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Jim (00:00):
Hello, and welcome to this episode of Decide on Joy,
podcast coming to you fromHarmony Spiritual Center in Fort
Worth, Texas, with a lot ofairplane noise going on
overhead.
I hope you're not hearing that.
Pjae (00:14):
I hope not either.
We are.
Jim (00:16):
Yes.
They, there's an airbase nearbyand they, they do touch and go
stuff, you know.
And, and that's apparentlyhappening now.
Or a war has started, one or theother.
So something, something or theother,
Pjae (00:30):
you never know.
Jim (00:31):
Yeah.
So.
This is the third of a seriesabout manifestation.
All the episodes titles startwith a D.
We've had one called Discover,which is about discovering who
you are.
We had Decide, which is decidingwhat you want.
(00:52):
And this episode is calledDetermine, to say yes.
Before we get too far into that,maybe just a quick recap of
Pjae (01:05):
Yeah.
So, you know, the first thing,of course, is to discover who
you are.
You know, because we, we, wepretty much as human beings, we
have so many things going on.
We, we put a lot of things onautopilot.
And so every now and again, it'snice to just go back and say,
Okay, who, who, who am I now?
You know, five years have goneby, ten years you've been,
you've been in a relationship,you've had friends, and so
(01:25):
you've been influenced bythings, you've had some
education.
There's a number of things Andwe tend to to just live as
though everything that we weredoing before is still working
for us.
So it's just nice to every nowand again just sit down and just
go, okay, who am I now?
Who do I, you know, who, who,who, who determined and just
say, yeah, this is, this isjust, just discover that this is
(01:45):
who I am in terms of what yourvalues are what you do or don't
want, those kinds of things.
And so Yeah, so just determine,discover, discover, I keep using
the same words, the 3Ds, the4Ds, the first thing is to
discover who you are now, okay,that's all it is.
And then we you know, once wediscover who we are, we decide
(02:06):
what do we want, this is who weare, what do we want, what do we
want out of life, and a lot ofthat has to do with, with
Figuring out when you determinewho you are, who, who, who are
you in terms of who you are andwho people have told you you
should be, like your parents oryour classroom or the, or the,
(02:27):
the, the consciousness aroundus.
So.
It's important that you decidefor yourself, you know, who you
are, discover who that is,decide what you want, moving
forward.
And then, once we do that, justbecause you've determined,
discovered who you are anddecided what you want, doesn't
mean it's going to happen.
(02:48):
So, part of that now is todetermine what you're going to
do.
To say yes to your life.
To what you say you are and whatyou say you want.
You have to determine to say yesfor it.
Jim (02:59):
What, what would saying no to it look like?
Pjae (03:02):
Okay, so let me, let me do it the other way and then I'll
come back to it.
So, if you say yes to your life,and here, cause here's again.
We're creatures of habit.
So I'm going to give an examplefrom my life.
I say I want to, and I've talkedabout this at Harmony, I say it
out loud so that I can be heldaccountable for it.
(03:23):
That I am an author.
And I am writing, right now,I've written a fiction book,
it's a lot of fun, but right nowI want to write a non fiction
book.
Because I'm a coach and acounselor, and I want to take
the information that I know, sothat people can use it, they
don't have to always talk to me,they can look at the book and,
and, and See what they wanna do.
So that's what I have decidedthat I want to do.
(03:44):
That's what I decided now todetermine and say yes to it.
What I also love to do is I'mnot an actor, but I love, I love
acting.
I love movies and television andshows, so it's just easy to go
home, sit on the couch, andwatch show after show after
show.
Okay, that's the habit.
So, in order for me to have thelife that I want, then I have to
(04:06):
say yes to that, and no to thethings that won't let me do it.
Like sitting there, watching aTV show, isn't getting the book
written.
Jim (04:14):
Right.
Pjae (04:15):
So I have to say yes to changing that, and sitting down
and doing what I say, that Iwant to have come from my life.
Then I have to say yes to what'sgoing to allow me to have it in
my life.
Jim (04:26):
Right.
Did that
Pjae (04:26):
make sense?
Jim (04:27):
Yeah.
I was thinking also of more the,the, that you may unconsciously
be saying no to what you havesaid you want, and not realizing
you're doing it.
Pjae (04:43):
Exactly.
I love that.
You're exactly correct.
And so that's just another thingthat you can look at and say,
well, I've said that I wantthis, but here's what I'm doing.
So have I actually, have Iactually decided on this thing
that I say that I want, becauseI'm not going towards it.
So that you're going to have to,you get a chance to an
opportunity to reevaluate it.
(05:04):
And maybe I said I wanted itbecause it was something I
thought I should want, but it'snot actually something I do
want.
Jim (05:11):
And you might be.
Unconsciously saying no to itbecause you don't think you
deserve it, or Ooh,
Pjae (05:17):
good
Jim (05:17):
one.
That whole range of thing.
Pjae (05:19):
That is a good one.
And so again, examining anddiscovering who you are and what
you say you want, when you don'tfind yourself saying yes to it,
that's another opportunity.
Is it because you don't reallywant it, or is it because You
don't think you know how.
You don't think you deserve it.
(05:39):
And this is another, I don'tknow if we've had this
conversation or not, and thismay be one we're going to have
in the future but when you, whenyou, when you say that you want
something, and you, you, youdon't actually go after it
because you don't know how, Thehow, this is crazy, people don't
understand that at all, what areyou talking about?
The how isn't actually yourbusiness.
(06:00):
The what, and saying yes, isyour business.
And then you have to let spirit,God, the divine, whatever, your
intuition, whatever you callthat, guide you.
Because the point is, if youalready knew how to do it, you'd
be there already.
Okay, he'd be there already.
And so it's, it's, it's theexactly the right thing to do or
the natural thing to do to say,I want to be a writer, I want to
(06:24):
be an actor, and then not goafter it because you don't or
you don't think you deserve it.
Or you don't know how to do it.
And if you don't know how to doit, well, then you I'm telling
you, just just say that you doand expect confidently expect
the universe to show you how thehow will start appearing.
But if it's because you don'tthink you deserve it, That's a
whole other set of work that hasto be done.
(06:45):
Yeah,
Jim (06:46):
yeah, that's a separate thing.
That's a whole separate
Pjae (06:47):
thing.
Jim (06:48):
But certainly if you, yeah, if you, if something like that,
using the actor example again,if you just decide that's what
you want to do, well, there arethings, you can take classes,
you can, you know.
Pjae (07:01):
Absolutely.
Go audition for something andget some feedback.
Jim (07:05):
Yeah.
For
Pjae (07:05):
yourself and for others.
Jim (07:07):
Yeah, so there, there are ways to approach that instead of
just saying, waiting, waitingfor it to arrive.
At your doorstep.
Yeah.
Pjae (07:16):
That's not going to
Jim (07:16):
happen that way.
Not usually.
Occasionally to a few people ithas happened.
Very few people.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Did
Pjae (07:24):
that whole getting discovered on the doorstep
thing.
Whatever that is.
Yeah.
No.
It's, it's work.
It's work.
It's the decision and it's workon your part that you can do if
you want to.
Because so we have.
The point that we're making,Jim, is that we have a lot of
power in our lives.
We can determine, we can decide,we can learn new things.
(07:44):
There's a lot of noise going onright now.
That was amazing.
Jim (07:48):
Yeah, I think that one sounds like it's landing on our
heads.
Pjae (07:51):
That one's coming across.
Wow.
Jim (07:53):
I would think so.
The software is good abouteliminating stuff like that.
But I don't know, that one was
Pjae (07:59):
I couldn't hardly hear myself.
It
Jim (08:01):
truly sounded like he had decided to land on the roof.
And I don't know, I constantlysee things, like, YouTube videos
and all, where people aresaying, Oh, I'm so sorry about
the noise, and we can't hear itat all because the microphone's
not picking it up.
And I hope that's the case here.
Pjae (08:16):
We'll find out.
We'll find out, we're going tolook at it.
But anyway I just lost where Iwas going with it.
Jim (08:23):
Yeah, totally, no, no.
gone down the Air Force pathhere, we don't know.
We don't know.
We don't know.
We don't
Pjae (08:30):
know.
But we were just talking aboutthat if, if, you know, if in
fact that you decide that youwant to do something, there's,
there's many ways that you cantest it out, that you can, and,
and if it's, if it's.
That you don't think you deserveit, that is, there, there are
other things that you can do to,to figure that out and say,
well, why don't I think that's,I deserve that?
Is there, is there somethingthat I believe, or is it
(08:51):
something I was told?
And you can begin to, and Ithink, I don't think we've had
this, this podcast yet, but Iwant to, or perhaps we have.
The Partners in Believing, we'vehad that one?
Okay, well, hopefully you guyshave listened to that one.
Go back and listen to it if youhaven't.
It's the reason to have Partnersin Believing.
Because you, you don't, youdon't necessarily know for sure
(09:12):
that you can do something thatyou've decided you want.
And you have people around youthat can support you in moving
forward.
There are a number of peoplethat will, that will be just as
anxious as you and, and willfeed right into the fear that
you have.
So you can, you can determineand decide, hey, I want to be, I
want to surround myself.
It's, it's like being in school.
(09:32):
If you want to get good grades,you can't surround yourself with
people who aren't going toclass.
You have to surround yourselfwith people who are kind of
nerdy and are always studyingand that kind of thing.
It's the same thing with if youdecide you want something and
it's not really coming to youeasily You can decide and
determine to be around peoplewho will believe with you, while
you are growing your belief.
(09:53):
You can grow belief.
You can grow belief.
That's a good thing to be ableto know and to be able to do.
Jim (09:58):
Yeah, and, and, speaking of, we're creatures of habit, it
may not just be the habits,like, sitting on the couch and
watching TV, it might be thehabit of thinking you can't do
something or the habit ofthinking these are my limits and
I need to stay within them.
You know, probably again,something that you, those limits
(10:24):
were perceptions put on you fromoutside.
But I mean, obviously there are.
Some actual limits.
Yes.
Pjae (10:34):
I'm five foot five.
That's not gonna change.
Yes.
That's not gonna change.
If I wanted something that's,that's only gonna go for
somebody who's six 10 it's notgonna be for me.
Jim (10:42):
Yeah.
Probably saying I wanna be abasketball star.
I
Pjae (10:45):
think that's not gonna work out.
Jim (10:46):
Maybe not.
Pjae (10:48):
Unless they lower the baskets, it's not gonna happen.
So, yeah.
And, and, and I really don'tlike the word realistic.
Mm-hmm You know, because peopleuse that a lot.
We gotta be realistic.
Yeah.
Well realistic.
To whom?
To, to, to, to, you know, andthe reality is yours to set.
It's yours to set.
And really, if I'm 5'5 I'm goingto have to use that basketball
(11:09):
analogy, I, I don't, I don'tcare about basketball because I
can't, I can see that I can'treach it.
So it's not really somethingthat, although there are short
people who have, who have just.
Accommodated that and are greatleapers or jumpers or any number
of things or get the ball downthem down the court Yes, so they
they play at another level Andso you can again Wow, I think
(11:34):
the Air Force heard us Justpurposely going right across
sitting on the roof.
We
Jim (11:39):
thought that last one was loud.
This one was more
Pjae (11:42):
Wow Wow Well, this is gonna be a fun part It's a
podcast for all of us.
Jim (11:49):
It is.
If, if you're hearing that, andif you're not, you'll just think
we're crazy and can't
Pjae (11:55):
stay focused.
Jim (11:57):
I'm telling you, it's real.
It is.
It is real.
Pjae (12:01):
The airplanes are real.
Anyway, so, so, so this podcastis about determining that you
will do what it takes.
That's what determination is,that you will do, do what it
takes.
You will say yes to your life.
And when you do, when you do,When you, when you figure out
and discover who you are anddecide on something, I want to
go in this direction, this iswho I want to become, I want to
(12:24):
get my degree, I want arelationship then you have to
determine to do what that takes.
Jim (12:32):
Right.
Pjae (12:32):
Yeah.
Jim (12:33):
I, I think this is something that has come up in
other episodes as well, but howdo you, if you have those voices
or whatever that are, that arecontrolling you and saying, no,
no, no, you need to stay withinyour guardrails here.
Yes.
Pjae (12:50):
Yeah.
I love that word, guardrails.
Yeah.
Jim (12:53):
Or that's, that's not something you need to be doing.
How do you silence that?
It's those.
Pjae (12:59):
Yeah.
And I'm not at the beginning.
I think you, you, it's difficultto, to I'm not gonna use the
word difficult.
But silencing them is not thegoal.
Jim (13:08):
Okay.
The
Pjae (13:09):
goal is to lower them, to quiet them down mm-hmm So that
you can hear something elseabove on top of it.
And so, one of the, the easiestand quickest way, it's not easy,
but the quickest way to do it iswhat we call it.
Affirmations and denials.
And so, and we say affirmationsbecause A comes before D, but
actually when you do it, it'sdenials and affirmations.
(13:30):
Because what happens is, if yousay let's just stay with the
acting thing, that you say,well, I want to be an actor.
And, The voice in your headsays, or the person who put that
in your head says, You don'tlook good enough to be an actor.
The denial is, I actuallyphysically put my hand up.
(13:50):
Like I'm stopping someone, likea stop sign, put my hand up, and
say, That is not true.
Jim (13:55):
I'm sorry you can't see PJ doing
Pjae (13:57):
this.
But I'm actually doing that.
I have my hand up, like a stopsign in someone's face, and
saying That is not true.
So that's the denial.
Deny the truth.
Deny that that is true.
That is not true.
And then you affirm what istrue.
What is true is that I'm goingto take some acting classes and
prove that I actually can or canlearn to do it.
(14:18):
Whatever you need to say toyourself.
But the denial comes first.
Whatever the negative thing isthat is Having you feel like you
can't do something, you denythat, because that's not the
truth for you.
If it's coming up for you, thatyou want to do it, then that is
not the truth for you.
The thing that's just sayingthat you can't do it, that's not
(14:39):
the truth.
The reason why it's coming up isbecause there is something there
that you can do, that you wantto do.
So you could just deny what'scoming up.
That's not true.
What's true is, I can do this,and here's what I can do about
it.
And just start small.
You don't have to, Go and try todo auditions at Stage West when
you've never done anythingbefore in your life.
Maybe you can have a little justget your little friends together
(15:01):
and do some poetry or somethingin front of them.
Just get used to it.
So that's one of the ways inwhich you start to do it.
Just to calm down those, thosevoices in your head.
And we all have them.
We all have voices in our headsthat either approve what we want
to do and really rally us andare rah rahs and cheerleaders
for us.
But more than likely, we havepeople or voices in our heads,
(15:23):
and I say people, because youcould probably pinpoint who that
is in your head.
Your mom, your dad, yourpreacher, a sister, you know,
somebody that was in your class,a teacher.
That told you.
You, you, you have the face inyour, in your mind that told you
that.
And you can tell them, no,you're wrong.
Put your hand in their face.
(15:45):
And say, no, that's not true.
Here's what, here's my truthnow.
That's what we get to do.
That's the power that we have.
Jim (15:53):
All right, we can stop that one at that point.
And, and there's one moreepisode left of the
Manifestation series, and we'llsee you next time for that.
Thanks for being with us, andwe'll see you then.
Hello, and welcome to this episode of Decide on Joy,
podcast coming to you fromHarmony Spiritual Center in Fort
Worth, Texas, with a lot ofairplane noise going on
overhead.
I hope you're not hearing that.
Pjae (00:14):
I hope not either.
We are.
Jim (00:16):
Yes.
They, there's an airbase nearbyand they, they do touch and go
stuff, you know.
And, and that's apparentlyhappening now.
Or a war has started, one or theother.
So something, something or theother,
Pjae (00:30):
you never know.
Jim (00:31):
Yeah.
So.
This is the third of a seriesabout manifestation.
All the episodes titles startwith a D.
We've had one called Discover,which is about discovering who
you are.
We had Decide, which is decidingwhat you want.
(00:52):
And this episode is calledDetermine, to say yes.
Before we get too far into that,maybe just a quick recap of
Pjae (01:05):
Yeah.
So, you know, the first thing,of course, is to discover who
you are.
You know, because we, we, wepretty much as human beings, we
have so many things going on.
We, we put a lot of things onautopilot.
And so every now and again, it'snice to just go back and say,
Okay, who, who, who am I now?
You know, five years have goneby, ten years you've been,
you've been in a relationship,you've had friends, and so
(01:25):
you've been influenced bythings, you've had some
education.
There's a number of things Andwe tend to to just live as
though everything that we weredoing before is still working
for us.
So it's just nice to every nowand again just sit down and just
go, okay, who am I now?
Who do I, you know, who, who,who, who determined and just
say, yeah, this is, this isjust, just discover that this is
(01:45):
who I am in terms of what yourvalues are what you do or don't
want, those kinds of things.
And so Yeah, so just determine,discover, discover, I keep using
the same words, the 3Ds, the4Ds, the first thing is to
discover who you are now, okay,that's all it is.
And then we you know, once wediscover who we are, we decide
(02:06):
what do we want, this is who weare, what do we want, what do we
want out of life, and a lot ofthat has to do with, with
Figuring out when you determinewho you are, who, who, who are
you in terms of who you are andwho people have told you you
should be, like your parents oryour classroom or the, or the,
(02:27):
the, the consciousness aroundus.
So.
It's important that you decidefor yourself, you know, who you
are, discover who that is,decide what you want, moving
forward.
And then, once we do that, justbecause you've determined,
discovered who you are anddecided what you want, doesn't
mean it's going to happen.
(02:48):
So, part of that now is todetermine what you're going to
do.
To say yes to your life.
To what you say you are and whatyou say you want.
You have to determine to say yesfor it.
Jim (02:59):
What, what would saying no to it look like?
Pjae (03:02):
Okay, so let me, let me do it the other way and then I'll
come back to it.
So, if you say yes to your life,and here, cause here's again.
We're creatures of habit.
So I'm going to give an examplefrom my life.
I say I want to, and I've talkedabout this at Harmony, I say it
out loud so that I can be heldaccountable for it.
(03:23):
That I am an author.
And I am writing, right now,I've written a fiction book,
it's a lot of fun, but right nowI want to write a non fiction
book.
Because I'm a coach and acounselor, and I want to take
the information that I know, sothat people can use it, they
don't have to always talk to me,they can look at the book and,
and, and See what they wanna do.
So that's what I have decidedthat I want to do.
(03:44):
That's what I decided now todetermine and say yes to it.
What I also love to do is I'mnot an actor, but I love, I love
acting.
I love movies and television andshows, so it's just easy to go
home, sit on the couch, andwatch show after show after
show.
Okay, that's the habit.
So, in order for me to have thelife that I want, then I have to
(04:06):
say yes to that, and no to thethings that won't let me do it.
Like sitting there, watching aTV show, isn't getting the book
written.
Jim (04:14):
Right.
Pjae (04:15):
So I have to say yes to changing that, and sitting down
and doing what I say, that Iwant to have come from my life.
Then I have to say yes to what'sgoing to allow me to have it in
my life.
Jim (04:26):
Right.
Did that
Pjae (04:26):
make sense?
Jim (04:27):
Yeah.
I was thinking also of more the,the, that you may unconsciously
be saying no to what you havesaid you want, and not realizing
you're doing it.
Pjae (04:43):
Exactly.
I love that.
You're exactly correct.
And so that's just another thingthat you can look at and say,
well, I've said that I wantthis, but here's what I'm doing.
So have I actually, have Iactually decided on this thing
that I say that I want, becauseI'm not going towards it.
So that you're going to have to,you get a chance to an
opportunity to reevaluate it.
(05:04):
And maybe I said I wanted itbecause it was something I
thought I should want, but it'snot actually something I do
want.
Jim (05:11):
And you might be.
Unconsciously saying no to itbecause you don't think you
deserve it, or Ooh,
Pjae (05:17):
good
Jim (05:17):
one.
That whole range of thing.
Pjae (05:19):
That is a good one.
And so again, examining anddiscovering who you are and what
you say you want, when you don'tfind yourself saying yes to it,
that's another opportunity.
Is it because you don't reallywant it, or is it because You
don't think you know how.
You don't think you deserve it.
(05:39):
And this is another, I don'tknow if we've had this
conversation or not, and thismay be one we're going to have
in the future but when you, whenyou, when you say that you want
something, and you, you, youdon't actually go after it
because you don't know how, Thehow, this is crazy, people don't
understand that at all, what areyou talking about?
The how isn't actually yourbusiness.
(06:00):
The what, and saying yes, isyour business.
And then you have to let spirit,God, the divine, whatever, your
intuition, whatever you callthat, guide you.
Because the point is, if youalready knew how to do it, you'd
be there already.
Okay, he'd be there already.
And so it's, it's, it's theexactly the right thing to do or
the natural thing to do to say,I want to be a writer, I want to
(06:24):
be an actor, and then not goafter it because you don't or
you don't think you deserve it.
Or you don't know how to do it.
And if you don't know how to doit, well, then you I'm telling
you, just just say that you doand expect confidently expect
the universe to show you how thehow will start appearing.
But if it's because you don'tthink you deserve it, That's a
whole other set of work that hasto be done.
(06:45):
Yeah,
Jim (06:46):
yeah, that's a separate thing.
That's a whole separate
Pjae (06:47):
thing.
Jim (06:48):
But certainly if you, yeah, if you, if something like that,
using the actor example again,if you just decide that's what
you want to do, well, there arethings, you can take classes,
you can, you know.
Pjae (07:01):
Absolutely.
Go audition for something andget some feedback.
Jim (07:05):
Yeah.
For
Pjae (07:05):
yourself and for others.
Jim (07:07):
Yeah, so there, there are ways to approach that instead of
just saying, waiting, waitingfor it to arrive.
At your doorstep.
Yeah.
Pjae (07:16):
That's not going to
Jim (07:16):
happen that way.
Not usually.
Occasionally to a few people ithas happened.
Very few people.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Did
Pjae (07:24):
that whole getting discovered on the doorstep
thing.
Whatever that is.
Yeah.
No.
It's, it's work.
It's work.
It's the decision and it's workon your part that you can do if
you want to.
Because so we have.
The point that we're making,Jim, is that we have a lot of
power in our lives.
We can determine, we can decide,we can learn new things.
(07:44):
There's a lot of noise going onright now.
That was amazing.
Jim (07:48):
Yeah, I think that one sounds like it's landing on our
heads.
Pjae (07:51):
That one's coming across.
Wow.
Jim (07:53):
I would think so.
The software is good abouteliminating stuff like that.
But I don't know, that one was
Pjae (07:59):
I couldn't hardly hear myself.
It
Jim (08:01):
truly sounded like he had decided to land on the roof.
And I don't know, I constantlysee things, like, YouTube videos
and all, where people aresaying, Oh, I'm so sorry about
the noise, and we can't hear itat all because the microphone's
not picking it up.
And I hope that's the case here.
Pjae (08:16):
We'll find out.
We'll find out, we're going tolook at it.
But anyway I just lost where Iwas going with it.
Jim (08:23):
Yeah, totally, no, no.
gone down the Air Force pathhere, we don't know.
We don't know.
We don't know.
We don't
Pjae (08:30):
know.
But we were just talking aboutthat if, if, you know, if in
fact that you decide that youwant to do something, there's,
there's many ways that you cantest it out, that you can, and,
and if it's, if it's.
That you don't think you deserveit, that is, there, there are
other things that you can do to,to figure that out and say,
well, why don't I think that's,I deserve that?
Is there, is there somethingthat I believe, or is it
(08:51):
something I was told?
And you can begin to, and Ithink, I don't think we've had
this, this podcast yet, but Iwant to, or perhaps we have.
The Partners in Believing, we'vehad that one?
Okay, well, hopefully you guyshave listened to that one.
Go back and listen to it if youhaven't.
It's the reason to have Partnersin Believing.
Because you, you don't, youdon't necessarily know for sure
(09:12):
that you can do something thatyou've decided you want.
And you have people around youthat can support you in moving
forward.
There are a number of peoplethat will, that will be just as
anxious as you and, and willfeed right into the fear that
you have.
So you can, you can determineand decide, hey, I want to be, I
want to surround myself.
It's, it's like being in school.
(09:32):
If you want to get good grades,you can't surround yourself with
people who aren't going toclass.
You have to surround yourselfwith people who are kind of
nerdy and are always studyingand that kind of thing.
It's the same thing with if youdecide you want something and
it's not really coming to youeasily You can decide and
determine to be around peoplewho will believe with you, while
you are growing your belief.
(09:53):
You can grow belief.
You can grow belief.
That's a good thing to be ableto know and to be able to do.
Jim (09:58):
Yeah, and, and, speaking of, we're creatures of habit, it
may not just be the habits,like, sitting on the couch and
watching TV, it might be thehabit of thinking you can't do
something or the habit ofthinking these are my limits and
I need to stay within them.
You know, probably again,something that you, those limits
(10:24):
were perceptions put on you fromoutside.
But I mean, obviously there are.
Some actual limits.
Yes.
Pjae (10:34):
I'm five foot five.
That's not gonna change.
Yes.
That's not gonna change.
If I wanted something that's,that's only gonna go for
somebody who's six 10 it's notgonna be for me.
Jim (10:42):
Yeah.
Probably saying I wanna be abasketball star.
I
Pjae (10:45):
think that's not gonna work out.
Jim (10:46):
Maybe not.
Pjae (10:48):
Unless they lower the baskets, it's not gonna happen.
So, yeah.
And, and, and I really don'tlike the word realistic.
Mm-hmm You know, because peopleuse that a lot.
We gotta be realistic.
Yeah.
Well realistic.
To whom?
To, to, to, to, you know, andthe reality is yours to set.
It's yours to set.
And really, if I'm 5'5 I'm goingto have to use that basketball
(11:09):
analogy, I, I don't, I don'tcare about basketball because I
can't, I can see that I can'treach it.
So it's not really somethingthat, although there are short
people who have, who have just.
Accommodated that and are greatleapers or jumpers or any number
of things or get the ball downthem down the court Yes, so they
they play at another level Andso you can again Wow, I think
(11:34):
the Air Force heard us Justpurposely going right across
sitting on the roof.
We
Jim (11:39):
thought that last one was loud.
This one was more
Pjae (11:42):
Wow Wow Well, this is gonna be a fun part It's a
podcast for all of us.
Jim (11:49):
It is.
If, if you're hearing that, andif you're not, you'll just think
we're crazy and can't
Pjae (11:55):
stay focused.
Jim (11:57):
I'm telling you, it's real.
It is.
It is real.
Pjae (12:01):
The airplanes are real.
Anyway, so, so, so this podcastis about determining that you
will do what it takes.
That's what determination is,that you will do, do what it
takes.
You will say yes to your life.
And when you do, when you do,When you, when you figure out
and discover who you are anddecide on something, I want to
go in this direction, this iswho I want to become, I want to
(12:24):
get my degree, I want arelationship then you have to
determine to do what that takes.
Jim (12:32):
Right.
Pjae (12:32):
Yeah.
Jim (12:33):
I, I think this is something that has come up in
other episodes as well, but howdo you, if you have those voices
or whatever that are, that arecontrolling you and saying, no,
no, no, you need to stay withinyour guardrails here.
Yes.
Pjae (12:50):
Yeah.
I love that word, guardrails.
Yeah.
Jim (12:53):
Or that's, that's not something you need to be doing.
How do you silence that?
It's those.
Pjae (12:59):
Yeah.
And I'm not at the beginning.
I think you, you, it's difficultto, to I'm not gonna use the
word difficult.
But silencing them is not thegoal.
Jim (13:08):
Okay.
The
Pjae (13:09):
goal is to lower them, to quiet them down mm-hmm So that
you can hear something elseabove on top of it.
And so, one of the, the easiestand quickest way, it's not easy,
but the quickest way to do it iswhat we call it.
Affirmations and denials.
And so, and we say affirmationsbecause A comes before D, but
actually when you do it, it'sdenials and affirmations.
(13:30):
Because what happens is, if yousay let's just stay with the
acting thing, that you say,well, I want to be an actor.
And, The voice in your headsays, or the person who put that
in your head says, You don'tlook good enough to be an actor.
The denial is, I actuallyphysically put my hand up.
(13:50):
Like I'm stopping someone, likea stop sign, put my hand up, and
say, That is not true.
Jim (13:55):
I'm sorry you can't see PJ doing
Pjae (13:57):
this.
But I'm actually doing that.
I have my hand up, like a stopsign in someone's face, and
saying That is not true.
So that's the denial.
Deny the truth.
Deny that that is true.
That is not true.
And then you affirm what istrue.
What is true is that I'm goingto take some acting classes and
prove that I actually can or canlearn to do it.
(14:18):
Whatever you need to say toyourself.
But the denial comes first.
Whatever the negative thing isthat is Having you feel like you
can't do something, you denythat, because that's not the
truth for you.
If it's coming up for you, thatyou want to do it, then that is
not the truth for you.
The thing that's just sayingthat you can't do it, that's not
(14:39):
the truth.
The reason why it's coming up isbecause there is something there
that you can do, that you wantto do.
So you could just deny what'scoming up.
That's not true.
What's true is, I can do this,and here's what I can do about
it.
And just start small.
You don't have to, Go and try todo auditions at Stage West when
you've never done anythingbefore in your life.
Maybe you can have a little justget your little friends together
(15:01):
and do some poetry or somethingin front of them.
Just get used to it.
So that's one of the ways inwhich you start to do it.
Just to calm down those, thosevoices in your head.
And we all have them.
We all have voices in our headsthat either approve what we want
to do and really rally us andare rah rahs and cheerleaders
for us.
But more than likely, we havepeople or voices in our heads,
(15:23):
and I say people, because youcould probably pinpoint who that
is in your head.
Your mom, your dad, yourpreacher, a sister, you know,
somebody that was in your class,a teacher.
That told you.
You, you, you have the face inyour, in your mind that told you
that.
And you can tell them, no,you're wrong.
Put your hand in their face.
(15:45):
And say, no, that's not true.
Here's what, here's my truthnow.
That's what we get to do.
That's the power that we have.
Jim (15:53):
All right, we can stop that one at that point.
And, and there's one moreepisode left of the
Manifestation series, and we'llsee you next time for that.
Thanks for being with us, andwe'll see you then.
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