooded.

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Growth is painful. Is there any other way? We use the expression 'growing pains' all the time, but how much of your energy and attention goes toward avoiding or helping your kids avoid the tough times we need to grow?

In this week's episode of Confessions of a Parenting Coach, I explore the Cycle Of Growth and specifically discuss resistance—the experience we all have when facing growth. Listen in to lea...

Want your kids to be each other's Ride Or Die?

Having a sibling is a beautiful gift that our kids seem to squander at every opportunity—fighting, hurting each other, and being cruel. But is that really squandering the gift?

In this week's episode of Confessions Of A Parenting Coach, I discuss the reason behind the universal friction between siblings. There is a reason for it, and there are things we can...

Want to finish the school year strong?

Hoping this semester can redeem last semester?

This week's episode of Confessions Of A Parenting Coach will get you on the right track. Listen in to hear my formula for a positive school year and leave your self-sabotaging habits behind!

If you're ready to help your kids land on their feet, set up a free Discovery Call! I will learn about your family, help you see...

Are you OK with life's ebb and flow?

I often hear frustration or defeat from clients when they notice that their energy or consistency in their new parenting work has waned. We can get down on ourselves for not maintaining things at a perfect, even level, but is that really even possible?

In this week's episode of Confessions Of A Parenting Coach I explore the rhythmic nature of life and help you settle...

Have you ever resolved to be a better parent?

When we want to improve our parenting, or anything else for that matter, we often focus on just DOING better - do this new great thing, stop that old bad thing. But does that really work? A lot of scientific and therapeutic theories say NO! So if you've ever committed to a new way of being (um, hello, New Year's Resolutions!) and quickly fallen back into old ...

Are you committing to a No-Yell January? So many parents set very rigid standards or even rules for themselves about anger and losing their temper. In this week's episode of Confessions of a Parenting Coach, you can learn:

♦ Why disallowing anger backfires
♦ What anger really is
♦ How to interact with your anger from a place of self

You may discover that the quickest way to become the calm parent you en...

What is coregulation? This foundational phenomenon actually happens between you and your child from the second you enter each other's lives! And yet, we don't talk about it nearly enough. Listen to this episode of Confessions of a Parenting Coach to hear the following:

♦ What co-regulation is (and why it matters)
♦ The magical superpower coregulation gives you as a parent
♦ How to work with coregulation ...

How does adolescence first begin?

An awakening happens in children around age nine, which is the singular seed that kicks off the process of adolescence and the development of personality and personal identity. In this week's episode of Confessions of a Parenting Coach, I walk you through what the Waldorf school of thought calls The Nine Year Change. Listen in to learn more about what's going on inside t...