August 8, 2025 • 26 mins
If finding a spouse feels like shouting into the void, it might be a visibility problem, not a you problem. Today we unpack what it really means to be visible as a single Muslim. From offline spaces you might be overlooking to subtle shifts in your digital presence, we share practical ways to rethink where and how you show up. It's not about being everywhere, it's about being in the right places and being intentional. Whether you're feeling stuck or just getting started, this episode helps you build a smarter visibility strategy that reflects who you are and gets you noticed by the kind of person who matters.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
I've been on this app for months and I'm getting
nowhere.
I must have messaged at least20 girls on this website and no
one responds.
I got a professional headshot,I got a killer profile, but
still nothing.
What else can I do?
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Assalamu alaikum, I'm Hiba.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
And I'm Zaid.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
You're listening to Diary of a Matchmaker.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
A podcast that will take you into our world as
matchmakers.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
We'll share our experiences and offer advice for
the single Muslim.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
So let's dive in Bismillah.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Assalamu alaikum everyone.
Welcome to another episode.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Assalamu alaikum.
So I've been reflecting and Iusually do before I prepare for
these episodes on my own journey, and what I realized is that I
was I felt like I was doing theright thing.
You know, putting my name outthere on every matrimonial
website that I could think of,always Googling the next
matrimonial event, tryingdifferent apps and God knows how
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many WhatsApp groups andFacebook groups I must have been
in.
So I thought, you know, beingproactive, doing the work, means
you put your hands in everybucket that you can find, and
yet and this was prior to likethe 100,000 different apps that
have exploded within the lastfive, six years from when I got
married so now, like, themarket's become even more
(01:17):
saturated.
Yet, despite the abundance ofapps and people, my assumption
is people are putting themselveson many different apps.
People are still strugglingright, there's still so much
hardship and so many people, youknow, dealing with singlehood
all the way up until their 30s.
So the conclusion that we'vecome to is that it's not people,
(01:38):
it's not the fact that peopleare not putting in the work.
In some cases, people areputting in the work, but we have
a visibility problem.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Right yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
So when we talk about visibility, we talk about what
we want to focus on is being inthe right places.
Right, exactly Making yourselfseen in the right places.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Not all places.
Not all places Right.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Just like with marketing.
I think we talked about this inthat last morning by the way
yeah, um, that you don't wantyour service to be for everyone.
You want it to be for the rightperson, right as somebody
that's looking to get married.
You don't want to reach out toeverybody.
You want to reach out to theright girl or the right guy yeah
, right, yeah um, because youjust want to spend your life
with just one person.
Of course, yeah.
So when we talk aboutvisibility, we want to present
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the best version of ourselves inthe right places yeah, exactly
so.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
we've talked previously in other episodes
about how to present yourself,how to build your profile, how
to make the apps work for you,and today we're going to talk
about the places.
Where are these right places?
Speaker 1 (02:34):
So, when we talk about being seen in the right
places, there is a way to dothat without losing your dignity
, without burning out, withouteven pretending to be someone.
You're not burning out withouteven pretending to be someone
you're not, because peopleoftentimes equate visibility
with desperation, and beingvisible doesn't mean you're
desperate and that's.
We've talked about that inseparate episodes too, where we
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have to remove the shame oflooking and speaking out about
the fact that we're single andwe're looking for a spouse right
.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Yeah, visibility is clarity, it's readiness, it's
telling the world I'm ready andtelling the world I know who I
am, I know what I want and I'mgoing out there to get it and
find it.
There's nothing wrong with that, whether you're a guy or a girl
.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
When we start looking into places beyond the apps and
matrimonial websites, it'simportant that we first start
with our core values, becausewhen we understand our core
values, then that willimmediately guide us to the
right places Exactly Right.
So, for example, if we'relooking for somebody that's more
deep, insightful, religiouslyoriented, of course naturally
you're going to be looking outfor halakhas, for tafsir classes
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, for conferences, right?
Like it's not Canada, forexample, I get their emails
almost emails almost every otherweek, right where they're doing
some sort of event and they'reinviting speakers.
So those are the kind of placesthat you should be looking into
now.
This sounds like common sense,but when our minds are just so
glued to apps and matrimonialwebsites, we overlook these
things sometimes, right?
Speaker 2 (03:57):
yeah, but you know what, before you go on, I just
want to caveat what you saidwith the following when we say
go to like value-based spaces,look in value-based spaces,
you're not just attending theevent or the space just to look.
You're not going there for thesole purpose of finding a spouse
, because this is going to,first of all, deprive you from
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enjoying the experience itself.
You're not going to be fullyyourself, and it's going to be
forced and you might end upgoing to places that don't align
with your values just becauseyou're desperate and you're
looking.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
So go to these places that we're going to suggest and
, whether they're online andwhether they're in person, with
the intention of being there,learning, enjoying the
experience, meeting new peopleand hopefully, by being there,
you're going to find the rightperson, or the right person is
gonna find you like you strikethat balance though, because
it's very easy to say that, butwhen you're somebody that's
desperate and it's been lookingfor a while, and you know that
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these places are like at, theseplaces are going to be people
that are going to be like-minded, that might share your values,
it's kind of hard to switch thatfirst of all, you said
desperate, and that's the verywrong way to start to go about
it okay people can, especiallywomen.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Women can smell desperation from a mile.
That's not good.
And second of all, if you'regonna be attending the whatever
event it is, and just with thesole purpose of finding a spouse
, you're not gonna even belistening to what's being said.
You're not gonna be able toengage in a meaningful way
exactly so.
That's not what we're saying.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
You're going there to learn, to engage, to enjoy, to
grow, and if the right person isright there, then there's a
chance you're going to find themor they're going to find you
for sure, and that's just oneexample of a place you can look
if you if you have that as oneof your core values somebody
that's more religiously inclined, if you're looking for somebody
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more socially aware, who's a?
Maybe you're a politicalactivist, right, you're
attending protests and stufflike that.
You like to organize events.
So attend fundraisers,interfaith events, things like
that yeah Right, and you willdefinitely find somebody who
shares some of those values.
So if you're more of theoutdoorsy type, you're into
fitness, you go biking, hiking,whatever it might be, why don't
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you be the one to organize?
those events, yeah, or join oneof them right even, let's say,
you don't find one in your localcommunity, organize one yeah
people will gravitate towardsthat.
Trust me.
When you, if you organize anevent where men and women are
invited of the same age muslimmen and women you don't even
have to mark it as a matrimonialevent oh, yeah, yeah right,
it's just an event open to menand women.
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We're just going to go hiking,biking, whatever it might be.
I'm sure people will come,because I guarantee you, those
people that are attending areprobably going to be thinking
the same thing as you, which isare they going to be single guys
and girls?
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I guarantee you they're going to be thinking
that and that's totally fine,because that's what you want
yeah, a lot of people want to bein places, but sometimes there
are no spaces, no places, soyou'll be the one to create the
room once you start, people willfollow exactly, yeah.
So yeah, don't wait for Muslimmarriage mixers.
Be part of a community building, maybe learning spaces, casual
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gatherings that's where people'sreal personalities shine.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
The reason we're mentioning all these things is
that we don't want you guys andI know I keep coming back to
this and you're going to hate mefor this we don't want you guys
to think that matrimonialwebsites and apps are the only
places where you can be visible.
There are so many other waysyou can make yourself be visible
and to be quiet, and we diddedicate an episode to apps.
You don't want to be visible inthe wrong places, and apps
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isn't the ideal place to bevisible in.
The best way you can be visibleis through in-person events.
Yeah, yeah, Right where peoplecan see your demeanor, they can
hear you Organically, justorganically.
But these are just a small listof examples.
Right, the list is endless.
You could do book readings, youcould do fundraisers.
The sky's the limit.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yeah, whatever your interests are, Book clubs, you
can start a book club and ifthere's nothing happening in
your neighborhood or in yourtown, that's okay.
You can do some driving, travela little bit to be in the right
spaces.
I mean people travel for Idon't know an hour or two hours.
I know we've done that to getto a good restaurant, so it's
worth it and, like we saidbefore you, be the start of
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something good.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Don't wait for people to be the pioneer?
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Whatever your interests are, throw something
at me.
Let's just try to think fromthe perspective of a single
Muslim trying here in the West.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
Okay, all right.
Now Palestine is on my mind, sowe could do something that kind
of brings people together underthe umbrella of activism.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
Yes, Though I would hate for people to use the
Palestine cause or humanitariancause for I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
No, I don't think there's anything wrong with that
.
It's kind of a win-win, likeyou're bringing people together,
you're you're contributing tothe cause of palestine, while
also, you know, muslim men andwomen are getting to meet one
another for and with their corevalues, aligning right activism
and fundraising things like thatso it takes us back to
intentions.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
You're not just trying to fish for people and
hunt for people and you aregenuinely are interested in
these, whatever spaces, andfinding a spouse is just a bonus
yeah, okay, I got one.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Okay, the the event, uh, where we went over to the
gulf universities and we weremaking kites from scratch kite
making.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
I know some of them.
Maybe not exactly in your lineof interest but, whatever your
interests are, find places andspaces around that.
Let's say, someone's interestedin cooking, baking.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
A lot of the girls we speak to they're interested in
baking yeah, rent a commercialkitchen um, charge people like a
50 fee or something and showthem how to make manish
tabbouleh, something I don'tknow or you can I don't know
donate your time to do a cookingclass for the community in the
masjid, in the masjid's kitchen.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
What are other interests?
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Other interests?
I don't know.
We mentioned fundraisers, right.
Yeah, we could do like anoutdoor gardening event, like
planting herbs or you know, anapple tree or something.
What about herbs, or you know?
Speaker 2 (09:59):
an apple tree or something.
Yeah, um.
Or we could do an event wherewe go to an old people's home.
Yeah, so caring for seniors,caring for seniors, that's a
great idea.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Yeah, you get to see how a guy, for example I know
girls would love this guy would,you know, serve an elderly
person right, like how heinteracts with somebody at that
age.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
So it's a great cause , you get the reward and if this
is what you're interested in,if these are your values, then
you're gonna meet the rightperson there.
You're not gonna meet the rightperson behind the screen, most
likely.
Most likely.
Let's try a few other ones okay, another one um why oh, oh.
What if someone is interestedin gaming?
Where would they find someoneum you?
Speaker 1 (10:34):
could do like an indoor gaming event.
Like rent a cafe, have a bunchof board games no, I mean gaming
as in, like online gaming oh, Idon't know about that oh
speaking of that escape roomsescape rooms.
Yeah, like a fun group escaperoom but this is more like
friends.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
You're not going with strangers, right I could see
working with strangers so howwould you just create a group?
like yeah, so you just create agroup, uh, like yeah, so you
just organize a group and say,hey, we're all going to go to an
escape room and if you want tocome, yeah, let us know, that's
it yeah, or maybe, if you're afoodie, you can start a group
whether it's an online group oreven better and like an
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in-person group for foodieswhere you share I don't know
your experiences with differentrestaurants, cu cuisines,
preferences, yourrecommendations Maybe you can go
out for tastings out liketogether.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Yeah, I want to do that.
I want to go to Rejoi and justtry everything there.
Try everything yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
Yeah, right.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Oh, I'm hungry right now, let's go to Rejoi.
One last one.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Niche interests.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
A niche interest.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
What if you are a chai enthusiast or a coffee
enthusiast?
You can start your own group.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
I could see that probably with my friends, with
Desi's yeah, desi's love theirchai.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Yeah, or maybe you're interested in the arts,
whatever type of art it is,whether it's writing, designing,
I could see that there are amillion and one ways yeah so
think outside of the box ifyou're overwhelmed and burdened
and just don't know where toseek help, let us help you.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
we can be your personal matchmakers.
Visit us at halalmatchca andbook a free call with us.
So you're at an event and ofcourse, you want to present the
best version of yourself, andI've seen this so many times.
You and I also helped Baba Aliat one of his matchmaking events
in Toronto, and we can just seepeople come in so many
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different stripes, right?
You see the shy person all theway in the corner who just like
he's just itching for this thingto be over, and then there's
that one girl on the table who'sbasically the hitler of the
table and just who's, just likecommanding everybody and saying
you're either on my side oryou're not.
So people come in differentstripes.
So the point that I'm making isthat you want to present the
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best version of yourself.
So some very practical thingsand it sounds like such common
sense, but it's still worthmentioning that you don't want
to be late, you don't want tojust avoid eye contact with
people, you don't want to juststick with the buddy that you
brought there and say please,don't leave me, please don't
leave me.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
Actually, I would suggest don't go with a friend,
whatever event.
It is because you have thatsafety net, you have that
comfort.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
You're going to stick to them and you're not going
talking about baba lee's event.
I actually did attend a babalee event when I was single a
long time ago um, and people.
I've seen this where people,just girls especially they scan
the room, they maybe do a onetable interaction or stick
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around for maybe an hour andthat's it, they're done, they
leave early and that's just sofrustrating because you haven't
given everybody a chance.
And maybe there's that one guywho just who spotted you from
the corner of the room, whothinks, hey, this girl's kind of
pretty, I want to.
You know, I'm waiting for thetables to rotate so I get a
chance to talk to her, but hey,but the girl left early yeah so
stick around it's.
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It really pays off put yourphone away.
Oh my god, yes, please put thephones away especially at this
the last thing you want to do istalk to somebody who's
distracted with their phone.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
Yeah, and this just doesn't apply to matrimonial
events.
Any of the events we mentionedbefore, or any event you can
think of show genuine interestin.
People ask I don't know, showinterest or admiration of an
insight they share.
Simply ask about their name.
What brought you here?
Genuine, genuine interest andnot fake?
People will remember how youmade them feel and not what you
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said.
As much.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yes, people are drawn to warmth.
Yeah, stick around after theevent.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
Yeah.
So the thing is, what we'retrying to say here is even if
you're showing up to the rightspaces, if you're not showing up
in the right way, then it's awaste.
Are you when you attend anyevent?
Are you the open type or like?
Are there like invisible wallswhere it's hard to approach you,
hard to talk to you?
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Yeah, I've seen so many times people once the
events over.
People just get out of there sofast like they're just itching
to leave.
It shows so much it really, umdemonstrates a lot about
somebody's behavior if they'redoing something as simple as
stacking the chairs or they'rejust thanking the organizer, or
they're just there to maybe givea potential match an extra five
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or ten minutes yeah, serving.
Serving will make peopleremember you and like I said, I
can't keep saying this enough.
It sounds like common sense,but guys and girls, remember
these things when you go to thenext matrimonial event.
Yes, it is nerve-wracking, yes,it is awkward, yes, like it
might be cringy at times because, like the organizer probably
did a really bad job and turnedit into a speed dating event.
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But make the most of it, do thesmall things that we're
suggesting and, inshallah,somebody will see.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
And again, it's not the matrimonial events per se.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Yeah, I'm just using that as an example.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
Like any event, I would wish honestly to just veer
away a little bit frommatrimonial events.
We're trying to think outsideof the box, right?
So let's say it was afundraiser.
Let's say stick around afterthe event.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
A lot of the important and meaningful
conversations happen after.
Yeah, because that's when, like, people can let their guard
down, like okay, the, thestressful part is over right,
which is organizing the event,making sure it goes smoothly
yeah and now?
Yeah, like you said, you'll seea different tone, a different
level of energy.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Yeah, yeah, um people will be able to see you um,
remember you, you too, andremember you.
That's it.
That's the thing.
How do people see?
Are you allowing people to seeyou for who you are?
Are you the approachable type?
Are you the easy to talk totype?
Are you the type who starts aconversation or you have to wait
for someone to approach you?
So these things, like I knowit's not easy getting out of
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your comfort zone, but remember,like I know it's not easy
getting out of your comfort zone, but remember, you are in a
space that aligns with yourvalues.
You're not going to a placethat, like, completely
contradicts your values.
You're not surrounded by peoplewho are so different from you.
You're in the right place.
Now allow yourself to be seen.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
So the intention to have in all of this work and we
can't say this enough is to stepout of your comfort zone.
When I first started looking,my intention was to find a desi
girl, because that's what I wascomfortable with, that's what I
was familiar with Desi food,brown skin girls, things like
that and I didn't realize thatnumber one, I was limiting
myself, but my core valuesextended much beyond my
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ethnicity.
So when we're talking aboutvisibility, it's very easy to
drift towards what's comfortable, what's familiar.
But it's important to go beyondthat right, to go beyond our
local community.
We see it all the time there'ssometimes a masjid for the
Somali community or for theEthiopian community, et cetera,
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et cetera, and we naturallygravitate towards that because
that's what we're comfortablewith and we're limiting our
options.
So look beyond those things,allow your core values to be
your guiding compass and exploreevents, in-person events, well
beyond your local, demographicor your ethnicity.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Even you know.
Try praying Jumu'ah atdifferent masjids, every time,
Different communities, right?
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
Maybe after the khutbah stick around and talk to
the people, like get to knowpeople around you.
Don't just wait for the imam tosay Assalamu alaikum wa
rahmatullah and then just be outof there Right, like a tornado
is coming or something.
Yeah, out the door and I'm notsaying like you're a guy and you
go to the women's section asyou start talking to girls.
But talk to the guy next to you.
You're a girl.
Talk to the girl next to you.
You never know.
Maybe you strike a friendship,maybe her brother is looking,
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maybe his daughter is lookingyou never know if I could ever
do that that's honestly.
I think this is a veryunderestimated way like the
masjid is supposed to be acommunity place.
It's not just a place toworship that's another
conversation yeah, yeah, yeah,yeah.
We should dedicate an episode tothat, we should so we talked a
lot about visibility in person.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
Now what about visibility online?
Yeah, we can't escape that wecan't escape that and even with
our own service, we ask peopleto upload their instagram
account information, theirlinked LinkedIn, their Facebook,
because people sometimes show adifferent version of themselves
on the registration form thanthey do online.
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Absolutely as much as weemphasize bringing the best
version of yourself in person,it also applies to bringing the
best version of yourself online,too.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
I would say truest, not best, yes, truest, authentic
, yeah, authentic version.
So yeah, I think it's a goodpoint.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
To I would say best, truest, not best.
Yes, true, authentic, yeah,authentic version.
So yeah, I think it's a goodpoint.
If someone googled me or lookedup my ig account, what would
they see?
And would they see a personthat would be eligible for
marriage or not?
Speaker 2 (19:32):
right.
If somebody saw my comments onposts, would they be seeing an
angry person, a cynical person,or would they be seeing a
positive person?
Speaker 1 (19:40):
yeah, or is it just, uh and I've seen this too are
you just posting pictures offlashy cars and expensive houses
, and is that the vibe you'regiving off?
So what vibe do you want togive off?
Is the content that you'reposting aligning with your core
values?
Yeah right if your core valuesone of your core values is
fitness, health, being outdoorsis what you're posting in
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alignment with that or not?
Speaker 2 (20:02):
is it self-centered or is it somehow serving of
other people?
Speaker 1 (20:06):
also is worth mentioning here is that the
digital space is a place whereyou can also get creative in
creating I repeated the word getcreative in creating um groups.
Right, because we talked aboutget thinking outside of the box
and doing in-person events.
The same thing applies toonline, yeah, right.
So whether that's um doingsomething like um volunteering
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your skills to a muslimorganization, um sending a dm to
the local masjid or um, youknow, starting your own telegram
group or whatsapp group wherepeople who share common values
are, I don't know, discussingthe common topics and stuff like
that.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
Yeah, even you remember Clubhouse.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
Yeah, whatever happened to Clubhouse?
Speaker 2 (20:47):
I don't know, but whatever your interests are,
join groups and engage in thesegroups, or create your own
groups and invite people in thecommunity to join them.
Discuss topics that areimportant to you, whether it's,
I don't know, mental healthrelationships, even groups
around art, journaling, fitness,camping, whatever Something
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that you're passionate about andthat will allow you to interact
with other people.
Hey, if you have a story totell, we'd love to have you on
here.
You'll find a safe space oflisteners who can understand
what you're going through.
Just shoot us an email with asummary of your story at info at
halalmatchca.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
All of these actions, these steps, these endeavors
that we take, they're allmeaningless unless it's guided
by our faith.
I'm sure everybody has heardthe hadith at some point in
their lives where the Prophetsays the actions are guided by
intentions, so we don't have anycontrol over the outcome.
All we have control of is ourintention, the pursuit itself,
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the work that we put in, butultimately we have to put the
outcome in Allah's hands.
I know it's easier said thandone.
I'm saying that as somebodywho's already married, but I've
been there and so I know it's avery rocky road.
But the more we put ourselvesin the right places, the more we
make ourselves visible in theright places and we do it with
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the right intention, the more ofa likelihood that the doors
will open up for us inshallah,yeah, yeah, you could attend 10
events and nothing happens, andthen on the 11th event, you meet
the right person.
It's not up to you, but you haveto do your work.
You have to tie your camelexactly.
And there's a beautiful versein the quran where musa alayhi
salam he was.
He was a refugee before he gotmarried and um he made a sincere
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dua to allah, saying I'm inneed of whatever good you send
down to me.
And right then and there, inthat moment, allah answered his
du'a.
Yeah, the two young girls, yes,and you could read the rest of
the story in Surah Qasas.
But that was Actually.
We talked about that in theproposal episode.
Yes, yeah, so we dedicate anentire episode to that story.
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It's the only proposalmentioned in the Qur'an.
So is the only proposalmentioned in the Quran.
So I suggest you guys checkthat episode out.
So, before we wrap up, what'sone visibility shift you're
going to make this week, whetherit's online or offline?
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Yeah, try to commit to each week, each month,
whatever you want, whateverfrequency.
Each time try something new,try something outside of your
comfort zone an event you neverthought about attending.
Maybe organizing an event,maybe something like you said,
online or in person.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
Maybe organizing an event, maybe something like you
said online or in person, yes,or cleaning up your social media
.
Maybe there's some picturesthat really don't reflect your
authentic self.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
That's a good point.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Yeah, clean up your social media, clean up your
beard.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
Make yourself presentable.
You need a haircut, by the way.
Yes, I know you say that everyday, yet you still haven't had
one.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Yes, because it's free, Regardless, there,
regardless.
Um, there's just so much we cando, and and there's so much
that we have in control, andthere's so many changes that we
can make, so implement thosechanges.
Present the best version ofyourself in in-person events or
online, and, inshallah, byallah's mercy, doors will open
up for you we always pray thatyou guys find a suitable spouse
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and, inshallah, someone suitablefor you will come.
You guys just got to tie yourcamel.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
Yeah, yeah.
And if you know someone who'sin that stage of why can't I
find someone, where can I findsomeone?
Please share this episode withthem.
Maybe something will click forthem.
You never know.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
Until next time Assalamualaikum.
I've been on this app for months and I'm getting
nowhere.
I must have messaged at least20 girls on this website and no
one responds.
I got a professional headshot,I got a killer profile, but
still nothing.
What else can I do?
Speaker 2 (00:16):
Assalamu alaikum, I'm Hiba.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
And I'm Zaid.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
You're listening to Diary of a Matchmaker.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
A podcast that will take you into our world as
matchmakers.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
We'll share our experiences and offer advice for
the single Muslim.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
So let's dive in Bismillah.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Assalamu alaikum everyone.
Welcome to another episode.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Assalamu alaikum.
So I've been reflecting and Iusually do before I prepare for
these episodes on my own journey, and what I realized is that I
was I felt like I was doing theright thing.
You know, putting my name outthere on every matrimonial
website that I could think of,always Googling the next
matrimonial event, tryingdifferent apps and God knows how
(00:57):
many WhatsApp groups andFacebook groups I must have been
in.
So I thought, you know, beingproactive, doing the work, means
you put your hands in everybucket that you can find, and
yet and this was prior to likethe 100,000 different apps that
have exploded within the lastfive, six years from when I got
married so now, like, themarket's become even more
(01:17):
saturated.
Yet, despite the abundance ofapps and people, my assumption
is people are putting themselveson many different apps.
People are still strugglingright, there's still so much
hardship and so many people, youknow, dealing with singlehood
all the way up until their 30s.
So the conclusion that we'vecome to is that it's not people,
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it's not the fact that peopleare not putting in the work.
In some cases, people areputting in the work, but we have
a visibility problem.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Right yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
So when we talk about visibility, we talk about what
we want to focus on is being inthe right places.
Right, exactly Making yourselfseen in the right places.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Not all places.
Not all places Right.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Just like with marketing.
I think we talked about this inthat last morning by the way
yeah, um, that you don't wantyour service to be for everyone.
You want it to be for the rightperson, right as somebody
that's looking to get married.
You don't want to reach out toeverybody.
You want to reach out to theright girl or the right guy yeah
, right, yeah um, because youjust want to spend your life
with just one person.
Of course, yeah.
So when we talk aboutvisibility, we want to present
(02:19):
the best version of ourselves inthe right places yeah, exactly
so.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
we've talked previously in other episodes
about how to present yourself,how to build your profile, how
to make the apps work for you,and today we're going to talk
about the places.
Where are these right places?
Speaker 1 (02:34):
So, when we talk about being seen in the right
places, there is a way to dothat without losing your dignity
, without burning out, withouteven pretending to be someone.
You're not burning out withouteven pretending to be someone
you're not, because peopleoftentimes equate visibility
with desperation, and beingvisible doesn't mean you're
desperate and that's.
We've talked about that inseparate episodes too, where we
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have to remove the shame oflooking and speaking out about
the fact that we're single andwe're looking for a spouse right
.
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Yeah, visibility is clarity, it's readiness, it's
telling the world I'm ready andtelling the world I know who I
am, I know what I want and I'mgoing out there to get it and
find it.
There's nothing wrong with that, whether you're a guy or a girl
.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
When we start looking into places beyond the apps and
matrimonial websites, it'simportant that we first start
with our core values, becausewhen we understand our core
values, then that willimmediately guide us to the
right places Exactly Right.
So, for example, if we'relooking for somebody that's more
deep, insightful, religiouslyoriented, of course naturally
you're going to be looking outfor halakhas, for tafsir classes
(03:38):
, for conferences, right?
Like it's not Canada, forexample, I get their emails
almost emails almost every otherweek, right where they're doing
some sort of event and they'reinviting speakers.
So those are the kind of placesthat you should be looking into
now.
This sounds like common sense,but when our minds are just so
glued to apps and matrimonialwebsites, we overlook these
things sometimes, right?
Speaker 2 (03:57):
yeah, but you know what, before you go on, I just
want to caveat what you saidwith the following when we say
go to like value-based spaces,look in value-based spaces,
you're not just attending theevent or the space just to look.
You're not going there for thesole purpose of finding a spouse
, because this is going to,first of all, deprive you from
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enjoying the experience itself.
You're not going to be fullyyourself, and it's going to be
forced and you might end upgoing to places that don't align
with your values just becauseyou're desperate and you're
looking.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
So go to these places that we're going to suggest and
, whether they're online andwhether they're in person, with
the intention of being there,learning, enjoying the
experience, meeting new peopleand hopefully, by being there,
you're going to find the rightperson, or the right person is
gonna find you like you strikethat balance though, because
it's very easy to say that, butwhen you're somebody that's
desperate and it's been lookingfor a while, and you know that
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these places are like at, theseplaces are going to be people
that are going to be like-minded, that might share your values,
it's kind of hard to switch thatfirst of all, you said
desperate, and that's the verywrong way to start to go about
it okay people can, especiallywomen.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Women can smell desperation from a mile.
That's not good.
And second of all, if you'regonna be attending the whatever
event it is, and just with thesole purpose of finding a spouse
, you're not gonna even belistening to what's being said.
You're not gonna be able toengage in a meaningful way
exactly so.
That's not what we're saying.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
You're going there to learn, to engage, to enjoy, to
grow, and if the right person isright there, then there's a
chance you're going to find themor they're going to find you
for sure, and that's just oneexample of a place you can look
if you if you have that as oneof your core values somebody
that's more religiously inclined, if you're looking for somebody
(05:46):
more socially aware, who's a?
Maybe you're a politicalactivist, right, you're
attending protests and stufflike that.
You like to organize events.
So attend fundraisers,interfaith events, things like
that yeah Right, and you willdefinitely find somebody who
shares some of those values.
So if you're more of theoutdoorsy type, you're into
fitness, you go biking, hiking,whatever it might be, why don't
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you be the one to organize?
those events, yeah, or join oneof them right even, let's say,
you don't find one in your localcommunity, organize one yeah
people will gravitate towardsthat.
Trust me.
When you, if you organize anevent where men and women are
invited of the same age muslimmen and women you don't even
have to mark it as a matrimonialevent oh, yeah, yeah right,
it's just an event open to menand women.
(06:28):
We're just going to go hiking,biking, whatever it might be.
I'm sure people will come,because I guarantee you, those
people that are attending areprobably going to be thinking
the same thing as you, which isare they going to be single guys
and girls?
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I guarantee you they're going to be thinking
that and that's totally fine,because that's what you want
yeah, a lot of people want to bein places, but sometimes there
are no spaces, no places, soyou'll be the one to create the
room once you start, people willfollow exactly, yeah.
So yeah, don't wait for Muslimmarriage mixers.
Be part of a community building, maybe learning spaces, casual
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gatherings that's where people'sreal personalities shine.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
The reason we're mentioning all these things is
that we don't want you guys andI know I keep coming back to
this and you're going to hate mefor this we don't want you guys
to think that matrimonialwebsites and apps are the only
places where you can be visible.
There are so many other waysyou can make yourself be visible
and to be quiet, and we diddedicate an episode to apps.
You don't want to be visible inthe wrong places, and apps
(07:24):
isn't the ideal place to bevisible in.
The best way you can be visibleis through in-person events.
Yeah, yeah, Right where peoplecan see your demeanor, they can
hear you Organically, justorganically.
But these are just a small listof examples.
Right, the list is endless.
You could do book readings, youcould do fundraisers.
The sky's the limit.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
Yeah, whatever your interests are, Book clubs, you
can start a book club and ifthere's nothing happening in
your neighborhood or in yourtown, that's okay.
You can do some driving, travela little bit to be in the right
spaces.
I mean people travel for Idon't know an hour or two hours.
I know we've done that to getto a good restaurant, so it's
worth it and, like we saidbefore you, be the start of
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something good.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Don't wait for people to be the pioneer?
Speaker 2 (08:10):
Whatever your interests are, throw something
at me.
Let's just try to think fromthe perspective of a single
Muslim trying here in the West.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
Okay, all right.
Now Palestine is on my mind, sowe could do something that kind
of brings people together underthe umbrella of activism.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
Yes, Though I would hate for people to use the
Palestine cause or humanitariancause for I don't know.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
No, I don't think there's anything wrong with that
.
It's kind of a win-win, likeyou're bringing people together,
you're you're contributing tothe cause of palestine, while
also, you know, muslim men andwomen are getting to meet one
another for and with their corevalues, aligning right activism
and fundraising things like thatso it takes us back to
intentions.
Speaker 2 (08:54):
You're not just trying to fish for people and
hunt for people and you aregenuinely are interested in
these, whatever spaces, andfinding a spouse is just a bonus
yeah, okay, I got one.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Okay, the the event, uh, where we went over to the
gulf universities and we weremaking kites from scratch kite
making.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
I know some of them.
Maybe not exactly in your lineof interest but, whatever your
interests are, find places andspaces around that.
Let's say, someone's interestedin cooking, baking.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
A lot of the girls we speak to they're interested in
baking yeah, rent a commercialkitchen um, charge people like a
50 fee or something and showthem how to make manish
tabbouleh, something I don'tknow or you can I don't know
donate your time to do a cookingclass for the community in the
masjid, in the masjid's kitchen.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
What are other interests?
Speaker 1 (09:42):
Other interests?
I don't know.
We mentioned fundraisers, right.
Yeah, we could do like anoutdoor gardening event, like
planting herbs or you know, anapple tree or something.
What about herbs, or you know?
Speaker 2 (09:59):
an apple tree or something.
Yeah, um.
Or we could do an event wherewe go to an old people's home.
Yeah, so caring for seniors,caring for seniors, that's a
great idea.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
Yeah, you get to see how a guy, for example I know
girls would love this guy would,you know, serve an elderly
person right, like how heinteracts with somebody at that
age.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
So it's a great cause , you get the reward and if this
is what you're interested in,if these are your values, then
you're gonna meet the rightperson there.
You're not gonna meet the rightperson behind the screen, most
likely.
Most likely.
Let's try a few other ones okay, another one um why oh, oh.
What if someone is interestedin gaming?
Where would they find someoneum you?
Speaker 1 (10:34):
could do like an indoor gaming event.
Like rent a cafe, have a bunchof board games no, I mean gaming
as in, like online gaming oh, Idon't know about that oh
speaking of that escape roomsescape rooms.
Yeah, like a fun group escaperoom but this is more like
friends.
Speaker 2 (10:50):
You're not going with strangers, right I could see
working with strangers so howwould you just create a group?
like yeah, so you just create agroup, uh, like yeah, so you
just organize a group and say,hey, we're all going to go to an
escape room and if you want tocome, yeah, let us know, that's
it yeah, or maybe, if you're afoodie, you can start a group
whether it's an online group oreven better and like an
(11:11):
in-person group for foodieswhere you share I don't know
your experiences with differentrestaurants, cu cuisines,
preferences, yourrecommendations Maybe you can go
out for tastings out liketogether.
Speaker 1 (11:24):
Yeah, I want to do that.
I want to go to Rejoi and justtry everything there.
Try everything yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:28):
Yeah, right.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Oh, I'm hungry right now, let's go to Rejoi.
One last one.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (11:36):
Niche interests.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
A niche interest.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
What if you are a chai enthusiast or a coffee
enthusiast?
You can start your own group.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
I could see that probably with my friends, with
Desi's yeah, desi's love theirchai.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Yeah, or maybe you're interested in the arts,
whatever type of art it is,whether it's writing, designing,
I could see that there are amillion and one ways yeah so
think outside of the box ifyou're overwhelmed and burdened
and just don't know where toseek help, let us help you.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
we can be your personal matchmakers.
Visit us at halalmatchca andbook a free call with us.
So you're at an event and ofcourse, you want to present the
best version of yourself, andI've seen this so many times.
You and I also helped Baba Aliat one of his matchmaking events
in Toronto, and we can just seepeople come in so many
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different stripes, right?
You see the shy person all theway in the corner who just like
he's just itching for this thingto be over, and then there's
that one girl on the table who'sbasically the hitler of the
table and just who's, just likecommanding everybody and saying
you're either on my side oryou're not.
So people come in differentstripes.
So the point that I'm making isthat you want to present the
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best version of yourself.
So some very practical thingsand it sounds like such common
sense, but it's still worthmentioning that you don't want
to be late, you don't want tojust avoid eye contact with
people, you don't want to juststick with the buddy that you
brought there and say please,don't leave me, please don't
leave me.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
Actually, I would suggest don't go with a friend,
whatever event.
It is because you have thatsafety net, you have that
comfort.
Speaker 1 (13:13):
You're going to stick to them and you're not going
talking about baba lee's event.
I actually did attend a babalee event when I was single a
long time ago um, and people.
I've seen this where people,just girls especially they scan
the room, they maybe do a onetable interaction or stick
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around for maybe an hour andthat's it, they're done, they
leave early and that's just sofrustrating because you haven't
given everybody a chance.
And maybe there's that one guywho just who spotted you from
the corner of the room, whothinks, hey, this girl's kind of
pretty, I want to.
You know, I'm waiting for thetables to rotate so I get a
chance to talk to her, but hey,but the girl left early yeah so
stick around it's.
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It really pays off put yourphone away.
Oh my god, yes, please put thephones away especially at this
the last thing you want to do istalk to somebody who's
distracted with their phone.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
Yeah, and this just doesn't apply to matrimonial
events.
Any of the events we mentionedbefore, or any event you can
think of show genuine interestin.
People ask I don't know, showinterest or admiration of an
insight they share.
Simply ask about their name.
What brought you here?
Genuine, genuine interest andnot fake?
People will remember how youmade them feel and not what you
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said.
As much.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yes, people are drawn to warmth.
Yeah, stick around after theevent.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
Yeah.
So the thing is, what we'retrying to say here is even if
you're showing up to the rightspaces, if you're not showing up
in the right way, then it's awaste.
Are you when you attend anyevent?
Are you the open type or like?
Are there like invisible wallswhere it's hard to approach you,
hard to talk to you?
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Yeah, I've seen so many times people once the
events over.
People just get out of there sofast like they're just itching
to leave.
It shows so much it really, umdemonstrates a lot about
somebody's behavior if they'redoing something as simple as
stacking the chairs or they'rejust thanking the organizer, or
they're just there to maybe givea potential match an extra five
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or ten minutes yeah, serving.
Serving will make peopleremember you and like I said, I
can't keep saying this enough.
It sounds like common sense,but guys and girls, remember
these things when you go to thenext matrimonial event.
Yes, it is nerve-wracking, yes,it is awkward, yes, like it
might be cringy at times because, like the organizer probably
did a really bad job and turnedit into a speed dating event.
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But make the most of it, do thesmall things that we're
suggesting and, inshallah,somebody will see.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
And again, it's not the matrimonial events per se.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Yeah, I'm just using that as an example.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
Like any event, I would wish honestly to just veer
away a little bit frommatrimonial events.
We're trying to think outsideof the box, right?
So let's say it was afundraiser.
Let's say stick around afterthe event.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
A lot of the important and meaningful
conversations happen after.
Yeah, because that's when, like, people can let their guard
down, like okay, the, thestressful part is over right,
which is organizing the event,making sure it goes smoothly
yeah and now?
Yeah, like you said, you'll seea different tone, a different
level of energy.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Yeah, yeah, um people will be able to see you um,
remember you, you too, andremember you.
That's it.
That's the thing.
How do people see?
Are you allowing people to seeyou for who you are?
Are you the approachable type?
Are you the easy to talk totype?
Are you the type who starts aconversation or you have to wait
for someone to approach you?
So these things, like I knowit's not easy getting out of
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your comfort zone, but remember,like I know it's not easy
getting out of your comfort zone, but remember, you are in a
space that aligns with yourvalues.
You're not going to a placethat, like, completely
contradicts your values.
You're not surrounded by peoplewho are so different from you.
You're in the right place.
Now allow yourself to be seen.
Speaker 1 (16:58):
So the intention to have in all of this work and we
can't say this enough is to stepout of your comfort zone.
When I first started looking,my intention was to find a desi
girl, because that's what I wascomfortable with, that's what I
was familiar with Desi food,brown skin girls, things like
that and I didn't realize thatnumber one, I was limiting
myself, but my core valuesextended much beyond my
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ethnicity.
So when we're talking aboutvisibility, it's very easy to
drift towards what's comfortable, what's familiar.
But it's important to go beyondthat right, to go beyond our
local community.
We see it all the time there'ssometimes a masjid for the
Somali community or for theEthiopian community, et cetera,
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et cetera, and we naturallygravitate towards that because
that's what we're comfortablewith and we're limiting our
options.
So look beyond those things,allow your core values to be
your guiding compass and exploreevents, in-person events, well
beyond your local, demographicor your ethnicity.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
Even you know.
Try praying Jumu'ah atdifferent masjids, every time,
Different communities, right?
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
Maybe after the khutbah stick around and talk to
the people, like get to knowpeople around you.
Don't just wait for the imam tosay Assalamu alaikum wa
rahmatullah and then just be outof there Right, like a tornado
is coming or something.
Yeah, out the door and I'm notsaying like you're a guy and you
go to the women's section asyou start talking to girls.
But talk to the guy next to you.
You're a girl.
Talk to the girl next to you.
You never know.
Maybe you strike a friendship,maybe her brother is looking,
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maybe his daughter is lookingyou never know if I could ever
do that that's honestly.
I think this is a veryunderestimated way like the
masjid is supposed to be acommunity place.
It's not just a place toworship that's another
conversation yeah, yeah, yeah,yeah.
We should dedicate an episode tothat, we should so we talked a
lot about visibility in person.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
Now what about visibility online?
Yeah, we can't escape that wecan't escape that and even with
our own service, we ask peopleto upload their instagram
account information, theirlinked LinkedIn, their Facebook,
because people sometimes show adifferent version of themselves
on the registration form thanthey do online.
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Absolutely as much as weemphasize bringing the best
version of yourself in person,it also applies to bringing the
best version of yourself online,too.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
I would say truest, not best, yes, truest, authentic
, yeah, authentic version.
So yeah, I think it's a goodpoint.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
To I would say best, truest, not best.
Yes, true, authentic, yeah,authentic version.
So yeah, I think it's a goodpoint.
If someone googled me or lookedup my ig account, what would
they see?
And would they see a personthat would be eligible for
marriage or not?
Speaker 2 (19:32):
right.
If somebody saw my comments onposts, would they be seeing an
angry person, a cynical person,or would they be seeing a
positive person?
Speaker 1 (19:40):
yeah, or is it just, uh and I've seen this too are
you just posting pictures offlashy cars and expensive houses
, and is that the vibe you'regiving off?
So what vibe do you want togive off?
Is the content that you'reposting aligning with your core
values?
Yeah right if your core valuesone of your core values is
fitness, health, being outdoorsis what you're posting in
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alignment with that or not?
Speaker 2 (20:02):
is it self-centered or is it somehow serving of
other people?
Speaker 1 (20:06):
also is worth mentioning here is that the
digital space is a place whereyou can also get creative in
creating I repeated the word getcreative in creating um groups.
Right, because we talked aboutget thinking outside of the box
and doing in-person events.
The same thing applies toonline, yeah, right.
So whether that's um doingsomething like um volunteering
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your skills to a muslimorganization, um sending a dm to
the local masjid or um, youknow, starting your own telegram
group or whatsapp group wherepeople who share common values
are, I don't know, discussingthe common topics and stuff like
that.
Speaker 2 (20:43):
Yeah, even you remember Clubhouse.
Speaker 1 (20:46):
Yeah, whatever happened to Clubhouse?
Speaker 2 (20:47):
I don't know, but whatever your interests are,
join groups and engage in thesegroups, or create your own
groups and invite people in thecommunity to join them.
Discuss topics that areimportant to you, whether it's,
I don't know, mental healthrelationships, even groups
around art, journaling, fitness,camping, whatever Something
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that you're passionate about andthat will allow you to interact
with other people.
Hey, if you have a story totell, we'd love to have you on
here.
You'll find a safe space oflisteners who can understand
what you're going through.
Just shoot us an email with asummary of your story at info at
halalmatchca.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
All of these actions, these steps, these endeavors
that we take, they're allmeaningless unless it's guided
by our faith.
I'm sure everybody has heardthe hadith at some point in
their lives where the Prophetsays the actions are guided by
intentions, so we don't have anycontrol over the outcome.
All we have control of is ourintention, the pursuit itself,
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the work that we put in, butultimately we have to put the
outcome in Allah's hands.
I know it's easier said thandone.
I'm saying that as somebodywho's already married, but I've
been there and so I know it's avery rocky road.
But the more we put ourselvesin the right places, the more we
make ourselves visible in theright places and we do it with
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the right intention, the more ofa likelihood that the doors
will open up for us inshallah,yeah, yeah, you could attend 10
events and nothing happens, andthen on the 11th event, you meet
the right person.
It's not up to you, but you haveto do your work.
You have to tie your camelexactly.
And there's a beautiful versein the quran where musa alayhi
salam he was.
He was a refugee before he gotmarried and um he made a sincere
(22:36):
dua to allah, saying I'm inneed of whatever good you send
down to me.
And right then and there, inthat moment, allah answered his
du'a.
Yeah, the two young girls, yes,and you could read the rest of
the story in Surah Qasas.
But that was Actually.
We talked about that in theproposal episode.
Yes, yeah, so we dedicate anentire episode to that story.
(22:56):
It's the only proposalmentioned in the Qur'an.
So is the only proposalmentioned in the Quran.
So I suggest you guys checkthat episode out.
So, before we wrap up, what'sone visibility shift you're
going to make this week, whetherit's online or offline?
Speaker 2 (23:05):
Yeah, try to commit to each week, each month,
whatever you want, whateverfrequency.
Each time try something new,try something outside of your
comfort zone an event you neverthought about attending.
Maybe organizing an event,maybe something like you said,
online or in person.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
Maybe organizing an event, maybe something like you
said online or in person, yes,or cleaning up your social media
.
Maybe there's some picturesthat really don't reflect your
authentic self.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
That's a good point.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Yeah, clean up your social media, clean up your
beard.
Speaker 2 (23:30):
Make yourself presentable.
You need a haircut, by the way.
Yes, I know you say that everyday, yet you still haven't had
one.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Yes, because it's free, Regardless, there,
regardless.
Um, there's just so much we cando, and and there's so much
that we have in control, andthere's so many changes that we
can make, so implement thosechanges.
Present the best version ofyourself in in-person events or
online, and, inshallah, byallah's mercy, doors will open
up for you we always pray thatyou guys find a suitable spouse
(23:59):
and, inshallah, someone suitablefor you will come.
You guys just got to tie yourcamel.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
Yeah, yeah.
And if you know someone who'sin that stage of why can't I
find someone, where can I findsomeone?
Please share this episode withthem.
Maybe something will click forthem.
You never know.
Speaker 1 (24:15):
Until next time Assalamualaikum.
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