When the worlds of family and career collide, the result can be unexpected and inspiring. That's what Kalia Bell, CEO and manager of the Bell brand, brings to our table, sharing her exceptional journey from corporate leadership to managing her husband Kevin Bell's career in sports history. Her insights into the intricacies of blending love, life, and work shine through our conversation, as we peer into her role in ensuring Kevin's gifts reach the audience they deserve. This isn't just another tale of professional management—it's a heart-to-heart on steering a loved one's dreams to fruition and the accountability it demands.
It's all about transformation in this episode, with Kalia recounting her personal awakening from the shadows of mental health challenges to a beacon of leadership. The Bell duo's ventures, The Lunchroom and The Flower Shop, become a focal point, highlighting their dedication to honoring unsung heroes. My own story intertwines, revealing how the power of spoken words lifted me from depression's clutches, and we discuss the continuous learning curve that shapes us both as individuals and as managers. Trust me; this is a chapter of life and leadership you won't want to miss.
Let's not forget, growth isn't a solo journey. As Kalia navigates her multiple roles—mother, wife, entrepreneur—she shares how her endeavors, including Perfect Imperfections and the Bell brand apparel, are not just businesses but stories woven of culture, resilience, and originality. We also underscore the importance of mentorship, community, and laughter, as Kalia recounts joining the Morning Meetup and how it transformed her approach to entrepreneurship. On a serious note, we wrap up by shedding light on the crucial topic of domestic violence support resources, extending a lifeline to those in need. Join us for this revealing episode that goes beyond the surface, exploring the essence of what it truly means to grow, lead, and support in today's world.
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CHAPTERS:
0:00 - Introduction to Family Branding
1:22 - Meet Brand Manager Kaila Bell
10:32 - Brand Management Responsibilities
12:05 - Kev's Role in Brand Strategy
15:24 - Kaila's Current Projects
16:55 - Assessing Brand Potential
19:03 - Handling Brand Rejection
25:31 - Compassionate Design Sponsorship
27:28 - Gratitude for Viewers
28:20 - Reflecting on Brand Management
28:30 - Diverse Brand Management Portfolio
33:52 - Realizing Brand Management Passion
37:21 - Developing Brand Management Skills
40:25 - Future of Bell Brand Management
42:23 - Starting Your Brand Management Journey
45:38 - Foundations of Strong Branding
48:35 - Leveraging Pre-Existing Relationships
51:27 - Connecting with Kaila Bell Online
54:50 - Final Branding Insights
57:13 - Support for Domestic Violence Victims
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, marian Swingler of Confident you
Podcast.
How you doing Confident you.
I am excited tonight to havesomeone here to reveal an aspect
of being in business thatpeople really don't approach or
discuss or reveal how things aredone this way.
(00:20):
Have you ever, ever, as haveyou ever seen someone in your
family and you're like, oh mygoodness, you do that so well?
You are a master.
You should be known globallyfor that thing that you do.
That's so special that it'sonly you can do it the way that
(00:41):
you're doing it.
It the way that you're doing it, everyone would so appreciate.
People would actually pay tosee you do this, the way that
you do this.
But you really don't have amindset, an open vision, thought
of how you could help them getout there.
(01:01):
How can I help them get outthere?
How can I help them get outthere?
How can I help them be seen andbe known for that amazing thing
that they do?
Listen, this episode we'retalking to management behind the
brand.
Listen, someone needs to beaccountable.
(01:21):
Help hold you accountable forthat gift that you have to make
sure you're getting it out there, getting it in front of people,
so that those people that arehere to be able to appreciate
the things that you do, will beable to find you and see you,
listen.
That person to do that for youis a manager.
We have here none other thanthe one and only amazing manager
(01:45):
herself.
How are you gorgeous?
Speaker 2 (01:57):
amazing.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
I love that introduction listen, I believe
in giving honor where honor isdue giving people their flowers.
It's amazing.
I'm excited for everyone tohear your story, to hear how you
are management behind the brand.
I just think it's going to beinteresting.
(02:20):
Why don't you go ahead and tellpeople what brand this is?
Speaker 2 (02:24):
So my name is Kalia Bell and I am the manager and
CEO behind the brand, of theBell brand.
However, I actually manage myhusband, who is Kevin Bell, so
I'm really excited.
This is a new endeavor and anew adventure for us, and I'm
just grateful that God evenplaced us in this space right
(02:48):
now.
So I I'm I'm really excited,I'm excited.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
That's.
I'm excited because it'ssomething for you to see,
something special in someone,but it's totally different for
you to go.
Listen, I'm gonna help you walkthis thing out.
I believe that this is valuable, that you're valuable and your
value is important to some, toother people, and I want to make
(03:12):
sure that you have theopportunity to share that with
them.
So how do you what?
Managing your husband?
Listen, we're going to get intothat later.
Your husband, listen, we'regoing to get into that later.
We're going to get into thatlater.
Listen, tune into the afterparty for the real digs on the
relationship component of thismanaging your husband.
(03:38):
Okay, make sure you tune intothe after party, but right now,
what we're going to talk aboutis that management behind the
brand.
Now, you are that managementbehind the brand.
Who are you?
How did you determine this isworth managing, this is worth
taking the time to invest?
Speaker 2 (04:00):
So my husband, he was a big time basketball player in
New York City, in Harlem, newYork.
So we're originally from Harlem, new York, we live in Maryland
now and he was a big-timecitywide basketball player,
known really across the countryin his high school and college
days.
And my husband has such apassion for sports but it's not,
(04:25):
you know, like you know a lotof sports fanatics, but it's
just something about, you know,my husband, where his knowledge,
his knowledge, like he's ahistorian.
And when I say historian, youwill have older people slapping
him in the middle of the streetlike, hey, did you see that game
?
So you have older guys tappingin and when I say older guys I
(04:45):
mean my dad's age and you knowolder, even down to like the
younger guys like my son's age,my son's friend's age, you know,
tapping in and asking him aboutthe game and who does he think?
And it just always wasintriguing to me because I'm
like everybody comes to you,like everyone comes to you, you
have something, something there.
(05:06):
There's something special aboutyour love for sports.
You know, outside of justyelling at the TV all the time,
I'm like, listen, this couldmake us some money, this could
really.
Let's make some money behindthis, and I say that honestly
because we used to have, when welived in New York City.
(05:29):
We would always have peopleover at the house.
When I say all the time, peoplewould just come over again, of
all ages.
Or I had people, young and old,would come over to watch the
games with him and it was just.
It's just.
You can just see how peoplerespond to him when it comes to
sports and everything.
So I'm like you have a voicethat people want to hear and we
(05:50):
need to get you out there.
And it was an easy transitionbecause, as a wife, you know I
manage the home anyway.
So I'm like I'm just going tomanage you.
I'm just going to manage you.
I didn't really ask.
I didn't really ask.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
I didn't really ask, it just went that way.
So what experience in your pastdo you have with managing
someone?
Speaker 2 (06:16):
So I was a team leader at my current silent
investor and so that I was aleader of a team, so I was, you
know, managing my associates andthings like that.
So I have the management aspectfrom a corporation, you know,
knowing how to lead, knowing howto coach, knowing how to hold
(06:41):
people accountable.
You know that.
And now so just transferringthat from you know, the
corporate to now having to dothat for my own business Again,
it's just an easy transitionbecause I do it on my day-to-day
basis.
So now I'm just taking thethings that I learned in
leadership there and I'm justapplying it to lead, to assist
(07:03):
in his career.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
To assist in his career.
To assist in his career, sojust the management of
everything.
I would think that, sincemanaging in corporate would be
totally different from managingin Totally, what is that totally
different Like?
(07:26):
What do you think it lookedlike in a corporation and what
is it looking like now for youto be one on one managing
someone?
Speaker 2 (07:36):
So the biggest thing is, especially when you are
going into business by yourself,the biggest thing is having
worked under someone.
I'm, you know I'm, they'reresponsible for me, so to speak.
You know, so I am answering tosomeone, so now I am the answer
to someone, so you know that.
(07:57):
That is that's where thedifference, that's where the
difference is, where I have fullcontrol, you know well, not
full control, because I stillhe's still my client, you know,
even though that's my husband, Iessentially work for him.
So I don't have full control oras much control as I would like
(08:18):
to have, but you know it'sstill.
It's more of me, more you knowme having to do an answer for
within myself than having toanswer to someone else.
So, removing being havingsomeone else responsible,
removing having to work forsomeone else and having to be my
(08:40):
business, my like, you know menow being the corporate, me now
being the real boss and thingslike that.
So that's the biggest thing.
Like I am, I am the answer andI'm not answering to anyone else
.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Hmm, I am the answer.
I am not answering to anyone.
So how did?
Were you always a leader, likeas a child?
Could you see where this mayhave blossomed in you to be that
type of boss?
Speaker 2 (09:12):
So I'm going to be completely honest who I am today
is not who I was this time lastyear.
So the answer to that is no.
This is really a one year, Iwould say within a one year
journey.
My story kind of starts with meovercoming depression, anxiety
and low self-esteem.
(09:33):
So that's actually how I gotinto this taking the time to
really fully know who I am,knowing who I am, and God
started just implanting all ofthe gifts that were there but I
did not see as gifts.
Well, I took for granted, um,and God just kind of put
(09:55):
everything together and it's afunny story how it became that I
was going to be his manager.
Um, I want to save that for theafter party.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
Sure, that story I definitely.
How you became his manager issomething that, because I think
that goes with the relationshipof him being your husband and
your client.
Yes, so how you became hismanager is definitely something
I want to delve into.
I just being a manager, whatwould you say are the most
(10:31):
important things that you'reresponsible for as a manager,
just as labeling yourselfmanager.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Holding him accountable.
You know, I think that I thinkanytime you're in any leadership
position, it's extremelyimportant to hold your team,
your client, accountable, makingsure that you know I can only
go so far, as far as you want togo.
You know, like my job as yourmanager is not to.
(11:06):
You know, pull the buggy.
You know you need to be drivingit and I'm just assisting you
where you need to go as you'redriving it.
So I need to hold youaccountable.
So if you said that you'regoing to do something at a
certain time, my expectation isthat it will be done at that
time.
So that's one of the biggestthings for me is to make sure
(11:27):
that I am holding himaccountable.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Okay that you're holding him accountable.
Now, there are things thatyou're holding him accountable
for.
How do you, as a manager, setup those things?
You're saying that a year, thisis just a year for you in this
position, in this role, actingin this capacity.
What is it that you're settingup?
(11:52):
What is it that you had to doto make sure there are things to
set up for him to beaccountable for?
Speaker 2 (11:58):
So well, first let me just say what he does.
My husband is.
I'm helping him build his brand, which is he has two brands
that he's working on.
He has the Lunchroom, which isa weekly live programming that
he does every week, monday,wednesday and Friday at 1230 pm
Eastern Standard Time on hissocial media, where he pretty
(12:22):
much has like a panel and theyjust discuss sports.
So you know, I don't want tosay just sports, because men
come on and they have differentconversations with family and
things like that, but it's theelement of how we used to be in
the lunchroom.
You know we're 90s babies, soyou know the lunchroom used to
be our place to everythingSocialize with your friends.
(12:44):
You know the Martin show thatcame on last night.
Did you see the game, did you?
You know, did you listen to thenew album?
So those kinds of elements wewant to bring back.
So that's what he's doingLunchtime, instagram, 1230 PM
Eastern Standard Time.
What's that site?
It's called the Lunchroom.
The Lunchroom, yes, theLunchroom.
(13:05):
Kev Bell on his instagram pageyes, so we could put that in the
comments.
I'll make sure that I'll giveyou that information so we can
add that to the comments.
Yes, um, but he also wants.
He's also building a platformcalled the flower shop and that
is pretty much where he will besitting down with um or not just
athletes, actors or rappers,people that you know they're
(13:30):
always your greats have a great,and those greats that your
great have may not be so wellknown, but they're still great
in their own way.
So, like my husband isconsidered a great that not
everyone may know, but a lot ofpeople in the basketball world
knows the name kevin bell fromwhen he played basketball.
When I say a lot of people,it's like we can go to literally
(13:54):
branchville, south carolina,which we were in one time and
somebody saw him, andbranchville you can't even find
branchville, south Carolina onthe map.
So for someone to see him andknow who he was, it just you
know like.
So we're starting a programwhere we're kind of giving those
people flowers because thoseare the forgotten heroes.
(14:16):
You know they did great intheir lane.
They may not have necessarilymade it to the pinnacle of the
NBA or, you know, big moviescreens, but they did good for
where they came from.
So I'm assisting him withbuilding his platform, building
that community around.
You know, men that just want toshare love and give love.
(14:39):
So that's pretty much what he'sdoing.
So holding him accountable ismaking sure that we are
marketing, making sure thatwe're posting when we're
supposed to post, making surethat he's getting to the
lunchroom on time, making surethat we're reading.
You know, because as a client,you know, as we're building our
(14:59):
business, I want to make surethat he is working on himself as
well.
So making sure that he'sreading and watching podcasts
and, you know, walking andthings like that.
So those are some of the thingsthat I make sure that he is
doing and associated with whatwe're building.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
And then for you, what are you making sure you're
doing?
And then maybe give us just afew of the books that you found
to be very helpful for you withmanagement so I have not.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
I'm gonna be honest, I have not read any books yet
while managing um, management interms of this capacity because,
like I said, this is still new,I'm still learning a lot, um,
but I am managing, so I am doingthe job.
But, um books that I have read,more so for mindset, um, so,
(15:51):
like outwitting the devil bynapoleon hill, changed my life.
Um, um, the alchemist uh, wejust recently read that that
changed my life.
So, you know, reading booksthat are that changed my life.
So you know, reading books thatare that's expanding my mindset
, that's keeping me not trappedin what maybe I see, but
(16:11):
understanding that there issomething greater within me and
I have the gift and I can do itand I can do all things Because,
again, you know, I am a younggirl from Harlem, new York City.
So to think that I'm going tomanage a multimillionaire and
his brand, I need to make surethat I know that I can, you know
(16:33):
, and I know that I can.
So I need to keep feedingmyself that you can, you can,
you can in the Bible.
So those are the books that theBible definitely.
So those are some of the booksthat that um helped me you said
something very, uh, profound.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
You said I need to know that I can.
I need to make sure that mymindset is such that I know that
I can it.
How do you?
What have you recognized arethings that make you feel or
think that you can't, and thenwhat are you doing to combat
those things?
Speaker 2 (17:12):
So again, you know, I've told myself that I couldn't
my entire adult life.
So me overcoming depression andovercoming anxiety and low
self-esteem, you know I'mconstantly feeding myself.
So anytime I call it the innerme, that is the old me, those
(17:33):
old thoughts, anytime they tryto rear their ugly head, I'm
huge, huge, huge on words.
Words have power.
There's life and death in thepower of your tongue.
So anytime a thought comes tomind, I make sure that I don't
verbalize it, you know.
So I don't state anything thatI may be thinking it could be
(17:54):
negative.
So I speak the opposite.
So if a thought comes to my mindlike you can't, like you don't
have I don't have a collegedegree I have some college, you
know, I've worked at one companyfor so many years.
So anytime those thoughts likewhat do you think that you're
going to do, I remind myselfthat greater is me, that greater
is he that is within me, that Ican do all things through
(18:17):
Christ, who strengthens me.
So I feed that into.
I constantly affirm myselfconstantly.
Constantly I'm affirming myselfto remind myself that you can
do all things.
There is nothing that cannot bedone.
If God called you to it, hewill give you everything that
you need, every resource, everyperson, anything that you need,
(18:37):
you will have it.
So I constantly remind myselfof that.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Okay.
So while you're constantlyreminding yourself of that and
let's say you have then set upthe plan of this, thought comes
to my mind.
I'm not going to speak it.
I'm going to say the opposite,in victory through Jesus Christ.
What happens when the answer isno, it's not what you expected.
(19:04):
How do you approach?
What's your mindset withdealing with that?
Speaker 2 (19:10):
All things work together for God's good.
Come on here.
So there is no, so a no is okay.
Okay, god, that wasn't what wassupposed to happen, so I'm just
going to wait until what'ssupposed to happen is going to
happen.
So I always pray give me thestrength to endure whatever
(19:32):
season or whatever this is goingto bring on, because you know
storms will come Storms, this weknow for sure.
So I have to.
You know, I'm constantlypraying and saying God, help me
stand the rain, right, OK.
So give me the strength tostand the rain.
(19:53):
When you tell me no, even if Iwant to hear a yes, give me the
strength to know that you arethere.
And then there are times whereI feel doubtful.
So I have to ask forforgiveness because I know that,
no matter what it may look likeall things, it doesn't say some
, it doesn't say a few, it saysall things, meaning every single
(20:16):
thing will work together forGod's good.
So I just ask God to give methe strength until I see his
good, because I know it's goingto come.
So that is exactly how I endureand I speak that I say it.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
How important is it that you speak and say it?
Because I noticed that you said, listen, I think something, but
I don't allow myself toverbalize it.
And then you just said but thenI verbalize the opposite thing.
The thing that will that, that,that expectation of good that
we should have as children ofthe most high.
(20:53):
How important is that to you?
The speech.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
So the scripture said that there's life and death in
the tongue, not in the throat,that there's life and death in
the tongue, not in the thought.
So because there's life anddeath in the tongue, I use my
tongue to always give life, notmy thoughts.
So anytime a thought may comein, I use my tongue to kill that
thought.
So it's extremely important tospeak it.
(21:21):
It's extremely important sothat your voice, especially if
you're going through something,the praise confuses the enemy,
so that praise comes from yourmouth, and it's so important.
Words are powerful.
I really did not understand howpowerful words were and words
(21:44):
are powerful.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Where did that change come from?
That the words are powerful foryou?
Speaker 2 (21:50):
This last year, I really, you know, I went through
a healing journey.
I went through a moment ofsuicide ideation last year,
which you know, like I said, Isuffered with depression and
anxiety a big chunk of my adultlife and last year was one of
(22:10):
the best summers, but it wasjust, for some reason, I was
going in a really dark place andI cried out to God because the
idea of me even wanting to leavemy family just really woke me
up in that moment, like OK, whatis happening?
You know, I'm trying everythingmy way.
(22:30):
I'm trying to do everything theway that I want to do it.
What do I need to do?
So God said I need you to healmentally, physically,
emotionally, spiritually andfinancially.
And um, but he said I need youto do that, but I want you to.
You're trying to do everythingat the same time, which is
causing so much commotion andand just a mess.
(22:51):
I need you to first focus onyour physical, cause.
That was the biggest thing forme focus on your physical.
But in the focusing on yourphysical, it needs a
conversation that God had withme.
So, as I'm talking, this is howGod is speaking to me.
And he said I need you to focuson your physical, but I need you
to start with saying what youcan do.
So I need you to start byspeaking that you can get to
(23:15):
your goal, because so that'swhere it really started, from
the physical.
So I started stating that Iwill lose weight.
I can lose weight.
You know, god can do all things.
And then I thought it was inweight, which was a miracle in
itself, um, and then I just waslike, okay, this is real, this
is real, this is real.
Your words have power.
(23:36):
So I just stuck with that andit's real.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
That is very real.
It's, uh, amazing to me thatyour journey began with the
physical.
Yeah, but the physicalconnected to the spiritual, the
physical connected to theemotional, the physical
connected to the mental.
You're focused on the physicalbut at the same time, you're
(24:01):
bringing everything into itsmission to be able to move
forward with that physical.
Speaker 2 (24:08):
Subtly.
Also it wasn't like you know,the mindset and everything.
God placed me in a wonderfulplace, weight loss community.
At the time I had a virtualtrainer and he was huge on
mindset.
He was huge.
His thing was if you don't thinkyou can, if you don't like,
(24:30):
it's not going to happen, likeit doesn't matter, I don't care
what gym, it's not going tohappen.
So he I you know I give him alot of credit in assisting and
really waking me up to justbelieve in, like, before you
step foot in the gym you have toknow and understand that you
can and you will get to yourgoal.
(24:52):
And so it was.
It wasn't like I was trying todo everything I want at one time
, it was just the way that Godhad did everything.
I was on this physical journey.
I joined the community by theagain, by the grace of God.
It was nobody but God and hehad this kind of mindset thing
(25:15):
going and it, just like you said, it just encompassed everything
the physical, the spiritual,the emotional, and it was just
the physical was the main thing.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
I appreciate if you like, share, subscribe, give it
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on Instagram and Facebook atMarion Swingler.
Thank you so much.
So let's return back to ourrecently, presently, recently,
presently.
If you're not watching thislive, then it's our now
(25:45):
Broadcast.
Yes, what's Bell Listen?
Ceo of the Bell brand.
I just want people to know thatyou're managing more than just
your husband.
I'm just saying I just want togo ahead and get into it,
because managing your husband isnot the only thing you do.
(26:05):
So let the people know how doyou?
What are you managing?
What else in your household areyou managing?
Speaker 2 (26:14):
So you know, I host a podcast called Perfect
Imperfections with Kalia Belland there I share the tips, the
tools and the mindset that I'veused as I've from depression,
anxiety and low self-esteem.
So I use that platform to sharemy story, share my truth, my
lessons, my losses, and this isall in real time.
So it could be something thathappened on a Monday and I wake
(26:37):
up the next day like, let merecord this episode and I'm just
evolving through there tellingmy story and speaking my truth.
But we're also building anapparel brand which we are
selling, merchandise the Bellbrand, and this is actually one
of our shirts that we got thatwe're dropping on Black Friday,
(26:58):
and it says never bet againstthe culture.
It has a quote on the back um,from robert smith, which is the
black um billionaire, and itsays you are enough to be who
you want to be and to createwhat you want to create.
Um, so my husband's shirt is.
But we have two quotes um.
(27:19):
His shirt says some people wantit to happen, some wish it
would happen, others make ithappen by Michael Jordan.
So we wanted to have apparelthat kind of just spread love.
When you wear our clothes,you're making a statement.
You're making a statement ofresilience, You're making a
statement of authentic, You'remaking a statement of
(27:44):
originality.
You know, the Never Bet Againstthe Culture is kind of like our
play on.
We root for everybody Black.
You know, we are the culture,we are the seasoning to
everything.
You know our music, our sports,the way we dress, like just
everything we bring the flavor.
(28:06):
So we wanted to honor that andwe want to remind our people of
just that.
We are amazing, beautiful,magical people and we want to
share that story through ourapparel.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
Amazing, beautiful, magical people want to share
that through our apparel.
Amazing, beautiful, magicalpeople want to share that
through our apparel.
You also talked about yourpodcast, but I'm telling you
there is something a little bitsmaller in your household that
you manage.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
Oh, my son, yes, yeah .
So my son, carter Chronicles,he is now, he is the true CEO of
the Bell brand and that justgoes to show, you know, again,
we tell the story of how I healand healed our household and
just what it does to ourchildren when we become whole
individuals.
(28:56):
Because his mind is I want todo this, I'm going to do this.
You, you know he is tappinginto his creativity.
So, carter Chronicles, we arekind of just building that space
, because originally he wouldread, um, books on YouTube, um,
where, um, he would tell youknow, read children's stories.
But now he wants to go into, ofcourse, gaming.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait so you're not saying
okay, so I misunderstood.
You said he would read books onyoutube.
I in my mind, I just need youto know what I heard.
What I heard was he would playyoutube, where they had his own
platform where he read a book toothers.
(29:45):
Yes, how old did he start?
Speaker 2 (29:48):
He's like so he's 10 now, so I think he might have
been what like 8?
So he might have been like 7 or8.
Yeah, because he always loves.
So my son is a bookworm and heloves to read and so you know we
read and he also has apersonality.
Carter is a very main characterand we were just trying to
(30:11):
figure out what we were going todo with him, because he's also
a sports fanatic.
So he wanted to have a sportschannel and it wasn't, you know.
So we started with just readingbooks.
I was like, why don't you justread the children's books?
So he enjoyed it.
So he had a little YouTubechannel.
Well, not little, we don't doanything little at the Bell
Brand.
Come on here.
Okay.
(30:31):
So he had a YouTube channel.
Words have power, words havepower.
So he had a YouTube channel andon that channel he would read
some children's books.
He had a YouTube channel and onthat channel he would read some
children's books.
But now we're just now we'refiguring out how to build that
channel, but we are also in theprocess of creating a book.
We're still working on thatbook, so we haven't really
(30:55):
finalized that, but I'm excited.
I'm excited for that because,again, this is him, his
creativity and us workingtogether.
So we're building his YouTubeplatform and we're working on
his book.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
Okay.
So it took a true manager tolook at the client and say I
know this is what you want to do, but I know something you're
already perfected in.
Let's go with that thing whilewe set up the other things, and
so that way we can hit the floortoday with this thing you
(31:28):
already know how to do whileyou're perfecting the other
things to do.
What made you know that readingbooks?
Was it because I honestlyhaven't heard of kids online
reading books as a thing likethat's not a conversation piece
around the entrepreneurs that Italk with, even in the things
(31:50):
that they discuss about theirkids.
What made you know this isgoing to be easy peasy.
That is a manager Perfected.
This is going to be easy peasyfor you.
How did you?
Speaker 2 (32:01):
know that this is gonna be easy peasy for you.
How did you know that?
So I mean, because, again, Igot that main character and when
he, he wants to eventually gointo acting.
So when you read books you haveto.
You have characters and youknow inflections and things like
that.
So it was just kind of like astart, um, to go into speaking
(32:21):
in different characters andthings like that.
And it was just something whereyou know, again, he enjoyed
reading and I said you know, youconnect really well with the
camera, so let's start there.
You know, let's start there.
And he was like okay, and wehave about three episodes.
We weren't consistent,unfortunately, but we are
(32:42):
definitely, like I said,unfortunately, um, but we are
definitely, like I said, comingback and where we are building
his, his platform, and I'mexcited about that can I add
something?
Speaker 1 (32:52):
sure, always I don't.
I'm listen, I'm the idea queen.
I just want to say, sinceyou're saying he acts and that
he knows how to bring that,dramatize it so that it's an
interesting story, why won't heact sometimes?
Just drop special scenes wherehe acts something out well, I
mean, we definitely want to.
Speaker 2 (33:12):
We are discussing him like how to perform, putting
him into like the performance,because he wants to.
He was asking about going to aperforming arts middle school,
so we are looking to see how.
So I think that that would be areally good idea that I will,
um, you know, definitely ask him.
(33:32):
You know, let's create somestuff.
But I did.
I did state to him that heshould create his own, you know,
like kind of play ortheater-esque kind of thing.
So that is definitely somethingthat we could definitely look
into.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
I appreciate it, see, but now I'm doing the manager
thing, so I'm going to put myhat on.
I'm doing the manager thingwith you.
Listen, son, I apologize thatI'm all in your Kool-Aid, but
I'm telling you, I know theflavor.
Listen, the plays.
Like we were just discussingsomething he can do now,
something he can do later thosebooks he already loves.
(34:11):
Those books he already knows.
He's already literally with hisvoice, acting them out.
That would be an amazing thingto see him actually just take on
a character and just just putthose clips.
And I know you know how to doit.
I know you know how to do it.
(34:32):
My God, what skills have youpicked up as a manager that you
did not have before?
Cause it's totally different.
Now it's it's the actors.
Guild is turned upside down.
Now you know, with how thingsare done.
Um, social media has made it sothat even youtube it's made it
(34:55):
so that.
Listen, I have a network.
I have two podcasts running nowand discussing another one.
It's just now.
Things are in our hands.
What have you placed in yourhands to move your clients, your
clients, forward?
Speaker 2 (35:14):
So I mean, I think, anything where it's like the
editing and you know, like thatpiece of you know content
creation and stuff you know, solike just kind of learning the
tricks of the trade and likeanything of that.
You know that is not myministry.
However, you know, like I said,if God called you to it, he
(35:39):
will get you through it.
So, creating content, you knowI've been working on that and,
um, definitely the editing, I'vebeen working on that and yeah,
so that's the biggest thing,like just being the creator of
the editing.
However, as soon as we have theresources, I'm definitely going
to get somebody else to do itbut guess what?
Speaker 1 (35:59):
because you've done it yourself, you can now tell
them I want this, I want, I wantthis, I want this Now.
Is there anything else youthink that would look good?
Show me that.
But I'm definitely telling you,this is the baseline, this is
the minimum.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
That was one of the biggest things for me when it
came to that.
That was one of the biggestthings that I'm taking away from
my silent investor as I'mbuilding our business is to know
all pieces of your business.
Don't think that something istoo small for you to know.
I would always say to my team Idon't want one person to be the
(36:34):
most knowledgeable person,because anything can happen.
So I want to know every aspect.
I want to learn the finances, Iwant to learn the editing, I
want to learn the marketing.
I want to learn you know, eventhe manufacturing, like I want
to learn all of that so that youknow God forbid, anything
happens.
I will know as well as as wecontinue to grow and I would
(36:56):
still be able to say, hey,what's different over there?
That's not, you know, like Iwould still have an eye on
certain things.
So I'm good with us.
I'm you know as frustrating andit can be, and difficult it can
be, to manage all of, to juggleall of that.
These are the things where Isay, you know, I pull on my
(37:16):
faith and I ask God for thestrength because now I'm looking
at it as a positive, like Isaid, the more information.
That, I know, is better for mybusiness, you know.
So this is the learning I'mbuilding my brand so that when I
do get somebody else to do it,I would know exactly what that
somebody else is doing.
Yeah, so I'm good with it.
Speaker 1 (37:37):
Okay, okay.
So you are managing yourhusband, managing your son and
you have a podcast.
What does the Bell brandmanagement you as management?
What does that look like in thefuture?
What are your future plans?
Speaker 2 (37:59):
So my future plan is actually to have a management
company, the Mrs Brand.
So my desire is to be able tobe like the hub for other
managers.
I want to build like a networkof managers where they are able
to have their own clients.
(38:20):
And you know, I'm looking to beall global, not just, you know,
the United States, but globallyand specifically within our
community, because you know weare we're the biggest consumers.
However, when it comes to, youknow they market towards us, but
when it comes to us gettingwhat is due for us, you know
(38:43):
we're often overlooked and, andyou know, we get the crumbs.
So I'm looking to build a brandthat is again uplifting, and
well, not a brand, but amanagement company that we
uplift and we are putting backwithin our community and making
sure that we're getting what isowed to us, making sure that you
know we have people thatrepresent us, because you can't
(39:08):
get what I need if you don'treally know what I mean.
You know what I mean.
So having more of us in thatspace, that's what I want and I
want to have it, like I said,globally.
I want to have us in thecontinent of Africa, I want to
have us in Jamaica.
I want to have us in all over,all over.
That is my desire to have amanagement company that we help
(39:33):
build future managers.
Speaker 1 (39:36):
All right In your quest, endeavor, journey to that
big management company.
Let's go back to smallbeginnings.
Let's say I have a child and Iam that mom that's going.
How do I help them?
(39:56):
Where would you say I shouldstart to help my child?
To be able to groom them to bea client, meaning responsible,
accountable and serious aboutwhat they're doing, and to be
(40:17):
able to understand being in thepublic eye whenever they're in
that arena understand being inthe public eye whenever they're
in that arena.
Speaker 2 (40:33):
So first thing I would tell anyone is to
definitely find a mentor orcommunity or something that is
going to help guide you throughthat process.
So for me, you know, the morningmeetup, which is the community
that we are a part of, has beenpretty much that I'm able to go
and get coaching, I'm able tolive coaching, I'm able to get
information that is needed thatI can now take back home to do,
(40:56):
just like you said, theinformation that I can feed to
my son or to my husband.
So that, really honestly, Ithink that that is the answer
Having a mentor, having a coach,having someone in that space
that is able to answer thosequestions for you, to kind of
give you some direction, becausewhen you think of, you know,
(41:18):
the entertainment industry, soto speak, it definitely is
vultures out there, you know,and it can be again, like I said
especially to us, it can, youknow, be disrespectful in some
kind of way.
So having people that havealready walked in those doors or
(41:39):
walk, you know, been in thoserooms, and having a community of
like-minded people, itdefinitely helps and makes it
easier to make sure that I'mhitting every place.
You know, because I think thatwhen you think of entrepreneurs
and you think of buildingbusinesses or even management,
sometimes you miss things likemindset.
(42:02):
You miss the big of the innerwork.
Everyone wants to just get tothe bag and just chase the paper
.
So having a place that remindsyou to constantly do that inner
work and you get a lot ofanswers when you do the inner
work, you know.
So having some space like that,that really I would.
(42:23):
I would suggest anyone to finda mentor, a coach or community
that can help you in, in walkwith you while you're, you know,
building, there you go.
Speaker 1 (42:35):
A community coach, mentor, to help walk you while
you're building, which means youhave a strong foundation.
Yes, to have that strongfoundation to build up, you need
that strong foundation.
How did you come to put thosecomponents together?
(42:57):
Because you didn't come to MMUthe morning meetup, that
mastermind group, without theidea of what it is you were
doing.
Speaker 2 (43:09):
Well, honestly, the management.
That's why I said that themanagement was not the beginning
.
That was not in the beginning,it wasn't.
That's why I said it's a funnystory.
So you got to come to the afterparties to hear the funny story
.
Funny story so you got to cometo the after parties to hear the
funny story.
But, um, you know, when I joinedmorning meetup, it was I was in
a space of just God had putthis vision on me that I've
(43:34):
never.
You know, he started me at thejourney where it is always
important to write out whatyou're feeling, the desires of
your heart.
You know, um, it's important towrite out what you're feeling,
the desires of your heart.
You know, it's important towrite those out on paper.
And then God had me do anotherstep in asking me why I could
not attain those things.
So I was supposed to write out,I wrote out what I wanted in my
(43:54):
life, and then I had to writeout why I could not.
And when you write out why youcannot, there's really no reason
why you can't obtain some ofthe things that, no matter how
big and huge these things are,you can obtain it if you, you
know, set a plan to it.
So then I just started praying,asking God, like, well, how do
(44:17):
I even get?
Like?
I don't even know how to gethere, you know, because the
thing that he was putting in mymind was just like what, who?
Me, no, you know.
And that's how I entered thedoors of the morning meetup.
You know, god placed thatcommunity in my life and it just
(44:37):
started expanding.
And it's, you know, god isconstantly asking what more?
What you know, what can you do?
You know, like, I'm a big Godand you're my child, so you have
these big gifts and what canyou like?
That's it.
That's all you want to do.
All you want to do is take yourfamily on a vacation.
That's all you want to do.
(44:58):
You don't want to be able topay for another family's
vacation, you know, like thosekind of things.
And the morning meetup helped,like I said, open my mind to not
only is it possible, not onlyam I seeing people that look
like me doing these things, butnow you're giving me the lessons
(45:19):
and you're teaching me how toobtain it.
You know, it's one thing toknow that it's possible, but
it's a whole nother thing toknow how to get there.
So that morning meetup.
I started with just wanting tofigure out okay, what am I doing
?
How do I get what God hasplaced in my spirit?
And that's that's how themorning meetup started.
(45:39):
So I was just like a kid, like,okay, what am I going to do?
I'm here, lord.
Speaker 1 (45:46):
I'm going to go.
Yes, so it, it, it.
I can say I want to know what.
This is the same for you, thefriends that you had before you
joined a community ofentrepreneurs striving to build
and grow as you were, as you are, you have the same friends
(46:12):
before, or what is?
What are the caliber of friendsyou have now?
Speaker 2 (46:18):
So I've always been extremely blessed in the friend,
um, in the friend realm.
You know, god has always.
God has, and I always say that.
You know, I say I have 99problems, but a friend ain't one
, and um, so I've always beenblessed in that.
Now I, you know, obviously, asI grew um, you know it's funny
(46:44):
because I say that now that Ireally understand how God works
and what he does, I understandthat I had to walk through this
journey first.
So I had to walk through thisjourney first.
So I had to go through thesedoors.
I had to go through MMU, I hadto learn about LLCs and EINs and
building businesses andmarketing and how simple it is.
(47:04):
And I've been telling myfriends and they're just like,
okay, all right, you knowthey're just pushing me on, but
now they're like hey, kalia, doyou like this logo?
Hey, kay, do you like this?
You know, this is my businessname, and things like that.
So now my friends are startingto, you know get on with me.
(47:27):
Yeah, so they call me, for I'mthe reasonable friend.
So if somebody is ready to hidea body, they call me before
they even do something.
So God placed me in the rightspot, yeah.
Speaker 1 (47:45):
Yes, I love it.
Okay, olivia Pope, out here inthese streets, like seriously,
honestly, that is managing atits highest level.
All right, so you said it, wegot to get to this story, so
we're going to go ahead and haveto exit stage left and get to
(48:08):
this after party.
I am excited to hear this storyabout this beginning.
I'm excited to hear about howour healing healed our household
.
The funny story the healed the.
Speaker 2 (48:25):
How the the okay, I became his manager, but the our
healing healed our household.
Speaker 1 (48:34):
Yes, I yeah.
And then the husband clientyeah, no, we're not gonna skip
past that all right everybody,please come and join us in the
after party, but before we getout of here, listen, miss
branton, and and and after afterparty you going to find out why
she's Mrs Brand.
(48:55):
Mrs Brand, I would reallyappreciate if you would share
with the confident you familyhow they can have an opportunity
to glean from you to work withyou.
The floor is yours.
Speaker 2 (49:13):
So you can reach me at my website, which well you
can reach me on my website.
Which well you can reach me onmy email, which is my personal
email.
It is my full name, kalia bellk-a-l-i-a at bell b-e-l-l at
themrsbrandcom.
And you can also follow me oninstagram and tiktok, which is
(49:33):
my perfected imperfections.
Again, that's my perfectedimperfections on Instagram and
TikTok.
I share inspirational messagesthere, so make sure that you
follow and tap in and you canlisten to my podcast, which is
Perfect Imperfections with KaliaBell, and there I share with
you the tips, the tools and themindset that I've used as I've
(49:56):
healed from depression, anxietyand low self-esteem in real time
, so make sure that you tap in.
Oh, my website.
So we are dropping on BlackFriday, which is November 24th
2023.
Check us out atwwwthebellbrandnet, where you
can get some merch.
Never bet against the culture.
(50:16):
We have some wonderful,wonderful, amazing things coming
, so please make sure that youcheck us out again,
wwwthebellbrandnet.
That is where we boldlyencourage our community to live
legendary, and that's where youcan check me out at oh my
goodness.
Speaker 1 (50:34):
And that's where you can check me out at.
Oh my goodness.
And that's where you can checkme out at.
Listen, mama, you're doing alot of things.
For this to have been a year,Ma'am, for this to have been a
year, You're telling me you in ayear You're doing a podcast.
Your son is reading booksonline.
Your husband is now doing hispodcast on sports and
(50:55):
relationships.
Just all things Black men.
Yes, and you can take that coinit all things Black men, that
sounds amazing, yes, amazing.
And on top of that you got merchcoming out on the Friday for us
, oh, yeah.
Give yourself some applause.
(51:16):
That is amazing that you wereable to get that growth in a
year.
Awesome, awesome, awesome,awesome.
(51:38):
My God, redeeming the time isthe best way I can say that you
have.
You're redeeming the time, thetime that you felt was stole
from you in those those areasand times and spaces of life
where you were not healed.
So I am looking forward togetting into that in the after
party.
Everybody, give me just a moment.
Thank you, kalia, for beinghere.
Actually, I appreciate you.
Just stay right.
There're going to get straightto the after party after this.
Let me just tell everybodythank you so much for joining us
(52:02):
yet again.
Listen, in every episode thereare nuggets, there are things
that you could get that willhelp you.
You know what?
Actually, I didn't ask my lastquestion when she at.
Kalia.
Kalia, before you get out ofhere, can you give the confident
(52:27):
you audience family some tipson managing the management
behind the brand?
How do you keep everythingstraight for you?
How do you deal with everything?
You said some very profoundthings.
If you could just add one morething for them, I'd appreciate
it, and I'm sure they will.
Speaker 2 (52:45):
So I don't want to be the church kid, but I have to
say and I speak from experience,I don't speak from just saying
things that sounds trendy butprayer, that is my answer to
everything, and I know, you know, that a lot of people may not,
you know, feel like that is, ah,that's a common answer, but I,
(53:07):
that is my answer, that is mygo-to.
You know, I open my heart up toGod and I constantly speak to
him and I go to him for answers.
I go to him to make sure thatthose are doors that I should be
opening.
So my tip is to have that prayerlife.
Make sure that you are takingtime to talk to God and make
sure that you're taking time tobe silent and be still,
(53:30):
constantly, constantly moving,constantly doing as
entrepreneurs and as businesspeople.
Then, constantly doing asentrepreneurs and as business
people, I understand that thatis the thing, that is the cool
thing, but you have to be still.
You have to be still and knowso.
Prayer and being still areextremely important.
So those are my tips Make surethat you're talking to God and
(53:50):
make sure that you're sittingstill so that he can answer your
conversation, so that he cananswer the conversation.
Speaker 1 (53:58):
Yes, ma'am, make sure that you're talking to God,
wait a minute.
But on top of that, make sureyou're sitting still.
Speaker 2 (54:06):
So you can hear the answer.
Speaker 1 (54:07):
Oh, you can hear the answer.
My goodness, thank you, thankyou, thank you, thank you, thank
you, thank you for coming topour into the confident you
family.
Oh my goodness, oh my goodness.
All right guys, for real, thistime I am almost done.
(54:27):
One more thing If you are oryou know someone who is
suffering at the hands ofdomestic violence, please
contact Bethany House at1-888-80-HELPS, that's 4-3-5-7-7
, or the National DomesticViolence Hotline, 1-800-799-safe
(54:50):
, that's 7-2-3-3.
Why?
Because I want you to be safe.
My desire is that if there isanyone suffering at the hands of
domestic violence and they'reunder the sound of my voice, or
there's someone who knowssomeone, that they know that
there is somewhere safe, thatthey can go, that they can call,
that they can get a plan, thatthey can talk with someone, that
(55:12):
they can talk with someone,that they could reach out and at
least start that process ofgetting out.
Thank you, y'all.
Have a good night.
I am headed to the after party.
Hey there, marian Swingler of Confident you
Podcast.
How you doing Confident you.
I am excited tonight to havesomeone here to reveal an aspect
of being in business thatpeople really don't approach or
discuss or reveal how things aredone this way.
(00:20):
Have you ever, ever, as haveyou ever seen someone in your
family and you're like, oh mygoodness, you do that so well?
You are a master.
You should be known globallyfor that thing that you do.
That's so special that it'sonly you can do it the way that
(00:41):
you're doing it.
It the way that you're doing it, everyone would so appreciate.
People would actually pay tosee you do this, the way that
you do this.
But you really don't have amindset, an open vision, thought
of how you could help them getout there.
(01:01):
How can I help them get outthere?
How can I help them get outthere?
How can I help them be seen andbe known for that amazing thing
that they do?
Listen, this episode we'retalking to management behind the
brand.
Listen, someone needs to beaccountable.
(01:21):
Help hold you accountable forthat gift that you have to make
sure you're getting it out there, getting it in front of people,
so that those people that arehere to be able to appreciate
the things that you do, will beable to find you and see you,
listen.
That person to do that for youis a manager.
We have here none other thanthe one and only amazing manager
(01:45):
herself.
How are you gorgeous?
Speaker 2 (01:57):
amazing.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
I love that introduction listen, I believe
in giving honor where honor isdue giving people their flowers.
It's amazing.
I'm excited for everyone tohear your story, to hear how you
are management behind the brand.
I just think it's going to beinteresting.
(02:20):
Why don't you go ahead and tellpeople what brand this is?
Speaker 2 (02:24):
So my name is Kalia Bell and I am the manager and
CEO behind the brand, of theBell brand.
However, I actually manage myhusband, who is Kevin Bell, so
I'm really excited.
This is a new endeavor and anew adventure for us, and I'm
just grateful that God evenplaced us in this space right
(02:48):
now.
So I I'm I'm really excited,I'm excited.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
That's.
I'm excited because it'ssomething for you to see,
something special in someone,but it's totally different for
you to go.
Listen, I'm gonna help you walkthis thing out.
I believe that this is valuable, that you're valuable and your
value is important to some, toother people, and I want to make
(03:12):
sure that you have theopportunity to share that with
them.
So how do you what?
Managing your husband?
Listen, we're going to get intothat later.
Your husband, listen, we'regoing to get into that later.
We're going to get into thatlater.
Listen, tune into the afterparty for the real digs on the
relationship component of thismanaging your husband.
(03:38):
Okay, make sure you tune intothe after party, but right now,
what we're going to talk aboutis that management behind the
brand.
Now, you are that managementbehind the brand.
Who are you?
How did you determine this isworth managing, this is worth
taking the time to invest?
Speaker 2 (04:00):
So my husband, he was a big time basketball player in
New York City, in Harlem, newYork.
So we're originally from Harlem, new York, we live in Maryland
now and he was a big-timecitywide basketball player,
known really across the countryin his high school and college
days.
And my husband has such apassion for sports but it's not,
(04:25):
you know, like you know a lotof sports fanatics, but it's
just something about, you know,my husband, where his knowledge,
his knowledge, like he's ahistorian.
And when I say historian, youwill have older people slapping
him in the middle of the streetlike, hey, did you see that game
?
So you have older guys tappingin and when I say older guys I
(04:45):
mean my dad's age and you knowolder, even down to like the
younger guys like my son's age,my son's friend's age, you know,
tapping in and asking him aboutthe game and who does he think?
And it just always wasintriguing to me because I'm
like everybody comes to you,like everyone comes to you, you
have something, something there.
(05:06):
There's something special aboutyour love for sports.
You know, outside of justyelling at the TV all the time,
I'm like, listen, this couldmake us some money, this could
really.
Let's make some money behindthis, and I say that honestly
because we used to have, when welived in New York City.
(05:29):
We would always have peopleover at the house.
When I say all the time, peoplewould just come over again, of
all ages.
Or I had people, young and old,would come over to watch the
games with him and it was just.
It's just.
You can just see how peoplerespond to him when it comes to
sports and everything.
So I'm like you have a voicethat people want to hear and we
(05:50):
need to get you out there.
And it was an easy transitionbecause, as a wife, you know I
manage the home anyway.
So I'm like I'm just going tomanage you.
I'm just going to manage you.
I didn't really ask.
I didn't really ask.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
I didn't really ask, it just went that way.
So what experience in your pastdo you have with managing
someone?
Speaker 2 (06:16):
So I was a team leader at my current silent
investor and so that I was aleader of a team, so I was, you
know, managing my associates andthings like that.
So I have the management aspectfrom a corporation, you know,
knowing how to lead, knowing howto coach, knowing how to hold
(06:41):
people accountable.
You know that.
And now so just transferringthat from you know, the
corporate to now having to dothat for my own business Again,
it's just an easy transitionbecause I do it on my day-to-day
basis.
So now I'm just taking thethings that I learned in
leadership there and I'm justapplying it to lead, to assist
(07:03):
in his career.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
To assist in his career.
To assist in his career, sojust the management of
everything.
I would think that, sincemanaging in corporate would be
totally different from managingin Totally, what is that totally
different Like?
(07:26):
What do you think it lookedlike in a corporation and what
is it looking like now for youto be one on one managing
someone?
Speaker 2 (07:36):
So the biggest thing is, especially when you are
going into business by yourself,the biggest thing is having
worked under someone.
I'm, you know I'm, they'reresponsible for me, so to speak.
You know, so I am answering tosomeone, so now I am the answer
to someone, so you know that.
(07:57):
That is that's where thedifference, that's where the
difference is, where I have fullcontrol, you know well, not
full control, because I stillhe's still my client, you know,
even though that's my husband, Iessentially work for him.
So I don't have full control oras much control as I would like
(08:18):
to have, but you know it'sstill.
It's more of me, more you knowme having to do an answer for
within myself than having toanswer to someone else.
So, removing being havingsomeone else responsible,
removing having to work forsomeone else and having to be my
(08:40):
business, my like, you know menow being the corporate, me now
being the real boss and thingslike that.
So that's the biggest thing.
Like I am, I am the answer andI'm not answering to anyone else
.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Hmm, I am the answer.
I am not answering to anyone.
So how did?
Were you always a leader, likeas a child?
Could you see where this mayhave blossomed in you to be that
type of boss?
Speaker 2 (09:12):
So I'm going to be completely honest who I am today
is not who I was this time lastyear.
So the answer to that is no.
This is really a one year, Iwould say within a one year
journey.
My story kind of starts with meovercoming depression, anxiety
and low self-esteem.
(09:33):
So that's actually how I gotinto this taking the time to
really fully know who I am,knowing who I am, and God
started just implanting all ofthe gifts that were there but I
did not see as gifts.
Well, I took for granted, um,and God just kind of put
(09:55):
everything together and it's afunny story how it became that I
was going to be his manager.
Um, I want to save that for theafter party.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
Sure, that story I definitely.
How you became his manager issomething that, because I think
that goes with the relationshipof him being your husband and
your client.
Yes, so how you became hismanager is definitely something
I want to delve into.
I just being a manager, whatwould you say are the most
(10:31):
important things that you'reresponsible for as a manager,
just as labeling yourselfmanager.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Holding him accountable.
You know, I think that I thinkanytime you're in any leadership
position, it's extremelyimportant to hold your team,
your client, accountable, makingsure that you know I can only
go so far, as far as you want togo.
You know, like my job as yourmanager is not to.
(11:06):
You know, pull the buggy.
You know you need to be drivingit and I'm just assisting you
where you need to go as you'redriving it.
So I need to hold youaccountable.
So if you said that you'regoing to do something at a
certain time, my expectation isthat it will be done at that
time.
So that's one of the biggestthings for me is to make sure
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that I am holding himaccountable.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Okay that you're holding him accountable.
Now, there are things thatyou're holding him accountable
for.
How do you, as a manager, setup those things?
You're saying that a year, thisis just a year for you in this
position, in this role, actingin this capacity.
What is it that you're settingup?
(11:52):
What is it that you had to doto make sure there are things to
set up for him to beaccountable for?
Speaker 2 (11:58):
So well, first let me just say what he does.
My husband is.
I'm helping him build his brand, which is he has two brands
that he's working on.
He has the Lunchroom, which isa weekly live programming that
he does every week, monday,wednesday and Friday at 1230 pm
Eastern Standard Time on hissocial media, where he pretty
(12:22):
much has like a panel and theyjust discuss sports.
So you know, I don't want tosay just sports, because men
come on and they have differentconversations with family and
things like that, but it's theelement of how we used to be in
the lunchroom.
You know we're 90s babies, soyou know the lunchroom used to
be our place to everythingSocialize with your friends.
(12:44):
You know the Martin show thatcame on last night.
Did you see the game, did you?
You know, did you listen to thenew album?
So those kinds of elements wewant to bring back.
So that's what he's doingLunchtime, instagram, 1230 PM
Eastern Standard Time.
What's that site?
It's called the Lunchroom.
The Lunchroom, yes, theLunchroom.
(13:05):
Kev Bell on his instagram pageyes, so we could put that in the
comments.
I'll make sure that I'll giveyou that information so we can
add that to the comments.
Yes, um, but he also wants.
He's also building a platformcalled the flower shop and that
is pretty much where he will besitting down with um or not just
athletes, actors or rappers,people that you know they're
(13:30):
always your greats have a great,and those greats that your
great have may not be so wellknown, but they're still great
in their own way.
So, like my husband isconsidered a great that not
everyone may know, but a lot ofpeople in the basketball world
knows the name kevin bell fromwhen he played basketball.
When I say a lot of people,it's like we can go to literally
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branchville, south carolina,which we were in one time and
somebody saw him, andbranchville you can't even find
branchville, south Carolina onthe map.
So for someone to see him andknow who he was, it just you
know like.
So we're starting a programwhere we're kind of giving those
people flowers because thoseare the forgotten heroes.
(14:16):
You know they did great intheir lane.
They may not have necessarilymade it to the pinnacle of the
NBA or, you know, big moviescreens, but they did good for
where they came from.
So I'm assisting him withbuilding his platform, building
that community around.
You know, men that just want toshare love and give love.
(14:39):
So that's pretty much what he'sdoing.
So holding him accountable ismaking sure that we are
marketing, making sure thatwe're posting when we're
supposed to post, making surethat he's getting to the
lunchroom on time, making surethat we're reading.
You know, because as a client,you know, as we're building our
(14:59):
business, I want to make surethat he is working on himself as
well.
So making sure that he'sreading and watching podcasts
and, you know, walking andthings like that.
So those are some of the thingsthat I make sure that he is
doing and associated with whatwe're building.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
And then for you, what are you making sure you're
doing?
And then maybe give us just afew of the books that you found
to be very helpful for you withmanagement so I have not.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
I'm gonna be honest, I have not read any books yet
while managing um, management interms of this capacity because,
like I said, this is still new,I'm still learning a lot, um,
but I am managing, so I am doingthe job.
But, um books that I have read,more so for mindset, um, so,
(15:51):
like outwitting the devil bynapoleon hill, changed my life.
Um, um, the alchemist uh, wejust recently read that that
changed my life.
So, you know, reading booksthat are that changed my life.
So you know, reading books thatare that's expanding my mindset
, that's keeping me not trappedin what maybe I see, but
(16:11):
understanding that there issomething greater within me and
I have the gift and I can do itand I can do all things Because,
again, you know, I am a younggirl from Harlem, new York City.
So to think that I'm going tomanage a multimillionaire and
his brand, I need to make surethat I know that I can, you know
(16:33):
, and I know that I can.
So I need to keep feedingmyself that you can, you can,
you can in the Bible.
So those are the books that theBible definitely.
So those are some of the booksthat that um helped me you said
something very, uh, profound.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
You said I need to know that I can.
I need to make sure that mymindset is such that I know that
I can it.
How do you?
What have you recognized arethings that make you feel or
think that you can't, and thenwhat are you doing to combat
those things?
Speaker 2 (17:12):
So again, you know, I've told myself that I couldn't
my entire adult life.
So me overcoming depression andovercoming anxiety and low
self-esteem, you know I'mconstantly feeding myself.
So anytime I call it the innerme, that is the old me, those
(17:33):
old thoughts, anytime they tryto rear their ugly head, I'm
huge, huge, huge on words.
Words have power.
There's life and death in thepower of your tongue.
So anytime a thought comes tomind, I make sure that I don't
verbalize it, you know.
So I don't state anything thatI may be thinking it could be
(17:54):
negative.
So I speak the opposite.
So if a thought comes to my mindlike you can't, like you don't
have I don't have a collegedegree I have some college, you
know, I've worked at one companyfor so many years.
So anytime those thoughts likewhat do you think that you're
going to do, I remind myselfthat greater is me, that greater
is he that is within me, that Ican do all things through
(18:17):
Christ, who strengthens me.
So I feed that into.
I constantly affirm myselfconstantly.
Constantly I'm affirming myselfto remind myself that you can
do all things.
There is nothing that cannot bedone.
If God called you to it, hewill give you everything that
you need, every resource, everyperson, anything that you need,
(18:37):
you will have it.
So I constantly remind myselfof that.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
Okay.
So while you're constantlyreminding yourself of that and
let's say you have then set upthe plan of this, thought comes
to my mind.
I'm not going to speak it.
I'm going to say the opposite,in victory through Jesus Christ.
What happens when the answer isno, it's not what you expected.
(19:04):
How do you approach?
What's your mindset withdealing with that?
Speaker 2 (19:10):
All things work together for God's good.
Come on here.
So there is no, so a no is okay.
Okay, god, that wasn't what wassupposed to happen, so I'm just
going to wait until what'ssupposed to happen is going to
happen.
So I always pray give me thestrength to endure whatever
(19:32):
season or whatever this is goingto bring on, because you know
storms will come Storms, this weknow for sure.
So I have to.
You know, I'm constantlypraying and saying God, help me
stand the rain, right, OK.
So give me the strength tostand the rain.
(19:53):
When you tell me no, even if Iwant to hear a yes, give me the
strength to know that you arethere.
And then there are times whereI feel doubtful.
So I have to ask forforgiveness because I know that,
no matter what it may look likeall things, it doesn't say some
, it doesn't say a few, it saysall things, meaning every single
(20:16):
thing will work together forGod's good.
So I just ask God to give methe strength until I see his
good, because I know it's goingto come.
So that is exactly how I endureand I speak that I say it.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
How important is it that you speak and say it?
Because I noticed that you said, listen, I think something, but
I don't allow myself toverbalize it.
And then you just said but thenI verbalize the opposite thing.
The thing that will that, that,that expectation of good that
we should have as children ofthe most high.
(20:53):
How important is that to you?
The speech.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
So the scripture said that there's life and death in
the tongue, not in the throat,that there's life and death in
the tongue, not in the thought.
So because there's life anddeath in the tongue, I use my
tongue to always give life, notmy thoughts.
So anytime a thought may comein, I use my tongue to kill that
thought.
So it's extremely important tospeak it.
(21:21):
It's extremely important sothat your voice, especially if
you're going through something,the praise confuses the enemy,
so that praise comes from yourmouth, and it's so important.
Words are powerful.
I really did not understand howpowerful words were and words
(21:44):
are powerful.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Where did that change come from?
That the words are powerful foryou?
Speaker 2 (21:50):
This last year, I really, you know, I went through
a healing journey.
I went through a moment ofsuicide ideation last year,
which you know, like I said, Isuffered with depression and
anxiety a big chunk of my adultlife and last year was one of
(22:10):
the best summers, but it wasjust, for some reason, I was
going in a really dark place andI cried out to God because the
idea of me even wanting to leavemy family just really woke me
up in that moment, like OK, whatis happening?
You know, I'm trying everythingmy way.
(22:30):
I'm trying to do everything theway that I want to do it.
What do I need to do?
So God said I need you to healmentally, physically,
emotionally, spiritually andfinancially.
And um, but he said I need youto do that, but I want you to.
You're trying to do everythingat the same time, which is
causing so much commotion andand just a mess.
(22:51):
I need you to first focus onyour physical, cause.
That was the biggest thing forme focus on your physical.
But in the focusing on yourphysical, it needs a
conversation that God had withme.
So, as I'm talking, this is howGod is speaking to me.
And he said I need you to focuson your physical, but I need you
to start with saying what youcan do.
So I need you to start byspeaking that you can get to
(23:15):
your goal, because so that'swhere it really started, from
the physical.
So I started stating that Iwill lose weight.
I can lose weight.
You know, god can do all things.
And then I thought it was inweight, which was a miracle in
itself, um, and then I just waslike, okay, this is real, this
is real, this is real.
Your words have power.
(23:36):
So I just stuck with that andit's real.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
That is very real.
It's, uh, amazing to me thatyour journey began with the
physical.
Yeah, but the physicalconnected to the spiritual, the
physical connected to theemotional, the physical
connected to the mental.
You're focused on the physicalbut at the same time, you're
(24:01):
bringing everything into itsmission to be able to move
forward with that physical.
Speaker 2 (24:08):
Subtly.
Also it wasn't like you know,the mindset and everything.
God placed me in a wonderfulplace, weight loss community.
At the time I had a virtualtrainer and he was huge on
mindset.
He was huge.
His thing was if you don't thinkyou can, if you don't like,
(24:30):
it's not going to happen, likeit doesn't matter, I don't care
what gym, it's not going tohappen.
So he I you know I give him alot of credit in assisting and
really waking me up to justbelieve in, like, before you
step foot in the gym you have toknow and understand that you
can and you will get to yourgoal.
(24:52):
And so it was.
It wasn't like I was trying todo everything I want at one time
, it was just the way that Godhad did everything.
I was on this physical journey.
I joined the community by theagain, by the grace of God.
It was nobody but God and hehad this kind of mindset thing
(25:15):
going and it, just like you said, it just encompassed everything
the physical, the spiritual,the emotional, and it was just
the physical was the main thing.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
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Thank you so much.
So let's return back to ourrecently, presently, recently,
presently.
If you're not watching thislive, then it's our now
(25:45):
Broadcast.
Yes, what's Bell Listen?
Ceo of the Bell brand.
I just want people to know thatyou're managing more than just
your husband.
I'm just saying I just want togo ahead and get into it,
because managing your husband isnot the only thing you do.
(26:05):
So let the people know how doyou?
What are you managing?
What else in your household areyou managing?
Speaker 2 (26:14):
So you know, I host a podcast called Perfect
Imperfections with Kalia Belland there I share the tips, the
tools and the mindset that I'veused as I've from depression,
anxiety and low self-esteem.
So I use that platform to sharemy story, share my truth, my
lessons, my losses, and this isall in real time.
So it could be something thathappened on a Monday and I wake
(26:37):
up the next day like, let merecord this episode and I'm just
evolving through there tellingmy story and speaking my truth.
But we're also building anapparel brand which we are
selling, merchandise the Bellbrand, and this is actually one
of our shirts that we got thatwe're dropping on Black Friday,
(26:58):
and it says never bet againstthe culture.
It has a quote on the back um,from robert smith, which is the
black um billionaire, and itsays you are enough to be who
you want to be and to createwhat you want to create.
Um, so my husband's shirt is.
But we have two quotes um.
(27:19):
His shirt says some people wantit to happen, some wish it
would happen, others make ithappen by Michael Jordan.
So we wanted to have apparelthat kind of just spread love.
When you wear our clothes,you're making a statement.
You're making a statement ofresilience, You're making a
statement of authentic, You'remaking a statement of
(27:44):
originality.
You know, the Never Bet Againstthe Culture is kind of like our
play on.
We root for everybody Black.
You know, we are the culture,we are the seasoning to
everything.
You know our music, our sports,the way we dress, like just
everything we bring the flavor.
(28:06):
So we wanted to honor that andwe want to remind our people of
just that.
We are amazing, beautiful,magical people and we want to
share that story through ourapparel.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
Amazing, beautiful, magical people want to share
that through our apparel.
Amazing, beautiful, magicalpeople want to share that
through our apparel.
You also talked about yourpodcast, but I'm telling you
there is something a little bitsmaller in your household that
you manage.
Speaker 2 (28:36):
Oh, my son, yes, yeah .
So my son, carter Chronicles,he is now, he is the true CEO of
the Bell brand and that justgoes to show, you know, again,
we tell the story of how I healand healed our household and
just what it does to ourchildren when we become whole
individuals.
(28:56):
Because his mind is I want todo this, I'm going to do this.
You, you know he is tappinginto his creativity.
So, carter Chronicles, we arekind of just building that space
, because originally he wouldread, um, books on YouTube, um,
where, um, he would tell youknow, read children's stories.
But now he wants to go into, ofcourse, gaming.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait so you're not saying
okay, so I misunderstood.
You said he would read books onyoutube.
I in my mind, I just need youto know what I heard.
What I heard was he would playyoutube, where they had his own
platform where he read a book toothers.
(29:45):
Yes, how old did he start?
Speaker 2 (29:48):
He's like so he's 10 now, so I think he might have
been what like 8?
So he might have been like 7 or8.
Yeah, because he always loves.
So my son is a bookworm and heloves to read and so you know we
read and he also has apersonality.
Carter is a very main characterand we were just trying to
(30:11):
figure out what we were going todo with him, because he's also
a sports fanatic.
So he wanted to have a sportschannel and it wasn't, you know.
So we started with just readingbooks.
I was like, why don't you justread the children's books?
So he enjoyed it.
So he had a little YouTubechannel.
Well, not little, we don't doanything little at the Bell
Brand.
Come on here.
Okay.
(30:31):
So he had a YouTube channel.
Words have power, words havepower.
So he had a YouTube channel andon that channel he would read
some children's books.
He had a YouTube channel and onthat channel he would read some
children's books.
But now we're just now we'refiguring out how to build that
channel, but we are also in theprocess of creating a book.
We're still working on thatbook, so we haven't really
(30:55):
finalized that, but I'm excited.
I'm excited for that because,again, this is him, his
creativity and us workingtogether.
So we're building his YouTubeplatform and we're working on
his book.
Speaker 1 (31:07):
Okay.
So it took a true manager tolook at the client and say I
know this is what you want to do, but I know something you're
already perfected in.
Let's go with that thing whilewe set up the other things, and
so that way we can hit the floortoday with this thing you
(31:28):
already know how to do whileyou're perfecting the other
things to do.
What made you know that readingbooks?
Was it because I honestlyhaven't heard of kids online
reading books as a thing likethat's not a conversation piece
around the entrepreneurs that Italk with, even in the things
(31:50):
that they discuss about theirkids.
What made you know this isgoing to be easy peasy.
That is a manager Perfected.
This is going to be easy peasyfor you.
How did you?
Speaker 2 (32:01):
know that this is gonna be easy peasy for you.
How did you know that?
So I mean, because, again, Igot that main character and when
he, he wants to eventually gointo acting.
So when you read books you haveto.
You have characters and youknow inflections and things like
that.
So it was just kind of like astart, um, to go into speaking
(32:21):
in different characters andthings like that.
And it was just something whereyou know, again, he enjoyed
reading and I said you know, youconnect really well with the
camera, so let's start there.
You know, let's start there.
And he was like okay, and wehave about three episodes.
We weren't consistent,unfortunately, but we are
(32:42):
definitely, like I said,unfortunately, um, but we are
definitely, like I said, comingback and where we are building
his, his platform, and I'mexcited about that can I add
something?
Speaker 1 (32:52):
sure, always I don't.
I'm listen, I'm the idea queen.
I just want to say, sinceyou're saying he acts and that
he knows how to bring that,dramatize it so that it's an
interesting story, why won't heact sometimes?
Just drop special scenes wherehe acts something out well, I
mean, we definitely want to.
Speaker 2 (33:12):
We are discussing him like how to perform, putting
him into like the performance,because he wants to.
He was asking about going to aperforming arts middle school,
so we are looking to see how.
So I think that that would be areally good idea that I will,
um, you know, definitely ask him.
(33:32):
You know, let's create somestuff.
But I did.
I did state to him that heshould create his own, you know,
like kind of play ortheater-esque kind of thing.
So that is definitely somethingthat we could definitely look
into.
Speaker 1 (33:49):
I appreciate it, see, but now I'm doing the manager
thing, so I'm going to put myhat on.
I'm doing the manager thingwith you.
Listen, son, I apologize thatI'm all in your Kool-Aid, but
I'm telling you, I know theflavor.
Listen, the plays.
Like we were just discussingsomething he can do now,
something he can do later thosebooks he already loves.
(34:11):
Those books he already knows.
He's already literally with hisvoice, acting them out.
That would be an amazing thingto see him actually just take on
a character and just just putthose clips.
And I know you know how to doit.
I know you know how to do it.
(34:32):
My God, what skills have youpicked up as a manager that you
did not have before?
Cause it's totally different.
Now it's it's the actors.
Guild is turned upside down.
Now you know, with how thingsare done.
Um, social media has made it sothat even youtube it's made it
(34:55):
so that.
Listen, I have a network.
I have two podcasts running nowand discussing another one.
It's just now.
Things are in our hands.
What have you placed in yourhands to move your clients, your
clients, forward?
Speaker 2 (35:14):
So I mean, I think, anything where it's like the
editing and you know, like thatpiece of you know content
creation and stuff you know, solike just kind of learning the
tricks of the trade and likeanything of that.
You know that is not myministry.
However, you know, like I said,if God called you to it, he
(35:39):
will get you through it.
So, creating content, you knowI've been working on that and,
um, definitely the editing, I'vebeen working on that and yeah,
so that's the biggest thing,like just being the creator of
the editing.
However, as soon as we have theresources, I'm definitely going
to get somebody else to do itbut guess what?
Speaker 1 (35:59):
because you've done it yourself, you can now tell
them I want this, I want, I wantthis, I want this Now.
Is there anything else youthink that would look good?
Show me that.
But I'm definitely telling you,this is the baseline, this is
the minimum.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
That was one of the biggest things for me when it
came to that.
That was one of the biggestthings that I'm taking away from
my silent investor as I'mbuilding our business is to know
all pieces of your business.
Don't think that something istoo small for you to know.
I would always say to my team Idon't want one person to be the
(36:34):
most knowledgeable person,because anything can happen.
So I want to know every aspect.
I want to learn the finances, Iwant to learn the editing, I
want to learn the marketing.
I want to learn you know, eventhe manufacturing, like I want
to learn all of that so that youknow God forbid, anything
happens.
I will know as well as as wecontinue to grow and I would
(36:56):
still be able to say, hey,what's different over there?
That's not, you know, like Iwould still have an eye on
certain things.
So I'm good with us.
I'm you know as frustrating andit can be, and difficult it can
be, to manage all of, to juggleall of that.
These are the things where Isay, you know, I pull on my
(37:16):
faith and I ask God for thestrength because now I'm looking
at it as a positive, like Isaid, the more information.
That, I know, is better for mybusiness, you know.
So this is the learning I'mbuilding my brand so that when I
do get somebody else to do it,I would know exactly what that
somebody else is doing.
Yeah, so I'm good with it.
Speaker 1 (37:37):
Okay, okay.
So you are managing yourhusband, managing your son and
you have a podcast.
What does the Bell brandmanagement you as management?
What does that look like in thefuture?
What are your future plans?
Speaker 2 (37:59):
So my future plan is actually to have a management
company, the Mrs Brand.
So my desire is to be able tobe like the hub for other
managers.
I want to build like a networkof managers where they are able
to have their own clients.
(38:20):
And you know, I'm looking to beall global, not just, you know,
the United States, but globallyand specifically within our
community, because you know weare we're the biggest consumers.
However, when it comes to, youknow they market towards us, but
when it comes to us gettingwhat is due for us, you know
(38:43):
we're often overlooked and, andyou know, we get the crumbs.
So I'm looking to build a brandthat is again uplifting, and
well, not a brand, but amanagement company that we
uplift and we are putting backwithin our community and making
sure that we're getting what isowed to us, making sure that you
know we have people thatrepresent us, because you can't
(39:08):
get what I need if you don'treally know what I mean.
You know what I mean.
So having more of us in thatspace, that's what I want and I
want to have it, like I said,globally.
I want to have us in thecontinent of Africa, I want to
have us in Jamaica.
I want to have us in all over,all over.
That is my desire to have amanagement company that we help
(39:33):
build future managers.
Speaker 1 (39:36):
All right In your quest, endeavor, journey to that
big management company.
Let's go back to smallbeginnings.
Let's say I have a child and Iam that mom that's going.
How do I help them?
(39:56):
Where would you say I shouldstart to help my child?
To be able to groom them to bea client, meaning responsible,
accountable and serious aboutwhat they're doing, and to be
(40:17):
able to understand being in thepublic eye whenever they're in
that arena understand being inthe public eye whenever they're
in that arena.
Speaker 2 (40:33):
So first thing I would tell anyone is to
definitely find a mentor orcommunity or something that is
going to help guide you throughthat process.
So for me, you know, the morningmeetup, which is the community
that we are a part of, has beenpretty much that I'm able to go
and get coaching, I'm able tolive coaching, I'm able to get
information that is needed thatI can now take back home to do,
(40:56):
just like you said, theinformation that I can feed to
my son or to my husband.
So that, really honestly, Ithink that that is the answer
Having a mentor, having a coach,having someone in that space
that is able to answer thosequestions for you, to kind of
give you some direction, becausewhen you think of, you know,
(41:18):
the entertainment industry, soto speak, it definitely is
vultures out there, you know,and it can be again, like I said
especially to us, it can, youknow, be disrespectful in some
kind of way.
So having people that havealready walked in those doors or
(41:39):
walk, you know, been in thoserooms, and having a community of
like-minded people, itdefinitely helps and makes it
easier to make sure that I'mhitting every place.
You know, because I think thatwhen you think of entrepreneurs
and you think of buildingbusinesses or even management,
sometimes you miss things likemindset.
(42:02):
You miss the big of the innerwork.
Everyone wants to just get tothe bag and just chase the paper
.
So having a place that remindsyou to constantly do that inner
work and you get a lot ofanswers when you do the inner
work, you know.
So having some space like that,that really I would.
(42:23):
I would suggest anyone to finda mentor, a coach or community
that can help you in, in walkwith you while you're, you know,
building, there you go.
Speaker 1 (42:35):
A community coach, mentor, to help walk you while
you're building, which means youhave a strong foundation.
Yes, to have that strongfoundation to build up, you need
that strong foundation.
How did you come to put thosecomponents together?
(42:57):
Because you didn't come to MMUthe morning meetup, that
mastermind group, without theidea of what it is you were
doing.
Speaker 2 (43:09):
Well, honestly, the management.
That's why I said that themanagement was not the beginning
.
That was not in the beginning,it wasn't.
That's why I said it's a funnystory.
So you got to come to the afterparties to hear the funny story
.
Funny story so you got to cometo the after parties to hear the
funny story.
But, um, you know, when I joinedmorning meetup, it was I was in
a space of just God had putthis vision on me that I've
(43:34):
never.
You know, he started me at thejourney where it is always
important to write out whatyou're feeling, the desires of
your heart.
You know, um, it's important towrite out what you're feeling,
the desires of your heart.
You know, it's important towrite those out on paper.
And then God had me do anotherstep in asking me why I could
not attain those things.
So I was supposed to write out,I wrote out what I wanted in my
(43:54):
life, and then I had to writeout why I could not.
And when you write out why youcannot, there's really no reason
why you can't obtain some ofthe things that, no matter how
big and huge these things are,you can obtain it if you, you
know, set a plan to it.
So then I just started praying,asking God, like, well, how do
(44:17):
I even get?
Like?
I don't even know how to gethere, you know, because the
thing that he was putting in mymind was just like what, who?
Me, no, you know.
And that's how I entered thedoors of the morning meetup.
You know, god placed thatcommunity in my life and it just
(44:37):
started expanding.
And it's, you know, god isconstantly asking what more?
What you know, what can you do?
You know, like, I'm a big Godand you're my child, so you have
these big gifts and what canyou like?
That's it.
That's all you want to do.
All you want to do is take yourfamily on a vacation.
That's all you want to do.
(44:58):
You don't want to be able topay for another family's
vacation, you know, like thosekind of things.
And the morning meetup helped,like I said, open my mind to not
only is it possible, not onlyam I seeing people that look
like me doing these things, butnow you're giving me the lessons
(45:19):
and you're teaching me how toobtain it.
You know, it's one thing toknow that it's possible, but
it's a whole nother thing toknow how to get there.
So that morning meetup.
I started with just wanting tofigure out okay, what am I doing
?
How do I get what God hasplaced in my spirit?
And that's that's how themorning meetup started.
(45:39):
So I was just like a kid, like,okay, what am I going to do?
I'm here, lord.
Speaker 1 (45:46):
I'm going to go.
Yes, so it, it, it.
I can say I want to know what.
This is the same for you, thefriends that you had before you
joined a community ofentrepreneurs striving to build
and grow as you were, as you are, you have the same friends
(46:12):
before, or what is?
What are the caliber of friendsyou have now?
Speaker 2 (46:18):
So I've always been extremely blessed in the friend,
um, in the friend realm.
You know, god has always.
God has, and I always say that.
You know, I say I have 99problems, but a friend ain't one
, and um, so I've always beenblessed in that.
Now I, you know, obviously, asI grew um, you know it's funny
(46:44):
because I say that now that Ireally understand how God works
and what he does, I understandthat I had to walk through this
journey first.
So I had to walk through thisjourney first.
So I had to go through thesedoors.
I had to go through MMU, I hadto learn about LLCs and EINs and
building businesses andmarketing and how simple it is.
(47:04):
And I've been telling myfriends and they're just like,
okay, all right, you knowthey're just pushing me on, but
now they're like hey, kalia, doyou like this logo?
Hey, kay, do you like this?
You know, this is my businessname, and things like that.
So now my friends are startingto, you know get on with me.
(47:27):
Yeah, so they call me, for I'mthe reasonable friend.
So if somebody is ready to hidea body, they call me before
they even do something.
So God placed me in the rightspot, yeah.
Speaker 1 (47:45):
Yes, I love it.
Okay, olivia Pope, out here inthese streets, like seriously,
honestly, that is managing atits highest level.
All right, so you said it, wegot to get to this story, so
we're going to go ahead and haveto exit stage left and get to
(48:08):
this after party.
I am excited to hear this storyabout this beginning.
I'm excited to hear about howour healing healed our household
.
The funny story the healed the.
Speaker 2 (48:25):
How the the okay, I became his manager, but the our
healing healed our household.
Speaker 1 (48:34):
Yes, I yeah.
And then the husband clientyeah, no, we're not gonna skip
past that all right everybody,please come and join us in the
after party, but before we getout of here, listen, miss
branton, and and and after afterparty you going to find out why
she's Mrs Brand.
(48:55):
Mrs Brand, I would reallyappreciate if you would share
with the confident you familyhow they can have an opportunity
to glean from you to work withyou.
The floor is yours.
Speaker 2 (49:13):
So you can reach me at my website, which well you
can reach me on my website.
Which well you can reach me onmy email, which is my personal
email.
It is my full name, kalia bellk-a-l-i-a at bell b-e-l-l at
themrsbrandcom.
And you can also follow me oninstagram and tiktok, which is
(49:33):
my perfected imperfections.
Again, that's my perfectedimperfections on Instagram and
TikTok.
I share inspirational messagesthere, so make sure that you
follow and tap in and you canlisten to my podcast, which is
Perfect Imperfections with KaliaBell, and there I share with
you the tips, the tools and themindset that I've used as I've
(49:56):
healed from depression, anxietyand low self-esteem in real time
, so make sure that you tap in.
Oh, my website.
So we are dropping on BlackFriday, which is November 24th
2023.
Check us out atwwwthebellbrandnet, where you
can get some merch.
Never bet against the culture.
(50:16):
We have some wonderful,wonderful, amazing things coming
, so please make sure that youcheck us out again,
wwwthebellbrandnet.
That is where we boldlyencourage our community to live
legendary, and that's where youcan check me out at oh my
goodness.
Speaker 1 (50:34):
And that's where you can check me out at.
Oh my goodness.
And that's where you can checkme out at.
Listen, mama, you're doing alot of things.
For this to have been a year,Ma'am, for this to have been a
year, You're telling me you in ayear You're doing a podcast.
Your son is reading booksonline.
Your husband is now doing hispodcast on sports and
(50:55):
relationships.
Just all things Black men.
Yes, and you can take that coinit all things Black men, that
sounds amazing, yes, amazing.
And on top of that you got merchcoming out on the Friday for us
, oh, yeah.
Give yourself some applause.
(51:16):
That is amazing that you wereable to get that growth in a
year.
Awesome, awesome, awesome,awesome.
(51:38):
My God, redeeming the time isthe best way I can say that you
have.
You're redeeming the time, thetime that you felt was stole
from you in those those areasand times and spaces of life
where you were not healed.
So I am looking forward togetting into that in the after
party.
Everybody, give me just a moment.
Thank you, kalia, for beinghere.
Actually, I appreciate you.
Just stay right.
There're going to get straightto the after party after this.
Let me just tell everybodythank you so much for joining us
(52:02):
yet again.
Listen, in every episode thereare nuggets, there are things
that you could get that willhelp you.
You know what?
Actually, I didn't ask my lastquestion when she at.
Kalia.
Kalia, before you get out ofhere, can you give the confident
(52:27):
you audience family some tipson managing the management
behind the brand?
How do you keep everythingstraight for you?
How do you deal with everything?
You said some very profoundthings.
If you could just add one morething for them, I'd appreciate
it, and I'm sure they will.
Speaker 2 (52:45):
So I don't want to be the church kid, but I have to
say and I speak from experience,I don't speak from just saying
things that sounds trendy butprayer, that is my answer to
everything, and I know, you know, that a lot of people may not,
you know, feel like that is, ah,that's a common answer, but I,
(53:07):
that is my answer, that is mygo-to.
You know, I open my heart up toGod and I constantly speak to
him and I go to him for answers.
I go to him to make sure thatthose are doors that I should be
opening.
So my tip is to have that prayerlife.
Make sure that you are takingtime to talk to God and make
sure that you're taking time tobe silent and be still,
(53:30):
constantly, constantly moving,constantly doing as
entrepreneurs and as businesspeople.
Then, constantly doing asentrepreneurs and as business
people, I understand that thatis the thing, that is the cool
thing, but you have to be still.
You have to be still and knowso.
Prayer and being still areextremely important.
So those are my tips Make surethat you're talking to God and
(53:50):
make sure that you're sittingstill so that he can answer your
conversation, so that he cananswer the conversation.
Speaker 1 (53:58):
Yes, ma'am, make sure that you're talking to God,
wait a minute.
But on top of that, make sureyou're sitting still.
Speaker 2 (54:06):
So you can hear the answer.
Speaker 1 (54:07):
Oh, you can hear the answer.
My goodness, thank you, thankyou, thank you, thank you, thank
you, thank you for coming topour into the confident you
family.
Oh my goodness, oh my goodness.
All right guys, for real, thistime I am almost done.
(54:27):
One more thing If you are oryou know someone who is
suffering at the hands ofdomestic violence, please
contact Bethany House at1-888-80-HELPS, that's 4-3-5-7-7
, or the National DomesticViolence Hotline, 1-800-799-safe
(54:50):
, that's 7-2-3-3.
Why?
Because I want you to be safe.
My desire is that if there isanyone suffering at the hands of
domestic violence and they'reunder the sound of my voice, or
there's someone who knowssomeone, that they know that
there is somewhere safe, thatthey can go, that they can call,
that they can get a plan, thatthey can talk with someone, that
(55:12):
they can talk with someone,that they could reach out and at
least start that process ofgetting out.
Thank you, y'all.
Have a good night.
I am headed to the after party.
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