In this solo episode of Creative Space, I’m talking about something so many of us avoid: admitting the goals we’re secretly afraid to want.
Whether it’s moving to a new city, changing careers, or chasing a dream that feels too impractical, it’s easy to stay stuck because we don’t even say it out loud. I share my own experience with this—the years I buried my dream of moving to LA—and how finally admitting it to myself changed everything.
This episode is my invitation to you to pause, reflect, and ask honestly: What am I not letting myself want?
If you’ve been feeling stuck or restless, I hope this episode gives you permission to tell yourself the truth.
And if you're curious about coaching, I’d love to offer you a free 30-minute discovery call to see if coaching might help you take that next step. Book here.
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 — Introduction
1:00 — Embracing the “Perfectly Imperfect” New Chapter
2:15 — The Goals We’re Afraid to Admit
3:20 — My Story: The Buried Dream of Moving to LA
5:00 — The Cost of Staying Safe vs. Going After What You Want
6:15 — An Invitation to Get Honest About Your Own Untouchable Goals
7:00 — Closing Thoughts
Episode Transcript
Hello and welcome back to Creative Space,
a podcast where we explore,learn and grow in creativity
together.
My name is Jennifer Logue andtoday I just wanted to start by
saying thank you for listeningto my return episode on Friday.
It means the world to me to beback here with you, sharing
these stories, these reflectionsand hopefully giving you
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something meaningful to thinkabout in your own life.
I have to say I love this newchapter of the podcast.
It's perfectly imperfect.
I'm living out of a suitcase.
I don't have my fancy mic.
I'm podcasting with's.
Perfectly imperfect.
I'm living out of a suitcase.
I don't have my fancy mic.
I'm podcasting with what I have.
It's just a lot more fun thisway for me, and I hope it is for
you too, if you're new here.
Apart from hosting this podcast,I'm a creative coach, a writer
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and all-around explorer of whatit means to live a more creative
, authentic life.
You don't have to be an artistto be creative.
By the way, we all are.
Creativity is the vehicle I useto get my clients from where
they are to where they want tobe.
At the end of the day,creativity is about choices and
your life is the greatestcreative project of all.
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So let's be bold.
Today I want to talk aboutsomething that's been on my mind
a lot lately, and that's thegoals.
We're afraid to admit we evenwant the untouchable goals, the
goals you won't even say outloud because you're embarrassed
by them.
The goals that, deep down, youknow you should pursue, but they
seem too out of reach to eventry.
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So why bother?
Right, if I've learned anythingin these last few years, it's
this.
Sometimes the real reason youfeel stuck is that you're not
even allowing yourself to wantwhat you really want.
Deep down, you have a dream todo something or become something
, but you don't even give thedream a chance because it's too
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far-fetched or too silly or tooscary or too financially
irresponsible, or insertwhatever excuse you have that
you've been telling yourself.
I know this because I've livedit.
In Friday's episode, I sharedabout taking a break from the
podcast, stepping away to dosome real inner work for myself,
and part of that work was aboutgetting honest about a dream I
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had buried for years, and that'smoving to LA.
At first I put it off and theneventually, I just wrote it off
as being impractical,financially irresponsible, and
on and on and on that staying inthe house that I bought in
Philly was the responsible move.
And you know, on paper it wasLow interest rates, good
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investments, stability.
But in my heart it felt heavy,a dead end, and the restlessness
didn't go away.
I always had this low, barelyaudible buzz of discontent.
No matter how well I decoratedthe house or how social I was,
nothing I did, no goal I couldachieve, would make up for
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burying the LA dream.
It's wild how easy it is toconvince yourself you should
want something that feels safe,even if it doesn't let you up at
all.
When I finally admitted to mycoach that I wanted to move to
LA, I felt so embarrassed Icalled it a silly dream.
I told him I was too old forthat now, that LA was for people
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pursuing acting careers or somebig artsy thing that I didn't
even think I was allowed to wantat this point in my life.
Then he asked me how would youfeel at 80 years old if you
didn't take that chance?
And, as I said on the podcastbefore, that question hit me
like a ton of bricks, becausethe answer was was obvious I'd
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really, really regret it.
And suddenly the whole innerconflict I was having made sense
.
I was feeling stuck because,despite all the other goals I
was achieving, I wasn't takingaction on the one my heart
wanted the most.
And here's the thing.
I see this with my clients allthe time.
People come to coaching sayingthey want clarity or they want
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to get unstuck.
They think the way to getunstuck, they think the way to
get unstuck is to get moremotivated by working with a
coach and don't get me wrong,that's definitely part of it.
But more often than not, thebiggest part of getting unstuck
is admitting what it is youactually want, not what your
parents want, not what yourfriends want, not what society
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says you should want.
What you want.
It's all about you.
This is your life, because onceyou discover that and say it
out loud, that's power.
Now we're cooking, but it's upto you to take action and go
after it.
Even if the goal is absolutelyterrifying and yes, I get it
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Admitting you want something bigor different feels risky.
It makes you vulnerable.
It can threaten the whole lifeyou've built around.
Not wanting it around, notpursuing it, but staying stuck
in a life you don't love, that'sits own kind of risk.
So I want to ask you right nowis there something you're not
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letting yourself want?
Maybe it's moving to a new city, changing careers, going back
to school, writing a book,ending a relationship, starting
a YouTube channel, pursuing anacting career at age 50.
What's the dream that feels sobig or silly or impractical that
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you're not even willing to sayout loud just for a second?
Can you admit it to yourself?
You don't have to act on ittoday.
You don't have to know howyou're going to make it happen.
Just be honest with yourself.
Tell yourself the truth.
That's what coaching did for me.
It wasn't about someone givingme the answers.
That's not what coaching isabout.
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That's consulting, but that'sanother video for another day.
It was having someone hold up amirror to me.
Call me on my excuses, help mesee what I was pretending I
didn't want.
That's the real work.
If this is resonating with youand you're thinking, yeah, I'm
really stuck and I can useclarity on how to move forward,
I'd love to talk to you.
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I offer free 30-minutediscovery calls to see if
working together might help youget clear, get honest and figure
out what you really want.
No pressure, no salesyweirdness, just a real
conversation.
You can book your call at thelink in the show notes, I'd be
honored to chat with you.
Anyway, that's all I have forthis episode of Creative Space.
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If you found this helpful, makesure you're subscribed so you
don't miss next week's episode,and if you know someone who
might need to hear this message,please share it with them.
Until next time, keep dreaming,keep exploring and don't be
afraid to want what you trulywant.
Take care, thank you.
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