September 17, 2024 • 35 mins
Father's Day in Australia came with a side of bacon, pancakes, and an unexpected win! Ever wondered what it's like to juggle a family breakfast, snag a door prize, and still manage to keep up with the latest gaming trends? This week on Dad Mode, we recount a fun and chaotic Father's Day celebration that included a giant metal cooler filled with every dad's dream (and some licorice nightmares). Join us for a hearty laugh as we share some dad wisdom and the joys of navigating holidays and family time while keeping our gaming passion alive.
From the hilarious differences in holiday schedules between countries to the bittersweet moments of parenting, we keep it real and relatable. Listen in as we talk about the typical behavior of kids on Father's Day, the unexpected joys of winning a raffle, and the endless stream of dad gifts. If you're a parent, a gamer, or just someone who appreciates the madness of modern life, this episode promises to entertain and maybe even offer a few nuggets of wisdom along the way. Tune in and join the conversation as we switch from human mode to full-on dad mode!
Josh aka Bearded_Nova
I'm from Australia and am what you would call a father who games. I have 5 kids so not as much time to game as I used to. But I still game and stream when I can. So come join me on Twitch in chat as we chill out.
Business Inquiries: Bearded-n0va@aussiebb.com.au
Josh aka Moorph
I'm a US-based husband and father of two boys. I work full-time and have been a content creator since 2000. I'm a YouTube partner, Twitch and LiveSpace streamer who founded a content creation coaching company called Elev8d Media Group (elev8d.media). I'm a blogger, streamer, podcaster, and video-er(?).
Business Inquiries: josh@elev8d.media
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Stand by.
Stand by, switching from humanmode to dad mode, initializing
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This is Dad Mode, the podcastwhere we navigate the chaotic
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just life in general.
We're diving into thechallenges of raising kids in
the digital age, from socialmedia madness to navigating the
gaming landscape.
We're talking about it all,especially from a dad's
perspective.
Whether it's conquering thelatest game, creating content
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that's more than just a hobby,or just trying to keep up with
the ever-changing tech landscape, we're right there with you.
We want to help you navigatethis wild journey of parenthood
and modern life, from balancingfamily time to managing your
career and still squeezing insome gaming and content creation
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It's all about fun, some dadwisdom and a whole lot of dad
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mode.
Now your hosts Bearded, novaand more.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
All right.
So I know it's SeptemberOctober.
I don't even know what the dateis anymore.
So I know it's septemberoctober.
I don't know what the date isanymore, but you, you have
holidays in australia thataren't like ours at the same
time, and necessarily oneparticular.
You just had father's day,right?
Yes?
Speaker 3 (01:34):
yes, so we went out for the family breakfast.
So oddly we have mother's day.
It's a similar day, but forsome reason our father's day are
a few months apart, go figure.
Yeah, I don't.
I don't get why that is.
I'm sure there's a reason onthe internet that doesn't make
sense and it's got to do withcorporations and money and greed
or something.
But but I had a nice day, a dayfor me.
(01:58):
I guess you know this isprobably part of the reason why
we haven't been consistent withepisodes the last few weeks,
because we both had so muchgoing on.
Yes, personally, in differentlevels, you've had holidays,
I've got Father's Day.
It's been a mess.
So we've done what we can wherewe can.
But Father's Day was great.
(02:19):
Went for breakfast Same placethat we went to Mother's Day
breakfast this year, which wasFootball Club.
Lovely buffet breakfast.
I won the door prize very nice,yeah, yeah, I don't win stuff.
So you know we're sitting there, I'm just happy having
breakfast.
I've been really over the moonthat I've just get him a bacon
maze and pancakes and you knoweverything like that.
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Got my nice latte to sit down,you know, and then they get over
the pa.
It's like, oh, the person whowins the morning nice latte to
sit down, you know, and thenthey get over the pa.
It's like, oh, the person whowins the morning fars day hamper
is josh.
I'm like what?
So there's, you know, that'scool.
Got this giant metal cooler.
You know the.
You know the tubs that peopleput ice in.
It's like the.
A very hipster, not, it's not a.
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Yeah, got one of them and ithad like some beer and chocolate
and a scratch it.
You know a lot of barbecuestuff.
Not a lot of generic dad gifts,I guess is the best way to put
it.
I'm not a fan of.
I'm not a fan of licorice, butthey gave me a lot of licorice,
like I know.
I mean the black licorice, yeah, all types, all types of
licorice, the assorted coloredones, the, the bullets the
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standard black one.
The only one licorice I reallylike is like your, your cherry,
your red licorice.
That was the only thing thatwasn't in a bag a bag full of
licorice from a licorice companynot that and not the one that I
actually really like, but theydid have like a really nice
block of rocky road, which wasokay.
I claim for myself, but it'sstill not so.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
You know, yeah, I was still happy with it got home,
so I imagine being father's day.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
Your kids were all behaving and respectful all day
long oh yeah, I saw him in themorning and never saw him for
the rest of the day.
It's typical father's day,mother's day here, what you know
, to see him in the morningthey're.
They're out for the gift part.
Give the gifts, have the, havethe breakfast and then see you
later, you later.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
There's not much caring out of that Christmas
time or whatever.
Yeah, it's like Christmas.
You've got to take yourpictures immediately because
they are just ghosts.
Yes, as soon as the last giftis opened.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Wife got me.
I was jealous because the wifewas buying a new watch, because
her watch was failing.
And I've had the Pixel watch.
I just didn't.
I felt it too cumbersome.
I guess the pickle watch and Iwas afraid of just because of
how it is domed and round.
Lovely watch, great watch.
But I'm around construction alot so I was concerned about
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breaking it so I'd never reallyworn it.
Wife is getting a new watch andI saw the sale price.
I'm like that is amazinglycheap.
And then I was really excited.
I'm like I should go buy one ofthese watches, just go out and
buy.
Didn't do it.
I ran out of time, turns out.
Luckily I didn't because thewife had brought me it that day.
When she saw my excitement forthe watch, she quickly organized
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the watch and went and pickedit up the day before.
But it's nice.
Well it's, you know, can't seeit on, obviously of audio metal
gray Like a gunmetal gray.
It's stainless steel, the wholething's stainless steel.
You know full standard sizewatch face running Android Wear
OS.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Oh, it's a smart watch.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
Yeah, it's a Fossil watch.
Oh, the Fossil brand Shit.
Apparently they're getting outof smart watches, so a couple of
places had them on likeclearance and I mean it's google
os, so it's still gonna getsupport for ages.
I'm not concerned with that,but it's nice like it's really.
You know, it looks like a moremechanical standard timepiece.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
I guess I have had a lot of people ask me that, like
what I saw earlier when we'rerecording, I thought it was a
standard one, but that's cool,that it's, yeah, smartwatch yeah
, so I really like that.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
But you know, got that and then they brought me
one of those ear cleaners theones where you can hook it up to
your phone, the what youhaven't seen them, the ear
cleaners.
They're like amazon.
So you know you normally cleanout ears with, like a lot of
people use like a q-tip cut anearbud.
You know you shouldn't use itbecause you can, apparently it's
dangerous yeah, go figure,we've all done it.
(06:06):
Yeah.
So instead they got me a visualear spoon, it's called.
It's on my desk, yeah, it'slike, it's like a little like
u-tip type thing, but in the end.
But in the end I can turn it on.
Should have turned on thebutton.
Where's the button?
There's the button.
Got a little light on the end,okay, because there's a camera
in there.
So when you put it into yourear, you just look on your phone
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and you and you can actuallysee what you're doing in my ears
actually surprised.
It's kind of cool.
I've always kind of beeninterested in it but like I
don't know about it, so thefamily has brought it for me
going.
I mentioned it a couple oftimes.
We'll just get it for him offamazon.
Yeah, surprisingly my ears arenot like because I sit there and
I'll clean my ear and I'm likeI feel I don't know if it's you,
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you ever clean your ear andthen you feel like there's
something still in your ear andit's just an irritating
sensation yes, like you actuallypush it yeah yeah, yeah.
So that's what I felt like.
So that's why I was alwaystalking about this, like I
fucking just wish I knew whatI'm doing so I could see
something.
Got it, open it up.
I'm like, oh yeah, cool, put itinto my ear.
My ear's pretty damn clear, itturns out.
It's in my head, like I've justbeen making this up the whole
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time when I feel like I've gotthese filthy, packed ears and
that's what this irritatingfeeling is.
Every time I've looked, there'slike nothing in there.
I'm like, huh, huh, huh, letdown, just let them.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
I am a little crazy, yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Okay, I've accepted that.
So, but no, overall good day,but, as I said, we've both been
busy and doing a lot.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
I think I went to.
Summer for me, so I'm going onvacations and stuff yeah, you'll
end of summer.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
We've just ended winter and went straight into
summer in Australia.
Like well, not actually.
Oddly enough, the other day,when I sent you a message saying
you know, first day of springand it's in the hundreds, yes,
like we went from the.
I don't even know how toconvert it.
I need to convert it nowbecause I'm horrible at the
conversion of these two things.
(08:01):
Fahrenheit Celsius God, let'sbring that over there.
Convert it now, because I'mhorrible at the conversion of
these two things.
Fahrenheit celsius god, let'sbring that over there.
I don't need a game open.
So we would have been.
Let's see what 60 looks like 70and that's 75.
So we're about 75 degrees oneday, and then from 75 we went to
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105 overnight.
Wow, and that was like that forlike a couple of days and now
it's settled.
It's it's back down to probablylike an at 90 or something like
that.
It's.
It's a lot more comfortable wedon't.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
We don't get in the triple digits where I am very
often like when we get to the90s, people are passing out dead
yeah you know, but that's whatI mean.
We deal with shit down to, likeyou know, negative five
fahrenheit.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
Yeah, no, no yeah, we have a wide range we, we don't
go down to like negative five.
We probably get down to likemaybe like a 30, where am would
probably be the best.
Yeah, but you know, the sameday as I'm telling you, we're in
the hundreds where I am downsouth, where they run PAX
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Australia, and that it snowed.
It snowed, yeah.
So like we're not talking, yeah, it does snow in some parts of
Australia, but one of thecapital cities it's snowing, and
then the city that I am in itis burning, like it was a
complete crazy to see that it'ssnowing.
You know it's in the negatives.
It's snowing at one end and atthe opposite end it is like
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middle of summer temperature andit's only at the end of winter,
that's so weird that's.
Australia for you.
But you know, we've been justout of winter.
I've already gone swimmingtwice we've already gone really
yeah, yeah, father's day.
We ended up after the father'sday breakfast, dropped all the
kids home except for dakota.
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The wife and I went to themarkets, so the shopping center
mall, and then they had like acar show on and then there's
markets close by.
So we went.
We always go to the markets,probably every fortnight, and go
for a walk around, get a coffee, etc.
Yeah, and while we're there,there's the public pool area
type of thing, and felt thewater.
(10:16):
I'm like it's a hot day, itfeels nice in the water, so then
we're back there later thatafternoon.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
You know, first, first day of spring, we're
already swimming, so it was, andwe're getting ready to close up
the pool for the year because,you know, winter is coming yeah
yeah, we don't yeah right, thatdoesn't happen here.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Even even pools don't get emptied or anything like
that in my state, because itdoesn't.
Nothing gets cold enough towreck your pool, it's just right
, you know.
You just don't hop in itbecause it's cold, unless you
got here to pool and then you'reswimming it all year round.
But yeah, so that we had a fair, we did the.
We had a big fair yearly.
All the major cities have theirown fair and then smaller towns
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have their, had their smallerones.
But the, the royal show, asit's called here, that was one
weekend we couldn't recordbecause I had the, the royal
show in town.
I want to take the family tothat did that.
That was, you know, spent toomuch money on alcohol there I
don't, I don't know anythingabout doing that it was like you
know it costs a lot of money togo to these fairs on the best
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of days, you with kids, you knowwith rides, and yeah, and bags
and stuff, food, and we've donethat, gone in there, parking,
even parking, even parking.
You know it's $50 or somethingjust to park close by and
walking around I was like youknow, I've had some food.
It's been great.
That's really all I spent mymoney on.
We get into more of the, notthe concession stands, the
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stands where they're showcasing,like different manufacturers
and people, that small breweriesand small.
You know I make your beef jerkyor something like that.
These guys are there.
I'm walking around like, wouldyou like a taste, sir?
I'm like, yes, so I'm theretaking nips of gin and rum and
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liqueurs everywhere I can.
It's basically drinking forfree.
Some places did charge it, butmost were free, yeah, and then I
got a little bit carried awaywith someone.
I'm like, oh, this tastes nice,give me a bottle, give me a
bottle, give me a bottle.
And I think we ordered three orfour bottles.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
When you're buying off a small distillery, yeah,
that's just expensive yeah, itis I don't, I don't make it in
quantities to like get that goodprice break no, and and the rum
that I brought, that was $100,this bottle of rum.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
And I kind of ummed and ahed.
I'm like, oh, that's not badrum, it's pretty good.
And the lady goes that'spre-production rum.
He's only done one barrel.
The moment he said one, themoment she said pre-production
one barrel, and then she toppedit up with I don't even have it
here.
So if you do want any, we'llsend the order.
(12:48):
You know, we'll write the orderout, we'll send him a photo of
the order he'll.
He'll tap the barrel and thenstart pouring it.
Take my money, take my money.
I just don't know what it was.
It's something about feelinglimited edition.
It wasn't even the best runI've ever had.
It was just the sheer fact ofthis is the one barrel.
This guy's gonna tap it just toget me a bottle hands on it.
(13:09):
You know like I'd like to justkeep it I don't know, it's
sitting in my cupboard at themoment, but yeah, you know, we
got a few bottles of gin andexpensive.
I spent more money.
That was the other thing.
I took a photo of an aisle.
I'll send it to you later.
It was weird, I spent money onit.
But of a what?
Of my eye?
Oh, an iris, an iris photo.
My wife and I got iris irisphotos while we're there.
(13:31):
It's when, basically, they get,you know, a dlss with like a
macro lens, they put it right upnext to your eye, ask you to
open up your eye as much as youcan take a photo there.
You, there you go.
So it's actually just your iris, your color, really, really
zoomed in, because apparentlyeyes are like fingerprints.
(13:53):
The iris is like fingerprints,no eyes, the same as that.
I don't think I knew that.
I didn't either, but, like Isaid, I'll show you, send this
photo later.
It's mind-blowing because minehas muscles in the eyes and it
looks like a peacock in a way,like the little the eye, yeah,
yeah that overly shaped, thatyou get in the peacock.
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You got that all around my irisfrom the muscles in it.
Well, my wife, she doesn't haveanything like that.
It actually looks like like adirty water because she's brown
eyes.
It's very like a dirty watertechnique totally different
textures.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
It looks really so when she asks you, what about
eyes look like don't?
Speaker 3 (14:30):
don't say dirty water no, no, that says that.
I always said she has beautifuleyes, but you know it.
Just different textures, Iguess the best way to put it.
Like it's just weird seeingsomething so up close, in an
angle that you've never seenbefore.
That was a stupid amount ofmoney to get that done, but you
know they printed it on an A3size, like it's a big print,
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like it's not small.
Did you hang it?
Speaker 2 (14:58):
up somewhere.
I did.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
I went and got like like a massive frame and put in
a frame so it kind of looks.
It looks like artwork, reallylike it's more artwork really,
it's just your creepy eye it'sreally my creepy eye.
It's watching us, it's watching, yeah.
Yeah, that's some of the stuffI guess I've been up to lately.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
It's a lot of family time it's now about to become
fair season, where I am yeahright, that's always in like the
early fall, so where we we gotall that kind of stuff coming up
.
I imagine you know and we go,like you said, we go a lot for
the food, like the friedeverything.
Speaker 3 (15:38):
You know a lot of food trucks at ours this year
like way more food trucks andnormally it's like you got you
like you gaggle dogs yeah, alittle bit of like deep fried
chips, hot dogs, basic food, andlike when I was younger, this
fair you'd spend some insanemoney to get like subway or
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something normal.
This year it was like a lot offood trucks all over the.
You know I did spend a ton ofmoney at dinner time but I
didn't mind because wife cameback with like a noodle part
noodle dish and you know,mexican, asian, a bit of a bit
of everything and I was likehere you go, we'll just sample a
bit of everything it was.
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It was good it was good.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
So, speaking of food trucks, have we?
We haven't recorded since Iwent to dc, right?
Speaker 3 (16:25):
no, we haven't see, that was another, that was
another week we couldn't recordyeah, that was.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
I have never seen so many food trucks in a city as I
saw in washington dc.
Really, they were everywhere,everywhere, and that was
something I wasn't expecting tosee in the nation's capital was
just food trucks everywhere.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
That's definitely not something I would expect to see
.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
No good food there were very few actual restaurants
either, like in the down in thecapital area, anyway, really
food trucks everywhere.
It was weird.
It was good food.
Yeah, it was okay.
Okay, it was okay.
The desserts were good, allright, you know, the food was
okay, you know.
But I will tell you that thecity is amazing I yeah I don't
know what I expected from it butit's your first time there, my
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first time there.
It wasn't what I expected, butit was beautiful to the point
where my wife and I are bothlike I could live here, like I
would move.
You know different weather likeearly, but yeah yeah, kids
enjoy yeah, man, there was somuch walking you guys went by
train we went by train and wedidn't rent a car because we got
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a hotel that was supposedlylike within walking distance.
And yeah, sure, walking distance, but everything was 20 minutes
every single direction.
You want to go to anything and,like the, the boys were just
dying oh, the end of every day.
I wasn't I?
You know, I remember, like theday before we're gonna leave,
they wanted to go get like so,this candy shop that we had to
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the day before.
Actually, I can't take anotherstep.
Like you guys, go have fun.
Like I can't, I can't do it.
Oh, my god, it was so muchwalking.
Speaker 3 (18:03):
You're like Bubba out of Forrest Gump I can't feel my
legs.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
They have scooters everywhere that you can rent,
but you had to be like 16 and myboys aren't 16.
Speaker 3 (18:14):
And then you can't double up, because then people
get angry at you.
If you double, you can't chuckkids.
We just walked and did the manso you went to the museum and
all that obviously wait, did you?
Speaker 2 (18:26):
go to the video game museum.
Speaker 3 (18:29):
Well, that's one of my things that if I'm ever over,
there, apparently there's avideo game museum me.
There's a video game partinside the smith.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
I missed that.
Speaker 3 (18:39):
Yeah, I mean I don't know if it was a timed thing,
but I'm pretty sure that's wherethat is, I did see in the
Smithsonian Air and Space Museum.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
They had a life-size X-Wing which I was just like.
That is so cool.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Yeah, the art of video games.
It's inside the Smithsonian ArtMuseum.
It's because they classifyvideo games as art.
There you go.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (19:06):
That's pretty cool.
That's something I want to do.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
The last thing I'll mention about that is the
coolest museum that I saw wasthe Spy Museum.
Yeah, they have the history ofspy craft.
It was so cool.
They're talking about the kindof people they recruit.
My wife's looking at me.
She's like you missed yourcalling because they just
described you.
You know the kind of personthey look for and honestly, I
won't repeat it because itwasn't necessarily flattering.
No, I do have.
No, no, no, no, no, I knowexactly what you're meaning.
Speaker 3 (19:31):
I, I looked at that path myself before children.
Now you bring that up and itwas pointed to me that it would
be an ideal view for me.
Yep, because a lot of peoplesee Spice, they see James Bond
and blah, blah, blah and they go.
Oh yeah, that's what it's allabout.
How it was pitched to me wasthey were looking for people
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with great attention to detailYep, great observation skills,
being able to notice smalldetails that other people
wouldn't, but at the same timebe an everyday person.
So ideally looking for peoplethat could live overseas or go
abroad, work in a constructionsite or work doing something
(20:14):
very mundane, but being able toobserve a lot of stuff.
And I did look at that, I didstart venturing at that path and
then it turned out my twochildren, my ex, their mother,
didn't like the idea of you know, if something was long-term,
the government would pay for themove and move the whole family,
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and you'd live overseas for aperiod of time.
It sounded great, you'd explorethe world while doing stuff like
that.
She didn't like that idea, so Inever actually went through
with it.
But right I did.
I did start filling in, youknow, filling in everything for
the government to look at me ina very deep and personal manner
to decide whether it'd be worth.
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That's funny, yeah, but youmentioned that like yeah, I know
exactly what you mean yeah,yeah a friend of the army when I
was younger.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Oh really, but yeah, I wish I had.
I'm probably too old to getstarted on that now, but yeah,
it sounded pretty cool.
I loved it.
I was.
Speaker 3 (21:15):
We were there for three hours yeah yeah, it was
awesome it's good, it's buildingthose moments with children.
That gives them a lot,especially the age of your boys.
They're still accepting to bearound in your presence.
Yep, for now, for now so, butnow they haven't decided.
You know you're not cool enoughto be around, but it is it is,
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it is, it is coming, and I cansay that because I've got kids
that are slightly older andwe're in the transition page
with some one we've passed.
And you know like, for example,we actually had to chat with one
of our daughters the other weekthe oldest, because her friends
are all getting their license.
She won't have her licenseuntil next year because of how
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our school system works and ages, et cetera, but some of her
friends are now getting alicense and she mentioned that
her and her friends are going togo somewhere to get something
to eat after school.
The other week my wife and Iare like, yeah, no worries,
wife's like all good, turned outwe're.
That was was like 30 minutedrive away, so we just assumed
(22:19):
it was something close by towhere she normally hangs out.
So we had to have theconversation of hey, if you're
going to be going somewhere in acar like that, maybe you need
to be a bit more detailed to say, hey, this is at such and such.
I said it's the same thing ofyou saying, oh, we're just going
to mcdonald's but it's not anyMcDonald's nearby.
(22:41):
It's a McDonald's an hour and ahalf way down the coast and
you're at the beach.
You know what I mean.
It's a totally differentconversation.
You can't just say I'm going toMcDonald's.
You've got to kind of say I'mgoing to McDonald's here now, so
we kind of have a better idea.
And so we kind of have a betteridea and it's more for their
safety.
Just so something happens.
It was a rainy day, new drivercar full of girls.
(23:02):
I'm not saying women are baddrivers, I'm just saying a car
full of distractions for anearly driver in a wet at peak
hour traffic.
There's a lot as an experiencedperson and it was a lot of
downpour at that time.
Something for me going when Ifound out I'm like whoa Whoa,
(23:23):
that was a lot of downpour atthat time.
Something for me going when Ifound out I'm like whoa whoa,
that was a yeah, okay you guysare pushing it going there.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
You know what I mean.
Like I, yeah, it freaked me outas a parent afterwards.
Yeah, there's a lot of crazycrap going on.
My my oldest son just went towas like there's some kind of
school event where they weregoing overnight to some camp.
Yep, and it was, it's fine,cool, go, have fun.
You have fun with your friends,whatever.
Stay overnight.
And it would have been lesseventful if not.
One week prior to that, we hada conversation with him about,
(23:47):
you know, sex, yeah, and westarted to tell him things oh, I
already know about this andthis and this and this and this.
And we're just like, because wetalked about this, last time.
You know that stuff already.
And then so he's going to this,this overnight camp, and I'm
like, oh, I don't know how Ifeel about that anymore.
Speaker 3 (24:05):
I was like, dude, don't do anything to get
yourself in trouble no, I thinkI think kids are way more timid
now, you know, than they used tobe.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I was talkingto a client of mine, a customer
, and you know we're getting tothe prom, the formal period with
his kids, and you know he saidthey got.
You know he wasn't working thatday, he's helping getting his
(24:26):
son ready for this and that theyhave photos beforehand.
I'm like, oh, yeah, hopefullyhe doesn't have a big night
because he's got football.
Yeah, he's got football sunday.
I'm like, oh, hopefully theydon't have a big night party.
And afterwards you know what Imean.
And he goes, yeah, kids ain'tlike that much anymore.
I'm like, yeah, they're notreally into it.
He goes, yeah, he's had a beerand he's had a drink here and
(24:52):
there as a late teenager, butnot the Yahoo party type.
You know, not to the same levelthat we would.
Josh is what he said.
I'm, you know, not to the samelevel that we would.
Josh is what he said.
I'm like, yeah, I would havebeen damn it like so much
alcohol and yeah, kids, by 16.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
I was, I was getting hammered every weekend yeah, but
that's yeah.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
My six-year-old does do that.
She just that.
I don't think they've ever doneanything like that at all and
and that's not me, that's not metrying to assume the best of it
I genuinely feel like that'snot something her and her
friends are interested in.
A lot of people, I feel, likethe kids.
These days, the teenagers havechanged in a way where they're
not as rebellious as such.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
Well, that's good, it is good.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
But it also makes me feel like a loser parent, like
I've raised a bunch of losers soI don't want to try anything
cool.
That's funny, you know what Imean.
Like, like, when I think aboutit, like I was wild child, I did
this and that and these are mykids.
Like this makes me look soft,like what.
This does not look likesomething I would, you know.
Right, I'm happy I don't.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
I don't want that.
I don't want it.
Before like I get worried thatmy kids will do stuff that I did
, but hearing that I'd be likethey wouldn't even touch the
stuff that I did yeah yeah, youknow it's.
Speaker 3 (26:04):
It's a weird thing.
You don't know whether to behappy as yourself, as a parent,
that you've created this childthat's responsible and doing the
right thing, and all that andthen, at the same time, I feel
like I've done something wrongin a sense of like, yeah, then
they're boring, yeah, they'renot trying, they're not trying
things, they're not experiencedthings.
(26:24):
Like it's a weird.
It's a weird feeling as aparent, like not knowing if
you've done a great job or a badjob at it.
Like I do say I've done a greatjob.
I think my wife and I have donefantastic with the kids and
they have wonderful manners andthey do the right thing and the
rest of it.
But at the same time, I stillfeel in a sense like maybe
they're impacting their ownsocial life in a way that
(26:47):
they're not experiencing life.
Or or you know the things thatcreated me to be who I am, or
the same with you, the thingsthat you've done and experienced
through life to be who you are.
Our kids are not experiencingthose things.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
So what type of person they're going to grow up
to be, I guess, is the way Ilook at it right, like like I
treasure every day of life,because there are so many times
that I was younger that I shouldhave died from some of the shit
I did.
I, I appreciate life everysingle day that I'm living.
So, yeah, it's, it's.
It's interesting, you know,related.
We're talking about the kidsand what they do.
(27:19):
One weird thing and I only havetwo kids, right.
So my oldest, who's going to be13 in October, he is starting
to get all buddy-buddy with meall the time.
He wants to hang around with meall the time and he's cracking
jokes with me and at my expenselike I was one of his friends
(27:41):
from school.
Okay, I'm like, one hand, it'scool.
On the other hand, it's likeI'm still your dad and you're
being disrespectful.
Or like when I go to give you apunishment, he's like, oh, come
on, I'm like I'm still your dad, like I'm not exactly I'm not
your friend, but like I don'twant to.
Speaker 3 (27:55):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah , I get you.
I haven't really I didn'treally get that, but I've seen
that.
I do know what you mean by that.
It's like it seems cool, butmaybe he's just trying to find
where he is as a teenager inthat next period in his life,
like where, where does that sit?
(28:15):
He's still trying to findhimself as a teenager.
So he's trying to work, gaugethat around, the people that's
around him he gets.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
I think he's confused because even though he's 12,
almost 13, he's an inch shorterthan me, right?
Yeah?
So he thinks he's grown.
And I'm like, bud, you're 12,12 years old, right, I have, I
have jackets older than you,yeah, you know, and but he
thinks he's, he thinks he'sgrown and, and you know, he's
(28:43):
just so anxious to grow up, sohe's like trying, like well, I'm
, I'm a man too.
Speaker 3 (28:46):
I'm like you're a child, like yeah, I don't care
how big you are I've got a childat the moment.
She's been sick but she'salways likes to be pretty timid,
doesn't do much.
You got to push her to to bethat adventurous person to go
out and see things or do thingsor be social with friends and,
oddly enough, this week, whenshe's feeling better, she's been
(29:09):
out every night for the lastfive nights.
This is my, this is a 12 yearold, but it's like every
afternoon after school, oh, canI go to this friend's house?
And it's like, yeah, that'sfine, and then I'm just gonna
stay here for dinner, they'lldrop me off home.
I'm like, okay, so that'shappened like two, three nights
in a row.
And then, and then she comeshome and she's like I'm staying
at this friend's house tonight.
(29:30):
I was like, oh, okay, so she'sgone and done that.
But then before she left shegoes oh, you guys need to pick
me up in the morning because wehad a dog trainer come by.
I'll talk about it in a second.
Dog trainer came by and shegoes oh, yeah, after dog
training, can you drop me off atthis other friend's house?
So she's just going friendhopping and I kind of went to my
(29:50):
wife.
I'm trying to work this outLike where does this come from?
This isn't like her.
This is way too much socialsocial.
This is like six months worthof social interaction packed
into a week.
What's going on here?
Yeah, does she hate?
our food was one thing I'm likeI just feel like she's scamming
all her friends for food, are we?
Oh?
Is she trying to get out of herchores like I'm trying to work
out?
What is the hidden motivebehind this right?
(30:12):
Now yeah, there's an angle onthis that I'm missing that's all
you new parents.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
Your kids are always up to something yeah, they're
always up to something they'replanning, they're conniving.
Speaker 3 (30:24):
Yeah, oddly enough we had a dog trainer, so I didn't
record yesterday, we had todayand I spent a lot of money
because I threw out all thesetime off and that I had a dog
getting out of the yardconstantly and running around
and do we rehome?
I can't reh, rehome.
That's the baby's favorite dog,you know.
It would devastate her if shewasn't here.
Okay, we need to do something.
(30:44):
Yeah, so I spent stupid moneyon a dog trainer to come by.
Turns out it's for life.
So it's kind of like I'llaccept the money because I can
have as many training sessionsand support as I need for the
rest of the dog's life.
She's come over and usually a16-year-old doesn't pay any
attention to anything.
So we've made the kids getinvolved because it's like I'm
spending this money on a dog.
You guys need to know what theplan is because I don't want
(31:09):
anyone wrecking this shit up forus afterwards.
You know what I mean Notfollowing through 16-year-old
full-on tokus.
I've never seen her so focusedbefore in my life.
Normally she's not focused thatmuch she.
She knows everything.
She's doesn't need to hearanything.
She was so focused through thewhole thing, 12 year old out the
window.
She was, I don't even know, sheknew what day it was, and while
(31:29):
we were even at the table.
To be honest, like it, it wasdifferent.
It was different seeingchildren again differently,
learning how things were.
Just, she took me by opposite.
I was really proud of how shepaid attention and listened
because I thought she was goingto be the biggest problem for it
, but instead she was great.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
Why do you think she's paying attention, though I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (31:50):
The only thing I can think of is the lady said you
can be the scribe, go get a penand paper and take some notes,
and she was taking notes.
So maybe taking notes whilelistening kind of forced her to
focus more on what was happeningat the moment.
Let's see, that's what I'mthinking.
Is this how she is at school?
(32:10):
Okay, this is a different sideof her.
I guess that my wife and Italked about last night Like, oh
, this is different.
It was nice seeing.
Yeah, if that's her at school,that's good to know.
That's she is putting in theeffort, so that's cool yeah,
yeah, that's cool.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
My boys, they the older one.
He doesn't take much ofinterest in anything, although I
will say, late he's like latelyhe has switched, flipped a
switch, like all of a suddenhe's got a lot more responsible,
okay, and like he'll help outaround the house with some,
sometimes without asking you,asking him or even asking for
(32:46):
something.
Just he's just doing stuff.
Oh right, like I feel likeyou're banking this and you're
gonna ask for something reallybig at some point, but I'm like
where did this come from?
It's weird.
You know, maybe he's justgetting more mature, I guess.
Speaker 3 (33:03):
I mean, I like it, I'm not complaining about it,
it's just strange they do say,kids tend to lose their brain,
what their common sense for it,when they turn into teenagers.
So who knows?
It's really hard to keep trackof what their, their mind frame
is.
So we had this dog thing, the12-year-old.
She had to get up to her stagebecause the lady got us.
(33:23):
After doing a bit of theory andtalking and bits and pieces,
we'll do different exerciseswith the dogs for a little bit,
just to think One of them shegoes, the younger one, the lead
goes, all right, I just want youto walk with the dog.
Keep her on her left side.
I'm going to be saying left andright.
Do you understand your left andrights?
Yeah, walk straight.
Lady says all right, now turnright.
(33:45):
And she stopped and goes whichway is right?
That was the whole exercise.
Was her confused about what wasleft and right?
What's a u-turn?
Now go back around, go the wayyou came?
Just those little commandsconfused the crap out of her.
So you're actually trainingyour kid.
I felt like I was gettingtrained yesterday, to be honest.
Hold on a second before wefinish with that.
(34:05):
Yep, all right, come here, comeon.
All right, come on, come in forthe end.
Speaker 2 (34:13):
Oh, we have a special guest again.
Speaker 3 (34:15):
Yeah, yeah, I can just hear this noise at my door.
Speaker 2 (34:17):
Look at all the hair she has now again.
Speaker 3 (34:19):
Yeah, yeah, I could just hear this noise at my door.
Look at the hair she has now.
Oh no, yeah, no, I could justhear this noise at the door in
the background.
I'm like is she sitting at thedoor just talking to me through
the door like a?
I'll go bring her in.
Oh, thank you.
Yeah, sorry, yes, we all learna bit about dog training not her
, though I actually did learn athing about her.
The reason why dogs are sogentle and kind to babies is
(34:40):
because they see them as babies.
They're not a threat to a dog.
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Speaker 2 (01:19):
All right.
So I know it's SeptemberOctober.
I don't even know what the dateis anymore.
So I know it's septemberoctober.
I don't know what the date isanymore, but you, you have
holidays in australia thataren't like ours at the same
time, and necessarily oneparticular.
You just had father's day,right?
Yes?
Speaker 3 (01:34):
yes, so we went out for the family breakfast.
So oddly we have mother's day.
It's a similar day, but forsome reason our father's day are
a few months apart, go figure.
Yeah, I don't.
I don't get why that is.
I'm sure there's a reason onthe internet that doesn't make
sense and it's got to do withcorporations and money and greed
or something.
But but I had a nice day, a dayfor me.
(01:58):
I guess you know this isprobably part of the reason why
we haven't been consistent withepisodes the last few weeks,
because we both had so muchgoing on.
Yes, personally, in differentlevels, you've had holidays,
I've got Father's Day.
It's been a mess.
So we've done what we can wherewe can.
But Father's Day was great.
(02:19):
Went for breakfast Same placethat we went to Mother's Day
breakfast this year, which wasFootball Club.
Lovely buffet breakfast.
I won the door prize very nice,yeah, yeah, I don't win stuff.
So you know we're sitting there, I'm just happy having
breakfast.
I've been really over the moonthat I've just get him a bacon
maze and pancakes and you knoweverything like that.
(02:39):
Got my nice latte to sit down,you know, and then they get over
the pa.
It's like, oh, the person whowins the morning nice latte to
sit down, you know, and thenthey get over the pa.
It's like, oh, the person whowins the morning fars day hamper
is josh.
I'm like what?
So there's, you know, that'scool.
Got this giant metal cooler.
You know the.
You know the tubs that peopleput ice in.
It's like the.
A very hipster, not, it's not a.
(03:00):
Yeah, got one of them and ithad like some beer and chocolate
and a scratch it.
You know a lot of barbecuestuff.
Not a lot of generic dad gifts,I guess is the best way to put
it.
I'm not a fan of.
I'm not a fan of licorice, butthey gave me a lot of licorice,
like I know.
I mean the black licorice, yeah, all types, all types of
licorice, the assorted coloredones, the, the bullets the
(03:24):
standard black one.
The only one licorice I reallylike is like your, your cherry,
your red licorice.
That was the only thing thatwasn't in a bag a bag full of
licorice from a licorice companynot that and not the one that I
actually really like, but theydid have like a really nice
block of rocky road, which wasokay.
I claim for myself, but it'sstill not so.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
You know, yeah, I was still happy with it got home,
so I imagine being father's day.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
Your kids were all behaving and respectful all day
long oh yeah, I saw him in themorning and never saw him for
the rest of the day.
It's typical father's day,mother's day here, what you know
, to see him in the morningthey're.
They're out for the gift part.
Give the gifts, have the, havethe breakfast and then see you
later, you later.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
There's not much caring out of that Christmas
time or whatever.
Yeah, it's like Christmas.
You've got to take yourpictures immediately because
they are just ghosts.
Yes, as soon as the last giftis opened.
Speaker 3 (04:14):
Wife got me.
I was jealous because the wifewas buying a new watch, because
her watch was failing.
And I've had the Pixel watch.
I just didn't.
I felt it too cumbersome.
I guess the pickle watch and Iwas afraid of just because of
how it is domed and round.
Lovely watch, great watch.
But I'm around construction alot so I was concerned about
(04:34):
breaking it so I'd never reallyworn it.
Wife is getting a new watch andI saw the sale price.
I'm like that is amazinglycheap.
And then I was really excited.
I'm like I should go buy one ofthese watches, just go out and
buy.
Didn't do it.
I ran out of time, turns out.
Luckily I didn't because thewife had brought me it that day.
When she saw my excitement forthe watch, she quickly organized
(04:55):
the watch and went and pickedit up the day before.
But it's nice.
Well it's, you know, can't seeit on, obviously of audio metal
gray Like a gunmetal gray.
It's stainless steel, the wholething's stainless steel.
You know full standard sizewatch face running Android Wear
OS.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Oh, it's a smart watch.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
Yeah, it's a Fossil watch.
Oh, the Fossil brand Shit.
Apparently they're getting outof smart watches, so a couple of
places had them on likeclearance and I mean it's google
os, so it's still gonna getsupport for ages.
I'm not concerned with that,but it's nice like it's really.
You know, it looks like a moremechanical standard timepiece.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
I guess I have had a lot of people ask me that, like
what I saw earlier when we'rerecording, I thought it was a
standard one, but that's cool,that it's, yeah, smartwatch yeah
, so I really like that.
Speaker 3 (05:45):
But you know, got that and then they brought me
one of those ear cleaners theones where you can hook it up to
your phone, the what youhaven't seen them, the ear
cleaners.
They're like amazon.
So you know you normally cleanout ears with, like a lot of
people use like a q-tip cut anearbud.
You know you shouldn't use itbecause you can, apparently it's
dangerous yeah, go figure,we've all done it.
(06:06):
Yeah.
So instead they got me a visualear spoon, it's called.
It's on my desk, yeah, it'slike, it's like a little like
u-tip type thing, but in the end.
But in the end I can turn it on.
Should have turned on thebutton.
Where's the button?
There's the button.
Got a little light on the end,okay, because there's a camera
in there.
So when you put it into yourear, you just look on your phone
(06:28):
and you and you can actuallysee what you're doing in my ears
actually surprised.
It's kind of cool.
I've always kind of beeninterested in it but like I
don't know about it, so thefamily has brought it for me
going.
I mentioned it a couple oftimes.
We'll just get it for him offamazon.
Yeah, surprisingly my ears arenot like because I sit there and
I'll clean my ear and I'm likeI feel I don't know if it's you,
(06:49):
you ever clean your ear andthen you feel like there's
something still in your ear andit's just an irritating
sensation yes, like you actuallypush it yeah yeah, yeah.
So that's what I felt like.
So that's why I was alwaystalking about this, like I
fucking just wish I knew whatI'm doing so I could see
something.
Got it, open it up.
I'm like, oh yeah, cool, put itinto my ear.
My ear's pretty damn clear, itturns out.
It's in my head, like I've justbeen making this up the whole
(07:11):
time when I feel like I've gotthese filthy, packed ears and
that's what this irritatingfeeling is.
Every time I've looked, there'slike nothing in there.
I'm like, huh, huh, huh, letdown, just let them.
Speaker 2 (07:24):
I am a little crazy, yeah.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Okay, I've accepted that.
So, but no, overall good day,but, as I said, we've both been
busy and doing a lot.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
I think I went to.
Summer for me, so I'm going onvacations and stuff yeah, you'll
end of summer.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
We've just ended winter and went straight into
summer in Australia.
Like well, not actually.
Oddly enough, the other day,when I sent you a message saying
you know, first day of springand it's in the hundreds, yes,
like we went from the.
I don't even know how toconvert it.
I need to convert it nowbecause I'm horrible at the
conversion of these two things.
(08:01):
Fahrenheit Celsius God, let'sbring that over there.
Convert it now, because I'mhorrible at the conversion of
these two things.
Fahrenheit celsius god, let'sbring that over there.
I don't need a game open.
So we would have been.
Let's see what 60 looks like 70and that's 75.
So we're about 75 degrees oneday, and then from 75 we went to
(08:24):
105 overnight.
Wow, and that was like that forlike a couple of days and now
it's settled.
It's it's back down to probablylike an at 90 or something like
that.
It's.
It's a lot more comfortable wedon't.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
We don't get in the triple digits where I am very
often like when we get to the90s, people are passing out dead
yeah you know, but that's whatI mean.
We deal with shit down to, likeyou know, negative five
fahrenheit.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
Yeah, no, no yeah, we have a wide range we, we don't
go down to like negative five.
We probably get down to likemaybe like a 30, where am would
probably be the best.
Yeah, but you know, the sameday as I'm telling you, we're in
the hundreds where I am downsouth, where they run PAX
(09:12):
Australia, and that it snowed.
It snowed, yeah.
So like we're not talking, yeah, it does snow in some parts of
Australia, but one of thecapital cities it's snowing, and
then the city that I am in itis burning, like it was a
complete crazy to see that it'ssnowing.
You know it's in the negatives.
It's snowing at one end and atthe opposite end it is like
(09:35):
middle of summer temperature andit's only at the end of winter,
that's so weird that's.
Australia for you.
But you know, we've been justout of winter.
I've already gone swimmingtwice we've already gone really
yeah, yeah, father's day.
We ended up after the father'sday breakfast, dropped all the
kids home except for dakota.
(09:55):
The wife and I went to themarkets, so the shopping center
mall, and then they had like acar show on and then there's
markets close by.
So we went.
We always go to the markets,probably every fortnight, and go
for a walk around, get a coffee, etc.
Yeah, and while we're there,there's the public pool area
type of thing, and felt thewater.
(10:16):
I'm like it's a hot day, itfeels nice in the water, so then
we're back there later thatafternoon.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
You know, first, first day of spring, we're
already swimming, so it was, andwe're getting ready to close up
the pool for the year because,you know, winter is coming yeah
yeah, we don't yeah right, thatdoesn't happen here.
Speaker 3 (10:32):
Even even pools don't get emptied or anything like
that in my state, because itdoesn't.
Nothing gets cold enough towreck your pool, it's just right
, you know.
You just don't hop in itbecause it's cold, unless you
got here to pool and then you'reswimming it all year round.
But yeah, so that we had a fair, we did the.
We had a big fair yearly.
All the major cities have theirown fair and then smaller towns
(10:54):
have their, had their smallerones.
But the, the royal show, asit's called here, that was one
weekend we couldn't recordbecause I had the, the royal
show in town.
I want to take the family tothat did that.
That was, you know, spent toomuch money on alcohol there I
don't, I don't know anythingabout doing that it was like you
know it costs a lot of money togo to these fairs on the best
(11:16):
of days, you with kids, you knowwith rides, and yeah, and bags
and stuff, food, and we've donethat, gone in there, parking,
even parking, even parking.
You know it's $50 or somethingjust to park close by and
walking around I was like youknow, I've had some food.
It's been great.
That's really all I spent mymoney on.
We get into more of the, notthe concession stands, the
(11:38):
stands where they're showcasing,like different manufacturers
and people, that small breweriesand small.
You know I make your beef jerkyor something like that.
These guys are there.
I'm walking around like, wouldyou like a taste, sir?
I'm like, yes, so I'm theretaking nips of gin and rum and
(11:58):
liqueurs everywhere I can.
It's basically drinking forfree.
Some places did charge it, butmost were free, yeah, and then I
got a little bit carried awaywith someone.
I'm like, oh, this tastes nice,give me a bottle, give me a
bottle, give me a bottle.
And I think we ordered three orfour bottles.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
When you're buying off a small distillery, yeah,
that's just expensive yeah, itis I don't, I don't make it in
quantities to like get that goodprice break no, and and the rum
that I brought, that was $100,this bottle of rum.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
And I kind of ummed and ahed.
I'm like, oh, that's not badrum, it's pretty good.
And the lady goes that'spre-production rum.
He's only done one barrel.
The moment he said one, themoment she said pre-production
one barrel, and then she toppedit up with I don't even have it
here.
So if you do want any, we'llsend the order.
(12:48):
You know, we'll write the orderout, we'll send him a photo of
the order he'll.
He'll tap the barrel and thenstart pouring it.
Take my money, take my money.
I just don't know what it was.
It's something about feelinglimited edition.
It wasn't even the best runI've ever had.
It was just the sheer fact ofthis is the one barrel.
This guy's gonna tap it just toget me a bottle hands on it.
(13:09):
You know like I'd like to justkeep it I don't know, it's
sitting in my cupboard at themoment, but yeah, you know, we
got a few bottles of gin andexpensive.
I spent more money.
That was the other thing.
I took a photo of an aisle.
I'll send it to you later.
It was weird, I spent money onit.
But of a what?
Of my eye?
Oh, an iris, an iris photo.
My wife and I got iris irisphotos while we're there.
(13:31):
It's when, basically, they get,you know, a dlss with like a
macro lens, they put it right upnext to your eye, ask you to
open up your eye as much as youcan take a photo there.
You, there you go.
So it's actually just your iris, your color, really, really
zoomed in, because apparentlyeyes are like fingerprints.
(13:53):
The iris is like fingerprints,no eyes, the same as that.
I don't think I knew that.
I didn't either, but, like Isaid, I'll show you, send this
photo later.
It's mind-blowing because minehas muscles in the eyes and it
looks like a peacock in a way,like the little the eye, yeah,
yeah that overly shaped, thatyou get in the peacock.
(14:14):
You got that all around my irisfrom the muscles in it.
Well, my wife, she doesn't haveanything like that.
It actually looks like like adirty water because she's brown
eyes.
It's very like a dirty watertechnique totally different
textures.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
It looks really so when she asks you, what about
eyes look like don't?
Speaker 3 (14:30):
don't say dirty water no, no, that says that.
I always said she has beautifuleyes, but you know it.
Just different textures, Iguess the best way to put it.
Like it's just weird seeingsomething so up close, in an
angle that you've never seenbefore.
That was a stupid amount ofmoney to get that done, but you
know they printed it on an A3size, like it's a big print,
(14:57):
like it's not small.
Did you hang it?
Speaker 2 (14:58):
up somewhere.
I did.
Speaker 3 (15:00):
I went and got like like a massive frame and put in
a frame so it kind of looks.
It looks like artwork, reallylike it's more artwork really,
it's just your creepy eye it'sreally my creepy eye.
It's watching us, it's watching, yeah.
Yeah, that's some of the stuffI guess I've been up to lately.
Speaker 2 (15:18):
It's a lot of family time it's now about to become
fair season, where I am yeahright, that's always in like the
early fall, so where we we gotall that kind of stuff coming up
.
I imagine you know and we go,like you said, we go a lot for
the food, like the friedeverything.
Speaker 3 (15:38):
You know a lot of food trucks at ours this year
like way more food trucks andnormally it's like you got you
like you gaggle dogs yeah, alittle bit of like deep fried
chips, hot dogs, basic food, andlike when I was younger, this
fair you'd spend some insanemoney to get like subway or
(15:58):
something normal.
This year it was like a lot offood trucks all over the.
You know I did spend a ton ofmoney at dinner time but I
didn't mind because wife cameback with like a noodle part
noodle dish and you know,mexican, asian, a bit of a bit
of everything and I was likehere you go, we'll just sample a
bit of everything it was.
(16:19):
It was good it was good.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
So, speaking of food trucks, have we?
We haven't recorded since Iwent to dc, right?
Speaker 3 (16:25):
no, we haven't see, that was another, that was
another week we couldn't recordyeah, that was.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
I have never seen so many food trucks in a city as I
saw in washington dc.
Really, they were everywhere,everywhere, and that was
something I wasn't expecting tosee in the nation's capital was
just food trucks everywhere.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
That's definitely not something I would expect to see
.
Speaker 2 (16:46):
No good food there were very few actual restaurants
either, like in the down in thecapital area, anyway, really
food trucks everywhere.
It was weird.
It was good food.
Yeah, it was okay.
Okay, it was okay.
The desserts were good, allright, you know, the food was
okay, you know.
But I will tell you that thecity is amazing I yeah I don't
know what I expected from it butit's your first time there, my
(17:10):
first time there.
It wasn't what I expected, butit was beautiful to the point
where my wife and I are bothlike I could live here, like I
would move.
You know different weather likeearly, but yeah yeah, kids
enjoy yeah, man, there was somuch walking you guys went by
train we went by train and wedidn't rent a car because we got
(17:32):
a hotel that was supposedlylike within walking distance.
And yeah, sure, walking distance, but everything was 20 minutes
every single direction.
You want to go to anything and,like the, the boys were just
dying oh, the end of every day.
I wasn't I?
You know, I remember, like theday before we're gonna leave,
they wanted to go get like so,this candy shop that we had to
(17:54):
the day before.
Actually, I can't take anotherstep.
Like you guys, go have fun.
Like I can't, I can't do it.
Oh, my god, it was so muchwalking.
Speaker 3 (18:03):
You're like Bubba out of Forrest Gump I can't feel my
legs.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
They have scooters everywhere that you can rent,
but you had to be like 16 and myboys aren't 16.
Speaker 3 (18:14):
And then you can't double up, because then people
get angry at you.
If you double, you can't chuckkids.
We just walked and did the manso you went to the museum and
all that obviously wait, did you?
Speaker 2 (18:26):
go to the video game museum.
Speaker 3 (18:29):
Well, that's one of my things that if I'm ever over,
there, apparently there's avideo game museum me.
There's a video game partinside the smith.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
I missed that.
Speaker 3 (18:39):
Yeah, I mean I don't know if it was a timed thing,
but I'm pretty sure that's wherethat is, I did see in the
Smithsonian Air and Space Museum.
Speaker 2 (18:49):
They had a life-size X-Wing which I was just like.
That is so cool.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Yeah, the art of video games.
It's inside the Smithsonian ArtMuseum.
It's because they classifyvideo games as art.
There you go.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (19:06):
That's pretty cool.
That's something I want to do.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
The last thing I'll mention about that is the
coolest museum that I saw wasthe Spy Museum.
Yeah, they have the history ofspy craft.
It was so cool.
They're talking about the kindof people they recruit.
My wife's looking at me.
She's like you missed yourcalling because they just
described you.
You know the kind of personthey look for and honestly, I
won't repeat it because itwasn't necessarily flattering.
No, I do have.
No, no, no, no, no, I knowexactly what you're meaning.
Speaker 3 (19:31):
I, I looked at that path myself before children.
Now you bring that up and itwas pointed to me that it would
be an ideal view for me.
Yep, because a lot of peoplesee Spice, they see James Bond
and blah, blah, blah and they go.
Oh yeah, that's what it's allabout.
How it was pitched to me wasthey were looking for people
(19:52):
with great attention to detailYep, great observation skills,
being able to notice smalldetails that other people
wouldn't, but at the same timebe an everyday person.
So ideally looking for peoplethat could live overseas or go
abroad, work in a constructionsite or work doing something
(20:14):
very mundane, but being able toobserve a lot of stuff.
And I did look at that, I didstart venturing at that path and
then it turned out my twochildren, my ex, their mother,
didn't like the idea of you know, if something was long-term,
the government would pay for themove and move the whole family,
(20:36):
and you'd live overseas for aperiod of time.
It sounded great, you'd explorethe world while doing stuff like
that.
She didn't like that idea, so Inever actually went through
with it.
But right I did.
I did start filling in, youknow, filling in everything for
the government to look at me ina very deep and personal manner
to decide whether it'd be worth.
(20:58):
That's funny, yeah, but youmentioned that like yeah, I know
exactly what you mean yeah,yeah a friend of the army when I
was younger.
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Oh really, but yeah, I wish I had.
I'm probably too old to getstarted on that now, but yeah,
it sounded pretty cool.
I loved it.
I was.
Speaker 3 (21:15):
We were there for three hours yeah yeah, it was
awesome it's good, it's buildingthose moments with children.
That gives them a lot,especially the age of your boys.
They're still accepting to bearound in your presence.
Yep, for now, for now so, butnow they haven't decided.
You know you're not cool enoughto be around, but it is it is,
(21:37):
it is, it is coming, and I cansay that because I've got kids
that are slightly older andwe're in the transition page
with some one we've passed.
And you know like, for example,we actually had to chat with one
of our daughters the other weekthe oldest, because her friends
are all getting their license.
She won't have her licenseuntil next year because of how
(21:57):
our school system works and ages, et cetera, but some of her
friends are now getting alicense and she mentioned that
her and her friends are going togo somewhere to get something
to eat after school.
The other week my wife and Iare like, yeah, no worries,
wife's like all good, turned outwe're.
That was was like 30 minutedrive away, so we just assumed
(22:19):
it was something close by towhere she normally hangs out.
So we had to have theconversation of hey, if you're
going to be going somewhere in acar like that, maybe you need
to be a bit more detailed to say, hey, this is at such and such.
I said it's the same thing ofyou saying, oh, we're just going
to mcdonald's but it's not anyMcDonald's nearby.
(22:41):
It's a McDonald's an hour and ahalf way down the coast and
you're at the beach.
You know what I mean.
It's a totally differentconversation.
You can't just say I'm going toMcDonald's.
You've got to kind of say I'mgoing to McDonald's here now, so
we kind of have a better idea.
And so we kind of have a betteridea and it's more for their
safety.
Just so something happens.
It was a rainy day, new drivercar full of girls.
(23:02):
I'm not saying women are baddrivers, I'm just saying a car
full of distractions for anearly driver in a wet at peak
hour traffic.
There's a lot as an experiencedperson and it was a lot of
downpour at that time.
Something for me going when Ifound out I'm like whoa Whoa,
(23:23):
that was a lot of downpour atthat time.
Something for me going when Ifound out I'm like whoa whoa,
that was a yeah, okay you guysare pushing it going there.
Speaker 2 (23:27):
You know what I mean.
Like I, yeah, it freaked me outas a parent afterwards.
Yeah, there's a lot of crazycrap going on.
My my oldest son just went towas like there's some kind of
school event where they weregoing overnight to some camp.
Yep, and it was, it's fine,cool, go, have fun.
You have fun with your friends,whatever.
Stay overnight.
And it would have been lesseventful if not.
One week prior to that, we hada conversation with him about,
(23:47):
you know, sex, yeah, and westarted to tell him things oh, I
already know about this andthis and this and this and this.
And we're just like, because wetalked about this, last time.
You know that stuff already.
And then so he's going to this,this overnight camp, and I'm
like, oh, I don't know how Ifeel about that anymore.
Speaker 3 (24:05):
I was like, dude, don't do anything to get
yourself in trouble no, I thinkI think kids are way more timid
now, you know, than they used tobe.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I was talkingto a client of mine, a customer
, and you know we're getting tothe prom, the formal period with
his kids, and you know he saidthey got.
You know he wasn't working thatday, he's helping getting his
(24:26):
son ready for this and that theyhave photos beforehand.
I'm like, oh, yeah, hopefullyhe doesn't have a big night
because he's got football.
Yeah, he's got football sunday.
I'm like, oh, hopefully theydon't have a big night party.
And afterwards you know what Imean.
And he goes, yeah, kids ain'tlike that much anymore.
I'm like, yeah, they're notreally into it.
He goes, yeah, he's had a beerand he's had a drink here and
(24:52):
there as a late teenager, butnot the Yahoo party type.
You know, not to the same levelthat we would.
Josh is what he said.
I'm, you know, not to the samelevel that we would.
Josh is what he said.
I'm like, yeah, I would havebeen damn it like so much
alcohol and yeah, kids, by 16.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
I was, I was getting hammered every weekend yeah, but
that's yeah.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
My six-year-old does do that.
She just that.
I don't think they've ever doneanything like that at all and
and that's not me, that's not metrying to assume the best of it
I genuinely feel like that'snot something her and her
friends are interested in.
A lot of people, I feel, likethe kids.
These days, the teenagers havechanged in a way where they're
not as rebellious as such.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
Well, that's good, it is good.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
But it also makes me feel like a loser parent, like
I've raised a bunch of losers soI don't want to try anything
cool.
That's funny, you know what Imean.
Like, like, when I think aboutit, like I was wild child, I did
this and that and these are mykids.
Like this makes me look soft,like what.
This does not look likesomething I would, you know.
Right, I'm happy I don't.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
I don't want that.
I don't want it.
Before like I get worried thatmy kids will do stuff that I did
, but hearing that I'd be likethey wouldn't even touch the
stuff that I did yeah yeah, youknow it's.
Speaker 3 (26:04):
It's a weird thing.
You don't know whether to behappy as yourself, as a parent,
that you've created this childthat's responsible and doing the
right thing, and all that andthen, at the same time, I feel
like I've done something wrongin a sense of like, yeah, then
they're boring, yeah, they'renot trying, they're not trying
things, they're not experiencedthings.
(26:24):
Like it's a weird.
It's a weird feeling as aparent, like not knowing if
you've done a great job or a badjob at it.
Like I do say I've done a greatjob.
I think my wife and I have donefantastic with the kids and
they have wonderful manners andthey do the right thing and the
rest of it.
But at the same time, I stillfeel in a sense like maybe
they're impacting their ownsocial life in a way that
(26:47):
they're not experiencing life.
Or or you know the things thatcreated me to be who I am, or
the same with you, the thingsthat you've done and experienced
through life to be who you are.
Our kids are not experiencingthose things.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
So what type of person they're going to grow up
to be, I guess, is the way Ilook at it right, like like I
treasure every day of life,because there are so many times
that I was younger that I shouldhave died from some of the shit
I did.
I, I appreciate life everysingle day that I'm living.
So, yeah, it's, it's.
It's interesting, you know,related.
We're talking about the kidsand what they do.
(27:19):
One weird thing and I only havetwo kids, right.
So my oldest, who's going to be13 in October, he is starting
to get all buddy-buddy with meall the time.
He wants to hang around with meall the time and he's cracking
jokes with me and at my expenselike I was one of his friends
(27:41):
from school.
Okay, I'm like, one hand, it'scool.
On the other hand, it's likeI'm still your dad and you're
being disrespectful.
Or like when I go to give you apunishment, he's like, oh, come
on, I'm like I'm still your dad, like I'm not exactly I'm not
your friend, but like I don'twant to.
Speaker 3 (27:55):
Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah , I get you.
I haven't really I didn'treally get that, but I've seen
that.
I do know what you mean by that.
It's like it seems cool, butmaybe he's just trying to find
where he is as a teenager inthat next period in his life,
like where, where does that sit?
(28:15):
He's still trying to findhimself as a teenager.
So he's trying to work, gaugethat around, the people that's
around him he gets.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
I think he's confused because even though he's 12,
almost 13, he's an inch shorterthan me, right?
Yeah?
So he thinks he's grown.
And I'm like, bud, you're 12,12 years old, right, I have, I
have jackets older than you,yeah, you know, and but he
thinks he's, he thinks he'sgrown and, and you know, he's
(28:43):
just so anxious to grow up, sohe's like trying, like well, I'm
, I'm a man too.
Speaker 3 (28:46):
I'm like you're a child, like yeah, I don't care
how big you are I've got a childat the moment.
She's been sick but she'salways likes to be pretty timid,
doesn't do much.
You got to push her to to bethat adventurous person to go
out and see things or do thingsor be social with friends and,
oddly enough, this week, whenshe's feeling better, she's been
(29:09):
out every night for the lastfive nights.
This is my, this is a 12 yearold, but it's like every
afternoon after school, oh, canI go to this friend's house?
And it's like, yeah, that'sfine, and then I'm just gonna
stay here for dinner, they'lldrop me off home.
I'm like, okay, so that'shappened like two, three nights
in a row.
And then, and then she comeshome and she's like I'm staying
at this friend's house tonight.
(29:30):
I was like, oh, okay, so she'sgone and done that.
But then before she left shegoes oh, you guys need to pick
me up in the morning because wehad a dog trainer come by.
I'll talk about it in a second.
Dog trainer came by and shegoes oh, yeah, after dog
training, can you drop me off atthis other friend's house?
So she's just going friendhopping and I kind of went to my
(29:50):
wife.
I'm trying to work this outLike where does this come from?
This isn't like her.
This is way too much socialsocial.
This is like six months worthof social interaction packed
into a week.
What's going on here?
Yeah, does she hate?
our food was one thing I'm likeI just feel like she's scamming
all her friends for food, are we?
Oh?
Is she trying to get out of herchores like I'm trying to work
out?
What is the hidden motivebehind this right?
(30:12):
Now yeah, there's an angle onthis that I'm missing that's all
you new parents.
Speaker 2 (30:17):
Your kids are always up to something yeah, they're
always up to something they'replanning, they're conniving.
Speaker 3 (30:24):
Yeah, oddly enough we had a dog trainer, so I didn't
record yesterday, we had todayand I spent a lot of money
because I threw out all thesetime off and that I had a dog
getting out of the yardconstantly and running around
and do we rehome?
I can't reh, rehome.
That's the baby's favorite dog,you know.
It would devastate her if shewasn't here.
Okay, we need to do something.
(30:44):
Yeah, so I spent stupid moneyon a dog trainer to come by.
Turns out it's for life.
So it's kind of like I'llaccept the money because I can
have as many training sessionsand support as I need for the
rest of the dog's life.
She's come over and usually a16-year-old doesn't pay any
attention to anything.
So we've made the kids getinvolved because it's like I'm
spending this money on a dog.
You guys need to know what theplan is because I don't want
(31:09):
anyone wrecking this shit up forus afterwards.
You know what I mean Notfollowing through 16-year-old
full-on tokus.
I've never seen her so focusedbefore in my life.
Normally she's not focused thatmuch she.
She knows everything.
She's doesn't need to hearanything.
She was so focused through thewhole thing, 12 year old out the
window.
She was, I don't even know, sheknew what day it was, and while
(31:29):
we were even at the table.
To be honest, like it, it wasdifferent.
It was different seeingchildren again differently,
learning how things were.
Just, she took me by opposite.
I was really proud of how shepaid attention and listened
because I thought she was goingto be the biggest problem for it
, but instead she was great.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
Why do you think she's paying attention, though I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (31:50):
The only thing I can think of is the lady said you
can be the scribe, go get a penand paper and take some notes,
and she was taking notes.
So maybe taking notes whilelistening kind of forced her to
focus more on what was happeningat the moment.
Let's see, that's what I'mthinking.
Is this how she is at school?
(32:10):
Okay, this is a different sideof her.
I guess that my wife and Italked about last night Like, oh
, this is different.
It was nice seeing.
Yeah, if that's her at school,that's good to know.
That's she is putting in theeffort, so that's cool yeah,
yeah, that's cool.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
My boys, they the older one.
He doesn't take much ofinterest in anything, although I
will say, late he's like latelyhe has switched, flipped a
switch, like all of a suddenhe's got a lot more responsible,
okay, and like he'll help outaround the house with some,
sometimes without asking you,asking him or even asking for
(32:46):
something.
Just he's just doing stuff.
Oh right, like I feel likeyou're banking this and you're
gonna ask for something reallybig at some point, but I'm like
where did this come from?
It's weird.
You know, maybe he's justgetting more mature, I guess.
Speaker 3 (33:03):
I mean, I like it, I'm not complaining about it,
it's just strange they do say,kids tend to lose their brain,
what their common sense for it,when they turn into teenagers.
So who knows?
It's really hard to keep trackof what their, their mind frame
is.
So we had this dog thing, the12-year-old.
She had to get up to her stagebecause the lady got us.
(33:23):
After doing a bit of theory andtalking and bits and pieces,
we'll do different exerciseswith the dogs for a little bit,
just to think One of them shegoes, the younger one, the lead
goes, all right, I just want youto walk with the dog.
Keep her on her left side.
I'm going to be saying left andright.
Do you understand your left andrights?
Yeah, walk straight.
Lady says all right, now turnright.
(33:45):
And she stopped and goes whichway is right?
That was the whole exercise.
Was her confused about what wasleft and right?
What's a u-turn?
Now go back around, go the wayyou came?
Just those little commandsconfused the crap out of her.
So you're actually trainingyour kid.
I felt like I was gettingtrained yesterday, to be honest.
Hold on a second before wefinish with that.
(34:05):
Yep, all right, come here, comeon.
All right, come on, come in forthe end.
Speaker 2 (34:13):
Oh, we have a special guest again.
Speaker 3 (34:15):
Yeah, yeah, I can just hear this noise at my door.
Speaker 2 (34:17):
Look at all the hair she has now again.
Speaker 3 (34:19):
Yeah, yeah, I could just hear this noise at my door.
Look at the hair she has now.
Oh no, yeah, no, I could justhear this noise at the door in
the background.
I'm like is she sitting at thedoor just talking to me through
the door like a?
I'll go bring her in.
Oh, thank you.
Yeah, sorry, yes, we all learna bit about dog training not her
, though I actually did learn athing about her.
The reason why dogs are sogentle and kind to babies is
(34:40):
because they see them as babies.
They're not a threat to a dog.
Speaker 1 (34:45):
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!