Episode 2: Fear, People Pleasing, and Goth

Gen X sisters, menopausal phase, discuss their newly diagnosed ADHD and share their experiences of utilizing fear as a motivator. They reminisce about their childhood, highlighting different coping mechanisms. The conversation delves into topics like feeling misunderstood, ADHD in relation to goth culture, and different perspectives on behavioral issues. The sisters aim to uplift and support women dealing with undiagnosed ADHD, emphasizing the importance of seeking help and community.

Episode Transcript

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.9Hello, and thank you for joining our stream of conscious ADHD podcast.
I'm Heidi Faucette, along with my sister Heather.
We are Gen X, in menopause, and surprise, newly diagnosed with ADHD.
Since we found out about our ADHD during the pandemic, we have spent most weekends sitting in my backyard in Brooklyn with our champagne brunch discussing the impact.

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The reflections, the grief, the stories.
Many adults are now finding they were never diagnosed.
So, we thought we would bring everyone into our backyard discovery sessions, hoping it will help.
We laugh.
We cry.
We are stream of consciousness conversationalists. 11 00:00:47,9.999 --> 00:00:52,320 We hope you enjoy listening to our discovery and perhaps glean some comfort from it.

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Here we go.
Into the backyard.
Being motivated to do the thing that doesn't interest you, you need fear.
That was a comment that we made the other day. 16 00:01:02,539.999 --> 00:01:13,610 Well, yeah, because normally people have an interest in something and they have that the dopamine rush in their brain that motivates them to do the thing, but ADHD ers don't have that.

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So how do you motivate yourself to do it? You don't have the chemistry that pushes your brain forward.
You're like, "Oh, look, a challenge. 19 00:01:21,984.999 --> 00:01:30,225.1 Yay!" For me, I had to, and I didn't know I was doing it, but I was like, "if I don't do this thing, this is going to make me fail. 20 00:01:30,265.1 --> 00:01:32,505.1 It's going to cause a domino effect of failure." 21 00:01:32,785.1 --> 00:01:35,45.1 So I had to use fear as a motivator. 22 00:01:35,45.1 --> 00:01:37,215.1 And I didn't start doing this until college. 23 00:01:37,605.1 --> 00:01:41,685.1 And I started college at 27 because I was like, "I can't be poor for the rest of my life." 24 00:01:41,935.1 --> 00:01:48,115.1 But you said that you employed the fear earlier which was new information for us all. 25 00:01:48,115.1 --> 00:01:49,305.1 Right? Right. 26 00:01:49,335.1 --> 00:01:57,965.0995 Well, and again, discovering all things, but yes, because so Heather and I, we always say we share the same brain and, and we are very similar. 27 00:01:58,25.0995 --> 00:01:59,945.0995 And, growing up, we were very close. 28 00:02:00,25.0995 --> 00:02:01,125.0995 We're only two years apart. 29 00:02:01,195.0995 --> 00:02:03,225.0995 And our childhood was not great. 30 00:02:03,655.0995 --> 00:02:06,965.0995 Um, but we saw things very differently. 31 00:02:07,5.0995 --> 00:02:09,25.099 Like we would have the same event happen. 32 00:02:09,25.099 --> 00:02:16,345.099 And then later in life, when we sit in the backyard and Brooklyn talking about it, she'd be like, "wait, what you thought that? No, I thought this." 33 00:02:16,345.099 --> 00:02:17,695.1 You just take things differently. 34 00:02:18,25.1 --> 00:02:33,135.099 But she'd get annoyed at me because the parents would say, "Oh, can't you be like Heidi and get good grades?" But the only reason I got good grades was because I tried to do everything in my power to get on the good side of my mother and stepfather. 35 00:02:33,535.099 --> 00:02:38,825.099 So me getting good grades was part of that being driven by fear. 36 00:02:38,825.099 --> 00:02:45,295.099 I felt like if I didn't, my mother wouldn't love me, my stepfather would, be abusive or whatever. 37 00:02:45,555.099 --> 00:02:50,745.099 And so all of the good deeds were done out of fear of the alternative. 38 00:02:51,225.098 --> 00:02:55,45.099 So, um, so yeah, fear- based. 39 00:02:55,655.099 --> 00:02:56,15.099 Yeah. 40 00:02:56,445.099 --> 00:02:56,775.099 Which... 41 00:02:56,895.098 --> 00:03:04,435.099 You were very people pleasing, right? Your motivation was people pleasing and I was more of a, like I just withdrew. 42 00:03:04,725.099 --> 00:03:08,645.099 I felt like powerfully misunderstood and I withdrew. 43 00:03:08,645.099 --> 00:03:10,105.099 I'm like, I just need you to help me. 44 00:03:10,105.099 --> 00:03:10,755.099 Stop punishing me. 45 00:03:11,395.099 --> 00:03:12,285.099 I need you to help me. 46 00:03:12,285.099 --> 00:03:15,415.099 And I didn't even know to ask for help. 47 00:03:15,625.099 --> 00:03:15,875.099 Right. 48 00:03:15,875.099 --> 00:03:21,885.098 Because that's, I don't think Gen X kids, their parents were super involved in their academic life. 49 00:03:21,885.099 --> 00:03:22,605.099 Absolutely not. 50 00:03:22,715.099 --> 00:03:26,465.099 And so those who needed help didn't really know to ask for it. 51 00:03:26,475.098 --> 00:03:28,575.0995 We just languished in poor grades. 52 00:03:29,565.0995 --> 00:03:29,915.0995 Yeah. 53 00:03:30,165.0995 --> 00:03:43,340.0995 And I think part of it though, at least in our situation, and maybe it was all Gen X er parents, but mom and Dave always made it feel like we were inconveniencing them by asking for anything. 54 00:03:43,400.0995 --> 00:03:43,830.0995 Anything. 55 00:03:43,880.0995 --> 00:03:45,80.0965 But, that, it could be. 56 00:03:45,100.0965 --> 00:03:46,600.0965 Well, you guys let us know. 57 00:03:47,450.0965 --> 00:03:55,325.0975 Were all Gen X er's parents like that? Gen Xers are famous for being like feral children, right? Lawn darts. 58 00:03:55,395.0975 --> 00:03:56,285.0975 That's all I've got to say. 59 00:03:56,835.0975 --> 00:03:57,185.0975 Right. 60 00:03:57,905.0975 --> 00:04:01,905.0965 Latch key kids, except our parents didn't leave the house. 61 00:04:03,115.0975 --> 00:04:04,605.0975 Yeah, wish they would have. 62 00:04:04,895.0975 --> 00:04:05,615.0965 Right, right. 63 00:04:05,865.0975 --> 00:04:09,5.0975 So we just left and roamed the woods, but I think that was pretty common. 64 00:04:09,5.0975 --> 00:04:09,495.0975 Well, yes. 65 00:04:09,965.0975 --> 00:04:12,425.0975 Pretty much, because I see like things all the time on that, but. 66 00:04:12,795.0975 --> 00:04:14,635.0975 Which is wonderful, uh, in some regards. 67 00:04:14,685.0975 --> 00:04:20,175.097 Yeah, no, I mean, I, I really enjoyed that part of our childhood being, tomboys and, you know. 68 00:04:20,175.097 --> 00:04:21,15.0975 Free range children. 69 00:04:21,25.0975 --> 00:04:22,125.0975 Free range children. 70 00:04:22,175.0965 --> 00:04:22,435.0975 It was awesome. 71 00:04:22,835.0965 --> 00:04:23,315.0965 We don't have that anymore. 72 00:04:23,315.1965 --> 00:04:25,35.0965 "Go to the store and get me some cigarettes, please." 73 00:04:26,305.0975 --> 00:04:26,605.0975 Yeah. 74 00:04:26,815.0975 --> 00:04:28,265.0975 And do not buy anything else. 75 00:04:31,375.0975 --> 00:04:32,325.0975 Oh my gosh. 76 00:04:33,235.0975 --> 00:04:36,25.0975 How did you think you were going to get away with that? I, I was an idiot. 77 00:04:36,25.0975 --> 00:04:36,214.9975 That's all. 78 00:04:36,385.0975 --> 00:04:36,855.0975 That's why. 79 00:04:38,95.0975 --> 00:04:39,975.0975 So we have to of course tell you the story now. 80 00:04:40,795.0975 --> 00:04:48,515.0975 So mom sent us to the store to get cigarettes, gave Heather the money, and said only buy, like you just said, buy cigarettes only. 81 00:04:48,775.0965 --> 00:04:53,35.0965 So we trotted, I don't know, it was like a half a mile to the 7 Eleven. 82 00:04:53,530.0975 --> 00:04:54,140.0975 It's probably more than that. 83 00:04:54,290.0975 --> 00:04:55,240.0975 You think? Yeah. 84 00:04:55,350.0975 --> 00:04:56,800.0975 We should, look at the Google map. 85 00:04:57,140.0975 --> 00:05:05,870.0975 So we went to the 7 Eleven and I don't even know, did I say to you, "Oh, you shouldn't do that?" Or did I even have the candy? I don't even remember you being there, but that doesn't mean you weren't there. 86 00:05:06,710.0965 --> 00:05:07,440.0975 Maybe I wasn't. 87 00:05:07,490.0965 --> 00:05:11,970.0975 Yeah, because I think you came out of that without getting, it was just, I think it was just me. 88 00:05:11,970.0975 --> 00:05:12,940.0975 It must have been just you. 89 00:05:13,110.0975 --> 00:05:14,169.9975 And the cigarettes were... 90 00:05:14,170.0975 --> 00:05:16,580.0975 It wasn't cigarettes, it was milk! Oh, yeah. 91 00:05:16,690.0975 --> 00:05:16,910.0975 And P. 92 00:05:16,910.0975 --> 00:05:17,80.0975 S. 93 00:05:17,90.0975 --> 00:05:18,850.0975 cigarettes ware 35 cents a pack. 94 00:05:18,870.0975 --> 00:05:20,50.0975 When we were like seven. 95 00:05:20,110.0975 --> 00:05:22,790.0985 Yeah, so I went to the store, got the requested thing. 96 00:05:22,790.1985 --> 00:05:23,990.0985 The milk, yeah. 97 00:05:24,110.0985 --> 00:05:35,820.0985 And I thought, she won't notice if I spend 15 cents on a candy bar because we didn't have a lot of sweets or stuff around and I just really wanted it and I'm like, I'm going to try to pull this off. 98 00:05:36,850.0985 --> 00:05:37,250.0985 Well. 99 00:05:37,660.0985 --> 00:05:42,430.098 She did not pull it off because mom counted the money, saw that there was... 100 00:05:42,430.098 --> 00:05:46,520.0975 And then she called! Oh, She called the 7 Eleven. 101 00:05:46,520.0975 --> 00:05:50,173.73382 Right, because Heather was like, oh, but I, that's all I bought. 102 00:05:50,173.73382 --> 00:05:54,494.9985 And so she called it and they're like, oh no, she bought milk and a candy bar. 103 00:05:54,855.0985 --> 00:06:02,525.0985 And the next thing I know, mom is chasing Heather around the backyard with the broom Not the fluffy working end of the broom. 104 00:06:02,525.0985 --> 00:06:05,255.0985 The hard handle part where she's cracking me in the head with it. 105 00:06:07,895.0985 --> 00:06:09,950.0985 Everybody saw it was humiliating. 106 00:06:10,10.0985 --> 00:06:10,520.0985 Straight up. 107 00:06:10,520.0985 --> 00:06:14,180.0985 So this is like the, we were talking about the laughing and the crying part of it. 108 00:06:14,180.0985 --> 00:06:28,700.0995 But anyway, speaking of your reaction versus mine, this is something you said yesterday and I voice recorded it into my notes, "not knowing you have ADHD, you feel like a big weirdo and you become Goth Yeah. 109 00:06:28,700.0995 --> 00:06:31,80.0985 And, it's the being misunderstood part. 110 00:06:31,100.0985 --> 00:06:31,280.0985 Yes. 111 00:06:31,670.0995 --> 00:06:32,780.0995 You feel misunderstood. 112 00:06:32,800.0995 --> 00:06:37,384.9995 You feel like the people around you don't get you because of all the things, right? Right. 113 00:06:37,845.0995 --> 00:06:42,865.0995 And I drifted into the Goth direction as a younger person. 114 00:06:42,915.0995 --> 00:06:44,325.0995 Because you feel like they understood you. 115 00:06:44,375.0995 --> 00:06:52,915.0985 Well, it was just a band of weirdos and you could look around, say you're in a room of a hundred people and you see another Goth person and you're like, "yes, we are misunderstood." 116 00:06:52,915.0985 --> 00:06:54,435.0995 and that was your connection with them. 117 00:06:54,810.0995 --> 00:07:02,340.0995 and we shared the same music, of course, and that's how you can find the best people, is if they share the same music, you can connect with them. 118 00:07:03,0.0995 --> 00:07:07,430.0995 and so if you, connect with the Susie and the Banshees crowd, you're like, these are my people. 119 00:07:07,570.0995 --> 00:07:11,740.0995 And I kind of wonder if, you know, I think, I was gonna, thinking the same thing. 120 00:07:11,740.0995 --> 00:07:12,100.0995 Go ahead. 121 00:07:12,590.0995 --> 00:07:13,330.0995 No, you go ahead. 122 00:07:13,380.0995 --> 00:07:15,540.0995 that we should poll Goth people to see if they... 123 00:07:15,540.1995 --> 00:07:18,660.0995 yeah, It's like, I wonder how many Goth people also have ADHD. 124 00:07:18,730.0995 --> 00:07:32,60.1005 Right, because if it's the misunderstood and what have you, then they're not mainstream, right? And so if they're not mainstream, what are they? And that kind of reminds me of the concept of, in the 90s, we had what was called alternative music. 125 00:07:32,150.1005 --> 00:07:33,940.1005 It's the same kind of concept where... 126 00:07:33,940.1005 --> 00:07:35,300.1005 That's my jam. 127 00:07:35,340.0995 --> 00:07:41,140.1005 So if it's an alternative to what exactly? The mainstream. 128 00:07:41,210.0995 --> 00:07:41,940.0995 Yeah. 129 00:07:41,940.1005 --> 00:07:49,175.1005 And are those just like the people in one standard deviation from the mean? I don't want to be hanging out with those people. 130 00:07:49,195.1005 --> 00:07:50,185.1005 They're boring. 131 00:07:51,275.1005 --> 00:07:57,605.0995 Trent Reznor, if you're listening, please, DM me and let me know if you have ADHD as the, king... 132 00:07:57,865.0995 --> 00:07:58,515.0985 I don't even think it's. 133 00:08:00,520.0995 --> 00:08:01,660.0995 I think it's industrial. 134 00:08:02,650.0995 --> 00:08:04,500.0995 I don't even know what that is. 135 00:08:04,790.0995 --> 00:08:07,460.0995 Nine Inch Nails, you know. 136 00:08:07,690.0995 --> 00:08:10,839.9985 Oh yeah, I don't know what that category is. 137 00:08:10,840.0985 --> 00:08:13,500.0995 That's a little bit later than my Goth period. 138 00:08:13,510.0985 --> 00:08:16,660.0995 Oh yes, no, I'm saying, because you were talking about alternative music. 139 00:08:16,950.0995 --> 00:08:17,390.0995 Oh yeah, yeah. 140 00:08:17,390.0995 --> 00:08:18,500.0995 I said that's my jam. 141 00:08:18,660.0995 --> 00:08:24,510.0995 And, I lumped, Nine Inch Nails in with that, but I think they're technically classified as industrial, but anyway. 142 00:08:24,760.0995 --> 00:08:27,910.0995 Well, it's definitely not in the, top 40 radio. 143 00:08:27,960.0995 --> 00:08:28,330.0995 Yeah. 144 00:08:28,705.1005 --> 00:08:38,15.0995 You never heard Casey Kasem saying, "and at the top of the pop chart is Nine Inch Nails I want to 'bleep' you like an animal." 145 00:08:38,715.1005 --> 00:08:39,415.1005 Oh my God. 146 00:08:39,415.1005 --> 00:08:43,765.1005 Can you Imagine? So, and I just, I have to read this note because I just think it's hysterical. 147 00:08:44,565.1015 --> 00:08:51,815.1005 "All of the things you thought everyone else thought and did and felt is not normal suddenly." 148 00:08:52,505.1005 --> 00:08:57,975.102 When I went through my midlife crisis, like I just left a bunch of stuff behind at LaGuardia place. 149 00:08:58,455.102 --> 00:08:59,895.102 That's not like you. 150 00:08:59,915.102 --> 00:09:01,465.102 I know you were having a moment. 151 00:09:01,495.102 --> 00:09:04,925.102 Yeah, because you think about it, all my stuff went away at one time. 152 00:09:05,105.102 --> 00:09:06,85.102 I was getting a divorce. 153 00:09:06,355.102 --> 00:09:14,5.1 I got laid off from my job and the apartment that I was going into contract on had to be pulled because I lost my job. 154 00:09:14,5.1 --> 00:09:15,735.1 And so I had zero responsibilities. 155 00:09:15,735.1 --> 00:09:24,695.099 That's why I'm like, I'm going to Africa to volunteer because for the first time in my life, I didn't have any obligations, responsibilities, nothing. 156 00:09:25,435.099 --> 00:09:36,380.099 There have been several times in my life that I felt unhinged and misunderstood and what have you, but that time after separating from Lee, I don't even recognize that person. 157 00:09:37,340.099 --> 00:09:38,810.099 Like, I don't even feel like that was me. 158 00:09:38,870.099 --> 00:09:41,930.099 And I recall that period, and it was difficult for everyone. 159 00:09:42,500.098 --> 00:09:43,690.099 I'm sure it was. 160 00:09:44,50.099 --> 00:09:45,520.099 But I do understand. 161 00:09:45,540.099 --> 00:09:55,95.099 And at the time I understood and in retrospect I understood, but at the time it was difficult so I'm like, I'm gonna be over here until everything settles down. 162 00:09:55,685.099 --> 00:09:57,35.099 I tend to retreat. 163 00:09:57,65.099 --> 00:09:58,175.099 I'm not a people pleaser. 164 00:09:59,565.099 --> 00:10:01,35.099 I knew that it would sort out. 165 00:10:01,705.099 --> 00:10:02,615.099 And that was my thing. 166 00:10:02,615.099 --> 00:10:07,295.099 Whenever I would talk to people about like, Oh, Heidi and I aren't getting along. 167 00:10:07,315.099 --> 00:10:14,815.099 And my mantra was always, we're not getting along right now, but it's not always going to be like this yeah. 168 00:10:15,285.099 --> 00:10:16,970.199 So I always knew everything would sort out. 169 00:10:16,970.199 --> 00:10:19,520.099 I just knew it wasn't in that moment. 170 00:10:19,520.099 --> 00:10:23,910.099 And that's fine, right? Cause not everyone's on the same page a hundred percent of the time it's just, that would be unreasonable. 171 00:10:24,20.099 --> 00:10:24,460.099 Right. 172 00:10:24,490.099 --> 00:10:40,900.099 And if I had really put that in alignment with you retreating to your room, when things with the parents went wrong, maybe I would have understood it more, but I just felt like it was a complete abandonment because I felt like because we didn't really have a safety net that we just had each other. 173 00:10:41,250.099 --> 00:10:44,100.1 Yeah, but I just felt like I was being abandoned. 174 00:10:44,110.1 --> 00:10:45,70.099 So I was like, fine. 175 00:10:45,70.1 --> 00:10:45,410.1 Okay. 176 00:10:45,460.1 --> 00:10:49,660.1005 Oh, so you were yours was a defense mechanism... 177 00:10:50,430.1005 --> 00:10:59,340.1015 I appreciate that because we've all kind of been in situations where the confluence of events makes us behave in ways we wouldn't expect we would behave. 178 00:10:59,440.1015 --> 00:10:59,750.1015 Yeah. 179 00:11:00,460.1015 --> 00:11:01,840.1025 And you're just like feel unhinged. 180 00:11:02,430.1025 --> 00:11:02,780.1025 Yeah. 181 00:11:02,880.1025 --> 00:11:03,650.1025 Oh yeah, yeah, yeah. 182 00:11:04,760.1025 --> 00:11:07,550.1025 I think anybody who has like behavioral issues or. 183 00:11:07,825.1025 --> 00:11:16,765.1025 What is not I keep saying this, "one standard deviation from the mean" which just means what everybody considers to be normal behavior, normal stats. 184 00:11:16,815.1025 --> 00:11:27,535.1025 Anybody who falls outside that, and is in the tails, is somehow a problem and is not educatable or there's some dysfunction with them. 185 00:11:27,835.1025 --> 00:11:29,795.1025 And I don't like the term ADHD. 186 00:11:29,825.1025 --> 00:11:33,15.1025 I don't like the "D" because I don't think it's a "D." 187 00:11:33,35.1025 --> 00:11:35,685.1025 I think it is, um, the last D Yes. 188 00:11:35,835.1025 --> 00:11:48,110.1035 I think it is, we are on a spectrum of humanness and we've decided that there are certain children that are super attentive and can learn when you park them in front of a teacher and they bark orders at you. 189 00:11:48,440.1035 --> 00:11:53,250.1035 But then there's these people who don't respond to that and need to learn in a different way. 190 00:11:53,300.1035 --> 00:11:55,700.1035 There's not a dysfunction, it's just different. 191 00:11:55,750.1025 --> 00:11:56,360.1035 Different, yeah. 192 00:11:56,710.1035 --> 00:11:57,850.1035 The D is for different. 193 00:11:58,120.1035 --> 00:12:23,265.203 So, I attended a webinar the other day from ADDitude Magazine, and it was a guy, I can't remember credentials, any of that, but he was talking about how he changed the acronym to what he thinks it should be and I took a screenshot of it and I'll have to share it because everyone says it, so I don't know why they don't change it. 194 00:12:23,315.203 --> 00:12:23,685.203 Yeah. 195 00:12:23,705.203 --> 00:12:28,155.203 But even the "H" the, hyperactivity is I don't have hyperactive. 196 00:12:28,155.303 --> 00:12:30,445.203 I think it's the brain part, that's hyperactive. 197 00:12:30,535.203 --> 00:12:42,160.203 Well, but this is the interesting thing because for some reason, at some point in my forties, I stopped talking to myself in rapid fire. 198 00:12:42,300.203 --> 00:12:43,240.203 That's interesting. 199 00:12:43,650.202 --> 00:12:47,570.204 I feel like that really ramped up for me as I ramped into menopause. 200 00:12:47,580.202 --> 00:12:51,980.2025 Like when I was on my estrogen plateau, I could function. 201 00:12:52,440.2025 --> 00:12:53,860.2025 I learned how to function better. 202 00:12:53,860.2025 --> 00:12:56,820.2025 I felt like especially work was jelling for me. 203 00:12:56,820.2025 --> 00:12:59,850.2015 when you're a kid and you have no estrogen, I was like a mess, a mess. 204 00:12:59,850.2025 --> 00:13:01,350.202 And then I figured out how to manage. 205 00:13:01,350.202 --> 00:13:04,690.202 And then when I was starting to go into menopause, I feel like I'm unhinged again. 206 00:13:05,670.202 --> 00:13:06,930.202 but your chatter is chilled. 207 00:13:06,990.202 --> 00:13:07,380.202 Right. 208 00:13:07,380.202 --> 00:13:07,890.202 It has. 209 00:13:07,920.202 --> 00:13:16,815.202 And the reason I recognize that is because, of my marketing coach saying you're having these negative thoughts to yourself. 210 00:13:16,815.202 --> 00:13:26,475.202 You've got to stop, snap, and then change it to a positive thought, And I'm like, wait a second, I don't talk to myself as much as I used to, like the banter in my head. 211 00:13:26,475.202 --> 00:13:37,340.101 Because remember when, I don't know if you read an article or I did, we found out that there are people in the world who don't have an inner monologue. 212 00:13:37,340.201 --> 00:13:39,40.202 That blows my mind. 213 00:13:39,60.201 --> 00:13:43,495.202 Oh my god, my inner monologue is insanely driving everything. 214 00:13:43,495.302 --> 00:13:55,365.202 I'm wondering though, is it all the quote unquote mainstream people that have no inner monologue? Or is it somebody else who has ADHD but has like different symptoms? A different flavor off the menu. 215 00:13:55,365.202 --> 00:13:56,115.202 Different flavors. 216 00:13:56,525.202 --> 00:13:57,655.202 Somebody's going rogue. 217 00:13:57,775.202 --> 00:13:59,495.202 Right? And it's not a rogue. 218 00:13:59,495.202 --> 00:14:04,5.202 It's there's like there's a menu of things and we don't all pick the same things. 219 00:14:04,15.202 --> 00:14:05,25.201 But we're in the same group. 220 00:14:05,25.202 --> 00:14:06,425.202 We're eating from the same restaurant. 221 00:14:06,625.202 --> 00:14:07,235.202 We're choosing... 222 00:14:08,15.202 --> 00:14:09,145.202 Differently on the menu. 223 00:14:09,175.202 --> 00:14:09,805.202 Exactly. 224 00:14:09,935.202 --> 00:14:14,75.202 We're not choosing the menu, but we are being served a different meal. 225 00:14:14,345.201 --> 00:14:17,555.201 If we were having choices, we would all stand up and go, "I don't want anything!... 226 00:14:19,345.201 --> 00:14:34,5.201 peace out!" Yeah Our reason for this podcast is to support and uplift women in recognizing the impact undiagnosed ADHD has on their lives and to know that they're not alone. 227 00:14:34,915.201 --> 00:14:43,435.201 Discovery, and grieving for what life could have been if we had only known and had help, can be hard sometimes. 228 00:14:43,435.301 --> 00:14:53,715.201 If you have any thoughts you would like to share, you can email us at Gen X ADHD [e-mail]. 229 00:14:54,405.201 --> 00:14:55,335.201 Thank you for listening.