October 19, 2025 • 33 mins
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What if the key to deeper connection isn't more availability, but better alignment?
For years, the back-to-back calendar grind felt like the cost of doing business. Then motherhood rewrote everything. Suddenly, living by someone else's clock wasn't just exhausting, it was impossible.
That's when asynchronous communication became more than a workaround. It became a revelation – a way to show up fully present without the performance. To build intimacy without urgency. To finally create a business rhythm that breathes with you instead of demanding you keep up.
In this episode...
🌊 Why asynchronous communication isn't about being less present, it's about being more aligned with your natural rhythm and showing up when your energy is fullest
🐌 How slowing down the pace of connection actually deepens the quality of every conversation you have, creating space for integration instead of information overload
📡 The specific features that make me obsessed with Telegram, and you should be too
⚡️ Why the Aquarian age is calling us to build businesses around energetic freedom, not just time freedom – and what that shift makes possible
🌬️ How to stop combining urgency with intimacy and start creating containers where presence can actually breathe
This episode is for you if you're craving a business model that honors your cycles, respects your energy, and lets you move at the speed of resonance instead of the speed of hustle. Because freedom isn't just about having more time. It's about having the space to be fully you when you show up.
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I used to live by others'clocks, back to back calls and
calendar blocks.
Presence performed on borrowedtime.
Connection, rushed, rehearsed,confined.
Then motherhood rewrote the paceand suddenly flow reclaimed its
space.
What started as a need becamedesign, a rhythm that finally
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felt like mine.
Now I move when my energy'sfree, not chained to time, just
tuned to me.
No more juggling rooms andrings, just quiet threads and
thoughtful things.
Telegram became my favoritelane, where depth returns again
and again.
Messages breathe, replies canwait, connection blooms at its
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own rate.
This is the rhythm of the agewe're in, Aquarium freedom flow
within.
So let's talk about what thatgave, the sanity, the rhythm,
and the space I craved.
Freedom has layers and is a hugevalue of mine as an Aquarian
human, my sun signs in Aquariusand when it comes to freedom,
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we're not just talking abouttime freedom or financial
freedom, the typical buzz wordsthat accompany the word, we're
also talking about energeticfreedom, the freedom to flow how
you're built to move inalignment with your cycles.
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To be able to speak when thewords feel ready to come out and
to listen when presence isreally potent.
And to most importantly, as anentrepreneur, be able to build a
business around that energeticfreedom that breathes with you
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instead of boxing you in andfeeling like just another job
telling you what to do.
In this episode, I'm sharing howasynchronous communication
became one of the most powerfulshifts I've ever made as a mama,
as a mentor, and as a manifesterof my own rhythm, and why
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Telegram specifically has becomemy favorite tool for it.
Not just for the features, butfor the feeling, for the
spaciousness, the sovereigntythat it creates and makes
possible as my primary platformof availability.
In this episode, we'll explorewhat asynchronous actually means
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and why it's the opposite ofdisconnect.
How slowing down can deepen thequality of every connection you
have.
Why I choose systems thatrespect the time, energy, and
autonomy of me and the people Iwork with, and how that has
changed everything.
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The specific features that makeTelegram feel like a sanctuary
instead of another screen space,and how asynchronous flow aligns
with the Aquarian age that weare all creating inside of and
why freedom is the new form ofsuccess.
First, let's talk about whatasynchronous actually means.
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If you've heard this term andweren't sure, or if you know
technically what it means, Iwant to expand your
understanding and theconversation around what it
makes possible.
Firstly, have you heard thisword asynchronous?
It's kind of a mouthful.
It definitely sounds technical.
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So let's demystify what it's gotto do with freedom.
Simply put, asynchronous justmeans communication that doesn't
require everyone to show up atthe same time to have it.
This is the opposite ofsynchronous, which is like Zoom
or Google Meet sessions,telephone calls, live sessions
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of any kind where we actuallyboth have to put it on our
calendars at the same time, andit's all built around mutual and
matched availability instead of,with asynchronous, mutual
presence.
It doesn't mean that justbecause we scheduled something
at the same time that when thatmoment arrives, we're both just
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as present to show up for eachother.
With that, I want to offer thereframe that asynchronous isn't
less present or more absent thansynchronous.
It's actually more aboutalignment and how much more
aligned we can be with eachother and present with each
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other because of our ability tocome in and out as makes sense
for us as the moment moves.
It honors our natural rhythms,which may be different despite
our best intentions to lock in acalendar slot that lines up.
This means that we can feel intoand choose the moments when we
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do show up for asynchronouscontainers around the times when
our energy is the fullest, ourattention is the deepest, and
our words can be the mostauthentic.
We're not being forced to showup so our expression can be more
in the moment, more aligned,more authentic.
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We're coming from a more presentplace.
So what comes from us is goingto be more of us.
It creates a space forconnection that can breathe
instead of feeling forced ordemanded based on a previous
commitment that we made on ourcalendar.
Technically speaking, we're notjust talking about text.
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Oftentimes, asynchronous isvoice notes or what I like to
call voiceys.
Which is honestly my favoriteway to relate, especially when
it comes to the client mentordynamic.
I've had clients describe thevoiceys that I leave them, in
our asynchronous containers, aslike their personal podcasts
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where each day they get an audiodrop that they can tune into
while they're doing otherthings, which is nice.
And of course, because it'sprerecorded, you can speed it up
or slow it down to yourpreference, which I'm also a
huge fan of.
Before I go down the road ofgeeking out on my love affair
for asynchronous spaces, I wantto share a personal story around
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what got me to choose this asthe almost exclusive space for
my client relations.
The short of it is that ithappened because I became a
mama.
So prior to having my son, I hada tax practice where during tax
season I was so available to myclients and a lot of it was
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synchronous communications.
Me making phone calls on thefly, them making phone calls on
the fly, us scheduling phonecalls to go over their tax
return at the end, and it waslike my calendar would get so
full and then I would besqueezing in these
communications in between,hoping that they were going to
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answer, or honestly being alittle annoyed when they called
me when I was in a differentflow.
So I was mostly synchronousbefore this shift.
Of course, I also did text andemails, but a lot of the most
important and most presentcommunications happened
synchronously.
Then I had my son and I had whatwould be my final tax season in
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the first season of his life andmine as a mama, and oh my
goodness, did that clash?
If you haven't yet brought lifeinto this world, you may not
know in those early months whathappened to your relationship
with time.
For me and for us, we werebasically operating on these
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three cycles of two hours thatwere not lined up with each
other.
Every two hours I was nursinghim.
Every two hours we were doingdiaper changes, and every two
hours I was facilitating his naptime.
This is when and why I shiftedto asynchronous communication
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exclusively for that tax season.
I got on Voxer, which was theone that I experimented with at
the time, and was only availableasynchronous because there was
no way that I could lock downanything on my calendar.
Because I couldn't commit to atime, I had no idea when I would
actually be available, and thoseavailable times were little
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pockets in between everythingelse, so I just needed to be
able to dip in and dip out as itfit with my flow.
Oh my goodness, I rememberthinking and feeling like, good
God, why didn't I do thissooner?
Like why did it take this for meto make this change?
Because all of a sudden I justfelt liberated.
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I felt so free.
There's so many aspects aboutentrepreneurship that feel like
freedom to me, but that one didnot.
And it was like the one thingthat needed to shift that I
didn't even know this other waywould resolve so fully to feel
fully free as a business owner.
My calendar stopped being incharge.
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Now granted it was because thislittle human's calendar, inner
clock, biological clock, becamemy primary timekeeper instead.
But that said, everything juststarted to make more sense.
And even better for the part ofme that wondered if this was
going to have some kind ofdetriment on my communications
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or my client relationships, Iactually found that it deepened
them.
Because like I already touchedon, I was able to be so present
when I was showing up to talk tomy clients.
I wasn't juggling appointmentsand rushing from one to the next
where they didn't know, but justbefore sitting down, I had just
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run around like a crazy persongetting prepared for that
conversation.
Instead, I was able to feelgenuinely ready and present for
each communication that I made.
That means that everycommunication was coming from a
space of clarity, not urgency.
Which honestly, in the previousseason of synchronous
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communication, it was as if Iwas trying to fake presence in
the constant state of urgencybecause even if I didn't have
back to back meetings, I wasstill scrambling in the moments
before to show up on time for anappointment, it always feels
forced to have to show up fortimed meetings.
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I want to circle and connectback to what I started this
conversation with you aroundtoday, which is this wider theme
of freedom as my core Aquarianvalue.
And again, not just timefreedom, which is on the surface
what this created for me, butalso the energetic and emotional
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freedom below the surface thatit made possible too.
What I realized is in the urgenthustle and bustle of tax season
appointment setting, it wasn'tactually that I needed more
time, it was that I craved beingable to move at my own pace.
With that, I want to slow downand tell you a little bit more
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about the energetic beauty ofasynchronous spaces.
If this isn't something thatyou've experienced or if you
have, not something that you'vereally settled into and embraced
to experience the depth andbeauty of them and what's
possible inside of them.
When two people come to a spaceable to show up when we can both
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be fully there, even if it's notat the same time, the energy of
the space is so much cleaner.
Like I said, I'm not showing uppretending that I'm a hundred
percent present when I wasactually just running around
scrambling to get all my ducksin a row to be able to show up
for the conversation.
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Everyone engages when they'reresourced, right?
I can't tell you how many timesI had to sacrifice certain
things, like making the mentalchecklist of okay, I need to do
this, this, and this before Isit down.
Shit, I don't have time.
Okay?
No time to, to make my drinkfirst, right?
Whatever it is, not being ableto, in a chill way, make sure
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that all my needs are met andI'm fully resourced and
overflowing to show up and giveto that container.
The other really cool thing thatdeepens the connection, maybe
this is especially because of myline of work, because I am a
money mentor and astrologerwhere so much of what gets
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transmitted needs time to feelinto, to think about, to
integrate.
The times that I would do anhour long or 90 minute astrology
session, it just felt like afire hose of information and
maybe they would catch a couplegems to take with them.
When it comes to the moneystuff, a lot of times I'm
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presencing things that areconnected to a lot of different
things and it takes time toreally be able to feel into that
topic and be able to get themost out of it and make sure
nothing gets missed.
In any case, another one of myfavorite things about
asynchronous spaces is that theconversation lives on.
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We can go back and revisit andre-listen to any voice notes.
With Telegram you can alsowithin the app transcribe it if
you want to just go scan oversomething to find something that
you're looking for.
Again, through that revisiting,you're able to reflect and
integrate so much more than youcould in a synchronous session
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where you're either trying tohold onto and remember what
feels important or you'reactually taking yourself out of
the moment to take notes to makesure that you do, which has been
my experience oftentimes.
Or you have to go back andlisten to a full recording to
find what you want to go back toand revisit, if the session was
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even recorded.
One of my favorite things aboutvoiceys is you can listen to it
once and just receive, and thenyou can go back and listen to it
again, maybe sped up, to pullout the notes that are important
and take a moment to divert yourattention to a typed screen or
pen or paper to do that.
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And of course, as I alreadymentioned, it respects our
cycles, right, our naturalflows.
Whether that is our lunar cycleand times that we're feeling
more or less energeticallypresent.
Whether that's our hormonalcycle, whether that's our
creative cycle, whether that'sour health cycle.
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If you're feeling sick, ifyou're moony, whatever it is, if
you need to step away, you can,and you don't have to feel
guilty or like you have to goreschedule everything.
I am a fan of anything thatrespects, supports, and aligns
with our cycle, instead ofbulldozing or overpowering it,
and making us have todisassociate from ourself to be
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able to show up for something.
This is big because we're in theage of Aquarius now, which
doesn't just mean that freedomsuper matters, it also means
that authenticity does.
We are not able to be ourauthentic selves when our
nervous system is in a constantstate of activation.
This is actually a very nervoussystem regulating shift too,
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where we don't have to combineurgency with intimacy anymore.
We can experience the intimacyof connection and communication
without that urgency.
Honestly, asynchronous is thepermission slip the collective
doesn't even know it needs forthose that haven't embraced it
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yet.
Especially for those of us thatare wired for depth, not speed.
Now that said, of coursenothing's black and white.
For some people the depthhappens in the synchronous
containers and more power toyou.
But for anyone that's feelingwhat I'm putting down right now
that is more like me, I want toilluminate this possibility for
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you that you can actually havethe depth with your
communications and with yourselfthat you're craving and that
feels missing by switching toasynchronous containers.
I know that there is somebodylistening right now, maybe it's
you, that needed exactly thispermission slip today.
Speaking of today, if you arelistening to this the day that
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this episode aired, we arekicking off the first Cosmic
Money Reset Autumn Edition.
This is a ritual reset that willbe happening seasonally to reset
your relationship with money.
It's a free five day experiencewhere each day we are guided by
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that day's planetary energy toreset one part of our financial
foundation.
I'm telling you this right now,not to plug or promote it
because you already missed theboat on this one.
Once we started, the doorsclosed, but I do want to tell
you that this is a different usecase than I've done in the past
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for asynchronous.
Until this challenge, I've justdone one-to-one containers,
one-to-one asynchronous onTelegram, which I absolutely
love and so do my clients.
This challenge was and is myfirst of a group container, and
oh my goodness, I am loving itjust as much.
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Spoiler, it's actually beingnested inside of what is going
to be an ongoing community, andI'm going to have more to share
about what's happening in there.
But I wanted to let you knowthat if you are interested in
making sure that you don't missout on the next reset happening
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for the winter season inJanuary, you can go and get on
the wait list atcosmicb.link/challenge, and I
highly suggest you do.
Oh my goodness, is this thething?
It is just already kicking offwith so much buzz.
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Obviously I'll have more toshare about it later when we're
on the other side of this firstone, but I just wanted to ground
what I'm talking about into myexperience of it right now that
just continues to get better andbetter the deeper I go with it
and the more opportunities Ifind to embrace it.
Again, that link iscosmicb.link/challenge to get on
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the wait list for the comingJanuary Cosmic Money Reset.
It's five days of gentlerecalibration designed to meet
your rhythm, not rush it.
With that, let me tell you why Ilove Telegram.
Let me count the ways.
For me, Telegram is just secondto none for asynchronous
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containers.
I'm going to nerd out for aminute and tell you why, and I'm
going to break it into certainvalues that are really important
to me to illustrate how Telegramaligns with them.
The first is organization.
Y'all know I'm a Virgo Moon, Ilike to keep things organized
and the way that I'm able tothrough topics, which are like
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rooms in a group space, or aone-to-one thread, but to
organize the conversations intovarious threads I absolutely
love and folders within my ownapp to be able to organize all
of the different kinds ofconversations.
Of course, I organize them withemojis, so I have a folder and
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they're all just across the top.
Super easy to swipe through.
I've got one for my team.
I've got one for my businessbesties.
I've got one for my CosmicCurrency clients and our
one-to-one containers.
And the list goes on.
But I'm able to keep thingsreally organized so that I can
be intentional with almostbatching the communications that
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I'm doing.
I'll go in and address my teamthat's in one space, and then
I'll go in and talk to my CosmicCurrency students, reply to
their questions.
That's in another space.
Next up is accessibility, Imentioned this a little bit
already.
The voice notes feature isawesome.
We're able to speed up, or slowdown how we listen to each other
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and we're able to, in the app,transcribe every communication.
Which is super helpful to beable to listen or read whatever
works best for you or whatevermakes sense in the moment with
what you're trying to do.
Or with how available you are ifyou want to listen while you do
something else, or if you'drather tune in and read
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something.
Also, of course, being able totranscribe voiceys means being
able to put things into AI likeChat GBT or Claude, which that
is a topic for another time,what that makes possible.
Flexibility I mentioned as well.
Messages can wait, nothingdisappears.
Everything is there waiting foryou to engage when you can.
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Privacy, I love that Telegram isusername based.
We don't have to share phonenumbers to connect like in
WhatsApp or Signal.
That we can create privategroups like I've done for this
challenge that we started today.
That it is non Meta and thereare no ads or data mining as
part of it.
A little further on in thisepisode, I am going to address
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some concerns around privacy andsafety, but I wanted to just
lead with that, that for thethings that matter for me,
Telegram has got it going on.
Next up is scalability.
You can do private one-to-onechats in there.
You can do small privatecircles, or you can do big
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channel communities.
All of those are possible so itcan meet almost every need for
container that you might have inyour business.
Aesthetics.
I love how it's organized.
I love that it has dark mode.
I love that we can pick animatedemojis for things.
Honestly, it feels more like acreative studio to me than a
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feed.
And automation.
Once you go down the rabbit holeof automations, which you know I
have and do with Make, you cancreate your own Telegram bot if
you haven't worked with me yetin that space then you haven't
met mine.
Her name is Cosmic Biz Bot.
She is gorgeous, she isefficient, and she is super on
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brand and she is able to,through my make automations in
Telegram, handle a lot of therepetitive heavy lifting of
delivery, of anyways, again,topic for another time.
There's so much you can do withautomation inside Telegram.
There's totally more I couldsay, but I'm going to call it
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there and just end my love gushletter for Telegram with that it
truly creates the space that meand my clients can go so deeply
into.
I'm able to, for example, in myCosmic Currency one-on-one
containers, they're actuallythree-way groups between me and
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the client and my Cosmic BizBot, I'm able to do a
combination of her deliveringthe daily or weekly material
right on time and me coming into answer questions, to deepen
the conversation and to take itfrom there.
It has honestly just created thespace for such deeper
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conversations to take our timeand be able to integrate the
things.
Oftentimes I'll go in and give alisten, feel into it for a
little bit and circle back withmy response.
We're able to be so much moreintentional with our exchanges.
Okay, I said that I wouldaddress some concerns that
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occasionally get brought to mewith using the space of Telegram
and I want to just briefly parseout facts from fear here.
Some people do worry aboutTelegram being unsafe.
It is kind of in a league of itsown relative to some of the Meta
platform versions andalternatives.
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I just want to clarify thatdespite what you may have heard,
because I have seen somearticles come through that seem
more like fearmongering thanfact, but the app itself is safe
when downloaded from officialsources.
And to remember that scamshappen on all platforms.
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So a lot of what I've seen iszeroing in on what scams happen
on Telegram and what ones areeasier to happen on Telegram for
scammers.
But again, different versionsfor different platforms as they
fit better, but scams happeneverywhere.
The key, no matter what, beingin the online space, is to use
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these tools and platforms smart,with caution.
Two factor authentication.
Never clicking on a link that isunfamiliar or you don't know who
sent it.
Just using discernment andjudgment, right?
Because you do have to consentto and fall prey to a scam for
it to be a threat.
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And to remember not to sharesensitive information on any
online platform, Telegramincluded.
Their privacy is good enough forthe containers that I hold
because we don't share sensitiveinformation there where that
could be problematic.
So basically Telegram, like anyplatform like it is as safe as
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your discernment.
If you have yet to use itbecause you've been afraid of
it, I want to honor yourboundaries and your preferences
and also crack open a door foryou of considering that the way
you use the tool and theplatform has a lot to do with
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the risk that it might be.
My hope is that ultimately youmake informed, aligned choices,
not fear-based ones, whether ornot you decide to join me in one
of my Telegram spaces.
Let's zoom back out againbecause ultimately this isn't
just about Telegram, even thoughthat is my platform of choice.
It's about choosing tools andrhythms that reflect our values,
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our availability, what mattersto us, and ultimately the person
that we're becoming.
That's the case, whether we'retalking micro, the seasons and
your own personal growth anddevelopment, or macro as we are
deepening into the Aquarian age.
This is the era of decentralizedconnection and sovereign flow.
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Where freedom, innovation, andindividuality are at the
forefront of the newinfrastructure that we are
building in the online space.
I want you to remember, youdon't need permission to move at
your own pace.
What we all need are systemsthat make it possible for us all
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to feel free to do so.
You know that this principle isinfused in everything I do.
It's why we consider yourastrology chart to make sure
that any process or system orstructure you create inside of
your business is specificallytailored to your unique design.
We're talking structures thatsupport your soul, not suppress
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it.
Today's conversation, we'retalking about applying this to
your calendar as well.
As I see it, this is the realcurrency of this new age.
We're talking about time, trust,and the freedom to move how
we're made to move.
Because until now we've mostlybeen taught to equate speed with
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success and fitting yourselfinto somebody else's box with
being able to make it in thebusiness world.
That's why in Cosmic Currency, Isupport my clients to craft a
money structure, sphere, flowfor themselves to operate inside
of that actually works for themand breaks out of the mould of
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whatever we've been taught, thatis not one size fits all.
Ultimately the business ofbelonging moves at the speed of
resonance, whatever that meansfor you in the moment.
Asynchronous taught me thatbeing in sync isn't about rigid
timing.
It's about being honest withourselves and being able to flow
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with our own rhythm.
And that we don't have to chasepresence because when we do,
it's not really the thing.
We can create it and when we do,it becomes so much deeper of a
version of the thing.
So here's to buildingbusinesses, communities, and
lives that breathe with us, thatare spacious, that are steady,
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and ultimately that aresovereign.
If this conversation resonateswith you, I would love for you
to reach out to continue it withme.
You can find me on Instagram atLauren Poppins Ray and come into
my DM's and leave me a voicey.
Asynchronous is available thereas well, and I would love to get
into that space with you.
I used to live by others'clocks, back to back calls and
calendar blocks.
Presence performed on borrowedtime.
Connection, rushed, rehearsed,confined.
Then motherhood rewrote the paceand suddenly flow reclaimed its
space.
What started as a need becamedesign, a rhythm that finally
(01:18):
felt like mine.
Now I move when my energy'sfree, not chained to time, just
tuned to me.
No more juggling rooms andrings, just quiet threads and
thoughtful things.
Telegram became my favoritelane, where depth returns again
and again.
Messages breathe, replies canwait, connection blooms at its
(01:40):
own rate.
This is the rhythm of the agewe're in, Aquarium freedom flow
within.
So let's talk about what thatgave, the sanity, the rhythm,
and the space I craved.
Freedom has layers and is a hugevalue of mine as an Aquarian
human, my sun signs in Aquariusand when it comes to freedom,
(02:04):
we're not just talking abouttime freedom or financial
freedom, the typical buzz wordsthat accompany the word, we're
also talking about energeticfreedom, the freedom to flow how
you're built to move inalignment with your cycles.
(02:25):
To be able to speak when thewords feel ready to come out and
to listen when presence isreally potent.
And to most importantly, as anentrepreneur, be able to build a
business around that energeticfreedom that breathes with you
(02:45):
instead of boxing you in andfeeling like just another job
telling you what to do.
In this episode, I'm sharing howasynchronous communication
became one of the most powerfulshifts I've ever made as a mama,
as a mentor, and as a manifesterof my own rhythm, and why
(03:08):
Telegram specifically has becomemy favorite tool for it.
Not just for the features, butfor the feeling, for the
spaciousness, the sovereigntythat it creates and makes
possible as my primary platformof availability.
In this episode, we'll explorewhat asynchronous actually means
(03:29):
and why it's the opposite ofdisconnect.
How slowing down can deepen thequality of every connection you
have.
Why I choose systems thatrespect the time, energy, and
autonomy of me and the people Iwork with, and how that has
changed everything.
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The specific features that makeTelegram feel like a sanctuary
instead of another screen space,and how asynchronous flow aligns
with the Aquarian age that weare all creating inside of and
why freedom is the new form ofsuccess.
First, let's talk about whatasynchronous actually means.
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If you've heard this term andweren't sure, or if you know
technically what it means, Iwant to expand your
understanding and theconversation around what it
makes possible.
Firstly, have you heard thisword asynchronous?
It's kind of a mouthful.
It definitely sounds technical.
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So let's demystify what it's gotto do with freedom.
Simply put, asynchronous justmeans communication that doesn't
require everyone to show up atthe same time to have it.
This is the opposite ofsynchronous, which is like Zoom
or Google Meet sessions,telephone calls, live sessions
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of any kind where we actuallyboth have to put it on our
calendars at the same time, andit's all built around mutual and
matched availability instead of,with asynchronous, mutual
presence.
It doesn't mean that justbecause we scheduled something
at the same time that when thatmoment arrives, we're both just
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as present to show up for eachother.
With that, I want to offer thereframe that asynchronous isn't
less present or more absent thansynchronous.
It's actually more aboutalignment and how much more
aligned we can be with eachother and present with each
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other because of our ability tocome in and out as makes sense
for us as the moment moves.
It honors our natural rhythms,which may be different despite
our best intentions to lock in acalendar slot that lines up.
This means that we can feel intoand choose the moments when we
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do show up for asynchronouscontainers around the times when
our energy is the fullest, ourattention is the deepest, and
our words can be the mostauthentic.
We're not being forced to showup so our expression can be more
in the moment, more aligned,more authentic.
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We're coming from a more presentplace.
So what comes from us is goingto be more of us.
It creates a space forconnection that can breathe
instead of feeling forced ordemanded based on a previous
commitment that we made on ourcalendar.
Technically speaking, we're notjust talking about text.
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Oftentimes, asynchronous isvoice notes or what I like to
call voiceys.
Which is honestly my favoriteway to relate, especially when
it comes to the client mentordynamic.
I've had clients describe thevoiceys that I leave them, in
our asynchronous containers, aslike their personal podcasts
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where each day they get an audiodrop that they can tune into
while they're doing otherthings, which is nice.
And of course, because it'sprerecorded, you can speed it up
or slow it down to yourpreference, which I'm also a
huge fan of.
Before I go down the road ofgeeking out on my love affair
for asynchronous spaces, I wantto share a personal story around
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what got me to choose this asthe almost exclusive space for
my client relations.
The short of it is that ithappened because I became a
mama.
So prior to having my son, I hada tax practice where during tax
season I was so available to myclients and a lot of it was
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synchronous communications.
Me making phone calls on thefly, them making phone calls on
the fly, us scheduling phonecalls to go over their tax
return at the end, and it waslike my calendar would get so
full and then I would besqueezing in these
communications in between,hoping that they were going to
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answer, or honestly being alittle annoyed when they called
me when I was in a differentflow.
So I was mostly synchronousbefore this shift.
Of course, I also did text andemails, but a lot of the most
important and most presentcommunications happened
synchronously.
Then I had my son and I had whatwould be my final tax season in
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the first season of his life andmine as a mama, and oh my
goodness, did that clash?
If you haven't yet brought lifeinto this world, you may not
know in those early months whathappened to your relationship
with time.
For me and for us, we werebasically operating on these
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three cycles of two hours thatwere not lined up with each
other.
Every two hours I was nursinghim.
Every two hours we were doingdiaper changes, and every two
hours I was facilitating his naptime.
This is when and why I shiftedto asynchronous communication
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exclusively for that tax season.
I got on Voxer, which was theone that I experimented with at
the time, and was only availableasynchronous because there was
no way that I could lock downanything on my calendar.
Because I couldn't commit to atime, I had no idea when I would
actually be available, and thoseavailable times were little
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pockets in between everythingelse, so I just needed to be
able to dip in and dip out as itfit with my flow.
Oh my goodness, I rememberthinking and feeling like, good
God, why didn't I do thissooner?
Like why did it take this for meto make this change?
Because all of a sudden I justfelt liberated.
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I felt so free.
There's so many aspects aboutentrepreneurship that feel like
freedom to me, but that one didnot.
And it was like the one thingthat needed to shift that I
didn't even know this other waywould resolve so fully to feel
fully free as a business owner.
My calendar stopped being incharge.
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Now granted it was because thislittle human's calendar, inner
clock, biological clock, becamemy primary timekeeper instead.
But that said, everything juststarted to make more sense.
And even better for the part ofme that wondered if this was
going to have some kind ofdetriment on my communications
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or my client relationships, Iactually found that it deepened
them.
Because like I already touchedon, I was able to be so present
when I was showing up to talk tomy clients.
I wasn't juggling appointmentsand rushing from one to the next
where they didn't know, but justbefore sitting down, I had just
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run around like a crazy persongetting prepared for that
conversation.
Instead, I was able to feelgenuinely ready and present for
each communication that I made.
That means that everycommunication was coming from a
space of clarity, not urgency.
Which honestly, in the previousseason of synchronous
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communication, it was as if Iwas trying to fake presence in
the constant state of urgencybecause even if I didn't have
back to back meetings, I wasstill scrambling in the moments
before to show up on time for anappointment, it always feels
forced to have to show up fortimed meetings.
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I want to circle and connectback to what I started this
conversation with you aroundtoday, which is this wider theme
of freedom as my core Aquarianvalue.
And again, not just timefreedom, which is on the surface
what this created for me, butalso the energetic and emotional
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freedom below the surface thatit made possible too.
What I realized is in the urgenthustle and bustle of tax season
appointment setting, it wasn'tactually that I needed more
time, it was that I craved beingable to move at my own pace.
With that, I want to slow downand tell you a little bit more
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about the energetic beauty ofasynchronous spaces.
If this isn't something thatyou've experienced or if you
have, not something that you'vereally settled into and embraced
to experience the depth andbeauty of them and what's
possible inside of them.
When two people come to a spaceable to show up when we can both
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be fully there, even if it's notat the same time, the energy of
the space is so much cleaner.
Like I said, I'm not showing uppretending that I'm a hundred
percent present when I wasactually just running around
scrambling to get all my ducksin a row to be able to show up
for the conversation.
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Everyone engages when they'reresourced, right?
I can't tell you how many timesI had to sacrifice certain
things, like making the mentalchecklist of okay, I need to do
this, this, and this before Isit down.
Shit, I don't have time.
Okay?
No time to, to make my drinkfirst, right?
Whatever it is, not being ableto, in a chill way, make sure
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that all my needs are met andI'm fully resourced and
overflowing to show up and giveto that container.
The other really cool thing thatdeepens the connection, maybe
this is especially because of myline of work, because I am a
money mentor and astrologerwhere so much of what gets
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transmitted needs time to feelinto, to think about, to
integrate.
The times that I would do anhour long or 90 minute astrology
session, it just felt like afire hose of information and
maybe they would catch a couplegems to take with them.
When it comes to the moneystuff, a lot of times I'm
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presencing things that areconnected to a lot of different
things and it takes time toreally be able to feel into that
topic and be able to get themost out of it and make sure
nothing gets missed.
In any case, another one of myfavorite things about
asynchronous spaces is that theconversation lives on.
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We can go back and revisit andre-listen to any voice notes.
With Telegram you can alsowithin the app transcribe it if
you want to just go scan oversomething to find something that
you're looking for.
Again, through that revisiting,you're able to reflect and
integrate so much more than youcould in a synchronous session
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where you're either trying tohold onto and remember what
feels important or you'reactually taking yourself out of
the moment to take notes to makesure that you do, which has been
my experience oftentimes.
Or you have to go back andlisten to a full recording to
find what you want to go back toand revisit, if the session was
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even recorded.
One of my favorite things aboutvoiceys is you can listen to it
once and just receive, and thenyou can go back and listen to it
again, maybe sped up, to pullout the notes that are important
and take a moment to divert yourattention to a typed screen or
pen or paper to do that.
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And of course, as I alreadymentioned, it respects our
cycles, right, our naturalflows.
Whether that is our lunar cycleand times that we're feeling
more or less energeticallypresent.
Whether that's our hormonalcycle, whether that's our
creative cycle, whether that'sour health cycle.
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If you're feeling sick, ifyou're moony, whatever it is, if
you need to step away, you can,and you don't have to feel
guilty or like you have to goreschedule everything.
I am a fan of anything thatrespects, supports, and aligns
with our cycle, instead ofbulldozing or overpowering it,
and making us have todisassociate from ourself to be
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able to show up for something.
This is big because we're in theage of Aquarius now, which
doesn't just mean that freedomsuper matters, it also means
that authenticity does.
We are not able to be ourauthentic selves when our
nervous system is in a constantstate of activation.
This is actually a very nervoussystem regulating shift too,
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where we don't have to combineurgency with intimacy anymore.
We can experience the intimacyof connection and communication
without that urgency.
Honestly, asynchronous is thepermission slip the collective
doesn't even know it needs forthose that haven't embraced it
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yet.
Especially for those of us thatare wired for depth, not speed.
Now that said, of coursenothing's black and white.
For some people the depthhappens in the synchronous
containers and more power toyou.
But for anyone that's feelingwhat I'm putting down right now
that is more like me, I want toilluminate this possibility for
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you that you can actually havethe depth with your
communications and with yourselfthat you're craving and that
feels missing by switching toasynchronous containers.
I know that there is somebodylistening right now, maybe it's
you, that needed exactly thispermission slip today.
Speaking of today, if you arelistening to this the day that
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this episode aired, we arekicking off the first Cosmic
Money Reset Autumn Edition.
This is a ritual reset that willbe happening seasonally to reset
your relationship with money.
It's a free five day experiencewhere each day we are guided by
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that day's planetary energy toreset one part of our financial
foundation.
I'm telling you this right now,not to plug or promote it
because you already missed theboat on this one.
Once we started, the doorsclosed, but I do want to tell
you that this is a different usecase than I've done in the past
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for asynchronous.
Until this challenge, I've justdone one-to-one containers,
one-to-one asynchronous onTelegram, which I absolutely
love and so do my clients.
This challenge was and is myfirst of a group container, and
oh my goodness, I am loving itjust as much.
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Spoiler, it's actually beingnested inside of what is going
to be an ongoing community, andI'm going to have more to share
about what's happening in there.
But I wanted to let you knowthat if you are interested in
making sure that you don't missout on the next reset happening
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for the winter season inJanuary, you can go and get on
the wait list atcosmicb.link/challenge, and I
highly suggest you do.
Oh my goodness, is this thething?
It is just already kicking offwith so much buzz.
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Obviously I'll have more toshare about it later when we're
on the other side of this firstone, but I just wanted to ground
what I'm talking about into myexperience of it right now that
just continues to get better andbetter the deeper I go with it
and the more opportunities Ifind to embrace it.
Again, that link iscosmicb.link/challenge to get on
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the wait list for the comingJanuary Cosmic Money Reset.
It's five days of gentlerecalibration designed to meet
your rhythm, not rush it.
With that, let me tell you why Ilove Telegram.
Let me count the ways.
For me, Telegram is just secondto none for asynchronous
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containers.
I'm going to nerd out for aminute and tell you why, and I'm
going to break it into certainvalues that are really important
to me to illustrate how Telegramaligns with them.
The first is organization.
Y'all know I'm a Virgo Moon, Ilike to keep things organized
and the way that I'm able tothrough topics, which are like
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rooms in a group space, or aone-to-one thread, but to
organize the conversations intovarious threads I absolutely
love and folders within my ownapp to be able to organize all
of the different kinds ofconversations.
Of course, I organize them withemojis, so I have a folder and
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they're all just across the top.
Super easy to swipe through.
I've got one for my team.
I've got one for my businessbesties.
I've got one for my CosmicCurrency clients and our
one-to-one containers.
And the list goes on.
But I'm able to keep thingsreally organized so that I can
be intentional with almostbatching the communications that
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I'm doing.
I'll go in and address my teamthat's in one space, and then
I'll go in and talk to my CosmicCurrency students, reply to
their questions.
That's in another space.
Next up is accessibility, Imentioned this a little bit
already.
The voice notes feature isawesome.
We're able to speed up, or slowdown how we listen to each other
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and we're able to, in the app,transcribe every communication.
Which is super helpful to beable to listen or read whatever
works best for you or whatevermakes sense in the moment with
what you're trying to do.
Or with how available you are ifyou want to listen while you do
something else, or if you'drather tune in and read
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something.
Also, of course, being able totranscribe voiceys means being
able to put things into AI likeChat GBT or Claude, which that
is a topic for another time,what that makes possible.
Flexibility I mentioned as well.
Messages can wait, nothingdisappears.
Everything is there waiting foryou to engage when you can.
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Privacy, I love that Telegram isusername based.
We don't have to share phonenumbers to connect like in
WhatsApp or Signal.
That we can create privategroups like I've done for this
challenge that we started today.
That it is non Meta and thereare no ads or data mining as
part of it.
A little further on in thisepisode, I am going to address
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some concerns around privacy andsafety, but I wanted to just
lead with that, that for thethings that matter for me,
Telegram has got it going on.
Next up is scalability.
You can do private one-to-onechats in there.
You can do small privatecircles, or you can do big
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channel communities.
All of those are possible so itcan meet almost every need for
container that you might have inyour business.
Aesthetics.
I love how it's organized.
I love that it has dark mode.
I love that we can pick animatedemojis for things.
Honestly, it feels more like acreative studio to me than a
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feed.
And automation.
Once you go down the rabbit holeof automations, which you know I
have and do with Make, you cancreate your own Telegram bot if
you haven't worked with me yetin that space then you haven't
met mine.
Her name is Cosmic Biz Bot.
She is gorgeous, she isefficient, and she is super on
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brand and she is able to,through my make automations in
Telegram, handle a lot of therepetitive heavy lifting of
delivery, of anyways, again,topic for another time.
There's so much you can do withautomation inside Telegram.
There's totally more I couldsay, but I'm going to call it
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there and just end my love gushletter for Telegram with that it
truly creates the space that meand my clients can go so deeply
into.
I'm able to, for example, in myCosmic Currency one-on-one
containers, they're actuallythree-way groups between me and
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the client and my Cosmic BizBot, I'm able to do a
combination of her deliveringthe daily or weekly material
right on time and me coming into answer questions, to deepen
the conversation and to take itfrom there.
It has honestly just created thespace for such deeper
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conversations to take our timeand be able to integrate the
things.
Oftentimes I'll go in and give alisten, feel into it for a
little bit and circle back withmy response.
We're able to be so much moreintentional with our exchanges.
Okay, I said that I wouldaddress some concerns that
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occasionally get brought to mewith using the space of Telegram
and I want to just briefly parseout facts from fear here.
Some people do worry aboutTelegram being unsafe.
It is kind of in a league of itsown relative to some of the Meta
platform versions andalternatives.
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I just want to clarify thatdespite what you may have heard,
because I have seen somearticles come through that seem
more like fearmongering thanfact, but the app itself is safe
when downloaded from officialsources.
And to remember that scamshappen on all platforms.
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So a lot of what I've seen iszeroing in on what scams happen
on Telegram and what ones areeasier to happen on Telegram for
scammers.
But again, different versionsfor different platforms as they
fit better, but scams happeneverywhere.
The key, no matter what, beingin the online space, is to use
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these tools and platforms smart,with caution.
Two factor authentication.
Never clicking on a link that isunfamiliar or you don't know who
sent it.
Just using discernment andjudgment, right?
Because you do have to consentto and fall prey to a scam for
it to be a threat.
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And to remember not to sharesensitive information on any
online platform, Telegramincluded.
Their privacy is good enough forthe containers that I hold
because we don't share sensitiveinformation there where that
could be problematic.
So basically Telegram, like anyplatform like it is as safe as
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your discernment.
If you have yet to use itbecause you've been afraid of
it, I want to honor yourboundaries and your preferences
and also crack open a door foryou of considering that the way
you use the tool and theplatform has a lot to do with
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the risk that it might be.
My hope is that ultimately youmake informed, aligned choices,
not fear-based ones, whether ornot you decide to join me in one
of my Telegram spaces.
Let's zoom back out againbecause ultimately this isn't
just about Telegram, even thoughthat is my platform of choice.
It's about choosing tools andrhythms that reflect our values,
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our availability, what mattersto us, and ultimately the person
that we're becoming.
That's the case, whether we'retalking micro, the seasons and
your own personal growth anddevelopment, or macro as we are
deepening into the Aquarian age.
This is the era of decentralizedconnection and sovereign flow.
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Where freedom, innovation, andindividuality are at the
forefront of the newinfrastructure that we are
building in the online space.
I want you to remember, youdon't need permission to move at
your own pace.
What we all need are systemsthat make it possible for us all
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to feel free to do so.
You know that this principle isinfused in everything I do.
It's why we consider yourastrology chart to make sure
that any process or system orstructure you create inside of
your business is specificallytailored to your unique design.
We're talking structures thatsupport your soul, not suppress
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it.
Today's conversation, we'retalking about applying this to
your calendar as well.
As I see it, this is the realcurrency of this new age.
We're talking about time, trust,and the freedom to move how
we're made to move.
Because until now we've mostlybeen taught to equate speed with
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success and fitting yourselfinto somebody else's box with
being able to make it in thebusiness world.
That's why in Cosmic Currency, Isupport my clients to craft a
money structure, sphere, flowfor themselves to operate inside
of that actually works for themand breaks out of the mould of
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whatever we've been taught, thatis not one size fits all.
Ultimately the business ofbelonging moves at the speed of
resonance, whatever that meansfor you in the moment.
Asynchronous taught me thatbeing in sync isn't about rigid
timing.
It's about being honest withourselves and being able to flow
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with our own rhythm.
And that we don't have to chasepresence because when we do,
it's not really the thing.
We can create it and when we do,it becomes so much deeper of a
version of the thing.
So here's to buildingbusinesses, communities, and
lives that breathe with us, thatare spacious, that are steady,
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and ultimately that aresovereign.
If this conversation resonateswith you, I would love for you
to reach out to continue it withme.
You can find me on Instagram atLauren Poppins Ray and come into
my DM's and leave me a voicey.
Asynchronous is available thereas well, and I would love to get
into that space with you.
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