In this episode, we’re hearing from The Jealous Host. Our letter today deals with a community builder stuck in a comparison spiral, whose insecurities are taking the wheel and making them feel like they're competing with community members and other communities, and falling short.
To better help The Jealous Host, I invited Charmaine Jennings as my guest. Like me, she's no stranger to this conundrum. She founded Hustle + Charm, a supportive in-person community for women and nonbinary entrepreneurs focused on life, business, and career growth.
Since Charmaine was going down a community comparison spiral of her own, and she was brave enough to open up and share her experience with us, we were able to turn this episode into a live coaching session using The Work of Byron Katie.
Tune in for several tools EVERY community builder needs in their toolkit for this good, hard work of community building.
In this episode:
(03:43) The communitea: The Jealous Host’s letter
(06:13) Reframe the feeling of being behind your community members' growth
(10:29) Charmaine's in-person community: Hustle + Charm
(13:12) How Bri and Charmaine experience their community comparison spirals
(17:18) Distill the belief created by comparison
(19:21) The Work: four questions to challenge your belief
(27:04) The Work: turn around your belief
(34:28) The value of this inquiry process for navigating your stubborn thoughts
(38:04) The comparison syndrome from Charmaine's standpoint
(39:57) Understand what to focus your energy on with the three types of judgments
(44:56) The impact of inherited bias judgment
Resources Mentioned:
📝 Learn more about Byron Katie's process of self-inquiry.
🎧 Catch up with Eric Plantenberg's Dear Bri episode.
❤️ Sign up for Heartbeat. Bri’s recommended all-in-one community platform.
💛 Join Ember. The place for go-getter community creators building community-powered businesses.
Charmaine Jennings
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Bri Leever
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