Tim Molnar

Episode Notes

 

[00:00]The Misleading Spark in Dating

[00:47] Introduction to Curated Questions

[01:35] Meet Tim Molnar: The Dating Strategist

[02:21] The Power of Asking Better Questions

[06:06] The Analytical Approach to Dating

[08:34] Reverse Engineering Love

[13:35] Picking A Date Number

[15:40] Self-Awareness in Dating

[18:12] Emotional Rewards and Protections

[22:58] A Predictor of Long-Term Happiness

[30:30] Healthy Relationships and Happiness

[32:11] The Role of Dating Apps

[35:48] Evaluating Potential Partners

[38:03] Designing a Dating Process

[39:25] Proactive Dating Strategies

[40:32] Creating Rigid Implementation Intentions

[41:40] Building Confidence Through Tracking Progress

[43:05] The Role of Accountability in Taking Action

[45:09] Handling Disappointment and Rejection in Dating

[46:48] Understanding Ghosting and Its Implications

[47:51] The Impact of Digital Communication on Empathy

[48:53] Questions to Ask When Facing Rejection

[53:28] The Role of AI in Modern Dating

[54:17] Ineffective Questions in the Dating World

[01:00:25] Probing Questions to Reveal Deal Breakers

[01:02:37] Navigating Long-Term Relationship Changes

[01:03:49] Creating Space for Relationship Growth

[01:05:55] Balancing Self-Development and Dating

[01:11:32] The Importance of Growth Mindset in Relationships

[01:13:23] Hunting Field Mice or Antelope

[01:20:42] Final Thoughts and Encouragement

[01:23:07] Final Thoughts

 

Resources Mentioned

Date Smarter: A Strategic Guide for Navigating Modern Romance by Tim Molnar

Debbie Millman

John and Julie Gottman

Love Lab

Harvard Study of Adult Development

Robert Waldinger

James Clear

Adam Grant

Ramit Sethi

Newt Gingrich

Tim Molnar's website

Beauty Pill

Producer Ben Ford

 

Questions Asked

When did you first understand the power of questions?

Would you like a cookie?

Can we please have a cookie today?

Why the switch going from all things lawyer like over to this new world?

Can you just give some background on what that looked like?

How does that academic background influence your questions about dating?

How might someone without research training develop similar analytical skills?

How can I meet someone who's gonna be a great life partner for myself?

What does my perfect day look like five years from now?

What was I eating for breakfast?

Where did I wake up?

Who did I wake up next to?

What type of books was I reading?

What was my physical health like, my emotional health, my social health?

Was I traveling?

Was I active?

What was I doing for work?

What did my finances look like?

Is there a way to reverse engineer that?

Has there been research done on this?

Would you be interested in going on a date with me?

Can I have a light for my cigarette?

Can I have directions?

Would you like to go grab a coffee, go for a walk, or grab some dinner?

What are those dating roadblocks?

Have I been gettin