July 16, 2025 • 24 mins
Casual hookups to co-parents living under one roof.
"We're cut from different cloths," Daniel explains early in their conversation, setting the stage for a revealing look at how two people with dramatically different backgrounds navigate their relationship. Bernadette, a highly educated University of Richmond graduate who chose unconventional paths like working on goat farms over corporate careers, contrasts sharply with Daniel, who candidly discusses his struggles with addiction and having "never had anybody to rely on."
The couple doesn't shy away from difficult topics. They discuss how Bernadette initially ended their relationship due to Daniel's drinking problems, his jealousy when she began dating others, and his gambling losses that impacted their financial stability. Yet through these challenges emerges a portrait of genuine commitment, with Daniel expressing profound gratitude for Bernadette standing by him through a tumultuous 2024.
What makes this conversation particularly compelling is their honesty about prioritizing their relationship even while raising their son. They share their philosophy of putting God first, then each other, and then their child – a perspective that challenges common assumptions about parenting. Despite financial setbacks and uncertain future plans, they maintain perspective about having "everything we need."
Listen in as this couple demonstrates that meaningful relationships don't necessarily follow traditional paths, but rather evolve through mutual respect, honest communication, and a willingness to grow together through life's challenges. Whether you're navigating your own unconventional relationship or simply curious about different approaches to modern family life, their story offers valuable insights about love & life in all its complicated glory.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Alright, we're back with the Daily American, and
right here I have with me thebeautiful Bernadette Murray.
Hey, bernadette, welcome to theshow.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Thanks for having me on, Daniel.
It's an honor.
It's an honor.
I've been begging you to haveme on for years.
Finally, just now.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Will you speak up a bit for the audience.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Stop being so monotone.
I said I've been begging you tohave me on for years.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Oh, right, we talked about yelling in front of the
baby earlier.
So this is my son's mother andwe live together.
So this is my son's mother andwe live together and we do
things non-traditionally in thesense of parenting and marriage
(00:54):
and living together and whatelse.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I mean we're not that untraditional, but to some we
are Mm-hmm, cooking, cookingcooking but anyway, let's start
off with you and your lifegrowing up tons of trauma,
(01:18):
turmoil and dysfunction.
No it wasn't Not really.
It was very typical middleclass suburban lifestyle.
I have one older sister, so Iwas the youngest, and my parents
got married late.
(01:39):
They were in their 40s.
Well, yeah, my mom was 40 whenshe had me and um.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
That's particularly old for back then, yeah, but
nowadays I feel like 40 isn'treally, is it, or it is?
Speaker 2 (01:59):
It's definitely more common nowadays, and it was late
back then in the 80s.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
I guess we come from.
Bernadette and I are cut fromdifferent cloths in pretty much
the sense of everything, but weare doing our best to to put our
son, you know, first and I maybe speaking ahead of term with
this one, but God first, andthen each other and then our son
(02:38):
.
But Bernadette doesn't get thatyet.
But we're not married, so Idon't have a claim.
I don't have a claim, I don'thave a claim to that at this
point.
However we have, we'redifferent, definitely cut from
different cloths okay.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
I agree with you that we should put each other, our
relationship, before the babyand after God.
But it's like a daily practicebecause it's hard when the baby
is so demanding to, it's hard tobalance.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Yeah, it definitely is, and you watch the baby and
take care of him much more thanI.
But you know you really do do afantastic job and if we ever
end up in court, this cannot beused against me.
It can't be used.
(03:44):
No, I don't think that's goingto happen, but do you want to
tell them about the pregnancyjourney?
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Uh, yeah, I guess so.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Well.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
I'm pretty sure he was conceived in like a
snowstorm out in the woods, wow.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
There's only two options.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Bernadette disagrees, but hopefully Mr and Mrs Cody
are not listening to this.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Or anyone else I know , or anybody else I know, or
anybody else.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I mean, it's like, whatever we can, we, we have,
we've, we have sex and we try tokeep it healthy and not, you
know, not like strictly pleasure, like there's more to it, right
.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Right, yeah, it's not love yeah, so.
So we were at, we were nottogether.
We were hooking up casuallyBecause from my side of the
story I just didn't think itwould be a good idea to pursue
(05:19):
things with you any further.
But that was hard, you know, Idid like you a lot so I didn't
clearly didn't cut ties fully.
So we were still hooking up andyou you know, from my
perspective you kept sayingthings like oh, can we just get
(05:42):
you pregnant already?
Like I just felt like youreally wanted to be with me, so
if I got pregnant, like itwouldn't be that bad because you
wanted.
That's what you wanted?
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Yeah, agreed, I wanted a child.
I wanted a child with a goodwoman.
A child, I wanted a child witha good woman, and I feel like in
(06:19):
the past it was the opposite,but Bernadette absolutely wanted
a child and kept track of hercycle and days up until the very
second, so she knew what washappening.
But yeah and yeah, and I wasokay with it and I still am till
this day.
I don't regret I said this onthe previous podcast.
It's like I don't regretdecisions that I've made in the
(06:41):
past.
Some of them have been wrong,but this certainly wasn't.
I mean, I would do it againright now.
So sorry, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Yeah, I guess I just I feel like before the time I
got pregnant, there had been acouple times where it was like a
close call and I knew thetiming, you know, and I hadn't
gotten pregnant.
So I just kind of felt like itwasn't eh whatever it wasn't
(07:15):
going to happen, like I didn't,I wasn't that worried about it.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
I thought it would take a lot like more conscious
effort.
Yeah, god had a different plan,but yeah, I guess, in the sense
of when I mean like I wouldcome from different cloths, like
bernadette the reason why weweren't together from my
perspective well, from herperspective, it's because I'm an
addict, like an alcoholic, anaddict, you name it, that's just
(07:48):
.
I am who I am.
That's a very that connotationgets, is that the word?
That word gets tossed aroundand it's like, oh, my god, he's
blah, blah, blah.
And then people automaticallystart thinking, oh well, he's
probably a liar, he steals andhe cheats people, and this, that
(08:08):
and the third, that's fuckingbullshit.
Um, because there are, like youknow, alcoholics and
gamboholics that have integrity.
So, anyhow, I think Idemonstrated that to Bern, but
bottom line is, that's why shedidn't want to be with me.
I was drinking too much, andwhen I drink too much, I become
(08:31):
like a different person andthat's plain as day.
So that's why she didn't wantto be with me.
However, from my perspective,that's her perspective.
Do you want to explain myperspective?
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Your perspective, yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
I'll explain it.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
You were just hurt and mad that I ended it Okay.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Yeah, so we were hooking up for a while and then
finally I'm like, all right,let's do this.
And bottom line is there were acouple you know lies that I
couldn't get past this, that andthe third, but I still did it
(09:20):
and we were together.
We were together for a wholetwo weeks actually dating as a
couple, and they were a fun twoweeks, but it ended super quick
and you know I hadn't been in arelationship, a serious
relationship.
I've only been in one seriousone other serious relationship
in my entire life.
(09:40):
And you know she would probablysay the same and you know
anyhow relationships aren't easy.
But where am I going with this?
Yeah, so she breaks up with mebecause I'm drinking too much.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
I mean, yeah, it was like one very what did I do,
yeah?
You were just like very mean,drunk, very drunk, very mean,
and I was just very upset.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
I, I mean in much respect, uh, yeah, I don't know
this led to my like, after shebroke up with me, again
perception's everything right,like there's always two sides to
a story, so I'm not refutinganything that she says.
I, you know, we don't live inthe past.
(10:34):
Um, other people do,unfortunately.
But the bottom, the bottom lineis is, you know, I wasn't what
she was looking for at the time.
She breaks up with me and I golike I was super hammered, like
very drunk and I thought shebroke up with me.
(10:54):
I thought it was coming and Ikept telling her she like I knew
it was coming and then she didit at like the wrong time.
Like apparently I was likedrunk, talking with her mom and
like not about anything bad oranything, we were just talking
and I was drunk and she wasembarrassed and she started
crying at her house and then off, you know, her mother flipped
(11:15):
the switch on me and we left.
She breaks up with me.
I like lose it on social medialike a immature, like
seven-year-old, with my innerchild coming out and said like
super stupid, mean and untruethings in which I deleted the
the very next day.
(11:36):
But the bottom line is that wasthat, was it for her and I for
for a couple days, but I wassuper hurt too.
Huh, yeah, that was it for acouple days, but I thought it
was it like I, I blocked her.
I didn't because she hurt.
Like you know, I have feelings.
I didn't know I had feelingslike that, but I guess you know
(11:58):
you do, um, and I felt them, soI blocked her and I let my
hangover heal and you know shecame over and you know,
obviously I unblocked her and wecontinued hanging out.
Now, fast forward a few months.
Bernadette, super intelligentwoman, you know, graduated from
(12:26):
University of Richmond.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
Richmond, yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
Richmond, richmond and Virginia Aren't they the
spiders or something?
Yeah, super smart.
Doesn't follow the norms, whichI respect completely the norms
in regards to like what societyDeems from her society.
(12:50):
Slash her parents, um.
So she would like, aftercollege, run off to like a goat
farm and like milk goats for,like I don't know a year and
live there and don't and notmake any money and just like, do
untraditional things instead ofwhat you know the world wants
(13:12):
of her being a smart, beautifulyoung lady.
Go get a job at one of thesecompanies, um.
But no, she doesn't want thatand that's cool like shit.
I respect it more than anything.
I tend to live like that, butit's a little bit more difficult
.
I don't have anybody to rely on, nor have I.
(13:39):
Since I was ever, probably I'venever had anybody to rely on.
Now she's lived with herparents her entire life besides
college, so oh yeah, that's nottrue.
I'm sorry a few so a few yearsokay, yeah, the goat farm oh,
(14:00):
yeah, I forgot about thatKripalu.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Kripala.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
Kripalu, kripalu, that's a thing when I
mispronounce words around her orher family members.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
I get looked down upon.
Well, I just wanted to correctit.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
I know, I know, so I think that.
So you know besides thoselittle stints at those remote
locations doing abnormal butsuper cool things that I think
she lived with her parents.
So we're still hanging outafter our breakup consistently
(14:43):
and we're like together everyday.
Almost we can't separate forsome reason.
And she wants to get her ownapartment.
Meanwhile, like I'm helping herwith her small business that
she had and I'm like all in onthis girl, but I keep telling
her Bernadette, as soon as youget your own apartment, you're
(15:05):
going to have some freedom andyou're not going to want to be
with me and like consistently Iwould tell her that and I just
felt it, my intuition told methat I move her into her new
apartment and not even like howlong after 72 hours six weeks
(15:30):
six, okay.
So like six weeks Bernadettewent to date and that like
really, that really upset me.
But what do I'm gonna do?
I'm gonna try to be slick andplay, like the long game.
And, you know, let her do herthing, because I knew it was
coming.
Anyway.
She goes on one date.
It sucks.
She calls me up, we hang out,we have a great night and then,
(15:55):
like a week later, I thoughtthat would have been it.
A week later, bernadette goes onanother date and I'm like, oh
my gosh, this girl, like she'skilling me, this girl like she's
killing me.
But whatever, I'll be slick,I'll play the long game.
And then she wants to go onanother date with the guy, the
(16:17):
second, the second guy.
She wanted to date him again.
And I'm just like, are youfucking kidding me?
And like I started like losingmy mind, like I was so upset,
pissed, I like showed up at herapartment unbeknownst to her and
like knocked on the door, justbecause, like I was pissed, like
(16:38):
I didn't want her datinganybody else, but at the same
time, you know, I was just angry, jealous and Angry and jealous,
pretty much Anyhow.
What happened with that?
Speaker 2 (16:56):
guy.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
Just turned out to be a douche.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
No, he wasn't a douche, I just wasn't.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
It was like, okay, but nothing, didn't want to keep
doing it, yeah, but she wassuper sick one day because she
partied all night with him and Icame over and I took care of
her and from there on right, youdidn't date anybody else, did
(17:25):
you?
No more dates for Bernadette,thankfully.
That's my last date ever,hopefully, and now we have this
little guy sleeping in the back.
Life's extremely difficult, butit's only because we make it
difficult.
We have a very good life.
(17:47):
It difficult, we have a verygood life.
But I and my own worst enemyand and burned it is her own
worst enemy, you know, ondifferent levels obviously, with
different struggles.
You know she's well aware that Iblew three-quarters of a
million dollars last year.
I feel like a total piece ofshit about it almost every day,
(18:10):
but I'm not doing that againbecause I banned myself forever
from gambling.
So you know, just like stufflike that, like like I, you know
we could be living not in anapartment and you know, trying
to have more children and andand and doing a little bit
better with our lives.
(18:31):
But you know, some, somebusiness, um issues with myself,
a couple of different things,and you know I, I'm responsible
for exactly where my family's atright now and we have nothing
and I'm gonna change that andwe're gonna change that.
(18:51):
So you know, I know maybesomeone social media we may seem
to have it all, but we do andin reality.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
I know I shouldn't say nothing yeah, we have
everything we need.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
We have everything we need.
You know, as you guys know, forthe past couple months I've
just strictly been focused onwork and bringing as much
business into Riley sales, whichis HVAC distributor, as
possible and that's what I'vebeen doing.
You know, it's just life's goodand you know, shout out Mike
(19:32):
Riley, he's a good dude.
Bernadette hasn't met him yet,but everybody at Riley's they're
good people.
I grew up with some of them inCunchahokan and it's time to
just, you know, make that placego boom with as much humility as
possible.
Go boom with as much humilityas possible While Bernadette
(19:58):
takes care of our young one andwe try to navigate through life.
But this woman's extremelysmart.
Guys, I know she's verysoft-spoken, but she's like the
smartest woman ever.
So you guys will hear like sheknows what she's doing and she's
doing Like and she's gotmagical powers.
She don't.
She's got me completelycontrolled and and and mind
(20:24):
controlled and manipulated.
So I don't.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
No, I don't.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
Well, you guys, stay tuned for next, next week's
episode.
Maybe she'll be on.
Obviously, the world's fallingapart, but I'm sick of the
negativity.
I stayed away from news for awhile and it's just like it's
always something, man.
But then you think you knowthere's innocent men, women and
(20:50):
children dying around the worldbecause of money is what it
comes down to.
If you follow the money, youfollow the culprits to the death
and destruction that'soccurring around the world.
That's what it always comesdown to.
(21:11):
There's motives behind thosethat are pulling the strings and
it fucking sucks because, onour end, all they want to do is
cause divide.
If you go on social media,you'll see nothing besides.
You know debates of politicalnonsense from a bunch of you
know war mongering.
You know individuals thatthat's what they like to do, but
(21:33):
it's not changing anything.
It's just causing divide.
But that's what the those inpower want.
They want divide, they wantdisputes.
They don't want us loving ourneighbors, they don't want us
coming together, and you knowit's we got to do something
about.
But with that being said, Ireally don't like podcasting and
(21:56):
I have like the hottest I meanmost beautiful woman ever and a
beautiful kid, and I do likemaking money to to provide.
So you know, I consider quittingand not podcasting on a
consistent basis, but I alsofeel like it's kind of like the
easy way out, because it's notthat difficult to release an
(22:18):
episode, especially if if it'sabout something that that
somebody can learn somethingfrom.
So I've been to more most uh,too, uh, too many bottoms in my
life and and it's time to it's,it's time to climb up.
And and this woman stuck by myside through one of the most
difficult years of my life, andyou know, whether we get married
(22:40):
or have 10 kids, or if Xavier'sit and we co-parent, no matter
what happens, I'm going to loveher until the day I die, because
I've lost a lot and she knowsmy character, she knows who I am
, because I don't hide thingsfrom her, and it seems like
(23:03):
she's here forever with me, aslong as God allows us to be here
.
So, anyway, that's it.
I love you, bernadette.
Do you have anything to say?
I love you.
Bye-bye, bye-bye, see you guys.
Alright, we're back with the Daily American, and
right here I have with me thebeautiful Bernadette Murray.
Hey, bernadette, welcome to theshow.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Thanks for having me on, Daniel.
It's an honor.
It's an honor.
I've been begging you to haveme on for years.
Finally, just now.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
Will you speak up a bit for the audience.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Stop being so monotone.
I said I've been begging you tohave me on for years.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
Oh, right, we talked about yelling in front of the
baby earlier.
So this is my son's mother andwe live together.
So this is my son's mother andwe live together and we do
things non-traditionally in thesense of parenting and marriage
(00:54):
and living together and whatelse.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I mean we're not that untraditional, but to some we
are Mm-hmm, cooking, cookingcooking but anyway, let's start
off with you and your lifegrowing up tons of trauma,
(01:18):
turmoil and dysfunction.
No it wasn't Not really.
It was very typical middleclass suburban lifestyle.
I have one older sister, so Iwas the youngest, and my parents
got married late.
(01:39):
They were in their 40s.
Well, yeah, my mom was 40 whenshe had me and um.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
That's particularly old for back then, yeah, but
nowadays I feel like 40 isn'treally, is it, or it is?
Speaker 2 (01:59):
It's definitely more common nowadays, and it was late
back then in the 80s.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
I guess we come from.
Bernadette and I are cut fromdifferent cloths in pretty much
the sense of everything, but weare doing our best to to put our
son, you know, first and I maybe speaking ahead of term with
this one, but God first, andthen each other and then our son
(02:38):
.
But Bernadette doesn't get thatyet.
But we're not married, so Idon't have a claim.
I don't have a claim, I don'thave a claim to that at this
point.
However we have, we'redifferent, definitely cut from
different cloths okay.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
I agree with you that we should put each other, our
relationship, before the babyand after God.
But it's like a daily practicebecause it's hard when the baby
is so demanding to, it's hard tobalance.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Yeah, it definitely is, and you watch the baby and
take care of him much more thanI.
But you know you really do do afantastic job and if we ever
end up in court, this cannot beused against me.
It can't be used.
(03:44):
No, I don't think that's goingto happen, but do you want to
tell them about the pregnancyjourney?
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Uh, yeah, I guess so.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Well.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
I'm pretty sure he was conceived in like a
snowstorm out in the woods, wow.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
There's only two options.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Bernadette disagrees, but hopefully Mr and Mrs Cody
are not listening to this.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Or anyone else I know , or anybody else I know, or
anybody else.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
I mean, it's like, whatever we can, we, we have,
we've, we have sex and we try tokeep it healthy and not, you
know, not like strictly pleasure, like there's more to it, right
.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Right, yeah, it's not love yeah, so.
So we were at, we were nottogether.
We were hooking up casuallyBecause from my side of the
story I just didn't think itwould be a good idea to pursue
(05:19):
things with you any further.
But that was hard, you know, Idid like you a lot so I didn't
clearly didn't cut ties fully.
So we were still hooking up andyou you know, from my
perspective you kept sayingthings like oh, can we just get
(05:42):
you pregnant already?
Like I just felt like youreally wanted to be with me, so
if I got pregnant, like itwouldn't be that bad because you
wanted.
That's what you wanted?
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Yeah, agreed, I wanted a child.
I wanted a child with a goodwoman.
A child, I wanted a child witha good woman, and I feel like in
(06:19):
the past it was the opposite,but Bernadette absolutely wanted
a child and kept track of hercycle and days up until the very
second, so she knew what washappening.
But yeah and yeah, and I wasokay with it and I still am till
this day.
I don't regret I said this onthe previous podcast.
It's like I don't regretdecisions that I've made in the
(06:41):
past.
Some of them have been wrong,but this certainly wasn't.
I mean, I would do it againright now.
So sorry, go ahead.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Yeah, I guess I just I feel like before the time I
got pregnant, there had been acouple times where it was like a
close call and I knew thetiming, you know, and I hadn't
gotten pregnant.
So I just kind of felt like itwasn't eh whatever it wasn't
(07:15):
going to happen, like I didn't,I wasn't that worried about it.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
I thought it would take a lot like more conscious
effort.
Yeah, god had a different plan,but yeah, I guess, in the sense
of when I mean like I wouldcome from different cloths, like
bernadette the reason why weweren't together from my
perspective well, from herperspective, it's because I'm an
addict, like an alcoholic, anaddict, you name it, that's just
(07:48):
.
I am who I am.
That's a very that connotationgets, is that the word?
That word gets tossed aroundand it's like, oh, my god, he's
blah, blah, blah.
And then people automaticallystart thinking, oh well, he's
probably a liar, he steals andhe cheats people, and this, that
(08:08):
and the third, that's fuckingbullshit.
Um, because there are, like youknow, alcoholics and
gamboholics that have integrity.
So, anyhow, I think Idemonstrated that to Bern, but
bottom line is, that's why shedidn't want to be with me.
I was drinking too much, andwhen I drink too much, I become
(08:31):
like a different person andthat's plain as day.
So that's why she didn't wantto be with me.
However, from my perspective,that's her perspective.
Do you want to explain myperspective?
Speaker 2 (08:51):
Your perspective, yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:56):
I'll explain it.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
You were just hurt and mad that I ended it Okay.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Yeah, so we were hooking up for a while and then
finally I'm like, all right,let's do this.
And bottom line is there were acouple you know lies that I
couldn't get past this, that andthe third, but I still did it
(09:20):
and we were together.
We were together for a wholetwo weeks actually dating as a
couple, and they were a fun twoweeks, but it ended super quick
and you know I hadn't been in arelationship, a serious
relationship.
I've only been in one seriousone other serious relationship
in my entire life.
(09:40):
And you know she would probablysay the same and you know
anyhow relationships aren't easy.
But where am I going with this?
Yeah, so she breaks up with mebecause I'm drinking too much.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
I mean, yeah, it was like one very what did I do,
yeah?
You were just like very mean,drunk, very drunk, very mean,
and I was just very upset.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
I, I mean in much respect, uh, yeah, I don't know
this led to my like, after shebroke up with me, again
perception's everything right,like there's always two sides to
a story, so I'm not refutinganything that she says.
I, you know, we don't live inthe past.
(10:34):
Um, other people do,unfortunately.
But the bottom, the bottom lineis is, you know, I wasn't what
she was looking for at the time.
She breaks up with me and I golike I was super hammered, like
very drunk and I thought shebroke up with me.
(10:54):
I thought it was coming and Ikept telling her she like I knew
it was coming and then she didit at like the wrong time.
Like apparently I was likedrunk, talking with her mom and
like not about anything bad oranything, we were just talking
and I was drunk and she wasembarrassed and she started
crying at her house and then off, you know, her mother flipped
(11:15):
the switch on me and we left.
She breaks up with me.
I like lose it on social medialike a immature, like
seven-year-old, with my innerchild coming out and said like
super stupid, mean and untruethings in which I deleted the
the very next day.
(11:36):
But the bottom line is that wasthat, was it for her and I for
for a couple days, but I wassuper hurt too.
Huh, yeah, that was it for acouple days, but I thought it
was it like I, I blocked her.
I didn't because she hurt.
Like you know, I have feelings.
I didn't know I had feelingslike that, but I guess you know
(11:58):
you do, um, and I felt them, soI blocked her and I let my
hangover heal and you know shecame over and you know,
obviously I unblocked her and wecontinued hanging out.
Now, fast forward a few months.
Bernadette, super intelligentwoman, you know, graduated from
(12:26):
University of Richmond.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
Richmond, yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
Richmond, richmond and Virginia Aren't they the
spiders or something?
Yeah, super smart.
Doesn't follow the norms, whichI respect completely the norms
in regards to like what societyDeems from her society.
(12:50):
Slash her parents, um.
So she would like, aftercollege, run off to like a goat
farm and like milk goats for,like I don't know a year and
live there and don't and notmake any money and just like, do
untraditional things instead ofwhat you know the world wants
(13:12):
of her being a smart, beautifulyoung lady.
Go get a job at one of thesecompanies, um.
But no, she doesn't want thatand that's cool like shit.
I respect it more than anything.
I tend to live like that, butit's a little bit more difficult
.
I don't have anybody to rely on, nor have I.
(13:39):
Since I was ever, probably I'venever had anybody to rely on.
Now she's lived with herparents her entire life besides
college, so oh yeah, that's nottrue.
I'm sorry a few so a few yearsokay, yeah, the goat farm oh,
(14:00):
yeah, I forgot about thatKripalu.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Kripala.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
Kripalu, kripalu, that's a thing when I
mispronounce words around her orher family members.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
I get looked down upon.
Well, I just wanted to correctit.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
I know, I know, so I think that.
So you know besides thoselittle stints at those remote
locations doing abnormal butsuper cool things that I think
she lived with her parents.
So we're still hanging outafter our breakup consistently
(14:43):
and we're like together everyday.
Almost we can't separate forsome reason.
And she wants to get her ownapartment.
Meanwhile, like I'm helping herwith her small business that
she had and I'm like all in onthis girl, but I keep telling
her Bernadette, as soon as youget your own apartment, you're
(15:05):
going to have some freedom andyou're not going to want to be
with me and like consistently Iwould tell her that and I just
felt it, my intuition told methat I move her into her new
apartment and not even like howlong after 72 hours six weeks
(15:30):
six, okay.
So like six weeks Bernadettewent to date and that like
really, that really upset me.
But what do I'm gonna do?
I'm gonna try to be slick andplay, like the long game.
And, you know, let her do herthing, because I knew it was
coming.
Anyway.
She goes on one date.
It sucks.
She calls me up, we hang out,we have a great night and then,
(15:55):
like a week later, I thoughtthat would have been it.
A week later, bernadette goes onanother date and I'm like, oh
my gosh, this girl, like she'skilling me, this girl like she's
killing me.
But whatever, I'll be slick,I'll play the long game.
And then she wants to go onanother date with the guy, the
(16:17):
second, the second guy.
She wanted to date him again.
And I'm just like, are youfucking kidding me?
And like I started like losingmy mind, like I was so upset,
pissed, I like showed up at herapartment unbeknownst to her and
like knocked on the door, justbecause, like I was pissed, like
(16:38):
I didn't want her datinganybody else, but at the same
time, you know, I was just angry, jealous and Angry and jealous,
pretty much Anyhow.
What happened with that?
Speaker 2 (16:56):
guy.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
Just turned out to be a douche.
Speaker 2 (17:02):
No, he wasn't a douche, I just wasn't.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
It was like, okay, but nothing, didn't want to keep
doing it, yeah, but she wassuper sick one day because she
partied all night with him and Icame over and I took care of
her and from there on right, youdidn't date anybody else, did
(17:25):
you?
No more dates for Bernadette,thankfully.
That's my last date ever,hopefully, and now we have this
little guy sleeping in the back.
Life's extremely difficult, butit's only because we make it
difficult.
We have a very good life.
(17:47):
It difficult, we have a verygood life.
But I and my own worst enemyand and burned it is her own
worst enemy, you know, ondifferent levels obviously, with
different struggles.
You know she's well aware that Iblew three-quarters of a
million dollars last year.
I feel like a total piece ofshit about it almost every day,
(18:10):
but I'm not doing that againbecause I banned myself forever
from gambling.
So you know, just like stufflike that, like like I, you know
we could be living not in anapartment and you know, trying
to have more children and andand and doing a little bit
better with our lives.
(18:31):
But you know, some, somebusiness, um issues with myself,
a couple of different things,and you know I, I'm responsible
for exactly where my family's atright now and we have nothing
and I'm gonna change that andwe're gonna change that.
(18:51):
So you know, I know maybesomeone social media we may seem
to have it all, but we do andin reality.
Speaker 2 (19:01):
I know I shouldn't say nothing yeah, we have
everything we need.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
We have everything we need.
You know, as you guys know, forthe past couple months I've
just strictly been focused onwork and bringing as much
business into Riley sales, whichis HVAC distributor, as
possible and that's what I'vebeen doing.
You know, it's just life's goodand you know, shout out Mike
(19:32):
Riley, he's a good dude.
Bernadette hasn't met him yet,but everybody at Riley's they're
good people.
I grew up with some of them inCunchahokan and it's time to
just, you know, make that placego boom with as much humility as
possible.
Go boom with as much humilityas possible While Bernadette
(19:58):
takes care of our young one andwe try to navigate through life.
But this woman's extremelysmart.
Guys, I know she's verysoft-spoken, but she's like the
smartest woman ever.
So you guys will hear like sheknows what she's doing and she's
doing Like and she's gotmagical powers.
She don't.
She's got me completelycontrolled and and and mind
(20:24):
controlled and manipulated.
So I don't.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
No, I don't.
Speaker 1 (20:30):
Well, you guys, stay tuned for next, next week's
episode.
Maybe she'll be on.
Obviously, the world's fallingapart, but I'm sick of the
negativity.
I stayed away from news for awhile and it's just like it's
always something, man.
But then you think you knowthere's innocent men, women and
(20:50):
children dying around the worldbecause of money is what it
comes down to.
If you follow the money, youfollow the culprits to the death
and destruction that'soccurring around the world.
That's what it always comesdown to.
(21:11):
There's motives behind thosethat are pulling the strings and
it fucking sucks because, onour end, all they want to do is
cause divide.
If you go on social media,you'll see nothing besides.
You know debates of politicalnonsense from a bunch of you
know war mongering.
You know individuals thatthat's what they like to do, but
(21:33):
it's not changing anything.
It's just causing divide.
But that's what the those inpower want.
They want divide, they wantdisputes.
They don't want us loving ourneighbors, they don't want us
coming together, and you knowit's we got to do something
about.
But with that being said, Ireally don't like podcasting and
(21:56):
I have like the hottest I meanmost beautiful woman ever and a
beautiful kid, and I do likemaking money to to provide.
So you know, I consider quittingand not podcasting on a
consistent basis, but I alsofeel like it's kind of like the
easy way out, because it's notthat difficult to release an
(22:18):
episode, especially if if it'sabout something that that
somebody can learn somethingfrom.
So I've been to more most uh,too, uh, too many bottoms in my
life and and it's time to it's,it's time to climb up.
And and this woman stuck by myside through one of the most
difficult years of my life, andyou know, whether we get married
(22:40):
or have 10 kids, or if Xavier'sit and we co-parent, no matter
what happens, I'm going to loveher until the day I die, because
I've lost a lot and she knowsmy character, she knows who I am
, because I don't hide thingsfrom her, and it seems like
(23:03):
she's here forever with me, aslong as God allows us to be here
.
So, anyway, that's it.
I love you, bernadette.
Do you have anything to say?
I love you.
Bye-bye, bye-bye, see you guys.
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