September 19, 2025 • 28 mins
ABOUT THIS EPISODE
If your brain’s been whispering not enough—not enough time, money, love, proof—this episode is your identity reset. We’re moving from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset with a grounded, faith-forward identity shift rooted in self-love, self-worth, and nervous system regulation. You’ll learn how those old stories got wired in (hello, people-pleasing and overworking), and how to rewire them so your choices, boundaries, and bank account align with who you really are.
Inside, I teach the R.I.C.H. Identity framework—plus micro-reps that make abundance lived, not just believed. Expect simple somatic tools, language upgrades, and journaling prompts that help you stop chasing, start receiving, and step into your Main Character Energy with calm confidence.
This is a soulful, practical guide to stop negotiating with your worth, set clean boundaries, and build evidence for the life you’re called to. Press play to feel supported, resourced, and ready to move like a woman on mission.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- SCARCITY IS PROGRAMMING, NOT PERSONALITY. When you identify the old wiring, you can rewrite the code with self-honoring choices.
- TRUTH BOMB: WORTH IS FIXED—RATES AND BOUNDARIES REFLECT IT. You don’t earn oxygen. You steward it.
- EMPOWERING SHIFT: CHASE → RECEIVE. We turn force off and flow on with regulation, language upgrades, and tiny reps.
- ALIGNED ACTION: PRACTICE THE R.I.C.H. IDENTITY DAILY. One breath, one boundary, one brave ask—stack the evidence for abundance.
CHAPTERS BREAKDOWN
00:00 — Rewriting your identity
01:04 — Understanding scarcity ~ The root causes
04:06 — Recognizing scarcity in everyday life
11:12 — Journaling prompts for self-discovery
13:44 — Embodying The R.I.C.H. Identity
18:30 — Language Upgrades: Reframing Your Mindset
23:16 — Final thoughts: Stepping into your power
THE SELF-LOVE 2-STEP
You know we love a good 2-step because everyone can do it and it always gets the party started! A scarcity mindset—just like negative thoughts—won’t disappear overnight, especially the ones you’ve practiced. The more you notice them, the more chances you have to rewire them.
Step 1 — Pause & Notice: Catch the heavy phrase (trying, should, sorry, someday).
Step 2 — Choose & Breathe: Hand to heart. Inhale. Swap in your upgrade.
Bonus somatic seal: After the reframe, exhale audibly and roll your shoulders back. Let your body feel the new line.
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✨ Ignite Your Main Character Energy Journal Prompts
30 transformational prompts to help you reflect, realign, and fully step into your Main Character Era.
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(00:00):
Your worth was never thequestion your wiring was.
Today.
We rewrite it.
Hey friend, go on ahead and get comfy andcozy shoes off and relax your shoulders.
If your brain has been whispering notenough, you know, not enough time,
money, love proof, then breathe with me.
(00:21):
This is your identity reset.
Today we are tracing how scarcity gotwired in choosing a richer identity and
practicing the moves that make abundanceyour normal and not your exception.
Here's the vibe.
We are not fixing you, babe,because you are not broken.
We're updating the operatingsystem so your daily choices
(00:42):
match your God-given worth.
We will explore the roots.
Lock in the rich identity.
Ooh, can't wait to share it withyou, and then get practical so
you can put in the reps that flipscarcity to sufficiency in real time.
Ready, hand to heart.
Let's begin.
Hey, hey, hey, friend.
All right, now let's dive in.
(01:04):
First, let's get realabout how scarcity sneaks.
In contrary to popular belief, it'snot just about money or stuff, it's
the quiet stories we've been told, thepatterns we've absorbed, and the way
that we've learned to measure our worth.
But here's the thing, those stories.
(01:25):
They're not yours to carry anymore.
Today we're flipping the script.
We are stepping into a new identity,one that's rooted in sufficiency,
abundance, and unshakeable worth.
And it's not about waiting just for somebig external shift to prove it to you.
It's about rewiring from the.
(01:46):
Inside out.
So your choices, your energy,and your life start reflecting
the truth of who you are.
I'm telling you right now,once you trace down these roots
where scarcity got its grip.
It's gonna be so much easier to lockin what I call the rich identity.
(02:09):
Rich stands for receptive,intentional, confident, and held.
These are the pillars of abundance,and they are already within you.
And then finally we will getpractical and we'll get into some
doable shifts that make abundancefeel like your new normal before.
(02:34):
But before we dive into how scarcitygot rooted, I want you to just
take a moment and think about this.
What's the story you've beentelling yourself about Enough?
Enough time, enough money,enough love, enough you.
Is it a story of striving or chasingor waiting for the next thing to
(02:55):
finally feel like you've arrived?
Or is it a story of trust, ofsufficiency, of knowing that you have and.
Of knowing that what you have andwho you are is already enough.
Here's the thing, most of us didn'teven write these stories ourselves.
They were handed down to us by ourfamilies or culture or experiences, and
(03:20):
then without even realizing it, we'vebeen living them, letting them shape
our choices, our energy and our worth.
But today we're making the shift as youtrace those stories back to their roots,
not to blame and certainly not to dwell.
Just to understand, but when youunderstand where scarcity got its
grips, then you can start to loosen it.
(03:43):
You can start to rewrite a story intoone that feels expansive, abundant,
and true to who you really are.
For the record, scarcityisn't your personality.
It's programming.
It's the stack of stories.
Your nervous system grabbed to be safe.
When you can see the old code,you can write the new one.
(04:06):
So let's talk about some ofthe sneaky stealth mode, ways
that scarcity got rooted.
It could have showed up fromchildhood conditioning, cultural,
or even generational beliefs.
And this one is huge growing upin environments where resources,
whether it's financial, emotional.
Or even with attention, if itfelt limited, that can plant the
(04:31):
idea that there's never enough.
Maybe you heard phrases like, wecan't afford that, or Money doesn't
grow on trees, or you have to worktwice as hard to get half as much,
or even if you just saw your parentsconstantly stressed about money, those
beliefs can get deeply ingrained.
Even if subconsciously, you're tryingto break free, and if you're in a
(04:56):
different place now, those earlymessages can still be running the show.
Or maybe it's societal programming.
As women, we're often taught to playsmall, not to take up too much space
and just be grateful for what you have.
This programming can make you feellike you're not allowed to want
(05:17):
more, and I just wanna say lies.
Okay.
Absolutely lies.
Or it shows up in the hustle mentality.
This one is tricky becauseit's so celebrated.
You might have been praised for yourwork ethic or your ability to just
do it all, but that constant hustlecan reinforce the idea that you have
(05:38):
to earn abundance through strugglerather than just allowing it to flow.
Or that you have to hustleharder just to prove your worth.
Now, while there are times when you mayhustle in seasons or hustle in sprints,
it's not a way of consistent living,and that's really where that hustle
(06:01):
mentality can be at the root of scarcity.
And now more than ever,the comparison culture.
Honey, the social media is a breedingground for scarcity, scrolling
and seeing everyone's highlightreel, the bigger launches, more
followers, the perfect families,and then you wind up feeling behind.
(06:22):
You know that comparison algorithm, theconstant measuring trains your brain
to hunt for lack and not evidence.
So the scroll leads to comparingand then ultimately you shrink.
It's not you, it's the feed you were fed.
That constant comparison createsa sense of not enoughness that
(06:43):
can be really hard to shake.
Even experiences can be the root ofscarcity through trauma or past failures.
If you've experienced a big failure,whether it was a business, a relationship,
(07:03):
you know, or something in your life,maybe you went through a divorce
or just a major life change, it cancreate a fear of rejection that keeps
you stuck in that scarcity loop.
You might be holding onto the beliefthat success isn't sustainable or that
abundance is fleeting or it won't last.
And then there's the fearof abandonment or rejection.
(07:27):
You often see this showing upin relationships, friendships,
or even in your audience.
If you've ever felt afraid ofbeing left behind or not chosen,
you might clinging to what has or.
You might clinging to what you have,even if it's not serving you, because
the idea of losing it is so unbearable.
(07:49):
Scarcity shows up somuch in time and energy.
I know as soon as we hearthe word scarcity, our minds
immediately go to money.
But it's not always about that.
You might just feel like there'snot enough time to get everything
done and you're feeling likeyou're constantly running on empty.
That leads to overcommitting.
(08:11):
Burnout and the belief that you have tosacrifice yourself in order to succeed,
and that within itself is exhausting.
Then there's perfectionism.
Ooh, this one is so sneaky.
If you've ever felt like you'renot doing enough, or that you have
to be perfect to deserve success,this can keep you stuck in a cycle
(08:32):
of overworking and self-criticism.
Then there's what I call survival math.
You learn to be useful or be left.
And this is where the idea thatoverwork became love, calm, felt unsafe.
So you filled the silence withdoing constantly if stillness
makes you fidgety, that's old math.
(08:55):
Trying to balance a billthat's already been paid for.
Scarcity shows up in the praise economy.
You know, the good girl getthe gold stars for self erasure
approval over authenticity.
You learn to read rooms insteadof reading yourself and polite
became your personality, or maybeit's the spiritual misreads,
(09:16):
humility got twisted into hiding.
Head down, don't shine,and don't want too much.
Listen, friend, God neverasked you to dim your light.
He asked you to steward it.
And then there's all the microshames of too much, too loud, too
ambitious, and the translationyour body heard is shrink to stay.
(09:39):
So you learn to apologizefor existing needs.
Which ultimately leads to the lackof self-worth At its core, scarcity
is often tied to self-worth.
If you don't feel worthy of abundance,whether it's love, money, or
opportunities, you'll unconsciously blockit even when it's right in front of you.
(10:00):
So many times your body istrying to tell you something.
It's trying to show you through thetight jaw, the shallow breath speed
talking, or the self-deprecating jokes.
Deflecting compliments or saying, sorry.
When you mean to say thank you.
and these are just some areas wherescarcity can take root, and the key is to
(10:21):
recognize that those beliefs aren't yours.
They're stories.
You've more than likelyinherited or absorbed.
Once you recognize them, you can startto rewrite them into something that.
Feels expansive, empowering andaligned with your true self.
And that's one of the reasons whyI recommend journaling because
(10:42):
the beauty of journaling is thatdeeper awareness that it unlocks.
You don't have to go back intotime and retraumatize yourself.
It's just being aware of the rootof it so you can take your power
back to decide how you'll operate.
Who you'll be as a result of it, no longerbeing at the mercy of it running you.
(11:05):
Now you are in the driver's seatand designing an outcome that
supports and honors the best of you.
So if you wanna do aquick journaling check-in.
Here's three amazing prompts.
What Early Moment taught me thatmore of me equaled less love?
And as you journal about this,release it without shame or guilt.
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You survived.
Now you get to live the second prompt.
Where do I still bargain my worth?
Is it through your time, yourboundaries, or are you selling
yourself short somewhere?
Name the bargains.
And the third prompt reframeto keep recognize, I am
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not dramatic, I'm accurate.
These roots explain the reflex.
They don't define my future.
then as you've completed that journalingexercise, inhale possibility, and
exhale permission because you'vejust granted it to yourself.
Okay, babe, I have to share this with you,this is the spark you've been waiting for.
(12:12):
Let's ignite it, especially if you'reready to stop playing small and start
living as the main character in your life.
It's my Ignite Your mainCharacter Energy Journal prompts.
And let me tell you, this isn't yourregular schmegular journaling exercise.
These prompts are designed tohelp you break through self-doubt.
(12:33):
Reconnect with your power and startshowing up like the confident, unstoppable
woman you know you are meant to be.
Think of it as your personal roadmap toclarity, self-love, and that next level
energy that turns heads and changes lives.
Here's the best part.
These prompts are quick, powerful,and totally doable, even if
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you've got a packed schedule.
So grab your favorite pen, a cup oftea, or a raw milk latte, whatever
your fancy thing is, and let's get towork on creating the kind of that feels
so aligned with who you truly are.
You can grab theprompts@encourageovereverything.com
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or just check the show notes.
Trust me, this is the sparkyou've been waiting for.
Let's ignite that maincharacter, energy friend.
So grab your journal or just settle in.
This is the moment to rewritethe story and reclaim your worth.
Let's dive back on into this episode.
Now friend, if you thought what we'vealready covered has been powerful,
(13:40):
let's get into the next real shift.
We are not just tweakinghabits or slapping on some
surface level affirmations.
We are upgrading who you be becausewhen you shift your identity,
your actions naturally follow.
It's not about forcing abundance,it's about embodying it.
(14:02):
Cue the framework because the richidentity has entered the chat, and
this is your new operating system.
Rich is for receptive,intentional, confident, and held.
These aren't just buzz words.
They are the foundation of living in.
Abundance.
(14:22):
When you root yourself in these pillars,scarcity doesn't stand a chance.
So let's break it down.
What does it actually look liketo be receptive, intentional,
confident, and held, and how you canstart living from this place today.
So let's get into thisupgrade, friend, rich identity.
(14:42):
The r is for regulated.
Why?
Because a regulated nervous system letsyou choose not chase Regulated nervous
system says I create inner safety.
I don't hustle for it.
So this is where you canjust do a simple breath work.
It can just be one minute of justbreathing in for four, exhaling
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for six, and your new anchoris calm, is my new credibility.
Because no more scatteredenergy being all over the place.
No more having a deep desire andyet contradicting it with all of
the doubts and fears We have got toget that nervous system regulated,
(15:27):
honey, so that you can actually restand be calm in your credibility.
The I is for intentional becauseyou are inherently worthy.
Your value is not upfor debate or discounts.
Your worth does not equalwages you don't earn.
(15:48):
Oxygen worthy is your birthright.
You never had to do anything to earn it.
It just simply is who you areand deserving of everything
good that belongs to you.
So how can this live outin your day-to-day life?
Is it raising a boundary?
Is it confidently sharingsomething that you need?
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Is it.
Raising your price where you've beenundercharging, your new anchor is, my
worth is fixed and my life reflects it.
Ooh, I know that's right.
C is for confident.
Why?
Because you are called and chosen.
Calling kills comparison.
Purpose puts you in your own lane.
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Remember, friend, you are onassignment, your gifts are on purpose.
So, what's your oneconfidence rep going to be?
Is it a daily assignment check?
Is it, doing one thingthat fulfills calling?
Is it pouring into your cup before youstart pouring into everyone else's cup
Then anchor it in?
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I move like a woman on a mission.
And H is held because you areprovided for Provision is a
partnership between divine and design.
Please remember, friend, you aresupported by God the universe.
Source, whomever you believe in bycommunity and by systems you build.
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So create one 10 minutesystem that supports you.
It could just be blocking sometime on your calendar or setting
up that auto reply Finally.
How can you spend 10 minutesdoing something that supports you?
Your new anchor is, I am held,I'm helped, and I am provided for,
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and that rich identity really isthe doorway that leads you into
powerful reframes and mindset shifts.
you recognize that restmultiplies your results.
Okay, friend.
Because you are going fromscarcity to stewardship.
You direct resources, youdon't have to beg for them.
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So that whole, there'snot enough mentality.
We're shifting into a.
I allocate what matters becausethat's what a good steward does.
And instead of chasing, we are absolutelyputting you in a position to receive.
We are turning force off and turning flowon instead of that mentality of I need to
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push harder shift into receive mode andstart thinking, I'm making room to be met.
And while we're at it, let's do somelanguage upgrades, because as your
coach, I love listening to the wordsthat you say and the tone of voice
that you use that really reflectsthe meaning that you've given it.
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If you work with me one-on-one, I loveto catch it and rewind it for you because
it shows exactly where you are and thebeliefs that you're holding in relation
to what you want and deeply desire.
So when I hear you say, I hopeit works, I often hear the
doubt that you say that with.
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So we wanna reframe that andsay, I'm building what works.
When you say, I'm fine,I hear the sarcasm.
Because you don't reallymean that, you're fine.
We wanna reframe that and shift intohere's what would make this a yes for me
and for the one who's trying to have ababy, that word trying, it's so heavy.
(19:32):
We wanna reframe that and say weare parents in preparation, inviting
new life and trusting the timing.
Friend, the words yousay, write your future.
Right now you are.
Simply living the reality you repeatedlyspoke about and thought about.
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The more you reframe the negativeor less supportive thoughts and
language, the more you begin towrite the future you're dreaming of.
So say it with me, identity first,actions follow evidence stacks.
This is where abundance becomes real whenyou recognize that it's already here.
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When you touch your desires daily,when you protect your environment
with boundaries and celebrate yourmicro wins and receive, expecting
those miracles and not justwaiting on the other shoe to drop.
And that's how you embody abundance.
That's how you make it livedin and not just believed in.
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Now, friend, you know around here, we loveus a good two step because everyone can do
it and it always gets the party started.
Now a scarcity mindset,just like negative thoughts.
They won't disappear overnight,especially the ones that you've
practiced over and over again.
But the more that you notice them, themore chances you have to rewire them.
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So step one.
Pause and notice.
Simply catch the heavy phrase, thingslike trying should, sorry, or someday
just pause and notice when you catch it.
And then step two, choose and breathe.
Just place your hand to heart.
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Inhale and then swap in your upgradeinstead of, I'm trying to have a baby.
We're inviting new life and trustingthe timing instead of money is tight.
Reframe into, I'm directing resourceswith wisdom while my capacity expands
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instead of I don't have proof yet.
Shift into evidence is progress,and I'm stacking them reps babe.
And a bonus somatic sealafter the reframe, just
inhale in and exhale audibly.
Let the sigh and soundroll from your lips.
And roll those shoulders back.
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Let your body feel the new line.
I could not be more proudof you for doing the work.
Now let's take a quick pausefor the cause because I've
got something so good for you.
If you've been vibing with this episodeand you're ready to step into your
main character energy, like fullyowning your confidence and showing
(22:25):
up as the star of your own life.
Then grab the freebie, the maincharacter confidence checklist.
This isn't just another checklistthat sits in your downloads folder.
It's your go-to guide for ditchingself-doubt, setting boundaries like a
boss, and stepping into the unshakeableself-worth you've been craving.
(22:46):
Think of it as your confidence blueprint.
Simple, actionable, and designedto help you show up as the most
magnetic version of yourself.
So here's what you're gonna do.
You're gonna head on over toencourage over everything.com
or check the show notes and download itnow so you can start making moves today.
(23:08):
Because baby, the world is waitingfor you to take center stage and
it is time to make it happen.
Now let me pour into you real quick.
Friend, you were never missing your worth.
You were missing wiring.
And wiring is so wonderfullyupdateable, if that's a word.
(23:29):
If it is not, we making it one.
Okay.
Every time you regulate your breath,tell the truth about what you need
and actually let yourself receive.
You are recoding sacrificeinto sufficiency.
You don't have to audition forrooms you've already outgrown.
Your gifts are not accidents.
(23:50):
They are assignments.
When the old story whispers small,you answer with stewardship.
When fear tries to rushyou, you slow down.
And remember, I am held.
I am helped.
I am provided for.
The same God source or universe whocalled you is the one who carries you
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and will send you the people and systemsto meet you where you're going move
like a woman who trust in her timing,her preparation and her provider.
We are not chasing, we are choosing.
We are not shrinking.
We are shining.
Your waiting season isnot here to punish you.
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It's here to prepare you for everythingyou asked for to increase and expand
your capacity of what you hold, becausethose big dreams, those huge desires.
Of your heart.
They need room to live and breathe,and that's exactly what you're
building, who you are supposed to be,to have the capacity to hold, nurture,
(25:02):
and grow what you've asked for.
What do you have to learn?
What skills do you needto obtain or polish?
Who do you need to become is the mostimportant question you can answer.
There's a life waiting for you that feelslike oxygen, one where your calendar
(25:24):
reflects your calling, your money mirrorsyour value and your relationships.
Honor your heart that lifeisn't someday if you're perfect.
It's today in the steps, the boldmoves and holy reps, a breath before a
decision, a boundary at the right moment,A brave ask that opens a new door.
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Keep it consistent, sacred, and stacked.
Let this week be your rich week.
Regulate before you respond.
Remember your intention.
You are inherently worthy.
Move with confidence like you arecalled and chosen and build like a
(26:09):
woman who is held and provided for.
If your brain hunts forlack, give it evidence.
Write down three waysyou were supported today.
Teach your mind your reality.
(26:30):
And if you need a sign, this is it.
You are not behind.
You are being built.
Keep practicing your language upgrades.
Keep honoring the boundariesthat protects your becoming.
Keep receiving with open hands.
The story isn't Will it work?
It's, I'm building what works.
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I'm rooting for you friend.
Crown up.
Breathe and move like the woman who'sheld, provided for and on assignment.
And remember, we don't shrink,we shine all because together we
can encourage over everything.
All right, friend, before wego, let me leave you with this.
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You are so much closer to the lifeyou are dreaming of than you think.
Every time you show up for yourself,whether it's listening to this podcast,
journaling, or taking one step forward.
You are rewriting your storyand stepping into your power.
If this episode spoketo you, please do this.
Hit that subscribe button soyou never miss an episode.
(27:34):
And if you're feeling extragenerous, leave a review.
Your words mean the world tome, and they help this podcast.
Reach more women who need theseconversations and hey, don't keep it
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who could use a littleextra encouragement today?
Let's spread this maincharacter energy far and wide.
(27:56):
I'll see you in the next episode.
Until then, keep shining.
Keep growing, and keep stepping intothe confident and empowered woman you
are becoming now strut up on out ofhere giving main character energy only.
Your worth was never thequestion your wiring was.
Today.
We rewrite it.
Hey friend, go on ahead and get comfy andcozy shoes off and relax your shoulders.
If your brain has been whispering notenough, you know, not enough time,
money, love proof, then breathe with me.
(00:21):
This is your identity reset.
Today we are tracing how scarcity gotwired in choosing a richer identity and
practicing the moves that make abundanceyour normal and not your exception.
Here's the vibe.
We are not fixing you, babe,because you are not broken.
We're updating the operatingsystem so your daily choices
(00:42):
match your God-given worth.
We will explore the roots.
Lock in the rich identity.
Ooh, can't wait to share it withyou, and then get practical so
you can put in the reps that flipscarcity to sufficiency in real time.
Ready, hand to heart.
Let's begin.
Hey, hey, hey, friend.
All right, now let's dive in.
(01:04):
First, let's get realabout how scarcity sneaks.
In contrary to popular belief, it'snot just about money or stuff, it's
the quiet stories we've been told, thepatterns we've absorbed, and the way
that we've learned to measure our worth.
But here's the thing, those stories.
(01:25):
They're not yours to carry anymore.
Today we're flipping the script.
We are stepping into a new identity,one that's rooted in sufficiency,
abundance, and unshakeable worth.
And it's not about waiting just for somebig external shift to prove it to you.
It's about rewiring from the.
(01:46):
Inside out.
So your choices, your energy,and your life start reflecting
the truth of who you are.
I'm telling you right now,once you trace down these roots
where scarcity got its grip.
It's gonna be so much easier to lockin what I call the rich identity.
(02:09):
Rich stands for receptive,intentional, confident, and held.
These are the pillars of abundance,and they are already within you.
And then finally we will getpractical and we'll get into some
doable shifts that make abundancefeel like your new normal before.
(02:34):
But before we dive into how scarcitygot rooted, I want you to just
take a moment and think about this.
What's the story you've beentelling yourself about Enough?
Enough time, enough money,enough love, enough you.
Is it a story of striving or chasingor waiting for the next thing to
(02:55):
finally feel like you've arrived?
Or is it a story of trust, ofsufficiency, of knowing that you have and.
Of knowing that what you have andwho you are is already enough.
Here's the thing, most of us didn'teven write these stories ourselves.
They were handed down to us by ourfamilies or culture or experiences, and
(03:20):
then without even realizing it, we'vebeen living them, letting them shape
our choices, our energy and our worth.
But today we're making the shift as youtrace those stories back to their roots,
not to blame and certainly not to dwell.
Just to understand, but when youunderstand where scarcity got its
grips, then you can start to loosen it.
(03:43):
You can start to rewrite a story intoone that feels expansive, abundant,
and true to who you really are.
For the record, scarcityisn't your personality.
It's programming.
It's the stack of stories.
Your nervous system grabbed to be safe.
When you can see the old code,you can write the new one.
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So let's talk about some ofthe sneaky stealth mode, ways
that scarcity got rooted.
It could have showed up fromchildhood conditioning, cultural,
or even generational beliefs.
And this one is huge growing upin environments where resources,
whether it's financial, emotional.
Or even with attention, if itfelt limited, that can plant the
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idea that there's never enough.
Maybe you heard phrases like, wecan't afford that, or Money doesn't
grow on trees, or you have to worktwice as hard to get half as much,
or even if you just saw your parentsconstantly stressed about money, those
beliefs can get deeply ingrained.
Even if subconsciously, you're tryingto break free, and if you're in a
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different place now, those earlymessages can still be running the show.
Or maybe it's societal programming.
As women, we're often taught to playsmall, not to take up too much space
and just be grateful for what you have.
This programming can make you feellike you're not allowed to want
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more, and I just wanna say lies.
Okay.
Absolutely lies.
Or it shows up in the hustle mentality.
This one is tricky becauseit's so celebrated.
You might have been praised for yourwork ethic or your ability to just
do it all, but that constant hustlecan reinforce the idea that you have
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to earn abundance through strugglerather than just allowing it to flow.
Or that you have to hustleharder just to prove your worth.
Now, while there are times when you mayhustle in seasons or hustle in sprints,
it's not a way of consistent living,and that's really where that hustle
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mentality can be at the root of scarcity.
And now more than ever,the comparison culture.
Honey, the social media is a breedingground for scarcity, scrolling
and seeing everyone's highlightreel, the bigger launches, more
followers, the perfect families,and then you wind up feeling behind.
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You know that comparison algorithm, theconstant measuring trains your brain
to hunt for lack and not evidence.
So the scroll leads to comparingand then ultimately you shrink.
It's not you, it's the feed you were fed.
That constant comparison createsa sense of not enoughness that
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can be really hard to shake.
Even experiences can be the root ofscarcity through trauma or past failures.
If you've experienced a big failure,whether it was a business, a relationship,
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you know, or something in your life,maybe you went through a divorce
or just a major life change, it cancreate a fear of rejection that keeps
you stuck in that scarcity loop.
You might be holding onto the beliefthat success isn't sustainable or that
abundance is fleeting or it won't last.
And then there's the fearof abandonment or rejection.
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You often see this showing upin relationships, friendships,
or even in your audience.
If you've ever felt afraid ofbeing left behind or not chosen,
you might clinging to what has or.
You might clinging to what you have,even if it's not serving you, because
the idea of losing it is so unbearable.
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Scarcity shows up somuch in time and energy.
I know as soon as we hearthe word scarcity, our minds
immediately go to money.
But it's not always about that.
You might just feel like there'snot enough time to get everything
done and you're feeling likeyou're constantly running on empty.
That leads to overcommitting.
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Burnout and the belief that you have tosacrifice yourself in order to succeed,
and that within itself is exhausting.
Then there's perfectionism.
Ooh, this one is so sneaky.
If you've ever felt like you'renot doing enough, or that you have
to be perfect to deserve success,this can keep you stuck in a cycle
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of overworking and self-criticism.
Then there's what I call survival math.
You learn to be useful or be left.
And this is where the idea thatoverwork became love, calm, felt unsafe.
So you filled the silence withdoing constantly if stillness
makes you fidgety, that's old math.
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Trying to balance a billthat's already been paid for.
Scarcity shows up in the praise economy.
You know, the good girl getthe gold stars for self erasure
approval over authenticity.
You learn to read rooms insteadof reading yourself and polite
became your personality, or maybeit's the spiritual misreads,
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humility got twisted into hiding.
Head down, don't shine,and don't want too much.
Listen, friend, God neverasked you to dim your light.
He asked you to steward it.
And then there's all the microshames of too much, too loud, too
ambitious, and the translationyour body heard is shrink to stay.
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So you learn to apologizefor existing needs.
Which ultimately leads to the lackof self-worth At its core, scarcity
is often tied to self-worth.
If you don't feel worthy of abundance,whether it's love, money, or
opportunities, you'll unconsciously blockit even when it's right in front of you.
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So many times your body istrying to tell you something.
It's trying to show you through thetight jaw, the shallow breath speed
talking, or the self-deprecating jokes.
Deflecting compliments or saying, sorry.
When you mean to say thank you.
and these are just some areas wherescarcity can take root, and the key is to
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recognize that those beliefs aren't yours.
They're stories.
You've more than likelyinherited or absorbed.
Once you recognize them, you can startto rewrite them into something that.
Feels expansive, empowering andaligned with your true self.
And that's one of the reasons whyI recommend journaling because
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the beauty of journaling is thatdeeper awareness that it unlocks.
You don't have to go back intotime and retraumatize yourself.
It's just being aware of the rootof it so you can take your power
back to decide how you'll operate.
Who you'll be as a result of it, no longerbeing at the mercy of it running you.
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Now you are in the driver's seatand designing an outcome that
supports and honors the best of you.
So if you wanna do aquick journaling check-in.
Here's three amazing prompts.
What Early Moment taught me thatmore of me equaled less love?
And as you journal about this,release it without shame or guilt.
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You survived.
Now you get to live the second prompt.
Where do I still bargain my worth?
Is it through your time, yourboundaries, or are you selling
yourself short somewhere?
Name the bargains.
And the third prompt reframeto keep recognize, I am
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not dramatic, I'm accurate.
These roots explain the reflex.
They don't define my future.
then as you've completed that journalingexercise, inhale possibility, and
exhale permission because you'vejust granted it to yourself.
Okay, babe, I have to share this with you,this is the spark you've been waiting for.
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Let's ignite it, especially if you'reready to stop playing small and start
living as the main character in your life.
It's my Ignite Your mainCharacter Energy Journal prompts.
And let me tell you, this isn't yourregular schmegular journaling exercise.
These prompts are designed tohelp you break through self-doubt.
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Reconnect with your power and startshowing up like the confident, unstoppable
woman you know you are meant to be.
Think of it as your personal roadmap toclarity, self-love, and that next level
energy that turns heads and changes lives.
Here's the best part.
These prompts are quick, powerful,and totally doable, even if
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you've got a packed schedule.
So grab your favorite pen, a cup oftea, or a raw milk latte, whatever
your fancy thing is, and let's get towork on creating the kind of that feels
so aligned with who you truly are.
You can grab theprompts@encourageovereverything.com
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or just check the show notes.
Trust me, this is the sparkyou've been waiting for.
Let's ignite that maincharacter, energy friend.
So grab your journal or just settle in.
This is the moment to rewritethe story and reclaim your worth.
Let's dive back on into this episode.
Now friend, if you thought what we'vealready covered has been powerful,
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let's get into the next real shift.
We are not just tweakinghabits or slapping on some
surface level affirmations.
We are upgrading who you be becausewhen you shift your identity,
your actions naturally follow.
It's not about forcing abundance,it's about embodying it.
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Cue the framework because the richidentity has entered the chat, and
this is your new operating system.
Rich is for receptive,intentional, confident, and held.
These aren't just buzz words.
They are the foundation of living in.
Abundance.
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When you root yourself in these pillars,scarcity doesn't stand a chance.
So let's break it down.
What does it actually look liketo be receptive, intentional,
confident, and held, and how you canstart living from this place today.
So let's get into thisupgrade, friend, rich identity.
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The r is for regulated.
Why?
Because a regulated nervous system letsyou choose not chase Regulated nervous
system says I create inner safety.
I don't hustle for it.
So this is where you canjust do a simple breath work.
It can just be one minute of justbreathing in for four, exhaling
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for six, and your new anchoris calm, is my new credibility.
Because no more scatteredenergy being all over the place.
No more having a deep desire andyet contradicting it with all of
the doubts and fears We have got toget that nervous system regulated,
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honey, so that you can actually restand be calm in your credibility.
The I is for intentional becauseyou are inherently worthy.
Your value is not upfor debate or discounts.
Your worth does not equalwages you don't earn.
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Oxygen worthy is your birthright.
You never had to do anything to earn it.
It just simply is who you areand deserving of everything
good that belongs to you.
So how can this live outin your day-to-day life?
Is it raising a boundary?
Is it confidently sharingsomething that you need?
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Is it.
Raising your price where you've beenundercharging, your new anchor is, my
worth is fixed and my life reflects it.
Ooh, I know that's right.
C is for confident.
Why?
Because you are called and chosen.
Calling kills comparison.
Purpose puts you in your own lane.
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Remember, friend, you are onassignment, your gifts are on purpose.
So, what's your oneconfidence rep going to be?
Is it a daily assignment check?
Is it, doing one thingthat fulfills calling?
Is it pouring into your cup before youstart pouring into everyone else's cup
Then anchor it in?
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I move like a woman on a mission.
And H is held because you areprovided for Provision is a
partnership between divine and design.
Please remember, friend, you aresupported by God the universe.
Source, whomever you believe in bycommunity and by systems you build.
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So create one 10 minutesystem that supports you.
It could just be blocking sometime on your calendar or setting
up that auto reply Finally.
How can you spend 10 minutesdoing something that supports you?
Your new anchor is, I am held,I'm helped, and I am provided for,
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and that rich identity really isthe doorway that leads you into
powerful reframes and mindset shifts.
you recognize that restmultiplies your results.
Okay, friend.
Because you are going fromscarcity to stewardship.
You direct resources, youdon't have to beg for them.
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So that whole, there'snot enough mentality.
We're shifting into a.
I allocate what matters becausethat's what a good steward does.
And instead of chasing, we are absolutelyputting you in a position to receive.
We are turning force off and turning flowon instead of that mentality of I need to
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push harder shift into receive mode andstart thinking, I'm making room to be met.
And while we're at it, let's do somelanguage upgrades, because as your
coach, I love listening to the wordsthat you say and the tone of voice
that you use that really reflectsthe meaning that you've given it.
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If you work with me one-on-one, I loveto catch it and rewind it for you because
it shows exactly where you are and thebeliefs that you're holding in relation
to what you want and deeply desire.
So when I hear you say, I hopeit works, I often hear the
doubt that you say that with.
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So we wanna reframe that andsay, I'm building what works.
When you say, I'm fine,I hear the sarcasm.
Because you don't reallymean that, you're fine.
We wanna reframe that and shift intohere's what would make this a yes for me
and for the one who's trying to have ababy, that word trying, it's so heavy.
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We wanna reframe that and say weare parents in preparation, inviting
new life and trusting the timing.
Friend, the words yousay, write your future.
Right now you are.
Simply living the reality you repeatedlyspoke about and thought about.
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The more you reframe the negativeor less supportive thoughts and
language, the more you begin towrite the future you're dreaming of.
So say it with me, identity first,actions follow evidence stacks.
This is where abundance becomes real whenyou recognize that it's already here.
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When you touch your desires daily,when you protect your environment
with boundaries and celebrate yourmicro wins and receive, expecting
those miracles and not justwaiting on the other shoe to drop.
And that's how you embody abundance.
That's how you make it livedin and not just believed in.
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Now, friend, you know around here, we loveus a good two step because everyone can do
it and it always gets the party started.
Now a scarcity mindset,just like negative thoughts.
They won't disappear overnight,especially the ones that you've
practiced over and over again.
But the more that you notice them, themore chances you have to rewire them.
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So step one.
Pause and notice.
Simply catch the heavy phrase, thingslike trying should, sorry, or someday
just pause and notice when you catch it.
And then step two, choose and breathe.
Just place your hand to heart.
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Inhale and then swap in your upgradeinstead of, I'm trying to have a baby.
We're inviting new life and trustingthe timing instead of money is tight.
Reframe into, I'm directing resourceswith wisdom while my capacity expands
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instead of I don't have proof yet.
Shift into evidence is progress,and I'm stacking them reps babe.
And a bonus somatic sealafter the reframe, just
inhale in and exhale audibly.
Let the sigh and soundroll from your lips.
And roll those shoulders back.
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Let your body feel the new line.
I could not be more proudof you for doing the work.
Now let's take a quick pausefor the cause because I've
got something so good for you.
If you've been vibing with this episodeand you're ready to step into your
main character energy, like fullyowning your confidence and showing
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up as the star of your own life.
Then grab the freebie, the maincharacter confidence checklist.
This isn't just another checklistthat sits in your downloads folder.
It's your go-to guide for ditchingself-doubt, setting boundaries like a
boss, and stepping into the unshakeableself-worth you've been craving.
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Think of it as your confidence blueprint.
Simple, actionable, and designedto help you show up as the most
magnetic version of yourself.
So here's what you're gonna do.
You're gonna head on over toencourage over everything.com
or check the show notes and download itnow so you can start making moves today.
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Because baby, the world is waitingfor you to take center stage and
it is time to make it happen.
Now let me pour into you real quick.
Friend, you were never missing your worth.
You were missing wiring.
And wiring is so wonderfullyupdateable, if that's a word.
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If it is not, we making it one.
Okay.
Every time you regulate your breath,tell the truth about what you need
and actually let yourself receive.
You are recoding sacrificeinto sufficiency.
You don't have to audition forrooms you've already outgrown.
Your gifts are not accidents.
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They are assignments.
When the old story whispers small,you answer with stewardship.
When fear tries to rushyou, you slow down.
And remember, I am held.
I am helped.
I am provided for.
The same God source or universe whocalled you is the one who carries you
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and will send you the people and systemsto meet you where you're going move
like a woman who trust in her timing,her preparation and her provider.
We are not chasing, we are choosing.
We are not shrinking.
We are shining.
Your waiting season isnot here to punish you.
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It's here to prepare you for everythingyou asked for to increase and expand
your capacity of what you hold, becausethose big dreams, those huge desires.
Of your heart.
They need room to live and breathe,and that's exactly what you're
building, who you are supposed to be,to have the capacity to hold, nurture,
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and grow what you've asked for.
What do you have to learn?
What skills do you needto obtain or polish?
Who do you need to become is the mostimportant question you can answer.
There's a life waiting for you that feelslike oxygen, one where your calendar
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reflects your calling, your money mirrorsyour value and your relationships.
Honor your heart that lifeisn't someday if you're perfect.
It's today in the steps, the boldmoves and holy reps, a breath before a
decision, a boundary at the right moment,A brave ask that opens a new door.
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Keep it consistent, sacred, and stacked.
Let this week be your rich week.
Regulate before you respond.
Remember your intention.
You are inherently worthy.
Move with confidence like you arecalled and chosen and build like a
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woman who is held and provided for.
If your brain hunts forlack, give it evidence.
Write down three waysyou were supported today.
Teach your mind your reality.
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And if you need a sign, this is it.
You are not behind.
You are being built.
Keep practicing your language upgrades.
Keep honoring the boundariesthat protects your becoming.
Keep receiving with open hands.
The story isn't Will it work?
It's, I'm building what works.
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I'm rooting for you friend.
Crown up.
Breathe and move like the woman who'sheld, provided for and on assignment.
And remember, we don't shrink,we shine all because together we
can encourage over everything.
All right, friend, before wego, let me leave you with this.
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You are so much closer to the lifeyou are dreaming of than you think.
Every time you show up for yourself,whether it's listening to this podcast,
journaling, or taking one step forward.
You are rewriting your storyand stepping into your power.
If this episode spoketo you, please do this.
Hit that subscribe button soyou never miss an episode.
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And if you're feeling extragenerous, leave a review.
Your words mean the world tome, and they help this podcast.
Reach more women who need theseconversations and hey, don't keep it
to yourself and share it with a friend
who could use a littleextra encouragement today?
Let's spread this maincharacter energy far and wide.
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I'll see you in the next episode.
Until then, keep shining.
Keep growing, and keep stepping intothe confident and empowered woman you
are becoming now strut up on out ofhere giving main character energy only.
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