September 6, 2023 • 49 mins
In the latest episode of the Dad's Getting Coffee podcast we share our summer adventures, talk about the challenges of raising children, and discuss some of our side projects. We also share our family vacation stories and how we manage the never-ending storage of precious memories.
Now, imagine the excitement of your children going back to school fading into the anxiety of trusting strangers with your little ones. We walk you through our own experiences of this transition, highlighting the importance of setting aside time for yourself and the growth that comes from challenging situations. Lastly, we stir up a lively debate on allowing children to use profanity in context and why reacting calmly is key. So, tune in to our episode for a mix of business, parenting, and a whole lot of laughter.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey there, Before we dive into today's episode, we
wanted to give you a heads upthat this one might not meet our
usual high audio qualitystandards.
You might encounter a fewscratchy moments that we just
couldn't smooth out inpost-production.
But you know what?
We had an absolute blastrecording this one and we
couldn't wait to share it withyou.
Rest assured, we've committedto delivering top-notch sound
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quality and we'll haveeverything perfected by the time
our next episode rolls around.
So, without further ado, sitback, relax and enjoy the show.
Thanks a million for tuning in.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
And enjoy the show.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Welcome back everyone .
We've missed you all summerlong and we're absolutely
thrilled to be back with anotherepisode of Dad's Getting Coffee
podcast.
I'm your host, justin, and, asalways, I'm Joy with my two
friends, co-hosts and fellowdads, cory and Bobby.
Today we're diving headfirstinto a hearty discussion about
what we've been up to all summerand letting our kids go back to
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school.
We'll share our summerhighlights, from beach trips to
international adventures, andcatch you up on what's been
keeping us busy since we lastgraced your podcast feeds.
And, to cap things off in style, stick around until the end of
the show as we lighten the moodwith a few laughs in our hot
take segment.
Trust us, these are the thingswe simply can't stop thinking
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about, whether they're relatedto parenting or something
entirely different.
So, without any further ado,I'm excited to get back into it.
So, cory, I'm going to go toyou first, but before we get to
the fam, you've got somethingbrewing.
Business-wise, right?
You want to talk about that alittle bit?
I do, yeah, you're not going totalk about it, you forget.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
I think I just downplay everything that's
happening in my life.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
Well, I'll play it for me, please.
This is your time to plug it.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
I've technically owned a personal training
business for a while now and Ihave recently opened up a studio
in the downtown of where I livein a building that is very
popular, so I really lucked outon location and it's been going
really well.
But I feel like I always setthis bar where I feel like I
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never quite start because Ithink I'm not where I want to be
yet with it.
But it has been a very slow butalso exponential growth of
clientele and just meetingpeople in the community and
people just being verysupportive of having, I guess,
another personal trainer that isin the just in our area.
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Our town got this A plus ratingapparently for health and
fitness awareness and I thinkit's cool that I can kind of
jump on that now and be a partof it.
So instead of trying to getclients to drive a half hour
away to different gyms that Iwas renting from, I can finally
provide the space myself andit's also just five minutes away
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from my house, so commute iseasier, selling myself is easier
.
I have a place that people cancome though.
It's just been overall a great.
It's been a great experience.
It's just a little overwhelmingwith schedules and figuring
things out and, I guess, kind ofgetting to the point where we
may need daycare at this point.
But my mother also just retiredand she volunteered herself to
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be that daycare a couple days aweek, so that's been another
part of that.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I'm going to need you to go back and listen to our
childcare episodes, so you knowremind yourself with your mind.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
It's like it's already ingrained in my brain.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Nice, we'll see how it goes.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
She's pretty good, she's pretty.
You know, she does what we ask,just with a little hard time,
but not too bad.
Sure, sure.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
So you can find Corey .
You can find Corey at SelfSufficient Fitness on Instagram.
Anywhere else, Just Instagram.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
The website is selfsufficientfitcom.
Okay, when I went for thatdomain it was taken, so I was
very upset 10 years ago.
So that was but yeah,selfsufficientfitcom.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
So if you're looking for a trainer in his area, check
out his Instagram or hiswebsite.
All right, that's enoughplugging out your business.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Tell us about tell us about what you did in terms of
family vacations this summer.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
So a few years ago we started going with my in-laws
on beach vacations and the firstcouple years were pretty rough.
It was.
It was a lot of I almost feltlike we were taking care of
everyone's kids and it was.
It was a lot of work.
And then, you know, we had ourson and he was like an infinite
time.
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This year was kind of like alittle bit of a break.
Last year we got this horriblecondo and there was like a death
fan that wasn't working.
It was wobbling all over.
The floors were just covered inmuck and dirt.
There was hair and sand on allthe surfaces.
It was just never cleaned.
And there was a note.
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There was a note in the condothat said the, the dishwasher.
I know about the dishwasher,it's going to be fixed, but
unfortunately it'll be fixedlike the day after you leave,
which I'm sure they just theyleft that note, over and over
that same note, was there allsummer, regardless of the tenant
.
So so we made sure not to go tothat condo this this year and we
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got this great spot and myin-laws were above us, so there
was some separation there and westill got to spend a lot of
time with them, but we reallymade it like our own vacation
and with my daughter talking andwalking and, you know, being a
part of all of the activitiesthis year was just really,
really fun.
It was a lot less pressure andboth my kids are obsessed with
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the ocean and the beach andplaying, so it was just a really
.
It was just really fun.
It was a good.
It was a really good vacation.
So which beach do you go to?
We go to Sea Isle City.
It's just north of Cape May,yeah, so yeah, it's.
I mean, it's a little bit of a,a little bit of a hike, but we
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took two vehicles, which, let metell you, was great, because I
did feel bad for my wife,because she had to kind of be
the snack giver and, you know,break up fights the whole way
down, but I I just drove mytruck down by myself with all of
our stuff.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
So that was that?
Speaker 2 (06:40):
yeah, I don't know, that's rough, that's rough I
don't know how I got away withthat, but it was.
It was good it was nice.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
So, yeah, I don't know how you didn't have to take
one of the kids with you.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
You didn't take either kid, like you had no kids
to take.
You just had the stuff.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
You just had an enjoyable drive down to the
beach, so you just listened todad's gonna coffee and run the
entire time.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
That's what you did.
I should have listened to folkswho were the long it was, it
was it was fun.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
It was funny just being by myself.
And then when I got down thereyou know all chaos just just let
loose, but it was.
It was like a good two and ahalf hours.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
So two reactions to what you said.
One I hate being the mostresponsible parent and watching
other people's kids.
I've been in that situationwhere I feel like wait, why am I
surrounded by my kids and otherpeople's kids?
That's not fair.
So like someone else issomewhere else and I'm like what
is happening.
The other is we've done like abig house beach situation before
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and they are always chaos.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Yeah, that's what we should.
That's what that's why we wentwith the condos.
It was rough doing the houselike three or four years ago.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Sometimes a good chaos, but they're still chaos.
They're the best.
That's your favorite.
You like the chaos?
I?
Speaker 3 (07:51):
love, I love, yeah, I love like a big, like a if you
can get a big house with all thepeople and just like.
It's like we're going to livewith all of our favorite people
and friends and family and kids,and it's just going to be good
vibes.
Everyone's going to act up,including the kids and me, and
you know we're going to go tothe beach and just we're going
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to do it, but I'm definitely theone causing winding everybody
up, adults and children included.
Like getting underneath theadult skin.
I'm getting the kids all hypefor whatever the names are, it's
.
I'm the problem.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Our house situation was like was way too much.
So hats off to you, but I Icouldn't do it again.
There's no way.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
So, Bobby, how about you?
You also have something tocelebrate.
I'll go ahead and say it,because Bobby doesn't actually
talk about it that much, but yousurvived newborn phases while
finishing up your master'sprogram oh goodness yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
I guess that.
I mean, that was a couple ofmonths ago.
But yeah, I had for the mostpart, only my.
It was my last semester.
For the most of it I was onsome form of paternity leave.
So the first four weeks I wasout, and then the middle six
weeks as well as balancing workplus being a new dad, plus grad
school and all of that, and thenthe last bit of it I had
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planned to come back out onleave to wrap things up.
So I was on leave and could atleast focus on just being dad
during the day and then doingsome studying at night.
But it's been good, yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
How did you do that?
Like what time did you?
Do most of your studies Really,Because I can't even get CEUs
done for my certificationsbecause I don't know where and
you're over there just doing allthat times.
10.
Like when?
Speaker 3 (09:46):
I honestly, I mean that's to be fair.
When they're really young, theysleep a lot more.
I think I mean we were lucky,right, my daughter.
We were lucky, my daughterslept.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
I don't know yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:59):
I guess hats off to my wife.
She really helped me balance it, you know, cause obviously I
couldn't do both, so somebodyhad to be one on one with the
kid, with our daughter, at what?
And in order to allow me tohave that time to be able to
focus, right, yeah, I mean youfind time.
It's like anything else, right,like it sounds crazy until,
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like, you're doing it and youjust make it work Like that's
like an hour here, two hourshere and half hour there, you
figure it out and it all worksout in the end somehow.
So but yeah, thank you Justin, Ihad no idea that you were even.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
You were like it's a couple of months ago.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
We've been like off for a couple of months, so like
it's natural You're like whatthe fuck If Faby were so like.
We're both like what did weaccomplish?
Oh right, okay cool.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
For anyone who thinks this show is scripted, like now
you know, because they werelike both caught off guard by
this whole situation.
But tell us about family first,that you got into this summer,
so this is the first summer withyour daughter Tell us about it.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
It is, and man is it exhausting, because every
weekend I feel like we are,we're weakened warriors, right,
we have somebody to go see somegrandparents, some family member
, some new activity to do, andyou plan the whole weekend or
that day around like sleepschedules and eating schedules
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for them and trying not todisrupt her day.
Get it done.
You get home and then it's likeokay, somehow you accomplished
the activity great family outingbut now you're just back into
like all the other work at home.
So you know, when you left forthe day, like the house still,
like you have dishes in thething you were now looking at,
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like hair on the floor from petsand you still have to like cook
dinner, clean dishes and dobedtime routine.
So it's exhausting, right, likeI like why do we do this?
Getting anxiety just listeningto all those things in the list
you get and I'm a naturally likean introvert, right.
So like I re-energized by likebeing by myself and like just
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doing nothing, absolutely.
It's been a little bit of achange, but you had something
magical about having kids, Iguess you know like taking them
through and getting like seeingall those first experiences and
doing the family activities.
I like been able to find itre-energizing.
Even though it's exhausting,it's well worth it.
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So some first we've gone toaquariums.
We've gone to is do a couple oftimes the Philly Zoo by us is
you get a seasonal pass.
It is well worth it pays for it.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
You have to do the season pass at the zoo.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
Yeah, it's awesome Basically like, would you like
to just go walk around the parkand see a ton of way more
interesting things?
And if you were just like in apark that had, like you know,
your municipal or township parkor something.
Right, we saw the ocean, we didlike a I wouldn't say a beach
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day, but we set up a beachlocation.
We saw the water, we went intothe water, we packed up our
location and then we droveanother hour and a half home.
Ha, ha, ha ha.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Do you take like photos?
And videos during these outings, cause some people, like I find
, don't take a ton of picturesof their kids, like I forget
about sharing it to social media.
But just like I think I have40,000 photos from each trip I
take, like, do you take the big?
Things or you trying to liketake photos or like little
snippets of every part of theday?
Speaker 3 (13:40):
Like in that, in those stages, bigger things and
like probably you know, I guess,stuff that would be any.
Just I'm not taking a pictureof her, just like in her like
car seat I guess, while we'redriving and something.
But you know, we're seeingfamily again and she's only seen
them a few times that I'malways taking like a picture of.
Like this time I went to seethem.
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But yeah, I definitely take alot of photos because I am not
good at taking photos.
So my strategy is just liketake a ton right there and then
let's choose the best one andI'll go back and delete them,
but then you never delete.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
So you end up with like, you end up like four
photos of the same shot thatyou're trying to take.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (14:18):
Right and you're like one of these will be the good
one and I'll take I'll get to itlater but then you just choose
the good one, you send it topeople and then you never go
back and delete.
So I'm just paying Apple tostore all these like oh yeah,
extra photos that are like theylook at it a bit hard to say.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
You know what I find interesting.
I feel like I in my house havethe 15 pictures that were taken
of me as a child between age oneand 10.
And there are like 50,000pictures of my kids between
those same ages that they canhave anytime they want to.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
I just feel like we're a different picture taken
generation that our parents wereI got real crazy thinking about
who I'm paying the cloud moniesto to like keep all these
random photos and I'm like I'mgonna download the photos by
like that years and put them ona USB and then just like put
them in a box and like it'd bethe equivalent of like how our
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parents just have like hugephoto albums that like those
like finders that took up allthat space.
I'm like that would be so muchbetter.
We don't even do it, like youknow.
I just like it would take upsuch a little amount of space to
put it on like little USBs.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
the plug in, just pay Apple $299 a month.
But I'm not, yeah, right,that's one of the for the rest
of my life until they decidethat it's more money, and then I
just they had another $10 amonth and another $10 a month.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
You didn't have the $10 a month.
Speaker 3 (15:37):
Oh yeah and then we've been to a couple.
We went to Baltimore, we saw anOrioles game, we went to a
Phillies game, their baseballfamily, those have been our big
like.
All of these have been, like Isaid, just a regular weekend or
like a long three day weekend.
We haven't done a full, likefour week long family vacation.
Yet it would be.
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That would be a new adventurethat I think we're just like.
Will it be worth it to justlive somewhere else?
Speaker 1 (16:04):
But it's amazing to me that you take her to baseball
games Like I'm a grown man andI could not it threw a baseball
game without being like, oh yeah, get up and do something, yeah
we have.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
My wife is a huge Phillies fan and last year they
had the run through the WorldSeries and I've been watching it
more and more and I even put iton at night, Cause it's like,
it's almost like it's good forsomething to put on.
Yeah, kind of like put on tolike get us to like the next
step of the night, right To likedinner and then like the like
15 minutes between dinner andthen like going to like bedtime
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or whatever.
So we've been following it justkind of casually, like as we're
parenting.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
And you're like in that sweet spot where where your
dog won't say like, change thischannel, because I will watch
this.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
I mean, she does like Miss Rachel a lot.
Speaker 3 (16:54):
She does.
Oh, that's true, that isproblematic, but it's funny
because, like I think, she likehas seen enough.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Have you guys seen that Miss Rachel is now with
Mika and Flippy?
We're not doing that.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
We only watched the Miss Rachel only episodes.
Oh, okay, I got you.
I got you the OG episodes.
But uh, yeah, I mean shewatches the baseball even at the
game, in real life.
Justin, to your point.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
That's amazing.
Speaker 3 (17:17):
That's crazy A little bit.
I mean only like a couple ofinnings and then we end up
walking around the stadium.
We definitely should have justbought like nosebleeds for 20
bucks.
And done that.
But the minute you saw thatwe've actually watched.
But she will sit on your lapand kind of like look down at
the diamond and ask who's onfirst.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
I'm going to get trashed in the comments for all
the baseball fans.
I just can't do it.
I just can't do it.
But you know what?
Me fair.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
No, it is off.
Hard sport, I think, to learnto like.
I mean, I only really got intoit the last couple of years.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
If you didn't play it , if you didn't play it too,
it's like a big.
They're trying to speed it up.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
It's clock right, Trying to speed it up.
So they're, they know, theyunderstand.
At least they understand theproduct now at the pitch.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
clock is like great for TV, great for TV.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
Yeah, all right.
And then for me, nothing tooexciting.
I mean, I didn't open a newstorefront or achieve academic
excellence of any time, but Idid throw my hat in the ring for
elected office, and no, youwill not see me on the next
presidential primary debatestage.
I won't be there, but you'll seemy name around for school board
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in my local area.
So I'm running for the schoolboard in my town and I'm looking
forward to seeing how that goes.
I don't know, we'll see.
That's awesome.
I'll let you know laterNovember.
Look me up.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
No, did you get involved?
Oh sorry, Go ahead.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
No, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
I was going to say did you get involved from not
liking the way things were beinghandled, or you just wanted to
be a part of it?
Speaker 1 (18:49):
because you just wanted to be a part of it, so
yeah, people have asked me thatbefore like, what do you not
like?
And I'm like, first of all, ifI'm just going to get to my, get
on a Democratic soapbox for aminute, I believe all elections
should be contested.
I don't believe that anyelection anywhere should be
uncontested, so just throwingyour hat in the ring.
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Everyone should have options inthe Democratic process, so
that's why.
But I've served on boards inthe past and I just like the
feeling of giving back andserving.
So win or lose.
If I don't make the school board, there are other opportunities
to volunteer in the school and Iknow we're going to talk about
kids going back to school alittle bit later.
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But my son starts kindergartenin the school district and so
it's like all right, I might aswell jump in and be involved and
do some stuff.
So that's that's.
That's what I did over thesummer.
I made that.
I went around my neighborhoodand got signatures on this
little petition that you have toget signed and like some of
them some of them were like yeah, I'll sign it, and they just
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like moved on.
Others were like well, what areyou going to do?
Like, what do you think aboutchildren with?
Speaker 2 (19:55):
special needs.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
All right, this we're going to have this discussion
at your doorstep.
I appreciate it.
That's the thing I'm here forit.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
It's very real.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Yeah, yeah, it was good.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
That's very cool because you, instead of having
to react to decisions being made, you can be a part of the
decisions being made.
Right, right?
Speaker 1 (20:14):
I like that.
So, and then vacation wise, wedid a few beach trips here and
there, but our big trip thisyear was we went to the UK.
We were there for two weeks.
So I think I've said onprevious episodes, my wife is
from the UK and still has familythere and we, prior to the
pandemic, would go every 12, 18months or so, but we had not
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been since the pandemic.
So since you know, actuallybefore that probably 2018, 2019,
we hadn't gone, because 2020hit like at the end of our when
our 18 months would have been togo and then we hadn't been.
My wife's grandmother is 92 andso it was really important for
us to get there and give themsome time with the youngest two,
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because this is the first timethat she met them face to face.
So that was great.
So we traveled across theAtlantic with three kids, five
and under.
It was chaos.
How does that work?
We survived.
We did it.
We survived.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
Did everybody else on the plane survive For the most
part.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
It's like we did fine For the most part.
Speaker 3 (21:23):
You knew where you were going, Like you've had all
this time right.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
Right.
Speaker 3 (21:27):
To prepare for three kids and three or five going on
the plane.
Everybody else on the plane didnot know that three kids and
their five would also be on theplane with them.
So I think we need to stop andthink about this, Listen.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
I pay my money and I sat in my seat, like everybody
else happens, happens.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
I love that I paid my money.
Speaker 3 (21:51):
I don't know why.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
I didn't know that's so funny.
I paid my money and my kids satdown and everyone else sat down
.
Speaker 3 (21:59):
We're all in a tube 30,000 feet in the air.
What are we going to do?
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Listen, if you don't have North Carolina headphones
on an international flight, likewhat are you doing with your
life?
So like I don't feel bad, Idon't feel bad.
So my hot take for tonight isactually one thing that my wife
said during the journey.
They're on the way there, wayback.
I can't remember, but I'll savethat for later.
But in terms of the actual trip, my in-laws were amazing, so we
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stayed with them the majorityof our time and even got to
spend some like husband wifetime where we went to the spa
and got to see a show.
In Edinburgh, we went to themilitary tattoo.
Have you ever heard of themilitary tattoo?
Either one of you know yeahthat's what it's called.
Speaker 3 (22:45):
I thought so is a bar Right.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
So you're in the heart of Edinburgh, scotland,
and you're surrounded by, you'reat the castle, which is not a
castle where, like royalty lived, but it was a military barracks
.
So really it's called the RoyalEdinburgh Tattoo.
In the term tattoo in thiscontext or doesn't refer to like
body art, it goes back to aDutch word, tap toe, which
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signals the closing of tavernsand the sound of like the
evening bugle calling thesoldiers to return back to the
quarter.
So over the years it's evolvedinto a display of military
military bands from all over theworld come and they perform as
a show of like cultural heritage, artistic performance, like
General Milley was there and theUS Air Force was there and they
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did a musical number.
But it was really really cool.
It's like one of those thingswhere you put on your like 40,
well, we put on our 40 before 40list, so we checked that off
and it was really cool.
But overall, you know the kidsdid good.
You know we had some issueshere and there because they were
tired, because the jetlightthing is real, but it was.
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It was a good, a good vacationfor us.
I'm happy we did it.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
It's like my dream to go to Scotland.
Do it, man.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
Yeah, just do it, do it.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
We found out that my dad, so he was adopted when he
was here, and we found out thathe is very Irish and he grew up
and I know this is not anationality, but he grew up
Jewish and so we celebrate allthe holidays and he never knew
what he was and he kind ofsorted out.
After years and years oflooking, he gave up and then
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they wound up finding him and itturns out he's very Irish.
So we bought him and I knowwe're talking about Scotland,
but we bought him like a pieceof land in Ireland, so he's now
a I don't know what you call it.
There's like a name.
Speaker 1 (24:51):
They stole your money yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
It's like he's like a lord or something.
Speaker 3 (24:57):
He's like a lord.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
But if you knew my dad, he went around for a week
saying my name is Lord Stephen.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
I love that for him.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
We got him this little plaque that says Lord
Stephen Boba, and the plot ofland is like five square feet.
Speaker 3 (25:18):
So wait, can I?
I think we did the same thingfor my mom actually, oh my
goodness, it's like when you geta star named after you.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
Wait, I was just going to say at one point in my
life.
I feel like a girlfriend boughtme a star and she was like this
what if it's the same star thatI got from my wife?
Probably Same star, it's allthe same.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Oh my God, it's really funny.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
So if you're listening right now and you've
done that, I'm sorry that wejust roasted you.
I apologize for that.
I'm like really.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
I definitely did it myself, so I can't even roast
anyone about it A star.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
I have a star.
We probably share a star.
That's great, that's fun.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
Absolutely, it's all the same thing, so that they can
keep discovering more.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
But now, as we think about summer ending and the
school bell starting to ring, Ithink we should talk about our
kids either starting daycare,starting school, new routine
coming out of the summer.
So let's talk about those firstdays.
Bobby, I'm going to start withyou this time.
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Your daughter is going todaycare.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
No, first time.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
I'm saying it.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
I'm saying it makes it real.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
The money, the check makes it real.
That's what makes it real.
Speaker 3 (26:40):
That makes it real real.
That makes it real real I paidfor my seat.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
Did you pay for her seat I?
Speaker 3 (26:48):
did.
I mean months ago, we recordedthe childcare episode and our
plan was for her to start in May.
And then we got closer to thatand we decided to really feel
right, move things around,figured out how to get to the
end of summer before we wouldend up putting her into, I guess
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, childcare or school.
They call it tuition because itcosts as much as the tuition.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
It does.
Speaker 3 (27:18):
So, yeah, she starts coming up this Wednesday.
There are forms that I probablyneed to fill out this weekend
and there's a to-do list of allthe things, not to forget the
pack.
And we've done the second andthird walk through and, you know
, I'm sure we will be moreprepared 24 hours from now and
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even five times more 48 hoursand before you know, it'll be
here and it will all go offwithout a hitch.
But, looking forward at it, weknow it's the best thing, but
it's still so hard, right To belike here are people that we
barely know.
We trust you with our child,Love her and care for her as
much as we do, while also doingthat for the other children in
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the room, which is a completelyunrealistic ask, Right?
So I think it's just knowingthat it's going to be a change.
It's going to be hard for allof us but, you know, through
difficult things everybody'sgoing to grow and we're going to
come out better for it.
And I think the hardest one isto think, like what I kind of
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said before, she's not going tobe like it's not going to be the
same level as like a familymember or that we would be able
to be able to like provide right.
But imagine if we didn't do it.
We go through this now.
We kind of go through theexperience earlier on in her
life, as she gets older, stillgoing to this school she's three
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, four.
They actually start thelearning part, like you know,
introducing things like thedesks and like kind of like a
school, more school routinebefore kindergarten.
And I think that will all payoff in the long run, because I
kind of had this flash forwardto what if we just kept her with
us which is be completely fineto do until she went to
kindergarten, right.
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And then she was dealing withthose feelings, plus
kindergarten, at the same timeof being with like it's kind of
like a stranger's care but, alsoit's not the same level of like
you're also learning things, sothat would be very difficult to
, so take it in pieces.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
So is this the crunchy place or the place by
your work?
The place by my work Is it fulldays.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Is it full days or?
Speaker 3 (29:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (29:31):
She's going to go two days a week and that was my
next question.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
That's a good dip in the pool.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
Two days a week and then probably three, maybe
beginning of next year.
That's the way to do it Acouple months, like probably
we'll go to five, or maybe whenshe's like two years older.
It moves effort, whatever it is, but she turns 18, you'll let
her go five days, yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
When she starts looking after the other children
Right.
Speaker 3 (30:00):
When they start paying her to watch the other
classes.
Speaker 1 (30:07):
So are you dropping her off together?
Speaker 3 (30:09):
or yeah, I think that's going to be the only way.
I probably need to put in likea half day of work off to do it,
because I think it's just goingto be an event.
You know, but I think it'sgoing to be really good and
because it's the short weekLabor Day, I guess, and she
would be going typically onMonday, Wednesdays, It'll also
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ease in.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
So she'll only have one day that week and then two
days and then like okay, so it'slike we have a, we have like a
one day like trial right, andthen get into the real routine
of going to be great as far asthe routine with like how the
rest of our life and day.
Speaker 3 (30:46):
Don't even ask like my wife is like able to operate
on that level where she's likealready thinking about the
impacts of like how it changesour morning routine with getting
up and ready and feeding herbreakfast and us to work and out
the door.
I can't comprehend that.
I'm just like we will figure itout when we get on that day.
So, man, that is what separates, I think, the moms from the
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dads.
They're able to like, think inlike at that level and I just
can't like not willing to justreact.
Speaker 2 (31:16):
We're willing to just react because we don't want to
do it right.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
I think women, not just moms, thinking 4D, like
they think about the thing it is.
I think we do not.
Speaker 3 (31:30):
We're like two dimensional goals.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
Two dimensional destination reactions.
Speaker 3 (31:36):
So, but yeah, I mean it's, it's going to be, it's
going to be exciting because I'mlooking forward to she from all
of our travels this summer thatI told you about.
Whenever we go do anything, atfirst you might be very quiet
and she's taking it all in andbeing observant, and then
afterwards, when we get home,she starts babbling and carrying
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on like a complete lunatic,like telling us about all the
things and what we did that dayis what it appears.
And she gets so energized bydoing those things that I'm
hoping she goes to school.
She sees all these children,all the other stuff going on and
it just wears her out and she'senergized by it and like I'm
telling myself, she's going tohave a great time, Corey what?
Speaker 1 (32:21):
what is?
What's the school plan for you,for your kids?
Speaker 2 (32:26):
So my son is in his second year of preschool and in
his preschool it's three or fouryear olds and four to five year
olds, so they're all in thesame class.
So he was very excited thisyear about being one of the
older kids in class and you know, to quote him now all the kids
will look up to me, so he's,he's like he's like excited to
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set an example and he had like agreat first day.
He was super.
He has new backpack, new waterbottle.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
So he already started .
Speaker 2 (32:58):
Yeah, which is crazy, because I started like after
Labor Day when I was younger andhe started on, I guess, the
30th, 31st, okay.
So he had like a light firstweek.
It was two days but he loved itand he was just excited to be
back.
He has the same teacher, he hasa couple of the same classmates
, but some of his friends wentto kindergarten so you know he
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misses them, but he's justreally excited to, to be one of
the older kids now.
And then with my daughter she,she's never been in daycare or
anything like that.
I think we're going to sign herup for a little gym, like we
did with my son years ago.
But she, for the first time,this took me, since like I've
always been the one who'sattached to them more than
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they're attached to me.
But my daughter, you know, Ikind of forced myself to take
them to the gym with me to justlike hang out in the playroom
there with whoever watches thekids.
And she, she was amazing.
She didn't even say bye to me.
She's like daddy toys put medown and she just went and
played and I had my work out andit was like wow, okay, so she
can handle these things and I'mjust the one with the issues,
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right, but it was good.
I mean they're both like youknow she'll be.
I mean she's almost two, but Ifeel like it's just flying.
So eventually she'll be in freeschool and oh, I don't know.
It's just very I just can'tbelieve how fast it goes, you
know yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (34:17):
Well, my little guy is going to kindergarten.
So he's been in the GoddardSchool for forever.
It feels like now.
So now he's getting out ofthere and going into
kindergarten.
So we had our open house onMonday, so we went and we met
his teacher and all that kind ofstuff.
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Every so often he's like excited, but every so often he's like
I'm really scared tokindergarten.
I think he's like in that justnormal state of like he's
excited but also nervous, likenot not sure what to expect, and
all that.
But yeah, when we went onMonday, there's a couple people
from his daycare that are alsogoing to school there in his
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class, and so he knew some ofthe kids and so I think that
really helped him kind of getpast the first apprehension.
And during the open house andall that kind of stuff, they
like were on the floor and theywere playing with each other,
and so I think that I thinkit'll be good.
I think it'll be good.
He's now this when I put him tobed tonight he's like so how
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many days until kindergarten?
And I'm like okay, not tomorrowand not the day after, but
Tuesday.
And he's like okay, okay, okay.
So he's like I got this manysleeps until right.
He's counting and he's countingdown.
So and then my middle child islike am I going to kindergarten?
We're like no, you're moving upclasses because they're all
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moving up.
You're right, you're moving up,but you're not going to
kindergarten.
He's like okay.
And he's like do I get anybackpacks?
And I'm like no, you don't getany backpacks, so you're going
to kindergarten.
He's a go, he's.
The second one is very, very,very to me.
He's very rational, he's verylike.
Matter of fact, my oldest isfar more emotional, so we're
just kind of working through theemotions of the, of the
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transition for him.
But I'm excited.
So my wife and I are bothtaking him to school on Tuesday
morning and then I'm going topick him up.
And then other days will havelike before and after care, but
this first day we're going totake him and we're going to pick
him up and we're going to makesure he feels special about the
day and all that kind of stuff.
So we're excited.
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That's awesome.
I can't believe I readkindergarten yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:26):
I, kindergarten is huge.
Yeah, such a big step.
Speaker 3 (36:29):
Do they have half day kindergarten, full day?
He's in full day.
Speaker 1 (36:33):
I think they might have half day but, he's in full
day, so he'll go 845 and two.
I think it's like three yo fiveor something like that, but
then he'll go into aftercareafter that.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
That always sounds like such a long day, but it's
just a normal.
You know, even us growing upthat's just a normal school day,
Like I had half daykindergarten, but after that it
was full day, everything and itwas never an issue for me.
It's like you enjoy beingaround your friends and learning
all this stuff.
Speaker 3 (36:56):
I think as the parents so weird, it's like are
they going to be okay without?
Speaker 2 (36:59):
us for this long.
It's like they're fine, theydon't care.
Yeah, I hope you're fine, it'llbe fine, it'll be good.
Speaker 1 (37:04):
All right, let's move into hot takes.
The thing we can't.
Uh-oh, I want to know youalways, I want to know I had
this.
Speaker 3 (37:15):
I had this because I have this thought.
Speaker 1 (37:17):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (37:18):
Go ahead.
Speaker 3 (37:19):
Because it's not.
It's like school related, butit's not really like our kids
school related.
But having been out of any typeof schooling for a decade, well
, I guess.
Speaker 1 (37:34):
I don't know.
We said it for three months.
Well, okay.
Speaker 3 (37:38):
Let me back up.
Not any type of school.
Having been having workingbeing in the workforce, I guess
is the best way to put it for 10, like over 10 years, I think.
At first I like summer used tobe like so exciting and I used
to like be a little bit of sadstill, or like when the school
year started.
And then you go through so manyyears and you no longer start
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really getting as excited forsummer because it's not like
you're getting the next threeplus months off.
You just kind of have acceptedthat.
Speaker 2 (38:09):
Just accept this through the year.
Speaker 3 (38:11):
You're that that no longer happens anymore.
But now I think I've come outon the other side where I am
just happy just knowing allthese little jerks are going
back to school, all the otherhypothetical children out there.
I'm just like they're all goingback to school and they're
going to hate it.
I'm just like, I'm just makesme happy thinking of these kids
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who, like, don't want to begoing back to school and their
summer is over.
It just like brings you alittle bit more joy, like, ah,
they're back in school.
Speaker 2 (38:39):
They got to go with you.
You got out of school and nowthe kids are in the enemy.
I know it's not so easy to know, but it does.
Speaker 3 (38:44):
He's so happy, just like that thought of being like
ah, they're not just sitting ontheir butts, just doing nothing
I don't know.
They got to go to work too.
I guess, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (38:56):
Until you had one year of a turn.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
It did.
This is a hot take.
This is a hot take.
Speaker 3 (39:01):
It's not for my daughter to go to school.
Let me try to thread thisneedle.
Speaker 1 (39:06):
It's not for my daughter.
This is a hot take, but it isvery upset.
Speaker 3 (39:10):
It's very happy to me that I think about, like all
the other kids across thecountry that now have to learn
things and not just do nothingalso anymore Like to schedule
the bitterness that I hear?
Yeah, it's neither of you likehave that at all.
Speaker 1 (39:31):
No, I don't, I don't think so.
No, that's, I think you have tomake that your hot take.
Speaker 2 (39:36):
I think I thought you're what I thought you were
going to go with the situation.
Speaker 1 (39:39):
I thought you were going to be like, oh, like
summer's not exciting anymorebecause, like you don't get a
summer off from like work, soit's different.
And I was like, oh, yeah,you're right, right, and I was
going to like co-sign that and Iwas going to be there.
But then you took this turn oflike those little brats.
Speaker 3 (39:54):
Heating these children for enjoying their
summer.
I like I'm just yeah, it's likethis little, I can't help it.
Like there used to be this,like one commercial when I was
growing up, where they wouldplay it's the most wonderful
time of the year Christian songwith back to school clothes, or
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back to stuff.
And I fully feel like best timeof the year.
Just I feel that now.
Speaker 2 (40:23):
I don't like the kids going back to school because of
all the traffic.
I don't care.
Yeah, that's my only qualm.
Speaker 3 (40:30):
I'm willing to have the inconvenience and know that
they're also like the rest oftheir time they're like they're
getting lectured.
Speaker 1 (40:42):
Oh my goodness, oh my goodness, that's right.
All right, we're actually goingto move into hot takes, but I'm
thinking about parenting.
Speaker 2 (40:49):
Here, let me give you mine.
Speaker 1 (40:50):
Let me give you mine.
You're going to jump in.
All right, tell me what yourhot take is.
Now I'm going to go next.
Speaker 2 (40:53):
I'm going to jump in because my battery is low.
Speaker 1 (40:56):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (40:57):
All right.
So my hot take is to let yourkids use profanity as long as
it's in context.
Oh, that is a hot thing.
So not like, not to let themlike, don't encourage it, you
know, because they have schooland they can get in trouble for
these things.
But I think, like yelling atyour kid for using profanity is
crazy, because I mean, I useprofanity a lot without
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realizing it and it's mostly incontext.
But you know you step to toe,you dropped on the floor, you
know you let some stuff fly.
The other night my son likedropped a toy in his bedroom and
you know we tried to be quietbecause my daughter's sleeping
and he just you know.
Just matter of fact, he justgoes shit.
Speaker 3 (41:40):
I was like Lucas.
Where did that come from?
Speaker 2 (41:42):
And he's like I'm just upset that I dropped away.
I'm like okay, well, yeah,that's in context, that makes
sense.
I'm like it's okay to use that.
But I said you know how wedon't say hey to each other,
like it's just like a rude wayof saying excuse me.
He's like, yeah, I'm likethat's kind of like the rude way
of saying oh man, or somethinglike that.
Plus, if you say it in schoolyou might get in trouble for it.
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So, you know, try not to say it.
But I did understand what hewas coming from because, you
know, I just think to yell youknow, to yell kids for something
that we do ourselves is alittle unfair.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
Can I just tell you my takeaway of this is that your
child is going to go to schoolthinking, hey, it is bad as it's
just an easy comparison for me.
Speaker 2 (42:22):
It was just an easy.
You know how people say likehey is for horses.
You know it's like we don'tlike yell hey at each other.
It's like hey, you say excuseme.
Speaker 1 (42:29):
I just have never put hey on a list of profanity, and
you did to no.
Speaker 2 (42:32):
No, no, it's not in the list, I hear I hear it to
the way I process the over the
Speaker 3 (42:37):
snow.
Speaker 2 (42:37):
No, no, no, that's not.
I think that's awesome.
Speaker 3 (42:39):
So you're saying, as long as they're able to swear
responsibly, you're okay with it, if it's in context and they're
not doing it at school.
Speaker 2 (42:49):
If it slips.
If it slips and it's in contextyeah like if it slips and it's
in context, I think it's okay.
Like if they do it by accidentyou know, that's okay.
I think I'm not going to giveanybody time out or punch
anybody for using a curse wordwhen they yeah.
Speaker 3 (43:03):
I don't know If it made sense, they understand it
you know, it's okay.
Speaker 1 (43:09):
We actually don't react to.
We've had a couple of childslips of profanity and we just
don't react.
And then they just are likeokay, well, apparently that
didn't land and they move on toother things in the trip Like
they thought they'd go flat thatdidn't land.
Speaker 2 (43:25):
They're like next time, next time you use the F
word, you gotta use the F word.
Speaker 1 (43:30):
Well, no what?
My middle child.
He came home one day and he'slike singing it.
He's like singing the F wordand I'm like where did?
This like I was, like my wife,I was like where did this come
from?
And we're like you've beenpretty good.
So then fast forward a coupleof more days.
My wife goes to a mom's outingor whatever, and they're all
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talking about it.
They're talking about theirkids coming home saying the F
word, and apparently one childcame and started saying the F
word, and then there, was achorus all the three year olds
saying the F word in song insong.
Speaker 2 (44:05):
It's amazing.
Speaker 1 (44:07):
So they, it's like you have to laugh at that.
So she gave him.
When she told me she's likethis is why he was saying it, I
was like, okay, good, becausethat was not me, Like I was not
taking the blame for that one.
But you're saying as long asit's in contact, that's fine.
Speaker 3 (44:21):
Good, yeah, yeah, now , okay.
So now, what Corey?
You have this take Now I wantyou to place yourself, that
you're going to you're.
This take now leads you tobecome the parent and your kid
goes to school and startssinging the F word and getting
everybody else to go homesinging the F word.
Are you standing by your date?
Speaker 2 (44:42):
No, no, oh, like with my take, yeah, I would probably
just, I would probably justlaugh it off, I would reaffirm
what I said now.
But to his teachers, like whatare you going to do?
You know?
Kids say you know the darnestthings, quote, unquote.
So what can you do?
Speaker 1 (44:56):
My goodness.
Speaker 2 (44:57):
My goodness, I mean I would encourage him not to say
these things.
Speaker 1 (45:00):
I'm not saying yeah, say whatever you want that's.
Speaker 2 (45:03):
that's a whole other story.
I'm just saying I'm not goingto like, react or like or or
punish him for using profanityin context.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (45:12):
If he starts saying it because he knows he shouldn't
, you know then?
And then it's like okay, you,you can't be saying these things
, you know He'd be like oh yeah,this is wrong, yeah.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
That's why we don't react, because they would.
They would be like, oh right,right, and that arrives out of
them.
But so my hot take is notparenting related.
What is the opposite of fire?
Speaker 2 (45:32):
Water oh, I've heard this Not fire.
Speaker 1 (45:35):
Exactly which is it?
Is it water or not?
Speaker 2 (45:39):
fire.
It's both I would naturally.
I want to.
Naturally I would say water,but I've heard this and it's
like not fire is the opposite offire.
Speaker 3 (45:49):
Like no fire.
Oh, it's definitely, it'sdefinitely water why?
Speaker 1 (45:53):
the definitely water, though, like why is it?
Without a doubt more Because Idon't even it could be a fire
extinguisher?
Speaker 3 (46:00):
No, I think that thing's just water.
Speaker 1 (46:03):
No justification, it's just.
Speaker 2 (46:05):
I said what I said.
I don't know.
I feel like the opposite ofhaving fire would be having no
fire.
Speaker 3 (46:10):
There's right, you have the four elements Earth,
wind, air and fire.
Speaker 2 (46:15):
So is earth and wind Air and earth are opposites.
Speaker 3 (46:19):
Water and fire are opposites.
Speaker 2 (46:21):
Now, that's a hot take at stuff.
Speaker 1 (46:23):
This is like Captain Planet type logic.
Speaker 3 (46:27):
It just makes sense.
Everybody knows it's water it's.
If you're saying anything otherthan water, you're over there.
Speaker 2 (46:33):
All right, let me give this what's the opposite of
water Fire.
Say fire.
Speaker 3 (46:40):
If one is opposite.
Yes, that's how opposites work,no, but if we didn't start,
with fire would you have saidfire as the opposite of water.
That is how opposites work foryou, no you wouldn't have, you
would have said like.
Speaker 2 (46:53):
you would have said land or something like that.
If we started with water, if Isaid what's the opposite of
water?
Speaker 3 (46:59):
you would have absolutely said land.
Speaker 2 (47:04):
You would have said land to the opposite of water.
But, because we talked aboutfire first, because we said fire
, you're saying fire is theopposite.
Speaker 1 (47:14):
The best part of what just happened in the last 35
seconds is that Corey was like.
I got you.
Speaker 2 (47:19):
It's true, though, if someone said what's the
opposite of water, I'd be likeoh, I don't know land, I
wouldn't say fire.
But if someone said what's theopposite of fire, I would have
absolutely said water.
But given the joke, I woulddefinitely say the opposite of
fire is no fire.
Speaker 3 (47:32):
I mean, you do bring up a good point, like it Rock
paper, scissors type, like theycould be in a balance like that,
which I hadn't considered.
Speaker 2 (47:42):
So I have to rework.
Speaker 3 (47:43):
I have a whole In my not in this background, but in
my other room.
I have like strings and yarnand like a whole.
I'm trying to figure it out,but I could probably.
Speaker 2 (47:54):
It's a Venn diagram of opposites, yeah.
Speaker 1 (47:57):
So wait, should we just take the rock paper,
scissors example?
So the opposite of scissorspaper.
Speaker 3 (48:02):
Yeah, that one is circular.
So then it.
How would you do that with?
Speaker 2 (48:06):
the, but then the opposite of paper would have to
be, would have to be no paper.
We are.
Speaker 1 (48:13):
Oh, that's the opposite of paper.
No big ferricky, no paper.
All right we are, we've got togo.
Speaker 2 (48:21):
We've got to go.
Speaker 1 (48:21):
We've got to head that because we could keep going
in this circular opposite.
Speaker 2 (48:26):
I really hope the quality of my microphone was
okay for this, because I reallyenjoyed this one.
Speaker 3 (48:30):
Yeah, this was preseason for all of us.
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Dad's getting coffee.
Hey there, Before we dive into today's episode, we
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Speaker 1 (00:49):
Welcome back everyone .
We've missed you all summerlong and we're absolutely
thrilled to be back with anotherepisode of Dad's Getting Coffee
podcast.
I'm your host, justin, and, asalways, I'm Joy with my two
friends, co-hosts and fellowdads, cory and Bobby.
Today we're diving headfirstinto a hearty discussion about
what we've been up to all summerand letting our kids go back to
(01:11):
school.
We'll share our summerhighlights, from beach trips to
international adventures, andcatch you up on what's been
keeping us busy since we lastgraced your podcast feeds.
And, to cap things off in style, stick around until the end of
the show as we lighten the moodwith a few laughs in our hot
take segment.
Trust us, these are the thingswe simply can't stop thinking
(01:31):
about, whether they're relatedto parenting or something
entirely different.
So, without any further ado,I'm excited to get back into it.
So, cory, I'm going to go toyou first, but before we get to
the fam, you've got somethingbrewing.
Business-wise, right?
You want to talk about that alittle bit?
I do, yeah, you're not going totalk about it, you forget.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
I think I just downplay everything that's
happening in my life.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
Well, I'll play it for me, please.
This is your time to plug it.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
I've technically owned a personal training
business for a while now and Ihave recently opened up a studio
in the downtown of where I livein a building that is very
popular, so I really lucked outon location and it's been going
really well.
But I feel like I always setthis bar where I feel like I
(02:20):
never quite start because Ithink I'm not where I want to be
yet with it.
But it has been a very slow butalso exponential growth of
clientele and just meetingpeople in the community and
people just being verysupportive of having, I guess,
another personal trainer that isin the just in our area.
(02:42):
Our town got this A plus ratingapparently for health and
fitness awareness and I thinkit's cool that I can kind of
jump on that now and be a partof it.
So instead of trying to getclients to drive a half hour
away to different gyms that Iwas renting from, I can finally
provide the space myself andit's also just five minutes away
(03:05):
from my house, so commute iseasier, selling myself is easier
.
I have a place that people cancome though.
It's just been overall a great.
It's been a great experience.
It's just a little overwhelmingwith schedules and figuring
things out and, I guess, kind ofgetting to the point where we
may need daycare at this point.
But my mother also just retiredand she volunteered herself to
(03:30):
be that daycare a couple days aweek, so that's been another
part of that.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
I'm going to need you to go back and listen to our
childcare episodes, so you knowremind yourself with your mind.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
It's like it's already ingrained in my brain.
Speaker 1 (03:49):
Nice, we'll see how it goes.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
She's pretty good, she's pretty.
You know, she does what we ask,just with a little hard time,
but not too bad.
Sure, sure.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
So you can find Corey .
You can find Corey at SelfSufficient Fitness on Instagram.
Anywhere else, Just Instagram.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
The website is selfsufficientfitcom.
Okay, when I went for thatdomain it was taken, so I was
very upset 10 years ago.
So that was but yeah,selfsufficientfitcom.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
So if you're looking for a trainer in his area, check
out his Instagram or hiswebsite.
All right, that's enoughplugging out your business.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Tell us about tell us about what you did in terms of
family vacations this summer.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
So a few years ago we started going with my in-laws
on beach vacations and the firstcouple years were pretty rough.
It was.
It was a lot of I almost feltlike we were taking care of
everyone's kids and it was.
It was a lot of work.
And then, you know, we had ourson and he was like an infinite
time.
(04:58):
This year was kind of like alittle bit of a break.
Last year we got this horriblecondo and there was like a death
fan that wasn't working.
It was wobbling all over.
The floors were just covered inmuck and dirt.
There was hair and sand on allthe surfaces.
It was just never cleaned.
And there was a note.
(05:19):
There was a note in the condothat said the, the dishwasher.
I know about the dishwasher,it's going to be fixed, but
unfortunately it'll be fixedlike the day after you leave,
which I'm sure they just theyleft that note, over and over
that same note, was there allsummer, regardless of the tenant
.
So so we made sure not to go tothat condo this this year and we
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got this great spot and myin-laws were above us, so there
was some separation there and westill got to spend a lot of
time with them, but we reallymade it like our own vacation
and with my daughter talking andwalking and, you know, being a
part of all of the activitiesthis year was just really,
really fun.
It was a lot less pressure andboth my kids are obsessed with
(06:03):
the ocean and the beach andplaying, so it was just a really
.
It was just really fun.
It was a good.
It was a really good vacation.
So which beach do you go to?
We go to Sea Isle City.
It's just north of Cape May,yeah, so yeah, it's.
I mean, it's a little bit of a,a little bit of a hike, but we
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took two vehicles, which, let metell you, was great, because I
did feel bad for my wife,because she had to kind of be
the snack giver and, you know,break up fights the whole way
down, but I I just drove mytruck down by myself with all of
our stuff.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
So that was that?
Speaker 2 (06:40):
yeah, I don't know, that's rough, that's rough I
don't know how I got away withthat, but it was.
It was good it was nice.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
So, yeah, I don't know how you didn't have to take
one of the kids with you.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
You didn't take either kid, like you had no kids
to take.
You just had the stuff.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
You just had an enjoyable drive down to the
beach, so you just listened todad's gonna coffee and run the
entire time.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
That's what you did.
I should have listened to folkswho were the long it was, it
was it was fun.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
It was funny just being by myself.
And then when I got down thereyou know all chaos just just let
loose, but it was.
It was like a good two and ahalf hours.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
So two reactions to what you said.
One I hate being the mostresponsible parent and watching
other people's kids.
I've been in that situationwhere I feel like wait, why am I
surrounded by my kids and otherpeople's kids?
That's not fair.
So like someone else issomewhere else and I'm like what
is happening.
The other is we've done like abig house beach situation before
(07:36):
and they are always chaos.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Yeah, that's what we should.
That's what that's why we wentwith the condos.
It was rough doing the houselike three or four years ago.
Speaker 1 (07:46):
Sometimes a good chaos, but they're still chaos.
They're the best.
That's your favorite.
You like the chaos?
I?
Speaker 3 (07:51):
love, I love, yeah, I love like a big, like a if you
can get a big house with all thepeople and just like.
It's like we're going to livewith all of our favorite people
and friends and family and kids,and it's just going to be good
vibes.
Everyone's going to act up,including the kids and me, and
you know we're going to go tothe beach and just we're going
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to do it, but I'm definitely theone causing winding everybody
up, adults and children included.
Like getting underneath theadult skin.
I'm getting the kids all hypefor whatever the names are, it's
.
I'm the problem.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Our house situation was like was way too much.
So hats off to you, but I Icouldn't do it again.
There's no way.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
So, Bobby, how about you?
You also have something tocelebrate.
I'll go ahead and say it,because Bobby doesn't actually
talk about it that much, but yousurvived newborn phases while
finishing up your master'sprogram oh goodness yeah.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
I guess that.
I mean, that was a couple ofmonths ago.
But yeah, I had for the mostpart, only my.
It was my last semester.
For the most of it I was onsome form of paternity leave.
So the first four weeks I wasout, and then the middle six
weeks as well as balancing workplus being a new dad, plus grad
school and all of that, and thenthe last bit of it I had
(09:16):
planned to come back out onleave to wrap things up.
So I was on leave and could atleast focus on just being dad
during the day and then doingsome studying at night.
But it's been good, yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
How did you do that?
Like what time did you?
Do most of your studies Really,Because I can't even get CEUs
done for my certificationsbecause I don't know where and
you're over there just doing allthat times.
10.
Like when?
Speaker 3 (09:46):
I honestly, I mean that's to be fair.
When they're really young, theysleep a lot more.
I think I mean we were lucky,right, my daughter.
We were lucky, my daughterslept.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
I don't know yeah.
Speaker 3 (09:59):
I guess hats off to my wife.
She really helped me balance it, you know, cause obviously I
couldn't do both, so somebodyhad to be one on one with the
kid, with our daughter, at what?
And in order to allow me tohave that time to be able to
focus, right, yeah, I mean youfind time.
It's like anything else, right,like it sounds crazy until,
(10:20):
like, you're doing it and youjust make it work Like that's
like an hour here, two hourshere and half hour there, you
figure it out and it all worksout in the end somehow.
So but yeah, thank you Justin, Ihad no idea that you were even.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
You were like it's a couple of months ago.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
We've been like off for a couple of months, so like
it's natural You're like whatthe fuck If Faby were so like.
We're both like what did weaccomplish?
Oh right, okay cool.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
For anyone who thinks this show is scripted, like now
you know, because they werelike both caught off guard by
this whole situation.
But tell us about family first,that you got into this summer,
so this is the first summer withyour daughter Tell us about it.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
It is, and man is it exhausting, because every
weekend I feel like we are,we're weakened warriors, right,
we have somebody to go see somegrandparents, some family member
, some new activity to do, andyou plan the whole weekend or
that day around like sleepschedules and eating schedules
(11:26):
for them and trying not todisrupt her day.
Get it done.
You get home and then it's likeokay, somehow you accomplished
the activity great family outingbut now you're just back into
like all the other work at home.
So you know, when you left forthe day, like the house still,
like you have dishes in thething you were now looking at,
(11:47):
like hair on the floor from petsand you still have to like cook
dinner, clean dishes and dobedtime routine.
So it's exhausting, right, likeI like why do we do this?
Getting anxiety just listeningto all those things in the list
you get and I'm a naturally likean introvert, right.
So like I re-energized by likebeing by myself and like just
(12:09):
doing nothing, absolutely.
It's been a little bit of achange, but you had something
magical about having kids, Iguess you know like taking them
through and getting like seeingall those first experiences and
doing the family activities.
I like been able to find itre-energizing.
Even though it's exhausting,it's well worth it.
(12:30):
So some first we've gone toaquariums.
We've gone to is do a couple oftimes the Philly Zoo by us is
you get a seasonal pass.
It is well worth it pays for it.
Speaker 2 (12:41):
You have to do the season pass at the zoo.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
Yeah, it's awesome Basically like, would you like
to just go walk around the parkand see a ton of way more
interesting things?
And if you were just like in apark that had, like you know,
your municipal or township parkor something.
Right, we saw the ocean, we didlike a I wouldn't say a beach
(13:04):
day, but we set up a beachlocation.
We saw the water, we went intothe water, we packed up our
location and then we droveanother hour and a half home.
Ha, ha, ha ha.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Do you take like photos?
And videos during these outings, cause some people, like I find
, don't take a ton of picturesof their kids, like I forget
about sharing it to social media.
But just like I think I have40,000 photos from each trip I
take, like, do you take the big?
Things or you trying to liketake photos or like little
snippets of every part of theday?
Speaker 3 (13:40):
Like in that, in those stages, bigger things and
like probably you know, I guess,stuff that would be any.
Just I'm not taking a pictureof her, just like in her like
car seat I guess, while we'redriving and something.
But you know, we're seeingfamily again and she's only seen
them a few times that I'malways taking like a picture of.
Like this time I went to seethem.
(14:00):
But yeah, I definitely take alot of photos because I am not
good at taking photos.
So my strategy is just liketake a ton right there and then
let's choose the best one andI'll go back and delete them,
but then you never delete.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
So you end up with like, you end up like four
photos of the same shot thatyou're trying to take.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (14:18):
Right and you're like one of these will be the good
one and I'll take I'll get to itlater but then you just choose
the good one, you send it topeople and then you never go
back and delete.
So I'm just paying Apple tostore all these like oh yeah,
extra photos that are like theylook at it a bit hard to say.
Speaker 1 (14:34):
You know what I find interesting.
I feel like I in my house havethe 15 pictures that were taken
of me as a child between age oneand 10.
And there are like 50,000pictures of my kids between
those same ages that they canhave anytime they want to.
Speaker 3 (14:49):
I just feel like we're a different picture taken
generation that our parents wereI got real crazy thinking about
who I'm paying the cloud moniesto to like keep all these
random photos and I'm like I'mgonna download the photos by
like that years and put them ona USB and then just like put
them in a box and like it'd bethe equivalent of like how our
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parents just have like hugephoto albums that like those
like finders that took up allthat space.
I'm like that would be so muchbetter.
We don't even do it, like youknow.
I just like it would take upsuch a little amount of space to
put it on like little USBs.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
the plug in, just pay Apple $299 a month.
But I'm not, yeah, right,that's one of the for the rest
of my life until they decidethat it's more money, and then I
just they had another $10 amonth and another $10 a month.
Speaker 2 (15:33):
You didn't have the $10 a month.
Speaker 3 (15:37):
Oh yeah and then we've been to a couple.
We went to Baltimore, we saw anOrioles game, we went to a
Phillies game, their baseballfamily, those have been our big
like.
All of these have been, like Isaid, just a regular weekend or
like a long three day weekend.
We haven't done a full, likefour week long family vacation.
Yet it would be.
(15:58):
That would be a new adventurethat I think we're just like.
Will it be worth it to justlive somewhere else?
Speaker 1 (16:04):
But it's amazing to me that you take her to baseball
games Like I'm a grown man andI could not it threw a baseball
game without being like, oh yeah, get up and do something, yeah
we have.
Speaker 3 (16:18):
My wife is a huge Phillies fan and last year they
had the run through the WorldSeries and I've been watching it
more and more and I even put iton at night, Cause it's like,
it's almost like it's good forsomething to put on.
Yeah, kind of like put on tolike get us to like the next
step of the night, right To likedinner and then like the like
15 minutes between dinner andthen like going to like bedtime
(16:39):
or whatever.
So we've been following it justkind of casually, like as we're
parenting.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
And you're like in that sweet spot where where your
dog won't say like, change thischannel, because I will watch
this.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
I mean, she does like Miss Rachel a lot.
Speaker 3 (16:54):
She does.
Oh, that's true, that isproblematic, but it's funny
because, like I think, she likehas seen enough.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Have you guys seen that Miss Rachel is now with
Mika and Flippy?
We're not doing that.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
We only watched the Miss Rachel only episodes.
Oh, okay, I got you.
I got you the OG episodes.
But uh, yeah, I mean shewatches the baseball even at the
game, in real life.
Justin, to your point.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
That's amazing.
Speaker 3 (17:17):
That's crazy A little bit.
I mean only like a couple ofinnings and then we end up
walking around the stadium.
We definitely should have justbought like nosebleeds for 20
bucks.
And done that.
But the minute you saw thatwe've actually watched.
But she will sit on your lapand kind of like look down at
the diamond and ask who's onfirst.
Speaker 1 (17:35):
I'm going to get trashed in the comments for all
the baseball fans.
I just can't do it.
I just can't do it.
But you know what?
Me fair.
Speaker 3 (17:41):
No, it is off.
Hard sport, I think, to learnto like.
I mean, I only really got intoit the last couple of years.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
If you didn't play it , if you didn't play it too,
it's like a big.
They're trying to speed it up.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
It's clock right, Trying to speed it up.
So they're, they know, theyunderstand.
At least they understand theproduct now at the pitch.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
clock is like great for TV, great for TV.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
Yeah, all right.
And then for me, nothing tooexciting.
I mean, I didn't open a newstorefront or achieve academic
excellence of any time, but Idid throw my hat in the ring for
elected office, and no, youwill not see me on the next
presidential primary debatestage.
I won't be there, but you'll seemy name around for school board
(18:26):
in my local area.
So I'm running for the schoolboard in my town and I'm looking
forward to seeing how that goes.
I don't know, we'll see.
That's awesome.
I'll let you know laterNovember.
Look me up.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
No, did you get involved?
Oh sorry, Go ahead.
Speaker 1 (18:41):
No, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
I was going to say did you get involved from not
liking the way things were beinghandled, or you just wanted to
be a part of it?
Speaker 1 (18:49):
because you just wanted to be a part of it, so
yeah, people have asked me thatbefore like, what do you not
like?
And I'm like, first of all, ifI'm just going to get to my, get
on a Democratic soapbox for aminute, I believe all elections
should be contested.
I don't believe that anyelection anywhere should be
uncontested, so just throwingyour hat in the ring.
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Everyone should have options inthe Democratic process, so
that's why.
But I've served on boards inthe past and I just like the
feeling of giving back andserving.
So win or lose.
If I don't make the school board, there are other opportunities
to volunteer in the school and Iknow we're going to talk about
kids going back to school alittle bit later.
(19:30):
But my son starts kindergartenin the school district and so
it's like all right, I might aswell jump in and be involved and
do some stuff.
So that's that's.
That's what I did over thesummer.
I made that.
I went around my neighborhoodand got signatures on this
little petition that you have toget signed and like some of
them some of them were like yeah, I'll sign it, and they just
(19:51):
like moved on.
Others were like well, what areyou going to do?
Like, what do you think aboutchildren with?
Speaker 2 (19:55):
special needs.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
All right, this we're going to have this discussion
at your doorstep.
I appreciate it.
That's the thing I'm here forit.
Speaker 2 (20:03):
It's very real.
Speaker 1 (20:04):
Yeah, yeah, it was good.
Speaker 2 (20:06):
That's very cool because you, instead of having
to react to decisions being made, you can be a part of the
decisions being made.
Right, right?
Speaker 1 (20:14):
I like that.
So, and then vacation wise, wedid a few beach trips here and
there, but our big trip thisyear was we went to the UK.
We were there for two weeks.
So I think I've said onprevious episodes, my wife is
from the UK and still has familythere and we, prior to the
pandemic, would go every 12, 18months or so, but we had not
(20:37):
been since the pandemic.
So since you know, actuallybefore that probably 2018, 2019,
we hadn't gone, because 2020hit like at the end of our when
our 18 months would have been togo and then we hadn't been.
My wife's grandmother is 92 andso it was really important for
us to get there and give themsome time with the youngest two,
(21:01):
because this is the first timethat she met them face to face.
So that was great.
So we traveled across theAtlantic with three kids, five
and under.
It was chaos.
How does that work?
We survived.
We did it.
We survived.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
Did everybody else on the plane survive For the most
part.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
It's like we did fine For the most part.
Speaker 3 (21:23):
You knew where you were going, Like you've had all
this time right.
Speaker 1 (21:27):
Right.
Speaker 3 (21:27):
To prepare for three kids and three or five going on
the plane.
Everybody else on the plane didnot know that three kids and
their five would also be on theplane with them.
So I think we need to stop andthink about this, Listen.
Speaker 1 (21:41):
I pay my money and I sat in my seat, like everybody
else happens, happens.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
I love that I paid my money.
Speaker 3 (21:51):
I don't know why.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
I didn't know that's so funny.
I paid my money and my kids satdown and everyone else sat down
.
Speaker 3 (21:59):
We're all in a tube 30,000 feet in the air.
What are we going to do?
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Listen, if you don't have North Carolina headphones
on an international flight, likewhat are you doing with your
life?
So like I don't feel bad, Idon't feel bad.
So my hot take for tonight isactually one thing that my wife
said during the journey.
They're on the way there, wayback.
I can't remember, but I'll savethat for later.
But in terms of the actual trip, my in-laws were amazing, so we
(22:27):
stayed with them the majorityof our time and even got to
spend some like husband wifetime where we went to the spa
and got to see a show.
In Edinburgh, we went to themilitary tattoo.
Have you ever heard of themilitary tattoo?
Either one of you know yeahthat's what it's called.
Speaker 3 (22:45):
I thought so is a bar Right.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
So you're in the heart of Edinburgh, scotland,
and you're surrounded by, you'reat the castle, which is not a
castle where, like royalty lived, but it was a military barracks
.
So really it's called the RoyalEdinburgh Tattoo.
In the term tattoo in thiscontext or doesn't refer to like
body art, it goes back to aDutch word, tap toe, which
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signals the closing of tavernsand the sound of like the
evening bugle calling thesoldiers to return back to the
quarter.
So over the years it's evolvedinto a display of military
military bands from all over theworld come and they perform as
a show of like cultural heritage, artistic performance, like
General Milley was there and theUS Air Force was there and they
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did a musical number.
But it was really really cool.
It's like one of those thingswhere you put on your like 40,
well, we put on our 40 before 40list, so we checked that off
and it was really cool.
But overall, you know the kidsdid good.
You know we had some issueshere and there because they were
tired, because the jetlightthing is real, but it was.
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It was a good, a good vacationfor us.
I'm happy we did it.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
It's like my dream to go to Scotland.
Do it, man.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
Yeah, just do it, do it.
Speaker 2 (24:13):
We found out that my dad, so he was adopted when he
was here, and we found out thathe is very Irish and he grew up
and I know this is not anationality, but he grew up
Jewish and so we celebrate allthe holidays and he never knew
what he was and he kind ofsorted out.
After years and years oflooking, he gave up and then
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they wound up finding him and itturns out he's very Irish.
So we bought him and I knowwe're talking about Scotland,
but we bought him like a pieceof land in Ireland, so he's now
a I don't know what you call it.
There's like a name.
Speaker 1 (24:51):
They stole your money yeah.
Speaker 2 (24:55):
It's like he's like a lord or something.
Speaker 3 (24:57):
He's like a lord.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
But if you knew my dad, he went around for a week
saying my name is Lord Stephen.
Speaker 1 (25:08):
I love that for him.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
We got him this little plaque that says Lord
Stephen Boba, and the plot ofland is like five square feet.
Speaker 3 (25:18):
So wait, can I?
I think we did the same thingfor my mom actually, oh my
goodness, it's like when you geta star named after you.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
Wait, I was just going to say at one point in my
life.
I feel like a girlfriend boughtme a star and she was like this
what if it's the same star thatI got from my wife?
Probably Same star, it's allthe same.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Oh my God, it's really funny.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
So if you're listening right now and you've
done that, I'm sorry that wejust roasted you.
I apologize for that.
I'm like really.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
I definitely did it myself, so I can't even roast
anyone about it A star.
Speaker 1 (25:59):
I have a star.
We probably share a star.
That's great, that's fun.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
Absolutely, it's all the same thing, so that they can
keep discovering more.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
But now, as we think about summer ending and the
school bell starting to ring, Ithink we should talk about our
kids either starting daycare,starting school, new routine
coming out of the summer.
So let's talk about those firstdays.
Bobby, I'm going to start withyou this time.
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Your daughter is going todaycare.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
No, first time.
Speaker 1 (26:33):
I'm saying it.
Speaker 2 (26:35):
I'm saying it makes it real.
Speaker 1 (26:37):
The money, the check makes it real.
That's what makes it real.
Speaker 3 (26:40):
That makes it real real.
That makes it real real I paidfor my seat.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
Did you pay for her seat I?
Speaker 3 (26:48):
did.
I mean months ago, we recordedthe childcare episode and our
plan was for her to start in May.
And then we got closer to thatand we decided to really feel
right, move things around,figured out how to get to the
end of summer before we wouldend up putting her into, I guess
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, childcare or school.
They call it tuition because itcosts as much as the tuition.
Speaker 1 (27:17):
It does.
Speaker 3 (27:18):
So, yeah, she starts coming up this Wednesday.
There are forms that I probablyneed to fill out this weekend
and there's a to-do list of allthe things, not to forget the
pack.
And we've done the second andthird walk through and, you know
, I'm sure we will be moreprepared 24 hours from now and
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even five times more 48 hoursand before you know, it'll be
here and it will all go offwithout a hitch.
But, looking forward at it, weknow it's the best thing, but
it's still so hard, right To belike here are people that we
barely know.
We trust you with our child,Love her and care for her as
much as we do, while also doingthat for the other children in
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the room, which is a completelyunrealistic ask, Right?
So I think it's just knowingthat it's going to be a change.
It's going to be hard for allof us but, you know, through
difficult things everybody'sgoing to grow and we're going to
come out better for it.
And I think the hardest one isto think, like what I kind of
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said before, she's not going tobe like it's not going to be the
same level as like a familymember or that we would be able
to be able to like provide right.
But imagine if we didn't do it.
We go through this now.
We kind of go through theexperience earlier on in her
life, as she gets older, stillgoing to this school she's three
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, four.
They actually start thelearning part, like you know,
introducing things like thedesks and like kind of like a
school, more school routinebefore kindergarten.
And I think that will all payoff in the long run, because I
kind of had this flash forwardto what if we just kept her with
us which is be completely fineto do until she went to
kindergarten, right.
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And then she was dealing withthose feelings, plus
kindergarten, at the same timeof being with like it's kind of
like a stranger's care but, alsoit's not the same level of like
you're also learning things, sothat would be very difficult to
, so take it in pieces.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
So is this the crunchy place or the place by
your work?
The place by my work Is it fulldays.
Speaker 2 (29:27):
Is it full days or?
Speaker 3 (29:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:30):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (29:31):
She's going to go two days a week and that was my
next question.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
That's a good dip in the pool.
Speaker 3 (29:38):
Two days a week and then probably three, maybe
beginning of next year.
That's the way to do it Acouple months, like probably
we'll go to five, or maybe whenshe's like two years older.
It moves effort, whatever it is, but she turns 18, you'll let
her go five days, yeah.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
When she starts looking after the other children
Right.
Speaker 3 (30:00):
When they start paying her to watch the other
classes.
Speaker 1 (30:07):
So are you dropping her off together?
Speaker 3 (30:09):
or yeah, I think that's going to be the only way.
I probably need to put in likea half day of work off to do it,
because I think it's just goingto be an event.
You know, but I think it'sgoing to be really good and
because it's the short weekLabor Day, I guess, and she
would be going typically onMonday, Wednesdays, It'll also
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ease in.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
So she'll only have one day that week and then two
days and then like okay, so it'slike we have a, we have like a
one day like trial right, andthen get into the real routine
of going to be great as far asthe routine with like how the
rest of our life and day.
Speaker 3 (30:46):
Don't even ask like my wife is like able to operate
on that level where she's likealready thinking about the
impacts of like how it changesour morning routine with getting
up and ready and feeding herbreakfast and us to work and out
the door.
I can't comprehend that.
I'm just like we will figure itout when we get on that day.
So, man, that is what separates, I think, the moms from the
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dads.
They're able to like, think inlike at that level and I just
can't like not willing to justreact.
Speaker 2 (31:16):
We're willing to just react because we don't want to
do it right.
Speaker 1 (31:20):
I think women, not just moms, thinking 4D, like
they think about the thing it is.
I think we do not.
Speaker 3 (31:30):
We're like two dimensional goals.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
Two dimensional destination reactions.
Speaker 3 (31:36):
So, but yeah, I mean it's, it's going to be, it's
going to be exciting because I'mlooking forward to she from all
of our travels this summer thatI told you about.
Whenever we go do anything, atfirst you might be very quiet
and she's taking it all in andbeing observant, and then
afterwards, when we get home,she starts babbling and carrying
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on like a complete lunatic,like telling us about all the
things and what we did that dayis what it appears.
And she gets so energized bydoing those things that I'm
hoping she goes to school.
She sees all these children,all the other stuff going on and
it just wears her out and she'senergized by it and like I'm
telling myself, she's going tohave a great time, Corey what?
Speaker 1 (32:21):
what is?
What's the school plan for you,for your kids?
Speaker 2 (32:26):
So my son is in his second year of preschool and in
his preschool it's three or fouryear olds and four to five year
olds, so they're all in thesame class.
So he was very excited thisyear about being one of the
older kids in class and you know, to quote him now all the kids
will look up to me, so he's,he's like he's like excited to
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set an example and he had like agreat first day.
He was super.
He has new backpack, new waterbottle.
Speaker 1 (32:54):
So he already started .
Speaker 2 (32:58):
Yeah, which is crazy, because I started like after
Labor Day when I was younger andhe started on, I guess, the
30th, 31st, okay.
So he had like a light firstweek.
It was two days but he loved itand he was just excited to be
back.
He has the same teacher, he hasa couple of the same classmates
, but some of his friends wentto kindergarten so you know he
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misses them, but he's justreally excited to, to be one of
the older kids now.
And then with my daughter she,she's never been in daycare or
anything like that.
I think we're going to sign herup for a little gym, like we
did with my son years ago.
But she, for the first time,this took me, since like I've
always been the one who'sattached to them more than
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they're attached to me.
But my daughter, you know, Ikind of forced myself to take
them to the gym with me to justlike hang out in the playroom
there with whoever watches thekids.
And she, she was amazing.
She didn't even say bye to me.
She's like daddy toys put medown and she just went and
played and I had my work out andit was like wow, okay, so she
can handle these things and I'mjust the one with the issues,
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right, but it was good.
I mean they're both like youknow she'll be.
I mean she's almost two, but Ifeel like it's just flying.
So eventually she'll be in freeschool and oh, I don't know.
It's just very I just can'tbelieve how fast it goes, you
know yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (34:17):
Well, my little guy is going to kindergarten.
So he's been in the GoddardSchool for forever.
It feels like now.
So now he's getting out ofthere and going into
kindergarten.
So we had our open house onMonday, so we went and we met
his teacher and all that kind ofstuff.
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Every so often he's like excited, but every so often he's like
I'm really scared tokindergarten.
I think he's like in that justnormal state of like he's
excited but also nervous, likenot not sure what to expect, and
all that.
But yeah, when we went onMonday, there's a couple people
from his daycare that are alsogoing to school there in his
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class, and so he knew some ofthe kids and so I think that
really helped him kind of getpast the first apprehension.
And during the open house andall that kind of stuff, they
like were on the floor and theywere playing with each other,
and so I think that I thinkit'll be good.
I think it'll be good.
He's now this when I put him tobed tonight he's like so how
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many days until kindergarten?
And I'm like okay, not tomorrowand not the day after, but
Tuesday.
And he's like okay, okay, okay.
So he's like I got this manysleeps until right.
He's counting and he's countingdown.
So and then my middle child islike am I going to kindergarten?
We're like no, you're moving upclasses because they're all
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moving up.
You're right, you're moving up,but you're not going to
kindergarten.
He's like okay.
And he's like do I get anybackpacks?
And I'm like no, you don't getany backpacks, so you're going
to kindergarten.
He's a go, he's.
The second one is very, very,very to me.
He's very rational, he's verylike.
Matter of fact, my oldest isfar more emotional, so we're
just kind of working through theemotions of the, of the
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transition for him.
But I'm excited.
So my wife and I are bothtaking him to school on Tuesday
morning and then I'm going topick him up.
And then other days will havelike before and after care, but
this first day we're going totake him and we're going to pick
him up and we're going to makesure he feels special about the
day and all that kind of stuff.
So we're excited.
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That's awesome.
I can't believe I readkindergarten yeah.
Speaker 2 (36:26):
I, kindergarten is huge.
Yeah, such a big step.
Speaker 3 (36:29):
Do they have half day kindergarten, full day?
He's in full day.
Speaker 1 (36:33):
I think they might have half day but, he's in full
day, so he'll go 845 and two.
I think it's like three yo fiveor something like that, but
then he'll go into aftercareafter that.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
That always sounds like such a long day, but it's
just a normal.
You know, even us growing upthat's just a normal school day,
Like I had half daykindergarten, but after that it
was full day, everything and itwas never an issue for me.
It's like you enjoy beingaround your friends and learning
all this stuff.
Speaker 3 (36:56):
I think as the parents so weird, it's like are
they going to be okay without?
Speaker 2 (36:59):
us for this long.
It's like they're fine, theydon't care.
Yeah, I hope you're fine, it'llbe fine, it'll be good.
Speaker 1 (37:04):
All right, let's move into hot takes.
The thing we can't.
Uh-oh, I want to know youalways, I want to know I had
this.
Speaker 3 (37:15):
I had this because I have this thought.
Speaker 1 (37:17):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (37:18):
Go ahead.
Speaker 3 (37:19):
Because it's not.
It's like school related, butit's not really like our kids
school related.
But having been out of any typeof schooling for a decade, well
, I guess.
Speaker 1 (37:34):
I don't know.
We said it for three months.
Well, okay.
Speaker 3 (37:38):
Let me back up.
Not any type of school.
Having been having workingbeing in the workforce, I guess
is the best way to put it for 10, like over 10 years, I think.
At first I like summer used tobe like so exciting and I used
to like be a little bit of sadstill, or like when the school
year started.
And then you go through so manyyears and you no longer start
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really getting as excited forsummer because it's not like
you're getting the next threeplus months off.
You just kind of have acceptedthat.
Speaker 2 (38:09):
Just accept this through the year.
Speaker 3 (38:11):
You're that that no longer happens anymore.
But now I think I've come outon the other side where I am
just happy just knowing allthese little jerks are going
back to school, all the otherhypothetical children out there.
I'm just like they're all goingback to school and they're
going to hate it.
I'm just like, I'm just makesme happy thinking of these kids
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who, like, don't want to begoing back to school and their
summer is over.
It just like brings you alittle bit more joy, like, ah,
they're back in school.
Speaker 2 (38:39):
They got to go with you.
You got out of school and nowthe kids are in the enemy.
I know it's not so easy to know, but it does.
Speaker 3 (38:44):
He's so happy, just like that thought of being like
ah, they're not just sitting ontheir butts, just doing nothing
I don't know.
They got to go to work too.
I guess, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (38:56):
Until you had one year of a turn.
Speaker 2 (38:58):
It did.
This is a hot take.
This is a hot take.
Speaker 3 (39:01):
It's not for my daughter to go to school.
Let me try to thread thisneedle.
Speaker 1 (39:06):
It's not for my daughter.
This is a hot take, but it isvery upset.
Speaker 3 (39:10):
It's very happy to me that I think about, like all
the other kids across thecountry that now have to learn
things and not just do nothingalso anymore Like to schedule
the bitterness that I hear?
Yeah, it's neither of you likehave that at all.
Speaker 1 (39:31):
No, I don't, I don't think so.
No, that's, I think you have tomake that your hot take.
Speaker 2 (39:36):
I think I thought you're what I thought you were
going to go with the situation.
Speaker 1 (39:39):
I thought you were going to be like, oh, like
summer's not exciting anymorebecause, like you don't get a
summer off from like work, soit's different.
And I was like, oh, yeah,you're right, right, and I was
going to like co-sign that and Iwas going to be there.
But then you took this turn oflike those little brats.
Speaker 3 (39:54):
Heating these children for enjoying their
summer.
I like I'm just yeah, it's likethis little, I can't help it.
Like there used to be this,like one commercial when I was
growing up, where they wouldplay it's the most wonderful
time of the year Christian songwith back to school clothes, or
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back to stuff.
And I fully feel like best timeof the year.
Just I feel that now.
Speaker 2 (40:23):
I don't like the kids going back to school because of
all the traffic.
I don't care.
Yeah, that's my only qualm.
Speaker 3 (40:30):
I'm willing to have the inconvenience and know that
they're also like the rest oftheir time they're like they're
getting lectured.
Speaker 1 (40:42):
Oh my goodness, oh my goodness, that's right.
All right, we're actually goingto move into hot takes, but I'm
thinking about parenting.
Speaker 2 (40:49):
Here, let me give you mine.
Speaker 1 (40:50):
Let me give you mine.
You're going to jump in.
All right, tell me what yourhot take is.
Now I'm going to go next.
Speaker 2 (40:53):
I'm going to jump in because my battery is low.
Speaker 1 (40:56):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (40:57):
All right.
So my hot take is to let yourkids use profanity as long as
it's in context.
Oh, that is a hot thing.
So not like, not to let themlike, don't encourage it, you
know, because they have schooland they can get in trouble for
these things.
But I think, like yelling atyour kid for using profanity is
crazy, because I mean, I useprofanity a lot without
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realizing it and it's mostly incontext.
But you know you step to toe,you dropped on the floor, you
know you let some stuff fly.
The other night my son likedropped a toy in his bedroom and
you know we tried to be quietbecause my daughter's sleeping
and he just you know.
Just matter of fact, he justgoes shit.
Speaker 3 (41:40):
I was like Lucas.
Where did that come from?
Speaker 2 (41:42):
And he's like I'm just upset that I dropped away.
I'm like okay, well, yeah,that's in context, that makes
sense.
I'm like it's okay to use that.
But I said you know how wedon't say hey to each other,
like it's just like a rude wayof saying excuse me.
He's like, yeah, I'm likethat's kind of like the rude way
of saying oh man, or somethinglike that.
Plus, if you say it in schoolyou might get in trouble for it.
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So, you know, try not to say it.
But I did understand what hewas coming from because, you
know, I just think to yell youknow, to yell kids for something
that we do ourselves is alittle unfair.
Speaker 1 (42:14):
Can I just tell you my takeaway of this is that your
child is going to go to schoolthinking, hey, it is bad as it's
just an easy comparison for me.
Speaker 2 (42:22):
It was just an easy.
You know how people say likehey is for horses.
You know it's like we don'tlike yell hey at each other.
It's like hey, you say excuseme.
Speaker 1 (42:29):
I just have never put hey on a list of profanity, and
you did to no.
Speaker 2 (42:32):
No, no, it's not in the list, I hear I hear it to
the way I process the over the
Speaker 3 (42:37):
snow.
Speaker 2 (42:37):
No, no, no, that's not.
I think that's awesome.
Speaker 3 (42:39):
So you're saying, as long as they're able to swear
responsibly, you're okay with it, if it's in context and they're
not doing it at school.
Speaker 2 (42:49):
If it slips.
If it slips and it's in contextyeah like if it slips and it's
in context, I think it's okay.
Like if they do it by accidentyou know, that's okay.
I think I'm not going to giveanybody time out or punch
anybody for using a curse wordwhen they yeah.
Speaker 3 (43:03):
I don't know If it made sense, they understand it
you know, it's okay.
Speaker 1 (43:09):
We actually don't react to.
We've had a couple of childslips of profanity and we just
don't react.
And then they just are likeokay, well, apparently that
didn't land and they move on toother things in the trip Like
they thought they'd go flat thatdidn't land.
Speaker 2 (43:25):
They're like next time, next time you use the F
word, you gotta use the F word.
Speaker 1 (43:30):
Well, no what?
My middle child.
He came home one day and he'slike singing it.
He's like singing the F wordand I'm like where did?
This like I was, like my wife,I was like where did this come
from?
And we're like you've beenpretty good.
So then fast forward a coupleof more days.
My wife goes to a mom's outingor whatever, and they're all
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talking about it.
They're talking about theirkids coming home saying the F
word, and apparently one childcame and started saying the F
word, and then there, was achorus all the three year olds
saying the F word in song insong.
Speaker 2 (44:05):
It's amazing.
Speaker 1 (44:07):
So they, it's like you have to laugh at that.
So she gave him.
When she told me she's likethis is why he was saying it, I
was like, okay, good, becausethat was not me, Like I was not
taking the blame for that one.
But you're saying as long asit's in contact, that's fine.
Speaker 3 (44:21):
Good, yeah, yeah, now , okay.
So now, what Corey?
You have this take Now I wantyou to place yourself, that
you're going to you're.
This take now leads you tobecome the parent and your kid
goes to school and startssinging the F word and getting
everybody else to go homesinging the F word.
Are you standing by your date?
Speaker 2 (44:42):
No, no, oh, like with my take, yeah, I would probably
just, I would probably justlaugh it off, I would reaffirm
what I said now.
But to his teachers, like whatare you going to do?
You know?
Kids say you know the darnestthings, quote, unquote.
So what can you do?
Speaker 1 (44:56):
My goodness.
Speaker 2 (44:57):
My goodness, I mean I would encourage him not to say
these things.
Speaker 1 (45:00):
I'm not saying yeah, say whatever you want that's.
Speaker 2 (45:03):
that's a whole other story.
I'm just saying I'm not goingto like, react or like or or
punish him for using profanityin context.
Speaker 1 (45:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (45:12):
If he starts saying it because he knows he shouldn't
, you know then?
And then it's like okay, you,you can't be saying these things
, you know He'd be like oh yeah,this is wrong, yeah.
Speaker 1 (45:21):
That's why we don't react, because they would.
They would be like, oh right,right, and that arrives out of
them.
But so my hot take is notparenting related.
What is the opposite of fire?
Speaker 2 (45:32):
Water oh, I've heard this Not fire.
Speaker 1 (45:35):
Exactly which is it?
Is it water or not?
Speaker 2 (45:39):
fire.
It's both I would naturally.
I want to.
Naturally I would say water,but I've heard this and it's
like not fire is the opposite offire.
Speaker 3 (45:49):
Like no fire.
Oh, it's definitely, it'sdefinitely water why?
Speaker 1 (45:53):
the definitely water, though, like why is it?
Without a doubt more Because Idon't even it could be a fire
extinguisher?
Speaker 3 (46:00):
No, I think that thing's just water.
Speaker 1 (46:03):
No justification, it's just.
Speaker 2 (46:05):
I said what I said.
I don't know.
I feel like the opposite ofhaving fire would be having no
fire.
Speaker 3 (46:10):
There's right, you have the four elements Earth,
wind, air and fire.
Speaker 2 (46:15):
So is earth and wind Air and earth are opposites.
Speaker 3 (46:19):
Water and fire are opposites.
Speaker 2 (46:21):
Now, that's a hot take at stuff.
Speaker 1 (46:23):
This is like Captain Planet type logic.
Speaker 3 (46:27):
It just makes sense.
Everybody knows it's water it's.
If you're saying anything otherthan water, you're over there.
Speaker 2 (46:33):
All right, let me give this what's the opposite of
water Fire.
Say fire.
Speaker 3 (46:40):
If one is opposite.
Yes, that's how opposites work,no, but if we didn't start,
with fire would you have saidfire as the opposite of water.
That is how opposites work foryou, no you wouldn't have, you
would have said like.
Speaker 2 (46:53):
you would have said land or something like that.
If we started with water, if Isaid what's the opposite of
water?
Speaker 3 (46:59):
you would have absolutely said land.
Speaker 2 (47:04):
You would have said land to the opposite of water.
But, because we talked aboutfire first, because we said fire
, you're saying fire is theopposite.
Speaker 1 (47:14):
The best part of what just happened in the last 35
seconds is that Corey was like.
I got you.
Speaker 2 (47:19):
It's true, though, if someone said what's the
opposite of water, I'd be likeoh, I don't know land, I
wouldn't say fire.
But if someone said what's theopposite of fire, I would have
absolutely said water.
But given the joke, I woulddefinitely say the opposite of
fire is no fire.
Speaker 3 (47:32):
I mean, you do bring up a good point, like it Rock
paper, scissors type, like theycould be in a balance like that,
which I hadn't considered.
Speaker 2 (47:42):
So I have to rework.
Speaker 3 (47:43):
I have a whole In my not in this background, but in
my other room.
I have like strings and yarnand like a whole.
I'm trying to figure it out,but I could probably.
Speaker 2 (47:54):
It's a Venn diagram of opposites, yeah.
Speaker 1 (47:57):
So wait, should we just take the rock paper,
scissors example?
So the opposite of scissorspaper.
Speaker 3 (48:02):
Yeah, that one is circular.
So then it.
How would you do that with?
Speaker 2 (48:06):
the, but then the opposite of paper would have to
be, would have to be no paper.
We are.
Speaker 1 (48:13):
Oh, that's the opposite of paper.
No big ferricky, no paper.
All right we are, we've got togo.
Speaker 2 (48:21):
We've got to go.
Speaker 1 (48:21):
We've got to head that because we could keep going
in this circular opposite.
Speaker 2 (48:26):
I really hope the quality of my microphone was
okay for this, because I reallyenjoyed this one.
Speaker 3 (48:30):
Yeah, this was preseason for all of us.
Speaker 1 (48:34):
I know, but that's all the time we have for today's
episode of dads getting coffee.
This was great.
It was nice unpacking back toschool at our summer vacations.
But another relevant andimportant topic on this journey
called fatherhood.
And to all the parents oraspiring parents out there, or
those you know, aunts and unclesthat don't want kids and you're
(48:55):
just going to be the rich auntand uncle, I love you too.
I applaud you for that.
Thanks for listening.
We hope you enjoyed ourconversation.
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(49:15):
I'll get back to it.
I promise I haven't got to beposting too much on it, but what
?
Speaker 2 (49:20):
let us know what the opposite of fire is.
Speaker 1 (49:21):
while you're there, Let us know what the opposite of
fire is fire or water or notfire.
You can find us on dads gettingcoffee podcasts on Instagram.
We love hearing from you.
Don't hesitate to reach out.
Thanks again for tuning in.
We'll be back in a couple ofweeks.
I don't know if we've decidedif it's going to be weekly or
bi-weekly, but we'll figure thatout for another episode of dads
getting coffee podcasts.
(49:43):
Until then, keep on, bro, andkeep on dad, and remember being
a dad is easy, but it's worth it.
Speaker 2 (49:49):
It's been fun.
Nice Thanks guys.
That was a good one, that wasfun.
Speaker 1 (49:55):
Dad's getting coffee.
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