February 14, 2024 • 9 mins
Are you ready for a deep journey into the heart of dating and relationships? We've put together the finale of our first season, a rich tapestry of insights and explorations that lead us through the intricacies of modern dating, the evolving concept of marriage, and the critical need for shared language and understanding. We've dedicated our discussions to providing hope and guidance in navigating these intimate terrains.
As we wrap up season one, we are thrilled to usher in a new season full of promise. We'll delve deeper into the diverse natures of men and women, address your pressing questions and concerns, and most importantly, we're planning to host events. Aiming to foster healthy interactions and promote a culture of connection, these gatherings will serve as a platform for good people to meet and learn from each other. We're grateful for your company this season and can't wait to welcome you back for more insightful conversations in the next.
As we wrap up season one, we are thrilled to usher in a new season full of promise. We'll delve deeper into the diverse natures of men and women, address your pressing questions and concerns, and most importantly, we're planning to host events. Aiming to foster healthy interactions and promote a culture of connection, these gatherings will serve as a platform for good people to meet and learn from each other. We're grateful for your company this season and can't wait to welcome you back for more insightful conversations in the next.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Wow, guys, we have actually rocked up our first
season of the podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
That is so hard to believe.
I feel like it was justyesterday that we sat down and
were like, hey, we should do apodcast.
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
But it's been a while .
It's been some months, but I'mexcited about the topics that we
talked about, like I reallywant people to have better
experience in dating and I hopethey walk away from some of
these conversations withdifferent perspectives and a
little more hope.
Actually, because I personally,based on what I've seen out
(00:33):
there in the world, there's roomfor people to have hope.
They just need differentdirection.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
I think the coolest part about this season is that
we really laid the foundationfor how to talk about what men
and women want in relationships.
Yeah, I know, for me, theepisode we did on the FIM score
was I don't want to say mindblowing, but I'm going to say
(00:59):
mind blowing.
Yeah, I think that reallystarted some new neural pathways
on what is it that men wantfrom women when it comes to a
relationship.
That I hadn't really thoughtabout, or at least being able to
provide the language around it,and that's been the biggest
thing that I've taken from thisentire season.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Yeah, I think the theme of shared language running
throughout the entire seasonwas really valuable because, as
Valin would normally say, wetend to weaponize or advise or
coaching to both men and women,and I think once we are able to
get certain definitions down andjust really understand that
(01:42):
both sides mean well and we justneed to learn how to
communicate with each other,then we can have a different
experience when it comes todating.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Yeah, and I guess it's probably important to point
out that if we give definitionsduring our conversations, it's
a way for us to have aconversation around what we mean
by that particular thing,because there are a lot of
definitions Like there's nomanual for dating, right?
There's no.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Unfortunately not yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
There's no dictionary of terms and, regardless of
where terms come from, I noticeas I listen to a lot of people
out there in the world talkabout these things Like people
have their own interpretationsof it.
I hope we did a good job atexplaining what we mean by it.
If you go out to the world andfind another definition, that's
okay also, but I just wantpeople to walk away with
(02:32):
something they can use to have abetter outcome when they get
out there in the world, becauseit's tough out there dating and
I got a date differently.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
But be hopeful.
Yeah, it's tough out there, butbe hopeful, yeah.
And I think this what I'mreally looking forward to is
actually season two, when westart getting into the specifics
and building on the foundationand really diving into the
nature of men and women, yeah,and understanding the person.
So this was understanding themarket overall, but going into
(03:04):
the next season where we get toget more specific into some of
those questions that I'm surewere, you guys as listeners are
left with wondering, or I know Ihave questions that we're going
to get into in season two, butthat's just very exciting.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
The thing I'm excited about is our aspirations to
actually have some events.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Oh yeah, that's a great blend out.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
I don't know if people know that the reason why
we're doing this podcast wasMainly motivated by our desire
to get people together in reallife.
I did talk to people on thepodcast.
We want to bring good peopletogether and we're having some
of these conversations becausewe I know I personally want men
to be safer and more friendly towomen and I want women to be
(03:53):
more Friendly and respectful tomen like I want us to care about
each other so that we can makesome impact in creating a better
culture around dating, becauseno one person can do it on their
own, and that's part of thereal big challenge is that you
got men and women out theretrying to do it on their own and
(04:14):
they can't do it on their own,even if they're a really good
person.
They need a culture to deliverthat good person to, and it's
just.
I hope we can do something toEffect change in that area.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
That's where an event comes into play.
Yeah, one might dare say aparty.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Yeah, but before we even get into the party, though.
One other thing that reallystood out for me this season was
the whole concept of this.
Is not your grandma's dating?
Like the way things happenedback then is not what's gonna
necessarily work for you rightnow.
People may be wondering, likewhy do I need to learn how to
date?
Why do I need a dating coach?
Like, why do I need all these?
(04:50):
Why do I need a podcast?
And what we're finding is thatthere's the language has changed
, the desires have changed whenit comes to relationships.
People just want differentthings and they have different
ways of approaching it.
When we can come together andOne get to know what we want, be
able to communicate to otherpeople what we want and then
(05:10):
learn how to work together toget those things, that is the
foundation, I think, for goinginto Dating differently.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Yeah, I think that's a great point, val, and you said
in one of our earlier episodesSomething along the lines of
marriage used to be a journeyand now it's a destination.
Correct me if I'm wrong.
I'm pulling from my memory here.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
Yeah.
So a couple of comments I'vemade about marriage.
One one is it used to be thestarting point of life and now
we treat it as the destination.
Right, and Without getting intothat, we'll go back and listen
to the episode.
But that's the state.
That's one of the statementsthat I made about marriage, one
(05:54):
of many statements I make aboutmarriage.
By the way, I do believe inmarriage.
There's a case for marriage,but boy it's hard to get there.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
The thing is, people need to accept that Marriage has
changed with the needs ofsociety.
And when you look at thedifferent groups, the different
individuals, we all havedifferent needs.
Somebody might want to getmarried for immigration purposes
.
Somebody wants to get marriedfor love.
Somebody wants to get marriedfor family, tax purposes,
business that there's so manydifferent Reasons behind
(06:25):
marriage that we have to go intoit.
One, understanding what it iswe want out of it and making
sure who we choose to partnerwith wants the same thing.
Yeah, because if I want to getmarried for love and you want to
get married for business, we'regonna have some issues
somewhere along the line.
We're not satisfying eachother's needs.
Speaker 3 (06:43):
Yeah, you bring up a good point.
I don't think we talked aboutmarriage that much this season.
Maybe we'll put that on thelist.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Oh, I definitely think that's an even to
relationship.
Yeah, like people.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
I think the assumption most of the time is
that we're getting into thisrelationship because we love
each other and, without talkingabout it, we Move blindly
through the relationship and wecomplain about things, and
things become issues because wenever discuss what we're really
here for.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Yeah, so it's a lot to talk about marriage.
I think the one thing that Ikeyed off of that you said is
that marriage changes with theneeds of society and I think
it's important for people torecognize that, because a lot of
times we we hear theseConversations about our
grandparents and how they did agood, a bad or indifferent, when
a lot of people might compareMm-hmm, they're forefathers, to
(07:34):
how the men are today intraditional women.
True, all of thoseconversations are being had, but
you hear me say it all the time, like back in those days, in In
a certain period, people gotmarried for survival.
It was a survival thing.
Yeah, we don't have to getmarried for survival today.
At some point in life people gotmarried out of duty to family
Mm-hmm and because that was veryimportant.
(07:55):
We don't have that today.
So it makes it really tough tocompare or try to make a
comparison to what people didbefore.
We live in a new society andthere are a whole lot of things
that are different about oursociety than the societies that
existed in Generations past.
So we have to consider thatwhen we anyway, that we got
already getting in the season toabout some of these things.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
But that's a great conversation to have around
marriage and to bring it fullcircle, the thing that remains
Consistent is social gatherings.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
Social gatherings have happened throughout all of
time.
Whether you're watchingBridgerton or any sort of Jane
Austen movie or a 90s movie,what have you?
There's still social gatherings, and that's one thing that
Valin mentioned a second ago.
We are definitely going tothrow an event, an about-good
company event, as Datingdifferently is an about-good
(08:51):
company podcast, and so be onthe lookout for more information
about that.
We'll be putting out details aswe get closer to, and we really
want you guys to come.
We want you guys to sign up andbe a part of about good company
and come to our event.
So with that, I think thiscloses out the first season.
Any final words?
Speaker 3 (09:15):
oh, we'll see you guys in season two see you in
season.
Wow, guys, we have actually rocked up our first
season of the podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
That is so hard to believe.
I feel like it was justyesterday that we sat down and
were like, hey, we should do apodcast.
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
But it's been a while .
It's been some months, but I'mexcited about the topics that we
talked about, like I reallywant people to have better
experience in dating and I hopethey walk away from some of
these conversations withdifferent perspectives and a
little more hope.
Actually, because I personally,based on what I've seen out
(00:33):
there in the world, there's roomfor people to have hope.
They just need differentdirection.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
I think the coolest part about this season is that
we really laid the foundationfor how to talk about what men
and women want in relationships.
Yeah, I know, for me, theepisode we did on the FIM score
was I don't want to say mindblowing, but I'm going to say
(00:59):
mind blowing.
Yeah, I think that reallystarted some new neural pathways
on what is it that men wantfrom women when it comes to a
relationship.
That I hadn't really thoughtabout, or at least being able to
provide the language around it,and that's been the biggest
thing that I've taken from thisentire season.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Yeah, I think the theme of shared language running
throughout the entire seasonwas really valuable because, as
Valin would normally say, wetend to weaponize or advise or
coaching to both men and women,and I think once we are able to
get certain definitions down andjust really understand that
(01:42):
both sides mean well and we justneed to learn how to
communicate with each other,then we can have a different
experience when it comes todating.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Yeah, and I guess it's probably important to point
out that if we give definitionsduring our conversations, it's
a way for us to have aconversation around what we mean
by that particular thing,because there are a lot of
definitions Like there's nomanual for dating, right?
There's no.
Speaker 2 (02:09):
Unfortunately not yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
There's no dictionary of terms and, regardless of
where terms come from, I noticeas I listen to a lot of people
out there in the world talkabout these things Like people
have their own interpretationsof it.
I hope we did a good job atexplaining what we mean by it.
If you go out to the world andfind another definition, that's
okay also, but I just wantpeople to walk away with
(02:32):
something they can use to have abetter outcome when they get
out there in the world, becauseit's tough out there dating and
I got a date differently.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
But be hopeful.
Yeah, it's tough out there, butbe hopeful, yeah.
And I think this what I'mreally looking forward to is
actually season two, when westart getting into the specifics
and building on the foundationand really diving into the
nature of men and women, yeah,and understanding the person.
So this was understanding themarket overall, but going into
(03:04):
the next season where we get toget more specific into some of
those questions that I'm surewere, you guys as listeners are
left with wondering, or I know Ihave questions that we're going
to get into in season two, butthat's just very exciting.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
The thing I'm excited about is our aspirations to
actually have some events.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Oh yeah, that's a great blend out.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
I don't know if people know that the reason why
we're doing this podcast wasMainly motivated by our desire
to get people together in reallife.
I did talk to people on thepodcast.
We want to bring good peopletogether and we're having some
of these conversations becausewe I know I personally want men
to be safer and more friendly towomen and I want women to be
(03:53):
more Friendly and respectful tomen like I want us to care about
each other so that we can makesome impact in creating a better
culture around dating, becauseno one person can do it on their
own, and that's part of thereal big challenge is that you
got men and women out theretrying to do it on their own and
(04:14):
they can't do it on their own,even if they're a really good
person.
They need a culture to deliverthat good person to, and it's
just.
I hope we can do something toEffect change in that area.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
That's where an event comes into play.
Yeah, one might dare say aparty.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Yeah, but before we even get into the party, though.
One other thing that reallystood out for me this season was
the whole concept of this.
Is not your grandma's dating?
Like the way things happenedback then is not what's gonna
necessarily work for you rightnow.
People may be wondering, likewhy do I need to learn how to
date?
Why do I need a dating coach?
Like, why do I need all these?
(04:50):
Why do I need a podcast?
And what we're finding is thatthere's the language has changed
, the desires have changed whenit comes to relationships.
People just want differentthings and they have different
ways of approaching it.
When we can come together andOne get to know what we want, be
able to communicate to otherpeople what we want and then
(05:10):
learn how to work together toget those things, that is the
foundation, I think, for goinginto Dating differently.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Yeah, I think that's a great point, val, and you said
in one of our earlier episodesSomething along the lines of
marriage used to be a journeyand now it's a destination.
Correct me if I'm wrong.
I'm pulling from my memory here.
Speaker 3 (05:32):
Yeah.
So a couple of comments I'vemade about marriage.
One one is it used to be thestarting point of life and now
we treat it as the destination.
Right, and Without getting intothat, we'll go back and listen
to the episode.
But that's the state.
That's one of the statementsthat I made about marriage, one
(05:54):
of many statements I make aboutmarriage.
By the way, I do believe inmarriage.
There's a case for marriage,but boy it's hard to get there.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
The thing is, people need to accept that Marriage has
changed with the needs ofsociety.
And when you look at thedifferent groups, the different
individuals, we all havedifferent needs.
Somebody might want to getmarried for immigration purposes
.
Somebody wants to get marriedfor love.
Somebody wants to get marriedfor family, tax purposes,
business that there's so manydifferent Reasons behind
(06:25):
marriage that we have to go intoit.
One, understanding what it iswe want out of it and making
sure who we choose to partnerwith wants the same thing.
Yeah, because if I want to getmarried for love and you want to
get married for business, we'regonna have some issues
somewhere along the line.
We're not satisfying eachother's needs.
Speaker 3 (06:43):
Yeah, you bring up a good point.
I don't think we talked aboutmarriage that much this season.
Maybe we'll put that on thelist.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Oh, I definitely think that's an even to
relationship.
Yeah, like people.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
I think the assumption most of the time is
that we're getting into thisrelationship because we love
each other and, without talkingabout it, we Move blindly
through the relationship and wecomplain about things, and
things become issues because wenever discuss what we're really
here for.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Yeah, so it's a lot to talk about marriage.
I think the one thing that Ikeyed off of that you said is
that marriage changes with theneeds of society and I think
it's important for people torecognize that, because a lot of
times we we hear theseConversations about our
grandparents and how they did agood, a bad or indifferent, when
a lot of people might compareMm-hmm, they're forefathers, to
(07:34):
how the men are today intraditional women.
True, all of thoseconversations are being had, but
you hear me say it all the time, like back in those days, in In
a certain period, people gotmarried for survival.
It was a survival thing.
Yeah, we don't have to getmarried for survival today.
At some point in life people gotmarried out of duty to family
Mm-hmm and because that was veryimportant.
(07:55):
We don't have that today.
So it makes it really tough tocompare or try to make a
comparison to what people didbefore.
We live in a new society andthere are a whole lot of things
that are different about oursociety than the societies that
existed in Generations past.
So we have to consider thatwhen we anyway, that we got
already getting in the season toabout some of these things.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
But that's a great conversation to have around
marriage and to bring it fullcircle, the thing that remains
Consistent is social gatherings.
Speaker 3 (08:27):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
Social gatherings have happened throughout all of
time.
Whether you're watchingBridgerton or any sort of Jane
Austen movie or a 90s movie,what have you?
There's still social gatherings, and that's one thing that
Valin mentioned a second ago.
We are definitely going tothrow an event, an about-good
company event, as Datingdifferently is an about-good
(08:51):
company podcast, and so be onthe lookout for more information
about that.
We'll be putting out details aswe get closer to, and we really
want you guys to come.
We want you guys to sign up andbe a part of about good company
and come to our event.
So with that, I think thiscloses out the first season.
Any final words?
Speaker 3 (09:15):
oh, we'll see you guys in season two see you in
season.
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