Cycle Breaker and Change Maker with Renata Ortega

Today isn’t a “lesson” episode… or a “deep dive” into a single topic. It’s more of a heart-to-heart. You and me, sitting down together for a chat.

Because this is the final episode of Season One.

And I just want to say thank you. Truly. Whether you’ve been listening since Episode One or you’re here for the first time today, I’m grateful for you.

I know your time is precious. I know life is busy. And the fact that you’ve chosen to spen...

🧠 Why We Miss the Signs: Unlearning What We've Been Taught

Most of us didn’t grow up learning the signs of emotional or psychological abuse. In fact, many of us normalized the abnormal, especially if we were raised in environments where manipulation, control, or neglect were masked as discipline or “tough love.”

We were told:

●       “They just have a temper.”
 
 

●       “They’re only hard on you because t...

For many trauma survivors, oversharing isn’t carelessness—it’s a defense mechanism. When you’ve experienced a life where your voice was silenced, your truth denied, or your needs invalidated, you might learn to try to "earn" safety and connection by laying it all out there—fast.

You might recognize this thought: “If I tell you everything upfront, maybe I’ll finally be seen, understood, or accepted.”

What begins as a despera...

Today, we’re unpacking something that gets mislabeled as strength but often masks something much deeper: hyper-independence.

You know that voice in your head that says, “I don’t need anyone. I’ve got this. I can do it all myself”? That might feel empowering at first glance—but if you look closely, it might be rooted in a wound, not wisdom.

Today’s episode is about taking a closer, compassionate look at that voice, and understanding w...

 Today, we’re going beyond the introduction to “lack of accountability” and taking a deep, healing dive into how the absence of accountability in relationships can shape your reality—and how to reclaim your truth, your peace, and your power when that apology never comes.

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Today we have a very special guest on the Cycle Breaker and Change Maker Podcast, our guest is Ellen Campbell.  Ellen is the CEO & Founder of the Canadian Centre for Abuse Awareness (Abuse Hurts).  

Ellen is a childhood abuse survivor who used her recovery to create hope for others.  Ellen also held the first National Conference for Adult Survivors of Sexual Abuse and through Abuse Hurts also began designing programs for childre...

In Episode 9, I introduced the idea that abuse is not always visible. That what happens behind closed doors can be completely at odds with the images we present to the outside world. And that’s what I want to explore with you today: the hidden pain, the internalized fear, and the façade that many of us learned to wear in order to survive.

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Today, we’re going deeper into a topic that so many of you reached out to me about—anticipatory fear, also known as anticipatory anxiety.

If you’ve ever found yourself bracing for something bad—even when nothing bad has happened yet—you’re not alone. In fact, you’re not broken. You’re likely responding to something very old, something that once tried to protect you.

This episode is for anyone who’s ever lost sleep over “what ifs,” an...

The Diagnosis Doesn’t End the Story

If you’ve ever lived through a life-altering diagnosis—or supported someone who has—you know that the moment you hear the words from a doctor is both the beginning and the end.

It’s the end of how things used to be. And the beginning of living life with new terms, new fears, new rules.

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Today’s episode is a little different—but it’s one I believe is critical.

We're talking about something many of us don’t realize until it’s too late: the financial and societal cost of unresolved trauma. And yes, I mean real dollars. But also the cost in lost potential, strained relationships, and the weight so many of us silently carry.

This is not just a personal issue—it’s a societal one. One we cannot afford to ignore.

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A trigger is not just a strong reaction. It’s a sudden surge of emotion or physical response that seems disproportionate to the moment—but perfectly logical when you look at your past. Triggers often come from unresolved trauma. They are your nervous system sounding an alarm, not because you're weak, but because you’ve been through something that taught your body to brace for impact.

Triggers can be people, places, sounds, smel...

Episode Description:

In this powerful episode of Cycle Breaker & Change Maker, Renata Ortega sits down with registered psychotherapist and coach Nisrine Maktabi for a deeply personal and healing conversation on what it means to break cycles—especially those rooted in patriarchy, war, displacement, and intergenerational trauma.

Together, they explore the invisible patterns that shape our nervous systems, the lasting impact of atta...

In Episode 4, I introduced the idea of letting go—specifically, letting go of relationships that are no longer healthy or aligned. Today, we’re diving deeper.

Letting go isn’t a one-time action. It’s a process, a practice, and for many of us—a profound act of self-liberation.

And if the mere thought of letting go of someone brings up guilt, fear, or anxiety—you are not alone. That’s exactly what we’re going to talk about today.

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Hello, and welcome back to the Cycle Breaker and Change Maker Podcast. I’m Renata Ortega, and if you’ve made it here today, I want you to take a moment to acknowledge your courage. Today’s topic is one that touches so many of us in ways that aren’t always obvious until we start to look inward. We’re diving deeper into a topic we began in Episode 3—abandonment.

This episode comes with a gentle caution—if abandonment is something you’...

In episode 2, I introduced the concept of the negative relationship cycle—how we often find ourselves in harmful or unbalanced relationships without even realizing we’re repeating a pattern we never chose in the first place.

Today, we’re going to go deeper. This episode is for anyone who’s ever thought, “Why does this keep happening to me?” or “Why do I keep ending up with people who hurt me, drain me, or make me question my worth?”

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Today’s episode is deeply personal and something I believe many of us quietly struggle with. We’re going to talk about letting go of relationships — without guilt — even if you love the person and even if society, culture, or your upbringing tells you that you shouldn’t.

Let me start by saying this: this is not an easy thing to do. In fact, it’s one of the hardest lessons I’ve had to learn and, honestly, continue to practice. We’re ...