“It’s not so much about it being your idea. You want it to become their idea.”
— Allison Villa
Have you ever wanted to make a change in your lifestyle, relationship, or parenting style? Discovering a new parenting technique, sleep routine, or diet can be exciting — but often the challenge lies in getting your partner as excited about the shift as you are.
This episode tackles the big question: how do you best get your partner onboard with making a change?
(This is one of the most frequently asked questions I get from my clients and followers!)
I’m not going to talk about persuasion techniques or sneaky psychological tricks. When proposing a change to your partner, whether it’s a months-long family sabbatical or trying a gluten-free diet to benefit their health, it’s important that you take an honest, respectful, and patient approach.
The truth is that everyone has a different timeline when it comes to making peace with change, and your partner’s timeline may not match up to yours exactly — but that’s totally okay!
This episode breaks the process down into three simple, practical action items that will help you communicate your thoughts about the change, create space for your partner to develop their own positive feelings about it, and ultimately bring you closer together through affirming your choices together.
This will be a beautiful process for your couple, and I can’t wait for you to get started!
In this episode of Couplehood, you’ll discover:
- The deeper psychological responses triggered by the idea of change
- Why everyone has a different timeline for becoming receptive — and how to plant the initial seed
- The importance of affirming and celebrating your shared vision together
“You need to let it be their idea. You plant the seed and then you leave it to sprout.”
— Allison Villa
Highlights:
00:24 Introduction
01:58 Sabbatical example
02:49 Gluten-free example
04:14 Plant the seed
08:32 Be patient with timelines
10:49 Affirmation & celebration
12:33 Approach it as equals
13:01 Recap
Links:
Work With Me: https://www.allisonvilla.com
Follow Me on Instagram: https://instagram.com/allison__villa
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