Couples Therapy In Seven Words

Couples Therapy In Seven Words

Be Kind, Don‘t Panic, and Have Faith. Psychologist Dr. Bruce Chalmer and educator Judy Alexander talk about relationships, interview fascinating guests, and answer your questions.

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November 18, 2022 43 min

Are you a woman trying to get your man to try couples therapy with you? You’ve tried asking, pleading, cajoling, threatening, nagging, buttering him up, using all your favorite communications techniques–and none of it has worked. He keeps telling you why he won’t go. But wait–what if there’s another reason?

You can find out more about Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therap...

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It’s here! Dr. Chalmer’s new book, It’s Not About Communication: Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong, is now available. In this episode we talk about the book, and why you need to read it. If you’re in a couple and would like to improve your relationship, you should read this book. If you’re considering couples therapy, or are currently in couples therapy, this book will help you get the most out of it. And if yo...

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Why don’t therapists ask older clients about their sex lives? Do older people even have sex? (Yes!) How do you handle consent when a person has dementia? In this episode we talk about all this and more with Dr. Regina Koepp, a founder of the Center for Mental Health and Aging, an online training resource. And it turns out she’s a neighbor of ours!

The website Dr. Keopp mentioned is  https://www.mentalhealthandaging.com.

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When a heterosexual couple looks for couples therapy, it’s usually the woman driving the process. Dr. Ray and Jean Kadkhodaian have developed a model of working with couples, called Couples Synergy, that they designed to bridge the gender gap. In this episode we talk to them about their work, and handle a listener question from a woman who wants to get her husband off the couch and out of the garage to do things with her.

Dr. Ray a...

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How can a mobile app help your relationship? Why is it so difficult for men to access their feelings, and describe them to their partners? How does the human capacity for adaptation sometimes work against growth in relationships? In this episode, we interview Mike Bosworth, who works with his partner Jennifer Lehr, MFT on an app called WeConcile. 

We also handle a listener question from a woman who wants to know how to get her husb...

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How do you keep passion alive in a long-term relationship? Can you have a sexual awakening after decades of marriage? We talk to Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, known as “The Intimacy Doctor,” and answer a question from a listener who wants to get her sex life going again with her older husband.

Dr. Stockwell’s website is https://alexandrastockwell.com.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, a...

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Been feeling frazzled lately? A lot of us have! Dr. Gina Simmons Schneider tells us what to do to calm our frazzlebrains, and helps out a listener.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your books, or go to Dr. Chalmer’s website. https://brucechalmer.com.

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September 23, 2022 37 min

Remember our most popular episode, "It's Not About Communication!"? Well, Bruce has written a new book (out soon) called It's Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong. And spoiler alert: Bruce gives away the "zinger" of the book.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your...

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September 9, 2022 38 min

How do you get that erotic “wow” factor in your relationship? Not just in your sex life, but when you’re doing the dishes? We answer a listener question, and along the way talk some about our own relationship too.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your books, or go to Dr. Chalmer’s website. brucechalmer.com.

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September 2, 2022 20 min

Polly and Cal came to therapy trying to improve their communication skills. Then one day they came into the session both smiling. Cal had realized something, and so had Polly, and it was making a big difference. What was their great insight?

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your books, or go to Dr. Chalmer’s website. brucechalme...

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Sex therapy and religion don’t often go together—but our guest on today’s podcast, Dr. Caleb Jacobson, is an expert on both, and how they reinforce each other. Dr. Jacobson’s website is https://sextherapypodcast.comHere’s the discount link to our sponsored product today.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your books, or go to Dr...

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When you start couples therapy, how do you know if it’s helping? And how do you find a therapist in the first place? We help a listener who’s been through a bunch of therapy experiences that weren’t helpful, and is wondering how to know what to look for.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available wherever you get your books, or go to Dr. Chalmer’s website...

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How are parents, imperfect as we all are, also heroes? How can a couple work together to help their children grow and thrive, even when the parents differ in their parenting styles? What’s the role of faith in parenting? In this episode of “Couples Therapy in Seven Words,” we interview early childhood expert DJ Stutz about these and other topics.

The websites DJ mentions are https://www.littleheartsacademyusa.com and https://imperf...

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How do you talk to those people—you know, the people on the other side? What if they’re your in-laws? What if they’re not idiots after all? Or what if you are too? We talk about ideas versus ideologies (a big part of Bruce’s next book), and handle a listener question.

The book we refer to is I Never Thought of It That Way by Monica Guzman, and the website we mention is braverangels.org.

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In the US, about one in sex adults are providing unpaid care to an adult with health or functional needs. How does caregiving affect couples? What should caregivers know, and what help is available? In this episode of “Couples Therapy in Seven Words,” we interview Daniella Marchick, who provides counseling and consultation to caregivers and the people who help them.

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Work relationships: How are they like couple relationships? How do the ideas of stability and intimacy apply to relationships between team members at work? June Shen-Epstein is a Project Manager who has thought a lot about the importance of work relationships, both to the business and to the people involved. In this episode of our “Couples Therapy in Seven Words” podcast, June talks about how she applies her understanding to her wo...

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Are you looking for the perfect relationship? In this episode of the “Couples Therapy in Seven Words” podcast, Dr. Alyson Nerenberg explains that our quest for perfection is doomed to fail—and that’s good news, not bad. Her recently published book is No Perfect Love: Shattering the Illusion of Flawless Relationships.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is avail...

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What does it take to help love survive over the long haul? Dr. Barbara Grossman is an individual, family, and couples therapist, and Dr. Michael Grossman is a medical doctor who specializes in anti-aging. Together they talk about their ideas on how to keep love alive.

Dr. Chalmer's book Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Relationships Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back is available here, or wherever you get your books.

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Jeremy Sherman is a specialist in psychoproctology—the study of, well, the behavior of a**holes. He’s also a popular blogger for Psychology Today, a researcher who studies how life has emerged from chemicals, and a funny guy. Among other gems in this interview, Jeremy explains how he became happily married to solitude, when his lack of appetite finally caught up to his lack of aptitude.

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Liam Naden went from being homeless and loveless in his 40s to building a satisfying life and relationship. In this episode, Liam shares with us what he learned about the brain and how that knowledge can help anyone change their life. Along the way we handle a listener question: how can she recover from finding out her husband of 25 years had been cheating on her repeatedly?

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