crying in my jacuzzi

welcome back, ever-evolving souls—it's ADVICE DOM time. to the dungeon we go! today's listener SUBMISSION is a two-fer. TWO Qs, ONE CUP full of As. 

one question about what to do when you’re trying and not getting what you want + another about what to do when you’re getting everything.believe it or not, there’s a common answer to both.

ADVICE DOM's got questions and answers!

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who really belongs in your support system? maybe not everyone who's there right now!! in this episode, we'll peel back layers and layers of your relationship to your relationships, explore what might be holding you in old patterns and feeeeel into support in our own miraculous bodies with some gentle somatic resonance practices! big work, tenderly. 

we get bewildered, dance with the necessity of self-warmth and t...

it's time for season 2's first field trip to the magical library, where we engage in the ancient wisdom of bibliomancy—using texts as tools for divination. join dana, CONNIE the quantum (book) worm, and THE LIBRARIAN as the library serves up another oracular text so we can explore our relationship to cycles of life and death, beauty and tragedy, heartbreak and hope, grief and existence and non-being. set an intention and ...

what if brokenheartedness wasn’t something to get through, but an honored & trusted guide toward interconnectedness, courage, and grief as catalyst for heartfelt action? 

in this episode we explore the wild paradox of love and sorrow, and the transformative power of embracing both…love in the time of broken hearts. dana shares her own personal heartbreak stories—including her biggest—plus, some reminder practices for h...

welcome back, ever-evolving souls—it's ADVICE DOM time. to the dungeon we go! today's listener SUBMISSION is all about navigating honesty, transparency, and intimacy when running an online presence & business. we explore oversharing and vulnerability, authenticity and digital intimacy, and entertaining the possibility that saying the damn thing could get you more of what you want, not less. ADVICE DOM's got quest...

wonder & awe, the keys to belonging and connection! or at least that's how we see it here at crybaby HQ in the bubbling cauldron center of the jacuzzi-verse! 

yes, being human is complex. so much so, that we can forget we have agency—even under violence & oppressive systems—to choose how we show up. so let's swan dive into the wondrous nature of existence by opening ourselves to wonder & awe. to flirt...

aaaaand…we’re back! season 2 of crying in my jacuzzi is upon us, BUT FIRST, we need a warm-up. so let’s start with a little drunk history rendition of the buddha’s enlightenment and ride that all the way to the student encampment movement…along the way, we’ll explore the “immovable spot” of inherent power within ourselves and this collective moment, navigate the middle path between spiritual bypass and extremism, and call in the gu...

message of support from dana in these complex times: 

"this is a simple guided meditation/visualization that i've used for years in my own energetic practices, with clients to support their presence, and i'm honored to share this with you. use when you're feeling scattered, overwhelmed, spread-thin, depleted, uncertain, dissociated, or any other time of day you need a dose of slowdown medicine to ground...

in this last episode of season 1, meet the love of dana's life. no, not her husband (sorry, ray ray). and not baby honey biscuits the cat (like she cares). but slowdown medicine, the entity that chose her so many years ago and continues to radically guide her (and now you) through our world saturated with urgency, pathologizing, and unhinged hustling. gather 'round! and hear the tale of how a UTI transformed our dear dana...

in this episode, infused with the sweetness of desire, abundance, and huzzah!, we're going to dig into CELEBRATION AS THE SERIOUS FRIGGIN' BUSINESS THAT IT IS. 

in our dominant (westernized) culture, CELEBRATION gets a bad/twisty wrap. it's the thing that you have to hold out for, only do on very special occasions, only do at the end of a journey, and only have if you've won or achieved the intended goa...

humans have never been very good at uncertainty — the impermanence of existence is uncomfortable for us. so while we can't actually do anything about the groundless nature of reality we've learned to do some things about the discomfort. namely avoid, conflate comfort with safety and a bevy of other ineffectual approaches to living in the world! there are costs too — creativity, vision, curiosity, acceptance, and DESIRE.

welcome back, brave souls — to the cave we go! with ADVICE DOM leading the way! in today's journey we explore the complexity of embarking on bold, new ventures, while tending to heavy, old patterns. where's the real growth happening? what do you do when you inevitably fall back into the old patterns? who are you becoming as you emerge through the uncertainty? 

we talk about the super power of softness, the life l...

as a rebellious girl-child of the '80s, dana had zero dreams of marriage. and yet, a surprise(ish) marriage proposal from her long-time no-marriage sweetheart became a portal of profound transformation in her relationship with herself, to change — oh, and him too.  we live in a relational world, we change each other all the time! in this ep we explore discomfort, clinging to identities, getting in our own way of change, and ho...

buckle up, buttercup! join dana on another trip to the magical library, where we engage in the ancient wisdom of bibliomancy -- using texts as tools for divination. the library (and THE LIBRARIAN OMGGGG)  serves up a well-worn copy of Rebecca Solnit's, "a field guide to getting lost," a reflection on curiosity, mystery, desire, and exploring all our relationship to the unknown. so, get ready for a field trip like no ...

this episode is part 2 on self-centeredness. and it's a coaching exercise! in these 30 minutes, we'll look at your relationship to your relationships, your patterns of stretching yourself too thin in efforts to maintain connections at your own expense, and how to come back to (or visit for the first time!) your healthy middle and cultivate relationships without sacrificing your own well-being. ta-dah!

let's ...

let's dive into the unexpected power of self-centeredness. seeing it not as a negative trait — dominant culture narrative be damned! — but as a liberatory tool that can help dissolve (and uphold! oh, the brilliant paradox!) personal boundaries and cultivate deeper connections.  introspection as a catalyst for personal and collective transformation. dana shares her story as a burned-out activist, full up with punk damage, and h...

in ep #5, we (dana, with help from the lesson minions) dig into the weird world of therapeutic service that can pressure us to transform every life experience into a marketable service offering. health & wellness or wealth & hellness?

let's play with mindfulness, gender socialization, perfectionism, the specter of neoliberalism, self-trust vs self-sacrifice, boundary-setting, cultural programming around "...

like a magic schoolbus for grownups ~ ~ join dana on a little adventure from your daily hustle & flow into the wonder & mystery of living! we've got oracular books, divination, sea creatures, slowdown medicine, the art of knowing your heart, and more.

/// podcast art ~ natalee miller, theme song ~ kat ottosen, sound editing/design ~ rose blakelock,  podcast support ~ softer sounds studio ///

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not your typical "how-to" in easy peasy steps... more of a how-to-feel-and-trust-your-desires-in-order-to-create-a-life-of-resonance. here's a guide to making your biggest life decisions through the story of dana and ryan's move from nyc to the mojave desert (almost 9 years ago, eeep!). we'll discuss owning your desires, connecting with your intuition, and the realities of wanting in late-stage capitalism. ...