May 26, 2025 • 25 mins
For those that need more help in understanding which Personality Code you are, here you go!
I break it down with questions to help guide you through a simple choice of one or two. (Think Eye Exam)
This will help you break down your qualities and help you understand what drives you in everyday decisions.
Go check out my Instagram page 'Decoding Clients For Stylists' you will find the diagram for the Personality Code if you need more understanding.
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Shannon Kahrhoff (00:02):
Hello, welcome to Decoding Clients for
Stylists.
I'm Shannon Kahrhoff.
This week I wanna go over theactual details to figure out
which personality you are.
I've assumed everyone has beenable to figure it out with the
past recordings and podcastreleases, but.
I know I'm a person that needsstep by step to break it down,
(00:24):
to make it definite.
This is who I am.
Let's eliminate the questions onwho do you think you are, and
let's go into more specific.
Let's start with, do youremember what the personalities
are?
The personality code we have,the direct, the fun-loving the
rule maker and the steady.
(00:45):
Now if you've been listeningthrough this whole thing and
you've.
You pretty much think you knowwho you are personality wise on
which personality code you are.
Fantastic.
This is wonderful.
This might just solidify thingsa little bit more for you, or
you might be able to pass it onto a friend that you've told
about this podcast and they're alittle bit more in the dark of
(01:09):
which one they think they are.
And remember, most people are amix of different personalities,
so you need to think of whichone you feel like you are at
your happiest moment.
When you are alone by yourselfand you don't have any
influences anywhere, which onereally feels like you?
(01:31):
And if you have any doubts,always ask a friend because.
My friends are pretty honest andblunt, so hopefully most friends
are.
The first thing that I alwayslike to think of with
personalities is the basics onhow you like your details and
how you like to be aroundpeople.
So let's start with the firstone.
(01:51):
Are you an introvert or anextrovert?
Do you like to be by yourself,solo?
Are you happiest?
Clearest when you're byyourself?
Or do you feel like your trueself when you're with a group of
people and you're putting yourenergy and your efforts all
together and you feel likeyourself, your happiest self,
(02:13):
then.
A lot of people, you can look atyour careers, your jobs.
Do you need to be an outgoingperson for your career or are
you more of a introvert, more ofa solo worker, where you do a
lot of things on your own, soyou can do it at your own pace
and your own flow.
You don't have to have someonethere with you holding your hand
(02:35):
to do everything.
You just like going at your ownflow.
So that is introvert.
If you're an extrovert, you liketo be around people, there's a
good chance you're a directpersonality or a fun loving
personality.
'cause these are the ones wholike to be around people.
The direct personality.
They love people, but they liketo be the leader of these people
(02:57):
or in like-minded people as agroup working towards a goal.
The fun-Loving again, loves tobe around groups of people.
They feel like they're the mosthappy, the most fulfilled when
they're around a group.
Now, if you're that introvertthat likes things where you can
focus on your own choices andpath where you feel more at
(03:22):
peace, whenever you are solo,then you are either a rule maker
or a steady.
The rule maker, they like thesolo because.
They are introverted becausethey don't wanna put themselves
out there too far because it'soutside of their comfort zone.
They are more cautious.
So a rule maker can be in agroup, but they're usually the
(03:44):
quieter ones.
They might be the ones in thebackground.
Realizing all the things thatare not in alignment with rules
and restrictions.
The steady, they just are atpeace, that they're going at
their own pace, nice and calm,easygoing, and not having any
expectations from anyone else onwhat needs to be done.
(04:06):
So look at your career.
What, or if you've outright hateyour career because it makes you
stretch yourself outside of yourcomfort zone, that'll tell you
one way or the other.
As a hairstylist.
You can see how you deal withyour clients.
If you like to be the life, theparty in the salon surrounded by
everyone, and you guys work as agroup, then you're gonna
(04:30):
understand yourself a little bitmore.
If you're that stylist that justlikes to have quiet
conversations, one-on-one withyour client or one-on-one with
the stylist in the salon, thatwill be a big clue.
The second one to consider ishow are you with details?
Are you a detail person?
Or go by the seat of your pantskind of a person, and just let
(04:51):
things fall where they go.
If you like details, you want tohave a mission and understand
the in and outs of everything.
You are either a directpersonality or a rule maker
personality.
So if you like details andyou're a people person, you are
the direct person, you are thedirect personality.
(05:15):
If you like details, but you'rean introvert.
You are a rule maker because youlike all the details, but you
don't want to have anyexpectations from anyone else.
You wanna do it at your ownpace.
'cause whatever you do feelsright for yourself.
Now if you are that fly by theseat of your pants kind of
(05:37):
person, details go over yourhead, they're not really that
important.
Then you are on the right sideof the chart and you are the fun
loving personality becausedetails are wasted.
It's not important.
You're just here to have fun andgo with the flow.
Whatever feels right to yourselfor you're that steady
(05:58):
personality.
The steady does not care aboutdetails.
They don't want to have achecklist of anything they have
to do.
They wanna just go with theflow.
The least amount of pressure thebetter for a steady because they
are that peaceful person whojust wants to slide right on
(06:18):
through life.
Nothing too strenuous, nothingtoo boring, and just right in
the middle where they wanna be.
You can see where the people,person, the, and the details and
the no details kind of line youup.
It gives you a little bit moredefinite direction of where you
think you are.
So if you need more, let's keepgoing.
(06:42):
Are you purpose-driven?
If you are a purpose-drivenindividual, most likely you are
that direct or you are that rulemaker.
Because you like to have areason, a goal, a list of things
you need to accomplish to makeyourself your own self, feel
like your life is on purpose,that you have a reason to get up
(07:06):
and get moving in the morning.
You have a list.
If you are the rule maker, youhave goals.
If you have that directpersonality.
Now, if you're not.
Purpose driven you are again,you go with a flow kind of a
person.
You don't need a full ondirection to feel purposeful.
Your job is to just live yourlife the best that feels fit for
(07:28):
that day, and you roll with itand you are that fun loving
personality or that steadypersonality.
Here's a big one for you.
Are you an emotional personalityor an unemotional?
If you are emotional, you care.
You lead with your heart.
You are there for everyone elseon those moments where it makes
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a huge difference to yourself.
You are really being led by yourheart.
You are that fun-lovingpersonality or the steady
personality.
You are all emotion.
Because the fun loving, ifyou're having a bad day, your
energy is going to be a littlebit slower, a little bit
grumpier, and you're gonnastruggle a little bit more to,
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to find the joy of the day.
But you can be easily turnedaround by the next joyful moment
that comes into your life.
And the steady is the same.
You want easygoing, go with theflow, but you are super
emotional.
It affects you if someone comesand yells at you.
You don't wanna be around peoplethat argue and complain.
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You wanna be around the calm,easygoing, wonderful people.
That doesn't cause you anygrief.
If you are around sad people.
It affects your energypersonally.
So emotions are your triggersfor yourself.
So if you're emotional.
You are more likely to be moreof a fun-loving or a steady
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personality.
Now, these non-emotionalpersonalities, the direct or the
rule maker, doesn't mean you area cold, heartless person.
It just means that you are notled by your emotions.
You are purposeful.
You have your own strong willthat is pushing you.
You are not affected as much bysomeone else's emotion.
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If an emotional, fun-lovingperson comes to a direct
personality, that directpersonality will feel.
Unsettled because they'rewasting time fussing about some
stupid emotion instead of justgetting on with a show and
getting your job done.
So you can see why directpersonalities as a leader might
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have issues with an emotional,fun loving, or a steady
personality.
You have to look outside ofyourself to understand that just
because you don't make decisionswith your heart as much.
It's more of your mind that youhave to relax a little bit more
on your expectation of thoseemotional personalities.
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So if you are not emotional, youhave emotions, but it's not
something that controls you, youdo not make decisions because of
your emotions of a good day or abad day, you just let it slide.
Emotions are not something thatconcerns you.
Your purpose is on track.
So if you have a bad day, youbreak something, you're in a car
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accident, you're not gonna sitthere crying, upset all day.
You're gonna shake it off andget moving.
So you can get to your meetingat work.
You're going to go work on yourto-do list that needs to get
done because you just shake itoff and get moving.
You are not controlled by youremotions, and that is the direct
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or the rule maker.
Is this making a little bit moresense, figuring out who you are
and how you are directedpersonally towards different
things.
Can you tell if you're more ofthe, more of the driven
personalities, more of the listsand to-dos, or are you more of
the easygoing, flowing,emotional people?
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This usually right here is thepoint where you're like, oh, so
they're not cold hearted,they're just not driven by your
emotions.
That makes more sense and why.
The fun loving in the steadymight have more ups and downs in
their day because it justdepends on their emotional flow
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for that day.
If everything's going in theirdirection that they want it to
go, or if they're having hurdlesand some problems, they have to
figure out.
Are you optimistic if you're anoptimistic personality or a
pessimist?
This is a big one.
The direct and the fun-lovingare more optimistic.
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Naturally, they will see thebright side of any subject just
because it's how they are.
Driven.
That is how they are made.
You automatically think theglass is half full, so let's get
moving.
The possibilities are stillthere.
We can fix this situation, nobiggie.
Or are you a pessimist?
A rule maker and a steady aremore inclined to see the
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problems of the situation.
The rule maker and the steadyautomatically sees the glass
half empty or.
Empty.
I made a joke with one of myclients one time because she's a
little bit more on thepessimistic mindset, and I said,
it's not only that you see aglass half empty, you're waiting
(12:34):
for someone to come knock overyour glass and spill the water
all over your computer and yourcomputer fries.
So it's not just that they seethe pessimistic mindset, they're
waiting for the world to crashand burn because that's just
what they expect.
Especially the rule maker, theywill see things in the most dire
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situations because if theyexpect the worst, they know how
to plan for that, but they arenot inclined naturally to think
of the bright side of howwonderful it can go, because.
Why do you have to plan forthat?
They're totally thrown.
If everything goes rainbows andsunshine and everything is great
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for them, they're taken aback'cause they're prepping for the
worst case scenario.
The steady, they also thinkpessimistically because that's
just how their energy is.
But the steady is also anemotional person who is
pessimistic.
So think of Eeyore.
In Winnie the Pooh, Winnie thePooh is that steady mindset.
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It's easygoing, slow moving, butvery emotional and expects the
worst thing to happen.
It's just how they are.
So if you think that you are anemotional and you are
pessimistic, good chance, you'rea steady personality.
And then you just have to figureout your strengths and your
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weaknesses and go from there.
Here's another humdinger.
Are you outspoken or are yousoft spoken?
Very easygoing.
You don't wanna ruffle anyfeathers.
You don't want to announce thatyou're here that is soft spoken.
So if you are that outspokenpersonality, you are either a
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direct or a fun loving.
A direct, you are that outspokenperson because you're that
natural born leader who thinksthat if you don't step forward
and take action, no one elsewill.
Or they might not do it theexact way that you think it
needs to happen, but you canwork with other people who step
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forward.
Also, you respect people who areoutspoken and have a plan to get
started.
You just, that action step isall for you.
The outgoing also is the funloving personality.
They want to go and have fun.
They want to go find theirpeople and lead them to the
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party to have fun to you arenaturally outspoken in every
aspect of your life.
You like to share every thoughtin your head, every action that
you achieved or that you're inthe middle of doing, or your
ideas you love to talk about,your ideas of what you wanna do
for the day, or how it couldmake it even better.
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Now the soft spoken, the rulemaker, they are usually so in
their head trying to figure outall the steps and the list of
things that they need to getaccomplished or how to solve the
problem.
They're in their mind, so theyare more soft spoken.
They reserve their informationuntil they feel prepared to talk
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it out.
The steady is also soft spoken.
They will stay quiet becauseit's more comfortable.
They will speak up if they haveto or if they have to play the
peacekeeper, but their firstinclination is not to speak up
and make people aware of themunless they have to or if
someone asks them to actually dosomething.
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So who are you?
So what do you think is yourstrength, your biggest strength?
Are you purpose driven,non-emotional, optimistic, and
outspoken?
You are a direct, if you are anextrovert, you need people and
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you don't really care aboutdetails.
You wanna just go with the flow.
You are more artistic, you'reemotional, and you are a
fun-loving personality.
That rule maker, you are thatintrovert.
You need quiet so you can thinkthings, through.
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You love details.
You are that purpose drivenperson.
Who wants to understand things.
You're constantly looking forthings to understand, to relate
to, to get that grasp on things.
But you are unemotional.
You're not driven by your heart.
You are very brain focused.
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You are focused on thinkingthings through being logical so
that you're not missinganything, but you are soft
spoken.
You are that rule maker.
The steady you are an introvert,you really need quiet.
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That is how you feel, calm andpeaceful, and you don't have any
expectations because you arethat emotional person that needs
to step away from all those,those non-emotional people that
have expectations and problemsfor you, but you are a natural
pessimist.
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And you need to understand thatyou're just naturally drawn that
way, but you need to find thatfun.
I hope this actually helps youunderstand a few things about
yourself and who you are.
What really?
Makes you the person that youare.
Now, remember, you're a mix ofthese personalities, so you can
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feel attracted to differentones.
You could be a fun lovingperson, but steady.
You wanna be around people, butyou need your peace and quiet.
Also, you can be.
You can be a direct personalityand that rule maker you will be
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unstoppable because you can beorganized and direct and goal
driven and orderly.
Just figure this stuff out andunderstand.
So just ask yourself, do youlike being around people or are
you better off not aroundpeople.
Do you need that quiet or do youfeel whole and happy whenever
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you're around a group of people?
How do you spend your weekends?
Do you need that quiet time athome to recover from a busy,
time at work?
Or do you need those weekends togo out and surround yourself
with people and be the life ofthe party?
Are you strong-willed?
Are you more artistic?
Go with the flow kind of apersonality and the basic one,
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are you optimistic naturally, orpessimistic?
If you actually pay attention toyour thoughts along the way, you
can figure out which one youreally are.
Are you more bubbly and happy orare you planning for apocalypse?
Some people just never thinkthis stuff through.
I will say I never thought thisstuff through before I realized
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and dug deep into thesepersonalities and understood why
it's important to know this.
If this is your client sittingin your chair and you know that
they are a, either a rule makeror a steady, you have to.
Consciously frame your wordsinto a positive mindset, not to
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their natural inclination of thepessimistic, the worst case
scenario.
'cause they will ask youquestions probably about worst
case scenarios.
But this is about ourselves.
This is about digging deep intowho we are, to understand how
you run.
Because if you've never lookeddeep into yourself, you might
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compare yourself to yoursibling, your best friend, to
your coworkers, and look atyourself and be like, why don't
I feel like that?
Why can't I motivate myself thesame way they do?
But if you understand and breakit down one by one, go over
these questions and write'emdown.
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And if it's the ones that gaveyou the personality, write'em
down.
Figure out which one you are andsee what direction really feels
like you.
And if you write down eachpersonality that you related to,
that's probably your mixtures ofpersonalities because it will
help you understand why there'sparts of yourself that might.
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Be selective.
Depending on the moment youmight thrive in the salon or in
a group setting of a job, youmight thrive there.
But you might have the times onthe weekends where you need that
solitude or those evenings whereyou need that quiet time to
reset yourself.
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You need that little bit of timeto make yourself ready for the
next day.
It's totally okay.
Take the time to figure out whoyou are.
'cause once you figure outyourself, you'll understand why
you react to people a certainway.
Why you can change your thinkinga little bit so that you can be
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a little bit more understandingto others that are your
opposite.
Just like the emotional and thenon-emotional, the emotional,
think that the non-emotional arecold hearted people who don't
understand, who just think aboutgetting things done and the
non-emotional.
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Can't relate to the emotional'cause.
They want them just to stopcrying or screaming and being
upset and just go get the jobdone.
It's a two-way street.
If you can't understand how torelate to someone else, it makes
life a little bit morechallenging.
So take the time.
Write out a few things.
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Try to understand who you are,why you think certain way, why
you feel happy in certainsituations, and you just
struggle in others.
It will make a difference on howyou relate to other people and
how you can take it a little biteasier on yourself.
It doesn't mean you're stuck inthose portals, in those spots.
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You don't have to stay stuck inthat direct box.
You can learn how to strengthenyourself, to become a better
listener, to understand how tobe there for an emotional
colleague friend, or client.
As a rule maker, you canunderstand how to put yourself
out of your own box that you putyourself in, and stretch
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yourself to go out there andtalk more, to be a little bit
more easygoing about otherpeople's faults and not
following the rules as much,even though it might drive you
crazy and the steadypersonality, it's okay to be
yourself, but you don't have to.
Just be in your box or at yourdesk.
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It is okay to go talk tosomeone, step outside your
comfort zone and make a friendgo find something in common with
someone.
Life is a lot more fun when youget outside of the box, you
seclude yourself in to become alittle bit more.
Life is about learning, so havefun.
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If you have any questions, youcan always go to my Instagram
page for'Decoding Clients ForStylists', and I have the
diagram of the Personality Codeso you can understand what I am
speaking about.
I am working on a booklet foreveryone to help you understand
the graphics of the personalitycode, so that for the people
(24:39):
that need to see it in person,hold it in your hands, or see it
on the screen of understandingthe personalities.
I'm working on this booklet thatI will, offer free very soon.
It's still a work in progress.
I will be able to send it to youthrough an email, I will let you
know when it's available.
If you need to understand whatthe diagram looks like for your
(25:03):
own mind, please go to myInstagram'Decoding Clients For
Stylists', and you can go findit.
I have a few of my episodelittle snippets on there too,
but please feel free to followand go so you can understand
exactly what it is and visualizeit a little bit better.
I hope that helps you for today.
(25:25):
I wanted to break it down just alittle bit more, make it a
little bit more understandablefor everyone to find the black
and whites of everything.
That's all I have for today.
If you have any questions, feelfree to contact me anytime.
It's in my link.
You can contact me throughInstagram.
I'm Shannon Kahrhroff.
Have a great week.
Bye.
Hello, welcome to Decoding Clients for
Stylists.
I'm Shannon Kahrhoff.
This week I wanna go over theactual details to figure out
which personality you are.
I've assumed everyone has beenable to figure it out with the
past recordings and podcastreleases, but.
I know I'm a person that needsstep by step to break it down,
(00:24):
to make it definite.
This is who I am.
Let's eliminate the questions onwho do you think you are, and
let's go into more specific.
Let's start with, do youremember what the personalities
are?
The personality code we have,the direct, the fun-loving the
rule maker and the steady.
(00:45):
Now if you've been listeningthrough this whole thing and
you've.
You pretty much think you knowwho you are personality wise on
which personality code you are.
Fantastic.
This is wonderful.
This might just solidify thingsa little bit more for you, or
you might be able to pass it onto a friend that you've told
about this podcast and they're alittle bit more in the dark of
(01:09):
which one they think they are.
And remember, most people are amix of different personalities,
so you need to think of whichone you feel like you are at
your happiest moment.
When you are alone by yourselfand you don't have any
influences anywhere, which onereally feels like you?
(01:31):
And if you have any doubts,always ask a friend because.
My friends are pretty honest andblunt, so hopefully most friends
are.
The first thing that I alwayslike to think of with
personalities is the basics onhow you like your details and
how you like to be aroundpeople.
So let's start with the firstone.
(01:51):
Are you an introvert or anextrovert?
Do you like to be by yourself,solo?
Are you happiest?
Clearest when you're byyourself?
Or do you feel like your trueself when you're with a group of
people and you're putting yourenergy and your efforts all
together and you feel likeyourself, your happiest self,
(02:13):
then.
A lot of people, you can look atyour careers, your jobs.
Do you need to be an outgoingperson for your career or are
you more of a introvert, more ofa solo worker, where you do a
lot of things on your own, soyou can do it at your own pace
and your own flow.
You don't have to have someonethere with you holding your hand
(02:35):
to do everything.
You just like going at your ownflow.
So that is introvert.
If you're an extrovert, you liketo be around people, there's a
good chance you're a directpersonality or a fun loving
personality.
'cause these are the ones wholike to be around people.
The direct personality.
They love people, but they liketo be the leader of these people
(02:57):
or in like-minded people as agroup working towards a goal.
The fun-Loving again, loves tobe around groups of people.
They feel like they're the mosthappy, the most fulfilled when
they're around a group.
Now, if you're that introvertthat likes things where you can
focus on your own choices andpath where you feel more at
(03:22):
peace, whenever you are solo,then you are either a rule maker
or a steady.
The rule maker, they like thesolo because.
They are introverted becausethey don't wanna put themselves
out there too far because it'soutside of their comfort zone.
They are more cautious.
So a rule maker can be in agroup, but they're usually the
(03:44):
quieter ones.
They might be the ones in thebackground.
Realizing all the things thatare not in alignment with rules
and restrictions.
The steady, they just are atpeace, that they're going at
their own pace, nice and calm,easygoing, and not having any
expectations from anyone else onwhat needs to be done.
(04:06):
So look at your career.
What, or if you've outright hateyour career because it makes you
stretch yourself outside of yourcomfort zone, that'll tell you
one way or the other.
As a hairstylist.
You can see how you deal withyour clients.
If you like to be the life, theparty in the salon surrounded by
everyone, and you guys work as agroup, then you're gonna
(04:30):
understand yourself a little bitmore.
If you're that stylist that justlikes to have quiet
conversations, one-on-one withyour client or one-on-one with
the stylist in the salon, thatwill be a big clue.
The second one to consider ishow are you with details?
Are you a detail person?
Or go by the seat of your pantskind of a person, and just let
(04:51):
things fall where they go.
If you like details, you want tohave a mission and understand
the in and outs of everything.
You are either a directpersonality or a rule maker
personality.
So if you like details andyou're a people person, you are
the direct person, you are thedirect personality.
(05:15):
If you like details, but you'rean introvert.
You are a rule maker because youlike all the details, but you
don't want to have anyexpectations from anyone else.
You wanna do it at your ownpace.
'cause whatever you do feelsright for yourself.
Now if you are that fly by theseat of your pants kind of
(05:37):
person, details go over yourhead, they're not really that
important.
Then you are on the right sideof the chart and you are the fun
loving personality becausedetails are wasted.
It's not important.
You're just here to have fun andgo with the flow.
Whatever feels right to yourselfor you're that steady
(05:58):
personality.
The steady does not care aboutdetails.
They don't want to have achecklist of anything they have
to do.
They wanna just go with theflow.
The least amount of pressure thebetter for a steady because they
are that peaceful person whojust wants to slide right on
(06:18):
through life.
Nothing too strenuous, nothingtoo boring, and just right in
the middle where they wanna be.
You can see where the people,person, the, and the details and
the no details kind of line youup.
It gives you a little bit moredefinite direction of where you
think you are.
So if you need more, let's keepgoing.
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Are you purpose-driven?
If you are a purpose-drivenindividual, most likely you are
that direct or you are that rulemaker.
Because you like to have areason, a goal, a list of things
you need to accomplish to makeyourself your own self, feel
like your life is on purpose,that you have a reason to get up
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and get moving in the morning.
You have a list.
If you are the rule maker, youhave goals.
If you have that directpersonality.
Now, if you're not.
Purpose driven you are again,you go with a flow kind of a
person.
You don't need a full ondirection to feel purposeful.
Your job is to just live yourlife the best that feels fit for
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that day, and you roll with itand you are that fun loving
personality or that steadypersonality.
Here's a big one for you.
Are you an emotional personalityor an unemotional?
If you are emotional, you care.
You lead with your heart.
You are there for everyone elseon those moments where it makes
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a huge difference to yourself.
You are really being led by yourheart.
You are that fun-lovingpersonality or the steady
personality.
You are all emotion.
Because the fun loving, ifyou're having a bad day, your
energy is going to be a littlebit slower, a little bit
grumpier, and you're gonnastruggle a little bit more to,
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to find the joy of the day.
But you can be easily turnedaround by the next joyful moment
that comes into your life.
And the steady is the same.
You want easygoing, go with theflow, but you are super
emotional.
It affects you if someone comesand yells at you.
You don't wanna be around peoplethat argue and complain.
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You wanna be around the calm,easygoing, wonderful people.
That doesn't cause you anygrief.
If you are around sad people.
It affects your energypersonally.
So emotions are your triggersfor yourself.
So if you're emotional.
You are more likely to be moreof a fun-loving or a steady
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personality.
Now, these non-emotionalpersonalities, the direct or the
rule maker, doesn't mean you area cold, heartless person.
It just means that you are notled by your emotions.
You are purposeful.
You have your own strong willthat is pushing you.
You are not affected as much bysomeone else's emotion.
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If an emotional, fun-lovingperson comes to a direct
personality, that directpersonality will feel.
Unsettled because they'rewasting time fussing about some
stupid emotion instead of justgetting on with a show and
getting your job done.
So you can see why directpersonalities as a leader might
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have issues with an emotional,fun loving, or a steady
personality.
You have to look outside ofyourself to understand that just
because you don't make decisionswith your heart as much.
It's more of your mind that youhave to relax a little bit more
on your expectation of thoseemotional personalities.
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So if you are not emotional, youhave emotions, but it's not
something that controls you, youdo not make decisions because of
your emotions of a good day or abad day, you just let it slide.
Emotions are not something thatconcerns you.
Your purpose is on track.
So if you have a bad day, youbreak something, you're in a car
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accident, you're not gonna sitthere crying, upset all day.
You're gonna shake it off andget moving.
So you can get to your meetingat work.
You're going to go work on yourto-do list that needs to get
done because you just shake itoff and get moving.
You are not controlled by youremotions, and that is the direct
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or the rule maker.
Is this making a little bit moresense, figuring out who you are
and how you are directedpersonally towards different
things.
Can you tell if you're more ofthe, more of the driven
personalities, more of the listsand to-dos, or are you more of
the easygoing, flowing,emotional people?
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This usually right here is thepoint where you're like, oh, so
they're not cold hearted,they're just not driven by your
emotions.
That makes more sense and why.
The fun loving in the steadymight have more ups and downs in
their day because it justdepends on their emotional flow
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for that day.
If everything's going in theirdirection that they want it to
go, or if they're having hurdlesand some problems, they have to
figure out.
Are you optimistic if you're anoptimistic personality or a
pessimist?
This is a big one.
The direct and the fun-lovingare more optimistic.
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Naturally, they will see thebright side of any subject just
because it's how they are.
Driven.
That is how they are made.
You automatically think theglass is half full, so let's get
moving.
The possibilities are stillthere.
We can fix this situation, nobiggie.
Or are you a pessimist?
A rule maker and a steady aremore inclined to see the
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problems of the situation.
The rule maker and the steadyautomatically sees the glass
half empty or.
Empty.
I made a joke with one of myclients one time because she's a
little bit more on thepessimistic mindset, and I said,
it's not only that you see aglass half empty, you're waiting
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for someone to come knock overyour glass and spill the water
all over your computer and yourcomputer fries.
So it's not just that they seethe pessimistic mindset, they're
waiting for the world to crashand burn because that's just
what they expect.
Especially the rule maker, theywill see things in the most dire
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situations because if theyexpect the worst, they know how
to plan for that, but they arenot inclined naturally to think
of the bright side of howwonderful it can go, because.
Why do you have to plan forthat?
They're totally thrown.
If everything goes rainbows andsunshine and everything is great
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for them, they're taken aback'cause they're prepping for the
worst case scenario.
The steady, they also thinkpessimistically because that's
just how their energy is.
But the steady is also anemotional person who is
pessimistic.
So think of Eeyore.
In Winnie the Pooh, Winnie thePooh is that steady mindset.
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It's easygoing, slow moving, butvery emotional and expects the
worst thing to happen.
It's just how they are.
So if you think that you are anemotional and you are
pessimistic, good chance, you'rea steady personality.
And then you just have to figureout your strengths and your
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weaknesses and go from there.
Here's another humdinger.
Are you outspoken or are yousoft spoken?
Very easygoing.
You don't wanna ruffle anyfeathers.
You don't want to announce thatyou're here that is soft spoken.
So if you are that outspokenpersonality, you are either a
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direct or a fun loving.
A direct, you are that outspokenperson because you're that
natural born leader who thinksthat if you don't step forward
and take action, no one elsewill.
Or they might not do it theexact way that you think it
needs to happen, but you canwork with other people who step
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forward.
Also, you respect people who areoutspoken and have a plan to get
started.
You just, that action step isall for you.
The outgoing also is the funloving personality.
They want to go and have fun.
They want to go find theirpeople and lead them to the
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party to have fun to you arenaturally outspoken in every
aspect of your life.
You like to share every thoughtin your head, every action that
you achieved or that you're inthe middle of doing, or your
ideas you love to talk about,your ideas of what you wanna do
for the day, or how it couldmake it even better.
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Now the soft spoken, the rulemaker, they are usually so in
their head trying to figure outall the steps and the list of
things that they need to getaccomplished or how to solve the
problem.
They're in their mind, so theyare more soft spoken.
They reserve their informationuntil they feel prepared to talk
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it out.
The steady is also soft spoken.
They will stay quiet becauseit's more comfortable.
They will speak up if they haveto or if they have to play the
peacekeeper, but their firstinclination is not to speak up
and make people aware of themunless they have to or if
someone asks them to actually dosomething.
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So who are you?
So what do you think is yourstrength, your biggest strength?
Are you purpose driven,non-emotional, optimistic, and
outspoken?
You are a direct, if you are anextrovert, you need people and
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you don't really care aboutdetails.
You wanna just go with the flow.
You are more artistic, you'reemotional, and you are a
fun-loving personality.
That rule maker, you are thatintrovert.
You need quiet so you can thinkthings, through.
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You love details.
You are that purpose drivenperson.
Who wants to understand things.
You're constantly looking forthings to understand, to relate
to, to get that grasp on things.
But you are unemotional.
You're not driven by your heart.
You are very brain focused.
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You are focused on thinkingthings through being logical so
that you're not missinganything, but you are soft
spoken.
You are that rule maker.
The steady you are an introvert,you really need quiet.
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That is how you feel, calm andpeaceful, and you don't have any
expectations because you arethat emotional person that needs
to step away from all those,those non-emotional people that
have expectations and problemsfor you, but you are a natural
pessimist.
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And you need to understand thatyou're just naturally drawn that
way, but you need to find thatfun.
I hope this actually helps youunderstand a few things about
yourself and who you are.
What really?
Makes you the person that youare.
Now, remember, you're a mix ofthese personalities, so you can
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feel attracted to differentones.
You could be a fun lovingperson, but steady.
You wanna be around people, butyou need your peace and quiet.
Also, you can be.
You can be a direct personalityand that rule maker you will be
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unstoppable because you can beorganized and direct and goal
driven and orderly.
Just figure this stuff out andunderstand.
So just ask yourself, do youlike being around people or are
you better off not aroundpeople.
Do you need that quiet or do youfeel whole and happy whenever
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you're around a group of people?
How do you spend your weekends?
Do you need that quiet time athome to recover from a busy,
time at work?
Or do you need those weekends togo out and surround yourself
with people and be the life ofthe party?
Are you strong-willed?
Are you more artistic?
Go with the flow kind of apersonality and the basic one,
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are you optimistic naturally, orpessimistic?
If you actually pay attention toyour thoughts along the way, you
can figure out which one youreally are.
Are you more bubbly and happy orare you planning for apocalypse?
Some people just never thinkthis stuff through.
I will say I never thought thisstuff through before I realized
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and dug deep into thesepersonalities and understood why
it's important to know this.
If this is your client sittingin your chair and you know that
they are a, either a rule makeror a steady, you have to.
Consciously frame your wordsinto a positive mindset, not to
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their natural inclination of thepessimistic, the worst case
scenario.
'cause they will ask youquestions probably about worst
case scenarios.
But this is about ourselves.
This is about digging deep intowho we are, to understand how
you run.
Because if you've never lookeddeep into yourself, you might
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compare yourself to yoursibling, your best friend, to
your coworkers, and look atyourself and be like, why don't
I feel like that?
Why can't I motivate myself thesame way they do?
But if you understand and breakit down one by one, go over
these questions and write'emdown.
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And if it's the ones that gaveyou the personality, write'em
down.
Figure out which one you are andsee what direction really feels
like you.
And if you write down eachpersonality that you related to,
that's probably your mixtures ofpersonalities because it will
help you understand why there'sparts of yourself that might.
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Be selective.
Depending on the moment youmight thrive in the salon or in
a group setting of a job, youmight thrive there.
But you might have the times onthe weekends where you need that
solitude or those evenings whereyou need that quiet time to
reset yourself.
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You need that little bit of timeto make yourself ready for the
next day.
It's totally okay.
Take the time to figure out whoyou are.
'cause once you figure outyourself, you'll understand why
you react to people a certainway.
Why you can change your thinkinga little bit so that you can be
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a little bit more understandingto others that are your
opposite.
Just like the emotional and thenon-emotional, the emotional,
think that the non-emotional arecold hearted people who don't
understand, who just think aboutgetting things done and the
non-emotional.
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Can't relate to the emotional'cause.
They want them just to stopcrying or screaming and being
upset and just go get the jobdone.
It's a two-way street.
If you can't understand how torelate to someone else, it makes
life a little bit morechallenging.
So take the time.
Write out a few things.
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Try to understand who you are,why you think certain way, why
you feel happy in certainsituations, and you just
struggle in others.
It will make a difference on howyou relate to other people and
how you can take it a little biteasier on yourself.
It doesn't mean you're stuck inthose portals, in those spots.
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You don't have to stay stuck inthat direct box.
You can learn how to strengthenyourself, to become a better
listener, to understand how tobe there for an emotional
colleague friend, or client.
As a rule maker, you canunderstand how to put yourself
out of your own box that you putyourself in, and stretch
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yourself to go out there andtalk more, to be a little bit
more easygoing about otherpeople's faults and not
following the rules as much,even though it might drive you
crazy and the steadypersonality, it's okay to be
yourself, but you don't have to.
Just be in your box or at yourdesk.
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It is okay to go talk tosomeone, step outside your
comfort zone and make a friendgo find something in common with
someone.
Life is a lot more fun when youget outside of the box, you
seclude yourself in to become alittle bit more.
Life is about learning, so havefun.
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If you have any questions, youcan always go to my Instagram
page for'Decoding Clients ForStylists', and I have the
diagram of the Personality Codeso you can understand what I am
speaking about.
I am working on a booklet foreveryone to help you understand
the graphics of the personalitycode, so that for the people
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that need to see it in person,hold it in your hands, or see it
on the screen of understandingthe personalities.
I'm working on this booklet thatI will, offer free very soon.
It's still a work in progress.
I will be able to send it to youthrough an email, I will let you
know when it's available.
If you need to understand whatthe diagram looks like for your
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own mind, please go to myInstagram'Decoding Clients For
Stylists', and you can go findit.
I have a few of my episodelittle snippets on there too,
but please feel free to followand go so you can understand
exactly what it is and visualizeit a little bit better.
I hope that helps you for today.
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I wanted to break it down just alittle bit more, make it a
little bit more understandablefor everyone to find the black
and whites of everything.
That's all I have for today.
If you have any questions, feelfree to contact me anytime.
It's in my link.
You can contact me throughInstagram.
I'm Shannon Kahrhroff.
Have a great week.
Bye.
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