ABOUT THIS EPISODE:
Confidence doesn’t disappear overnight—it slips away every time you ignore your own voice. And the way back? One small act of self-trust at a time.
If you’ve ever found yourself polling the room, second-guessing every decision, or outsourcing your choices to everyone else, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. I’m pulling back the curtain on my own journey of constantly asking others what I should do—until life forced me to finally listen to myself. What I discovered changed everything: self-trust is the secret sauce to confidence, and confidence is the key that unlocks every door you’re waiting to walk through.
By the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly why self-trust erodes, how to rebuild it (without waiting to “feel ready”), and the ripple effect it has on your life, love, and leadership. This isn’t just theory—it’s a formula. And Queen, once you start using it, your confidence won’t just grow—it’ll soar.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
Confidence isn’t the starting point—it’s the byproduct of self-trust.
Self-trust is built through small promises kept, not grand gestures.
Mistakes aren’t permanent marks—they’re invitations for growth.
Every experience teaches you how to trust yourself better.
Celebration reinforces your identity as trustworthy.
Self-trust shifts how you show up in life, love, and leadership.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Embracing Main Character Energy
01:00 The Journey to Self-Trust
03:58 Building Self-Trust as a Foundation
09:22 Rebuilding Self-Trust: The Self-Love Two-Step
16:07 The Ripple Effect of Self-Trust
20:11 Granting Yourself Permission to Trust
21:12 Accelerating Your Confidence Journey
THE SELF-LOVE 2-STEP: THE SELF-TRUST FORMULA
So now that you see why self-trust gets shaky, let’s talk about how to actually rebuild it. Rebuilding self-trust doesn’t require giant leaps—it starts with something far smaller but way more powerful.
✨ Step 1: Keep a Micro-Promise Real confidence is built in micro-moments. Every little promise you keep is a deposit in your “self-trust bank account.” Wake up when you said you would? Deposit. Ten-minute walk instead of scrolling? Deposit. Drink that glass of water? Deposit. These tiny wins prove to your brain: “I do what I say I’ll do. I can trust myself.”
✨ Step 2: Celebrate the Keep Here’s the part most women skip. Celebration isn’t fluff—it’s identity reinforcement. Every time you pause and say, “Yes, I kept my word to myself,” you reinforce the truth: “I am a woman who can be trusted.” Without celebration, it’s just a task. With celebration, it’s transformation.
Listen to the full episode for examples of micro-celebrations and why this method works.
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