November 21, 2024 • 17 mins
Can embracing your individuality actually strengthen your marriage? Discover how mutual support and personal purpose intersect to bring harmony and fulfillment to your relationship in this thought-provoking episode of Demo with Mo. Join me, Monique Simmons, as we delve into the biblical foundation of marriage through the story of Adam and Eve in Genesis. We'll explore how maintaining your unique identity can enhance your partnership, leading to a deeper connection and understanding with your spouse.
Listen along as we uncover the transformative power of mutual support in marriage. Learn how marriages thrive when both partners actively pursue their dreams without sacrificing their individuality. We'll discuss the evolving definitions of success and the crucial role of communication in aligning shared goals. If you ever feel like you've lost your sense of self within your marriage or have unfulfilled aspirations, this episode offers practical guidance on redefining your path together. Let's redefine what it means to be a supportive partner, ensuring that each journey is enriching and fulfilling along the way.
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Speaker 1 (00:06):
what's up, guys?
Welcome to demo with mo.
I'm your host, monique simmons.
We'll be discussing dating,engaged and married objectives
from a young christian'sperspective.
Are you guys ready?
Let's dive in.
Hey, what's up, guys?
Welcome to a new episode ofDemo with Mo.
(00:28):
I am your host, monique Simmons, and today we are going to be
discussing are you being yourfull self in your marriage?
A little while ago I heard aclip.
It was a spouse saying they hadto lay their dreams down while
their partner pursued theirs,and it got me to thinking.
(00:49):
When God first created man,adam, he gave him a purpose.
Let's go to your Bibles.
If you've been rocking with mefor a little while, you know I
always say go read for yourself.
But I'm reading from the livingbible translation, genesis 2,
verse 15 and verse 19 the LordGod placed the man in the garden
(01:14):
of Eden as his gardener to tendand care for it.
That's verse 15.
Verse 19 says so.
The Lord God formed from thesoil every kind of animal and
bird and brought them to the manto see what he would call them
and whatever he called them,that was their name.
So when god created adam, whichwas the first man that he ever
(01:37):
created.
When I say man, just for thosewho are listening, I'm giving
this disclaimer because I don'twant to make an assumption I'm a
sunday.
This disclaimer because I don'twant to make an assumption I'm
a Sunday school teacher.
I don't ever want to make theassumption that I'm speaking to
or talking to someone that knowsthe Bible, has read the Bible,
or I should be coming from aplace that I'm speaking to.
Everybody who's on the samelevel, and I mean the level of
(02:01):
everyone knows what I'mreferring to, because there may
be some listeners, there may besome people who may come across
this episode and have never readthe Bible, and I'm glad you're
here today.
So when I refer to man, whenyou hear me say that in this
episode, regarding when I'mtalking about this specific area
in the Bible that I'm referringto today, specifically in
(02:23):
today's episode, I mean human.
I don't specifically in today'sepisode.
I mean human.
I don't actually mean the malesex, I mean human.
So Adam was the first mancreated and when God created
Adam, he gave Adam a purpose.
Adam had specific things thatGod wanted Adam to do after he
created him First, which I toldyou in verse 15,.
(02:45):
He would take care of thegarden.
He would tend to the garden, hewould care for the garden.
That was one of the things thathe had to do.
He also named the animals, andwhatever name that he gave the
animals and the birds, thatwould be their names.
That's something that God hadput in place.
That was a purpose that Adamhad.
But God says it's not good forman to be alone, so he would
(03:10):
create Adam to help him.
Okay, so the first part of thatwhen God created the first man,
he gave Adam a purpose.
So this is getting somewhere.
So I want you to know I'm goingto put all this together
because whenever I'm talkingabout scripture, whenever I'm
referring to the Bible, I alwayswant it to be talked about in
context.
And this just comes from me,not only being a Sunday school
(03:34):
teacher and this is the way Iteach but also me being a
Christian.
This is the way I learn.
I don't like when people referto the Bible or refer to verses,
but don't give me context.
Don't give me, maybe, theverses before, the verses after.
Who's the audience?
Who was he speaking to?
What was going on, why heneeded to speak to these
(03:54):
specific people?
Like, give me context so I canreally understand what's being
talked about or what's beingsaid.
So first God created man, who'sAdam, he gave him a purpose.
And now, after he gives himthis purpose, god goes on to say
it's not good for man to bealone.
So okay, so Adam has beencreated, adam has a purpose.
(04:16):
But then God says it's not goodfor man to be alone.
So this is said in Genesis 2,18.
And the Lord God said it isn'tgood for man to be alone.
I will make a companion for him, a helper suited to his needs,
and I actually love this.
(04:37):
There's some verses that I likein different translations, but
specifically in the living bibletranslation, which is my
personal bible, I love how itsays a helper suited to his need
, and you'll understand why as Iget more to this episode.
So then, after god, who saysit's not good for man to be
(05:02):
alone, we now go on to see whenhe creates eve, and this is
genesis 2, 21 through 23.
Then the lord god caused theman to fall into a deep sleep,
which is adam, and took one ofhis ribs and closed up the place
from which he had removed itand made the ribbon to a woman,
(05:25):
which is Eve, and brought her tothe man.
This is it, adam exclaimed sheis part of my own bone and flesh
, her name is woman because shewas taken out of her man.
Okay, so now in those versesit's explaining how God created
the woman which is Eve, and hecreated her from Adam's body.
(05:49):
So then Adam and Eve becomehusband and wife.
Now they're husband and wife,and the two are joined together
to make one, which is going tobe very important to today's
episode, and this is Genesis 2and 24.
So I want you all to know thisis not just stuff that I'm
(06:09):
saying and that I'm coming upwith on my own.
This is referencing the Bible,and this is why I always tell
you to go back and read foryourself.
Whenever somebody is teachingyou the Bible, whenever someone
is referencing the Bible,whenever someone is talking
about God's word, please go readit for yourself.
Genesis 2 and 24 says thisexplains why a man leaves his
(06:32):
father and mother and is joinedto his wife in such a way that
the two become one person.
So God created man.
He gave him a purpose.
God then says it's not good forman to be alone, so he created
a woman, eve.
The two got married and the twoare not just two individuals
(06:55):
now even though you're still anindividual person when you get
married but instead of justbeing two, you join together in
such a way that you're nowbecoming one, meaning you
complete each other.
You should be better offtogether.
I make you better, you make mebetter.
We should be beneficial to oneanother.
(07:16):
We should be better offtogether than we were separately
.
The two are now one.
Okay, so what does this have todo with showing up as your full
self, you say, because I'm sureyou wonder.
Like okay, monique, you justgave me all these verses and for
those who may not read theBible or may not be of the
(07:37):
Christian faith, you may be likeokay, you know, I listen to all
this.
What does this have to do withshowing up with your full self?
All right, let's get into it.
What does this have to do withshowing up with your full self?
All right, let's get into it.
What does this have to do withshowing up with your full self
when you get married?
Who you were as a single personshouldn't be forgotten about or
(07:58):
left behind.
Your dreams, your goals, yourhopes, your desires, your
aspirations for your life canthey change?
Yes, can you readjust?
For sure.
But once we get married, ourspouses are to help us, support
us and encourage us to becomethe best versions of ourselves.
(08:21):
If a dream is going on theshelf temporarily, it's because
it's been mutually agreed uponfor this season of life that
we're in and that it would bebeneficial to us, for us, and
that it would be beneficial forus as a whole, not because one
(08:41):
spouse is living out theirdreams and other spouses
sacrifice theirs to watch theother.
To show up as your full self ina marriage, you have to
remember you're more than just aspouse, just a parent, just a
homemaker, just a chauffeur,just a cook, just a dot dot dot,
(09:02):
because you could fill that inwith so many other things.
There are so many of us aroundthe world who are doing all
sorts of different things.
As a spouse, as a parent, wehave so many different roles in
our homes that we took up For alot of people.
We got married, we said our due, we jumped the broom, we did
(09:26):
all of the things and we did allof the things.
And as we did all of thesethings, for some part of us was
left behind, some of us was letgo.
Some of us was forgotten about.
But that's not what marriageshould be.
It should be about twoindividuals coming together to
make one another better, to helpone another live out to their
(09:47):
fullest potential.
I want to help my husband liveout all his greatest dreams, if
it's according to God's will.
Now I'm not just going to sitout here and say I just want him
to be out here livingwilly-nilly.
That's not what I'm saying.
But if my husband has dreamsand desires and things that he
(10:08):
wants to see come to fruition inhis life and when I'm saying
this I don't want you guys tosee this and think about money
and necessarily the only thingsof this world what you may
consider to be success may notbe success to someone else.
So you and your spouse have totalk about that and discuss that
and figure out what is successfor you.
(10:30):
And that's something that I'velearned.
I've learned so many thingsbecause my husband and I got
married at such a young age, at21.
I've learned so many thingsalong the way.
What I thought was success backthen, in those younger years of
my life, at 36, a lot of thosethings not even on my list and I
(10:51):
honestly would say probablymajority of those things are on
my list of what I considersuccess now.
So my conversation back thenwould look completely different
from my conversation now.
What I consider to be successis so much different now.
I think about my family.
I think about my relationshipwith God, my faith, my village,
(11:13):
my friendship, my stewardship,what I'm going to teach my
children, my legacy, my childrenwhen they have their own
relationship with Christ andbeing able to say I saw my mom
live out her faith.
I wanted to know God because ofmy mom's relationship with God.
Being able to say how my momlived out her faith, I wanted to
know God because of my mom'srelationship with God, because
she walked this thing out andshe lived it out in our
household every day.
(11:34):
Those are the things that Icount as success.
People who I've met along theway being inspired by me because
of my walk with God, or peoplebeing able to say they, they
were encouraged by myrelationship with my husband and
being able to say I rememberyou know they got married so
(11:55):
young and and how God changedthe whole trajectory of their
life like that.
That is success to me, but Iwouldn't have been able to
verbalize any of that at 21.
That wasn't even on my radar.
A lot of those things wasn'teven on my radar.
What I'm saying is being able totalk with your spouse and see
(12:19):
how can you guys help oneanother live out your wildest
dreams and be at your fullpotential.
How can I help you become yourbest self, the best version of
who you are, who God wants youto be, because sometimes we need
that.
That's why God said Adam neededa help me.
He made him a helper suited tohis need, because what I may
(12:43):
need may not be what you need,or what my husband need might
not be what your husband need.
And that's the beautiful thingabout marriage.
God is so intentional and sopersonal and so loving and so
kind.
In that way, in so manymarriages we usually marry our
opposites.
We usually marry the person wholacks something that we thrive
(13:07):
in, and they thrive at somethingwe lack it, because that's how
God created it.
We balance one another, wecomplete one another.
But if you don't look at itlike that which I didn't in the
beginning of my marriage,because you know, you live and
you learn, but when you don'tlook at it like that, you see
(13:29):
that as an issue.
Why is my partner not like me?
Why they don't see things likeme, why we can't agree?
But God didn't make us likethat.
He purposely made us different.
We are to complete andcomplement one another.
We are not to be the same.
If you've been feeling likeyou've lost a part of yourself
(13:50):
you don't recognize the guy orwoman looking back at you in the
mirror get with your spouse andgo to the drawing board, have a
conversation and figure out howcan you guys get on the same
page about this conversation andfigure out how can you guys get
on the same page about this.
Is this something that you'vebeen wanting to do, desiring to
do?
And maybe you sacrificed it.
And maybe it was a sacrifice onyour own.
(14:13):
You made the decision.
It wasn't because of yourspouse, it wasn't because of
your children.
Maybe you thought this is whatwas best for your family, but
you made that decision on yourown and now you have regret.
Now you're seeing your spouselive out their dreams and do the
things that make them happy andyou're wondering why you had to
give up on the things that youlove.
(14:33):
Or maybe you did have aconversation with your spouse
and you guys once said thatwasn't what was best for the
family at the time.
But but now you're in a betterseason.
You're in a different season.
Maybe the kids are older, maybethe kids are in school, maybe
you're an empty nester and youneed to go back to the drawing
board, because things don't haveto stay the same.
(14:54):
We are constantly changing, theseasons are constantly changing
, we are growing, we areevolving.
Go back to the drawing board.
What once worked may not workanymore.
What was once good for themarriage may not be good for the
marriage anymore.
What was once best for thefamily may not be best for the
(15:17):
family anymore.
What once worked for you maynot work for you anymore.
Go back to the drawing board butbe together.
Let this draw you together andnot tear you apart, because your
spouse is supposed to help youfulfill your purpose.
They're supposed to help youbecome the best version of
(15:40):
yourself, to help you becomeyour fullest potential.
You're supposed to do youbecome the best version of
yourself, to help you becomeyour fullest potential.
You're supposed to do thattogether, not separate.
When God created Adam before Eveever stepped on the scene, he
gave him a purpose.
His wife would help him tofulfill his purpose, and vice
versa, because Eve had a purposetoo.
(16:01):
The same goes for us, and viceversa, because Eve had a purpose
too, the same goes for us.
God has given each one of us apurpose for our lives, and the
person you choose to spend therest of your life with is
supposed to help you accomplishthat here on earth.
This is why who you say I do tois so important.
This is more than just a pieceof paper, as some people like to
(16:25):
say.
This is a covenant agreement.
This is purpose.
This is generations to comeafter you.
This decision will affect yourchildren, your children's
children and those to come.
I hope today's episode hashelped you.
Wherever you are today, shareit with someone you love,
(16:47):
someone you think it would helpsomeone you think it would
encourage.
It will bless friend, family,co-worker, even your spouse,
even your spouse.
I think this would be abeautiful episode to share with
your spouse.
If you're not already, followme on TikTok and Facebook at
Demo with Mo and on Instagram atDemo with Mo Podcast, and
(17:11):
remember I love you, but Godloves you so much more.
I'll see you guys next week.
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(17:32):
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what's up, guys?
Welcome to demo with mo.
I'm your host, monique simmons.
We'll be discussing dating,engaged and married objectives
from a young christian'sperspective.
Are you guys ready?
Let's dive in.
Hey, what's up, guys?
Welcome to a new episode ofDemo with Mo.
(00:28):
I am your host, monique Simmons, and today we are going to be
discussing are you being yourfull self in your marriage?
A little while ago I heard aclip.
It was a spouse saying they hadto lay their dreams down while
their partner pursued theirs,and it got me to thinking.
(00:49):
When God first created man,adam, he gave him a purpose.
Let's go to your Bibles.
If you've been rocking with mefor a little while, you know I
always say go read for yourself.
But I'm reading from the livingbible translation, genesis 2,
verse 15 and verse 19 the LordGod placed the man in the garden
(01:14):
of Eden as his gardener to tendand care for it.
That's verse 15.
Verse 19 says so.
The Lord God formed from thesoil every kind of animal and
bird and brought them to the manto see what he would call them
and whatever he called them,that was their name.
So when god created adam, whichwas the first man that he ever
(01:37):
created.
When I say man, just for thosewho are listening, I'm giving
this disclaimer because I don'twant to make an assumption I'm a
sunday.
This disclaimer because I don'twant to make an assumption I'm
a Sunday school teacher.
I don't ever want to make theassumption that I'm speaking to
or talking to someone that knowsthe Bible, has read the Bible,
or I should be coming from aplace that I'm speaking to.
Everybody who's on the samelevel, and I mean the level of
(02:01):
everyone knows what I'mreferring to, because there may
be some listeners, there may besome people who may come across
this episode and have never readthe Bible, and I'm glad you're
here today.
So when I refer to man, whenyou hear me say that in this
episode, regarding when I'mtalking about this specific area
in the Bible that I'm referringto today, specifically in
(02:23):
today's episode, I mean human.
I don't specifically in today'sepisode.
I mean human.
I don't actually mean the malesex, I mean human.
So Adam was the first mancreated and when God created
Adam, he gave Adam a purpose.
Adam had specific things thatGod wanted Adam to do after he
created him First, which I toldyou in verse 15,.
(02:45):
He would take care of thegarden.
He would tend to the garden, hewould care for the garden.
That was one of the things thathe had to do.
He also named the animals, andwhatever name that he gave the
animals and the birds, thatwould be their names.
That's something that God hadput in place.
That was a purpose that Adamhad.
But God says it's not good forman to be alone, so he would
(03:10):
create Adam to help him.
Okay, so the first part of thatwhen God created the first man,
he gave Adam a purpose.
So this is getting somewhere.
So I want you to know I'm goingto put all this together
because whenever I'm talkingabout scripture, whenever I'm
referring to the Bible, I alwayswant it to be talked about in
context.
And this just comes from me,not only being a Sunday school
(03:34):
teacher and this is the way Iteach but also me being a
Christian.
This is the way I learn.
I don't like when people referto the Bible or refer to verses,
but don't give me context.
Don't give me, maybe, theverses before, the verses after.
Who's the audience?
Who was he speaking to?
What was going on, why heneeded to speak to these
(03:54):
specific people?
Like, give me context so I canreally understand what's being
talked about or what's beingsaid.
So first God created man, who'sAdam, he gave him a purpose.
And now, after he gives himthis purpose, god goes on to say
it's not good for man to bealone.
So okay, so Adam has beencreated, adam has a purpose.
(04:16):
But then God says it's not goodfor man to be alone.
So this is said in Genesis 2,18.
And the Lord God said it isn'tgood for man to be alone.
I will make a companion for him, a helper suited to his needs,
and I actually love this.
(04:37):
There's some verses that I likein different translations, but
specifically in the living bibletranslation, which is my
personal bible, I love how itsays a helper suited to his need
, and you'll understand why as Iget more to this episode.
So then, after god, who saysit's not good for man to be
(05:02):
alone, we now go on to see whenhe creates eve, and this is
genesis 2, 21 through 23.
Then the lord god caused theman to fall into a deep sleep,
which is adam, and took one ofhis ribs and closed up the place
from which he had removed itand made the ribbon to a woman,
(05:25):
which is Eve, and brought her tothe man.
This is it, adam exclaimed sheis part of my own bone and flesh
, her name is woman because shewas taken out of her man.
Okay, so now in those versesit's explaining how God created
the woman which is Eve, and hecreated her from Adam's body.
(05:49):
So then Adam and Eve becomehusband and wife.
Now they're husband and wife,and the two are joined together
to make one, which is going tobe very important to today's
episode, and this is Genesis 2and 24.
So I want you all to know thisis not just stuff that I'm
(06:09):
saying and that I'm coming upwith on my own.
This is referencing the Bible,and this is why I always tell
you to go back and read foryourself.
Whenever somebody is teachingyou the Bible, whenever someone
is referencing the Bible,whenever someone is talking
about God's word, please go readit for yourself.
Genesis 2 and 24 says thisexplains why a man leaves his
(06:32):
father and mother and is joinedto his wife in such a way that
the two become one person.
So God created man.
He gave him a purpose.
God then says it's not good forman to be alone, so he created
a woman, eve.
The two got married and the twoare not just two individuals
(06:55):
now even though you're still anindividual person when you get
married but instead of justbeing two, you join together in
such a way that you're nowbecoming one, meaning you
complete each other.
You should be better offtogether.
I make you better, you make mebetter.
We should be beneficial to oneanother.
(07:16):
We should be better offtogether than we were separately
.
The two are now one.
Okay, so what does this have todo with showing up as your full
self, you say, because I'm sureyou wonder.
Like okay, monique, you justgave me all these verses and for
those who may not read theBible or may not be of the
(07:37):
Christian faith, you may be likeokay, you know, I listen to all
this.
What does this have to do withshowing up with your full self?
All right, let's get into it.
What does this have to do withshowing up with your full self?
All right, let's get into it.
What does this have to do withshowing up with your full self
when you get married?
Who you were as a single personshouldn't be forgotten about or
(07:58):
left behind.
Your dreams, your goals, yourhopes, your desires, your
aspirations for your life canthey change?
Yes, can you readjust?
For sure.
But once we get married, ourspouses are to help us, support
us and encourage us to becomethe best versions of ourselves.
(08:21):
If a dream is going on theshelf temporarily, it's because
it's been mutually agreed uponfor this season of life that
we're in and that it would bebeneficial to us, for us, and
that it would be beneficial forus as a whole, not because one
(08:41):
spouse is living out theirdreams and other spouses
sacrifice theirs to watch theother.
To show up as your full self ina marriage, you have to
remember you're more than just aspouse, just a parent, just a
homemaker, just a chauffeur,just a cook, just a dot dot dot,
(09:02):
because you could fill that inwith so many other things.
There are so many of us aroundthe world who are doing all
sorts of different things.
As a spouse, as a parent, wehave so many different roles in
our homes that we took up For alot of people.
We got married, we said our due, we jumped the broom, we did
(09:26):
all of the things and we did allof the things.
And as we did all of thesethings, for some part of us was
left behind, some of us was letgo.
Some of us was forgotten about.
But that's not what marriageshould be.
It should be about twoindividuals coming together to
make one another better, to helpone another live out to their
(09:47):
fullest potential.
I want to help my husband liveout all his greatest dreams, if
it's according to God's will.
Now I'm not just going to sitout here and say I just want him
to be out here livingwilly-nilly.
That's not what I'm saying.
But if my husband has dreamsand desires and things that he
(10:08):
wants to see come to fruition inhis life and when I'm saying
this I don't want you guys tosee this and think about money
and necessarily the only thingsof this world what you may
consider to be success may notbe success to someone else.
So you and your spouse have totalk about that and discuss that
and figure out what is successfor you.
(10:30):
And that's something that I'velearned.
I've learned so many thingsbecause my husband and I got
married at such a young age, at21.
I've learned so many thingsalong the way.
What I thought was success backthen, in those younger years of
my life, at 36, a lot of thosethings not even on my list and I
(10:51):
honestly would say probablymajority of those things are on
my list of what I considersuccess now.
So my conversation back thenwould look completely different
from my conversation now.
What I consider to be successis so much different now.
I think about my family.
I think about my relationshipwith God, my faith, my village,
(11:13):
my friendship, my stewardship,what I'm going to teach my
children, my legacy, my childrenwhen they have their own
relationship with Christ andbeing able to say I saw my mom
live out her faith.
I wanted to know God because ofmy mom's relationship with God.
Being able to say how my momlived out her faith, I wanted to
know God because of my mom'srelationship with God, because
she walked this thing out andshe lived it out in our
household every day.
(11:34):
Those are the things that Icount as success.
People who I've met along theway being inspired by me because
of my walk with God, or peoplebeing able to say they, they
were encouraged by myrelationship with my husband and
being able to say I rememberyou know they got married so
(11:55):
young and and how God changedthe whole trajectory of their
life like that.
That is success to me, but Iwouldn't have been able to
verbalize any of that at 21.
That wasn't even on my radar.
A lot of those things wasn'teven on my radar.
What I'm saying is being able totalk with your spouse and see
(12:19):
how can you guys help oneanother live out your wildest
dreams and be at your fullpotential.
How can I help you become yourbest self, the best version of
who you are, who God wants youto be, because sometimes we need
that.
That's why God said Adam neededa help me.
He made him a helper suited tohis need, because what I may
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need may not be what you need,or what my husband need might
not be what your husband need.
And that's the beautiful thingabout marriage.
God is so intentional and sopersonal and so loving and so
kind.
In that way, in so manymarriages we usually marry our
opposites.
We usually marry the person wholacks something that we thrive
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in, and they thrive at somethingwe lack it, because that's how
God created it.
We balance one another, wecomplete one another.
But if you don't look at itlike that which I didn't in the
beginning of my marriage,because you know, you live and
you learn, but when you don'tlook at it like that, you see
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that as an issue.
Why is my partner not like me?
Why they don't see things likeme, why we can't agree?
But God didn't make us likethat.
He purposely made us different.
We are to complete andcomplement one another.
We are not to be the same.
If you've been feeling likeyou've lost a part of yourself
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you don't recognize the guy orwoman looking back at you in the
mirror get with your spouse andgo to the drawing board, have a
conversation and figure out howcan you guys get on the same
page about this conversation andfigure out how can you guys get
on the same page about this.
Is this something that you'vebeen wanting to do, desiring to
do?
And maybe you sacrificed it.
And maybe it was a sacrifice onyour own.
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You made the decision.
It wasn't because of yourspouse, it wasn't because of
your children.
Maybe you thought this is whatwas best for your family, but
you made that decision on yourown and now you have regret.
Now you're seeing your spouselive out their dreams and do the
things that make them happy andyou're wondering why you had to
give up on the things that youlove.
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Or maybe you did have aconversation with your spouse
and you guys once said thatwasn't what was best for the
family at the time.
But but now you're in a betterseason.
You're in a different season.
Maybe the kids are older, maybethe kids are in school, maybe
you're an empty nester and youneed to go back to the drawing
board, because things don't haveto stay the same.
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We are constantly changing, theseasons are constantly changing
, we are growing, we areevolving.
Go back to the drawing board.
What once worked may not workanymore.
What was once good for themarriage may not be good for the
marriage anymore.
What was once best for thefamily may not be best for the
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family anymore.
What once worked for you maynot work for you anymore.
Go back to the drawing board butbe together.
Let this draw you together andnot tear you apart, because your
spouse is supposed to help youfulfill your purpose.
They're supposed to help youbecome the best version of
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yourself, to help you becomeyour fullest potential.
You're supposed to do youbecome the best version of
yourself, to help you becomeyour fullest potential.
You're supposed to do thattogether, not separate.
When God created Adam before Eveever stepped on the scene, he
gave him a purpose.
His wife would help him tofulfill his purpose, and vice
versa, because Eve had a purposetoo.
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The same goes for us, and viceversa, because Eve had a purpose
too, the same goes for us.
God has given each one of us apurpose for our lives, and the
person you choose to spend therest of your life with is
supposed to help you accomplishthat here on earth.
This is why who you say I do tois so important.
This is more than just a pieceof paper, as some people like to
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say.
This is a covenant agreement.
This is purpose.
This is generations to comeafter you.
This decision will affect yourchildren, your children's
children and those to come.
I hope today's episode hashelped you.
Wherever you are today, shareit with someone you love,
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someone you think it would helpsomeone you think it would
encourage.
It will bless friend, family,co-worker, even your spouse,
even your spouse.
I think this would be abeautiful episode to share with
your spouse.
If you're not already, followme on TikTok and Facebook at
Demo with Mo and on Instagram atDemo with Mo Podcast, and
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remember I love you, but Godloves you so much more.
I'll see you guys next week.
Bye, I hope you guys haveenjoyed.
Follow me on Facebook at Demowith Mo.
If you have any questions youwould like answered here live on
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my podcast, email them to me atdemowithmo at gmailcom.
That's D-E-M-O-W-I-T-H-M-O atgmailcom.
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