February 27, 2024 • 37 mins
Have you ever found strength in the midst of sorrow? Join us as Sam, a coaching client, shares her touching story of rediscovering self-love and finding harmony after the loss of her beloved husband. Opening up about her personal evolution, Sam delves into the importance of self-care, the wisdom of listening to your intuition amidst goal setting, and how acknowledging gratitude for our physical selves can transform criticizing our bodies to loving them, perceived "flaws" and all.
I reflect on my own path to body transformation, emphasizing the joy of cherishing the body's capabilities and celebrating health milestones, regardless of the numbers on the scale. The power of a positive mindset, the art of appreciation, and the efficacy of visualization are unravelled, laying out a roadmap to a more fulfilling journey toward achieving our physical goals.
We wrap up this heart-to-heart by emphasizing the deep healing that comes with understanding the layers of emotion that often accompany self-judgement, and the therapeutic process of self-parenting. We also discuss loneliness, the significance of self-assurance, and the liberating realization that self-validation is the bedrock of independence. Engage with our Delicious Alignment community for more inspirational stories like Sam's and tune in to our next episode featuring Eric Olsen, who shares how he released 200 pounds by following the teachings of Abraham Hicks.
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Rhonda Ryder (00:00):
through the calibration you get to this
feeling, say the emotion ofsafety, for instance.
I just feel so safe and secure.
We just sit and like breathethat in and just like lean into
that and feel into that emotion.
Right, right, was that yourexperience?
Sam (00:21):
Yes, just yes, just to like , even like to hug myself.
You know it's like because I,you know I'm a widow, I don't
have people to talk to every daylike I used to, or you know the
hugs and the holding hands andthe kisses, and so it's like,
(00:44):
really it's like not only is itmy job to go back and parent all
those other different ages ofme, but also to take care of
myself right now and to go.
You know what?
You're not alone.
You are totally fine.
Rhonda Ryder (01:01):
Welcome to the Delicious Alignment and the Art
of Abundance podcast.
We cover topics related tohealth, wealth and happiness
from a spiritual andmetaphysical point of view.
I'm excited to share thisepisode with you today.
It's a conversation with one ofmy coaching clients who I
haven't spoken to in a while.
Her name is Sam.
(01:21):
In this short conversation, wetouch on quite a few topics,
including learning how to loveand accept your body, the
difference between goal settingand following your intuition,
thanking those quote unquoteextra pounds because they have
actually served us in some way,and the beauty and grace of
(01:44):
falling in love with yourself.
We also touched upon thejourney Sam has been on after
her husband of 23 yearstransitioned two and a half
years ago and what that's beenlike for her.
A really touching conversation,in my opinion.
It definitely moved me and Ihope you enjoy it.
(02:06):
Great to see you again, sam.
It's good to see you.
Yeah, how's everything beengoing?
Sam (02:14):
It's been going good it's been.
You know I have somefrustrations, but overall
everything is great.
Rhonda Ryder (02:24):
It's been a little bit since we chatted, so I
wanted to ask you, you know,what you liked about the
calibration process, what youliked about working with me,
what you got out of coachingwith me so far things like that.
Sam (02:45):
I think one of the biggest things it's helped my digestion.
I was having a lot of likepains and things and all of that
has gone away.
I don't know why it started andI'm just grateful I don't have
those physical symptoms anymore.
I can't say I'm alwayshigh-vibing I wish I was, but I
(03:13):
do.
It is easier for me now to likeget back into that.
You know, when I am feelingfrustrated, to remember that, to
take breaths and you know, justlet everything go.
(03:33):
Yeah, yes, and I think one ofthe biggest things is that I was
so impressed with your book andthe sessions that I had with
you is that I brought a coupleof them to this community, a
spiritual community where I goto.
It's called Intelakia, and theyliked the book so much that
(03:54):
they started a group.
But unbeknownst to me, theystarted a group.
I went around the world andcame back like eight weeks later
.
Wow, you guys look great andthey're saying you know, they
have this.
They had this new group thatthey started.
It's mostly all women and it'sjust, it's a nice support and
(04:19):
it's local and I like that.
It's like gosh.
I brought this book to them andthey just kind of went with it.
Rhonda Ryder (04:27):
So are they studying the book?
Are they reading?
Like having a book study, yeah,yeah.
Sam (04:32):
Well, what they do is it's called she calls it like the
holistic approach to weight loss, and I keep saying weight
release, you know.
But so anyway.
So they do other things aroundwith that and so they, you know,
they pay a fee and some of thethings that you get with it is
(04:53):
the book.
Rhonda Ryder (04:55):
Wow, that's amazing.
Sam (04:59):
Yeah, so people, you know it's been fun to I don't have my
book right here, and that'swhat I've been doing.
I buy the books and I just givethem to people and sometimes
people talk about it andsometimes they don't, or you
know, and it's like if itdoesn't jive with you, then just
pass it on to somebody else.
Rhonda Ryder (05:19):
So, yeah, yeah yeah, this book right here, yeah
, yeah.
So I know you purchased a lotof them and given them to
friends.
Yeah, so thank you.
And one of the things we didwork on was how your feelings
about your body, yes.
(05:39):
So how has the coaching helpedyou with that?
Sam (05:44):
Well, it's more about I can't say I'm all the way there,
but more about acceptance andthe difference between diet
culture and, you know, lettingmy like really being more in
tune with my body and what itneeds and what I found, what I
(06:06):
realized is that through thegroup that I go to also is I was
talking about sometimes I eatstuff and I'm disappointed it
doesn't taste the way I was kindof hoping or expected, but then
I eat it anyway and the girlthat leads the group, she just
held up your book and she went.
It is delicious alignment, youknow.
(06:28):
Thank you.
Yeah, as we just.
You don't have to eat somethingyou don't like and it's like oh
, yeah, okay.
Rhonda Ryder (06:44):
Yes, we can remind each other.
Yeah, my daughter reminds meall the time.
Mom, you wrote this book,remember.
Yeah, it's good to read yourown book.
Reread it again.
Yeah.
Sam (06:58):
And what I try to implement is I mean, not only do I have
the book, but I also have it onaudio, and so sometimes when I'm
out walking I'll listen to it.
And it's like try to read a fewpages or listen to some of it,
like every day, to keep me morein tune.
I can't so that's my goal.
I can't say I've actuallyreached that.
(07:20):
You know that, do it every day,but that's my intention.
Rhonda Ryder (07:26):
Well, if it feels good right yeah, if it feels
good and we might set goals, andthen it just doesn't feel good
to do that certain thing rightnow and for me anyway, that's
you know how I live now is justin the moment.
What feels better right now, andeven, oh, I'm gonna walk every
(07:46):
day, you know, okay, but I don'tfeel like walking today, and
that's okay too, and justallowing that flexibility within
myself.
And I remember when we firststarted working together again
about your body, we would talkabout feeling good about where
(08:09):
we are now, as opposed to thathyper focus on weight loss
although I think it correct meif I'm wrong you were wanting to
lose weight, yes, and then,like you were just saying, the
book is really about lovingyourself, accepting where you
are, but I think you did have alot of energy shifting around
(08:31):
accepting your body and lovingyour body, and also, you know,
feeling more and more flexibleor fit and working out with a
trainer, and so so tell me abouthow things change with your
body and with the way you feelabout your body, though, the
wins with that is that, yes, Ihave been working out with a
trainer and I'm real excitedabout it.
Sam (08:53):
I look forward to my sessions with her.
I'm a lot stronger and I havemuscles.
Now I still have that where Iwanna release pounds, so I can
see my muscles more.
My balance is so much betterbecause I was truly worried
(09:14):
about that, like watching myhusband deteriorate, and I can
see the changes in my father.
He's in his early 90s and so tocounteract that, I wanted to
you know, what am I in controlof?
What can I do to make myselffit or stronger, healthier,
(09:37):
better for my body?
You know, and my body does likeit, you know, yeah, and even
though, like you're in a bigworkout room and sometimes the
first glimpse I get of myself,it's kind of like I don't like
looking at myself in the mirroror on these zoom calls or
(10:00):
anything.
What I could do is I'd look atand I go thank you, body.
You know, tell my body I loveyou.
Wow, this is really great.
You're getting stronger andstronger and that is a good,
powerful statement.
Rhonda Ryder (10:19):
Yeah, yeah, I remember you talking a lot about
how strong you were getting.
I'm feeling stronger.
Sam (10:26):
Yeah, I'm feeling stronger.
Yeah, I mean not strong as in.
You know, I can lift a certainamount of weight or whatever you
know I feel better in my bodyand I think that's all.
This is about more and it helpswith acceptance and alignment.
I think where I am, thefrustration part is well, I've
(10:50):
been doing you know all thethings that I assume are, you
know, good for me, and I'm notreally seeing the changes I
wanna see.
I mean, that's kind of where Iam right now.
It's like, well, I've beendoing all of this and I'm still
not seeing the changes.
Rhonda Ryder (11:09):
Yeah, and that's a slippery slope, you know, that
we get into is that we start tosay, well, I'm doing everything
I'm supposed to do, you knowspiritually or mentally, and I'm
still not getting what I wantlike fast enough, and I think
that's the slippery slope.
(11:30):
This is what I'm affirming.
I'm affirming, claiming that Idon't have what I want.
Sam (11:38):
Yeah, yes, I've been noticing a lot that my mind has
kind of been spiraling into whatI don't want, you know, and
it's almost like trying to likeshove a door shut, you know, and
like your closet is too full oryour suitcase is too full and
(12:00):
you've overpacked and you wantto try to like zip it up at the
last minute, and that's kind ofhow it is to the effort it takes
to change my mind into being.
I guess the best way to do thatis like just to be look at all
I have and how grateful I am,you know, and even like I'm
(12:23):
grateful I've got 10 toes and 10fingers and I can see and I can
hear and I can walk around thisbeautiful planet.
I mean, you know just kind ofthe mundane things that we just
take for granted.
Rhonda Ryder (12:39):
Yeah, I mean definitely making appreciation
lists.
That is one of the things thatraises my vibration right away.
Sam (12:49):
Yeah.
Rhonda Ryder (12:51):
Make a list of all the things I appreciate,
instead of focusing on all thethings that you don't like.
Sam (12:59):
Yeah, I have a lot more awareness of that.
And not trying to figure outhow to get there, but just to
see myself there, you know, liketo close the gap between how
many pounds I have to lose orhow long it will take, but just
to envision and feel like I'malready there.
Rhonda Ryder (13:24):
I want to take a quick second to make sure you
know about a few resources foryou, including my Love your Body
, love your Life online course,free for a limited time and
includes over 20 short videosbased on the five steps in part
one of my book.
You can gain access to thiscourse by going to
deliciousalignmentcom.
(13:44):
Next is my book DeliciousAlignment how 25 Women Learn to
Love and Transform their BodiesUsing Abraham Hicks and the Law
of Attraction.
You can find this book onAmazon by searching my name or
click on the link in the shownotes.
Now back to the interview.
So simple, and that's reallywhat has been working for me.
(14:10):
I feel like I'm losing moreweight now and it's been so easy
.
You know, I lost weight in thepast, definitely lost weight,
and but I always want to lose alittle bit more, a little bit
more.
But I don't like to focus onthat, right, I like to focus on
(14:30):
feeling good and it's alreadydone.
It's already done.
It's already done, like Ialready have the body that I
want and that, to me, is themost powerful thing.
To just like, even withabundance, with money, like
whatever it is that you wanttravel more, taking that time to
see yourself there, feel thefeeling as if you're already
there, it's already done.
(14:51):
I'm not even looking in themirror sometimes, or if I'm
getting dressed, just look at my.
Sam (14:56):
You know my face, or you got to look, you got to make
sure things are buttonedcorrectly and all that but, and
then just it's already done.
Rhonda Ryder (15:04):
I'm already there, and this time around I can't
say I've been even trying torelease weight and I'm like, oh
my God, this, this has been soeasy.
I I don't know if I everexperienced this before.
I mean, I've lost weight amillion times and then gained it
back since I'm 15 years old,and I won't say that it was
(15:28):
always easy.
It was a lot of working outlike a crazy person, you know,
starving yourself, all that kindof stuff.
We know all about that.
Dieting, merry, go round.
But this time, focusing on it'salready done, not really even
thinking about it that much, andthen just noticing, oh my God,
(15:48):
these pants fit.
These pants haven't fit in 10years and they're getting a
little bit big even, Wow.
And so I think that whole thingit's already done is so
powerful.
Yes, but getting into thatvibration, actually feeling it.
Sam (16:11):
Yes, exactly that.
I think that's the key and Ididn't really even realize that
so much until I started workingwith you and also, you know from
Sarah and the council.
Rhonda Ryder (16:27):
Yeah.
Sam (16:27):
Yeah, yes, I remember a long years ago having this
conversation with a friend isabout I say these affirmations
all day long and nothing'shappening.
I think you have to feel it,yeah.
Rhonda Ryder (16:41):
Yeah, and that's the thing I mean, like we're all
doing the same thing.
It's like we're all in the sameexact journey.
Sometimes I feel like, butwe're at different spots on the
journey, yes, and then we couldgo back forward.
But it's like oh, here I amagain saying that it's not
(17:05):
already done, it's not here,where is it?
Where is the thing that I want?
Where is the money?
Or where's my weight loss?
And so we are again affirmingthat I don't have it.
So, therefore, that's what weget more of is I don't, is what
I don't have, and I do it too.
(17:28):
Sometimes I fall back and it'slike wait a minute, but I'm
doing all the right things, I'mfeeling really good, but I'm
tired of waiting for it.
And then it's like, oh, okay,she doesn't have it.
Yeah, that's what she'saffirming, so that's what you're
going to get mirrored back toyou.
Sam (17:47):
Yeah, you know, since my husband passed away two years
ago and I feel so much betterthan I did and I didn't think I
was ever, ever going to getthrough that.
And some I have a couple offriends who have said, you know,
(18:07):
when I expressed a frustrationaround still hanging onto this
weight, it's like they said whatwill take as long as it's going
to take, and say something likethat, to heal your heart or
whatever it's like it's healed.
I'm good Because I do feelbetter and I know when I do
(18:31):
think about you know, releasingweight it's.
I just want to say to the extrapounds Thank you for bringing
me comfort when I needed it andNow it's time to I release you,
I bless you, I release you andgo off in the universe to
someone who needs this.
You know the needs is comfort,needs, this nourishment.
Rhonda Ryder (18:54):
I'm sorry, don't send it over here.
No, I'm just kidding, no, Imean just to you know.
Try to make it's a bad joke.
Bad joke, yeah, but no, okay, I.
I love that.
It's thank you for the thecomfort these extra pounds gave
me.
Sam (19:14):
Yeah, the security, the comfort, the nurse, nourishment,
you know grounding, whatever itwas that I felt that I, I
unconsciously need it, or whatmy, my body and my Mind just
decided that she needs thisright now, you know.
Rhonda Ryder (19:35):
That's such an important point that's giving me
comfort right now, because I'mthinking about, you know, when I
was a teenager 20s, 30s andjust all that extra weight and I
Can think about it like it wascomforting me in some way.
It was Like a shield ofprotection.
(19:55):
I feel like whatever I wasprotecting myself from.
But yeah, to actually toactually thank it, yes, yes,
that's a.
Sam (20:07):
And that's another thing that I'm glad you brought that
up is because I have been goingand it's not like a conscious
thing.
I decided to, oh, I should goback and talk to all those young
Sam's, all the youngerSabrina's, you know, at every
age.
It's like it just kind ofhappened.
They, it's almost like theywould like come to me and I
(20:28):
would.
It's like I'm the parent, I'mthe mother now and I, you know,
without all the therapeutics andstuff, I mean just kind of go,
you know what, you're okay now,you're safe, and or the wild
behaviors that you acted out orjust just whatever it was.
(20:49):
You know the hard times, thegood times, the overindulgent
times, addictive times.
It's like we're here now, we'resafe and Okay, you can just let
it all go, just release it.
Rhonda Ryder (21:09):
Yes, yeah, and we've always been okay, but we
may not have felt always okay.
But you're right, yeah, but justlike Feel, feeling that sense
of safety.
That's one of the reasons Ilove the calibrations is we can
access those emotions, you know,through the calibration.
(21:29):
It's just a tool, it's anothertool would you can use other
tools to access these emotionsbut actually feel the feeling
like the Firework.
I do a calibration with youright now.
You might get to this pointwhere you're feeling I don't
know why my eyes are watering,I'm not crying, but they're
watering.
Through the calibration, youget To this feeling, say the
(21:53):
emotion of safety, for instance.
I just feel so safe and secureand we just sit and and like
breathe that in and just likelean into that and feel into
that emotion.
Right right, was that yourexperience?
Sam (22:10):
Yes, just yes, just to.
I give him like to hug myself.
You know, it's like Because I,you know I'm a widow, I Don't
have people to talk to every daylike I used to, or you know the
hugs and the holding hands andthe kisses, and so it's like,
(22:34):
really, it's like not only is itmy job to go back and parent
all those those other differentages of me, but also to take
care of myself right now and togo.
You know what?
You're not alone.
You are totally fine.
You know, and in some ways, youknew this is how it was going
(22:56):
to be.
You know, so You're ready forit.
I think the hardest thing isjust to have Acceptance.
It's like, yeah, I misswrestling, I love him and, but
I'm okay and I can move forwardwith my life.
I'm not, I'm just saying itbecause I just feel so much love
(23:21):
.
I'm not, you know, like, yeah,sad and weeping, I just I
actually just feel so much Loveand gratitude.
Rhonda Ryder (23:33):
Love and gratitude , yeah you know, yes, so
beautiful.
I know your tears are about thelove right now and, yes, and it
may have taken a little bit toget there, but it's part of the
process.
(23:53):
I love that.
So you're just feeling all thelove and gratitude for him and
for all of it, right, and maybeperhaps the gratitude for having
had that experience with him.
Yes, because how long were youguys together?
Sam (24:14):
Well, we're married for 23 years.
Well, it was one month shy of23 years, but we'd known each
other for five years before that.
Rhonda Ryder (24:24):
Yeah, yes, I know we also had a few sessions about
your husband and your grief andall of that and moving through
that so beautifully, and nowyou're at this place where
you're just so present to thelove that you have for all of
that.
Yeah, all that experience withhim, and so now just the self
(24:48):
awareness that I get to createsome more of that.
So how can I support myself?
Sam (24:54):
Yes.
Rhonda Ryder (24:54):
With some hugs.
Sam (24:57):
Yes, I think the biggest thing that's come to me, like
last year, is that it is timefor me to fall in love with me.
Mm, hmm, mm, hmm, yeah, yes,yeah, and for the first time in
my life, I don't feel like Ineed a man, you know.
(25:20):
I mean, I had a phenomenalmarriage, but as a young single
woman and even as a teenager,you know, I was kind of seeking
attention from a man.
Rhonda Ryder (25:38):
Yeah, yes.
So I was like the opposite.
I was like I don't need anybodyand then later on, I am
enjoying.
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Now back to the interview.
So you are feeling like huh.
(27:04):
It's time for me to fall inlove with me.
Sam (27:10):
Yeah.
Rhonda Ryder (27:13):
Isn't that great.
Sam (27:15):
Yes, it is.
It's pretty phenomenal.
My dad at one point thought Iwas just boy crazy when I was,
you know, a teenager.
Rhonda Ryder (27:25):
Who isn't?
I don't know.
Sam (27:26):
Yeah, you know we all were yeah, your hormones kick in and
you don't even know how.
You don't understand it.
You know yeah, because yeah,you're too young.
You don't think you're tooyoung, but yeah.
Rhonda Ryder (27:41):
Yeah, yeah, oh yeah, I was pretty boy crazy For
sure.
So going back to lovingyourself now again, that's such
a sweet spot to be like I'mready to fall in love with
myself, to have my life be anexpression of that falling in
(28:01):
love with myself.
How does that look like for you?
Now I'll just share with me,just to get us started.
Like, I do notice myself justorganically having these
thoughts like oh, you know, youreally did a good job there.
(28:23):
Or you show it up like like I'min an improv class and you did
good.
You may not be the funniestperson in the class, you may not
be the most outgoing person,you may be blah, blah, blah, but
you show it up, you got up onstage, you did it, and as
(28:44):
opposed to like kind ofmanufacturing this kind of
confidence, forcing it orsomething, it's like more
organically just happening, likemy brain is just organically
going to the like I've retrainedit, I guess you could say I
think that's a good thing for mebecause I really, I guess in
(29:08):
the last two years, you know,was all about getting everything
in line for the estate and thenkind of having to take over my
father's stuff.
Sam (29:24):
So I have been more kind of in the business realm and I
don't really like being backthere.
But I have realized that I'mnot really well.
I've been going on trips that'sprobably the biggest thing that
I've let myself go on trips andtravel a lot.
I think since the last time Italked to you I've not only been
(29:51):
back to North Dakota to visitmy dad several times, but I flew
to LA and then I went to Hawaiiand then I went to Moria and
Tahiti, samoa New Zealand was ina cyclone, went to Australia.
Rhonda Ryder (30:12):
I mean I've oh my gosh wow, you've been on all
these trips since I last talkedto you.
Sam (30:20):
Yeah.
Well, it was one big long, likemonth long, cruise that I went
on and I went with two othercouples, some friends of mine
but, yeah, we had a blast.
It was a lot of fun.
Rhonda Ryder (30:35):
Amazing.
So that is definitely lovingyourself.
Did you not allow yourself tohave those kinds of vacations
before?
Sam (30:46):
or no.
I did.
Russell and I traveled all overEurope.
But I guess, initially I think,like you know, while he was
going through, I was ascaregiver and I was thinking,
well, we won't be able to travelanymore.
And then, after he died, I waskind of thinking I don't know if
I could do that.
And then, when I just go on,yeah, I think I can do this.
(31:06):
And then my stepmom died and Ihad to take over for my dad and
it's like I don't think I can dothis, I can't be that far away,
and but it's like, yes, you can.
So I have another big tripcoming up too.
I'm going to Greece, but thistime I'm going alone, but I'm
gonna meet some people, I'mgonna join a tour once I'm over
(31:26):
there.
After I'm there for a few days,I'm gonna go on one tour alone,
someplace that I've always,always, always wanted to go, and
so it's like I have to do this.
So I'm going early, so I can doit.
Rhonda Ryder (31:42):
Yeah, Beautiful, beautiful.
Just honoring yourself,listening to your wants and
desires and just allowing it tohappen.
What a wonderful way to loveyourself.
Yeah.
Sam (32:01):
Yeah, but I am, I think, the most the big dream in my
heart is writing, but I stillhaven't been doing much of that
besides journaling.
But I know I'll get there.
I mean that's a knowing that Ihave.
But I used to be very artisticwhen I was young, but I'm having
(32:22):
the urge to and I've mademosaics in the past and so I
really feel the itch to do moreof that, more painting and, you
know, piecing together mosaicsand things like that.
Rhonda Ryder (32:36):
Yeah.
So I listened to FrankButterfield, communion of Light,
and one thing they always sayis you're in the right place at
the right time, and that justgives me so much comfort.
I'm in the right place at theright time Because I would just
a lot of times have this feelinglike I'm over here, but maybe I
(32:59):
should be over there.
I'm doing this, but maybe Ishould be doing that.
I'm with these people right now, but am I missing?
You know, fear of missing out.
One of the things as you weretalking, I was thinking about is
pickleball.
That's been on my list for along time to start pickleball
and then I never did it and thenall of a sudden, I started
(33:20):
doing it.
I'm like, yeah, I love this.
This is so much fun, meeting somany people and just the game
itself.
I love it.
So I think for me, I'm in theright place at the right time.
Like if you want to start apainting project, that's on your
mind, or I want to journal more, but I haven't been doing it,
(33:43):
well, we could look at it likeit will happen.
When it happens, I'm in theright place at the right time.
You know, it's a desire I haveand when I actually feel the
intuition, when I feel the nudgeto actually do it, great.
In the meantime, it's a desireand I'll just keep following my
(34:06):
intuition and when it happens,it happens.
I think, if it goes back to thatfear of missing out, oh, I'm
not doing that thing that Ishould be doing.
It's like this shooting on us,like again, like I should be
doing that, something I want todo, how come I'm not doing it
again?
Like well, okay, and then allof a sudden, when you just like
(34:28):
find yourself doing it one dayand it is beautiful and it is
amazing, yoga is one of thosethings I want to do.
Yoga for me.
I know that'd be really goodfor me.
I want to go do that more.
So, okay, when I wind up doingit, I'll do it.
Another thing he says isallowing it to rise up to meet
you.
We have helpers physical humansand then non-physical helpers
(34:53):
in the background helping us andallowing those things to rise
up.
So maybe all of a sudden, oneday a new place pops up that's
close to my house and just atthe right price and the right
time, and just allowing thosethings to rise up and meet us.
And, yeah, you have a desire tojournal, you have a desire to
(35:13):
paint.
He also says it's really wild.
There's a version of you that'salready doing that.
That's already doing it which isreally cool, so you could
actually tap into them, tap intotheir energy and like, oh, can
you help me with that?
I'd like to do that, but I'mnot doing it.
Just putting that out there andthen allow it to rise up to
(35:34):
meet you.
You might make a new friend.
That's a painter.
These things are interestingwhen we just relax about it.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Sam (35:47):
Yes, that sounds wonderful.
Rhonda Ryder (35:50):
Yeah, all right, well, sam, I think we're gonna
schedule a calibration for you.
Thank you, Awesome, awesome.
It was nice to catch up withyou and hear about all that's
going on.
Sam (36:05):
Yes, thank you, I appreciate that yeah and we
shall talk soon to have yourcalibration.
All right.
Well, it's good to catch upwith you, Rhonda.
I appreciate it.
Rhonda Ryder (36:17):
Yeah, good to catch up with you too.
All right, thanks, okay,bye-bye, bye.
I hope you enjoyed this episodewith Sam.
It's part of something new Iwill do occasionally, called
Conversations and Calibrationswith Clients.
Let me know how you like it.
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(36:38):
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Abraham Hicks.
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See you next week.
through the calibration you get to this
feeling, say the emotion ofsafety, for instance.
I just feel so safe and secure.
We just sit and like breathethat in and just like lean into
that and feel into that emotion.
Right, right, was that yourexperience?
Sam (00:21):
Yes, just yes, just to like , even like to hug myself.
You know it's like because I,you know I'm a widow, I don't
have people to talk to every daylike I used to, or you know the
hugs and the holding hands andthe kisses, and so it's like,
(00:44):
really it's like not only is itmy job to go back and parent all
those other different ages ofme, but also to take care of
myself right now and to go.
You know what?
You're not alone.
You are totally fine.
Rhonda Ryder (01:01):
Welcome to the Delicious Alignment and the Art
of Abundance podcast.
We cover topics related tohealth, wealth and happiness
from a spiritual andmetaphysical point of view.
I'm excited to share thisepisode with you today.
It's a conversation with one ofmy coaching clients who I
haven't spoken to in a while.
Her name is Sam.
(01:21):
In this short conversation, wetouch on quite a few topics,
including learning how to loveand accept your body, the
difference between goal settingand following your intuition,
thanking those quote unquoteextra pounds because they have
actually served us in some way,and the beauty and grace of
(01:44):
falling in love with yourself.
We also touched upon thejourney Sam has been on after
her husband of 23 yearstransitioned two and a half
years ago and what that's beenlike for her.
A really touching conversation,in my opinion.
It definitely moved me and Ihope you enjoy it.
(02:06):
Great to see you again, sam.
It's good to see you.
Yeah, how's everything beengoing?
Sam (02:14):
It's been going good it's been.
You know I have somefrustrations, but overall
everything is great.
Rhonda Ryder (02:24):
It's been a little bit since we chatted, so I
wanted to ask you, you know,what you liked about the
calibration process, what youliked about working with me,
what you got out of coachingwith me so far things like that.
Sam (02:45):
I think one of the biggest things it's helped my digestion.
I was having a lot of likepains and things and all of that
has gone away.
I don't know why it started andI'm just grateful I don't have
those physical symptoms anymore.
I can't say I'm alwayshigh-vibing I wish I was, but I
(03:13):
do.
It is easier for me now to likeget back into that.
You know, when I am feelingfrustrated, to remember that, to
take breaths and you know, justlet everything go.
(03:33):
Yeah, yes, and I think one ofthe biggest things is that I was
so impressed with your book andthe sessions that I had with
you is that I brought a coupleof them to this community, a
spiritual community where I goto.
It's called Intelakia, and theyliked the book so much that
(03:54):
they started a group.
But unbeknownst to me, theystarted a group.
I went around the world andcame back like eight weeks later
.
Wow, you guys look great andthey're saying you know, they
have this.
They had this new group thatthey started.
It's mostly all women and it'sjust, it's a nice support and
(04:19):
it's local and I like that.
It's like gosh.
I brought this book to them andthey just kind of went with it.
Rhonda Ryder (04:27):
So are they studying the book?
Are they reading?
Like having a book study, yeah,yeah.
Sam (04:32):
Well, what they do is it's called she calls it like the
holistic approach to weight loss, and I keep saying weight
release, you know.
But so anyway.
So they do other things aroundwith that and so they, you know,
they pay a fee and some of thethings that you get with it is
(04:53):
the book.
Rhonda Ryder (04:55):
Wow, that's amazing.
Sam (04:59):
Yeah, so people, you know it's been fun to I don't have my
book right here, and that'swhat I've been doing.
I buy the books and I just givethem to people and sometimes
people talk about it andsometimes they don't, or you
know, and it's like if itdoesn't jive with you, then just
pass it on to somebody else.
Rhonda Ryder (05:19):
So, yeah, yeah yeah, this book right here, yeah
, yeah.
So I know you purchased a lotof them and given them to
friends.
Yeah, so thank you.
And one of the things we didwork on was how your feelings
about your body, yes.
(05:39):
So how has the coaching helpedyou with that?
Sam (05:44):
Well, it's more about I can't say I'm all the way there,
but more about acceptance andthe difference between diet
culture and, you know, lettingmy like really being more in
tune with my body and what itneeds and what I found, what I
(06:06):
realized is that through thegroup that I go to also is I was
talking about sometimes I eatstuff and I'm disappointed it
doesn't taste the way I was kindof hoping or expected, but then
I eat it anyway and the girlthat leads the group, she just
held up your book and she went.
It is delicious alignment, youknow.
(06:28):
Thank you.
Yeah, as we just.
You don't have to eat somethingyou don't like and it's like oh
, yeah, okay.
Rhonda Ryder (06:44):
Yes, we can remind each other.
Yeah, my daughter reminds meall the time.
Mom, you wrote this book,remember.
Yeah, it's good to read yourown book.
Reread it again.
Yeah.
Sam (06:58):
And what I try to implement is I mean, not only do I have
the book, but I also have it onaudio, and so sometimes when I'm
out walking I'll listen to it.
And it's like try to read a fewpages or listen to some of it,
like every day, to keep me morein tune.
I can't so that's my goal.
I can't say I've actuallyreached that.
(07:20):
You know that, do it every day,but that's my intention.
Rhonda Ryder (07:26):
Well, if it feels good right yeah, if it feels
good and we might set goals, andthen it just doesn't feel good
to do that certain thing rightnow and for me anyway, that's
you know how I live now is justin the moment.
What feels better right now, andeven, oh, I'm gonna walk every
(07:46):
day, you know, okay, but I don'tfeel like walking today, and
that's okay too, and justallowing that flexibility within
myself.
And I remember when we firststarted working together again
about your body, we would talkabout feeling good about where
(08:09):
we are now, as opposed to thathyper focus on weight loss
although I think it correct meif I'm wrong you were wanting to
lose weight, yes, and then,like you were just saying, the
book is really about lovingyourself, accepting where you
are, but I think you did have alot of energy shifting around
(08:31):
accepting your body and lovingyour body, and also, you know,
feeling more and more flexibleor fit and working out with a
trainer, and so so tell me abouthow things change with your
body and with the way you feelabout your body, though, the
wins with that is that, yes, Ihave been working out with a
trainer and I'm real excitedabout it.
Sam (08:53):
I look forward to my sessions with her.
I'm a lot stronger and I havemuscles.
Now I still have that where Iwanna release pounds, so I can
see my muscles more.
My balance is so much betterbecause I was truly worried
(09:14):
about that, like watching myhusband deteriorate, and I can
see the changes in my father.
He's in his early 90s and so tocounteract that, I wanted to
you know, what am I in controlof?
What can I do to make myselffit or stronger, healthier,
(09:37):
better for my body?
You know, and my body does likeit, you know, yeah, and even
though, like you're in a bigworkout room and sometimes the
first glimpse I get of myself,it's kind of like I don't like
looking at myself in the mirroror on these zoom calls or
(10:00):
anything.
What I could do is I'd look atand I go thank you, body.
You know, tell my body I loveyou.
Wow, this is really great.
You're getting stronger andstronger and that is a good,
powerful statement.
Rhonda Ryder (10:19):
Yeah, yeah, I remember you talking a lot about
how strong you were getting.
I'm feeling stronger.
Sam (10:26):
Yeah, I'm feeling stronger.
Yeah, I mean not strong as in.
You know, I can lift a certainamount of weight or whatever you
know I feel better in my bodyand I think that's all.
This is about more and it helpswith acceptance and alignment.
I think where I am, thefrustration part is well, I've
(10:50):
been doing you know all thethings that I assume are, you
know, good for me, and I'm notreally seeing the changes I
wanna see.
I mean, that's kind of where Iam right now.
It's like, well, I've beendoing all of this and I'm still
not seeing the changes.
Rhonda Ryder (11:09):
Yeah, and that's a slippery slope, you know, that
we get into is that we start tosay, well, I'm doing everything
I'm supposed to do, you knowspiritually or mentally, and I'm
still not getting what I wantlike fast enough, and I think
that's the slippery slope.
(11:30):
This is what I'm affirming.
I'm affirming, claiming that Idon't have what I want.
Sam (11:38):
Yeah, yes, I've been noticing a lot that my mind has
kind of been spiraling into whatI don't want, you know, and
it's almost like trying to likeshove a door shut, you know, and
like your closet is too full oryour suitcase is too full and
(12:00):
you've overpacked and you wantto try to like zip it up at the
last minute, and that's kind ofhow it is to the effort it takes
to change my mind into being.
I guess the best way to do thatis like just to be look at all
I have and how grateful I am,you know, and even like I'm
(12:23):
grateful I've got 10 toes and 10fingers and I can see and I can
hear and I can walk around thisbeautiful planet.
I mean, you know just kind ofthe mundane things that we just
take for granted.
Rhonda Ryder (12:39):
Yeah, I mean definitely making appreciation
lists.
That is one of the things thatraises my vibration right away.
Sam (12:49):
Yeah.
Rhonda Ryder (12:51):
Make a list of all the things I appreciate,
instead of focusing on all thethings that you don't like.
Sam (12:59):
Yeah, I have a lot more awareness of that.
And not trying to figure outhow to get there, but just to
see myself there, you know, liketo close the gap between how
many pounds I have to lose orhow long it will take, but just
to envision and feel like I'malready there.
Rhonda Ryder (13:24):
I want to take a quick second to make sure you
know about a few resources foryou, including my Love your Body
, love your Life online course,free for a limited time and
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(13:44):
Next is my book DeliciousAlignment how 25 Women Learn to
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You can find this book onAmazon by searching my name or
click on the link in the shownotes.
Now back to the interview.
So simple, and that's reallywhat has been working for me.
(14:10):
I feel like I'm losing moreweight now and it's been so easy
.
You know, I lost weight in thepast, definitely lost weight,
and but I always want to lose alittle bit more, a little bit
more.
But I don't like to focus onthat, right, I like to focus on
(14:30):
feeling good and it's alreadydone.
It's already done.
It's already done, like Ialready have the body that I
want and that, to me, is themost powerful thing.
To just like, even withabundance, with money, like
whatever it is that you wanttravel more, taking that time to
see yourself there, feel thefeeling as if you're already
there, it's already done.
(14:51):
I'm not even looking in themirror sometimes, or if I'm
getting dressed, just look at my.
Sam (14:56):
You know my face, or you got to look, you got to make
sure things are buttonedcorrectly and all that but, and
then just it's already done.
Rhonda Ryder (15:04):
I'm already there, and this time around I can't
say I've been even trying torelease weight and I'm like, oh
my God, this, this has been soeasy.
I I don't know if I everexperienced this before.
I mean, I've lost weight amillion times and then gained it
back since I'm 15 years old,and I won't say that it was
(15:28):
always easy.
It was a lot of working outlike a crazy person, you know,
starving yourself, all that kindof stuff.
We know all about that.
Dieting, merry, go round.
But this time, focusing on it'salready done, not really even
thinking about it that much, andthen just noticing, oh my God,
(15:48):
these pants fit.
These pants haven't fit in 10years and they're getting a
little bit big even, Wow.
And so I think that whole thingit's already done is so
powerful.
Yes, but getting into thatvibration, actually feeling it.
Sam (16:11):
Yes, exactly that.
I think that's the key and Ididn't really even realize that
so much until I started workingwith you and also, you know from
Sarah and the council.
Rhonda Ryder (16:27):
Yeah.
Sam (16:27):
Yeah, yes, I remember a long years ago having this
conversation with a friend isabout I say these affirmations
all day long and nothing'shappening.
I think you have to feel it,yeah.
Rhonda Ryder (16:41):
Yeah, and that's the thing I mean, like we're all
doing the same thing.
It's like we're all in the sameexact journey.
Sometimes I feel like, butwe're at different spots on the
journey, yes, and then we couldgo back forward.
But it's like oh, here I amagain saying that it's not
(17:05):
already done, it's not here,where is it?
Where is the thing that I want?
Where is the money?
Or where's my weight loss?
And so we are again affirmingthat I don't have it.
So, therefore, that's what weget more of is I don't, is what
I don't have, and I do it too.
(17:28):
Sometimes I fall back and it'slike wait a minute, but I'm
doing all the right things, I'mfeeling really good, but I'm
tired of waiting for it.
And then it's like, oh, okay,she doesn't have it.
Yeah, that's what she'saffirming, so that's what you're
going to get mirrored back toyou.
Sam (17:47):
Yeah, you know, since my husband passed away two years
ago and I feel so much betterthan I did and I didn't think I
was ever, ever going to getthrough that.
And some I have a couple offriends who have said, you know,
(18:07):
when I expressed a frustrationaround still hanging onto this
weight, it's like they said whatwill take as long as it's going
to take, and say something likethat, to heal your heart or
whatever it's like it's healed.
I'm good Because I do feelbetter and I know when I do
(18:31):
think about you know, releasingweight it's.
I just want to say to the extrapounds Thank you for bringing
me comfort when I needed it andNow it's time to I release you,
I bless you, I release you andgo off in the universe to
someone who needs this.
You know the needs is comfort,needs, this nourishment.
Rhonda Ryder (18:54):
I'm sorry, don't send it over here.
No, I'm just kidding, no, Imean just to you know.
Try to make it's a bad joke.
Bad joke, yeah, but no, okay, I.
I love that.
It's thank you for the thecomfort these extra pounds gave
me.
Sam (19:14):
Yeah, the security, the comfort, the nurse, nourishment,
you know grounding, whatever itwas that I felt that I, I
unconsciously need it, or whatmy, my body and my Mind just
decided that she needs thisright now, you know.
Rhonda Ryder (19:35):
That's such an important point that's giving me
comfort right now, because I'mthinking about, you know, when I
was a teenager 20s, 30s andjust all that extra weight and I
Can think about it like it wascomforting me in some way.
It was Like a shield ofprotection.
(19:55):
I feel like whatever I wasprotecting myself from.
But yeah, to actually toactually thank it, yes, yes,
that's a.
Sam (20:07):
And that's another thing that I'm glad you brought that
up is because I have been goingand it's not like a conscious
thing.
I decided to, oh, I should goback and talk to all those young
Sam's, all the youngerSabrina's, you know, at every
age.
It's like it just kind ofhappened.
They, it's almost like theywould like come to me and I
(20:28):
would.
It's like I'm the parent, I'mthe mother now and I, you know,
without all the therapeutics andstuff, I mean just kind of go,
you know what, you're okay now,you're safe, and or the wild
behaviors that you acted out orjust just whatever it was.
(20:49):
You know the hard times, thegood times, the overindulgent
times, addictive times.
It's like we're here now, we'resafe and Okay, you can just let
it all go, just release it.
Rhonda Ryder (21:09):
Yes, yeah, and we've always been okay, but we
may not have felt always okay.
But you're right, yeah, but justlike Feel, feeling that sense
of safety.
That's one of the reasons Ilove the calibrations is we can
access those emotions, you know,through the calibration.
(21:29):
It's just a tool, it's anothertool would you can use other
tools to access these emotionsbut actually feel the feeling
like the Firework.
I do a calibration with youright now.
You might get to this pointwhere you're feeling I don't
know why my eyes are watering,I'm not crying, but they're
watering.
Through the calibration, youget To this feeling, say the
(21:53):
emotion of safety, for instance.
I just feel so safe and secureand we just sit and and like
breathe that in and just likelean into that and feel into
that emotion.
Right right, was that yourexperience?
Sam (22:10):
Yes, just yes, just to.
I give him like to hug myself.
You know, it's like Because I,you know I'm a widow, I Don't
have people to talk to every daylike I used to, or you know the
hugs and the holding hands andthe kisses, and so it's like,
(22:34):
really, it's like not only is itmy job to go back and parent
all those those other differentages of me, but also to take
care of myself right now and togo.
You know what?
You're not alone.
You are totally fine.
You know, and in some ways, youknew this is how it was going
(22:56):
to be.
You know, so You're ready forit.
I think the hardest thing isjust to have Acceptance.
It's like, yeah, I misswrestling, I love him and, but
I'm okay and I can move forwardwith my life.
I'm not, I'm just saying itbecause I just feel so much love
(23:21):
.
I'm not, you know, like, yeah,sad and weeping, I just I
actually just feel so much Loveand gratitude.
Rhonda Ryder (23:33):
Love and gratitude , yeah you know, yes, so
beautiful.
I know your tears are about thelove right now and, yes, and it
may have taken a little bit toget there, but it's part of the
process.
(23:53):
I love that.
So you're just feeling all thelove and gratitude for him and
for all of it, right, and maybeperhaps the gratitude for having
had that experience with him.
Yes, because how long were youguys together?
Sam (24:14):
Well, we're married for 23 years.
Well, it was one month shy of23 years, but we'd known each
other for five years before that.
Rhonda Ryder (24:24):
Yeah, yes, I know we also had a few sessions about
your husband and your grief andall of that and moving through
that so beautifully, and nowyou're at this place where
you're just so present to thelove that you have for all of
that.
Yeah, all that experience withhim, and so now just the self
(24:48):
awareness that I get to createsome more of that.
So how can I support myself?
Sam (24:54):
Yes.
Rhonda Ryder (24:54):
With some hugs.
Sam (24:57):
Yes, I think the biggest thing that's come to me, like
last year, is that it is timefor me to fall in love with me.
Mm, hmm, mm, hmm, yeah, yes,yeah, and for the first time in
my life, I don't feel like Ineed a man, you know.
(25:20):
I mean, I had a phenomenalmarriage, but as a young single
woman and even as a teenager,you know, I was kind of seeking
attention from a man.
Rhonda Ryder (25:38):
Yeah, yes.
So I was like the opposite.
I was like I don't need anybodyand then later on, I am
enjoying.
I'm enjoying having a long termrelationship.
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Now back to the interview.
So you are feeling like huh.
(27:04):
It's time for me to fall inlove with me.
Sam (27:10):
Yeah.
Rhonda Ryder (27:13):
Isn't that great.
Sam (27:15):
Yes, it is.
It's pretty phenomenal.
My dad at one point thought Iwas just boy crazy when I was,
you know, a teenager.
Rhonda Ryder (27:25):
Who isn't?
I don't know.
Sam (27:26):
Yeah, you know we all were yeah, your hormones kick in and
you don't even know how.
You don't understand it.
You know yeah, because yeah,you're too young.
You don't think you're tooyoung, but yeah.
Rhonda Ryder (27:41):
Yeah, yeah, oh yeah, I was pretty boy crazy For
sure.
So going back to lovingyourself now again, that's such
a sweet spot to be like I'mready to fall in love with
myself, to have my life be anexpression of that falling in
(28:01):
love with myself.
How does that look like for you?
Now I'll just share with me,just to get us started.
Like, I do notice myself justorganically having these
thoughts like oh, you know, youreally did a good job there.
(28:23):
Or you show it up like like I'min an improv class and you did
good.
You may not be the funniestperson in the class, you may not
be the most outgoing person,you may be blah, blah, blah, but
you show it up, you got up onstage, you did it, and as
(28:44):
opposed to like kind ofmanufacturing this kind of
confidence, forcing it orsomething, it's like more
organically just happening, likemy brain is just organically
going to the like I've retrainedit, I guess you could say I
think that's a good thing for mebecause I really, I guess in
(29:08):
the last two years, you know,was all about getting everything
in line for the estate and thenkind of having to take over my
father's stuff.
Sam (29:24):
So I have been more kind of in the business realm and I
don't really like being backthere.
But I have realized that I'mnot really well.
I've been going on trips that'sprobably the biggest thing that
I've let myself go on trips andtravel a lot.
I think since the last time Italked to you I've not only been
(29:51):
back to North Dakota to visitmy dad several times, but I flew
to LA and then I went to Hawaiiand then I went to Moria and
Tahiti, samoa New Zealand was ina cyclone, went to Australia.
Rhonda Ryder (30:12):
I mean I've oh my gosh wow, you've been on all
these trips since I last talkedto you.
Sam (30:20):
Yeah.
Well, it was one big long, likemonth long, cruise that I went
on and I went with two othercouples, some friends of mine
but, yeah, we had a blast.
It was a lot of fun.
Rhonda Ryder (30:35):
Amazing.
So that is definitely lovingyourself.
Did you not allow yourself tohave those kinds of vacations
before?
Sam (30:46):
or no.
I did.
Russell and I traveled all overEurope.
But I guess, initially I think,like you know, while he was
going through, I was ascaregiver and I was thinking,
well, we won't be able to travelanymore.
And then, after he died, I waskind of thinking I don't know if
I could do that.
And then, when I just go on,yeah, I think I can do this.
(31:06):
And then my stepmom died and Ihad to take over for my dad and
it's like I don't think I can dothis, I can't be that far away,
and but it's like, yes, you can.
So I have another big tripcoming up too.
I'm going to Greece, but thistime I'm going alone, but I'm
gonna meet some people, I'mgonna join a tour once I'm over
(31:26):
there.
After I'm there for a few days,I'm gonna go on one tour alone,
someplace that I've always,always, always wanted to go, and
so it's like I have to do this.
So I'm going early, so I can doit.
Rhonda Ryder (31:42):
Yeah, Beautiful, beautiful.
Just honoring yourself,listening to your wants and
desires and just allowing it tohappen.
What a wonderful way to loveyourself.
Yeah.
Sam (32:01):
Yeah, but I am, I think, the most the big dream in my
heart is writing, but I stillhaven't been doing much of that
besides journaling.
But I know I'll get there.
I mean that's a knowing that Ihave.
But I used to be very artisticwhen I was young, but I'm having
(32:22):
the urge to and I've mademosaics in the past and so I
really feel the itch to do moreof that, more painting and, you
know, piecing together mosaicsand things like that.
Rhonda Ryder (32:36):
Yeah.
So I listened to FrankButterfield, communion of Light,
and one thing they always sayis you're in the right place at
the right time, and that justgives me so much comfort.
I'm in the right place at theright time Because I would just
a lot of times have this feelinglike I'm over here, but maybe I
(32:59):
should be over there.
I'm doing this, but maybe Ishould be doing that.
I'm with these people right now, but am I missing?
You know, fear of missing out.
One of the things as you weretalking, I was thinking about is
pickleball.
That's been on my list for along time to start pickleball
and then I never did it and thenall of a sudden, I started
(33:20):
doing it.
I'm like, yeah, I love this.
This is so much fun, meeting somany people and just the game
itself.
I love it.
So I think for me, I'm in theright place at the right time.
Like if you want to start apainting project, that's on your
mind, or I want to journal more, but I haven't been doing it,
(33:43):
well, we could look at it likeit will happen.
When it happens, I'm in theright place at the right time.
You know, it's a desire I haveand when I actually feel the
intuition, when I feel the nudgeto actually do it, great.
In the meantime, it's a desireand I'll just keep following my
(34:06):
intuition and when it happens,it happens.
I think, if it goes back to thatfear of missing out, oh, I'm
not doing that thing that Ishould be doing.
It's like this shooting on us,like again, like I should be
doing that, something I want todo, how come I'm not doing it
again?
Like well, okay, and then allof a sudden, when you just like
(34:28):
find yourself doing it one dayand it is beautiful and it is
amazing, yoga is one of thosethings I want to do.
Yoga for me.
I know that'd be really goodfor me.
I want to go do that more.
So, okay, when I wind up doingit, I'll do it.
Another thing he says isallowing it to rise up to meet
you.
We have helpers physical humansand then non-physical helpers
(34:53):
in the background helping us andallowing those things to rise
up.
So maybe all of a sudden, oneday a new place pops up that's
close to my house and just atthe right price and the right
time, and just allowing thosethings to rise up and meet us.
And, yeah, you have a desire tojournal, you have a desire to
(35:13):
paint.
He also says it's really wild.
There's a version of you that'salready doing that.
That's already doing it which isreally cool, so you could
actually tap into them, tap intotheir energy and like, oh, can
you help me with that?
I'd like to do that, but I'mnot doing it.
Just putting that out there andthen allow it to rise up to
(35:34):
meet you.
You might make a new friend.
That's a painter.
These things are interestingwhen we just relax about it.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Sam (35:47):
Yes, that sounds wonderful.
Rhonda Ryder (35:50):
Yeah, all right, well, sam, I think we're gonna
schedule a calibration for you.
Thank you, Awesome, awesome.
It was nice to catch up withyou and hear about all that's
going on.
Sam (36:05):
Yes, thank you, I appreciate that yeah and we
shall talk soon to have yourcalibration.
All right.
Well, it's good to catch upwith you, Rhonda.
I appreciate it.
Rhonda Ryder (36:17):
Yeah, good to catch up with you too.
All right, thanks, okay,bye-bye, bye.
I hope you enjoyed this episodewith Sam.
It's part of something new Iwill do occasionally, called
Conversations and Calibrationswith Clients.
Let me know how you like it.
I also wanted to mentionanother resource for you.
(36:38):
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who released 200 poundsfollowing the teachings of
(37:47):
Abraham Hicks.
Well, that's it for today, myfriend.
See you next week.
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