What is Love? Week 23: Abelard and Heloise, and Troubadour Poetry

How is this project different than reading books in school? Well, I'm going a lot faster, but it's more than that. I reflect a little on the differences to get us started. I'm grateful that reading on my own is giving me time to reflect on goodness and Beauty-with-a-capital-B. And did this week ever deliver on the Beauty!

This week’s reading was the letters of Peter Abelard and Heloise, a glimpse into one of the most famous love stories of the Middle Ages. Abelard was the leading logician in 12th-century France, at the height of his career, when he fell in love with his brilliant student, Heloise. Their secret affair led to a pregnancy, a clandestine marriage, and eventually Abelard’s castration at the hands of Heloise’s furious uncle. Abelard turned to monastic life, Heloise became an abbess, and the two carried on a remarkable correspondence that reveals their faith, intellect, and conflicted love.

At first, I wasn’t sure what to make of Abelard. He begins his account by one-upping a friend: “You think you’ve got problems? Listen to mine.” In later letters, he almost calls Heloise a nag and suggests she should be grateful to be an abbess instead of burdened with children. As a wife, mom, and Christian, I found his dismissive view of marriage hard to swallow. And yet, the more I read, the more nuance emerged. Abelard gives thoughtful counsel, treats Heloise as his intellectual equal, and writes powerfully on women’s roles in Scripture.

Heloise’s voice is even more compelling. She never stops loving Abelard, body and soul, and her honesty about desire and devotion is stunning. She also wrestles deeply with how to lead her convent well. Abelard pushes her toward embracing service to God, but it’s clear the struggle was harder for her than for him.

Their letters touch on everything from the Rule of St. Benedict to church politics that nearly destroyed Abelard. By the end, through the testimony of Peter the Venerable, I found myself unexpectedly moved by Abelard too.

To round out the week, I dipped into “Lark in the Morning: The Verses of the Troubadours,” a gorgeous collection of poetry from the same era. This little volume is truly on of the highlights of my library now, and I think everyone should own it! It offers some history as well as beautiful translations of Troubadour poetry. These voices, along with Abelard and Heloise, offer a vivid entry point into the medieval world.

This is a year-long challenge! Join me next week for a halftime review of this reading project.

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