Dimming The Gaslight: Our Healing Journey From Narcissistic Abuse
Welcome to Dimming The Gaslight! I'm Mac—a male survivor of Narcissistic Abuse. I’m documenting my real-time war divorcing a female narcissist, fighting for my kids, and surviving the U.S. family court system. I am joined by my best friend and co-host, Phil. As the former host of the "Surviving The Covert Narcissist" podcast, Phil brings a veteran perspective and much-needed levity to the darkness. We break down the legal battles and the healing journey week by week. But this platform is for you, too. To share your story as a guest, email us -DimmingTheGaslight@gmail.com to be on the show!
Episodes
So I thought about it. And then thought about it, and thought about it, and thought about it some more.
And then I got a case of the fuck-its.
Why should I stay quiet? If it’s the truth, then let the truth be told. I’m putting this one-time Patreon episode out on the public podcast.
This episode is a marathon. It's a 2.5-hour purge of the demons from a relationship I thought was real. Unfortunately, I fell for another ...
🎄👻 Holiday Horror Stories is here.
From ice that somehow caused a meltdown, to a pie that turned into a full-blown nightmare, to one person quietly planning their escape while the lights are still up…
If your ex ever ruined the holidays, this episode is for you.
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@lets_talk_about_narcissism hosts the “The Narc Mother In Law” podcast. She is an old friend and I’ve been trying to have her on the pod for a long, long time!
Erica’s ex-mother-in-law is a nightmare, and she didn’t get much help from her ex-husband either. Her MIL constantly badgered her about her weight, invited her husband’s ex-girlfriend to Christmas, and even made statements that led Erica to believe her life was in danger!...
This week on Dimming the Gaslight, we welcome back Jennifer — you’ll remember her from Episode 113. Since then, her husband’s NEx has been busy, and Jen is here to give us an unbelievable update on the chaos she’s been dealing with.
From the NEx stealing Jen’s idea for a special Disneyland trip… to taking cheap shots about Jen’s body… to even mocking a family member battling cancer — the shenanigans are somehow both shocking and...
We always joke that “this whole situation could be a movie”… so why not a full-blown theatrical performance? This week, we’re joined by Brooke — writer, director, producer, and star of a one-woman show that exposes gaslighting for what it truly is: a full-on circus.
She gives us a sneak peek into the plot, the characters, the chaos, and how each moment connects to her own lived experiences. This story is wild, raw, and unlike anythi...
One of our all-time favorite guests is back this week! Dr. Josh Smith @drj.smith — psychologist and expert in narcissistic abuse — joins us to break down the victim complex of narcissists. It all starts with a real situation that happened with Mac, and unfolds into a powerful talk about how toxic people twist communication, flip the script, and play the victim… and how you can protect your peace.
This week, we share one of the most harrowing “neighbor from hell” stories you will ever hear. Our guest, Heather, details a relentless campaign of terror that goes far beyond a simple dispute. She describes enduring constant stalking, high beams shone into her home at all hours, and disruptive heavy machinery (bobcats) running day and night. The harassment allegedly escalated to horrifying levels, including arrows and Molotov cock...
@kaylynhakansontheauthor is a new friend of the podcast that wrote a book called “You Can’t Break Me”. She joins us on this exciting episode to detail how her good intentioned journey to find her biological brother turned into a harrowing journey of narcissistic abuse, unmitigated danger, and ultimately, parental alienation by an absolutely broken court system!
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Eddie is back from last week with part 2 of his story! From how he met his NEx, to the torment from her family, to realizing he was in a toxic relationship, Eddie’s story will continue to have you on the edge of your seat!
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Eddie is here with an insane story! With what starts with a road trip with his NEx that turns into a compete meltdown, Eddie takes us down memory lane with stories that will make the hair on your arms stand up!
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Matilda joins us all the way from Ireland to tell us about her story of parental alienation! After a shocking turn from her NEx at the birth of her first child, he began systematically trying to alienate her from her children. Now, Matilda is in the fight of her life to reconnect with them!
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Ethan is a new friend of mine, and his story is WILD. From his ex constantly accusing him of cheating… to attacking him in his sleep… to even trying to stop him from learning about narcissism—Ethan’s journey will have you gasping from start to finish.
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We all know the courts look for physical violence when ruling on family court cases, but what about coercive control? How does that fit in? Well, Sanda Fava ESQ is here to talk with us about some updated laws and rulings in NJ! We discuss what judges look for, the evidence we need to present, and what we can do to help our children!
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David Littman is a retired Detective that spent over 27 years on the force. He breaks down how he responded to a domestic violence call, what he looks for, what he thinks about the justice system, and shares some of his craziest stories from the force!
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Christopher Anderson is an attorney at New Leaf Family Law Firm (@newleaf.family), a full service law firm out of Colorado, USA. He's here to discuss what narcissism looks like in the court room. We discuss a range of topics such as how he allows a narcissist a long rope of lies before reeling them back in, how he manages cases in high conflict divorces, and whether or not the courts are equipt to handle the charade a narcissis...
Kelly is back to tell part 2 of her story - how the county prosecutor's office TOTALLY dropped the ball on her case! She goes in depth on the legal process, how she was wrongfully accused of a felony, and how her psychotic ex was stalking her - all under the prosecutor's nose!
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Kelly Sutliff survived a brutal attack that was featured on HBO Max's series "Toxic".
Her ex husband turned her home into a blood bath, trying to make it look like Kelly tried to kill HIM! She joins Phil and I to break down the early love bombing phase, red flags and lies she wishes she had caught in the beginning, and details the attack that will leave your heart beat pumping!
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@dougbuggle is one of my absolute favorite people I’ve ever connected with in the narcissistic abuse community! He’s back - with a friend @robbyseinschwartz - to be our first ever third time guest! Doug wrote a book called “Goodbye Tammy: Third Time Was Not A Charm”, and now has a HUGE announcement that he’s sharing exclusively on DTG! Listen to the episode to find out the big announcement!
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Derrick is a long time listener and friend of the pod with a story to tell! He had an abusive step father that made his life hell. He went to the military just to get away, wrestled with his mental health, and his step father even triangulated his immediate family against him!
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JP is back to tell part 2 of her story! From violent outbursts towards her kids, to police calls, and court dates, JP’s story keeps getting crazier and crazier!
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