September 23, 2025 • 24 mins
ABOUT THIS EPISODE
Pull up close, friend. If you’ve been second-guessing every text, replaying conversations on loop, or stuck in that tug-of-war between fear and intuition—this is your reset. In this soul-to-strategy episode, I walk you through how to rebuild self-trust now with nervous system regulation, practical tools, and identity-level shifts so your confidence comeback isn’t a someday thing—it’s today.
You’ll learn the R.E.S.E.T. Self-Trust Loop to quiet overthinking, the difference between fear vs. intuition (so you can hear your inner wisdom clearly), and how to mix Pebbles & Power Plays—the tiny, nervous-system-friendly reps and the bold, catalytic decisions—to create real momentum. We’ll stack proof, set standards, and choose aligned action that supports your Main Character Energy, healthy boundaries, and aligned relationships.
No waiting for external validation. No performing for approval. Just present leadership, calm clarity, and self-respect that shows in every choice you make. Confidence is not a prerequisite—it’s the byproduct of self-leadership in moments big and small. Let’s reset your compass and rise.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- CONFIDENCE FOLLOWS ACTION: Confidence isn’t a pre-req—it grows from self-led, aligned moves.
- FEAR VS. INTUITION—KNOW THE SIGNALS: Fear is loud and frantic; intuition is steady and simple.
- PEBBLES & POWER PLAYS WORK TOGETHER: Small reps regulate; bold moves reshape your trajectory.
- RUN THE R.E.S.E.T. LOOP: Regulate, set standards, experiment, and track proof to rebuild self-trust fast.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Introduction: Embrace Your Messy Human Moments
00:56 Main Character Confidence Checklist
02:16 Understanding Self-Trust
05:05 The Self-Trust Reset Loop
08:55 Fear vs. Intuition
10:56 Journaling for Confidence
12:22 Pebbles and Power Moves
15:39 High-Stakes Self-Trust
19:38 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
22:28 Sneak Peek and Closing Remarks
THE SELF-LOVE 2-STEP
When doubt gets loud and your body braces, this mini-ritual brings you back to center—fast. It calms your nervous system, clears mental noise, and gets you back into aligned action that honors your standards. Use it anywhere to shift from overthinking to leadership in under three minutes. Run it daily to stack proof, stabilize confidence, and embody your Main Character Energy with softness and strength.
THE SELF-LOVE 2-STEP: STEADY & SHOW
STEP 1: STEADY (60–90 SECONDS)
Hand over heart. Inhale 4 → hold 4 → exhale 6 (×3).
Pause & Check In: Is this decision coming from avoidance or alignment?
Avoidance: “I’ll wait until I feel ready.” / “What if I fail?”
Alignment: “This is scary and it’s the next right step for me.”
Affirmation: “I can trust me. I make good choices for present-me and future-me.”
STEP 2: SHOW (2 MINUTES)
Proof Stack: Write 2 quick receipts of recent courage (micro or major).
One Vow-Aligned Action: Choose a move that honors your standard today (send, post, ask, schedule).
WHY IT WORKS: The body calms, the brain gets evidence, and your identity updates in real time: “I am a woman who leads herself.” Self-trust isn’t rebuilt in one leap—it’s...
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Episode Transcript
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(00:00):
If you've been second guessingyourself, rereading texts like you're
the Supreme Court rulings, or stuckin that tug of war between fear and
intuition, friend, you are not broken.
You are just in the messy human.
In between moment, or maybe you're justfeeling like your confidence is MIA.
Listen, it's not gone.
(00:20):
It's just waiting for you on the side ofa one honest breath and one aligned move.
Whether it's a lightning boltbreakthrough, a sign from the sky, or a
bite-sized pivotal moment, you don't needexternal validation to feel confident
Again, confidence isn't a prereq,it's a byproduct of self-leadership.
(00:41):
I'm sharing how to leadyourself through those messy.
Uncertain moments whenself-trust feels shaky.
Friend, we are resetting yourcompass so you can lead yourself with
softness, standards, and self-respect.
Let's get into it.
Hey, let me ask you something.
Are you ready to stop playingsmall and finally step into
(01:02):
your main character energy?
The main character confidencechecklist helps you do exactly that.
It's your ultimate guide toditching self-doubt and stepping
into unshakeable confidence.
I know what it's like to be stuck inyour head, overthinking every decision
and wondering if you are really enough.
(01:22):
But friend to friend, I gottatell you, you are enough.
You just need the tools tostart believing it and showing
up like the powerhouse you are.
That's where the main characterconfidence checklist comes in.
It's packed with simple, actionablesteps to help you rebuild yourself.
Trust one promise at a time.
Set boundaries that protect yourenergy and start showing up as the
(01:46):
most confident magnetic version of you.
Whether you're navigating a big lifechange, chasing a dream, or just ready
to stop second guessing yourself.
And this checklist is for you.
And the best part, it's totally free.
So what are you waiting for?
Head to encourage over everythingor just down in the show notes.
(02:07):
To grab your copy now and start steppinginto your main character energy today.
Trust me, you got this friend.
Hey, hey, hey, friend.
Pull up.
Real close.
'cause we are talking self trust.
Listen, I know what it's like.
the struggle can be real 'causeit's not just something that you
(02:29):
wake up with one day, it's somethingyou build and sometimes rebuild,
especially after life throws younothing short of 15,000 curve balls.
At least it feels that way.
Maybe you've been second guessingyourself, overthinking every
decision or just feeling stuckbetween fear and intuition.
(02:51):
If that's you, this episode is your reset
first, let's talk about why self-trustcan feel like it's sometimes on thin ice.
Maybe you've been through a toughseason, a breakup, a failed launch, a
career pivot, and now you're questioningeverything including yourself.
(03:12):
You know that one question, who are youto chase that dream, to go out there and
do that thing, to actually build a lifewith who, what, or you wanna do what now?
Or maybe you've just been so focusedon pleasing others that you've
stopped listening to your own voice.
(03:32):
Ooh, friend.
I have been there anddone that too many times.
but shaky can also looklike nervous system noise.
There's just too many inputs, andnow you've got scrambled signals
causing overthinking of every move,or just waiting on somebody else to
tell you that you're doing it right,Or it could be approval cravings.
(03:56):
You're just outsourcing youryes to avoid disapproval, or
maybe it's the perfection myth.
You wait for the right choice.
Instead of a reversible one.
When you let fear or perfectionismtake the wheel, you start
outsourcing your power.
Asking for 10 opinionsbefore making a decision.
(04:16):
Ooh, that was me.
That used to be me running everythingthrough my own personal committee, honey.
I told myself, I don't know when reallyI hadn't even given myself a fair chance
to connect to my own inner knowing.
self-trust erodes when we stopkeeping promises to ourselves,
(04:37):
Even without realizing it, youget swept up in this undercurrent
of broken promise backlog of selfbetrayals that ultimately erode trust.
Sound familiar?
Well, here's the good news.
Self-trust isn't gone.
It's just await foryou to pick it back up.
And the way to do that, it's certainly notby overthinking or waiting to feel ready.
(05:01):
It's by taking actioneven when it feels scary.
Okay.
Breathe with me, friend.
Before we analyze, let's regulate.
Here's the three to 10 minute loopthat I use when the spiral starts.
Let's expand on this ideawith the reset framework.
It's the self-trust reset loop.
(05:23):
Use this anytime you are overthinking.
Second guessing or just tornbetween fear and intuition.
So the reset is this.
R is recognize the moment,name it naturally notice
what's coming up in your body.
Maybe you're feelingtightness in your chest.
And then notice the story thatis playing in the background.
(05:46):
You know the one thatsays, I'll mess this up.
Or you can't be serious.
You can't do that.
Reframe it by saying, thisis a moment not my identity.
And E is for exhale and regulate.
Friend, you know I love me.
Some good breath work.
Inhale for four.
Hold for four and exhale forsix and do this a few times.
(06:12):
unclench your jaw, drop your shouldersand relax and think of this mantra.
I am safe to go slow.
Because when your nervous systemis at an all time high, we have
got to regulate that thing.
Regulators mount up.
(06:33):
Ooh, I love the nineties.
Okay, anyw who, um,lemme get back on track.
Okay.
The S is for state your standards.
Here's your new affirmation.
I choose honesty, excellence, and ease.
Right here we are going foralignment over approval.
It's all about integrityover impulse here.
(06:56):
This is where you state the standardsthat are going to work for you.
It's so easy to focus in on whatwe don't want or what is happening
right now, but you have to raise yourstandards and vibrate and focus higher.
And then the E is for experiment.
What is the next writea line step I can take.
(07:20):
Is it time to send that text?
Is it finally time to ship overthat draft, or do you just need
to decline that invitation kindly?
Do you need to take amuch more bolder move?
Is it time to have that toughconversation publish your
creation or share your big idea?
The important thing is not aboutlabeling it good or bad success
(07:43):
or failure, it's about collectingdata so you can make aligned and
educated decisions going forward.
So if you can just treat things like anexperiment instead of thinking it's the
end all, be all with this one action.
you can take the pressure off of yourselfand give yourself room to just breathe
(08:07):
Collect the data and then decide what'sthe next best aligned action because now
you have data to make educated decisions.
And then the T is for track.
Track the proof.
You have got to keep track of yourproof friend because you are collecting
data, which become your receipts.
(08:28):
So just log two receipts ofcourage in your proof log.
That way when the going gets tough, youhave actual receipts to remind yourself.
That although it seems very doomand gloom in your mind, you are
actually making positive progress.
It's not about making perfect decisions.
You just need completed loops.
(08:50):
now that your body is steady, your innersignal gets cleaner and more clear.
Here's how to tell fear from intuition,because one of the biggest blocks
of our self-trust is knowing thedifference between fear and intuition,
because let's be honest, they canfeel really similar sometimes.
(09:10):
Okay.
Here's the key.
Fear is loud, it's chaotic,and it's full of what ifs.
You know that voice that'salways like, what if you fail?
What if they judge you?
What if they don't like it?
What if they don't like you?
What if you're not good enough?
Okay, listen, we don'thave time for all that.
That is fear speaking loud and clear.
However, your intuition, onthe other hand, it's quieter.
(09:33):
It's steady.
It's that gut feeling thatsays, this is right for me.
Even if it's scary.
It's that calm sense of peace you feeleven when logic would tell you otherwise.
Friend, hear me with yourwhole heart when I say this.
Your intuition isn't broken, youare just disconnected from it, and
(09:57):
this is your sign to reengage whenyou are stuck between the two.
Just take a deep breath, get still,and ask yourself, if I fully trusted
myself, what would I choose right now?
The answer is already in you.
You just have to giveyourself the space to hear it.
(10:19):
So grant yourself thegift of time and quiet.
In many cases, you don't have torush to make a decision, and in the
moments that you do, give yourselfquiet, stillness or silence, it's an
invitation to drop from your head.
Into your heart because sometimeswe get too locked in our head.
(10:40):
The overthinking, the replayingit over and over again on repeat,
it gets noisy up in there.
You know what I mean?
But if you can drop in your heart,you'll be amazed at what you can hear
and feel for the answers you are seeking.
All right, friend.
Let's talk about journaling for a second.
If you've ever stared at a blankpage wondering what the heck to
(11:02):
write, I've got you covered Yourmain character energy journal prompts
are here to help you unlock yourconfidence, clarity, and creativity.
One journal entry at a time,because let's be real, sometimes
it's hard to know where to.
Start when it comes to self-reflection,you wanna feel more aligned,
more confident, more you, butthe path to get you there feels
(11:25):
overwhelming, if that sounds familiar.
These journal prompts are designedto help you get crystal clear on
your goals and desires, rewrite thestories that are holding you back
and start showing up as the maincharacter of your life every single day.
They are quick, easy, and powerful.
Perfect for busy women who wantto make journaling a daily habit
(11:50):
without overcomplicating it.
So if you are ready to ignite yourmain character energy and start living
with more confidence and intention,grab your copy of the Ignite Your
Main Character Energy Journal.
Right now it's only $27, and trust me,it's going to be the best investment
you can make into yourself this week.
(12:11):
So head on over to encourageover everything.com
or in the show notes below to grab it.
Now I.
Okay, friend.
Clarity is here.
So what do we do with it?
There's two lanes you can choose thecozy reps or the calculated moves.
Self-trust is built in reps and decisions.
(12:32):
The reps are your simple, steadysteps, the nervous system,
friendly moves you can make.
The decisions are your bold identitydefining plays that shift your trajectory.
You need both pebbles to build momentumand power plays to change the game.
The pebbles are your nervoussystem friendly reps.
(12:55):
They're small vow aligned actionsyou can do today without a pep rally.
They steady your body, reduce the noise,and give your brain hard evidence.
It's very much giving.
See, I show up for me.
That evidence stacks intoself-trust, which is why pebbles
matter so much on the days.
(13:17):
Confidence feels shaky.
They don't look flashy, but theyprime your system for bigger moves
by proving you are safe to take them.
Power moves, on the other hand, those arethe bolder trajectory shifting decisions.
The emails that you send, the priceyou raise, the boundaries you set.
(13:37):
The launch, you green light, they createclean data, fast and collapsed timelines.
When the pebbles build themomentum, power plays unlock rooms.
Without them, you can stay busy foreverand never actually change your reality.
You need both because confidence, it'sreally built through consistent proof and.
(14:01):
Catalytic decisions pebbles regulateand reinforce your identity.
I am a bold woman who leads herselfand those power plays, they stretch
that identity into a larger room.
I'm the woman who asks,decides and moves pebbles.
Keep you grounded.
The power plays make you grow.
(14:22):
One without the other iseither anxiety, all leaps and
no safety or pure stagnation.
All reps and no reach.
The flow is simple.
Regulate with a pebble andthen when alignment is clear,
Boom time for your power play.
Let pebbles lower the stakesand quiet the second guessing.
(14:42):
Let power plays create the breakthroughsyou can't pebble your way into.
do both with compassion log your receipts.
And watch your self imagerise to meet your new life.
Because we don't settle.
We shine.
Okay.
Now, how to know whento use one or the other.
If fear is loud, your body's braced.
(15:04):
It's time for a pebble.
You need to regulate first.
If clarity is low, definitelytime for just a pebble.
Collect evidence.
But on the other hand, if you're stuck inthe loops, a power play is just for you.
Create a function that flows, orif alignment is clear, but you're
still stalling for approval.
Boom.
(15:24):
Time for a power play.
So if you had to make a moveand you only had 10 minutes
to do it, what's the 5% step?
That is a pebble, When the stakesrise, the same rules apply Just louder.
Here's how to lead yourselfwhen it really counts.
that's in those high stake momentswhen self-trust feels the hardest.
(15:48):
Like when.
you have to have a toughconversation you're about to
launch something new, or it's justtime to make a big life decision.
Here's what I want you to remember.
You don't have to have it allfigured out to move forward.
confidence doesn't come before action.
It comes after.
The more you remind yourselfthat you can handle hard things.
(16:10):
not only can you, but you already have,remind yourself you have proof that
relationship ended and you thought yourlife was over, but boom, here you are.
And sometimes God has to move you.
Trust me.
I've had relationships end, andit was only because he knew I
(16:32):
wouldn't have moved otherwise.
But look at me now.
Thriving.
All the times you thought you wouldn'tmake it, and yet here you are,
stronger, wiser, and more powerful.
You better check your resume, Themore evidence you have, the more
your self-trust muscle grows.
(16:52):
So the next time you're in ahigh stakes moment, try this.
Just take one small step forward, Evenif it's imperfect, remind yourself of the
hardest things you've already survived andthe skills you used to get through them.
And most importantly, trustthat even if it doesn't go
(17:12):
perfectly, you'll figure it out.
Why?
Because you always do.
and for the everyday moments.
Here's your famous self-love two step.
To keep you proof stacking.
This one is steady and show.
So let's put this into practice.
When you're feeling stuckin doubt or fear, this will
help you get back on track.
(17:34):
So step one, hand toheart, pause and check in.
Just inhale for four.
Hold for four and exhale for six, anddo this a few times then check in.
When doubt creeps in, just stopand ask yourself, Is this decision
coming from avoidance or alignment?
(17:56):
Avoidance sounds like I'll wait until Ifeel more ready, or what if I fail while
alignment sounds like This feels scary,but it's the right next step for me.
Your affirmation is, I can,trust me, I make good choices
for present me and future me.
Ooh, let that breathe for a minute.
(18:18):
Mm.
Let that sink in.
Love that one.
step two is the proof stack.
You're gonna write two quickreceipts of recent courage, whether
it was something big or small.
And then just take one vow aligned action.
Choose a move that honorsyour standard today.
Ask for what you need.
Schedule some time on yourcalendar for just you,
(18:40):
or make that bold move.
Why this works because the bodycalms, the brain gets evidence, and
your identity updates in real time.
Why?
Because I am the woman who leads herself.
Ooh, yes.
Self-trust isn't justbuilt in one big leap.
It's built by Microdecisions and power moves.
(19:03):
You are the waves building up momentumto make a ripple effect that may even
be larger than anything you can imagine.
Maybe starts with saying no tosomething misaligned not settling.
Or choosing what you want fordinner without asking anyone else.
Now, this one might just be forme, friend, because I don't know
(19:25):
why it's so hard for me to pickdinner, but I don't know what to
have for dinner 99% of the time.
But hey, those choices matter too.
You know, every decision is a vote forthe version of you who trust Herselves.
All right, friend, pull up real close.
'cause this is the partwe don't wanna skip.
let me pour into you right quick.
Friend, you are not fragile.
(19:46):
And you are certainly not a failure.
You are forging towards your future.
Do it with faith and trust.
You are becoming doubt it's gonna visit,but it doesn't get keys to your future.
You are allowed to go slowand still be unstoppable.
You are allowed to make power movesand plow forward to your destiny.
(20:11):
Every brave move you make todayteaches your nervous system.
We are safe to shine.
You don't need perfect timing.
You need presentleadership, and guess what?
That's you babe.
You are not late.
You are learning thelanguage of your own wisdom.
Fear is loud because it'strying to keep you safe.
(20:33):
Now if you work with me one-on-oneand answer any question with a, I
don't know, I will simply remind you.
Yes, you do know.
I don't know, is not an answer.
It's a sign.
It's time to get connected back toyourself, to own your divine intuition.
This is where self-trust lives.
(20:55):
It lives in the space whereyou give yourself a chance.
To connect to your heart, honor yourpromises you made to yourself by
keeping your word to you and believingyou are safe to trust yourself.
Will you always get it right?
No, but truthfully, neither willeveryone else You allow to direct your
life, so you might as well learn howto trust yourself because then you
(21:20):
know you followed your own heart andthat is better than any other outcome.
You were not designed tooutsource your decisions to fear.
You were designed to lead with softness,with standards, and with self-respect.
Run your reset loop.
Do your steady and show.
(21:41):
Log your proof.
Watch your life rise.
To meet the woman you are being today.
This is how confidence comes back.
Not in fireworks, but in faithful steps.
Self-trust isn't about feeling fearless.
It's about leadingyourself through the fear.
It's about showing up even when it's messyand proving to yourself that you got this.
(22:06):
So today I want you to take one.
Small action that reflects the versionof you who fully trusts herself.
Because when you trustyou, the world feels it.
Opportunities find you.
Relationships align, and you stepinto a whole new level of confidence.
That's what I'm talking about, friend.
(22:28):
Now before we wrap up, I wannagive you just a little sneak peek
into the next episode becausebabe, it's gonna be a game changer.
We are getting into how tostep into your Icon era.
This is for you.
If you are ready to define your own icon,era, craft your ultimate love story and
attract what you desire and deserve.
(22:50):
We are going to talk about how tostay anchored in your new identity.
And designing your icon era, it'svery much giving main character
energy only in all the major ways.
Trust me, you don't wanna miss it.
So make sure you hit that subscribebutton and I'll see you in the next
episode for another powerful conversation.
You got this friend.
(23:10):
Your reset starts now.
I'm cheering for you loud and obnoxiously.
Always remember, we don't settle,we shine all because together we
can encourage over everything.
Okay, friend, let me leave you with this.
You are so much closer to the lifeyou are dreaming of than you think.
(23:30):
Every time you show up for yourself,whether it's listening to this podcast,
journaling, or taking one smallstep forward, you are rewriting your
story and stepping into your power.
If this episode spoke to you,here's what I'd love for you to do.
Hit that subscribe button soyou never miss an episode.
And if you're feeling a littleextra generous, leave a review.
(23:52):
Your words mean the world tome, and they help this podcast.
Reach more women whoneed these conversations.
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Share it, send it in the group chat,or just send it to a friend who could
use a little extra encouragement today.
Let's spread this maincharacter energy far and wide.
Now I will see you in the next episode,but until then, keep shining, keep
(24:15):
growing, and keep stepping into theconfident, empowered woman you are
becoming now stru on up outta here,giving main character energy only.
If you've been second guessingyourself, rereading texts like you're
the Supreme Court rulings, or stuckin that tug of war between fear and
intuition, friend, you are not broken.
You are just in the messy human.
In between moment, or maybe you're justfeeling like your confidence is MIA.
Listen, it's not gone.
(00:20):
It's just waiting for you on the side ofa one honest breath and one aligned move.
Whether it's a lightning boltbreakthrough, a sign from the sky, or a
bite-sized pivotal moment, you don't needexternal validation to feel confident
Again, confidence isn't a prereq,it's a byproduct of self-leadership.
(00:41):
I'm sharing how to leadyourself through those messy.
Uncertain moments whenself-trust feels shaky.
Friend, we are resetting yourcompass so you can lead yourself with
softness, standards, and self-respect.
Let's get into it.
Hey, let me ask you something.
Are you ready to stop playingsmall and finally step into
(01:02):
your main character energy?
The main character confidencechecklist helps you do exactly that.
It's your ultimate guide toditching self-doubt and stepping
into unshakeable confidence.
I know what it's like to be stuck inyour head, overthinking every decision
and wondering if you are really enough.
(01:22):
But friend to friend, I gottatell you, you are enough.
You just need the tools tostart believing it and showing
up like the powerhouse you are.
That's where the main characterconfidence checklist comes in.
It's packed with simple, actionablesteps to help you rebuild yourself.
Trust one promise at a time.
Set boundaries that protect yourenergy and start showing up as the
(01:46):
most confident magnetic version of you.
Whether you're navigating a big lifechange, chasing a dream, or just ready
to stop second guessing yourself.
And this checklist is for you.
And the best part, it's totally free.
So what are you waiting for?
Head to encourage over everythingor just down in the show notes.
(02:07):
To grab your copy now and start steppinginto your main character energy today.
Trust me, you got this friend.
Hey, hey, hey, friend.
Pull up.
Real close.
'cause we are talking self trust.
Listen, I know what it's like.
the struggle can be real 'causeit's not just something that you
(02:29):
wake up with one day, it's somethingyou build and sometimes rebuild,
especially after life throws younothing short of 15,000 curve balls.
At least it feels that way.
Maybe you've been second guessingyourself, overthinking every
decision or just feeling stuckbetween fear and intuition.
(02:51):
If that's you, this episode is your reset
first, let's talk about why self-trustcan feel like it's sometimes on thin ice.
Maybe you've been through a toughseason, a breakup, a failed launch, a
career pivot, and now you're questioningeverything including yourself.
(03:12):
You know that one question, who are youto chase that dream, to go out there and
do that thing, to actually build a lifewith who, what, or you wanna do what now?
Or maybe you've just been so focusedon pleasing others that you've
stopped listening to your own voice.
(03:32):
Ooh, friend.
I have been there anddone that too many times.
but shaky can also looklike nervous system noise.
There's just too many inputs, andnow you've got scrambled signals
causing overthinking of every move,or just waiting on somebody else to
tell you that you're doing it right,Or it could be approval cravings.
(03:56):
You're just outsourcing youryes to avoid disapproval, or
maybe it's the perfection myth.
You wait for the right choice.
Instead of a reversible one.
When you let fear or perfectionismtake the wheel, you start
outsourcing your power.
Asking for 10 opinionsbefore making a decision.
(04:16):
Ooh, that was me.
That used to be me running everythingthrough my own personal committee, honey.
I told myself, I don't know when reallyI hadn't even given myself a fair chance
to connect to my own inner knowing.
self-trust erodes when we stopkeeping promises to ourselves,
(04:37):
Even without realizing it, youget swept up in this undercurrent
of broken promise backlog of selfbetrayals that ultimately erode trust.
Sound familiar?
Well, here's the good news.
Self-trust isn't gone.
It's just await foryou to pick it back up.
And the way to do that, it's certainly notby overthinking or waiting to feel ready.
(05:01):
It's by taking actioneven when it feels scary.
Okay.
Breathe with me, friend.
Before we analyze, let's regulate.
Here's the three to 10 minute loopthat I use when the spiral starts.
Let's expand on this ideawith the reset framework.
It's the self-trust reset loop.
(05:23):
Use this anytime you are overthinking.
Second guessing or just tornbetween fear and intuition.
So the reset is this.
R is recognize the moment,name it naturally notice
what's coming up in your body.
Maybe you're feelingtightness in your chest.
And then notice the story thatis playing in the background.
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You know the one thatsays, I'll mess this up.
Or you can't be serious.
You can't do that.
Reframe it by saying, thisis a moment not my identity.
And E is for exhale and regulate.
Friend, you know I love me.
Some good breath work.
Inhale for four.
Hold for four and exhale forsix and do this a few times.
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unclench your jaw, drop your shouldersand relax and think of this mantra.
I am safe to go slow.
Because when your nervous systemis at an all time high, we have
got to regulate that thing.
Regulators mount up.
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Ooh, I love the nineties.
Okay, anyw who, um,lemme get back on track.
Okay.
The S is for state your standards.
Here's your new affirmation.
I choose honesty, excellence, and ease.
Right here we are going foralignment over approval.
It's all about integrityover impulse here.
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This is where you state the standardsthat are going to work for you.
It's so easy to focus in on whatwe don't want or what is happening
right now, but you have to raise yourstandards and vibrate and focus higher.
And then the E is for experiment.
What is the next writea line step I can take.
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Is it time to send that text?
Is it finally time to ship overthat draft, or do you just need
to decline that invitation kindly?
Do you need to take amuch more bolder move?
Is it time to have that toughconversation publish your
creation or share your big idea?
The important thing is not aboutlabeling it good or bad success
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or failure, it's about collectingdata so you can make aligned and
educated decisions going forward.
So if you can just treat things like anexperiment instead of thinking it's the
end all, be all with this one action.
you can take the pressure off of yourselfand give yourself room to just breathe
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Collect the data and then decide what'sthe next best aligned action because now
you have data to make educated decisions.
And then the T is for track.
Track the proof.
You have got to keep track of yourproof friend because you are collecting
data, which become your receipts.
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So just log two receipts ofcourage in your proof log.
That way when the going gets tough, youhave actual receipts to remind yourself.
That although it seems very doomand gloom in your mind, you are
actually making positive progress.
It's not about making perfect decisions.
You just need completed loops.
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now that your body is steady, your innersignal gets cleaner and more clear.
Here's how to tell fear from intuition,because one of the biggest blocks
of our self-trust is knowing thedifference between fear and intuition,
because let's be honest, they canfeel really similar sometimes.
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Okay.
Here's the key.
Fear is loud, it's chaotic,and it's full of what ifs.
You know that voice that'salways like, what if you fail?
What if they judge you?
What if they don't like it?
What if they don't like you?
What if you're not good enough?
Okay, listen, we don'thave time for all that.
That is fear speaking loud and clear.
However, your intuition, onthe other hand, it's quieter.
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It's steady.
It's that gut feeling thatsays, this is right for me.
Even if it's scary.
It's that calm sense of peace you feeleven when logic would tell you otherwise.
Friend, hear me with yourwhole heart when I say this.
Your intuition isn't broken, youare just disconnected from it, and
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this is your sign to reengage whenyou are stuck between the two.
Just take a deep breath, get still,and ask yourself, if I fully trusted
myself, what would I choose right now?
The answer is already in you.
You just have to giveyourself the space to hear it.
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So grant yourself thegift of time and quiet.
In many cases, you don't have torush to make a decision, and in the
moments that you do, give yourselfquiet, stillness or silence, it's an
invitation to drop from your head.
Into your heart because sometimeswe get too locked in our head.
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The overthinking, the replayingit over and over again on repeat,
it gets noisy up in there.
You know what I mean?
But if you can drop in your heart,you'll be amazed at what you can hear
and feel for the answers you are seeking.
All right, friend.
Let's talk about journaling for a second.
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Now I.
Okay, friend.
Clarity is here.
So what do we do with it?
There's two lanes you can choose thecozy reps or the calculated moves.
Self-trust is built in reps and decisions.
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The reps are your simple, steadysteps, the nervous system,
friendly moves you can make.
The decisions are your bold identitydefining plays that shift your trajectory.
You need both pebbles to build momentumand power plays to change the game.
The pebbles are your nervoussystem friendly reps.
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They're small vow aligned actionsyou can do today without a pep rally.
They steady your body, reduce the noise,and give your brain hard evidence.
It's very much giving.
See, I show up for me.
That evidence stacks intoself-trust, which is why pebbles
matter so much on the days.
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Confidence feels shaky.
They don't look flashy, but theyprime your system for bigger moves
by proving you are safe to take them.
Power moves, on the other hand, those arethe bolder trajectory shifting decisions.
The emails that you send, the priceyou raise, the boundaries you set.
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The launch, you green light, they createclean data, fast and collapsed timelines.
When the pebbles build themomentum, power plays unlock rooms.
Without them, you can stay busy foreverand never actually change your reality.
You need both because confidence, it'sreally built through consistent proof and.
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Catalytic decisions pebbles regulateand reinforce your identity.
I am a bold woman who leads herselfand those power plays, they stretch
that identity into a larger room.
I'm the woman who asks,decides and moves pebbles.
Keep you grounded.
The power plays make you grow.
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One without the other iseither anxiety, all leaps and
no safety or pure stagnation.
All reps and no reach.
The flow is simple.
Regulate with a pebble andthen when alignment is clear,
Boom time for your power play.
Let pebbles lower the stakesand quiet the second guessing.
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Let power plays create the breakthroughsyou can't pebble your way into.
do both with compassion log your receipts.
And watch your self imagerise to meet your new life.
Because we don't settle.
We shine.
Okay.
Now, how to know whento use one or the other.
If fear is loud, your body's braced.
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It's time for a pebble.
You need to regulate first.
If clarity is low, definitelytime for just a pebble.
Collect evidence.
But on the other hand, if you're stuck inthe loops, a power play is just for you.
Create a function that flows, orif alignment is clear, but you're
still stalling for approval.
Boom.
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Time for a power play.
So if you had to make a moveand you only had 10 minutes
to do it, what's the 5% step?
That is a pebble, When the stakesrise, the same rules apply Just louder.
Here's how to lead yourselfwhen it really counts.
that's in those high stake momentswhen self-trust feels the hardest.
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Like when.
you have to have a toughconversation you're about to
launch something new, or it's justtime to make a big life decision.
Here's what I want you to remember.
You don't have to have it allfigured out to move forward.
confidence doesn't come before action.
It comes after.
The more you remind yourselfthat you can handle hard things.
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not only can you, but you already have,remind yourself you have proof that
relationship ended and you thought yourlife was over, but boom, here you are.
And sometimes God has to move you.
Trust me.
I've had relationships end, andit was only because he knew I
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wouldn't have moved otherwise.
But look at me now.
Thriving.
All the times you thought you wouldn'tmake it, and yet here you are,
stronger, wiser, and more powerful.
You better check your resume, Themore evidence you have, the more
your self-trust muscle grows.
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So the next time you're in ahigh stakes moment, try this.
Just take one small step forward, Evenif it's imperfect, remind yourself of the
hardest things you've already survived andthe skills you used to get through them.
And most importantly, trustthat even if it doesn't go
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perfectly, you'll figure it out.
Why?
Because you always do.
and for the everyday moments.
Here's your famous self-love two step.
To keep you proof stacking.
This one is steady and show.
So let's put this into practice.
When you're feeling stuckin doubt or fear, this will
help you get back on track.
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So step one, hand toheart, pause and check in.
Just inhale for four.
Hold for four and exhale for six, anddo this a few times then check in.
When doubt creeps in, just stopand ask yourself, Is this decision
coming from avoidance or alignment?
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Avoidance sounds like I'll wait until Ifeel more ready, or what if I fail while
alignment sounds like This feels scary,but it's the right next step for me.
Your affirmation is, I can,trust me, I make good choices
for present me and future me.
Ooh, let that breathe for a minute.
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Mm.
Let that sink in.
Love that one.
step two is the proof stack.
You're gonna write two quickreceipts of recent courage, whether
it was something big or small.
And then just take one vow aligned action.
Choose a move that honorsyour standard today.
Ask for what you need.
Schedule some time on yourcalendar for just you,
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or make that bold move.
Why this works because the bodycalms, the brain gets evidence, and
your identity updates in real time.
Why?
Because I am the woman who leads herself.
Ooh, yes.
Self-trust isn't justbuilt in one big leap.
It's built by Microdecisions and power moves.
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You are the waves building up momentumto make a ripple effect that may even
be larger than anything you can imagine.
Maybe starts with saying no tosomething misaligned not settling.
Or choosing what you want fordinner without asking anyone else.
Now, this one might just be forme, friend, because I don't know
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why it's so hard for me to pickdinner, but I don't know what to
have for dinner 99% of the time.
But hey, those choices matter too.
You know, every decision is a vote forthe version of you who trust Herselves.
All right, friend, pull up real close.
'cause this is the partwe don't wanna skip.
let me pour into you right quick.
Friend, you are not fragile.
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And you are certainly not a failure.
You are forging towards your future.
Do it with faith and trust.
You are becoming doubt it's gonna visit,but it doesn't get keys to your future.
You are allowed to go slowand still be unstoppable.
You are allowed to make power movesand plow forward to your destiny.
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Every brave move you make todayteaches your nervous system.
We are safe to shine.
You don't need perfect timing.
You need presentleadership, and guess what?
That's you babe.
You are not late.
You are learning thelanguage of your own wisdom.
Fear is loud because it'strying to keep you safe.
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Now if you work with me one-on-oneand answer any question with a, I
don't know, I will simply remind you.
Yes, you do know.
I don't know, is not an answer.
It's a sign.
It's time to get connected back toyourself, to own your divine intuition.
This is where self-trust lives.
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It lives in the space whereyou give yourself a chance.
To connect to your heart, honor yourpromises you made to yourself by
keeping your word to you and believingyou are safe to trust yourself.
Will you always get it right?
No, but truthfully, neither willeveryone else You allow to direct your
life, so you might as well learn howto trust yourself because then you
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know you followed your own heart andthat is better than any other outcome.
You were not designed tooutsource your decisions to fear.
You were designed to lead with softness,with standards, and with self-respect.
Run your reset loop.
Do your steady and show.
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Log your proof.
Watch your life rise.
To meet the woman you are being today.
This is how confidence comes back.
Not in fireworks, but in faithful steps.
Self-trust isn't about feeling fearless.
It's about leadingyourself through the fear.
It's about showing up even when it's messyand proving to yourself that you got this.
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So today I want you to take one.
Small action that reflects the versionof you who fully trusts herself.
Because when you trustyou, the world feels it.
Opportunities find you.
Relationships align, and you stepinto a whole new level of confidence.
That's what I'm talking about, friend.
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Now before we wrap up, I wannagive you just a little sneak peek
into the next episode becausebabe, it's gonna be a game changer.
We are getting into how tostep into your Icon era.
This is for you.
If you are ready to define your own icon,era, craft your ultimate love story and
attract what you desire and deserve.
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We are going to talk about how tostay anchored in your new identity.
And designing your icon era, it'svery much giving main character
energy only in all the major ways.
Trust me, you don't wanna miss it.
So make sure you hit that subscribebutton and I'll see you in the next
episode for another powerful conversation.
You got this friend.
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Your reset starts now.
I'm cheering for you loud and obnoxiously.
Always remember, we don't settle,we shine all because together we
can encourage over everything.
Okay, friend, let me leave you with this.
You are so much closer to the lifeyou are dreaming of than you think.
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Every time you show up for yourself,whether it's listening to this podcast,
journaling, or taking one smallstep forward, you are rewriting your
story and stepping into your power.
If this episode spoke to you,here's what I'd love for you to do.
Hit that subscribe button soyou never miss an episode.
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Your words mean the world tome, and they help this podcast.
Reach more women whoneed these conversations.
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Share it, send it in the group chat,or just send it to a friend who could
use a little extra encouragement today.
Let's spread this maincharacter energy far and wide.
Now I will see you in the next episode,but until then, keep shining, keep
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growing, and keep stepping into theconfident, empowered woman you are
becoming now stru on up outta here,giving main character energy only.
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