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Shannon Kahrhoff (00:01):
Hello, welcome
to Decoding Clients for
Stylists.
I'm Shannon Kahrhoff.
This week I want to break down alittle bit of how to become a
learner with your personalities.
Everyone takes in informationdifferently.
Some people eat it up.
They want all the informationthey can get to make life
better, to understand things, togrow themselves, and then
there's others that think it's achallenge or it's hard.
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So it's all in how youpersonally run, on how you
handle growth and change intoyour life.
And I want to break it down justa little bit to help you
understand if any of it soundsfamiliar on how to get past it,
how to get through it.
Because our thinking is whatruns our life.
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We have this internal monologuein our head constantly that talk
to ourselves and it's what welisten to.
And I never quite understood howrelevant your thought process in
your head really makes adifference in how your
day-to-day decisions are made inyour life.
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And.
Everyone does it.
Everyone thinks it.
Sometimes you have this verypositive, uplifting voice in
your head that your subconsciousis building you up and
encouraging you to keep growingand changing and becoming.
And then most people have thenegative mindset that says, who
are you?
It doesn't matter what youthink, no one cares, so pay
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attention to your inner voicebecause this decides who you are
and how much potential you feellike you have in yourself.
Sometimes we have to struggleand we have to learn from other
people on the affirmations wehear from others on if we think
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it's possible or not, and it'sso quick.
I was so good at this years agoof.
Focusing on my inner voice,being positive and uplifting,
and encouraging myself, my ownself, how to believe in my
progress, and that I am a verypowerful person.
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But if you don't pay attentionto it, if you have one negative
interaction with someone, oryou're not happy with something
that you did, you can beatyourself up pretty darn fast.
And until you understand, youhave to stop that inner
monologue of breaking yourselfdown and decreasing your
positive.
You have to reinforce thepositive and the productivity of
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who you are, because who else isgoing to do it?
If it's not you?
No one understands what's goinginside your head better than
yourself if you take the time tofigure it out.
So let's break this down.
I'm gonna break it down bypersonalities, because for me,
this is how a defining momentwhere everyone is, and again,
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you have a mixture of differentthings.
So you might have an innerbattle with your inner thoughts
because you have the upliftingpositive mindset, or you might
have the negative mindset andthey might be battling it out.
If you need to go back anddouble check with the past
episodes about the personalitiesand what their strengths and the
weaknesses are on if you're anextrovert or an introvert
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naturally.
So let's start.
My whole thing is, are you ahungry learner?
And if you are, fantastic.
This is what I want everyone toknow is how to learn, how to
grow, how to pick the importantthings for yourself.
Don't be led by anyone elsetrying to tell you.
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This is the most importantthing.
The whole thing is learningwhat's important to you.
So the direct personality, youare a very natural born leader.
You take action without anyonewaiting to give you the
permission to be the leader totake action.
Action is your main word.
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So for a direct, there's atendency to not always
understand that other peoplehave knowledge that you don't.
So you have to open yourself upto possibilities and take in.
Constructive criticism or beingable to learn from everyone.
If it's someone who just had adifferent walk in life or a
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different perspective, keep yourmouth quiet for a little bit and
listen, it's okay to not knoweverything in this world because
we all come from different areasof strengths.
As a direct person, sit there,listen, analyze it for yourself
because you want to just jumpinto something and figure out
what works and doesn't work.
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So you need to acknowledge thatyou have to take information and
from other people, process it alittle bit and figure out if it
fits for you and understand whydifferent information is
important for you.
Because if you naturally want togo in this direction, super
hard, super fast, don't thinkthings through all the way, and
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you have someone beside youwho's already thought a little
bit deeper about something, butis more hesitant in the action
format of life, then you couldunderstand the thinking, and you
might be able to solve a fewproblems without having to bang
your head against the wall witha mistake that you could have
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learned.
This is where mentors come in.
If you trust and rely on thisperson to have the more in depth
thought process of how thingswill work, and you can listen
and learn and consume what youneed, and then make your own
decisions from there.
Great.
But be able to be hungry enoughto learn because we always have
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things we can learn from others.
Everyone has great strengthsthat we can learn from.
So a direct personality, youneed to be careful that your ego
does not get in the way and makeyou think that you know
everything better than anyoneelse, and no one is worth
listening to.
That is a big weakness of thedirect personality.
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Listen, try and learn.
Even it's, if it's just onelittle nugget, you'll be amazed
on how much further you get inyour action by hearing a
different perspective.
You might just round it out alittle bit better.
For the fun loving personality.
Everything is quick action.
Not a lot of deep thought aboutanything, but you're that
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extrovert.
You want to be out there andjust loving on people and being
a part of everything.
The fun, loving you, love tolearn if it's fun, but you have
to understand that just because.
It's not fun, it's not boring.
You can take this information infor yourself, try and make
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yourself focus on it even more.
because there is something inthe nitty gritty details that is
not your strength to understandas well.
That is important because as ahairstylist to know that you
need to sanitize your combs.
That's not fun at all.
But if you don't sanitize it,you're gonna have some dirty,
icky combs that your clients,especially if they're that rule
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maker personality that does notwant that icky comb in their
hair.
That's a boring detail.
But the fun loving, you lovebeing in classes and learning
and being a part of a group ofanything.
So you might totally take it in,consume it all, and you walk out
the door and it's just outtasight outta mind.
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So you need to keep the thoughtin your head of what you just
learned.
Take out something that issomething you really are
interested in how to learn andput into action.
Don't let it just escape yourhead as soon as you walk out the
door because you have a tendencyto.
Flitter on to the next thought,the next process, the next fun,
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and you wind up wasting all thismoney that you just spent on
education, on learning somethingand understanding something.
You just gloss over some of theinformation that you think is
useful, but the details aren'tthere.
So you might miss a reallyimportant detail in the process
because it didn't seem importantto you at the time.
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So my suggestion for the FunLoving is yes, you love the
learning and the growing.
But slow down.
Slow your mind down.
Slow your body down and takenotes, honestly, because it'll
be easier whenever you have thatthought process of, oh, what was
I supposed to do here?
Instead of just guessing.
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It'll take you a lot fartherdown your path of learning and
growing by having that slowingdown process to actually absorb
the new information that you'rereally wanting and you want to
grow from, but you have tounderstand how to make your own
instincts relevant andstrengthen yourself to learn
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this stuff and keep it in yourhead so that it's there a little
bit longer than just as you walkout the door of your class.
So slow down, be consistent, andunderstand how to put this new
information into action asyou're learning it.
Because if you put it into a funway of reference into your life,
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you're more likely to implementit as you walk outside of that
classroom.
When you get back to work oryour life, and you can
automatically think about howyou're going to implement it
yourself, it'll be great.
Okay.
Hold onto your hats little rulemakers, because I know you love
to learn.
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But the difference is you havethis natural instinct that you
think you have to be perfect.
You do not have to be perfect.
No one thinks that you knoweverything.
No one expects you to knoweverything, so slow down.
It's okay to understandyourself, that no one thinks you
have to be perfect.
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It is okay to not knoweverything, to be willing to
learn and to grow.
I know that you have no problemtaking notes and learning the
details and everything likethat.
The next thing you need to knowis how to implement it into your
life.
You do not have to analyze anddetail and timeline it, or pros
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and cons list on everything.
It's okay to understand theinformation that you have and go
out and implement it into yourlife to just put it into action
as quick as you can.
I know the instinct is tonaturally process and
understand, and worst casescenario, layout of what it's
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going to look like in your life,what you're gonna switch out in
your steps and your processes tomake it work.
It's okay.
Just go try it.
Go put it into action and workwith it as you implement it, and
you can buffer it out and figureit out.
It is really okay.
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Steady.
I know that you love your nice,calm routine.
You like things the way it is,because it feels comfortable.
You are all about comfort andease and keeping it simple.
But it's okay to go learnsomething new.
You stepped outside of yourcomfort zone.
You put yourself in a room or inan environment to go learn new
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things.
Bravo, this is fantastic.
Now it's time for you to.
Put this into action.
You don't have to hesitate.
It's only gonna be uncomfortablethe first two times you do it,
and then it's going to be anormal routine.
So you need to understand itmight be uncomfortable the first
time or two that you implementit, but then it becomes a new
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habit.
It'll be easy, it'll bewonderful.
You don't have to worry about itbeing too hard.
Consistently.
Remember, a change or a newhabit only takes 21 days if you
do it consistently.
It'll be okay.
As a steady take the time toallow change into your
comfortable life, it's key.
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It's important.
You don't want to be in the samespot you are now five years down
the road, unless you're totallyhappy with your life and you
don't want more out of yourlife.
I don't know many people thatwould want that.
Everyone hungers for change andgrowth, except for a steady.
But it's okay.
You want to improve.
You don't want to be in the sameskillset that you were when you
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graduated cosmetology schoolbecause that's scary.
You want to grow and change andbecome more.
So if you take little steps hereand there of adding new habits,
when you get this knowledge inyour hands to actually implement
it, put it into your life and itonly hurts for a little bit.
Stretch yourself outside ofwhere you are because life is
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way more than just beingcomfortable your whole life.
You've got to put that littlebit of uncomfortableness so that
you could progress.
You want growth and change.
You want more out of life thanwhere you are right now.
It is okay.
It is safe.
You can go back right into yourcomfortable zone when for you
stretch it.
A little bit of stretch of yourcomfort is key.
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So this is the little simple,just rundown of understanding
how to grow and change, to behungry for that new knowledge.
Because life is all aboutlearning and understanding, and
to me, becoming better.
We are wonderful human beings,but if we don't find a way to
implement new information, whatare we doing in our life The
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direct personality and the funloving, you're automatically,
you want to go jump in and go dostuff.
The direct you are juststeamrolling right through.
So if you can put in that newinformation I learned from
anyone and everyone, you'll bemuch better than just trying to
do a one person show and justget it done the way you think
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it's right.
You need to understand thateveryone has this information to
help you to grow and to becomebetter.
So if you find those powerhousepeople around you in all
different personality types tolearn from, it's going to be so
much better for you personally,for your career, for your
clients.
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It, it's amazing if you juststretch, fun loving, you're that
go-getter.
Also, you don't want theforethought, you just want to
just jump in.
Sometimes the thought isn't evenfully formed in your head and
you're already jumping off anddoing whatever.
Fantastic.
But learning is important andgetting those details are
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important.
So just push through, have funand do better, because when you
grow, you're going to have somuch excitement.
If someone notices that youmoved a little bit farther down
the road in the path, and you'recoming better in every little
format of your life, good job.
Keep it going.
Rule maker, it's okay to not beokay and change things.
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You're growing, you're changing.
You're doing better.
Fantastic.
You're learning.
You don't have to waste all thetime in processing it,
understanding it.
They're giving you step-by-stepdirections on how to get it
done.
Follow it.
You love your list, you loverules.
Go for it.
You just stretch your mind formore rules, more regulations,
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and more information.
Good job.
Keep growing.
You're doing great.
In the steady push yourself tolearn new things and implement
it into your life.
It'll be okay.
It's only uncomfortable for ashort amount of time, and then
you can just push right throughit, learn something, stretch
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your mind in new steps, and thenyou have a new comfort zone.
Good job, you did it.
It's not that hard.
Hopefully you guys got a littlebit out of this.
I know I can be harsh on certainpersonalities and I can be a
little brash at certain times.
That's okay.
I've dealt with all of thesedifferent personalities.
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I have different pieces of thesepersonalities in me.
I feel like that's why I amharder on those personalities
because.
I am very hard on myself.
I know that I have so many flawsand so many things I personally
work on constantly that wheneverI slack, I can feel my flaws
coming up, and attacking me, andit's okay.
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I'm learning.
I'm growing.
I'm human.
This is fantastic.
Keep going and growing Have agreat week and I'll see you next
week.