If you’re someone who always takes the blame, analyzes your every move, and bends over backward to keep the peace, you’re not just self-aware. You might be stuck in a trauma response.
In this powerful solo episode, I dive into the often-overlooked shadow side of the “take full responsibility” narrative in the self-development world. For those of us with complex trauma, over-responsibility is not growth—it’s survival.
We’ll explore:
Why taking too much ownership can be just as harmful as taking none
How your nervous system may be replaying childhood patterns of shame and overfunctioning
The importance of holding others accountable in relationships
Why true healing involves both self-reflection and naming what’s harmful
How to communicate your needs without internalizing all the blame
This is a reclamation of nuance, boundaries, and self-trust. You’re not crazy, dramatic, or “too much”—you’re protecting something sacred. Let’s stop over-owning and start seeing the full picture.
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Top Episode Quotes:
“Being overly responsible is a trauma response—not a virtue.”
“The personal development world glorifies full ownership, but sometimes, that’s not healing—it’s harmful.”
“If the other person isn’t changing, your inner work won’t stop the cycle.”
“When only one person takes responsibility, that’s not growth—it’s imbalance.”
“Sometimes your control isn’t dysfunction. It’s a desperate need for safety.”
Over-responsibility, Trauma response, Complex trauma healing, Personal growth, Relationship triggers, Emotional boundaries, Self-blame, Healing shame, Nervous system awareness, Somatic healing, Heart Space community, Deep Within podcast
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