In this short solo episode, I consider why some people hesitate to tell friends about positive events like a promotion, a published piece, or a personal milestone or achievement. Likely due to cultural conditioning, we worry it will come off as bragging. I think it's a missed opportunity to feel closer to friends when all good news is kept under wraps.
Not sharing can also have a cost. When friends learn about our news secondhand, it can create distance and misunderstandings.
Vulnerability is a key to closeness, and sharing GOOD news is an excellent way to make yourself vulnerable.
Equally as important in this episode: I discuss receiving your friends' good news with graciousness, curiosity, and shared joy if you want friends to keep you in the loop. When a friend shares something exciting, offer clear enthusiasm and ask a follow-up question!
LINKS AND RESOURCES
- Hear me on NPR Life Kit: "How to Keep Old Friends" Apple. Spotify.
- Join the Conversation: In the Dear Nina Facebook group we swap friendship wins and dilemmas.
- Episode 146 of Dear Nina on not overthinking in your friendships and tolerating uncertainty.
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