Navigating life's complexities can be a dance of both grace and resilience, especially when it involves transforming personal struggles into a narrative of empowerment. Kalia Bell joins us to share her deeply personal podcast journey of "Perfect Imperfections," where she bravely opens a dialogue on overcoming depression and advocating for positive imagery in the Black community. With her husband's initiative, The Flower Shop, as a backdrop, we traverse the landscape of giving back, underscoring the significance of uplifting those who enrich our neighborhoods without fanfare.
The boundaries between professional life and personal relationships are often a delicate tightrope to walk, yet Kalia illustrates how she and her husband master this balance with finesse. We step into their world, examining the critical role of clear communication and prayer in maintaining a thriving marriage while jointly steering a business. Their collective experiences, including the humor-filled dynamics between her husband and former NBA player Kenny Satterfield, serve as a testament to the power of partnership and the merits of recognizing individual capacities within a collaborative framework.
As the episode wraps, we're invited into a future brimming with possibility and the shared enthusiasm for what 2024 will usher in. Alongside Marian Swingler of The Bell Brand, we're imbued with a sense of solidarity and strength that comes from supporting small Black-owned businesses and the broader community. This conversation is a celebration of growth, an acknowledgment of shared struggles, and a pledge to continue fostering connections and inspiration through real, heartfelt exchanges, as we ready ourselves for a year of purposeful excitement and transformative change.
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CHAPTERS:
0:01 - After Party Introduction
0:37 - Family Brand Strategy
4:04 - Humorous Family Anecdotes
10:21 - Healing Journey & Family Dynamics
14:32 - Overcoming Anxiety & Depression
18:05 - Unspoken Challenges in Family Brands
20:10 - Financial Empowerment Initiatives
23:23 - Introducing the Dunn Foundation
27:28 - Accessing Dunn Foundation Resources
29:56 - Karter's Brand Updates
33:20 - Balancing Spouse & Business Relationships
36:40 - Managing Spousal Business Relations
45:50 - Personal Self-Care Techniques
49:05 - Reflecting on Past Experiences
53:41 - Family Brand Conclusion
59:53 - Future Projects
1:00:40 - Final Outro
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Yo, welcome to the after party.
This is the after party forepisode 34 with the one and only
Kalia Bell.
Listen, I appreciate youstaying with me.
My sister Listen.
If you have not caught episode34 of Confident you podcast, you
(00:25):
definitely want to do that.
In that episode she reveals themanagement behind the brand.
But in that episode you alsogave you, like brought up some
hot topics that I would love todelve into.
But before we do that, I justwant to go ahead and tell the
people how they can work withyou.
(00:46):
First, you tell them what it isthat you do, so they can know
why.
I'm going to tell them thespecial things that you provide.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
So I am.
I am a podcaster.
I host Perfect Imperfectionswith Kalia Bell, and you can
find that on Apple and Spotify,where I share the tips, the
tools and the mindset that I'veused as I feel from depression,
anxiety and low self-esteem.
But I also am a manager.
(01:16):
I manage my husband and hispodcast and his well, not
podcast his platform, but youcan follow me on Instagram at
Perfected Imperfections.
That is also my TikTok.
You can also send me an emaildirectly to Kalia Bell, which is
K-A-L-I-A-B-E-L-L atthemrsbrandnet and tap in
(01:43):
connect with me.
You can also check out ourwebsite, wwwthebellbrandnet, and
there you can find some merchlike this Never Bet Against the
Culture.
And you can also join ourcommunity, where we are boldly
encouraging our community tolive legendary.
So check us out atwwwthebellbrandnet.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Come on here Boldly, encouraging our community to
live legendary.
Legendary.
Listen, you said something.
You just said, mrs Brand, and Ipromised the people that we
would get into Mrs Brand.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Pray tell why Mrs Brand, what, what, but pray tell
why Mrs Brand.
So I have that name.
God had given me that name formy email address.
I mean years ago and this wasbefore you know.
Um, I give God all praisebecause he was planting the
seeds that I didn't even knowwas going to now blossom.
So the Mrs Brand I started offactually just blogging so you
(02:56):
can actually check outwwwthemrsbrandcom, where you can
read a few of my old blogswhere I just started writing how
I was feeling and this processof this healing journey and
things like that.
And you know I am as a youngBlack wife, it is important for
me to be an example.
I think imagery is everythingin our community letting people
(03:20):
know that you can have a healthy, thriving, loving relationship
in our community.
As young Black, you knowparents, you know it's not
broken homes and things likethat.
So that's the narrative that Iwanted to push behind and be
intentional with the Mrs.
(03:41):
You know I am a wife brand, sothat's where we came from.
God gave me that name years ago.
That's been my email addressfor years and that being the
first one that we were going toaddress.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
I would like to address this story, the funny
story.
I like to laugh, so we're goingto start with the funny story
before we get to how our healinghealed our household we get to
(04:31):
how our healing healed ourhousehold.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
So my husband has a really good friend, which is a
brother I'm never going to sayfriend.
My husband has a brother andthe brother is a former NBA
player.
His name is Kenny Satterfieldand they're really like that's
his brother and I've beentelling them for years that they
need to have a program of somesort, because one Kenny is like
(04:54):
I said, my husband's program ismore so for people that may not
everybody may not know theirname, but they made a huge
impact in you know whatever lanethey were in.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Can you remind everyone of your husband's
program and what that's about?
Speaker 2 (05:12):
So my husband well, my husband has a program called
the Flower Shop and the FlowerShop is pretty much where he's
giving out flowers andappreciation to people that may
not be.
We say your greats, great.
You know, the greats alwayshave a great.
So if you speak to some of thegreats out there, they're going
(05:32):
to name someone you know whothey looked up to in their
neighborhood and you may notknow who that person was.
But everyone has, like thegreats in the hood and in their
community and their know umprograms wherever it's in their
schools that they look up to.
So they were great in theirlane and they may not
necessarily be I call them name,brand um or well known.
(05:56):
So my husband's program ispretty much giving those people
flowers because you know theyopened the door for a lot of
people.
You know, when you think abouthusband's name, kevin bell, be
kevin bell.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Yes, I, I, I always say be kevin bell because we're
not getting him mixed up to theleft or the right.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Now back to the funny story so his, him and his
friend um had.
I've been telling them foryears that I wanted to, that
they needed to do a program.
I've been telling them foryears and then one day, god just
put it in my program.
What did you mean?
Just anything.
They needed to do something fortogether, because the the
(06:46):
dynamics of the two were arejust like you know, it's one of
those things where you know how,like you, you have a pair of
people like a tv show or program, and you're like those two,
something about that chemistrythat works, and me, you know,
just being a fly on the wallwhen they're interacting,
(07:08):
because kenny is up here and myhusband is like down here, but
somehow they managed to break,like, somehow they just balance
each other out there, you know,they just.
And then they have that brothership, so they curse, like they
argue, know, and it's just likea chemistry that is such a joy
to be around.
And again, I'm a woman, youknow, and I enjoy their banter.
(07:32):
So I'm like, oh, you guys areperfect for podcasting, you are
perfect for TV.
So I've been on their back foryears and you know, god put it
in my spirit that I need tomanage them.
You know, they just needsomeone to direct them.
I've been telling them to do itand they haven't done it.
And so Kenny is very busy, youknow, but we couldn't.
(07:55):
You know.
He agreed to it.
He said, okay, I'm going to,you know, but we can't get him
to sit down and hopefully hesees this because I'm still
waiting to sit down with him.
But we went to the podcastsummit.
So July of this year we went tothe podcast summit, my husband
and I, out in Miami, and I havebeen prior to us going to the
(08:18):
podcast summit.
You know, I've been in myhusband's ear like, listen, you
have everything that you need todo, what you want to do.
You're just trying to do it onsuch a big scale.
Just start where we are.
Like, let's just start rightnow.
Get on Instagram, just start,and we get out to the podcast
summit.
And I just was like I'm hismanager, this is the Beyonce of
(08:39):
the group, I'm the manager andthat that.
So I was caught the entire timeI was like this is my Beyonce,
because I know that I have thenext.
Like I know what I have.
You know, I, you, I wrote itdown actually, um, I wrote it as
a, as a Facebook post, and Isaid I'm writing this as a
(08:59):
memory.
I know what Joe Jackson feltwhen he knew he had Michael
Jackson, and that's what I feelabout.
You know what Jill Jackson feltwhen he knew he had Michael
Jackson, and that's what I feelabout.
You know what I have with myhusband and I know what that
feels like when you know youhave something great.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
When you know you have something great.
Now you've brought up a wholenother thing.
How do you are you?
Speaker 2 (09:23):
an executor.
So I'm an executor now.
I wasn't always an executor.
I'm an executor now because Iunderstand that you can only do
what you do.
You can only get what you do.
So if you don't do, you can'tget and you can't expect.
You know, faith without worksis dead.
(09:44):
We can have all the faith inthe world, but if you ain't
doing the work, god can't open adoor.
And God is only going to openthe doors of the size of the
work that you want to put in.
So you know I stay mindful todo that If I want big doors to
open, I got to do big work toget those doors open.
So, yeah, so I'm an executornow, still working on doing
(10:07):
better about that, butdefinitely do it now better now
okay because I see you, you'revisionary yeah, so god be the
glory yeah, amen, listen.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
So now I'd like to get into how our healing healed
our household.
So we'll start with you.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Yeah, so it starts with me.
Honestly, it starts with me.
Um, like I said, I sufferedwith depression, anxiety and low
self-esteem for so many yearsand you know, I didn't realize
what I was in a fog, really,honestly.
I was in a fog that the lifethat I was living and the best
(10:52):
way that I can experience it,the best way I can explain it it
was like I was living outsideof myself, like I'm seeing
myself live, like I'm I'm goingthrough life, but I just was
like this is not.
You know, my finances was was amess.
Emotionally.
I was a mess.
You know my finances was a messEmotionally.
I was a mess Physically.
You know, I started gainingweight.
(11:12):
The biggest that I was was in2022.
I had got up to 227 pounds.
What's your height?
I'm only 5'3".
Yeah, I'm only 5'3", so, whichis typically I'm a small girl.
I come from a small, my mom issmall, so I was always slim,
(11:37):
thick, you know.
So, about 2012, when I had,before I got pregnant, I started
gaining weight and then, afterI got pregnant, you know, I just
let myself go.
I um the depression and nowthat I know what it is and I can
put my finger on it.
Um, the depression, anxietybecame something that I started
(11:59):
drinking more, and you know,when you drink, that's just
empty calories.
So I was, I became um, I becameuh, what's the word?
What's the word I'm looking for?
I loved alcohol.
I had a healthy, I had anunhealthy relationship with
alcohol, so I would drink oftenand that's what made me gain all
(12:22):
that weight.
So my before 2012 I might havebeen like 160 pounds.
That was like my average.
I would stay around 160, 170.
And then I just started gainingweight and before I knew it, I
was 227 pounds and I could notstand what.
I looked at in the mirror and Ijust, you know, I prayed.
(12:46):
I asked God you know I needhelp Like I need help, and God
said I need you to work onyourself mentally, physically.
I asked God I need help, I needhelp, and God said I need you
to work on yourself mentally,physically, emotionally,
spiritually and financially.
And prior to that, I have tosay, I was also in a marriage
and in a space in our marriagewhere we were together but we
weren't.
We were together and we wereokay, but it was still that I
(13:12):
could see like, if we, if Icannot see that, it would be a
forever thing, if that makessense.
You know, we were just goingwith the flow, but it was no.
It was no foundation, that'swhat I should say.
There was no.
No security Like this is goingto be forever.
I would say like we were in likea straw house, you know, like
(13:33):
the three figs.
Think about if I put itvisually.
We were like in a straw house.
We were maintaining butanything could have blown that
house down at any moment.
And I had to.
Me working on me, me findinggrace within myself.
I was then able to give myhusband grace and by giving him
(13:56):
grace it helped build thefoundation of a brick-layered
house.
So now you know us being ableto communicate better, having a
safe space to have realconversations, even tough
conversations, that real love,that genuine love.
(14:17):
It started from the healing andI give God all praises because
now I can say this is stilldeath to its part.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
But I would say last year year, it wasn't like that
you just said I suffered fromanxiety and depression and I
know where it came from.
How do you go?
What were the steps that youtook to go back and pinpoint?
This is where it went awry.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
Go back and pinpoint this is where it went awry.
So I, so I've always so.
One thing you know I, I am ahuge advocate for therapy.
You know I talk about God, Italk about the Bible, I talk
about prayer, but again, when Isay prayer without works is dead
, so I'm a huge advocate fortherapy and I've had some
(15:10):
wonderful, amazing therapists inmy life that allowed that,
helped me kind of navigate andprocess the depression and the
anxiety, my triggers and knowing, you know, when I was going
(15:34):
into a dark space or knowingwhen I was becoming anxious or
have anxiety.
And my mom I love her dearly isa very anxious person and you
know, literally it kind ofshowed up in her body and I
always said like I did not wantthat, like I did not want to
always be anxious abouteverything you know.
So those were just some thingsthat I was again I brought to
(15:59):
God, you know.
So I speak of God in myspiritual aspect now because I
did the therapy work.
So anybody that's watching youknow, if you've never gone to
therapy, please, please, please,find you a good therapist, find
you someone that you can talkto.
I do, I speak from God becauseI did the therapy work.
(16:22):
You know what I mean.
So I did that work of goingdeep and knowing how to be okay
with going deep into yourfeelings and processing it, you
know.
So I know how to do that for me, again through therapy, and
then I just lean on God to kindof navigate that for me.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
You just said, I know how to go deep, so was it a
safe?
Speaker 2 (16:56):
So was it a safe?
Did you find a safe enoughspace to be totally transparent
and vulnerable Now with myhusband?
Yes, I'm talking about evenwith therapy.
Oh, so I've always been and, toGod be the glory, I've always
been okay with being vulnerable.
I've always been okay withbeing transparent and being
honest about how I felt, andthat's why I've been wanting to
(17:17):
go into podcasting forever,because I've always felt
unashamed of maybe some thingsthat I should be ashamed of, so
to speak.
I'm unashamed of maybe somethings that I should be ashamed
of, so to speak.
You know, it was like alwaystherapeutic for me to express
that, you know, and also I foundthat, having those
(17:46):
conversations obviously I'm notthe only one of going through
some of the things that I'vegone through so I've always been
transparent so that otherpeople can find a safe space
within me.
So being vulnerable and that'salways been, I would say, a gift
that God has given me I'vealways been okay with being
vulnerable.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
Okay, so making that safe space, give me like the top
two or three things that youfeel like people won't touch on.
This top this has happened tome, this is how I dealt with it
and I it.
I want it to be a topic thatyou feel people don't discuss.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
Um, so people, really , I'm going to speak for my
community because I am speakingto my community specifically.
You know I want.
I love everybody.
However, I love my people andso I speak to my people, I use
my voice for my people.
So one of the biggest thingsthat we don't discuss in our
community is finances.
You know, we churches don'treally touch on it too much.
(18:49):
You know, we talk about thestruggles and we see the
struggles in our community, butwe're not speaking about what we
need to fix those struggles.
So finances is one thing.
I would say the honesty, when itcomes to parenting, we don't
talk about, you know, we,everybody wants to portray
parenting as some sweet oh, yourkids are so sweet and it's so
(19:14):
wonderful and it's so prettyParenting 10 out of 10, I would
not recommend 10 out of 10, Iwould not recommend.
So we don't, we don't talkabout the truth behind parenting
and I just think you knowanything where it comes to just
(19:35):
within ourselves, you know,taking a look at ourselves,
sometimes we like to fingerpoint.
Well, I would finger point andplace blame about some of the
things that I was going through,some of the things that I've
experienced and some of thethings that I've experienced and
I had to take a look in themirror and say, kalia, maybe
(19:56):
it's you, maybe you're theproblem, you know.
So those are the three thingsthat I think that we can
definitely do better in talkingabout and bringing voice and
light to in our community.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
Okay, so through your podcast, give me something that
you have brought light tofinancially.
That would help our community.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
So, financially, I'm still learning about that, you
know.
But I definitely speak on beingbetter, being better stewards
with our resources.
So I do speak on, you know,knowing when you don't have it,
it's okay to not have it.
It's okay to not go, it's okayto not buy.
(20:43):
You know preparing to.
You know, when I say go, I meanlike trips and things like that
, because I've definitely beenon vacations where I came back
and didn't have lunch money whenI returned and you know
understanding that that may nothave been the best decision.
So you know, preparing isbudgeting, things like that.
(21:06):
So I'm just kind of sharing asI'm learning what I'm learning,
you know, because ironically,the thing that I'm learning is
like it's so obvious.
You know it makes sense tobudget, it makes sense to not go
on vacation if you don't havemoney to return from vacation.
These things make sense.
(21:27):
But in reality, when you'reliving, you're just living and
you're just doing, you know.
So I'm just shedding light.
You know we have a um in ourbusiness.
We are going to do random actsof kindness um where some of our
proceeds will go to us blessingum strangers in the street.
(21:48):
So no rhyme or reason, justanyone.
It doesn't matter what you looklike, what you're wearing.
You know we want to be ablessing to someone, because we
do know that sometimes it couldjust be just buying food can be
a struggle for families.
And you know, we, just this pastSaturday, we had the advantage
(22:10):
of doing a turkey drive with theDunn Foundation.
That we do every year and wehanded out like over 600 turkeys
in size to families.
Because we do not understand,you know how you can look at
someone, because I mean, I'mtalking about there were all
type of cars on this line for aturkey Benzes, jaguars, lexuses
(22:34):
and you can't assume thateveryone is good, you know.
And just the idea that someoneis in a place where they have to
be on the line, you know, toget a turkey in size for their
Thanksgiving, it opens your mindto there are a lot of people
(22:56):
that need help.
You know, and you don't knowthat they need help and we're
speaking from experiences.
There were times where we werejust barely making it, you know,
figuring out having to break up$20 for dinner.
You know what I mean.
So, um, yeah, we're justsharing that.
(23:18):
Just, you know, from ourexperience, from our seat, the
Dumb.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
Foundation.
I would like for you to sharemore about who that is, what
that is and what other thingsthey do for the community.
I was very excited when youshared it with me.
I would love for the ConfidentYouth family to hear about it.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
Sure, so actually, the Dunn Foundation.
Dunn is actually mybrother-in-law and he had this
foundation that this is actuallyhis 12th year where and it
started from one turkey.
He just thought he one year hejust purchased one one turkey
just to bless somebody with itand it's been growing every year
(23:58):
since then.
Um, done the done foundationdoes all types of things.
He does, uh, for christmas hedoes every year he goes out and
he he creates, excuse me, likewarming packages for the
homeless out in like the dc area, so he'll give out like
blankets and gloves and thingslike that to the homeless
(24:18):
community every christmasmorning.
Um, thanksgiving, like I said,he does the turkey drive where
we give out turkeys and size.
Um, we do backpack drive, so we, you know, we give school
supplies and backpacks.
He does Mother's Day.
He has like luncheons formothers of the homeless
community.
(24:38):
He's a vet, so he works withthe veterans community, the
veterans homeless community, sohe does so much for the
underserved and underprivilegedand again it goes down to just a
simple meal because he's big onthat.
When you think of the holidaysand things, you think about the
just sitting down, eating Thingsthat we take for granted of
(25:00):
having that you know.
So he wants to be able to helpin any kind of way where you
know back to school Parents haveso much to worry about kind of
way where you know back toschool parents have so much to
worry about.
If I, if I know that I that Idon't have to get the book bag
and some of the um supplies,then at least that's one thing
that I can take off of my listof things that I have to get.
(25:20):
You know, so he's a blessingand it's, it's just, uh, it's,
it is an honor, it is anabsolute honor to be part of
that.
It's just.
I thank God all the time thatwe're able to be in that space
and to give.
It's so, it's so great to give.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Yeah I, when you told me about it, I couldn't help
but give.
I just want everyone to knowListen, he gave away turkeys,
two sides and beverage, so you,you would have your whole meal
covered, down to the drink.
Each family, thirty dollars.
Thirty dollars to cover eachfamily.
(26:02):
When mrs brand told me, when hedoesn't reach the donation
quota, he goes into his pocket,so he's still going to reach his
goal.
That determination is somethingthat I feel we all need to have
.
Speaker 2 (26:20):
Every year and having that as my brother in love I
give him.
You know, I say all the time Ithank God for my husband.
But in addition to me thankingGod for my husband and, of
course, our beautiful children,the relationship that I've
garnered through him.
My brother in love is one ofthem.
He is truly.
(26:41):
He's one of the reasons whywe're in Maryland, because he
lives in Maryland, so he's oneof the reasons why we're down
here.
And just having someone withthat kind of mindset, like you
said, that determination becausehe doesn in Maryland, so he's
one of the reasons why we'redown here.
And just having someone withthat kind of mindset, like you
said, that determination becausehe doesn't care If he's
registered 600 turkeys and heonly gets 100 donations, he is
coming out of his pocket for theother 500.
(27:03):
Having that determination,having that, you know, that
desire to help our community,that hunger for kids when he's
around children, forget about itLike that, the way that he is
around young adults and things,is just a blessing to be in his
presence and it's even more sucha blessing to say that that's
my family.
(27:23):
You know, I'm so grateful forhim.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
Amen, I'm grateful for him as well.
I did not want to brush pastthe done foundation I definitely
want the confident you familyto know about it.
I definitely will put that linkas well I appreciate searching
box when I put that link inthere.
I just want to let you know.
I went to the site.
It took me a minute to finddonation he hasn't sold.
(27:49):
The font is less than eight.
At the time I'm like okay, thehumility, brother, I couldn't.
I kept scrolling and that's howI found out all the other
things yeah that he was doing.
I was focused on the turkeydrive, but that's how I've
realized wait, he's, he's doingthis and this and this and this
(28:11):
just trying to find the donationbutton.
It is very, very top on a very,very tiny on the top toolbar and
I'm like humility, I'm going toneed to talk to him.
He needs to make that button.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
I would tell him.
I would definitely tell him, Iwould give that takeaway.
I would definitely tell him.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
Now what it did do is make me scroll through the
whole page and see everything.
But if those buttons at the top?
He had them tiny and small,just a little bit bigger.
So that you know it'll be somuch easier.
I don't want anyone to getthere and be like I don't see
the donation button, so I'm good.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Right, I don't want.
I want there and be like Idon't see the donation button so
I'm good, right, I don't want.
I want anything and you knowanything, anything, because he
does so much.
When I say he does a lot, hedoes a lot.
Thankfully he's partnered withchick-fil-a, is one of his
partners that he partners with.
I know that he had, um, like adental company that he was
partnering with, that he'strying, you know, want to make
(29:09):
sure not only that we're feedingour community, but he's
teaching finances, german needs,like he has, like financial
literacy pamphlets that he'llput in the bag, or like
toothbrush and back to school hewould have.
Like a truck that he would havefree dental checks and exams
(29:29):
and things like that.
So so much for our communityand is, like I said, anything,
anything helps, you know, andeven just sharing a message
helps.
So it's just, it's such ablessing.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
And your son.
I apologize, I know I'mbacktracking, but in the main
episode we didn't I don'tbelieve we did say where they
can find him, his site, where helooks, so you can find it on
youtube carter chronicles.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
Carter is spelled with the k.
Please do not spell his namewith a c, because he will have a
fit part of chronicles CarterChronicles.
So Carter is K-A-T-E-R andChronicles is also with the K
K-R-O-N-I-C-L-E-S.
Okay, so, carter Chronicles,we're the K crew.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
Yes, the K crew.
Let me find out.
You surely are.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
We are.
My entire family name startswith a K.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
Okay, and I want you to know, my entire family's name
started with a k.
I want you to understandbecause let me at, ladies and
gentlemen, ladies and ladies andladies and ladies and gentlemen
, this woman looked at me andsaid I'm from maryland, ma'am,
uh-uh no, no, I just I am allthe way New York, harlem, new
(30:48):
York.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
However, my soul wait , my soul is I'm a New Yorker
through and through, but I amtransitioning to Maryland.
I'm from Maryland, I'm fromMaryland.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
You can't even say that thing, right?
No, ma'am.
No, ma'am too, can't say it.
Listen to me, let me tell you.
Let me tell you what.
Let me know that you a Harlemgirl through and through.
They can take the girl out ofHarlem, but they can't take the
Harlem out the girl.
Listen on the, on the Confidentyou episode, when you said,
(31:25):
yeah, I'm the one they call whenthey want to hide a body.
I'm like, wait, wait, yeah, I'mthe one they call when they
want to hide a body.
I'm like, wait, olivia Pope, Ihave Olivia Pope.
Ladies and gentlemen, I wantyou to meet Mrs Randall.
Give me a pose.
I need you to clean that up.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
We need to clean that up Not to hide the body.
I am helping them not to be inthe position where they hide the
body.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
Where they don't have a body.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
Make a body Right.
We don't want to have anybody,so they call me when they don't
want to hurt somebody.
So I am the one to talk someoneoff of the ledge.
Yes, I am the calm down one.
So we have a funny joke betweenmy two best friends from high
school.
So one would call if they wannaturn up, I'm the one that I
(32:17):
will call.
Well, you will call me if it'slike.
I want a reasonable answerbecause I'm the one that I will
call.
Well, you will call me if it'slike.
I want a reasonable answerBecause I'm going to give you
reason.
I'm going to.
My daughter is always, you know, she'll call me and she's like
Ma, whose side are you on?
I'm always on the side of right.
I'm always on the side of right.
Speaker 1 (32:32):
You and my son are cut from the same cloth.
That's my son.
Speaker 2 (32:36):
I'm always on the side of right that is my son.
Speaker 1 (32:39):
My son stays on the side of dick.
Speaker 2 (32:42):
You're not, ma it doesn't matter, I love you, but
you're wrong, yeah, so theyusually call me after they um
have processed the fact thatthey know that they're bugging,
and they're okay, because I'mgonna tell you you're bugging is
that what you're going to do?
Yes, I think they call youbecause they know that's what I
(33:05):
said.
But they have to process, youknow, because I do.
I have another friend and she'slike I was.
She was like I didn't want tocall you because I know you
would have talked, yeah.
So I'm like I'm glad you knowthat.
Speaker 1 (33:17):
I'm glad you know that I'm glad you know, yeah, so
another topic that I wanted totouch on was husband and client.
Woo, you're the management ofthe brand for your husband, who
is also your client and also mycoworker.
(33:41):
She rude, and also yourcoworker.
How, how do you make that work?
Speaker 2 (33:51):
The grace of God, honey, honestly, really honestly
, because you know one thingthat again, this could not have
been done without me doing myinner work.
We would not be able to evenhave what we have or be where we
were had I not did the innerwork, because one you have to
(34:17):
know who you have and who you'redealing with.
That's the most important.
That's why it's kind of it'seasy for me to transition into
management as a spouse because Iknow my husband.
So, like I'm the one thatplaces the orders when he orders
dinner, you know, like I knowwhat he likes to eat, I know
what ticks him off, I know, youknow, like I know him, so it's
(34:41):
easy to manage that aspect.
But having to know how todisconnect from spouse, you know
, that was something that thathe has to now understand and
work through because I have toremind him.
You know, I'm not your wiferight now, I'm your manager.
(35:01):
So this is not your wifenagging you, this is your
manager, giving you expectationof what needs to be done, and
you know so.
Having being able to one him,understand me, knowing that
there's two different places andknowing that he may hear me as
one person, two different placesand knowing that he may hear me
(35:22):
as one person.
So you know, like I said, ithad a lot to do with me doing my
inner work of knowing how toshow up, knowing who he is, so
understanding his bandwidth.
So it goes back to giving grace.
I made me, being a manager forfive, six years at my silent
investor, knowing what it takesto lead and him not necessarily
(35:44):
having that kind of likeindividual leadership in that
style, but giving him the graceof like learning that you now
need to be managed, a certainkind of you know, like that type
of thing.
So knowing what I have, knowingto give him the grace and
knowing how to communicateeffectively as well, as is the
(36:08):
biggest thing, knowing when tobe quiet, learning when to just
okay.
Okay, you know that wassomething that is still a
challenge, but I give it to God,you know, do I?
Do I fight about this?
Do I say okay?
When do I have thisconversation?
(36:30):
Um, so I really, you know, alot of prayer goes into my job,
a lot of prayer prayer goes intomy job, a lot of prayer.
Speaker 1 (36:46):
I would imagine that coming home from work or is work
at home.
Speaker 2 (36:52):
Work is at home, everything is in the house.
Speaker 1 (36:57):
Everything is in the house.
How do you go from room to room?
Do you find that you have toacknowledge?
This is your wife?
Is that a daily thing or isthis?
Do you say that statement?
This is your manager speaking.
Speaker 2 (37:12):
This is your wife speaking when it's needed when
it's needed, only when it'sneeded, um, you know, because
there are some.
There's some things where youknow like, if I'm saying I need
you to do this, he may notunderstand why it needs to be
done and just thinks that I justwant you to do it, just because
that's what I think, and I'mlike no, no, no, no, this is,
(37:34):
this is what I need for thebusiness, this is what I need
from you, um, so it's, I don'thave to say that, unless it's
like really, you know, reallyneeded Um, but I do say it like
I'm not sure why, cause, likewhen we first started and he was
like he would be, like you know, you're all in a business and
I'm like that's literally my job.
(37:55):
My job literally is to be inyour business, like literally.
So I need you to understandthat I'm going to be in your
business.
How did you become his manager?
I just told him I'm yourmanager.
Speaker 1 (38:10):
Literally, and he wasn't doing anything already.
You told him you were hismanager, and then you told him
what he was going to do as yourclient we so.
Speaker 2 (38:21):
But the thing is my husband and I we used to prior
to his program with thelunchroom and um, but prior to
his program with the lunchroomand the flower shop, my husband,
um, kevin bell, the kevin belland his two and two of our
(38:41):
brothers from another mother.
We had a.
I used to produce the podcastthat they had but they used to
tease me and call me cookielions from um empire because
they was like I'm the cookielions of their podcast because I
was like the producer.
So he was kind of familiar withme in that lane of kind of
(39:01):
being on top setting up therecording studio time and
getting who we're going to talkto and the topics and things
like that.
So he was kind of familiar withthat.
That was a really big.
The block talk was a huge.
It was a wonderful podcast thatunfortunately, what happens in
(39:22):
our community is consistency isthe killer of a lot of success.
So if you are someone, thatlack of consistency I should say
is a killer of success.
So if you're someone and youstarted something I saw
something recently with TabithaBrown said finish what you
started and I'm speaking fromexperience Finish what you
(39:43):
started.
The block talk was this was apodcast before a lot of these
cultural male panelists podcaststhat we have now, like the Joe
Budden show, and there is a showcalled it Is what it Is, with
Mase and Cameron, which are tworappers and they have a program.
So the block talk was thatbefore these shows, but we just
(40:05):
did not.
We weren't consistent with itand we really had something
great.
So he was familiar with me andhow my take charge and you know
my that kind of aspect and youknow my that kind of aspect.
Then, when that broke off, westarted masterminding, trying to
figure out what worked for him,because I'm like you still.
(40:28):
I'm stuck, like you havesomething, there's something
there.
What is it that you want to do?
So we would actually, afterwork, we would go to Friday's in
Queens.
There was a Friday's in Queensright across the bridge, because
happy hour, you know, half offappetizers and drink Cause we
was going mass amount on thebudget.
(40:48):
So we would go to Fridays andwe would come up with these
elaborate ideas.
What we thought were elaborateuntil last year.
God was like all of those thingsthat I placed in you for a
reason, you guys are not usingany of it.
You know none of it.
So we started just when Istarted this healing journey and
(41:09):
I'm like honey.
One day I was in the shower andGod told me coming out the
shower, he said go and write abusiness contract.
God told me coming out theshower.
He said go and write a businesscontract and I want you to
write it.
And it was like maybe 12, 12steps for our family business
contract.
Not at the time, I didn't knowanything.
(41:30):
You know, the Bell brand hasalways again, this is what I say
when God God gives you thingsand you just have to be pay
attention to it, because theBell brand has always been
something that I would, you know, kind of play on.
So his email address has alwaysbeen Kev Bell brand.
I've always spoke to him as abrand and when I say decades,
(41:53):
like years, I would speak to himas a brand.
And I was in the shower and ithad to have been like December
of 2022.
God had told me to come out,write a contract, a family
contract, for the Bell brand,and it was a 12 step contract
that God put together.
(42:13):
And I said, honey, we're reallygoing to take our business
serious, we're really going toget serious with this business
and that's kind of how itstarted.
Ideas started flowing and, likeI said, at the podcast summit,
I was just like talking tosomebody.
I was like oh, I'm his manager.
And that's just how it started,like literally, I just was like
I'm his manager.
Speaker 1 (42:31):
He was like OK, Out of nowhere, just out of your
mouth.
Isn't it something how you canspeak and when I have.
Speaker 2 (42:45):
so journaling is so important.
Writing, speaking and doingthose are the three lessons that
God has taught me on thisjourney Speak the life that you
want, write the life that youwant and do the work to get the
life that you want.
So I have so many journalentries of the management
(43:05):
company and what it's going tobe, and it's just me flowing
from my heart.
So now when I look back on it,it's still like God, I'm doing
all of that.
Okay, you know that type ofthing, but it's still kind of
like I can't.
You know that old inner metries to show up in, you know,
(43:26):
question.
But again, I don't question whomy God is and what my God can
do.
I just get out the way.
What do you need me to do, lord?
And I move out the way.
Speaker 1 (43:37):
So yeah, that's a beautiful way to live your life.
Just, you know, being obedientand aware of what it is he's
asking of you and willing to do.
Because when I say obedient, Iknow that that word rubs some
(43:59):
people the wrong way, but it'sthe awareness and the
willingness to do and thewillingness to do so.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
It doesn't rub me the wrong way because I understand
as a child, you have to beobedient and I am not on the
same level as God, so I need tobe obedient to what God tells me
to do.
So, for me, I am very awarethat obedience open doors and I
(44:29):
need to be obedient.
So, yeah, and that's somethingthat, of course, is still a
challenge when you've lived yourway for so long and you've done
your thing for so long andyou've been who you are for so
long.
I'm 42 years old, you know, andwho, like I said, who I am
today, on November 19, 2023, isnot the same.
(44:52):
I'm looking at all my old posts.
So now I am in the annual like.
So now this is my anniversaryof when I started this journey,
so knowing where I came fromfrom the beginning and where I
am today, you know I give Godall the praises, but, of course,
you know it took the obedienceof me, knowing what he is
telling me to do, despite of whoI think that I am, you know.
Speaker 1 (45:18):
Who I think that I am .
Listen, God, tell God what yourplans are.
So he's going to laugh.
Speaker 2 (45:26):
Hysterically oh, you thought that was going happen.
Speaker 1 (45:32):
Okay, sure, let me know when you're ready.
Right, right, let me know whenyou're ready what I have in
store for you just let me knowwhen you're ready.
You were just, uh, speaking onoh my goodness, let me know when
you're ready.
You were just speaking on oh mygoodness, let me know when
you're ready.
You were just speaking on yourhusband and business and being a
(45:57):
wife, and you also werespeaking on being a parent and
being the manager and being thecoworker, and before this we
were talking about cookingThanksgiving dinner and being
everything to everyone else.
How do you not leave yourselfout of the process of the day
(46:22):
and also serve yourself?
Because I think, as women,especially Black women, that's
kind of what they groomed us todo when we got here is serve,
serve, serve, serve outwardly.
What do you do to make surethat you're being fit,
understanding that you pray,understanding that you spend
(46:43):
time with God, understandingthat you journal, but when do
you also sit down to make sureyou're taking up that physical,
mental, emotional, spiritual,altogether you?
Speaker 2 (46:58):
So I do that daily.
So again, that comes with thehealing aspect where you, when
you learn yourself.
So I'm also a self-careadvocate.
I advocate for taking care ofyourself and loving yourself and
the importance of that and um.
So I set boundaries, you know.
So right now I'm actually in aseason of service where God has
(47:19):
me serving a lot, um, way morethan I'm used to serving, um,
but I'm praying and asking God.
If you want me to do, I want todo it with a happy, humble
heart, but trust me, I don'talways do.
But he has me in a season ofserving but I do it daily.
So I set boundaries for myselfdaily.
(47:39):
So my place in space is my patio.
So when I'm typically on mypatio I have some music going.
You know that's where I wouldjournal sometimes.
Sometimes I'll just pray,Sometimes I'm creating content
on my patio, but typically whenI'm out there, don't, don't
bother me, you know so.
(48:01):
You know so I mean I spendhours out there.
So you know, sometimes you canbother me because because I'm
now on my fourth hour on mypatio, but I definitely set
boundaries for myself.
My family, they don't have 24-7access to me and they know that.
So I take time, whether it'ssitting on my patio or taking a
(48:26):
long bath.
You know I love I'll have acandlelit bath, have the music
going, bubbles and all of that.
So I definitely, you know, Imake sure that I'm feeding
myself, because I'm not going toserve from an empty cup.
I can't.
So I have to make sure that Iam filling myself up and if it's
(48:49):
one of those days where mommyand babe just is not feeling it,
I'm okay with expressing Todayis just a rough day for me and I
just need some time.
Speaker 1 (49:04):
When did you realize that that's what you needed?
When did you realize thatthat's what you needed?
Like I, I could imagine thatwhen you were in a season of
anxiety and depression and, um,low self-esteem, that would not
have been a season where youwere feeding yourself in that
way.
What were you doing then?
(49:27):
And drinking drinking.
Speaker 2 (49:34):
So you know alcohol was my um and this I still have.
Well, no, I'm.
It's still a challengesometimes, um, but not as bad as
it was before.
But um, you know, drinking andand smoking weed and things like
that.
I would find other outlets tokind of lean on um, and that was
(49:54):
like an escape mechanism, youknow not processing and not you
know accepting where, where Iwas you know not happy with my
life.
So I would use alcohol and weedto um kind of mask that you
know um not not as a recreationthing.
(50:16):
It was becoming like a crutch,so to speak, to kind of handle
things.
So that was, you know that wasmy outlet before, um, but now
you know the, the journaling,the prayer, how you start your
morning.
You know that was my outletbefore, but now you know the
journaling, the prayer, how youstart your morning, you know.
So a routine.
You know people kind of don'tunderstand the importance of
(50:38):
having a daily routine, how thatcan set your mind up.
You know what you feed yourself.
The first thing in the morningis how your day can kind of, you
know, go.
So in the morning I don't lookat my phone.
I give God a few minutes tojust I thank you for being alive
.
You know that type of thing andin the morning I try to not try
(51:01):
, but I typically listen tosomething inspirational before I
put on anything that's going tofeed me anything negatively.
And then you know, we have themorning meetup from 745 to nine.
So you know how my morning ispretty much where I, where I
start.
And I noticed, and I reallynoticed that and again, I speak
(51:21):
from experience because justrecently, um, I woke up on the
other side of my flesh and Ijust allowed it to penetrate me
and I didn't even realize likeit ended up.
I woke up maybe at six o'clockand before I knew it it was like
12 o'clock and my day was justdisgusted.
And but that's because Iallowed that to get into my
(51:43):
spirit and continue to grow.
I didn't wake up with the rightmindset, and you know.
So morning routine, that's ahuge thing for me, huge.
Speaker 1 (51:56):
Huge, I would say that is definitely a huge thing
to have a morning routine to setyour day, to set your mind, to
set your spirit, to lay afoundation for the day that
you're about to go through Right, right, it's very important,
(52:17):
very important.
Speaker 2 (52:18):
That was something that.
I would.
I used to have to leave myhouse at 530 to get to work and
I wouldn't get up until like 510.
5.30 to get to work and Iwouldn't get up until like 5.10,
just enough to like wash.
You know, get my face togetherand just run up like literally
running out the house and thingslike that, and that's just
asinine, like why am I stressingmyself out?
You know you got to go to bed alittle earlier, got to wake up.
(52:41):
You know, give yourself sometime.
So just those things changing,you know, just changing the
outlook of how you see your dayand the importance of having
structure to your day and stufflike that.
And I'm a strong believer of howyou do.
One thing is how you do allthings.
So how I, you know, I, I that'salso something that I feed
(53:04):
myself when I'm feeling myselfhalf, you know, being a half
behind.
You know I wanted to useanother word but I won't.
But you know, like not fullypouring in, I'm like I remind
myself like hey, how you do onething is how you do all things.
So you need to show up ahundred percent in this.
And it could be something sosmall, like even real, you know,
(53:25):
like it doesn't matter what itcould be.
Whatever it is, I need to makesure that I'm showing up fully a
hundred percent, because how Ido one thing is how I do all
things.
Speaker 1 (53:36):
How I do one thing is how I do all things.
What a great way to end thisafter after party.
I appreciate you staying andhanging out and sharing even
more details behind themanagement of a brand and the
(53:57):
relationships that lie behindthere, the giving, the service
that lie behind there, themental stability, the health of
your spirit.
Behind there, the mentalstability, the health of your
spirit, the emotional capacitythat you have to control
yourself, to be strong, to beable to show up 100%, because
(54:18):
how you show up one place.
Speaker 2 (54:22):
Is that how you said it?
How you do one thing is how youdo all things, but absolutely,
how you show up in one place ishow you show up in other places.
My god, yeah, once you becreating, I'm, I'm.
I am now becoming the womanthat I am, that I was destined
to be, so in all aspects.
Speaker 1 (54:44):
So you heard it, confident you family.
We are seeing the becoming.
I can't wait to check back inwith you because in a year you
have managed.
Speaker 2 (54:56):
Listen here.
I don't even know what God hasin store for 2024, but I know
that I already said we betterbuckle up, buttercup, because
it's about.
It is about to take off and I'mexcited, I am grateful, I give
god praise all the time for, youknow, every door closed, every
(55:18):
no, everything that feels souncomfortable.
I am grateful for it because Iknow that, I know that I know,
as long as I continue to do whatGod has for me to do, he is
going to turn all things to thegood.
So I'm excited.
2024 is about to take off 2024is about to take off.
Speaker 1 (55:40):
Listen everyone, please go please check my.
Speaker 2 (55:46):
Check out the podcast .
Speaker 1 (55:48):
Perfect imperfections with kalia bell.
You want to go there?
Listen?
Do me a favor.
Confident you podcast family.
Go over there right now andfollow follow and subscribe and
listen.
Speaker 2 (56:07):
You know, let know, I'm still kind of building and
it's great because this is thestart.
You know I'm excited.
I want everybody to be part ofmy start.
You know it's nothing.
It feels so good when you'restarting, when you're part of
someone's start.
You know I've been a part of alot of starts, like the tap at
(56:27):
the Browns and the Kevon stages,and you know other people that
I follow and to see where theyare now and just to know of the
evolution is is just, is isgreat to be at the start.
So this is the start of perfectimperfections with Kalia Bell.
This is the start of the bellbrand.
This is the start of who we areand I'm I I'm just so excited
(56:51):
for everyone to see what we'reabout to do, because one thing
that we are saying if god can doit for us, trust me, he can do
it for you.
Speaker 1 (57:03):
And with that we will say great day to all, because
if God can do it for us, hecertainly can do it for you.
Listen, I want you to go andsubscribe to my sister's channel
.
Ring that notification bell,check out those episodes, keep
(57:24):
up with her.
You can hear the positivity,you can hear the heart that she
has to serve, not just her.
Her and her family, yeah, haveto serve.
Make sure you check out her son.
Speaker 2 (57:36):
Give that information again, ma'am so carter
chronicles k a r.
Please don't spell his namewith a C.
He has a fit, literally doesCarter with a K K-A-R-T-E-R.
Chronicles with a KK-R-O-N-I-C-L-E-S.
You can find that on YouTube.
(57:58):
I'm excited to see what he isabout to become, because God
gave us some wonderful gifts andI'm so glad that he allowed us
to heal so that we can make surethat they walk in their purpose
.
So I'm excited, I'm excited.
Speaker 1 (58:15):
I'm grateful for the healing you went through and the
healing that blessed yourfamily.
I am grateful, I'm excited thatyou're so open and honest and
willing to share your journey sothat people don't feel as
though it's just me, I'm theonly one.
It's.
Nobody else is going throughthis.
I need us all to understand weain't that special.
(58:36):
I know that sounds crazy.
It's like wait what?
No, you're special, but you'renot that that, that component of
life, you're not.
Speaker 2 (58:45):
You're not the You're not the only one.
Speaker 1 (58:48):
You're the only one with your gift.
You're the only one who youraudience needs to stand up and
do that special thing that youdo.
But you are not the only onegoing through Whatever those
things you're going through.
There are other people and youwould not.
You would be surprised.
Speaker 2 (59:08):
Listen, listen, you would be surprised.
We are all just trying to makeit.
You know, one day at a time,you know, and that's why we want
to share our platform to makesure that everyone knows.
You know, we are we, we are acommunity, we, we have been
there, we've done it, we've gonethrough, we have experienced it
(59:32):
.
When I say God is amazing, Idon't say it because I've never
gone through anything.
I say it because God has keptme and gave me that peace that
surpasses understanding.
So I'm speaking from experience.
God is amazing because he, God,is amazing, and you're not the
only one that has gone throughthings.
So that is what we want toshare.
Speaker 1 (59:52):
My Lord.
Well, hopefully I'll be able tobe on her podcast soon.
Speaker 2 (59:59):
I'm excited because I haven't.
I have no um podcast withanyone else, no episodes with
anyone else.
So now I'm, now I am going intotaking it more seriously.
That is going to be mydedication and tapping into just
utilize, utilizing what I have,like this, you know platform
(01:00:22):
and things like that.
So that is what I'm, I willdefinitely be doing in 2024.
Speaker 1 (01:00:27):
That is my main focus there it is, and I'll be happy
you.
I just let me know when andwhen and where if I need to log
in or show up you got it I.
I really do honor you and yourfamily I appreciate the
servant's hearts that you allhave, even down to your son,
because he enjoys reading, buthe's reading for the benefit of
(01:00:52):
others.
I think that is absolutely.
I've heard people going to thehospital.
I've never heard of, you know,a kid just going.
Okay, you know I enjoy reading,I can go ahead.
So you know I really honor that.
Down to the baby.
I know he's not a baby Listen,don't be mad at me but you a
baby.
He's still a baby.
He's still a baby.
He's still the baby.
(01:01:13):
Listen all right.
So everyone, thank you.
As always, confident U is hereto give you just those confident
tips, tools and tactics forlife, for business.
You may know someone thatyou're like man, that thing they
do.
I could help them with that.
(01:01:36):
They really need to be doingsome of the things she said.
That's a great place to startto build, to share, just open.
She literally said my husband,let's just start with what we
have, let's just open Instagramand get it going and look, now
she was able to list out thingsthat you can connect with her on
(01:01:58):
.
Thank you so much.
Thank you for having me.
Speaker 2 (01:02:01):
Thank you so much for having me.
I appreciate for let me use myvoice, so thank you so much for
I appreciate this.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (01:02:09):
You have an impactful story to share and that is
exactly what we need here.
On Confident you All right,everyone See you in the next
episode, all right.
So now that's over.
Now we will do.
Last thing testimony.
So let me give my testimonyabout you being here first and
then, if you could give atestimony about you being here
(01:02:31):
and the host, you know that girl, all right, hold on episode 34
(01:02:54):
of Confident you podcast as wellas the after party from episode
34 Confident you podcast, andthat was episode 15.
Number 15.
Listen, I have been speakingwith people and this woman here
came in to tell us themanagement behind the brand in
the confident you episode andthen in the after party.
(01:03:16):
She really got into therelationships and the servant's
heart and everything that goesinto being that manager and that
especially that self care.
Both episodes she just gave somuch impact and value value in
(01:03:37):
who you are to be, value inwhose you are and who you are.
I was so honored to have mysister here, listen, sister,
sister, sister in womanhood,sister in Christ.
So honored and so grateful tohave her here.
(01:03:58):
Listen, kalia Bell is not justa manager of brands.
That brand spread into her ownself and out to her husband, out
to her children.
And then let me tell you she isso freely sharing the knowledge
(01:04:19):
and wisdom that she has.
You have to check out herpodcast.
Listen.
I'm telling everybody fromConfident U go over there.
If you are following me here,go over there, follow her,
subscribe to her channel andcheck out those episodes.
She is giving great value.
She is sharing her heart.
The impact of her healing,healed her family.
(01:04:41):
That's beyond being anentrepreneur.
That goes into the heart ofbeing a person, of being a
healthy person that walks thisearth making an impact in other
(01:05:02):
people's lives.
Then she goes into how herhusband's family also gives,
into families of others.
Listen, I want you to also goto the Dunn's Foundation.
You want to go there becauseyou want to make an impact and
it doesn't matter the amount shesaid.
Listen, everything helps.
(01:05:23):
It doesn't matter the amount.
She is making space foreveryone to be able to take part
in helping families and helpingour community to become
stronger and better Wiserfinancially, giving food, giving
school supplies, givingfinancial information.
(01:05:44):
The Dunn's Foundation make sureyou go and check them out.
She talks about her husband.
You definitely want to tuneinto the episode to get more
information about that,especially if you're a sports
fanatic.
You want to find out who youneed to be following, who you
need to be checking into.
Listen, if you like books herson, yeah, just reads them, but
(01:06:08):
he's not reading them plainly.
His animation and take onwhat's being put to paper.
Him bringing it to life is whathe actually does.
I'm telling you, check into theepisode so you can get the
details of all of that, becauseit's woven into everything that
she talks about.
She's an amazing person.
Listen, you want to make sure.
(01:06:31):
Perfected imperfections withKalia Bell.
That's her podcast.
Please go and subscribe.
Thank you, kalia, for comingthrough.
You're amazing for taking thistime.
Listen, thanksgiving week.
Thank you for taking this time.
I, thanksgiving week.
Thank you for taking this time.
I appreciate you.
Thank you.
All right, your turn.
(01:06:55):
Please smile, count to three toyourself and then stop.
Speaker 2 (01:07:02):
So thank you so much.
Confident you Podcast.
Marian Swingler, thank you somuch for having me, allowing me
to have a place to use my voice,to tell my story, to get our
brand out there.
As a small Black business, weare right now hustling and
grinding.
We're not hustling, but we'regrinding and working to try to
(01:07:24):
get our word out there, to tryto get our message out there, to
spread the word.
So it is a blessing to be onthis platform to use my voice to
tell our story, to let everyoneknow what we're doing.
I really do appreciate that.
Again, wwwthebellbrand theP-H-E, bellbrand, b-e-l-l
brandnet that is where we areboldly encouraging our community
(01:07:58):
to live legendary.
We're just sharing the love ofwhat we're learning and we're
letting our people know listen,we are just like you, we are
growing, we are healing in realtime.
And, again, if we could do it Isay this all the time If we
could do it, if we are doing it,trust me when I tell you you
(01:08:19):
can too, and that is what wewanted to give out to our
community.
So make sure that you're tappedinto again, wwwthebellbrandnet.
There you will be able toconnect.
You'll have all of our socialmedia information there.
My podcast again is PerfectImperfections with Kalia Bell.
That is on Spotify, applePodcasts, and follow me on
(01:08:44):
Instagram at my Perfectedimperfections or TikTok, as well
.
There I want to shareinspirational messages, positive
imagery.
I am there to share joy.
We have enough anger and hateand just mess in the world and I
want to just share joy andhappiness and how to pull out of
(01:09:08):
our dark spaces.
So please make sure that you'refollowing Again.
Thank you so much for thisplatform to use my voice and to
tell my story.
I appreciate it.
Thank you so much, my sister.
So I definitely will be backand I cannot wait until we
connect again.
So thank you for having me.
Yo, welcome to the after party.
This is the after party forepisode 34 with the one and only
Kalia Bell.
Listen, I appreciate youstaying with me.
My sister Listen.
If you have not caught episode34 of Confident you podcast, you
(00:25):
definitely want to do that.
In that episode she reveals themanagement behind the brand.
But in that episode you alsogave you, like brought up some
hot topics that I would love todelve into.
But before we do that, I justwant to go ahead and tell the
people how they can work withyou.
(00:46):
First, you tell them what it isthat you do, so they can know
why.
I'm going to tell them thespecial things that you provide.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
So I am.
I am a podcaster.
I host Perfect Imperfectionswith Kalia Bell, and you can
find that on Apple and Spotify,where I share the tips, the
tools and the mindset that I'veused as I feel from depression,
anxiety and low self-esteem.
But I also am a manager.
(01:16):
I manage my husband and hispodcast and his well, not
podcast his platform, but youcan follow me on Instagram at
Perfected Imperfections.
That is also my TikTok.
You can also send me an emaildirectly to Kalia Bell, which is
K-A-L-I-A-B-E-L-L atthemrsbrandnet and tap in
(01:43):
connect with me.
You can also check out ourwebsite, wwwthebellbrandnet, and
there you can find some merchlike this Never Bet Against the
Culture.
And you can also join ourcommunity, where we are boldly
encouraging our community tolive legendary.
So check us out atwwwthebellbrandnet.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Come on here Boldly, encouraging our community to
live legendary.
Legendary.
Listen, you said something.
You just said, mrs Brand, and Ipromised the people that we
would get into Mrs Brand.
Speaker 2 (02:29):
Pray tell why Mrs Brand, what, what, but pray tell
why Mrs Brand.
So I have that name.
God had given me that name formy email address.
I mean years ago and this wasbefore you know.
Um, I give God all praisebecause he was planting the
seeds that I didn't even knowwas going to now blossom.
So the Mrs Brand I started offactually just blogging so you
(02:56):
can actually check outwwwthemrsbrandcom, where you can
read a few of my old blogswhere I just started writing how
I was feeling and this processof this healing journey and
things like that.
And you know I am as a youngBlack wife, it is important for
me to be an example.
I think imagery is everythingin our community letting people
(03:20):
know that you can have a healthy, thriving, loving relationship
in our community.
As young Black, you knowparents, you know it's not
broken homes and things likethat.
So that's the narrative that Iwanted to push behind and be
intentional with the Mrs.
(03:41):
You know I am a wife brand, sothat's where we came from.
God gave me that name years ago.
That's been my email addressfor years and that being the
first one that we were going toaddress.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
I would like to address this story, the funny
story.
I like to laugh, so we're goingto start with the funny story
before we get to how our healinghealed our household we get to
(04:31):
how our healing healed ourhousehold.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
So my husband has a really good friend, which is a
brother I'm never going to sayfriend.
My husband has a brother andthe brother is a former NBA
player.
His name is Kenny Satterfieldand they're really like that's
his brother and I've beentelling them for years that they
need to have a program of somesort, because one Kenny is like
(04:54):
I said, my husband's program ismore so for people that may not
everybody may not know theirname, but they made a huge
impact in you know whatever lanethey were in.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Can you remind everyone of your husband's
program and what that's about?
Speaker 2 (05:12):
So my husband well, my husband has a program called
the Flower Shop and the FlowerShop is pretty much where he's
giving out flowers andappreciation to people that may
not be.
We say your greats, great.
You know, the greats alwayshave a great.
So if you speak to some of thegreats out there, they're going
(05:32):
to name someone you know whothey looked up to in their
neighborhood and you may notknow who that person was.
But everyone has, like thegreats in the hood and in their
community and their know umprograms wherever it's in their
schools that they look up to.
So they were great in theirlane and they may not
necessarily be I call them name,brand um or well known.
(05:56):
So my husband's program ispretty much giving those people
flowers because you know theyopened the door for a lot of
people.
You know, when you think abouthusband's name, kevin bell, be
kevin bell.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Yes, I, I, I always say be kevin bell because we're
not getting him mixed up to theleft or the right.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Now back to the funny story so his, him and his
friend um had.
I've been telling them foryears that I wanted to, that
they needed to do a program.
I've been telling them foryears and then one day, god just
put it in my program.
What did you mean?
Just anything.
They needed to do something fortogether, because the the
(06:46):
dynamics of the two were arejust like you know, it's one of
those things where you know how,like you, you have a pair of
people like a tv show or program, and you're like those two,
something about that chemistrythat works, and me, you know,
just being a fly on the wallwhen they're interacting,
(07:08):
because kenny is up here and myhusband is like down here, but
somehow they managed to break,like, somehow they just balance
each other out there, you know,they just.
And then they have that brothership, so they curse, like they
argue, know, and it's just likea chemistry that is such a joy
to be around.
And again, I'm a woman, youknow, and I enjoy their banter.
(07:32):
So I'm like, oh, you guys areperfect for podcasting, you are
perfect for TV.
So I've been on their back foryears and you know, god put it
in my spirit that I need tomanage them.
You know, they just needsomeone to direct them.
I've been telling them to do itand they haven't done it.
And so Kenny is very busy, youknow, but we couldn't.
(07:55):
You know.
He agreed to it.
He said, okay, I'm going to,you know, but we can't get him
to sit down and hopefully hesees this because I'm still
waiting to sit down with him.
But we went to the podcastsummit.
So July of this year we went tothe podcast summit, my husband
and I, out in Miami, and I havebeen prior to us going to the
(08:18):
podcast summit.
You know, I've been in myhusband's ear like, listen, you
have everything that you need todo, what you want to do.
You're just trying to do it onsuch a big scale.
Just start where we are.
Like, let's just start rightnow.
Get on Instagram, just start,and we get out to the podcast
summit.
And I just was like I'm hismanager, this is the Beyonce of
(08:39):
the group, I'm the manager andthat that.
So I was caught the entire timeI was like this is my Beyonce,
because I know that I have thenext.
Like I know what I have.
You know, I, you, I wrote itdown actually, um, I wrote it as
a, as a Facebook post, and Isaid I'm writing this as a
(08:59):
memory.
I know what Joe Jackson feltwhen he knew he had Michael
Jackson, and that's what I feelabout.
You know what Jill Jackson feltwhen he knew he had Michael
Jackson, and that's what I feelabout.
You know what I have with myhusband and I know what that
feels like when you know youhave something great.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
When you know you have something great.
Now you've brought up a wholenother thing.
How do you are you?
Speaker 2 (09:23):
an executor.
So I'm an executor now.
I wasn't always an executor.
I'm an executor now because Iunderstand that you can only do
what you do.
You can only get what you do.
So if you don't do, you can'tget and you can't expect.
You know, faith without worksis dead.
(09:44):
We can have all the faith inthe world, but if you ain't
doing the work, god can't open adoor.
And God is only going to openthe doors of the size of the
work that you want to put in.
So you know I stay mindful todo that If I want big doors to
open, I got to do big work toget those doors open.
So, yeah, so I'm an executornow, still working on doing
(10:07):
better about that, butdefinitely do it now better now
okay because I see you, you'revisionary yeah, so god be the
glory yeah, amen, listen.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
So now I'd like to get into how our healing healed
our household.
So we'll start with you.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Yeah, so it starts with me.
Honestly, it starts with me.
Um, like I said, I sufferedwith depression, anxiety and low
self-esteem for so many yearsand you know, I didn't realize
what I was in a fog, really,honestly.
I was in a fog that the lifethat I was living and the best
(10:52):
way that I can experience it,the best way I can explain it it
was like I was living outsideof myself, like I'm seeing
myself live, like I'm I'm goingthrough life, but I just was
like this is not.
You know, my finances was was amess.
Emotionally.
I was a mess.
You know my finances was a messEmotionally.
I was a mess Physically.
You know, I started gainingweight.
(11:12):
The biggest that I was was in2022.
I had got up to 227 pounds.
What's your height?
I'm only 5'3".
Yeah, I'm only 5'3", so, whichis typically I'm a small girl.
I come from a small, my mom issmall, so I was always slim,
(11:37):
thick, you know.
So, about 2012, when I had,before I got pregnant, I started
gaining weight and then, afterI got pregnant, you know, I just
let myself go.
I um the depression and nowthat I know what it is and I can
put my finger on it.
Um, the depression, anxietybecame something that I started
(11:59):
drinking more, and you know,when you drink, that's just
empty calories.
So I was, I became um, I becameuh, what's the word?
What's the word I'm looking for?
I loved alcohol.
I had a healthy, I had anunhealthy relationship with
alcohol, so I would drink oftenand that's what made me gain all
(12:22):
that weight.
So my before 2012 I might havebeen like 160 pounds.
That was like my average.
I would stay around 160, 170.
And then I just started gainingweight and before I knew it, I
was 227 pounds and I could notstand what.
I looked at in the mirror and Ijust, you know, I prayed.
(12:46):
I asked God you know I needhelp Like I need help, and God
said I need you to work onyourself mentally, physically.
I asked God I need help, I needhelp, and God said I need you
to work on yourself mentally,physically, emotionally,
spiritually and financially.
And prior to that, I have tosay, I was also in a marriage
and in a space in our marriagewhere we were together but we
weren't.
We were together and we wereokay, but it was still that I
(13:12):
could see like, if we, if Icannot see that, it would be a
forever thing, if that makessense.
You know, we were just goingwith the flow, but it was no.
It was no foundation, that'swhat I should say.
There was no.
No security Like this is goingto be forever.
I would say like we were in likea straw house, you know, like
(13:33):
the three figs.
Think about if I put itvisually.
We were like in a straw house.
We were maintaining butanything could have blown that
house down at any moment.
And I had to.
Me working on me, me findinggrace within myself.
I was then able to give myhusband grace and by giving him
(13:56):
grace it helped build thefoundation of a brick-layered
house.
So now you know us being ableto communicate better, having a
safe space to have realconversations, even tough
conversations, that real love,that genuine love.
(14:17):
It started from the healing andI give God all praises because
now I can say this is stilldeath to its part.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
But I would say last year year, it wasn't like that
you just said I suffered fromanxiety and depression and I
know where it came from.
How do you go?
What were the steps that youtook to go back and pinpoint?
This is where it went awry.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
Go back and pinpoint this is where it went awry.
So I, so I've always so.
One thing you know I, I am ahuge advocate for therapy.
You know I talk about God, Italk about the Bible, I talk
about prayer, but again, when Isay prayer without works is dead
, so I'm a huge advocate fortherapy and I've had some
(15:10):
wonderful, amazing therapists inmy life that allowed that,
helped me kind of navigate andprocess the depression and the
anxiety, my triggers and knowing, you know, when I was going
(15:34):
into a dark space or knowingwhen I was becoming anxious or
have anxiety.
And my mom I love her dearly isa very anxious person and you
know, literally it kind ofshowed up in her body and I
always said like I did not wantthat, like I did not want to
always be anxious abouteverything you know.
So those were just some thingsthat I was again I brought to
(15:59):
God, you know.
So I speak of God in myspiritual aspect now because I
did the therapy work.
So anybody that's watching youknow, if you've never gone to
therapy, please, please, please,find you a good therapist, find
you someone that you can talkto.
I do, I speak from God becauseI did the therapy work.
(16:22):
You know what I mean.
So I did that work of goingdeep and knowing how to be okay
with going deep into yourfeelings and processing it, you
know.
So I know how to do that for me, again through therapy, and
then I just lean on God to kindof navigate that for me.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
You just said, I know how to go deep, so was it a
safe?
Speaker 2 (16:56):
So was it a safe?
Did you find a safe enoughspace to be totally transparent
and vulnerable Now with myhusband?
Yes, I'm talking about evenwith therapy.
Oh, so I've always been and, toGod be the glory, I've always
been okay with being vulnerable.
I've always been okay withbeing transparent and being
honest about how I felt, andthat's why I've been wanting to
(17:17):
go into podcasting forever,because I've always felt
unashamed of maybe some thingsthat I should be ashamed of, so
to speak.
I'm unashamed of maybe somethings that I should be ashamed
of, so to speak.
You know, it was like alwaystherapeutic for me to express
that, you know, and also I foundthat, having those
(17:46):
conversations obviously I'm notthe only one of going through
some of the things that I'vegone through so I've always been
transparent so that otherpeople can find a safe space
within me.
So being vulnerable and that'salways been, I would say, a gift
that God has given me I'vealways been okay with being
vulnerable.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
Okay, so making that safe space, give me like the top
two or three things that youfeel like people won't touch on.
This top this has happened tome, this is how I dealt with it
and I it.
I want it to be a topic thatyou feel people don't discuss.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
Um, so people, really , I'm going to speak for my
community because I am speakingto my community specifically.
You know I want.
I love everybody.
However, I love my people andso I speak to my people, I use
my voice for my people.
So one of the biggest thingsthat we don't discuss in our
community is finances.
You know, we churches don'treally touch on it too much.
(18:49):
You know, we talk about thestruggles and we see the
struggles in our community, butwe're not speaking about what we
need to fix those struggles.
So finances is one thing.
I would say the honesty, when itcomes to parenting, we don't
talk about, you know, we,everybody wants to portray
parenting as some sweet oh, yourkids are so sweet and it's so
(19:14):
wonderful and it's so prettyParenting 10 out of 10, I would
not recommend 10 out of 10, Iwould not recommend.
So we don't, we don't talkabout the truth behind parenting
and I just think you knowanything where it comes to just
(19:35):
within ourselves, you know,taking a look at ourselves,
sometimes we like to fingerpoint.
Well, I would finger point andplace blame about some of the
things that I was going through,some of the things that I've
experienced and some of thethings that I've experienced and
I had to take a look in themirror and say, kalia, maybe
(19:56):
it's you, maybe you're theproblem, you know.
So those are the three thingsthat I think that we can
definitely do better in talkingabout and bringing voice and
light to in our community.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
Okay, so through your podcast, give me something that
you have brought light tofinancially.
That would help our community.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
So, financially, I'm still learning about that, you
know.
But I definitely speak on beingbetter, being better stewards
with our resources.
So I do speak on, you know,knowing when you don't have it,
it's okay to not have it.
It's okay to not go, it's okayto not buy.
(20:43):
You know preparing to.
You know, when I say go, I meanlike trips and things like that
, because I've definitely beenon vacations where I came back
and didn't have lunch money whenI returned and you know
understanding that that may nothave been the best decision.
So you know, preparing isbudgeting, things like that.
(21:06):
So I'm just kind of sharing asI'm learning what I'm learning,
you know, because ironically,the thing that I'm learning is
like it's so obvious.
You know it makes sense tobudget, it makes sense to not go
on vacation if you don't havemoney to return from vacation.
These things make sense.
(21:27):
But in reality, when you'reliving, you're just living and
you're just doing, you know.
So I'm just shedding light.
You know we have a um in ourbusiness.
We are going to do random actsof kindness um where some of our
proceeds will go to us blessingum strangers in the street.
(21:48):
So no rhyme or reason, justanyone.
It doesn't matter what you looklike, what you're wearing.
You know we want to be ablessing to someone, because we
do know that sometimes it couldjust be just buying food can be
a struggle for families.
And you know, we, just this pastSaturday, we had the advantage
(22:10):
of doing a turkey drive with theDunn Foundation.
That we do every year and wehanded out like over 600 turkeys
in size to families.
Because we do not understand,you know how you can look at
someone, because I mean, I'mtalking about there were all
type of cars on this line for aturkey Benzes, jaguars, lexuses
(22:34):
and you can't assume thateveryone is good, you know.
And just the idea that someoneis in a place where they have to
be on the line, you know, toget a turkey in size for their
Thanksgiving, it opens your mindto there are a lot of people
(22:56):
that need help.
You know, and you don't knowthat they need help and we're
speaking from experiences.
There were times where we werejust barely making it, you know,
figuring out having to break up$20 for dinner.
You know what I mean.
So, um, yeah, we're justsharing that.
(23:18):
Just, you know, from ourexperience, from our seat, the
Dumb.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
Foundation.
I would like for you to sharemore about who that is, what
that is and what other thingsthey do for the community.
I was very excited when youshared it with me.
I would love for the ConfidentYouth family to hear about it.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
Sure, so actually, the Dunn Foundation.
Dunn is actually mybrother-in-law and he had this
foundation that this is actuallyhis 12th year where and it
started from one turkey.
He just thought he one year hejust purchased one one turkey
just to bless somebody with itand it's been growing every year
(23:58):
since then.
Um, done the done foundationdoes all types of things.
He does, uh, for christmas hedoes every year he goes out and
he he creates, excuse me, likewarming packages for the
homeless out in like the dc area, so he'll give out like
blankets and gloves and thingslike that to the homeless
(24:18):
community every christmasmorning.
Um, thanksgiving, like I said,he does the turkey drive where
we give out turkeys and size.
Um, we do backpack drive, so we, you know, we give school
supplies and backpacks.
He does Mother's Day.
He has like luncheons formothers of the homeless
community.
(24:38):
He's a vet, so he works withthe veterans community, the
veterans homeless community, sohe does so much for the
underserved and underprivilegedand again it goes down to just a
simple meal because he's big onthat.
When you think of the holidaysand things, you think about the
just sitting down, eating Thingsthat we take for granted of
(25:00):
having that you know.
So he wants to be able to helpin any kind of way where you
know back to school Parents haveso much to worry about kind of
way where you know back toschool parents have so much to
worry about.
If I, if I know that I that Idon't have to get the book bag
and some of the um supplies,then at least that's one thing
that I can take off of my listof things that I have to get.
(25:20):
You know, so he's a blessingand it's, it's just, uh, it's,
it is an honor, it is anabsolute honor to be part of
that.
It's just.
I thank God all the time thatwe're able to be in that space
and to give.
It's so, it's so great to give.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Yeah I, when you told me about it, I couldn't help
but give.
I just want everyone to knowListen, he gave away turkeys,
two sides and beverage, so you,you would have your whole meal
covered, down to the drink.
Each family, thirty dollars.
Thirty dollars to cover eachfamily.
(26:02):
When mrs brand told me, when hedoesn't reach the donation
quota, he goes into his pocket,so he's still going to reach his
goal.
That determination is somethingthat I feel we all need to have
.
Speaker 2 (26:20):
Every year and having that as my brother in love I
give him.
You know, I say all the time Ithank God for my husband.
But in addition to me thankingGod for my husband and, of
course, our beautiful children,the relationship that I've
garnered through him.
My brother in love is one ofthem.
He is truly.
(26:41):
He's one of the reasons whywe're in Maryland, because he
lives in Maryland, so he's oneof the reasons why we're down
here.
And just having someone withthat kind of mindset, like you
said, that determination becausehe doesn in Maryland, so he's
one of the reasons why we'redown here.
And just having someone withthat kind of mindset, like you
said, that determination becausehe doesn't care If he's
registered 600 turkeys and heonly gets 100 donations, he is
coming out of his pocket for theother 500.
(27:03):
Having that determination,having that, you know, that
desire to help our community,that hunger for kids when he's
around children, forget about itLike that, the way that he is
around young adults and things,is just a blessing to be in his
presence and it's even more sucha blessing to say that that's
my family.
(27:23):
You know, I'm so grateful forhim.
Speaker 1 (27:26):
Amen, I'm grateful for him as well.
I did not want to brush pastthe done foundation I definitely
want the confident you familyto know about it.
I definitely will put that linkas well I appreciate searching
box when I put that link inthere.
I just want to let you know.
I went to the site.
It took me a minute to finddonation he hasn't sold.
(27:49):
The font is less than eight.
At the time I'm like okay, thehumility, brother, I couldn't.
I kept scrolling and that's howI found out all the other
things yeah that he was doing.
I was focused on the turkeydrive, but that's how I've
realized wait, he's, he's doingthis and this and this and this
(28:11):
just trying to find the donationbutton.
It is very, very top on a very,very tiny on the top toolbar and
I'm like humility, I'm going toneed to talk to him.
He needs to make that button.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
I would tell him.
I would definitely tell him, Iwould give that takeaway.
I would definitely tell him.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (28:29):
Now what it did do is make me scroll through the
whole page and see everything.
But if those buttons at the top?
He had them tiny and small,just a little bit bigger.
So that you know it'll be somuch easier.
I don't want anyone to getthere and be like I don't see
the donation button, so I'm good.
Speaker 2 (28:48):
Right, I don't want.
I want there and be like Idon't see the donation button so
I'm good, right, I don't want.
I want anything and you knowanything, anything, because he
does so much.
When I say he does a lot, hedoes a lot.
Thankfully he's partnered withchick-fil-a, is one of his
partners that he partners with.
I know that he had, um, like adental company that he was
partnering with, that he'strying, you know, want to make
(29:09):
sure not only that we're feedingour community, but he's
teaching finances, german needs,like he has, like financial
literacy pamphlets that he'llput in the bag, or like
toothbrush and back to school hewould have.
Like a truck that he would havefree dental checks and exams
(29:29):
and things like that.
So so much for our communityand is, like I said, anything,
anything helps, you know, andeven just sharing a message
helps.
So it's just, it's such ablessing.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
And your son.
I apologize, I know I'mbacktracking, but in the main
episode we didn't I don'tbelieve we did say where they
can find him, his site, where helooks, so you can find it on
youtube carter chronicles.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
Carter is spelled with the k.
Please do not spell his namewith a c, because he will have a
fit part of chronicles CarterChronicles.
So Carter is K-A-T-E-R andChronicles is also with the K
K-R-O-N-I-C-L-E-S.
Okay, so, carter Chronicles,we're the K crew.
Speaker 1 (30:17):
Yes, the K crew.
Let me find out.
You surely are.
Speaker 2 (30:21):
We are.
My entire family name startswith a K.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
Okay, and I want you to know, my entire family's name
started with a k.
I want you to understandbecause let me at, ladies and
gentlemen, ladies and ladies andladies and ladies and gentlemen
, this woman looked at me andsaid I'm from maryland, ma'am,
uh-uh no, no, I just I am allthe way New York, harlem, new
(30:48):
York.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
However, my soul wait , my soul is I'm a New Yorker
through and through, but I amtransitioning to Maryland.
I'm from Maryland, I'm fromMaryland.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
You can't even say that thing, right?
No, ma'am.
No, ma'am too, can't say it.
Listen to me, let me tell you.
Let me tell you what.
Let me know that you a Harlemgirl through and through.
They can take the girl out ofHarlem, but they can't take the
Harlem out the girl.
Listen on the, on the Confidentyou episode, when you said,
(31:25):
yeah, I'm the one they call whenthey want to hide a body.
I'm like, wait, wait, yeah, I'mthe one they call when they
want to hide a body.
I'm like, wait, olivia Pope, Ihave Olivia Pope.
Ladies and gentlemen, I wantyou to meet Mrs Randall.
Give me a pose.
I need you to clean that up.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
We need to clean that up Not to hide the body.
I am helping them not to be inthe position where they hide the
body.
Speaker 1 (31:49):
Where they don't have a body.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
Make a body Right.
We don't want to have anybody,so they call me when they don't
want to hurt somebody.
So I am the one to talk someoneoff of the ledge.
Yes, I am the calm down one.
So we have a funny joke betweenmy two best friends from high
school.
So one would call if they wannaturn up, I'm the one that I
(32:17):
will call.
Well, you will call me if it'slike.
I want a reasonable answerbecause I'm the one that I will
call.
Well, you will call me if it'slike.
I want a reasonable answerBecause I'm going to give you
reason.
I'm going to.
My daughter is always, you know, she'll call me and she's like
Ma, whose side are you on?
I'm always on the side of right.
I'm always on the side of right.
Speaker 1 (32:32):
You and my son are cut from the same cloth.
That's my son.
Speaker 2 (32:36):
I'm always on the side of right that is my son.
Speaker 1 (32:39):
My son stays on the side of dick.
Speaker 2 (32:42):
You're not, ma it doesn't matter, I love you, but
you're wrong, yeah, so theyusually call me after they um
have processed the fact thatthey know that they're bugging,
and they're okay, because I'mgonna tell you you're bugging is
that what you're going to do?
Yes, I think they call youbecause they know that's what I
(33:05):
said.
But they have to process, youknow, because I do.
I have another friend and she'slike I was.
She was like I didn't want tocall you because I know you
would have talked, yeah.
So I'm like I'm glad you knowthat.
Speaker 1 (33:17):
I'm glad you know that I'm glad you know, yeah, so
another topic that I wanted totouch on was husband and client.
Woo, you're the management ofthe brand for your husband, who
is also your client and also mycoworker.
(33:41):
She rude, and also yourcoworker.
How, how do you make that work?
Speaker 2 (33:51):
The grace of God, honey, honestly, really honestly
, because you know one thingthat again, this could not have
been done without me doing myinner work.
We would not be able to evenhave what we have or be where we
were had I not did the innerwork, because one you have to
(34:17):
know who you have and who you'redealing with.
That's the most important.
That's why it's kind of it'seasy for me to transition into
management as a spouse because Iknow my husband.
So, like I'm the one thatplaces the orders when he orders
dinner, you know, like I knowwhat he likes to eat, I know
what ticks him off, I know, youknow, like I know him, so it's
(34:41):
easy to manage that aspect.
But having to know how todisconnect from spouse, you know
, that was something that thathe has to now understand and
work through because I have toremind him.
You know, I'm not your wiferight now, I'm your manager.
(35:01):
So this is not your wifenagging you, this is your
manager, giving you expectationof what needs to be done, and
you know so.
Having being able to one him,understand me, knowing that
there's two different places andknowing that he may hear me as
one person, two different placesand knowing that he may hear me
(35:22):
as one person.
So you know, like I said, ithad a lot to do with me doing my
inner work of knowing how toshow up, knowing who he is, so
understanding his bandwidth.
So it goes back to giving grace.
I made me, being a manager forfive, six years at my silent
investor, knowing what it takesto lead and him not necessarily
(35:44):
having that kind of likeindividual leadership in that
style, but giving him the graceof like learning that you now
need to be managed, a certainkind of you know, like that type
of thing.
So knowing what I have, knowingto give him the grace and
knowing how to communicateeffectively as well, as is the
(36:08):
biggest thing, knowing when tobe quiet, learning when to just
okay.
Okay, you know that wassomething that is still a
challenge, but I give it to God,you know, do I?
Do I fight about this?
Do I say okay?
When do I have thisconversation?
(36:30):
Um, so I really, you know, alot of prayer goes into my job,
a lot of prayer prayer goes intomy job, a lot of prayer.
Speaker 1 (36:46):
I would imagine that coming home from work or is work
at home.
Speaker 2 (36:52):
Work is at home, everything is in the house.
Speaker 1 (36:57):
Everything is in the house.
How do you go from room to room?
Do you find that you have toacknowledge?
This is your wife?
Is that a daily thing or isthis?
Do you say that statement?
This is your manager speaking.
Speaker 2 (37:12):
This is your wife speaking when it's needed when
it's needed, only when it'sneeded, um, you know, because
there are some.
There's some things where youknow like, if I'm saying I need
you to do this, he may notunderstand why it needs to be
done and just thinks that I justwant you to do it, just because
that's what I think, and I'mlike no, no, no, no, this is,
(37:34):
this is what I need for thebusiness, this is what I need
from you, um, so it's, I don'thave to say that, unless it's
like really, you know, reallyneeded Um, but I do say it like
I'm not sure why, cause, likewhen we first started and he was
like he would be, like you know, you're all in a business and
I'm like that's literally my job.
(37:55):
My job literally is to be inyour business, like literally.
So I need you to understandthat I'm going to be in your
business.
How did you become his manager?
I just told him I'm yourmanager.
Speaker 1 (38:10):
Literally, and he wasn't doing anything already.
You told him you were hismanager, and then you told him
what he was going to do as yourclient we so.
Speaker 2 (38:21):
But the thing is my husband and I we used to prior
to his program with thelunchroom and um, but prior to
his program with the lunchroomand the flower shop, my husband,
um, kevin bell, the kevin belland his two and two of our
(38:41):
brothers from another mother.
We had a.
I used to produce the podcastthat they had but they used to
tease me and call me cookielions from um empire because
they was like I'm the cookielions of their podcast because I
was like the producer.
So he was kind of familiar withme in that lane of kind of
(39:01):
being on top setting up therecording studio time and
getting who we're going to talkto and the topics and things
like that.
So he was kind of familiar withthat.
That was a really big.
The block talk was a huge.
It was a wonderful podcast thatunfortunately, what happens in
(39:22):
our community is consistency isthe killer of a lot of success.
So if you are someone, thatlack of consistency I should say
is a killer of success.
So if you're someone and youstarted something I saw
something recently with TabithaBrown said finish what you
started and I'm speaking fromexperience Finish what you
(39:43):
started.
The block talk was this was apodcast before a lot of these
cultural male panelists podcaststhat we have now, like the Joe
Budden show, and there is a showcalled it Is what it Is, with
Mase and Cameron, which are tworappers and they have a program.
So the block talk was thatbefore these shows, but we just
(40:05):
did not.
We weren't consistent with itand we really had something
great.
So he was familiar with me andhow my take charge and you know
my that kind of aspect and youknow my that kind of aspect.
Then, when that broke off, westarted masterminding, trying to
figure out what worked for him,because I'm like you still.
(40:28):
I'm stuck, like you havesomething, there's something
there.
What is it that you want to do?
So we would actually, afterwork, we would go to Friday's in
Queens.
There was a Friday's in Queensright across the bridge, because
happy hour, you know, half offappetizers and drink Cause we
was going mass amount on thebudget.
(40:48):
So we would go to Fridays andwe would come up with these
elaborate ideas.
What we thought were elaborateuntil last year.
God was like all of those thingsthat I placed in you for a
reason, you guys are not usingany of it.
You know none of it.
So we started just when Istarted this healing journey and
(41:09):
I'm like honey.
One day I was in the shower andGod told me coming out the
shower, he said go and write abusiness contract.
God told me coming out theshower.
He said go and write a businesscontract and I want you to
write it.
And it was like maybe 12, 12steps for our family business
contract.
Not at the time, I didn't knowanything.
(41:30):
You know, the Bell brand hasalways again, this is what I say
when God God gives you thingsand you just have to be pay
attention to it, because theBell brand has always been
something that I would, you know, kind of play on.
So his email address has alwaysbeen Kev Bell brand.
I've always spoke to him as abrand and when I say decades,
(41:53):
like years, I would speak to himas a brand.
And I was in the shower and ithad to have been like December
of 2022.
God had told me to come out,write a contract, a family
contract, for the Bell brand,and it was a 12 step contract
that God put together.
(42:13):
And I said, honey, we're reallygoing to take our business
serious, we're really going toget serious with this business
and that's kind of how itstarted.
Ideas started flowing and, likeI said, at the podcast summit,
I was just like talking tosomebody.
I was like oh, I'm his manager.
And that's just how it started,like literally, I just was like
I'm his manager.
Speaker 1 (42:31):
He was like OK, Out of nowhere, just out of your
mouth.
Isn't it something how you canspeak and when I have.
Speaker 2 (42:45):
so journaling is so important.
Writing, speaking and doingthose are the three lessons that
God has taught me on thisjourney Speak the life that you
want, write the life that youwant and do the work to get the
life that you want.
So I have so many journalentries of the management
(43:05):
company and what it's going tobe, and it's just me flowing
from my heart.
So now when I look back on it,it's still like God, I'm doing
all of that.
Okay, you know that type ofthing, but it's still kind of
like I can't.
You know that old inner metries to show up in, you know,
(43:26):
question.
But again, I don't question whomy God is and what my God can
do.
I just get out the way.
What do you need me to do, lord?
And I move out the way.
Speaker 1 (43:37):
So yeah, that's a beautiful way to live your life.
Just, you know, being obedientand aware of what it is he's
asking of you and willing to do.
Because when I say obedient, Iknow that that word rubs some
(43:59):
people the wrong way, but it'sthe awareness and the
willingness to do and thewillingness to do so.
Speaker 2 (44:09):
It doesn't rub me the wrong way because I understand
as a child, you have to beobedient and I am not on the
same level as God, so I need tobe obedient to what God tells me
to do.
So, for me, I am very awarethat obedience open doors and I
(44:29):
need to be obedient.
So, yeah, and that's somethingthat, of course, is still a
challenge when you've lived yourway for so long and you've done
your thing for so long andyou've been who you are for so
long.
I'm 42 years old, you know, andwho, like I said, who I am
today, on November 19, 2023, isnot the same.
(44:52):
I'm looking at all my old posts.
So now I am in the annual like.
So now this is my anniversaryof when I started this journey,
so knowing where I came fromfrom the beginning and where I
am today, you know I give Godall the praises, but, of course,
you know it took the obedienceof me, knowing what he is
telling me to do, despite of whoI think that I am, you know.
Speaker 1 (45:18):
Who I think that I am .
Listen, God, tell God what yourplans are.
So he's going to laugh.
Speaker 2 (45:26):
Hysterically oh, you thought that was going happen.
Speaker 1 (45:32):
Okay, sure, let me know when you're ready.
Right, right, let me know whenyou're ready what I have in
store for you just let me knowwhen you're ready.
You were just, uh, speaking onoh my goodness, let me know when
you're ready.
You were just speaking on oh mygoodness, let me know when
you're ready.
You were just speaking on yourhusband and business and being a
(45:57):
wife, and you also werespeaking on being a parent and
being the manager and being thecoworker, and before this we
were talking about cookingThanksgiving dinner and being
everything to everyone else.
How do you not leave yourselfout of the process of the day
(46:22):
and also serve yourself?
Because I think, as women,especially Black women, that's
kind of what they groomed us todo when we got here is serve,
serve, serve, serve outwardly.
What do you do to make surethat you're being fit,
understanding that you pray,understanding that you spend
(46:43):
time with God, understandingthat you journal, but when do
you also sit down to make sureyou're taking up that physical,
mental, emotional, spiritual,altogether you?
Speaker 2 (46:58):
So I do that daily.
So again, that comes with thehealing aspect where you, when
you learn yourself.
So I'm also a self-careadvocate.
I advocate for taking care ofyourself and loving yourself and
the importance of that and um.
So I set boundaries, you know.
So right now I'm actually in aseason of service where God has
(47:19):
me serving a lot, um, way morethan I'm used to serving, um,
but I'm praying and asking God.
If you want me to do, I want todo it with a happy, humble
heart, but trust me, I don'talways do.
But he has me in a season ofserving but I do it daily.
So I set boundaries for myselfdaily.
(47:39):
So my place in space is my patio.
So when I'm typically on mypatio I have some music going.
You know that's where I wouldjournal sometimes.
Sometimes I'll just pray,Sometimes I'm creating content
on my patio, but typically whenI'm out there, don't, don't
bother me, you know so.
(48:01):
You know so I mean I spendhours out there.
So you know, sometimes you canbother me because because I'm
now on my fourth hour on mypatio, but I definitely set
boundaries for myself.
My family, they don't have 24-7access to me and they know that.
So I take time, whether it'ssitting on my patio or taking a
(48:26):
long bath.
You know I love I'll have acandlelit bath, have the music
going, bubbles and all of that.
So I definitely, you know, Imake sure that I'm feeding
myself, because I'm not going toserve from an empty cup.
I can't.
So I have to make sure that Iam filling myself up and if it's
(48:49):
one of those days where mommyand babe just is not feeling it,
I'm okay with expressing Todayis just a rough day for me and I
just need some time.
Speaker 1 (49:04):
When did you realize that that's what you needed?
When did you realize thatthat's what you needed?
Like I, I could imagine thatwhen you were in a season of
anxiety and depression and, um,low self-esteem, that would not
have been a season where youwere feeding yourself in that
way.
What were you doing then?
(49:27):
And drinking drinking.
Speaker 2 (49:34):
So you know alcohol was my um and this I still have.
Well, no, I'm.
It's still a challengesometimes, um, but not as bad as
it was before.
But um, you know, drinking andand smoking weed and things like
that.
I would find other outlets tokind of lean on um, and that was
(49:54):
like an escape mechanism, youknow not processing and not you
know accepting where, where Iwas you know not happy with my
life.
So I would use alcohol and weedto um kind of mask that you
know um not not as a recreationthing.
(50:16):
It was becoming like a crutch,so to speak, to kind of handle
things.
So that was, you know that wasmy outlet before, um, but now
you know the, the journaling,the prayer, how you start your
morning.
You know that was my outletbefore, but now you know the
journaling, the prayer, how youstart your morning, you know.
So a routine.
You know people kind of don'tunderstand the importance of
(50:38):
having a daily routine, how thatcan set your mind up.
You know what you feed yourself.
The first thing in the morningis how your day can kind of, you
know, go.
So in the morning I don't lookat my phone.
I give God a few minutes tojust I thank you for being alive
.
You know that type of thing andin the morning I try to not try
(51:01):
, but I typically listen tosomething inspirational before I
put on anything that's going tofeed me anything negatively.
And then you know, we have themorning meetup from 745 to nine.
So you know how my morning ispretty much where I, where I
start.
And I noticed, and I reallynoticed that and again, I speak
(51:21):
from experience because justrecently, um, I woke up on the
other side of my flesh and Ijust allowed it to penetrate me
and I didn't even realize likeit ended up.
I woke up maybe at six o'clockand before I knew it it was like
12 o'clock and my day was justdisgusted.
And but that's because Iallowed that to get into my
(51:43):
spirit and continue to grow.
I didn't wake up with the rightmindset, and you know.
So morning routine, that's ahuge thing for me, huge.
Speaker 1 (51:56):
Huge, I would say that is definitely a huge thing
to have a morning routine to setyour day, to set your mind, to
set your spirit, to lay afoundation for the day that
you're about to go through Right, right, it's very important,
(52:17):
very important.
Speaker 2 (52:18):
That was something that.
I would.
I used to have to leave myhouse at 530 to get to work and
I wouldn't get up until like 510.
5.30 to get to work and Iwouldn't get up until like 5.10,
just enough to like wash.
You know, get my face togetherand just run up like literally
running out the house and thingslike that, and that's just
asinine, like why am I stressingmyself out?
You know you got to go to bed alittle earlier, got to wake up.
(52:41):
You know, give yourself sometime.
So just those things changing,you know, just changing the
outlook of how you see your dayand the importance of having
structure to your day and stufflike that.
And I'm a strong believer of howyou do.
One thing is how you do allthings.
So how I, you know, I, I that'salso something that I feed
(53:04):
myself when I'm feeling myselfhalf, you know, being a half
behind.
You know I wanted to useanother word but I won't.
But you know, like not fullypouring in, I'm like I remind
myself like hey, how you do onething is how you do all things.
So you need to show up ahundred percent in this.
And it could be something sosmall, like even real, you know,
(53:25):
like it doesn't matter what itcould be.
Whatever it is, I need to makesure that I'm showing up fully a
hundred percent, because how Ido one thing is how I do all
things.
Speaker 1 (53:36):
How I do one thing is how I do all things.
What a great way to end thisafter after party.
I appreciate you staying andhanging out and sharing even
more details behind themanagement of a brand and the
(53:57):
relationships that lie behindthere, the giving, the service
that lie behind there, themental stability, the health of
your spirit.
Behind there, the mentalstability, the health of your
spirit, the emotional capacitythat you have to control
yourself, to be strong, to beable to show up 100%, because
(54:18):
how you show up one place.
Speaker 2 (54:22):
Is that how you said it?
How you do one thing is how youdo all things, but absolutely,
how you show up in one place ishow you show up in other places.
My god, yeah, once you becreating, I'm, I'm.
I am now becoming the womanthat I am, that I was destined
to be, so in all aspects.
Speaker 1 (54:44):
So you heard it, confident you family.
We are seeing the becoming.
I can't wait to check back inwith you because in a year you
have managed.
Speaker 2 (54:56):
Listen here.
I don't even know what God hasin store for 2024, but I know
that I already said we betterbuckle up, buttercup, because
it's about.
It is about to take off and I'mexcited, I am grateful, I give
god praise all the time for, youknow, every door closed, every
(55:18):
no, everything that feels souncomfortable.
I am grateful for it because Iknow that, I know that I know,
as long as I continue to do whatGod has for me to do, he is
going to turn all things to thegood.
So I'm excited.
2024 is about to take off 2024is about to take off.
Speaker 1 (55:40):
Listen everyone, please go please check my.
Speaker 2 (55:46):
Check out the podcast .
Speaker 1 (55:48):
Perfect imperfections with kalia bell.
You want to go there?
Listen?
Do me a favor.
Confident you podcast family.
Go over there right now andfollow follow and subscribe and
listen.
Speaker 2 (56:07):
You know, let know, I'm still kind of building and
it's great because this is thestart.
You know I'm excited.
I want everybody to be part ofmy start.
You know it's nothing.
It feels so good when you'restarting, when you're part of
someone's start.
You know I've been a part of alot of starts, like the tap at
(56:27):
the Browns and the Kevon stages,and you know other people that
I follow and to see where theyare now and just to know of the
evolution is is just, is isgreat to be at the start.
So this is the start of perfectimperfections with Kalia Bell.
This is the start of the bellbrand.
This is the start of who we areand I'm I I'm just so excited
(56:51):
for everyone to see what we'reabout to do, because one thing
that we are saying if god can doit for us, trust me, he can do
it for you.
Speaker 1 (57:03):
And with that we will say great day to all, because
if God can do it for us, hecertainly can do it for you.
Listen, I want you to go andsubscribe to my sister's channel
.
Ring that notification bell,check out those episodes, keep
(57:24):
up with her.
You can hear the positivity,you can hear the heart that she
has to serve, not just her.
Her and her family, yeah, haveto serve.
Make sure you check out her son.
Speaker 2 (57:36):
Give that information again, ma'am so carter
chronicles k a r.
Please don't spell his namewith a C.
He has a fit, literally doesCarter with a K K-A-R-T-E-R.
Chronicles with a KK-R-O-N-I-C-L-E-S.
You can find that on YouTube.
(57:58):
I'm excited to see what he isabout to become, because God
gave us some wonderful gifts andI'm so glad that he allowed us
to heal so that we can make surethat they walk in their purpose
.
So I'm excited, I'm excited.
Speaker 1 (58:15):
I'm grateful for the healing you went through and the
healing that blessed yourfamily.
I am grateful, I'm excited thatyou're so open and honest and
willing to share your journey sothat people don't feel as
though it's just me, I'm theonly one.
It's.
Nobody else is going throughthis.
I need us all to understand weain't that special.
(58:36):
I know that sounds crazy.
It's like wait what?
No, you're special, but you'renot that that, that component of
life, you're not.
Speaker 2 (58:45):
You're not the You're not the only one.
Speaker 1 (58:48):
You're the only one with your gift.
You're the only one who youraudience needs to stand up and
do that special thing that youdo.
But you are not the only onegoing through Whatever those
things you're going through.
There are other people and youwould not.
You would be surprised.
Speaker 2 (59:08):
Listen, listen, you would be surprised.
We are all just trying to makeit.
You know, one day at a time,you know, and that's why we want
to share our platform to makesure that everyone knows.
You know, we are we, we are acommunity, we, we have been
there, we've done it, we've gonethrough, we have experienced it
(59:32):
.
When I say God is amazing, Idon't say it because I've never
gone through anything.
I say it because God has keptme and gave me that peace that
surpasses understanding.
So I'm speaking from experience.
God is amazing because he, God,is amazing, and you're not the
only one that has gone throughthings.
So that is what we want toshare.
Speaker 1 (59:52):
My Lord.
Well, hopefully I'll be able tobe on her podcast soon.
Speaker 2 (59:59):
I'm excited because I haven't.
I have no um podcast withanyone else, no episodes with
anyone else.
So now I'm, now I am going intotaking it more seriously.
That is going to be mydedication and tapping into just
utilize, utilizing what I have,like this, you know platform
(01:00:22):
and things like that.
So that is what I'm, I willdefinitely be doing in 2024.
Speaker 1 (01:00:27):
That is my main focus there it is, and I'll be happy
you.
I just let me know when andwhen and where if I need to log
in or show up you got it I.
I really do honor you and yourfamily I appreciate the
servant's hearts that you allhave, even down to your son,
because he enjoys reading, buthe's reading for the benefit of
(01:00:52):
others.
I think that is absolutely.
I've heard people going to thehospital.
I've never heard of, you know,a kid just going.
Okay, you know I enjoy reading,I can go ahead.
So you know I really honor that.
Down to the baby.
I know he's not a baby Listen,don't be mad at me but you a
baby.
He's still a baby.
He's still a baby.
He's still the baby.
(01:01:13):
Listen all right.
So everyone, thank you.
As always, confident U is hereto give you just those confident
tips, tools and tactics forlife, for business.
You may know someone thatyou're like man, that thing they
do.
I could help them with that.
(01:01:36):
They really need to be doingsome of the things she said.
That's a great place to startto build, to share, just open.
She literally said my husband,let's just start with what we
have, let's just open Instagramand get it going and look, now
she was able to list out thingsthat you can connect with her on
(01:01:58):
.
Thank you so much.
Thank you for having me.
Speaker 2 (01:02:01):
Thank you so much for having me.
I appreciate for let me use myvoice, so thank you so much for
I appreciate this.
Thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (01:02:09):
You have an impactful story to share and that is
exactly what we need here.
On Confident you All right,everyone See you in the next
episode, all right.
So now that's over.
Now we will do.
Last thing testimony.
So let me give my testimonyabout you being here first and
then, if you could give atestimony about you being here
(01:02:31):
and the host, you know that girl, all right, hold on episode 34
(01:02:54):
of Confident you podcast as wellas the after party from episode
34 Confident you podcast, andthat was episode 15.
Number 15.
Listen, I have been speakingwith people and this woman here
came in to tell us themanagement behind the brand in
the confident you episode andthen in the after party.
(01:03:16):
She really got into therelationships and the servant's
heart and everything that goesinto being that manager and that
especially that self care.
Both episodes she just gave somuch impact and value value in
(01:03:37):
who you are to be, value inwhose you are and who you are.
I was so honored to have mysister here, listen, sister,
sister, sister in womanhood,sister in Christ.
So honored and so grateful tohave her here.
(01:03:58):
Listen, kalia Bell is not justa manager of brands.
That brand spread into her ownself and out to her husband, out
to her children.
And then let me tell you she isso freely sharing the knowledge
(01:04:19):
and wisdom that she has.
You have to check out herpodcast.
Listen.
I'm telling everybody fromConfident U go over there.
If you are following me here,go over there, follow her,
subscribe to her channel andcheck out those episodes.
She is giving great value.
She is sharing her heart.
The impact of her healing,healed her family.
(01:04:41):
That's beyond being anentrepreneur.
That goes into the heart ofbeing a person, of being a
healthy person that walks thisearth making an impact in other
(01:05:02):
people's lives.
Then she goes into how herhusband's family also gives,
into families of others.
Listen, I want you to also goto the Dunn's Foundation.
You want to go there becauseyou want to make an impact and
it doesn't matter the amount shesaid.
Listen, everything helps.
(01:05:23):
It doesn't matter the amount.
She is making space foreveryone to be able to take part
in helping families and helpingour community to become
stronger and better Wiserfinancially, giving food, giving
school supplies, givingfinancial information.
(01:05:44):
The Dunn's Foundation make sureyou go and check them out.
She talks about her husband.
You definitely want to tuneinto the episode to get more
information about that,especially if you're a sports
fanatic.
You want to find out who youneed to be following, who you
need to be checking into.
Listen, if you like books herson, yeah, just reads them, but
(01:06:08):
he's not reading them plainly.
His animation and take onwhat's being put to paper.
Him bringing it to life is whathe actually does.
I'm telling you, check into theepisode so you can get the
details of all of that, becauseit's woven into everything that
she talks about.
She's an amazing person.
Listen, you want to make sure.
(01:06:31):
Perfected imperfections withKalia Bell.
That's her podcast.
Please go and subscribe.
Thank you, kalia, for comingthrough.
You're amazing for taking thistime.
Listen, thanksgiving week.
Thank you for taking this time.
I, thanksgiving week.
Thank you for taking this time.
I appreciate you.
Thank you.
All right, your turn.
(01:06:55):
Please smile, count to three toyourself and then stop.
Speaker 2 (01:07:02):
So thank you so much.
Confident you Podcast.
Marian Swingler, thank you somuch for having me, allowing me
to have a place to use my voice,to tell my story, to get our
brand out there.
As a small Black business, weare right now hustling and
grinding.
We're not hustling, but we'regrinding and working to try to
(01:07:24):
get our word out there, to tryto get our message out there, to
spread the word.
So it is a blessing to be onthis platform to use my voice to
tell our story, to let everyoneknow what we're doing.
I really do appreciate that.
Again, wwwthebellbrand theP-H-E, bellbrand, b-e-l-l
brandnet that is where we areboldly encouraging our community
(01:07:58):
to live legendary.
We're just sharing the love ofwhat we're learning and we're
letting our people know listen,we are just like you, we are
growing, we are healing in realtime.
And, again, if we could do it Isay this all the time If we
could do it, if we are doing it,trust me when I tell you you
(01:08:19):
can too, and that is what wewanted to give out to our
community.
So make sure that you're tappedinto again, wwwthebellbrandnet.
There you will be able toconnect.
You'll have all of our socialmedia information there.
My podcast again is PerfectImperfections with Kalia Bell.
That is on Spotify, applePodcasts, and follow me on
(01:08:44):
Instagram at my Perfectedimperfections or TikTok, as well
.
There I want to shareinspirational messages, positive
imagery.
I am there to share joy.
We have enough anger and hateand just mess in the world and I
want to just share joy andhappiness and how to pull out of
(01:09:08):
our dark spaces.
So please make sure that you'refollowing Again.
Thank you so much for thisplatform to use my voice and to
tell my story.
I appreciate it.
Thank you so much, my sister.
So I definitely will be backand I cannot wait until we
connect again.
So thank you for having me.
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