June 4, 2024 • 22 mins
Have you ever felt like life is pulling you in a million directions at once? On this episode of Confessions of a Wannabe It Girl, I share my journey navigating a life that is packed. This episode is actionable advice to help upgrade your life even when life is cuckoo for coco puffs!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to Confessions of a Wannabe it Girl
, the podcast helping you filterout the BS in pursuits of
becoming the next it Girl.
Wow, I am tired.
I am operating on like fourhours of sleep, yet I have to
say that right now I'm in areally crazy time in my life a
million things on my plate, butI've found a few things that I
(00:20):
really wanna share with you guys.
That is helping to uplift,change, upgrade my life in this
crazy time.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Welcome to Confessions of a Wannabe it Girl
.
I'm your host, marley Fregging,and I'm here to help you filter
out all the bullshit and becomethe next it Girl.
This podcast explores thereality of what it really takes
to make it out there.
As it turns out, it is way lessInstagrammable than I thought
it was going to make it outthere.
As it turns out, it is way lessInstagrammable than I thought
it was going to be.
I'm still very much a work inprogress, but there's simply
(00:51):
nothing else I'd rather be doingthan chasing my dreams.
So let's learn from my mistakesand work together to achieve
our dreams with more confidence,clarity and direction.
Let's get after it.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Like I just mentioned , life is really crazy right now
.
In the personal sphere you know, I just came back from being
out of town for 18 days, whichwas a huge luxury.
This year I've been managinghaving the Pilates job.
I've been stepping very muchmore into an associate producer
role on various differentprojects to an associate
(01:28):
producer role on variousdifferent projects.
On top of my house is stilldestroyed from the rain damage
back in February.
I really don't want to talkabout this.
It's fair to say that this hasbeen like a really crazy time.
I'm just like booked in full tothe brim on top of like really
diving into planning a wedding,which is something I obviously
want to be putting a lot ofattention into as well, as you
(01:49):
know still managing the podcast,still chasing an acting career,
being, you know, hopefully aloving fiance, a good daughter,
all these things, and I will saylike it's just a really full
time in an amazing way, likethere's so many cool
opportunities that I have foundcoming my way.
And it's like a little bitwithout trying, because I think
(02:12):
I have laid the groundwork forthese things to come into my
life and I'm super proud aboutit.
Like I've got two short filmskind of coming up that I'm
working on in differentrespectives and I just wanted to
share some things that I havefound in this new level.
New devil are upgrading my lifeand I kind of came from being
(02:37):
always crazy busy as a kid.
My parents, being an only child, never restricted me from doing
activities.
I never had to pick betweensoccer and gymnastics because I
was an only child and my parentswere super supportive, so I was
kind of built up to handle alot more.
Like you know, let's talk aboutthe negative habits that I've
(02:59):
developed from that.
I eat too fast because I wasalways eating my meals in the
car.
I no cop, listen to this.
I can change my clothes whiledriving because I was always
eating my meals in the car.
No cop, listen to this.
I can change my clothes whiledriving because I was always
rushing to dance practice.
Eric's eyes got so big when Isaid that I am prepared to be
busy.
I always understand how to packmy own lunch, support myself
from 7 am to 12 o'clock at nightwithout having to come home and
(03:22):
pivot.
But here are the holes that Ilearned along the way that I
wasn't fulfilling Because I'm soon the go all the fucking time
these days I realized that myfinances were absolutely
spiraling out of control.
It was creation here, coffeethere, starbucks there, because
(03:44):
whatever I'm rushing, I don'thave time to maybe make a full
meal or just like whatever I'mworking so hard.
Of course I can buy that newoutfit, the Sephora sale,
whatever it may be.
I was really spiraling a littlebit out of control with money
because I didn't have theability to give attention to it,
(04:05):
which is not a way to moveforward in your late, to going
into thirties, to be financiallystable, so something I have so
been obsessed with.
I really wish that I could sayI was sponsored by this, because
I have already converted somany people to this.
But I want to talk about theCapital One savings account.
(04:27):
So Capital One has this likeamazing savings account A.
You can get like really goodpercent back I think it's
something upwards of 5% back onthe savings you keep on this
account.
So it's actually going to goahead and start making you a
little bit of money once youbuild up that savings account,
(04:49):
versus coming from like a moretraditional bank or the bank I
still kind of bank with, butpreviously banked with, where I
got no percent return on thesavings.
Like you know, it's just reallya place to hold your money.
But here's why I really amobsessed with Capital One.
Have you seen those videos onTikTok where they count out cash
(05:10):
and they zip it into a folderand the folder will be like
traveling savings.
And then they zip out some cash, like maybe you know 320s and
it's like shopping?
They zip out some cash, it'slike insurance and you pocket
away money in each of thesecategories.
Well, you can do that onlinewithout having to have cash.
With Capital One, you cancreate a savings account.
(05:33):
You make a million littledifferent savings account, and I
totally learned this from Amberfrom the Old Money Podcast that
you can make all thesedifferent savings accounts from
like, for instance, I have onethat's like our HOA dues.
I have one savings account thatI'm building up for travel.
I have one savings account thatis for taking my cats to the
(05:56):
vets.
I also have fun things like Iwant to save up to buy a luxury
bag this year when I travel toEurope.
I am saving up already for myCoachella ticket next year.
It is just really beneficial.
So then when my paycheck comesin, I go ahead and divide it out
between, each year folder, amoney savings account, depending
(06:19):
on, like kind of whatpriorities are coming up on my
life.
This is maybe not the mostrecommended thing but, for
instance, like I have a folderin my savings accounts that is
like wedding extras and you know, this weekend probably by the
time this episode comes out Iwill have asked my bridesmaids
to be my bridesmaids.
So I went ahead and put alittle extra money the past two
(06:43):
paychecks into my wedding'sextra saving account so I could
offset buying my bridesmaidsreally nice gifts, so you can
kind of play around a little bitwith the different money.
Obviously, the biggest thingthat we're all working through
and I hope you guys can checkout the episode with Amber from
Old Money is we want to bestaying out of debt.
Debt ain't fun, it stresses usout and because I was so on the
(07:05):
go, I was just constantlyfighting the verge of debt or in
debt, and this different methodof savings accounts has really
helped to change what I'm doingwith my money and it's so fast
and it's actually kind of fun,believe it or not.
That being said, something elseI think is kind of like silly
(07:27):
and I'm probably going to bemade fun of for being a little
neurotic is I want to talk about, like time blocking.
Now, we all know I am obsessedwith the Google calendar, like I
love a Google calendar,obsessed with the Google
Calendar.
I love a Google Calendar.
Google Calendar, it almostmakes me horny.
It's all right there and it'sso organized.
(07:48):
Number one things.
I'm going to talk a few thingsabout Google Calendar, a few
tips.
I love to color code mydifferent calendars within
Google Calendar.
So, for instance, I have onefor Pilates, a specific calendar
for Pilates.
I have a specific calendar forthe podcast.
I have a specific calendar foracting slash kind of
(08:11):
entertainment.
At this point I'm consideringmaking a new one for producing,
or like you know, projects.
And then I have kind of like aMarley events one as well and I
have them all differently colorcoordinated.
So whenever I'm feeling like alittle low in my life, like
thinking like, oh, I'm notgetting to my acting career
enough, I can click all theother calendars off and see how
(08:36):
much in a month I've done actingthings.
A it also really helps to keepthings organized when people ask
you like, oh, like, are youavailable for something specific
like a podcast recording?
At this time.
I just go, I click all thoseother calendars off.
I see if I'm available for apodcast at that time.
Because something else I'verealized is like, just because
(08:59):
you have the time for somethingdoesn't mean it's the time for
that thing.
For instance, four o'clock inthe morning probably not the
best time to podcast because I'mtired Four o'clock is a drastic
example but maybe like 3 pm onan afternoon after I've taught
five Pilates classes, maybe notmy best time to teach a or to
(09:20):
teach again.
Three hours of sleep to Pilatesand podcasts both Ps, you know,
just a little confusing torecord a podcast because I've
already been talking for threeor four hours.
So you know it really helps tosee that.
Color coordination Also if, formy aesthetic girlies, you can
come up with a beautiful colorrange, change them around.
Currently I'm come up with abeautiful color range.
Change them around.
(09:41):
Currently I'm a little bored ofmy color range and my Google
Calendar, so I'm thinking aboutchanging those.
Hot tip though if you're makingthese different calendars
within your Google Calendar, forsome fucking reason you can't
make new calendars with the nicecolors and all the color
options on the app on your phone.
You have to use the GoogleChrome or Safari.
(10:05):
I don't know why that is, ormaybe I just haven't figured it
out yet but something I want totalk about why I'm so obsessed
with Google Calendar is about ayear year and a half ago, maybe
two, honestly can't fuckingremember I switched from having
a literal write-out day-to-dayschool planner that we grew up
going to high school and middleschool half ago, maybe two,
honestly can't fucking rememberI switched from having a literal
write-out day-to-day schoolplanner that we grew up going to
high school and middle schoolwith to Google Calendar.
(10:26):
And the reason it was sonecessary for me to make this
change is I'm moving thingsaround all the time.
Appointments get changed andI'd have to go back and I'd
erase it in the weekly plannerand then, on top of it, I like
to see everything in a monthskew as well as a daily and
weekly.
That was so annoying to rewritethings in three different
(10:49):
places.
So, switching to GoogleCalendar, I can see all of those
and I only have to input it onetime.
But time blocking my life hasbeen really, really crazy.
I've realized because it is socrazy it's a little harder for
me to multitask and switchreally quickly because I'm
(11:10):
petering out more, I'm probablya little bit on the edge of
burnout.
So I've found that it is bestto, you know, keep podcast
things all together and then,you know, make the full switch
to say acting, or you know, it'sreally nice to go to Pilates
class and then I'll go teach it.
It's just kind of keeping mybrain all in the same place and
(11:33):
sometimes I will look at my weekand see I'm going from one
place in acting mentally,physically or emotionally, and
then I'm switching to teachingPilates and I'm like, wow, that
is really like on the system andI'll rework my schedule.
So that's what I'm talkingabout when I'm saying time
blocking, making sure things areconsistent in the same amount
(11:54):
of time.
I will say there's a little bitfor me a danger in going too
long in one category.
I, you know, tend to get alittle bored, if you couldn't
tell High energy need to beentertained, and so I don't know
.
I found that like three to fourhours is about, as I'd like to
stay in one category.
That being said, I've talkedabout this before but I'm going
(12:17):
to bring it up again.
I am absolutely obsessed withthe thing you are dreading most
in your day.
The thing you don't want to doFor me these days, I'm telling
you, it is memorizing lines.
I just don't want to memorizelines.
I don't want to work on scripts.
I'm just not into it, eventhough I still love acting so
(12:37):
much.
It's just it's not calling tome at the current moment to work
on scripts.
However, if I don't work on it,all day, the whole day drags
through and I'm just dreadingthis one thing I haven't done
and I keep thinking, ah, Ishould do that instead of doing
this.
So why the fuck am I not wakingup and doing that thing,
(12:58):
fucking first getting it done?
Fuck, am I not waking up anddoing that thing?
Fucking first getting it done.
It's done with, it's dealt,it's taken care of, and then I
don't have to spend the rest ofmy day guilt tripping myself or
thinking I should stop what I'mdoing now to go do that thing.
You know, this was some advicethat I got in college is, you
know, wake up and do the hardestthing first, and sometimes the
(13:18):
hardest thing is just the thingyou don't want to do.
It's those mundane tasks, it'sthat work assignment you just
haven't been feeling.
Get it done so you can go liveyour life.
It's very interesting.
I was having a conversationrecently about COVID our
favorite topic, you know aboutlockdown and like who really
benefited from lockdown.
(13:38):
And I'll tell you who I thinkbenefited from lockdown in
post-COVID life People with anine to five job.
They benefited because nowthere's more leniency to be at
home or have a at-home workday,because it kind of feels like
society proved on some level wecan work from home.
(13:58):
And I'm so happy for thembecause it's kind of giving them
the time back that maybe youknow American hustle culture and
other hustle cultures wasn'tgiving them.
And I bring that up to say likeour time is so precious and
these people working a nine tofive that now work at home,
(14:20):
maybe you're getting a littleextra time with their kids,
extra time with their pets,extra time to do laundry and
actually have a life.
So why is the thing that you'redreading keeping you away from
the rest of your life?
Get that thing done so you canexplore.
I'm talking about uplifting andupgrading your life by just
getting it done.
Then you can really go enjoythe beautiful summer sunshine
(14:43):
that seems to peak out in LosAngeles around 1 pm right now
because we're dealing with MayGray, I'm just excited to see
people use more lifetime, getmore lifetime back those nine to
fivers and you, by crossing offthe thing you dread in the
morning getting your time back.
And in regards to getting yourtime back, I want to talk about
(15:05):
this.
It seems so stupid and, I'm notgoing to lie, I'm not the best
with it, but you know thatamount of time you're sitting at
the dentist's office waiting tobe called in, or you're waiting
in line at the grocery store tocheck things out, or maybe
you're waiting at the pump forthe gas station.
And what do we do?
(15:26):
We all do it.
We lean down, we reach over, wepick up our cell phone and we
go through TikTok and Instagramand whatnot.
What if, instead, you reallyused those quick bursts of time
to make important phone calls,dentists, follow up with
(15:49):
appointments, prescriptions.
Really use those weird breaksthat you get in the mundane
parts of life and, instead ofmindlessly scrolling, keep
fighting to get your time back.
Answer a quick email so youdon't have to do it at 7 pm
after dinner, so you can go tobed or watch that episode of
Bridgerton or whatever.
(16:11):
I could digress on Bridgerton,but I'm not going to, even
though the temptation is likeit's there, I can like see it.
Point being is like you'regoing to get some time back by
dealing with those things.
In those little moments whenyou're alone waiting for a
checkout point I don't mean leanover and pick up your phone,
maybe while you're waiting fiveminutes for your friend Then I
(16:35):
feel like you have so muchpotential to get sucked into
dealing with phone calls orimportant emails while waiting
your friend or something that'sgoing to take away the presence.
But if you're waiting forsomething that inevitably
involves waiting and is justboring and just part of life
like why are we not getting thetasks done that we want to and
(16:56):
wasting so much time on socialmedia, get that shit done and
off your plate and you're goingto end up getting so much more
time back.
That is, like, I guess, theunderlying point of these two.
That is like I guess theunderlying point of these two
things is like I'm fighting toget time back because I'm so
busy and even if you're not sobusy, don't you want just more
(17:17):
extra time to like be lazy or bechill, or to not have anything
on your plate and scroll throughInstagram?
Do you know how good it feelswhen you've actually gotten
everything on your checklistdone and every day is not going
to be a check all day.
I mean maybe, like I said, grewup being a very busy person and
(17:38):
maybe this is why I'm soobsessed with this mentality,
and I was also like, not as coolas maybe I think I was in high
school, but I would get all ofmy homework done on Friday
nights so that I would haveSaturday and Sunday to be
frolicking and guilt-free andtruly be like a child.
(18:00):
And these little micro habitsof using your time instead of
being on social media is kind ofmy essence of trying to get
through the checklist and getthat back.
This is another lesson that I,unfortunately, have heard a
little bit about.
Some people that I work with orwhatnot, don't do so greatly,
(18:21):
and it's something I'm reallyworking on improving as well,
even though I actually think I'mkind of doing.
It is you have to communicateto people when you're busy, like
I don't know why people justlike they're like, oh, I'm super
busy, I'm just not going torespond when somebody's asking
(18:43):
for, like are we still meetingat that same time or does that
have that rehearsal?
Pick up your phone, tell themhey, I'm so sorry.
I see your text message, I'mdoing this, I will get back to
you.
Or, like I will call you andfigure it out when I can, just
so they know.
You know they saw it's commoncourtesy.
I did this to Eric literallyyesterday, like I was on set
(19:06):
shooting all day for a musicvideo and you know we're dealing
with a what are we in?
A theater festival?
I'm like we're dealing with thetheater festival right now and
you know scheduling time for thepodcast.
Like we're both really strappedin and I know it.
And I just texted him and I waslike thank you so much for
continuing to text me.
(19:27):
Like is the thought, but like Ican't figure, for continuing to
text me is the thought, but Ican't figure this out right now,
and also my brain couldn'tbrand.
I just had to call him and belike sorry, can we talk through
this so I can figure out when Ican be where and what needs to
happen when Communication, evenif you are busy, even if you are
on set, even if someone is sickor unwell, just literally say,
(19:48):
hey, I will get back to you.
I see this message is a hugerelief for the other people
sitting on the other line andthat you are heard and seen and
it will get figured out.
It really starts to grow liketrust and continual time
management.
Something else I'm going totouch on today, that is you know
, I think upgrading to my lifeand I'm really hopefully
(20:13):
stepping a little bit into hereis like not to be so scared of a
pivot, a change or an upgrade.
You know I worked in commercialproduction since 2020 and you
know it was always like this islike a little side job.
I'm never getting that seriousinto it.
I'm going to be an actor andrecently I'm kind of taking more
(20:34):
producing jobs and you knowthere's some money in there for
me.
I'm enjoying it more.
It's okay to have a little onetwo-step ball change, pivot,
turn for something, because youcan always pivot away as well.
Which brings me a little bit tothe podcast.
It's fair to say that you knowI've been doing this podcast for
(20:58):
quite some time.
It's not exactly where Ithought it was going to be, or
maybe where I wanted it to be,and I think maybe some of you
have noticed that there's been alittle bit of change to the
formats.
I'm doing a lot more soloepisodes and things, and I've
really taken some steps back totry to see what I want to do
(21:20):
here and I'm not like ready tolet it go.
But I know there's going to bechanges and pivots and instead
of looking at it and being likewow, I'm such a failure for not
getting to where I want to be,I'm just taking the time to
readjust and see things a littledifferently and try things a
(21:43):
little differently and I willsay you never know when you're
three feet away from gold one ofmy favorite quotes but don't be
so scared of the pivot.
I think growing older andup-leveling your life you should
not stay in the same place, soit is okay to evolve.
So, with that being said, guys,thank you so much for listening
(22:05):
to this episode of Confessionsof a Wannabe it Girl.
I hope these few tips, personalexamples, help you to up-level
your life, upgrading it in thenew levels, new devils and guys.
We will see you next Tuesday.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Thank you so much for listening to Confessions of a
Wannabe it Girl.
Don't forget to rate andsubscribe to the show.
As always, we'll see you nextTuesday.
Welcome back to Confessions of a Wannabe it Girl
, the podcast helping you filterout the BS in pursuits of
becoming the next it Girl.
Wow, I am tired.
I am operating on like fourhours of sleep, yet I have to
say that right now I'm in areally crazy time in my life a
million things on my plate, butI've found a few things that I
(00:20):
really wanna share with you guys.
That is helping to uplift,change, upgrade my life in this
crazy time.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Welcome to Confessions of a Wannabe it Girl
.
I'm your host, marley Fregging,and I'm here to help you filter
out all the bullshit and becomethe next it Girl.
This podcast explores thereality of what it really takes
to make it out there.
As it turns out, it is way lessInstagrammable than I thought
it was going to make it outthere.
As it turns out, it is way lessInstagrammable than I thought
it was going to be.
I'm still very much a work inprogress, but there's simply
(00:51):
nothing else I'd rather be doingthan chasing my dreams.
So let's learn from my mistakesand work together to achieve
our dreams with more confidence,clarity and direction.
Let's get after it.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Like I just mentioned , life is really crazy right now
.
In the personal sphere you know, I just came back from being
out of town for 18 days, whichwas a huge luxury.
This year I've been managinghaving the Pilates job.
I've been stepping very muchmore into an associate producer
role on various differentprojects to an associate
(01:28):
producer role on variousdifferent projects.
On top of my house is stilldestroyed from the rain damage
back in February.
I really don't want to talkabout this.
It's fair to say that this hasbeen like a really crazy time.
I'm just like booked in full tothe brim on top of like really
diving into planning a wedding,which is something I obviously
want to be putting a lot ofattention into as well, as you
(01:49):
know still managing the podcast,still chasing an acting career,
being, you know, hopefully aloving fiance, a good daughter,
all these things, and I will saylike it's just a really full
time in an amazing way, likethere's so many cool
opportunities that I have foundcoming my way.
And it's like a little bitwithout trying, because I think
(02:12):
I have laid the groundwork forthese things to come into my
life and I'm super proud aboutit.
Like I've got two short filmskind of coming up that I'm
working on in differentrespectives and I just wanted to
share some things that I havefound in this new level.
New devil are upgrading my lifeand I kind of came from being
(02:37):
always crazy busy as a kid.
My parents, being an only child, never restricted me from doing
activities.
I never had to pick betweensoccer and gymnastics because I
was an only child and my parentswere super supportive, so I was
kind of built up to handle alot more.
Like you know, let's talk aboutthe negative habits that I've
(02:59):
developed from that.
I eat too fast because I wasalways eating my meals in the
car.
I no cop, listen to this.
I can change my clothes whiledriving because I was always
eating my meals in the car.
No cop, listen to this.
I can change my clothes whiledriving because I was always
rushing to dance practice.
Eric's eyes got so big when Isaid that I am prepared to be
busy.
I always understand how to packmy own lunch, support myself
from 7 am to 12 o'clock at nightwithout having to come home and
(03:22):
pivot.
But here are the holes that Ilearned along the way that I
wasn't fulfilling Because I'm soon the go all the fucking time
these days I realized that myfinances were absolutely
spiraling out of control.
It was creation here, coffeethere, starbucks there, because
(03:44):
whatever I'm rushing, I don'thave time to maybe make a full
meal or just like whatever I'mworking so hard.
Of course I can buy that newoutfit, the Sephora sale,
whatever it may be.
I was really spiraling a littlebit out of control with money
because I didn't have theability to give attention to it,
(04:05):
which is not a way to moveforward in your late, to going
into thirties, to be financiallystable, so something I have so
been obsessed with.
I really wish that I could sayI was sponsored by this, because
I have already converted somany people to this.
But I want to talk about theCapital One savings account.
(04:27):
So Capital One has this likeamazing savings account A.
You can get like really goodpercent back I think it's
something upwards of 5% back onthe savings you keep on this
account.
So it's actually going to goahead and start making you a
little bit of money once youbuild up that savings account,
(04:49):
versus coming from like a moretraditional bank or the bank I
still kind of bank with, butpreviously banked with, where I
got no percent return on thesavings.
Like you know, it's just reallya place to hold your money.
But here's why I really amobsessed with Capital One.
Have you seen those videos onTikTok where they count out cash
(05:10):
and they zip it into a folderand the folder will be like
traveling savings.
And then they zip out some cash, like maybe you know 320s and
it's like shopping?
They zip out some cash, it'slike insurance and you pocket
away money in each of thesecategories.
Well, you can do that onlinewithout having to have cash.
With Capital One, you cancreate a savings account.
(05:33):
You make a million littledifferent savings account, and I
totally learned this from Amberfrom the Old Money Podcast that
you can make all thesedifferent savings accounts from
like, for instance, I have onethat's like our HOA dues.
I have one savings account thatI'm building up for travel.
I have one savings account thatis for taking my cats to the
(05:56):
vets.
I also have fun things like Iwant to save up to buy a luxury
bag this year when I travel toEurope.
I am saving up already for myCoachella ticket next year.
It is just really beneficial.
So then when my paycheck comesin, I go ahead and divide it out
between, each year folder, amoney savings account, depending
(06:19):
on, like kind of whatpriorities are coming up on my
life.
This is maybe not the mostrecommended thing but, for
instance, like I have a folderin my savings accounts that is
like wedding extras and you know, this weekend probably by the
time this episode comes out Iwill have asked my bridesmaids
to be my bridesmaids.
So I went ahead and put alittle extra money the past two
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paychecks into my wedding'sextra saving account so I could
offset buying my bridesmaidsreally nice gifts, so you can
kind of play around a little bitwith the different money.
Obviously, the biggest thingthat we're all working through
and I hope you guys can checkout the episode with Amber from
Old Money is we want to bestaying out of debt.
Debt ain't fun, it stresses usout and because I was so on the
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go, I was just constantlyfighting the verge of debt or in
debt, and this different methodof savings accounts has really
helped to change what I'm doingwith my money and it's so fast
and it's actually kind of fun,believe it or not.
That being said, something elseI think is kind of like silly
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and I'm probably going to bemade fun of for being a little
neurotic is I want to talk about, like time blocking.
Now, we all know I am obsessedwith the Google calendar, like I
love a Google calendar,obsessed with the Google
Calendar.
I love a Google Calendar.
Google Calendar, it almostmakes me horny.
It's all right there and it'sso organized.
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Number one things.
I'm going to talk a few thingsabout Google Calendar, a few
tips.
I love to color code mydifferent calendars within
Google Calendar.
So, for instance, I have onefor Pilates, a specific calendar
for Pilates.
I have a specific calendar forthe podcast.
I have a specific calendar foracting slash kind of
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entertainment.
At this point I'm consideringmaking a new one for producing,
or like you know, projects.
And then I have kind of like aMarley events one as well and I
have them all differently colorcoordinated.
So whenever I'm feeling like alittle low in my life, like
thinking like, oh, I'm notgetting to my acting career
enough, I can click all theother calendars off and see how
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much in a month I've done actingthings.
A it also really helps to keepthings organized when people ask
you like, oh, like, are youavailable for something specific
like a podcast recording?
At this time.
I just go, I click all thoseother calendars off.
I see if I'm available for apodcast at that time.
Because something else I'verealized is like, just because
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you have the time for somethingdoesn't mean it's the time for
that thing.
For instance, four o'clock inthe morning probably not the
best time to podcast because I'mtired Four o'clock is a drastic
example but maybe like 3 pm onan afternoon after I've taught
five Pilates classes, maybe notmy best time to teach a or to
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teach again.
Three hours of sleep to Pilatesand podcasts both Ps, you know,
just a little confusing torecord a podcast because I've
already been talking for threeor four hours.
So you know it really helps tosee that.
Color coordination Also if, formy aesthetic girlies, you can
come up with a beautiful colorrange, change them around.
Currently I'm come up with abeautiful color range.
Change them around.
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Currently I'm a little bored ofmy color range and my Google
Calendar, so I'm thinking aboutchanging those.
Hot tip though if you're makingthese different calendars
within your Google Calendar, forsome fucking reason you can't
make new calendars with the nicecolors and all the color
options on the app on your phone.
You have to use the GoogleChrome or Safari.
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I don't know why that is, ormaybe I just haven't figured it
out yet but something I want totalk about why I'm so obsessed
with Google Calendar is about ayear year and a half ago, maybe
two, honestly can't fuckingremember I switched from having
a literal write-out day-to-dayschool planner that we grew up
going to high school and middleschool half ago, maybe two,
honestly can't fucking rememberI switched from having a literal
write-out day-to-day schoolplanner that we grew up going to
high school and middle schoolwith to Google Calendar.
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And the reason it was sonecessary for me to make this
change is I'm moving thingsaround all the time.
Appointments get changed andI'd have to go back and I'd
erase it in the weekly plannerand then, on top of it, I like
to see everything in a monthskew as well as a daily and
weekly.
That was so annoying to rewritethings in three different
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places.
So, switching to GoogleCalendar, I can see all of those
and I only have to input it onetime.
But time blocking my life hasbeen really, really crazy.
I've realized because it is socrazy it's a little harder for
me to multitask and switchreally quickly because I'm
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petering out more, I'm probablya little bit on the edge of
burnout.
So I've found that it is bestto, you know, keep podcast
things all together and then,you know, make the full switch
to say acting, or you know, it'sreally nice to go to Pilates
class and then I'll go teach it.
It's just kind of keeping mybrain all in the same place and
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sometimes I will look at my weekand see I'm going from one
place in acting mentally,physically or emotionally, and
then I'm switching to teachingPilates and I'm like, wow, that
is really like on the system andI'll rework my schedule.
So that's what I'm talkingabout when I'm saying time
blocking, making sure things areconsistent in the same amount
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of time.
I will say there's a little bitfor me a danger in going too
long in one category.
I, you know, tend to get alittle bored, if you couldn't
tell High energy need to beentertained, and so I don't know
.
I found that like three to fourhours is about, as I'd like to
stay in one category.
That being said, I've talkedabout this before but I'm going
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to bring it up again.
I am absolutely obsessed withthe thing you are dreading most
in your day.
The thing you don't want to doFor me these days, I'm telling
you, it is memorizing lines.
I just don't want to memorizelines.
I don't want to work on scripts.
I'm just not into it, eventhough I still love acting so
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much.
It's just it's not calling tome at the current moment to work
on scripts.
However, if I don't work on it,all day, the whole day drags
through and I'm just dreadingthis one thing I haven't done
and I keep thinking, ah, Ishould do that instead of doing
this.
So why the fuck am I not wakingup and doing that thing,
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fucking first getting it done?
Fuck, am I not waking up anddoing that thing?
Fucking first getting it done.
It's done with, it's dealt,it's taken care of, and then I
don't have to spend the rest ofmy day guilt tripping myself or
thinking I should stop what I'mdoing now to go do that thing.
You know, this was some advicethat I got in college is, you
know, wake up and do the hardestthing first, and sometimes the
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hardest thing is just the thingyou don't want to do.
It's those mundane tasks, it'sthat work assignment you just
haven't been feeling.
Get it done so you can go liveyour life.
It's very interesting.
I was having a conversationrecently about COVID our
favorite topic, you know aboutlockdown and like who really
benefited from lockdown.
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And I'll tell you who I thinkbenefited from lockdown in
post-COVID life People with anine to five job.
They benefited because nowthere's more leniency to be at
home or have a at-home workday,because it kind of feels like
society proved on some level wecan work from home.
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And I'm so happy for thembecause it's kind of giving them
the time back that maybe youknow American hustle culture and
other hustle cultures wasn'tgiving them.
And I bring that up to say likeour time is so precious and
these people working a nine tofive that now work at home,
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maybe you're getting a littleextra time with their kids,
extra time with their pets,extra time to do laundry and
actually have a life.
So why is the thing that you'redreading keeping you away from
the rest of your life?
Get that thing done so you canexplore.
I'm talking about uplifting andupgrading your life by just
getting it done.
Then you can really go enjoythe beautiful summer sunshine
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that seems to peak out in LosAngeles around 1 pm right now
because we're dealing with MayGray, I'm just excited to see
people use more lifetime, getmore lifetime back those nine to
fivers and you, by crossing offthe thing you dread in the
morning getting your time back.
And in regards to getting yourtime back, I want to talk about
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this.
It seems so stupid and, I'm notgoing to lie, I'm not the best
with it, but you know thatamount of time you're sitting at
the dentist's office waiting tobe called in, or you're waiting
in line at the grocery store tocheck things out, or maybe
you're waiting at the pump forthe gas station.
And what do we do?
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We all do it.
We lean down, we reach over, wepick up our cell phone and we
go through TikTok and Instagramand whatnot.
What if, instead, you reallyused those quick bursts of time
to make important phone calls,dentists, follow up with
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appointments, prescriptions.
Really use those weird breaksthat you get in the mundane
parts of life and, instead ofmindlessly scrolling, keep
fighting to get your time back.
Answer a quick email so youdon't have to do it at 7 pm
after dinner, so you can go tobed or watch that episode of
Bridgerton or whatever.
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I could digress on Bridgerton,but I'm not going to, even
though the temptation is likeit's there, I can like see it.
Point being is like you'regoing to get some time back by
dealing with those things.
In those little moments whenyou're alone waiting for a
checkout point I don't mean leanover and pick up your phone,
maybe while you're waiting fiveminutes for your friend Then I
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feel like you have so muchpotential to get sucked into
dealing with phone calls orimportant emails while waiting
your friend or something that'sgoing to take away the presence.
But if you're waiting forsomething that inevitably
involves waiting and is justboring and just part of life
like why are we not getting thetasks done that we want to and
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wasting so much time on socialmedia, get that shit done and
off your plate and you're goingto end up getting so much more
time back.
That is, like, I guess, theunderlying point of these two.
That is like I guess theunderlying point of these two
things is like I'm fighting toget time back because I'm so
busy and even if you're not sobusy, don't you want just more
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extra time to like be lazy or bechill, or to not have anything
on your plate and scroll throughInstagram?
Do you know how good it feelswhen you've actually gotten
everything on your checklistdone and every day is not going
to be a check all day.
I mean maybe, like I said, grewup being a very busy person and
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maybe this is why I'm soobsessed with this mentality,
and I was also like, not as coolas maybe I think I was in high
school, but I would get all ofmy homework done on Friday
nights so that I would haveSaturday and Sunday to be
frolicking and guilt-free andtruly be like a child.
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And these little micro habitsof using your time instead of
being on social media is kind ofmy essence of trying to get
through the checklist and getthat back.
This is another lesson that I,unfortunately, have heard a
little bit about.
Some people that I work with orwhatnot, don't do so greatly,
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and it's something I'm reallyworking on improving as well,
even though I actually think I'mkind of doing.
It is you have to communicateto people when you're busy, like
I don't know why people justlike they're like, oh, I'm super
busy, I'm just not going torespond when somebody's asking
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for, like are we still meetingat that same time or does that
have that rehearsal?
Pick up your phone, tell themhey, I'm so sorry.
I see your text message, I'mdoing this, I will get back to
you.
Or, like I will call you andfigure it out when I can, just
so they know.
You know they saw it's commoncourtesy.
I did this to Eric literallyyesterday, like I was on set
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shooting all day for a musicvideo and you know we're dealing
with a what are we in?
A theater festival?
I'm like we're dealing with thetheater festival right now and
you know scheduling time for thepodcast.
Like we're both really strappedin and I know it.
And I just texted him and I waslike thank you so much for
continuing to text me.
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Like is the thought, but like Ican't figure, for continuing to
text me is the thought, but Ican't figure this out right now,
and also my brain couldn'tbrand.
I just had to call him and belike sorry, can we talk through
this so I can figure out when Ican be where and what needs to
happen when Communication, evenif you are busy, even if you are
on set, even if someone is sickor unwell, just literally say,
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hey, I will get back to you.
I see this message is a hugerelief for the other people
sitting on the other line andthat you are heard and seen and
it will get figured out.
It really starts to grow liketrust and continual time
management.
Something else I'm going totouch on today, that is you know
, I think upgrading to my lifeand I'm really hopefully
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stepping a little bit into hereis like not to be so scared of a
pivot, a change or an upgrade.
You know I worked in commercialproduction since 2020 and you
know it was always like this islike a little side job.
I'm never getting that seriousinto it.
I'm going to be an actor andrecently I'm kind of taking more
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producing jobs and you knowthere's some money in there for
me.
I'm enjoying it more.
It's okay to have a little onetwo-step ball change, pivot,
turn for something, because youcan always pivot away as well.
Which brings me a little bit tothe podcast.
It's fair to say that you knowI've been doing this podcast for
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quite some time.
It's not exactly where Ithought it was going to be, or
maybe where I wanted it to be,and I think maybe some of you
have noticed that there's been alittle bit of change to the
formats.
I'm doing a lot more soloepisodes and things, and I've
really taken some steps back totry to see what I want to do
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here and I'm not like ready tolet it go.
But I know there's going to bechanges and pivots and instead
of looking at it and being likewow, I'm such a failure for not
getting to where I want to be,I'm just taking the time to
readjust and see things a littledifferently and try things a
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little differently and I willsay you never know when you're
three feet away from gold one ofmy favorite quotes but don't be
so scared of the pivot.
I think growing older andup-leveling your life you should
not stay in the same place, soit is okay to evolve.
So, with that being said, guys,thank you so much for listening
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to this episode of Confessionsof a Wannabe it Girl.
I hope these few tips, personalexamples, help you to up-level
your life, upgrading it in thenew levels, new devils and guys.
We will see you next Tuesday.
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