In this episode of Dating in the Bae, Becca kicks it off with the week’s question, “Can someone ghost you before even meeting you?” Plus, she shares a substantive conversation with dating author Jon Birger. Jon tells us his story as a writer and how one core question pushed him from being an oil and gas journalist to diving into the love and dating world: Why do fabulous women in their late twenties, thirties, and forties have such a tough time in today’s modern dating world?
Jon’s first book Date-onomics lays out the flat truth: there are way more women than men in the dating market. Fear not, fellow daters! Not everything is lost! Jon also talks about his second book Make Your Move, in which he explains the “suiter’s advantage.” Did you know that 70% of flirting goes undetected by the other person?! That’s why we are embracing our boldness and going after who and what you want! Join this conversation and find out why waiting around for things to happen is ancient thinking; the time to act is now!
Jump straight into:
00:24 - Out with the old, in with the new! Becca’s remodeling metamorphosis and this week’s question: At what point do you consider yourself ghosted by someone before a date?
04:21 - Jon Birger’s journey as a writer and his core research question for Date-onomics
08:44 - Dating + Statistics
11:18 - Single men vs. single women: Who’s more ready to settle down?
12:56 - Knowing the data is not enough! Suitor’s advantage and why direct people beat the odds.
18:44 - Embrace vulnerability and awkwardness! That’s how things get real.
21:19 - Is online dating a doubter’s game? Jon’s take on dating apps and why you should start by asking out real-life people you already know and like.
27:32 - Dating apps are a business; they don’t necessarily care about your happy ever after!
30:09 - The Pam & Jim story: office romance.
34:19 - The public reaction to Jon’s book.
Episode resources
Date-onomics by Jon Birger
Make Your Move by Jon Birger
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