Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

He gets the freedom. You get the bills, the responsibilities, and the healing work.

You have real reasons to be angry. But when you think about letting go of resentment after divorce, something pushes back: If I move on, does he get away with it?

In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn and Coach Tiffini explore “poor me syndrome” after divorce—the loop of comparison, replaying conversations, and waiting for ackn...

How do you process emotions after divorce when everyone says “feel your feelings,” but nobody explains what that actually looks like?

You can name the anger. Explain the sadness. Tell the story of what happened. But then what? Sit there and wait to feel better?

In this VIP episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn shares an often-overlooked way to explore divorce grief: pairing music with intentional movement.

Drawing on her own...

Divorce grief can mean mourning both your marriage and the future you thought you’d have. If you’re wondering about the stages of grief after divorce—or why you move between anger, anxiety, sadness, and numbness—this episode offers a fresh perspective on what you’re feeling and how to support yourself.

You remember the good moments. The glimpses of who he could be. The family, partnership, and future yo...

Need emotional support after divorce, but feel guilty asking? This 10-minute guided sleep meditation offers a gentle space to acknowledge your needs and explore what makes receiving care difficult.

You could use someone checking in. Someone listening. Somewhere to say, “I’m having a hard time,” without immediately assuring everyone you’re fine.

But then comes the guilt. They have enough going on. You’ve ...

You held it together at work. Handled the responsibilities. Gave everyone what they needed. Now you’re home—and you have nothing left for the woman who’s still hurting.

You want to feel better after divorce. But choosing another book, finding another practitioner, or figuring out which healing tool to use feels like another job. Can someone please just tell you what to do next?

In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary,...

Wanting to feel beautiful again after divorce isn’t shallow. After heartbreak, stress, body changes, and years of living in survival mode, sometimes you just want to look in the mirror and think: There she is.

You want your confidence back. Your energy back. Your swagger back. You want to feel sexy, desirable, and at home in your body again.

But if you’ve been trying to get there through weight loss, harder workouts, rest...

I was a trained marriage and family therapist when I got divorced. I understood attachment theory. I knew the language of relationships. And I still couldn’t prevent my own divorce.

For a long time, that felt embarrassing. But it taught me something I needed to understand about divorce healing: knowing what’s happening in your mind is different from feeling safe enough to live differently.

In this episode, Joy, Coach Tiff...

Some moments in divorce just feel dark.

Your heart hurts. Your mind keeps circling the what-ifs. You’re thinking about him, what he’s doing, what you lost, and what your life is supposed to look like now.

And underneath all of that is the part no one really prepares you for:

Letting go can feel terrifying.

In this VIP episode, I’ll walk you through a simple 9-minute EFT tapping practice for moments when you feel stuck...

You knew your love language. You told him exactly what you needed—so why did it still never feel like enough?

In this episode, we’re looking at what love languages can miss when attachment wounds, codependency, emotional safety, abandonment fears, and your nervous system are actually driving what happens inside your marriage.

Because your love language may have been describing the behavior that temporarily soothed the wou...

What if the emotion itself isn’t what’s keeping you stuck after divorce?

What if it’s the story you immediately attach to it?

He did this.
She said that.
This ruined everything.
I can’t have the life I want because they keep doing this.

In this tactical VIP episode, Dawn teaches you how to separate the physical sensation of an emotion from the thoughts, interpretations and negative beliefs that keep re...

Why wasn’t I worth it to him?

Why wasn’t I worth changing for?

Why wasn’t I worth getting sober for, telling the truth for, going to therapy for, fighting for?

Why could I love him that much, sacrifice that much, try that hard—and still not be enough to make him choose differently?

It is one of the most painful rabbit holes after divorce.

And it can keep you stuck because every time you ask the question, you are ...

You want love.

You want support.

You want good things to happen to you.

So why does some part of you still tense up when they actually arrive?

Because when love has historically come with conditions, disappointment, betrayal, obligation or loss, receiving something good can feel surprisingly vulnerable.

You may find yourself wondering:

What’s the catch?
What will this cost me?
What are they going to want from me?
What if I...

You can know exactly what you need to do next—and still feel every part of you screaming, nope.

Set the boundary. Ask for help. Leave the relationship. Start dating differently. Choose yourself. Let someone really see you. Take the next step in your healing.

Why can the thing that might actually change your life feel so threatening?

Because your nervous system doesn’t automatically choose what’s best for you. It ofte...

Divorce grief can harden you in ways you don’t always notice.

You brace more.
You anticipate more.
You hold tighter.
You get really good at pushing through.

Sometimes that hardness was necessary. It helped you survive what was happening.

But eventually, the armor that protected you can start making it harder to feel safe enough to soften again.

This week’s Cocoon VIP is a gentle yoga practice followed by Yoga Nidra...

You’re doing the therapy.

You’re listening to the podcasts. You understand your attachment style. You’ve journaled, processed, learned the language, set the boundaries, and tried really fucking hard to move on.

So why do you still feel stuck?

In Part 1, we started asking a different question: Is your healing plan actually big enough for what you’re carrying?

Today, we finish the checklist.

Because sometimes the p...

You’re tired of healing.

You’ve listened to the podcasts. You understand your attachment style. You know about boundaries and nervous system regulation. Maybe you’ve done therapy, read the books, journaled, meditated—and you’re still wondering why you can’t just let go and move on.

Here’s the good news: letting go may not actually be the problem.

The bad news? You may be carrying a hell of a l...

Divorce changes your relationship with a lot of things.

Love. Trust. Safety. The future.

And sometimes… money.

Because money isn’t just money. It can represent security, freedom, worthiness, belonging—and whether or not you believe there will actually be enough.

In this VIP re-release, we’re digging into the subconscious money beliefs you may not even realize you’re carrying: scarcity, feeling ineligible ...

There are things you learned to carry because, at one point, you had to.

The responsibility. The mental load. Other people's expectations. Keeping everyone okay. Being the strong one. Being the woman who could handle it.

But just because you needed that version of yourself then doesn't mean you have to keep being her now.

This week, Dawn sits down with Alexis Contos, founder of The Breadwinners, a community redefining what it means to...

Dating after divorce is a whole different world.

Dating apps. Men holding fish. Men who apparently have never taken a decent selfie. Threesomes. Ethical non-monogamy. And the occasional man who looks way better in person than his profile would have you believe.

But underneath all of the chaos is a much more important question:

How do you know who you're actually dealing with before you get attached?

With Dawn away, Coach Tiffini and Jo...