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When emotions hurt, most of us go straight into fix-it mode. We try to shut it down, numb it out, control our kids, or control the moment. But in this episode, Andee shares why the goal isn’t to eliminate “negative” emotions. The goal is to move through them so they can actually complete and release.

You’ll hear a real-life holiday-season story (cruise chaos, kids growing up, and all the tenderness that comes with it), plus practica...

This week we are diving into a concept that has completely changed the way I move through my life. It is the difference between low quality problems and high quality problems. Once you learn this, you cannot unsee it.

Over the last eighteen months I have been in a season packed with transitions. Business shifts, kids returning and launching, midlife changes, perimenopause, parenting big kids and teens, family health, the holidays, s...

This week, we are exploring what it really means to practice gratituding in the moment you are in. I’ll show you how shifting out of “life will feel better when…” into “this moment matters right now” can change your entire emotional experience.

Together, we will look at why it doesn’t get better than this, not because everything is perfect, but because the present is the only place your brain can regulate, create, and feel steady. T...

This week, I'm talking about one of the most important emotional skills we can build as parents. I call it Uncertainty Tolerance.

After a long Thanksgiving trip, a shut-down freeway, a surprise snowstorm, and a mountain of homemade pies, I found myself thinking about how much of parenting happens in the middle. The middle is the space where we have planted seeds and are waiting for results. The space where we want to feel calm ...

In this episode, we’re talking about something that sits at the heart of connected parenting: your emotional capacity.
 

Your ability to feel your own emotions directly shapes how you help your children navigate theirs.

I’m sharing the exact moment a client realized why she kept snapping at her kids, and how one shift opened the door to calmer, more connected parenting. We’ll walk through what emotional capacity really means, why...

In this episode, I’m diving into something you probably didn’t realize is shaping your parenting every single day…the quiet questions running in the background of your brain.

Most parents think the problem is their kids’ behavior. But so much of what we experience as “hard parenting moments” comes from the questions we’re unconsciously asking ourselves—questions like:

• Why can’t they just listen?
• What’s wrong with me?
• Why is everyth...

In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most powerful tools you already have but probably aren’t using enough: redeciding.

Redeciding is the moment you pause, question the default, and choose again—on purpose. It’s how you reinvent yourself, your parenting, your routines, and your reactions… without blowing up your whole life.

I share a few recent moments that pushed me to look at my old stories (like “I’m bad at tech” or “I ...

The people who transform their lives? They're not smarter than you. They're not more motivated. They're not reading more books or listening to more podcasts.

They're the ones showing up every single week to get coached on their real life.

Here's what I've discovered after seven years of teaching Connect Method Parenting: you can understand every concept I teach and still find yourself yelling when your k...

This episode is one I've been wanting to do for a while because thought work is truly the foundation of everything we do in Connect Method Parenting. And I know "thought work" might sound intimidating or like some woo-woo concept, but I promise you—it's the most practical, life-changing tool you can have as a parent.

The biggest problem isn't that we go into fight or flight. Nope...it's that we never co...

Today we’re talking about what it really means to guide your child through big emotions. Not fix them. Not rush them. Just guide them.

Think of yourself as the traffic director for your child’s emotions. You’re not trying to stop the traffic. You’re not trying to control it. You’re there to help it move safely in the right direction.

In this episode, we’ll talk about:

• Why your child’s emotions aren’t problems to solve
• How to know w...

Today we are talking about one of my favorite topics ever, the roots of attachment.

Nature’s answer to separation is not independence. It is connection.
 Deep, steady, invisible roots that help our kids and us hold on even when we are apart.

In this episode, I talk about the six layers of attachment that Dr. Gordon Neufeld describes, from the first root of the senses all the way down to being fully known and loved for who we are.

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We talk a lot about emotions, regulation, and connection—but underneath all of it is belief. What we believe about ourselves, our kids, and what’s possible determines everything that follows.

In this episode, I dive into the discipline of belief—the conscious, daily practice of choosing thoughts that align with who you’re becoming instead of who you’ve been. We’ll talk about why your nervous system clings to old stories, how to rewi...

This week we’re talking about weakness. The parts of us we try to hide, fix, or wish away. But what if weakness isn’t bad? What if it’s actually where our strength grows?

In this episode, I talk about how being hard on yourself never helps, how to see your weak spots with kindness, and why loving all parts of you makes you a calmer, happier parent.

You’ll learn how to:

• Stop beating yourself up when you mess up
• See your weakness as ...

If attachment (or togetherness) is the ultimate need, then facing separation is the ultimate threat. Wild, right?

In this episode, I’m diving into what that really means, why connection is the invisible gravity holding us (and our kids) together, and how the brain’s built-in systems for pursuit, alarm, and frustration kick in anytime that togetherness feels shaky.

We’re talking meltdowns, clinginess, people-pleasing, all of it, throu...

This is one of my favorite topics to teach: the powerful emotional journey from mad to sad. In this episode, I talk about what Dr. Gordon Neufeld calls the path of adaptation, the incredible shift from frustration and resistance to sadness and surrender.

I’ll walk you through the “traffic circle” of big emotions, how our brains look for exits when things don’t go our way, and why the second exit, the one where we change ourselves in...

Parenting isn’t tidy. It’s muddy, unpredictable, and sometimes really uncomfortable. In this episode, I’m talking about what it means to come alongside your child, especially when their choices, emotions, or beliefs stretch you in ways you didn’t expect.

We’ll explore how to stay close when everything in you wants to pull away, how to listen with curiosity instead of control, and how to build a relationship that can hold steady thro...

What if everything you've been doing to become a better parent has been backwards?

In this raw, real episode, I share a powerful revelation from my kitchen reorganization weekend (and a real-time call from my sick daughter) that changes everything about how we approach parenting goals.

You'll discover why your to-do lists and behavior strategies keep falling short—and the inside-out approach that actually creates lasting ch...

I've shared these ideas across 100+ episodes, but I wanted them all in one place. These are the concepts that make Connect Method Parenting different, the foundation of everything we do inside League and what I teach on this podcast.

I'm going through them fairly quickly in this episode, so if you want to go deeper on any of these, search the podcast or come ask me inside League during office hours.

In this episode:

• Conn...

What does it mean to be a compassionate alpha as a parent? It’s not about being harsh or domineering, and it’s not about being passive or permissive either. It’s about finding that steady, sturdy ground between strength and warmth.

In this episode, I unpack the term Compassionate Alpha (learned from Dr. Gordon Neufeld) and share why kids need a parent who can lead with both firmness and kindness. You’ll hear why being “too soft” spi...