April 6, 2025 • 30 mins
Ever wondered why certain business strategies that work well for others feel like an uphill battle for you? In this enlightening episode, Lauren breaks down the three distinct "money modes" that explain how entrepreneurs are uniquely designed to make and grow their wealth.
In this episode...
🔮 Discover if you're a Serial Monogamist, Polyamorist, or Lifer money mode and what that means for your business approach
💸 Learn why comparing yourself to entrepreneurs with different money modes might be the source of your self-judgment
⚡ Understand why most entrepreneurs fall into the Serial Monogamist or Polyamorist categories (and what makes Lifers so rare)
🌈 Explore how your astrological chart contains specific codes for how you're designed to earn and invest money with less friction
✨ Find out how your money mode explains past business successes and failures in a way that validates your unique path
This episode is perfect for entrepreneurs, business owners, and self-employed individuals who want to stop forcing themselves into one-size-fits-all business models. Learn how to leverage your natural financial blueprint to create more abundance while feeling fulfilled and aligned with your purpose.
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Today I want to unpack togetherone of my favorite reveals in my
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Cosmic Cash Codes sessions thatif you've been listening to the
podcast, you've also heard alittle bit about in my
interviews, which is your moneymode.
And this is like a reallysimplified thing that we can see
in your chart that makesentrepreneurs different from one
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another.
It's.
The reason why one way is notone size fits all, does not work
for everyone.
And as a professional abundanceastrologer, but also as an
Aquarian person, I just lovestuff like this.
You know, once upon a time I wasso into personality tests, but I
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find that your astrology chart,the profiles in the systems that
are based on our birth moment,are so telling of why one way
works for one person but not foranother.
If you are self-employed, if youare an entrepreneur, there are
clues in your birth chart aroundthe way that you are uniquely
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designed, not only to makemoney, but also to invest and
grow money.
But it's even more than that.
It's not just about how you makeyour money, how you are going to
channel more abundance with lessfriction, but it's also how
you're gonna make money that'sgonna feel the most fulfilling
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to you.
Right?
Half the equation is that we'regetting compensated for what
we're doing, but the other halfis that we're doing it in a way
that feels right for us, thatfeels aligned, that feels
relatively frictionless to otherways that we could be doing it,
and really feels like we're ontosomething in terms of doing this
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whole self-employed moneymakinggame in a way that feels like it
was designed especially for usbecause there is a way that it
was designed to work the bestfor you.
What I'm gonna talk about inthis episode is slightly
reductionist.
I mean, it's reductionist anywayto try and fit all of us into 12
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boxes, right?
The 12 signs of the Zodiac,though astrology is not that
simple.
I'm gonna reduce it even furtherwhen it comes to how you are
designed to make money, intalking about the one of three
money modes that you are.
Obviously there are not onlythree kinds of people, but this
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is a biggie that can then bebroken down into more nuance of
your very specific codes ofearning and investing, which we
do in my week-long Cosmic CashCodes sessions.
You've heard me speak withpeople during the hour long
recordings of the interviews forthis podcast.
It is such a great top level,reductive, general, simplified
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thing to know about yourself,that very interestingly, when
you then look back to eitherwork or business situations that
did or didn't work for you,oftentimes this explains it.
The other reason that knowingyour money mode is so powerful
is that I find in business, forbusiness owners specifically,
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this is one of the biggestthings that creates this aha
around a way that you've likelybeen judging yourself because
you've been comparing yourselfto other people.
And you know this is the casefor any aspect of your chart,
but these three ways that onecan choose to make money and
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forge an entrepreneurial pathreally do set people apart.
And so to whatever extent you'vebeen comparing yourself to other
people that have a differentmoney mode from you, this is
going to explain so much of whythat doesn't work for you, but
also is likely going to revealinner dialogue, inner critic
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kind of judgements that you'vehad toward yourself and your
chosen path or your resistanceto and straying from what
happens for most people, thekind of success that you see for
most people in the onlineentrepreneurial space.
This is going to make it allmake sense once you know which
one you are.
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Without further ado, the threethat we're talking about...
the way that I name andunderstand these is around your
relationship with money.
So I break it down into threerelationship types that spoiler
alert, disclaimer, you probablyare not the same one with money
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and with your business that youare in your intimate
relationships, but I find thesemetaphors really helpful to
understanding what these arewhen it comes to your money.
So we are talking about serialmonogamists, the polyamorists,
and the lifers.
Now, there's some interestingtrends around this in the
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entrepreneurial sphere,particularly those that are
attracted to work with me, whichis that most entrepreneurs are
either the serial monogamist orthe polyamorist.
Less of them are the lifer.
I wanna point to this first.
This is the broadest stroke thatwe can make to understand these,
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both in terms of what they are,what the two camps are within
these three money modes, and thefact that two of the three are
the most common inentrepreneurship.
So if you are a liferentrepreneur, which is rarer,
but totally a thing, it's sohelpful to know that you're in
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the minority around this.
Lifers are those people in theentrepreneurial space that you
see that really find their thingearly on, right?
It's really easy for them toniche down within their
business, and they often createa signature or legacy program
and then go the distance withthat.
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If you are not this person, ifyou are not a lifer money mode,
if you are one of the morecommon in the entrepreneurial
space of the serial monogamistor the polyamorist, the examples
of these people might seemglorified because when it works,
it works and it works for thesepeople, and it is much more
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simple.
It's a simplified version ofwhat is going to work for most
entrepreneurs, because beingable to find that one thing and
go the distance with it, you'renot constantly having to put so
much creative energy to newthings.
You're just able to refine whatyou already have.
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You're able to take the feedbackand make little tweaks, but
ultimately it's more like acouple degree turn of a cruise
ship and not full on flippingbitches at the whim when you get
a new idea.
Right?, I will say disclaimer atthe beginning as well, I'm a
polyamorist money mode, so I'mnot a lifer, I'm not one of
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these people.
I do well juggling, essentially,and diverting my attention
between different things butI've learned a lot from my lifer
money mode people, and I willsay caveat, my north node is in
Taurus.
My guiding North Star is inbeing able to settle and
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simplify into things.
So there's so much medicine forlifer money mode people for me,
and what I've learned from themis the value of commitment.
Committing to one thing andtrusting that similar to a
long-term relationship, no thatperson maybe isn't going to, and
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likely definitely isn't gonnameet all your needs all the
time, but there's a trust in thechoice that you made to go on
that path of committed love withthat person, that the challenges
that you face are gonna have alot to teach you, and that there
is just as much onus andresponsibility on you for how
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you show up for thatrelationship, how you create a
space where it can shift andchange and evolve, but all
within the container of thatrelationship.
And there's something sobeautiful there, right?
People talk about with masterygoing you're 10,000 hours with
something and how much moredeeply you're able to go because
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you're not constantly makingturns, jumping ship.
You're, able to go on this pathof deepening and it ends up
being, again like a container, aspace for you to evolve within
and to refine your offeringinside of, and to really settle
in terms of mastering yourcraft.
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For these people, it's sohelpful to know this about
yourself, however.
Most of what you see in theentrepreneurial space are people
that are creating product suitesand customer journeys and
constantly launching new things,right?
And if you're a lifer money modeperson, you probably see these
people, and one, again, on thejudgment side, wonder what might
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be wrong with you that you don'twanna do that.
It's like with lifer money modepeople: if it ain't broke, don't
fix it.
Just continue to evolve andmodify and upgrade it.
Make little tweaks to make itwork better and better and
better, and to be more of whatpeople need from you based on
the feedback that you get fromthe people that have already
experienced it.
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But it is so important to knowif this is you, that you are not
designed to constantly be comingup with new things.
And so just this simplepermission slip, once you find
this out about yourself, thateverybody that you see in the
online entrepreneurial spacethat is that way, of which we
are the majority, that you arenot designed to do it that way.
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And so you can just liberateyourself from any pressure or
any thoughts that you might bedoing it wrong, to do it
different, that you are designedthis way.
And honestly, like I said,there's a part of how you do it,
if you fully double down andembrace that this is the way you
are designed to do it, thatmakes the rest of us like, oh
God, if only it could be thatsimple.
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Right?
I say right to the rest of us,the others that are listening to
this, that can relate more tobeing one of the other two.
So on the other side are thepolyamorists and the serial
monogamists, and I think thatthe reason that we are more
common in the entrepreneurialspace is because it's a big part
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of why self-employment is soattractive is that it creates
this opportunity to be able toshift course when you feel like
it, create new things, to followthat thread of creativity and
feel really free and liberatedto be able to switch things up
on the regular.
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The people that are these othertwo money modes, we get bored
easily, essentially.
So although there might be alittle bit of wow, God, if only
it could be so simple, seeingthe people that are able to
niche down and create theirlegacy program and for it to be
a simpler space for them tosettle into, for the most part,
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we're like, actually, that wouldbe so boring for me.
There's no way that would keepmy attention and keep my passion
and my creativity to keep it inone container like that.
I need to be able to spill overinto other things when I feel
called to, because that's whatkeeps me connected to myself, my
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mission, my purpose, my passion,and my creative flow.
Now, that's the similaritybetween what makes up the
majority of self-employed peopleare that we get bored easily.
We do need to be able to switchthings up.
We would not do well to justfind that one thing and take it
the distance like a lifer can.
Also, by the way, before we gettoo far off of that, wrapping up
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the lifer people...
a lot of people end up findingtheir thing in a career, a
company, right?
That I think is also why lifersare less common in the
entrepreneurial space.
It's more likely that you aregoing to meet that need in
another environment that's notentrepreneurship.
However, in the context ofentrepreneurship, the way it
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typically shows up is findingyour niche, finding your thing,
finding that signature program,and rolling with it.
With the others, it's morebouncing around, but there are
differences too.
So similarities (12:53):
get a little bit bored easily.
One of the common judgements ifyou are one of those other two
is that you have shiny objectsyndrome or that you are unable
to commit, that you havecommitment issues in your
business or related to yourmoney.
This is the one that I'm gonnadispel right off the top here,
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is that if that's you, you'reliterally designed to, I
wouldn't say chase the shinyobjects because, inherently
there's more judgment in that,but you really are designed to
follow your creativity where ittakes you.
Here's where the two aredifferent though...
with the serial monogamists,those that have that as your
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money mode, you are designed toshow up fully and give your all
to what's right in front of you,to the project that you're
focusing on, and to stay thecourse with it until it feels
like it's time either to closeit and move on to the next
thing, or oftentimes to make itmore passive, get to a point
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where it's not taking so much ofyour acute energy and you're
able to pour your attention intothe next thing.
So for some people it is more ofa meandering.
First, I'm all in on this thing.
This is what I'm doing, and nowmore of a hard break, bringing
that to a close and moving on topouring my energy and attention
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and focus into the next thing.
You've seen entrepreneurs likethis.
Whereas for some, it's more of atrail being left behind of
creating a product suite alongthe way, where you're focusing
more of your active energy andattention, more of your manual
focus, on one thing at a timeuntil it gets to a point where
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it's almost running itself.
You delegate it, you automateit, you make it more passive in
some way.
You put it away and it's stillthere and part of what you're
offering, but there's a ripenessand a readiness to pour yourself
into something else and givethat your focus and attention
until that feels complete andready to put away or move on, or
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put in a different placerelative to whatever the next
thing you're working on is.
Think about this in romanticrelationships, these are the
people that have back to backlong-term relationships.
It's not that they found theirhigh school sweetheart person
from the beginning and went fromthere, but they show up fully
committed for each person, oneperson at a time, until it feels
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time to mindfully end thatcontainer and that relationship,
and start with that fresh, newrelationship energy with
something new, right?
That inspires them and lightsthem up in a different way
again, and then they go ashorter distance with them than
the lifers, but they really payattention for when things are
ready to shift, when that timenaturally comes.
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These people might havejudgments on both sides.
They might judge themselves whenthey're in it with something
that they're putting too muchfocus on that one thing and not
allowing themselves to becreating new things and/or they
might judge themselves when itfeels time to come to a close
that they have commitment issuesor shiny object syndrome or just
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can't stick with one thing.
So these people can swing bothways in terms of the judgment
that comes.
They're like not quite lifers.
They're not quite polyamorists.
They're somewhere in the middleand their genius, their most
optimal relationship with theirmoney flow comes from really
being focused and present andall in while it feels like time
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to do that with a client or aproject, or an offering or a
job, whatever it is.
And then to really givethemselves to the process of
conscious uncoupling,dissolution, finding a new place
for something, shifting theirrelationship with that thing to
be able to avail themselves tobe more present for whatever the
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next thing is that's callingtheir attention and inspiring
them to pour themselves into.
The last one is the polyamoristof which I mentioned, I am a
polyamorist money mode.
These are the people that if youare not this one, by the way,
probably look so chaotic, butthese are the people that have
multiple pokers in the flame,multiple plates spinning,
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multiple balls in the air at anygiven time.
If this isn't you, it probablyseems so chaotic and stressful,
but for those of us that are apolyamorist money mode, it
actually works really well to bekind of bouncing around multiple
things in the same timeline.
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I can tell you that for me andfor most of us that have this
money mode, what works so wellis that we're able to learn and
be informed by one thing andthen turn and apply that
immediately to something elseand through the triangulation in
that way, that is actually ourbest way to progress, to feel on
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purpose, to do it our way andfeel in flow with our business.
I'll give you the example thatsay you create an SOP for
something and it just massivelyenhances your efficiency in one
project, one area of yourbusiness.
Us polyamorous people are gonnabe like, oh my goodness, I need
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to do this in every aspect of mybusiness.
And we're gonna go through anddo a sweeping pass, where we
make that SOP efficiency upgradein all of our different
workflows before we circle backand go through the whole process
again with some other nuggetthat we get that works in one
place that we wanna apply inother areas of our business.
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That's the way it shows up forme.
Granted, I am a Virgo moon as aqualifier, so I just love
finding those little puzzlepieces and going and tweaking
them in different areas.
For someone else, it might bemore of that fiery Sagittarius
type vibes where they would getuninspired focusing on one
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thing, and so they have multiplethings going.
They turn toward what makes themfeel lit up and excited, and
then they're able to point thatinspiration back to something
that was feeling less vital.
So it could be a matter ofkeeping the vibes high, keeping
the energy high, the inspirationflowing by having multiple
things to turn toward.
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It could be more in the mentalrealm, that Gemini space where
new ideas come through.
Maybe working with one clientgives you these ideas that
you're then able to turn andapply to and create more value
for another client.
So it's the giving and receivingideas that keeps everything
fresh at the same time.
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It might be more of the wateryPisces flavor that part of what
keeps the emotional energyflowing and so keeping
everything really relevant andinspired for you is that you
feel meaningfully connected.
So there's like a connectionthat happens in one area that
you're able to turn and apply toanother.
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You can see that I used theexample here: I went through the
four elements.
We can do these with any ofthem.
So where these money modes comefrom is we are looking at the
archetypes that initiate themoney axis so the second and
eighth houses.
This is also why you're gonnahave the same money mode, that
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same movement of energy for yourcodes of earning and your codes
of investing.
But they're gonna show updifferently because they're
gonna be in different elements.
But these are the fixed cardinaland mutable opening archetypes
of the second and eighth houses.
That's the astrologicaltechnical jargon for it, but we
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are able to see what is thecommon movement of elemental
energy that is associated withopening both your second and
eighth houses so that there isone common movement between the
two, and that is your moneymode.
This is also why you probablydon't have the same kind of
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relationship with other areas ofyour life.
As we move through and aroundthe wheel and these rotate, as
you do with money, right?
It's gonna be different atdifferent parts of your chart,
but we could do the same thingwith the four elements for the
other two.
And this is why in your CosmicCash Codes session, we go much
more deeply.
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Once we identify what thatoverarching money mode is that's
common between the two, we thengo deeply into each of what are
your specific codes of earningand investing, and this is where
we get the clues and the keys towhat is going to work the best
for you around those areas ofyour life, not just with the
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sign.
But we also go into therulership and are able to see a
web of archetypes that reveals areally specific version for you
of what those codes are.
Back to the polyamorist moneymode people...
these are the people that verypurely often judge themselves
until they know this aboutthemselves and their design,
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that they have shiny objectsyndrome, right?
That they just can't seem tostick to one thing.
Maybe they associate it withsome ADD, in terms of this lens
though, it's the superpower sideof that, right?
And again, I mentioned there'sdifferent ways that that
happens, but it's how we're ableto turn and apply one thing to
something else and really getbenefit from it that anybody
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else that's not this money modeto be like, dude, that's just a
lot to navigate.
That's a lot to hold at once.
I mentioned, this is ourlaunchpad to look in a much more
nuanced and specific way to youwhat your cosmic cash codes are,
as I like to call them.
What your specific design isaround how you make your money,
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how you invest your money, yourcapacity to receive and expand
and scale around how you makeand grow your money.
And so this serves as thefinancial foundation when it
comes to your astrology chartbefore we go into anything else,
which is actually day two ofyour Cosmic Cash Codes session.
Day one is the foundation.
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Before that, before we even getinto financial stuff, and the
money side of your chart.
We look at your grounding codes,which is your sun, your moon,
your rising, and your moonphase.
These things that regardless ofwhat we're looking at in your
chart, everything needs to betrue to that core luminary
foundation.
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These sessions are my favoriteway to go deep with people
around their chart.
We do it over the course of aweek on telegram, which I've
gotten feedback that it'sbasically like having your own
personal podcast, and so muchtime in between each day.
Most astrology readings, ifyou've ever gotten one...
It feels like a fire hose, isthe feedback that I've gotten on
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the receiving end.
It's like, yeah, of course it'scool to have these ahas and
these reflections that arereally cool to know about
yourself from your chart, butyou're not actually able to
practically implement anythingbecause it's just a lot of
information all at once.
It almost feels more likeentertainment than any practical
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mentorship.
So that's why I do thesesessions over the course of a
week, because even something assimple as your money mode is
gonna bring up a lot for you.
Like I said in the beginning,when you find out what yours is,
oftentimes you get this aha, notabout what I say said, but about
like, oh, that's why this, that,and the other project or job
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really felt right and why theseones didn't and kind of fell
apart.
You get these ahas that connectwith these experiences that
you've already had.
'Because the thing aboutastrology is I don't do a
predictive astrology and I'm notactually here to blow your mind.
I'm not here to tell youanything that you don't already
know about yourself.
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I'm here to affirm and create alens of understanding for you to
deepen your relationship to whatalignment looks like for you.
And such a big part of that isreaching into your memory and
your experience base and sharingand reflecting on where these
things that I'm revealing, wherethese codes and keys are true
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for you and where theyilluminate why things were out
of sync for you, out ofalignment, why it didn't work
for you.
So such a big part of thesesessions is our back and forth.
Each day I deliver a new codeand then we back and forth and
reflect on and really root yourunderstanding into what I'm
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saying so that you can carrythis forward as a practical code
that you use to inform yourdecisions.
Even though it's the mostone-on-one way to work with me,
you get my most nurturingone-on-one attention, it's
actually my lowest cost offer.
So if you are a business ownerand you are playing the money
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game, the self-employed moneygame, and you don't yet know the
astrological codes of your birthchart, of your birth moment,
that are designed as cheatcodes, essentially, for you to
be able to make more abundance,grow more abundance and to do it
in a way that really feels likeyou're on purpose and on
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track...
We gotta do this session for youat some point.
When you book, you can thendecide what week you are going
to be the most present.
I do these from Wednesdays toWednesdays.
So if you're ready to find outmore, you can go to
https://cosmicb.link/cashcodes.
I outline what all the areas arethat we go through, and you can
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book your session and chooseyour week and get this in your
repertoire, in your tool belt.
These codes you are going totake with you forever forward,
whether you're an entrepreneuror you end up working for
someone else, doing contractorside gigs, whatever it is.
These are your codes around howyou are designed most
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efficiently and mostfulfillingly to make, grow and
scale your money.
If you have any questions, Ilove to geek out on this stuff.
You can reach out to me onInstagram@laurenpoppinsraye, or
email melauren@cosmicbizwitch.com.
I would love to talk to youabout what you already know,
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what your gaps are, and see ifthis is a fit to empower you
even more deeply to live by yourdesign as you make and grow your
money.
Today I want to unpack togetherone of my favorite reveals in my
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Cosmic Cash Codes sessions thatif you've been listening to the
podcast, you've also heard alittle bit about in my
interviews, which is your moneymode.
And this is like a reallysimplified thing that we can see
in your chart that makesentrepreneurs different from one
(00:25):
another.
It's.
The reason why one way is notone size fits all, does not work
for everyone.
And as a professional abundanceastrologer, but also as an
Aquarian person, I just lovestuff like this.
You know, once upon a time I wasso into personality tests, but I
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find that your astrology chart,the profiles in the systems that
are based on our birth moment,are so telling of why one way
works for one person but not foranother.
If you are self-employed, if youare an entrepreneur, there are
clues in your birth chart aroundthe way that you are uniquely
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designed, not only to makemoney, but also to invest and
grow money.
But it's even more than that.
It's not just about how you makeyour money, how you are going to
channel more abundance with lessfriction, but it's also how
you're gonna make money that'sgonna feel the most fulfilling
(01:29):
to you.
Right?
Half the equation is that we'regetting compensated for what
we're doing, but the other halfis that we're doing it in a way
that feels right for us, thatfeels aligned, that feels
relatively frictionless to otherways that we could be doing it,
and really feels like we're ontosomething in terms of doing this
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whole self-employed moneymakinggame in a way that feels like it
was designed especially for usbecause there is a way that it
was designed to work the bestfor you.
What I'm gonna talk about inthis episode is slightly
reductionist.
I mean, it's reductionist anywayto try and fit all of us into 12
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boxes, right?
The 12 signs of the Zodiac,though astrology is not that
simple.
I'm gonna reduce it even furtherwhen it comes to how you are
designed to make money, intalking about the one of three
money modes that you are.
Obviously there are not onlythree kinds of people, but this
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is a biggie that can then bebroken down into more nuance of
your very specific codes ofearning and investing, which we
do in my week-long Cosmic CashCodes sessions.
You've heard me speak withpeople during the hour long
recordings of the interviews forthis podcast.
It is such a great top level,reductive, general, simplified
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thing to know about yourself,that very interestingly, when
you then look back to eitherwork or business situations that
did or didn't work for you,oftentimes this explains it.
The other reason that knowingyour money mode is so powerful
is that I find in business, forbusiness owners specifically,
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this is one of the biggestthings that creates this aha
around a way that you've likelybeen judging yourself because
you've been comparing yourselfto other people.
And you know this is the casefor any aspect of your chart,
but these three ways that onecan choose to make money and
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forge an entrepreneurial pathreally do set people apart.
And so to whatever extent you'vebeen comparing yourself to other
people that have a differentmoney mode from you, this is
going to explain so much of whythat doesn't work for you, but
also is likely going to revealinner dialogue, inner critic
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kind of judgements that you'vehad toward yourself and your
chosen path or your resistanceto and straying from what
happens for most people, thekind of success that you see for
most people in the onlineentrepreneurial space.
This is going to make it allmake sense once you know which
one you are.
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Without further ado, the threethat we're talking about...
the way that I name andunderstand these is around your
relationship with money.
So I break it down into threerelationship types that spoiler
alert, disclaimer, you probablyare not the same one with money
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and with your business that youare in your intimate
relationships, but I find thesemetaphors really helpful to
understanding what these arewhen it comes to your money.
So we are talking about serialmonogamists, the polyamorists,
and the lifers.
Now, there's some interestingtrends around this in the
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entrepreneurial sphere,particularly those that are
attracted to work with me, whichis that most entrepreneurs are
either the serial monogamist orthe polyamorist.
Less of them are the lifer.
I wanna point to this first.
This is the broadest stroke thatwe can make to understand these,
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both in terms of what they are,what the two camps are within
these three money modes, and thefact that two of the three are
the most common inentrepreneurship.
So if you are a liferentrepreneur, which is rarer,
but totally a thing, it's sohelpful to know that you're in
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the minority around this.
Lifers are those people in theentrepreneurial space that you
see that really find their thingearly on, right?
It's really easy for them toniche down within their
business, and they often createa signature or legacy program
and then go the distance withthat.
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If you are not this person, ifyou are not a lifer money mode,
if you are one of the morecommon in the entrepreneurial
space of the serial monogamistor the polyamorist, the examples
of these people might seemglorified because when it works,
it works and it works for thesepeople, and it is much more
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simple.
It's a simplified version ofwhat is going to work for most
entrepreneurs, because beingable to find that one thing and
go the distance with it, you'renot constantly having to put so
much creative energy to newthings.
You're just able to refine whatyou already have.
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You're able to take the feedbackand make little tweaks, but
ultimately it's more like acouple degree turn of a cruise
ship and not full on flippingbitches at the whim when you get
a new idea.
Right?, I will say disclaimer atthe beginning as well, I'm a
polyamorist money mode, so I'mnot a lifer, I'm not one of
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these people.
I do well juggling, essentially,and diverting my attention
between different things butI've learned a lot from my lifer
money mode people, and I willsay caveat, my north node is in
Taurus.
My guiding North Star is inbeing able to settle and
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simplify into things.
So there's so much medicine forlifer money mode people for me,
and what I've learned from themis the value of commitment.
Committing to one thing andtrusting that similar to a
long-term relationship, no thatperson maybe isn't going to, and
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likely definitely isn't gonnameet all your needs all the
time, but there's a trust in thechoice that you made to go on
that path of committed love withthat person, that the challenges
that you face are gonna have alot to teach you, and that there
is just as much onus andresponsibility on you for how
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you show up for thatrelationship, how you create a
space where it can shift andchange and evolve, but all
within the container of thatrelationship.
And there's something sobeautiful there, right?
People talk about with masterygoing you're 10,000 hours with
something and how much moredeeply you're able to go because
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you're not constantly makingturns, jumping ship.
You're, able to go on this pathof deepening and it ends up
being, again like a container, aspace for you to evolve within
and to refine your offeringinside of, and to really settle
in terms of mastering yourcraft.
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For these people, it's sohelpful to know this about
yourself, however.
Most of what you see in theentrepreneurial space are people
that are creating product suitesand customer journeys and
constantly launching new things,right?
And if you're a lifer money modeperson, you probably see these
people, and one, again, on thejudgment side, wonder what might
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be wrong with you that you don'twanna do that.
It's like with lifer money modepeople: if it ain't broke, don't
fix it.
Just continue to evolve andmodify and upgrade it.
Make little tweaks to make itwork better and better and
better, and to be more of whatpeople need from you based on
the feedback that you get fromthe people that have already
experienced it.
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But it is so important to knowif this is you, that you are not
designed to constantly be comingup with new things.
And so just this simplepermission slip, once you find
this out about yourself, thateverybody that you see in the
online entrepreneurial spacethat is that way, of which we
are the majority, that you arenot designed to do it that way.
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And so you can just liberateyourself from any pressure or
any thoughts that you might bedoing it wrong, to do it
different, that you are designedthis way.
And honestly, like I said,there's a part of how you do it,
if you fully double down andembrace that this is the way you
are designed to do it, thatmakes the rest of us like, oh
God, if only it could be thatsimple.
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Right?
I say right to the rest of us,the others that are listening to
this, that can relate more tobeing one of the other two.
So on the other side are thepolyamorists and the serial
monogamists, and I think thatthe reason that we are more
common in the entrepreneurialspace is because it's a big part
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of why self-employment is soattractive is that it creates
this opportunity to be able toshift course when you feel like
it, create new things, to followthat thread of creativity and
feel really free and liberatedto be able to switch things up
on the regular.
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The people that are these othertwo money modes, we get bored
easily, essentially.
So although there might be alittle bit of wow, God, if only
it could be so simple, seeingthe people that are able to
niche down and create theirlegacy program and for it to be
a simpler space for them tosettle into, for the most part,
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we're like, actually, that wouldbe so boring for me.
There's no way that would keepmy attention and keep my passion
and my creativity to keep it inone container like that.
I need to be able to spill overinto other things when I feel
called to, because that's whatkeeps me connected to myself, my
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mission, my purpose, my passion,and my creative flow.
Now, that's the similaritybetween what makes up the
majority of self-employed peopleare that we get bored easily.
We do need to be able to switchthings up.
We would not do well to justfind that one thing and take it
the distance like a lifer can.
Also, by the way, before we gettoo far off of that, wrapping up
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the lifer people...
a lot of people end up findingtheir thing in a career, a
company, right?
That I think is also why lifersare less common in the
entrepreneurial space.
It's more likely that you aregoing to meet that need in
another environment that's notentrepreneurship.
However, in the context ofentrepreneurship, the way it
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typically shows up is findingyour niche, finding your thing,
finding that signature program,and rolling with it.
With the others, it's morebouncing around, but there are
differences too.
So similarities (12:53):
get a little bit bored easily.
One of the common judgements ifyou are one of those other two
is that you have shiny objectsyndrome or that you are unable
to commit, that you havecommitment issues in your
business or related to yourmoney.
This is the one that I'm gonnadispel right off the top here,
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is that if that's you, you'reliterally designed to, I
wouldn't say chase the shinyobjects because, inherently
there's more judgment in that,but you really are designed to
follow your creativity where ittakes you.
Here's where the two aredifferent though...
with the serial monogamists,those that have that as your
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money mode, you are designed toshow up fully and give your all
to what's right in front of you,to the project that you're
focusing on, and to stay thecourse with it until it feels
like it's time either to closeit and move on to the next
thing, or oftentimes to make itmore passive, get to a point
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where it's not taking so much ofyour acute energy and you're
able to pour your attention intothe next thing.
So for some people it is more ofa meandering.
First, I'm all in on this thing.
This is what I'm doing, and nowmore of a hard break, bringing
that to a close and moving on topouring my energy and attention
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and focus into the next thing.
You've seen entrepreneurs likethis.
Whereas for some, it's more of atrail being left behind of
creating a product suite alongthe way, where you're focusing
more of your active energy andattention, more of your manual
focus, on one thing at a timeuntil it gets to a point where
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it's almost running itself.
You delegate it, you automateit, you make it more passive in
some way.
You put it away and it's stillthere and part of what you're
offering, but there's a ripenessand a readiness to pour yourself
into something else and givethat your focus and attention
until that feels complete andready to put away or move on, or
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put in a different placerelative to whatever the next
thing you're working on is.
Think about this in romanticrelationships, these are the
people that have back to backlong-term relationships.
It's not that they found theirhigh school sweetheart person
from the beginning and went fromthere, but they show up fully
committed for each person, oneperson at a time, until it feels
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time to mindfully end thatcontainer and that relationship,
and start with that fresh, newrelationship energy with
something new, right?
That inspires them and lightsthem up in a different way
again, and then they go ashorter distance with them than
the lifers, but they really payattention for when things are
ready to shift, when that timenaturally comes.
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These people might havejudgments on both sides.
They might judge themselves whenthey're in it with something
that they're putting too muchfocus on that one thing and not
allowing themselves to becreating new things and/or they
might judge themselves when itfeels time to come to a close
that they have commitment issuesor shiny object syndrome or just
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can't stick with one thing.
So these people can swing bothways in terms of the judgment
that comes.
They're like not quite lifers.
They're not quite polyamorists.
They're somewhere in the middleand their genius, their most
optimal relationship with theirmoney flow comes from really
being focused and present andall in while it feels like time
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to do that with a client or aproject, or an offering or a
job, whatever it is.
And then to really givethemselves to the process of
conscious uncoupling,dissolution, finding a new place
for something, shifting theirrelationship with that thing to
be able to avail themselves tobe more present for whatever the
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next thing is that's callingtheir attention and inspiring
them to pour themselves into.
The last one is the polyamoristof which I mentioned, I am a
polyamorist money mode.
These are the people that if youare not this one, by the way,
probably look so chaotic, butthese are the people that have
multiple pokers in the flame,multiple plates spinning,
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multiple balls in the air at anygiven time.
If this isn't you, it probablyseems so chaotic and stressful,
but for those of us that are apolyamorist money mode, it
actually works really well to bekind of bouncing around multiple
things in the same timeline.
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I can tell you that for me andfor most of us that have this
money mode, what works so wellis that we're able to learn and
be informed by one thing andthen turn and apply that
immediately to something elseand through the triangulation in
that way, that is actually ourbest way to progress, to feel on
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purpose, to do it our way andfeel in flow with our business.
I'll give you the example thatsay you create an SOP for
something and it just massivelyenhances your efficiency in one
project, one area of yourbusiness.
Us polyamorous people are gonnabe like, oh my goodness, I need
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to do this in every aspect of mybusiness.
And we're gonna go through anddo a sweeping pass, where we
make that SOP efficiency upgradein all of our different
workflows before we circle backand go through the whole process
again with some other nuggetthat we get that works in one
place that we wanna apply inother areas of our business.
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That's the way it shows up forme.
Granted, I am a Virgo moon as aqualifier, so I just love
finding those little puzzlepieces and going and tweaking
them in different areas.
For someone else, it might bemore of that fiery Sagittarius
type vibes where they would getuninspired focusing on one
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thing, and so they have multiplethings going.
They turn toward what makes themfeel lit up and excited, and
then they're able to point thatinspiration back to something
that was feeling less vital.
So it could be a matter ofkeeping the vibes high, keeping
the energy high, the inspirationflowing by having multiple
things to turn toward.
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It could be more in the mentalrealm, that Gemini space where
new ideas come through.
Maybe working with one clientgives you these ideas that
you're then able to turn andapply to and create more value
for another client.
So it's the giving and receivingideas that keeps everything
fresh at the same time.
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It might be more of the wateryPisces flavor that part of what
keeps the emotional energyflowing and so keeping
everything really relevant andinspired for you is that you
feel meaningfully connected.
So there's like a connectionthat happens in one area that
you're able to turn and apply toanother.
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You can see that I used theexample here: I went through the
four elements.
We can do these with any ofthem.
So where these money modes comefrom is we are looking at the
archetypes that initiate themoney axis so the second and
eighth houses.
This is also why you're gonnahave the same money mode, that
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same movement of energy for yourcodes of earning and your codes
of investing.
But they're gonna show updifferently because they're
gonna be in different elements.
But these are the fixed cardinaland mutable opening archetypes
of the second and eighth houses.
That's the astrologicaltechnical jargon for it, but we
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are able to see what is thecommon movement of elemental
energy that is associated withopening both your second and
eighth houses so that there isone common movement between the
two, and that is your moneymode.
This is also why you probablydon't have the same kind of
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relationship with other areas ofyour life.
As we move through and aroundthe wheel and these rotate, as
you do with money, right?
It's gonna be different atdifferent parts of your chart,
but we could do the same thingwith the four elements for the
other two.
And this is why in your CosmicCash Codes session, we go much
more deeply.
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Once we identify what thatoverarching money mode is that's
common between the two, we thengo deeply into each of what are
your specific codes of earningand investing, and this is where
we get the clues and the keys towhat is going to work the best
for you around those areas ofyour life, not just with the
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sign.
But we also go into therulership and are able to see a
web of archetypes that reveals areally specific version for you
of what those codes are.
Back to the polyamorist moneymode people...
these are the people that verypurely often judge themselves
until they know this aboutthemselves and their design,
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that they have shiny objectsyndrome, right?
That they just can't seem tostick to one thing.
Maybe they associate it withsome ADD, in terms of this lens
though, it's the superpower sideof that, right?
And again, I mentioned there'sdifferent ways that that
happens, but it's how we're ableto turn and apply one thing to
something else and really getbenefit from it that anybody
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else that's not this money modeto be like, dude, that's just a
lot to navigate.
That's a lot to hold at once.
I mentioned, this is ourlaunchpad to look in a much more
nuanced and specific way to youwhat your cosmic cash codes are,
as I like to call them.
What your specific design isaround how you make your money,
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how you invest your money, yourcapacity to receive and expand
and scale around how you makeand grow your money.
And so this serves as thefinancial foundation when it
comes to your astrology chartbefore we go into anything else,
which is actually day two ofyour Cosmic Cash Codes session.
Day one is the foundation.
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Before that, before we even getinto financial stuff, and the
money side of your chart.
We look at your grounding codes,which is your sun, your moon,
your rising, and your moonphase.
These things that regardless ofwhat we're looking at in your
chart, everything needs to betrue to that core luminary
foundation.
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These sessions are my favoriteway to go deep with people
around their chart.
We do it over the course of aweek on telegram, which I've
gotten feedback that it'sbasically like having your own
personal podcast, and so muchtime in between each day.
Most astrology readings, ifyou've ever gotten one...
It feels like a fire hose, isthe feedback that I've gotten on
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the receiving end.
It's like, yeah, of course it'scool to have these ahas and
these reflections that arereally cool to know about
yourself from your chart, butyou're not actually able to
practically implement anythingbecause it's just a lot of
information all at once.
It almost feels more likeentertainment than any practical
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mentorship.
So that's why I do thesesessions over the course of a
week, because even something assimple as your money mode is
gonna bring up a lot for you.
Like I said in the beginning,when you find out what yours is,
oftentimes you get this aha, notabout what I say said, but about
like, oh, that's why this, that,and the other project or job
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really felt right and why theseones didn't and kind of fell
apart.
You get these ahas that connectwith these experiences that
you've already had.
'Because the thing aboutastrology is I don't do a
predictive astrology and I'm notactually here to blow your mind.
I'm not here to tell youanything that you don't already
know about yourself.
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I'm here to affirm and create alens of understanding for you to
deepen your relationship to whatalignment looks like for you.
And such a big part of that isreaching into your memory and
your experience base and sharingand reflecting on where these
things that I'm revealing, wherethese codes and keys are true
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for you and where theyilluminate why things were out
of sync for you, out ofalignment, why it didn't work
for you.
So such a big part of thesesessions is our back and forth.
Each day I deliver a new codeand then we back and forth and
reflect on and really root yourunderstanding into what I'm
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saying so that you can carrythis forward as a practical code
that you use to inform yourdecisions.
Even though it's the mostone-on-one way to work with me,
you get my most nurturingone-on-one attention, it's
actually my lowest cost offer.
So if you are a business ownerand you are playing the money
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game, the self-employed moneygame, and you don't yet know the
astrological codes of your birthchart, of your birth moment,
that are designed as cheatcodes, essentially, for you to
be able to make more abundance,grow more abundance and to do it
in a way that really feels likeyou're on purpose and on
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track...
We gotta do this session for youat some point.
When you book, you can thendecide what week you are going
to be the most present.
I do these from Wednesdays toWednesdays.
So if you're ready to find outmore, you can go to
https://cosmicb.link/cashcodes.
I outline what all the areas arethat we go through, and you can
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book your session and chooseyour week and get this in your
repertoire, in your tool belt.
These codes you are going totake with you forever forward,
whether you're an entrepreneuror you end up working for
someone else, doing contractorside gigs, whatever it is.
These are your codes around howyou are designed most
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efficiently and mostfulfillingly to make, grow and
scale your money.
If you have any questions, Ilove to geek out on this stuff.
You can reach out to me onInstagram@laurenpoppinsraye, or
email melauren@cosmicbizwitch.com.
I would love to talk to youabout what you already know,
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what your gaps are, and see ifthis is a fit to empower you
even more deeply to live by yourdesign as you make and grow your
money.
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