Going Pro Se: Divorce Strategy with Lisa and Chris from Been There Got Out

In this conversation, we explore the complexities of navigating the family court system, particularly focusing on self-representation in high conflict divorce cases. Chris Barry and Lisa Johnson share their insights on the emotional challenges, strategic communication, and the importance of building a supportive team. They discuss common pitfalls faced by self-represented litigants and emphasize the need for proper documentation and understanding courtroom decorum. The role of technology and innovative tools in legal battles is also examined, alongside the transformative journey from trauma to empowerment. Finally, Chris and Lisa outline their upcoming resources and courses aimed at helping individuals navigate these challenging situations more effectively.

Learn more about Lisa Johnson and Chris Barry at: https://www.beentheregotout.com

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Keywords

family court, self-representation, high conflict divorce, strategic communication, legal advice, emotional support, co-parenting, technology in law, trauma recovery, legal education

Takeaways

• Going pro se often stems from financial constraints.
• Emotional detachment is crucial when representing yourself.
• High conflict divorces can last for years and drain resources.
• Proper courtroom demeanor is essential for success.
• Documentation is key; everything can become evidence.
• Understanding the legal system is vital to avoid pitfalls.
• Therapists should not provide legal advice.
• Building a support team is crucial for emotional health.
• Strategic communication can protect against false claims.
• Knowledge of your ex's behavior patterns is empowering.

Sound Bites

• "It's terrifying to be in a courtroom."
• "You need to get that foundation first."
• "You need a trauma-informed therapist."

Chapters

00:00 Navigating the Family Court System

04:32 The Birth of a Supportive Community

08:24 Common Pitfalls in Self-Representation

12:27 The Importance of Communication and Behavior in Court

16:41 Building Your Support Team

21:24 The Importance of Professional Support in Healing

26:54 Navigating Family Dynamics and Support

28:55 Strategic Communication with Toxic Exes

33:32 The Role of Technology in Documentation

34:50 Transformative Healing and Personal Growth

40:04 Building a Productive Partnership

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