Ep - 31 Will a Growth Mindset Make Life Easier for Your Teenage Daughter?

Hey Parents,

Have you ever asked your daughter how she’s doing and heard something like … “it’s complicated” or “you won’t understand!”

As you’re working through the ‘letting go’ and ‘losing control’ part of raising a teenager (two of the toughest parts if you ask me), getting a non-answer when you’re trying to connect is tough because:

• it feels like it widens the divide
• and pulls heavily on your heartstrings

As a parent of teens, I get it.

Welcome back to the Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast, it’s an honor to spend this time with you.

If you’re feeling like you haven’t quite found a solution to how to empower your daughter to build confidence, integrity and resilience for all of life’s adventures, this episode is for you.

And hopefully it’ll make it easier for you and your daughter to learn and grow together, too.

Signature System

After years of working with teens and their families, I think you’ll see that the 4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen:

• Developing a strong sense of self
• Creating meaningful educational experiences
• Designing healthy social scenarios
• Fostering a connective family life

Not only offer your daughter the tools she needs to step into her personal power, recognize when to lead and when to follow, and mitigate the negative effects of social media.

They also help you learn how to navigate these teen rites of passage.

If you’re not familiar with my signature system, the 4 Steps to Cultivating a Resilient Teen, you’ll find more information and the full show notes for this podcast on my website, cultivatingresilientteens.com.

What’s Happening

Okay, here’s the downlow on … “it’s complicated” or “you won’t understand.”

The likelihood that these statements are true, is pretty high.

It’s less about trying to drive you crazy or push you away, and more about your daughter feeling overwhelmed and confused herself.

And as a caring, resourceful and hardworking parent, you likely encourage your daughter to be a critical thinker in order to solve her problems.

Critical thinking is an essential life skill.

But sometimes relationships are messy, and miscommunications happen - and there’s not a clear answer or approach.

You may even see the wheels turning as your daughter attempts to figure out or fix her situation.

And recognize that she's caught in a negative thought loop, which, as you know, isn’t helpful.

If you’re not familiar with how negative thought loops influence your daughter’s mood and motivation, you may want to familiarize yourself with the top 6 thinking errors in Ep – 28 How to Break Free from Thinking Errors that Wreck Your Daughter’s Confidence.

It's a Dance

So here you are, trying to connect with and support your daughter, but you’re not sure whether to step in or step back – a bit of a dance.

Find out if a growth mindset will make life easier for your daughter, as well as, learn how to dance with agility and grace. Get the complete show notes on my website, Cultivating Resilient Teens Podcast.

Podcast Resources

Life’s Random Bits | Parenting is Like Dancing | 9.7.2017

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success | Carol Dweck

5 Keys to the Right Mindset for Growth and Success | Bob Choat | 7.3.2015

Episode #2 How to Rais

Here's to cultivating a more resilient teen for all of life&