May 10, 2025 • 29 mins
This one’s for the girlies building their dream life without sacrificing their peace.
In this episode, I’m sharing the real-life rituals, mindset shifts, and energetic tools I’m using to design my 23rd year around alignment, abundance, and rest!
We’re talking:
✨Releasing hustle culture
✨Using Human Design + my 28-day cycle to plan my life
✨Calling in soul-level connections
✨Reprogramming scarcity with fridge-door affirmations
✨And showing up from overflow, not obligation
So, if you’re craving a softer, richer, more you-shaped way to live, this episode is your permission slip!
Follow the pod on IG + TikTok @divinebydesignpod & come say hi on my personal page @alexusmariahh🩷
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Hello friends, this is your host Alexis Morai and
I'm so happy that you're heresharing this moment with me.
Welcome to this week's episodeof Divine by Design.
Mmm.
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Hello, hello, my loves.
Welcome back to Divine byDesign, or if you're new here,
welcome.
Hi, baby.
I am so glad that you found thisspace where we talk all things
spirituality, mental health,healing, and self-worth.
I turned 23 a couple of weeksago, and I feel like I am just
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now settling into it.
Has anyone else ever felt likeit just takes some time to
really become the new age youturn?
You don't just wake up.
your next age.
You grow into it.
And honestly, I've been thinkinga lot about aging, how when I
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was a little kid, I used to beso eager to get older.
I couldn't wait to be older.
And then around 18, 19, 20, Iactually feared aging and I
wanted to stay young forever.
I even remember I had thislittle witchy moment a few years
ago where I was like, wait, If Ijust don't celebrate my birthday
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and claim my new age each year,then maybe time can't touch me
and I'll just be eternallyyoung.
But now I honor aging.
I honor growth.
I honor becoming because thereis so much beauty in getting
older.
and wiser especially when you'reliving on purpose you know i i'm
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not in a rush anymore but i'malso not afraid so today i want
to share the energy that i ambringing into my 23rd year my
affirmations my manifestationsthe magic i'm inviting in the
vision i am claiming and how youcan do the same no matter what
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age you are okay so if you'reready to receive this moment
with me baby I invite you totake a few deep belly breaths,
allow yourself to arrive fullyhere in this present moment with
me.
And if you're not driving, youcan go ahead and grab whatever
you need to feel cozy andcomfortable, maybe a warm drink,
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soft blanket, you know, thevibes.
And let's dive into today'sepisode.
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So
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okay let's talk about the vibe of 23 because
she's not fresh out of the gatelike 18 she's also not loud like
21 and she's also not likemilestone-y like 25 she is
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something else she is the girlwho's done some healing done
some unlearning she's kind ofmysterious kind of like i don't
need to prove anything okay ijust am 23 to me feels really
transitional she's that inbetween she's the becoming i
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feel like it's the year whereyou start to realize like you're
not who you used to be butyou're also not quite who you're
becoming, but you're also likeexactly where you're meant to
be, if that makes sense.
And the numerology, I lovenumerology.
You know me, I love astrology.
I love all the ologies.
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23 reduces down to five, andfive is the number of change,
adventure, freedom, curiosity,and chaos, but like sacred
chaos.
Fun fact, five is actually myfavorite number as well.
So everything about it justfeels divine.
I feel like 23 is about lettingyour life stretch to make room
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for who you're becoming.
23 is like a trust fall with theuniverse.
It's learning to let go of theold blueprint of your life.
It's flirting with all thepossibilities, all the different
paths you could take.
It's asking, what if I just...
Let it be easy and then actuallylike letting it be.
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I feel like 23 is a year thatyou say yes to your own
timeline.
You start choosing alignmentover approval and get radically
curious about what you actuallywant.
Now, This might not beuniversal.
I feel like we all are on ourown journeys and our own
timelines and things just happenin divine timing for each and
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every one of us.
But for me, this is just what 23is giving.
She's giving deepeningself-trust, trusting the nudges,
the whispers, the knowing in mybelly.
She's giving tuning out outsidenoise, letting go of the
shoulds.
the timelines, other people'sprojections.
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She's giving, creating atimeline that actually feels
like me, one that's notperformative, one that's not
aesthetic even, just soulaligned and real and juicy.
Okay.
I feel like 23 for me doesn'tneed to like scream to be
important or to be seen.
She feels soft, but like quietand like potent and powerful,
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like I was, the image that I wasgetting with 23.2 is like
wildflowers, like growingthrough the cracks of the
pavement.
It's giving like quiet morningsand...
Yeah, 23 is not here to impress,okay?
She's here to embody.
So I feel like this, for me, isa shake things up year.
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It's a trust my gut year.
It's a try something new and seewhat happens year.
And I'm so fucking ready andexcited for it.
Now, I want to get into some ofmy core...
affirmations and intentions for23, how they're showing up, how
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I'm living them, and how you toocan embody these beautiful
intentions.
So the first one that I wasreflecting on now, Let me back
it up a second.
I spent the few days leading upto my actual birthday, or I
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would say the week leading up tomy actual birthday, reflecting
on my intentions andaffirmations and the energy
surrounding my 23rd year.
Now, this I feel like is veryimportant because I...
Personally, I'm going throughlike such a huge death and
rebirth moment.
I think so many of uscollectively are.
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And this just didn't feel likeanother birthday.
It felt like something reallyhuge was shifting.
So I really sat with this forprobably about a week before my
actual birthday.
And I figured out what my coreintentions were.
So the first one is I know myworth.
I don't have to prove it.
This is a big one.
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For me, because I used toover-explain, over-give,
over-think everything.
But 23, my 23rd year, baby, it'sabout being rooted.
I know my energy is powerful.
I know I bring magic to everyspace that I'm in.
I know my worth.
I know my value.
And...
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Something I have had tosurrender over and over is that
imposter syndrome, right?
For me, it shows up quietly.
It's not always like loudself-doubt.
It's more like these littlemoments where I catch myself
over explaining myself or tryingto like prove something, prove
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my worth.
Or sometimes I hold back fromposting something because I
start being overly critical,right?
I sometimes question if I'mqualified enough to do what I
know that I was born to do.
If you haven't been followingalong the past couple of
episodes, I fully just quit mynine to five and am going all in
on my own businesses.
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Like I am a whole business womanat 23 years old and I did not go
to college.
Like everything that I'm doing,I am figuring out how to do on
my own.
And I do feel so grateful.
I live in an age where I have somuch access to knowledge and
wisdom and, you know, a lot ofit is intuitive as well.
And so I know I'm fully capable,but that doesn't mean I don't
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have moments where I questionlike, wait, Like what?
I feel like imposter syndrome isthat little voice that says, who
do you think you are to do this?
And my remedy for this is sosimple, you guys.
It's literally just awareness,catching myself in the thought
and a hand over my heart, a deepbreath, and just a moment where
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I anchor deeply into my truth.
And I remind myself like Ididn't come This far by
accident, okay?
My magic is not up for debate.
My value, my worth is not up fordebate.
My presence is thequalification.
My lived experience is myexpertise.
And then I do my thing.
I do it anyway.
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I feel the fear.
I feel the imposter syndromesometimes.
And I do it anyway.
Not because I'm trying to provethat I'm worthy, but because I
already am.
Next time you feel that notenough energy creeping in, I
want you to pause and askyourself, what part of me feels
like it still has to earn loveor approval right now?
Then I want you to affirm outloud, I am safe to be seen.
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I am enough as I am.
I don't have to perform foranyone.
I belong.
This year is about living thattruth in every single room that
I walk into, okay?
No more shrinking.
No more shape-shifting.
No more people-pleasing.
Just me in my full magic, okay?
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And that's when I become themost magnetic.
Because when I'm not performing,I'm present, baby.
When I'm not overthinking, I amoverflowing.
And when I am not hustling forvalidation, my energy does the
attracting for me.
I've seen it happen countlesstimes, you guys.
When I let my guard down andshow up as my realist self...
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in person, online, whatever itis.
People feel that.
And then the clients comethrough.
The opportunities find me, okay?
Not because I chase them down,but because I let myself be seen
in my fullness.
That's the magic.
You...
Stop contorting yourself to bedigestible and you become
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undeniable.
You stop trying to be chosen andyou start choosing yourself.
And when you do that, youliterally vibrate differently.
You literally become a mirrorfor others who are ready to do
the same.
Okay, being in your full magicis the best marketing strategy
on the planet.
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You guys, not the perfectcontent, not the algorithm
hacks, okay?
But alignment, authenticity,energetic integrity.
And every time I come back tothat, things just click.
Doors open, people reach out.
Not because I begged, butbecause I believed.
Okay, my next affirmation slashintention is I build at my own
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pace.
Okay, no more urgency.
No more panic productivity.
This year, I am letting slownessbe sacred.
I am leaving behind a version ofmyself that equated my worth
with exhaustion.
I have had to unhook myself fromthe idea that hustle equals
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success i have had to detox fromurgency culture okay where
everything is a race and rest isseen as laziness this year i
choose my peace i choose tobuild something real something
that's rooted in intention andnot anxiety and that means
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learning how i actually workbest that is where human design
and my 28 day cycle comes inbaby as a projector and human
design i am not wired for thegrind like literally i am here
for alignment and invitationsand deep intentional bursts of
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energy followed by sacred restthat's literally how my body and
my energy and my brain is wiredSo now I plan my schedule around
my human design, my projectorenergy, and also my 28-day cycle
as a woman.
So during my follicular phase, Ibrainstorm, I plan, I dream.
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This is when my mind feels mostcreative and I have the most
energy.
When I'm ovulating, I show up, Irecord podcasts, I create
content, I connect with people,I want to be seen more because I
just feel like on top of theworld.
In my luteal phase, I slow down,I edit, I wrap things up, I tune
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inward, and then during mybleed, I reset.
That is for reflecting,receiving guidance, and giving
my body full permission to justbe, okay?
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Yeah.
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When I honor that rhythm, I actually get more done
too with way less effort becauseI'm not pushing against myself
anymore.
I am moving with myself andeverything flows so much better
when I do.
Slowness is sacred because itallows me to be so intentional.
It makes space for my intuitionto come through too.
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And this isn't just a strategy.
It's literally self-respect.
It's listening to my body.
It's choosing to trust divinetiming over toxic productivity.
Like imagine waking up andactually knowing what to do with
your day.
Not because your to-do list oryour Google calendar yelled at
you, but because your body andyour energy told you what to do.
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Like imagine no longer beatingyourself up for needing rest.
Imagine creating content,running your business and living
your life and in a way thatfeels like an exhale and not
like sprinting.
That is literally how I hackedmy life and that's why I created
the Sacred Schedule Guide so youcan do the same thing, baby.
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Now, this is not a genericplanner, but a completely
customized, energeticallyaligned, zero guilt schedule
made just for you.
And it's designed through thelens of your human design and
your 28-day cycle becauseforcing yourself to hustle when
your body is literally beggingfor rest, like, yeah, no thanks.
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We're done with that.
You'll get a full daily, weekly,and monthly schedule tailored to
your energy.
So you know when to rest, whento create, when to launch, when
to reflect, when to hang outwith friends, and when to say,
yeah, no, not today, hustleculture, okay?
You get a schedule that actuallymatches your magic.
You get a workflow that honorsyour cycles, not capitalism's.
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You get overflow without theburnout, which makes you so
magnetic.
You get freedom with structurebecause it's a balance You get
peace in your nervous system anda life that feels so intentional
and one that you are so excitedto wake up for.
This is your permission slip,baby, to do it your way, to stop
performing, to stop hustlingyour way to burnout and to trust
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your timing and to hack yourlife.
It's literally right there.
Our human design, all the toolswe need are literally sitting
right there.
it's time we use them toliterally hack our life.
I don't know how else to explainit.
It's not just a planner, right?
It's a return to self.
It's life-changing.
So DM me sacred schedule onInstagram at divine by design
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podcast.
Send me your birth info, babydate, time, place, and a quick
little note on your currentschedule, your goals, your dream
life.
And I will create your fullycustomized sacred schedule PDF
delivered straight to yourinbox.
Okay.
You can print it out and put itup or you can revisit it
digitally at Anytime you need tosee it and need a little
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reminder, all for$22 because,you know, alignment shouldn't
cost your peace, baby.
This guide is more than just aschedule.
It's a sacred reclamation ofyour time and your energy, your
enoughness, okay?
Because when you stop performingfor the systems that were never
built for you, you startattracting everything that is.
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Which brings me to my next coreintention for this year.
I attract soulmate connections.
Not just surface level, smalltalk, we should totally hang out
sometime energy.
Not the kind of friendshipswhere you're performing for
belonging, you know, notpartnerships where you have to
shrink or explain or convincesomeone of your worth.
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No.
I am calling in the kind ofconnections that feel like
sunshine on your skin, that feellike deep exhales, and thank God
I can be myself here, wherebeing real is the requirement,
okay?
This year, I only say yes torelationships that see me, that
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meet me, that hold me, thatcelebrate me, not just tolerate
me.
That includes friendships.
That includes clients.
That includes my partner.
If it's not rooted in mutualityand presence and love, I'm just
not interested.
Because I have spent too manyseasons of my life shapeshifting
and people-pleasing andovergiving and performing my way
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into rooms where I was nevermeant to stay in.
But not anymore, baby, okay?
I want connections that meet mein my light, not ask me to dim
it.
I am not here for confusingenergy.
I am here for clarity, forconversations that stimulate me,
for relationships that nourishbecause my energy is sacred.
And this year only soulmateenergy gets access.
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Okay, so how do we actually callin these soul level connections?
Let me tell you, you start bybeing the version of you that
your soul friends are lookingfor.
I mean, embody the energy thatyou're looking for in friends,
in partnership.
Take up space as the real you.
Messy, magical, brilliant, bold.
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And then set your intention.
Write it down.
Speak it out loud.
I'm ready to be met in myfullness.
And then you just let theuniverse do her thing.
Also, if you want to just startnow and meet some like-minded
souls, you can start here andfollow the podcast on Instagram
and TikTok at Divine By DesignPodcast.
Let yourself be seen, baby.
Engage.
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Share what's coming up for you.
You never know who's watching,who's resonating, who's meant to
find you in this little cornerof the internet.
I've honestly been dreaming ofcreating a space for us to
actually gather virtually fornow and eventually...
in person in the 3d you knowjust a little place to chat drop
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juicy ideas share stories godeeper beyond the podcast and if
that's something that you areinterested in and would love to
definitely dm me and let me knowbecause this community is ours
to co-create your people are outthere okay but it starts with
you showing up as you that's thesecret that's the spell My next
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intention is I choose peace overoverwhelm.
Okay, 23 is a clarity era.
It's about clearing out thenoise, cleaning the energetic
house.
I am saying no to confusion, noto over committing just to feel
worthy, no to timelines thataren't mine, no to trying to do
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all the things all the time.
This year, peace is my priority.
And peace for me is structurethat supports me, okay?
Not controls me.
And again, that's why I use myhuman design and my 28-day cycle
to organize my time because I'mnot meant to be in go mode 24-7.
None of us are.
And yet we're conditioned tofeel like if we're not
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constantly moving, then we'refalling behind.
But I've learned that my peacelives in my pattern, not in a
rigid routine, but a naturalrhythm that honors the way that
I flow.
It's not about being lessproductive either.
It's about being more aligned.
Even just knowing your type andyour current cycle phase can
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help you stop judging yourenergy and start honoring it.
Also, you can start askingyourself what feels like a full
body yes.
What feels heavy?
Release what isn't aligned, evenif it is quote unquote good,
okay?
No more productivity pressure.
Remember, peace over pleasingevery single time, okay?
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You can also pick one day a weekwhere you just have no
obligations, okay?
Just space to breathe,integrate, rest, make it a
ritual, and then constantlyaffirm, I choose peace over
pressure.
I trust my rhythm.
I don't need chaos to be worthybecause your clarity is sacred
and choosing peace is literallythe boldest power move that you
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can make.
It's underrated, but it'spowerful.
My next intention is intuitionover indecision.
And this one's a game changerbecause I used to spiral a lot.
I used to overthink every littledecision trying to predict the
quote unquote right move like mylife was one big test I had to
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pass.
But now I just tune in.
I just pull tarot.
I just let the first whisper ofmy intuition be enough.
I listen to my body, my gut, myguides, and that's where I move
from.
Because indecision is usuallyjust self-doubt in a cuter
outfit, baby.
It's fear of choosing the wrongthing, fear of disappointing
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someone, fear of being too muchor not enough.
But intuition, she's clear.
She doesn't always scream, butshe knows.
And when I listen to her, I movewith ease even when it feels
scary.
I trust that I'll always beredirected if I veer off path.
I trust that clarity doesn'talways come before the leap.
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Usually it comes after.
And I trust myself to makedecisions that are rooted in
alignment and not anxiety.
So some actionable steps foryou.
I would say ask your intuitioninstead of asking five different
people.
I remember when I was at a timein my life when I needed
everyone's permission orconfirmation around me to do
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something, to make a decision,big or small.
But I honestly don't ask anyoneanymore.
I just ask myself.
Literally pause, put your handon your heart, and ask, what do
I already know?
Your inner voice is wiser thanyou've been led to believe and
you can trust it, okay?
You could also get into tarot ororacle.
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Like I love pulling tarot cards.
You can ask, what am I beingguided to do or understand right
now?
Tarot is literally justconfirmation of what you already
know and it's so helpful to seeit like right there in front of
you sometimes.
Also use your body as a compass.
You can literally ask your bodyyes or no questions and feel
your body's response, okay?
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If you feel light and open, it'sa yes.
If you feel excited, it's a yes.
If you feel heavy, intense, orconfused, that's a no.
Your body knows.
You just aren't asking.
You can also practice intuitiveaction.
I think I have an episode onthis.
But even if it's small, send theDM.
Say the thing.
Book the trip.
Take the nap.
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Flex that trust muscle and watchit work out.
You just have to do it.
And then...
For affirmations, you could say,I trust my inner knowing.
I don't need proof to act on mytruth.
The more you honor yourintuition, the louder it gets,
baby, and the less you needoutside validation to trust your
next step.
This is how you stop spiraling,and this is how you start
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leading yourself.
Next intention is I choose ease.
I build from devotion, noturgency.
This is the grounding force ofmy year.
Everything flows from here.
Ease, trust, alignment, rootedself-worth, no more pushing, no
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more proving, just becoming,okay?
And those are all my coreintentions.
Now, one of the most healing,grounding, and joyful things I
did before my birthday was makea full-on art piece for my 23rd
year.
I call it my 23rd yearintentions or manifesto, but
honestly, it's like a littlelove letter to myself, a spell,
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a mirror.
Yeah, like I said, a manifesto.
And it's hanging on my fridgelike a sacred reminder of who
the hell I am and where I'mgoing.
I wrote affirmations over everysingle aspect of my life, my
relationships, my my work, myart, my abundance.
I wrote the truth that I want toembody, that I am embodying, not
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as a fake it till you make itthing, but as a reprogramming
thing, okay?
Now, anytime limiting beliefshave been popping up, I just
walk to my fridge, I read myaffirmations out loud, and I
interrupt the pattern.
I speak those affirmations likea spell because I'm remembering
who I am and because I know whatI build from fear will drain me.
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But what I build from trust willbe sustainable and magnetic,
okay?
So...
Here's your invitation.
Get a little artsy.
Create your own art piece foryour next chapter.
You can call it whatever youwant, whatever makes your soul
feel seen.
Decorate it, doodle it, addaffirmations, symbols, colors,
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quotes, dreams, manifestations,numbers, totems.
Make it fun.
Make it you.
Channel your inner child andyour higher self at the same
time.
Then hang it up somewheresacred, somewhere that you're
going to see it every day, okay?
On your fridge, your mirror,your altar, your closet door.
Let it anchor you, baby.
And every time you feel small orstuck or scattered, go back to
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it.
Read it out loud.
Let it remind you that you'rebecoming the woman you once
prayed to be.
This is art as alchemy.
This is your reminder that youare the magic.
You are the creator of your ownreality, okay?
So yeah, that's everything Ihave for you.
23 is that girl.
She is soft and strong.
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She is rooted and radiant.
She builds slowly and receivesabundantly.
She moves from self-trust, notfrom self-doubt.
She creates from overflow, notfrom obligation.
And so do I.
And if you're listening to this,whether you're 23, 33, 19, 42,
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or rebirthing at any damn age,let this be your reminder.
You are not behind.
You are not too much.
You're not too late.
You are becoming exactly ontime.
And this life you crave...
You're not chasing it.
You're remembering it.
You're rooting into it.
You are ready for it.
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And this is your invitation tobuild a life that feels like
sunshine on your skin.
To move at the pace of yourpeace.
To let alignment be thestrategy.
To only say yes when it is afull body hell yes.
welcome to my expansion era babyi hope it sparks the beginning
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of yours okay and if you want tokeep growing together you know
where to find me at divine bydesign podcast we're rising
let's rise softly let's riseslowly but let's rise okay i
love you thank you for beinghere i'm sending you all my love
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and gratitude so deeply gratefulfor you so happy to be back on
the mic All right, that's it.
That's all.
Have a good rest of your day, agood rest of your week.
Goodbye.
Hello friends, this is your host Alexis Morai and
I'm so happy that you're heresharing this moment with me.
Welcome to this week's episodeof Divine by Design.
Mmm.
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Hello, hello, my loves.
Welcome back to Divine byDesign, or if you're new here,
welcome.
Hi, baby.
I am so glad that you found thisspace where we talk all things
spirituality, mental health,healing, and self-worth.
I turned 23 a couple of weeksago, and I feel like I am just
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now settling into it.
Has anyone else ever felt likeit just takes some time to
really become the new age youturn?
You don't just wake up.
your next age.
You grow into it.
And honestly, I've been thinkinga lot about aging, how when I
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was a little kid, I used to beso eager to get older.
I couldn't wait to be older.
And then around 18, 19, 20, Iactually feared aging and I
wanted to stay young forever.
I even remember I had thislittle witchy moment a few years
ago where I was like, wait, If Ijust don't celebrate my birthday
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and claim my new age each year,then maybe time can't touch me
and I'll just be eternallyyoung.
But now I honor aging.
I honor growth.
I honor becoming because thereis so much beauty in getting
older.
and wiser especially when you'reliving on purpose you know i i'm
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not in a rush anymore but i'malso not afraid so today i want
to share the energy that i ambringing into my 23rd year my
affirmations my manifestationsthe magic i'm inviting in the
vision i am claiming and how youcan do the same no matter what
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age you are okay so if you'reready to receive this moment
with me baby I invite you totake a few deep belly breaths,
allow yourself to arrive fullyhere in this present moment with
me.
And if you're not driving, youcan go ahead and grab whatever
you need to feel cozy andcomfortable, maybe a warm drink,
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soft blanket, you know, thevibes.
And let's dive into today'sepisode.
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So
SPEAKER_00 (02:46):
okay let's talk about the vibe of 23 because
she's not fresh out of the gatelike 18 she's also not loud like
21 and she's also not likemilestone-y like 25 she is
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something else she is the girlwho's done some healing done
some unlearning she's kind ofmysterious kind of like i don't
need to prove anything okay ijust am 23 to me feels really
transitional she's that inbetween she's the becoming i
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feel like it's the year whereyou start to realize like you're
not who you used to be butyou're also not quite who you're
becoming, but you're also likeexactly where you're meant to
be, if that makes sense.
And the numerology, I lovenumerology.
You know me, I love astrology.
I love all the ologies.
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23 reduces down to five, andfive is the number of change,
adventure, freedom, curiosity,and chaos, but like sacred
chaos.
Fun fact, five is actually myfavorite number as well.
So everything about it justfeels divine.
I feel like 23 is about lettingyour life stretch to make room
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for who you're becoming.
23 is like a trust fall with theuniverse.
It's learning to let go of theold blueprint of your life.
It's flirting with all thepossibilities, all the different
paths you could take.
It's asking, what if I just...
Let it be easy and then actuallylike letting it be.
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I feel like 23 is a year thatyou say yes to your own
timeline.
You start choosing alignmentover approval and get radically
curious about what you actuallywant.
Now, This might not beuniversal.
I feel like we all are on ourown journeys and our own
timelines and things just happenin divine timing for each and
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every one of us.
But for me, this is just what 23is giving.
She's giving deepeningself-trust, trusting the nudges,
the whispers, the knowing in mybelly.
She's giving tuning out outsidenoise, letting go of the
shoulds.
the timelines, other people'sprojections.
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She's giving, creating atimeline that actually feels
like me, one that's notperformative, one that's not
aesthetic even, just soulaligned and real and juicy.
Okay.
I feel like 23 for me doesn'tneed to like scream to be
important or to be seen.
She feels soft, but like quietand like potent and powerful,
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like I was, the image that I wasgetting with 23.2 is like
wildflowers, like growingthrough the cracks of the
pavement.
It's giving like quiet morningsand...
Yeah, 23 is not here to impress,okay?
She's here to embody.
So I feel like this, for me, isa shake things up year.
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It's a trust my gut year.
It's a try something new and seewhat happens year.
And I'm so fucking ready andexcited for it.
Now, I want to get into some ofmy core...
affirmations and intentions for23, how they're showing up, how
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I'm living them, and how you toocan embody these beautiful
intentions.
So the first one that I wasreflecting on now, Let me back
it up a second.
I spent the few days leading upto my actual birthday, or I
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would say the week leading up tomy actual birthday, reflecting
on my intentions andaffirmations and the energy
surrounding my 23rd year.
Now, this I feel like is veryimportant because I...
Personally, I'm going throughlike such a huge death and
rebirth moment.
I think so many of uscollectively are.
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And this just didn't feel likeanother birthday.
It felt like something reallyhuge was shifting.
So I really sat with this forprobably about a week before my
actual birthday.
And I figured out what my coreintentions were.
So the first one is I know myworth.
I don't have to prove it.
This is a big one.
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For me, because I used toover-explain, over-give,
over-think everything.
But 23, my 23rd year, baby, it'sabout being rooted.
I know my energy is powerful.
I know I bring magic to everyspace that I'm in.
I know my worth.
I know my value.
And...
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Something I have had tosurrender over and over is that
imposter syndrome, right?
For me, it shows up quietly.
It's not always like loudself-doubt.
It's more like these littlemoments where I catch myself
over explaining myself or tryingto like prove something, prove
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my worth.
Or sometimes I hold back fromposting something because I
start being overly critical,right?
I sometimes question if I'mqualified enough to do what I
know that I was born to do.
If you haven't been followingalong the past couple of
episodes, I fully just quit mynine to five and am going all in
on my own businesses.
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Like I am a whole business womanat 23 years old and I did not go
to college.
Like everything that I'm doing,I am figuring out how to do on
my own.
And I do feel so grateful.
I live in an age where I have somuch access to knowledge and
wisdom and, you know, a lot ofit is intuitive as well.
And so I know I'm fully capable,but that doesn't mean I don't
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have moments where I questionlike, wait, Like what?
I feel like imposter syndrome isthat little voice that says, who
do you think you are to do this?
And my remedy for this is sosimple, you guys.
It's literally just awareness,catching myself in the thought
and a hand over my heart, a deepbreath, and just a moment where
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I anchor deeply into my truth.
And I remind myself like Ididn't come This far by
accident, okay?
My magic is not up for debate.
My value, my worth is not up fordebate.
My presence is thequalification.
My lived experience is myexpertise.
And then I do my thing.
I do it anyway.
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I feel the fear.
I feel the imposter syndromesometimes.
And I do it anyway.
Not because I'm trying to provethat I'm worthy, but because I
already am.
Next time you feel that notenough energy creeping in, I
want you to pause and askyourself, what part of me feels
like it still has to earn loveor approval right now?
Then I want you to affirm outloud, I am safe to be seen.
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I am enough as I am.
I don't have to perform foranyone.
I belong.
This year is about living thattruth in every single room that
I walk into, okay?
No more shrinking.
No more shape-shifting.
No more people-pleasing.
Just me in my full magic, okay?
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And that's when I become themost magnetic.
Because when I'm not performing,I'm present, baby.
When I'm not overthinking, I amoverflowing.
And when I am not hustling forvalidation, my energy does the
attracting for me.
I've seen it happen countlesstimes, you guys.
When I let my guard down andshow up as my realist self...
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in person, online, whatever itis.
People feel that.
And then the clients comethrough.
The opportunities find me, okay?
Not because I chase them down,but because I let myself be seen
in my fullness.
That's the magic.
You...
Stop contorting yourself to bedigestible and you become
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undeniable.
You stop trying to be chosen andyou start choosing yourself.
And when you do that, youliterally vibrate differently.
You literally become a mirrorfor others who are ready to do
the same.
Okay, being in your full magicis the best marketing strategy
on the planet.
(11:30):
You guys, not the perfectcontent, not the algorithm
hacks, okay?
But alignment, authenticity,energetic integrity.
And every time I come back tothat, things just click.
Doors open, people reach out.
Not because I begged, butbecause I believed.
Okay, my next affirmation slashintention is I build at my own
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pace.
Okay, no more urgency.
No more panic productivity.
This year, I am letting slownessbe sacred.
I am leaving behind a version ofmyself that equated my worth
with exhaustion.
I have had to unhook myself fromthe idea that hustle equals
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success i have had to detox fromurgency culture okay where
everything is a race and rest isseen as laziness this year i
choose my peace i choose tobuild something real something
that's rooted in intention andnot anxiety and that means
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learning how i actually workbest that is where human design
and my 28 day cycle comes inbaby as a projector and human
design i am not wired for thegrind like literally i am here
for alignment and invitationsand deep intentional bursts of
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energy followed by sacred restthat's literally how my body and
my energy and my brain is wiredSo now I plan my schedule around
my human design, my projectorenergy, and also my 28-day cycle
as a woman.
So during my follicular phase, Ibrainstorm, I plan, I dream.
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This is when my mind feels mostcreative and I have the most
energy.
When I'm ovulating, I show up, Irecord podcasts, I create
content, I connect with people,I want to be seen more because I
just feel like on top of theworld.
In my luteal phase, I slow down,I edit, I wrap things up, I tune
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inward, and then during mybleed, I reset.
That is for reflecting,receiving guidance, and giving
my body full permission to justbe, okay?
UNKNOWN (13:54):
Yeah.
SPEAKER_00 (13:54):
When I honor that rhythm, I actually get more done
too with way less effort becauseI'm not pushing against myself
anymore.
I am moving with myself andeverything flows so much better
when I do.
Slowness is sacred because itallows me to be so intentional.
It makes space for my intuitionto come through too.
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And this isn't just a strategy.
It's literally self-respect.
It's listening to my body.
It's choosing to trust divinetiming over toxic productivity.
Like imagine waking up andactually knowing what to do with
your day.
Not because your to-do list oryour Google calendar yelled at
you, but because your body andyour energy told you what to do.
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Like imagine no longer beatingyourself up for needing rest.
Imagine creating content,running your business and living
your life and in a way thatfeels like an exhale and not
like sprinting.
That is literally how I hackedmy life and that's why I created
the Sacred Schedule Guide so youcan do the same thing, baby.
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Now, this is not a genericplanner, but a completely
customized, energeticallyaligned, zero guilt schedule
made just for you.
And it's designed through thelens of your human design and
your 28-day cycle becauseforcing yourself to hustle when
your body is literally beggingfor rest, like, yeah, no thanks.
(15:22):
We're done with that.
You'll get a full daily, weekly,and monthly schedule tailored to
your energy.
So you know when to rest, whento create, when to launch, when
to reflect, when to hang outwith friends, and when to say,
yeah, no, not today, hustleculture, okay?
You get a schedule that actuallymatches your magic.
You get a workflow that honorsyour cycles, not capitalism's.
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You get overflow without theburnout, which makes you so
magnetic.
You get freedom with structurebecause it's a balance You get
peace in your nervous system anda life that feels so intentional
and one that you are so excitedto wake up for.
This is your permission slip,baby, to do it your way, to stop
performing, to stop hustlingyour way to burnout and to trust
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your timing and to hack yourlife.
It's literally right there.
Our human design, all the toolswe need are literally sitting
right there.
it's time we use them toliterally hack our life.
I don't know how else to explainit.
It's not just a planner, right?
It's a return to self.
It's life-changing.
So DM me sacred schedule onInstagram at divine by design
(16:34):
podcast.
Send me your birth info, babydate, time, place, and a quick
little note on your currentschedule, your goals, your dream
life.
And I will create your fullycustomized sacred schedule PDF
delivered straight to yourinbox.
Okay.
You can print it out and put itup or you can revisit it
digitally at Anytime you need tosee it and need a little
(16:57):
reminder, all for$22 because,you know, alignment shouldn't
cost your peace, baby.
This guide is more than just aschedule.
It's a sacred reclamation ofyour time and your energy, your
enoughness, okay?
Because when you stop performingfor the systems that were never
built for you, you startattracting everything that is.
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Which brings me to my next coreintention for this year.
I attract soulmate connections.
Not just surface level, smalltalk, we should totally hang out
sometime energy.
Not the kind of friendshipswhere you're performing for
belonging, you know, notpartnerships where you have to
shrink or explain or convincesomeone of your worth.
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No.
I am calling in the kind ofconnections that feel like
sunshine on your skin, that feellike deep exhales, and thank God
I can be myself here, wherebeing real is the requirement,
okay?
This year, I only say yes torelationships that see me, that
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meet me, that hold me, thatcelebrate me, not just tolerate
me.
That includes friendships.
That includes clients.
That includes my partner.
If it's not rooted in mutualityand presence and love, I'm just
not interested.
Because I have spent too manyseasons of my life shapeshifting
and people-pleasing andovergiving and performing my way
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into rooms where I was nevermeant to stay in.
But not anymore, baby, okay?
I want connections that meet mein my light, not ask me to dim
it.
I am not here for confusingenergy.
I am here for clarity, forconversations that stimulate me,
for relationships that nourishbecause my energy is sacred.
And this year only soulmateenergy gets access.
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Okay, so how do we actually callin these soul level connections?
Let me tell you, you start bybeing the version of you that
your soul friends are lookingfor.
I mean, embody the energy thatyou're looking for in friends,
in partnership.
Take up space as the real you.
Messy, magical, brilliant, bold.
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And then set your intention.
Write it down.
Speak it out loud.
I'm ready to be met in myfullness.
And then you just let theuniverse do her thing.
Also, if you want to just startnow and meet some like-minded
souls, you can start here andfollow the podcast on Instagram
and TikTok at Divine By DesignPodcast.
Let yourself be seen, baby.
Engage.
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Share what's coming up for you.
You never know who's watching,who's resonating, who's meant to
find you in this little cornerof the internet.
I've honestly been dreaming ofcreating a space for us to
actually gather virtually fornow and eventually...
in person in the 3d you knowjust a little place to chat drop
(19:56):
juicy ideas share stories godeeper beyond the podcast and if
that's something that you areinterested in and would love to
definitely dm me and let me knowbecause this community is ours
to co-create your people are outthere okay but it starts with
you showing up as you that's thesecret that's the spell My next
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intention is I choose peace overoverwhelm.
Okay, 23 is a clarity era.
It's about clearing out thenoise, cleaning the energetic
house.
I am saying no to confusion, noto over committing just to feel
worthy, no to timelines thataren't mine, no to trying to do
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all the things all the time.
This year, peace is my priority.
And peace for me is structurethat supports me, okay?
Not controls me.
And again, that's why I use myhuman design and my 28-day cycle
to organize my time because I'mnot meant to be in go mode 24-7.
None of us are.
And yet we're conditioned tofeel like if we're not
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constantly moving, then we'refalling behind.
But I've learned that my peacelives in my pattern, not in a
rigid routine, but a naturalrhythm that honors the way that
I flow.
It's not about being lessproductive either.
It's about being more aligned.
Even just knowing your type andyour current cycle phase can
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help you stop judging yourenergy and start honoring it.
Also, you can start askingyourself what feels like a full
body yes.
What feels heavy?
Release what isn't aligned, evenif it is quote unquote good,
okay?
No more productivity pressure.
Remember, peace over pleasingevery single time, okay?
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You can also pick one day a weekwhere you just have no
obligations, okay?
Just space to breathe,integrate, rest, make it a
ritual, and then constantlyaffirm, I choose peace over
pressure.
I trust my rhythm.
I don't need chaos to be worthybecause your clarity is sacred
and choosing peace is literallythe boldest power move that you
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can make.
It's underrated, but it'spowerful.
My next intention is intuitionover indecision.
And this one's a game changerbecause I used to spiral a lot.
I used to overthink every littledecision trying to predict the
quote unquote right move like mylife was one big test I had to
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pass.
But now I just tune in.
I just pull tarot.
I just let the first whisper ofmy intuition be enough.
I listen to my body, my gut, myguides, and that's where I move
from.
Because indecision is usuallyjust self-doubt in a cuter
outfit, baby.
It's fear of choosing the wrongthing, fear of disappointing
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someone, fear of being too muchor not enough.
But intuition, she's clear.
She doesn't always scream, butshe knows.
And when I listen to her, I movewith ease even when it feels
scary.
I trust that I'll always beredirected if I veer off path.
I trust that clarity doesn'talways come before the leap.
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Usually it comes after.
And I trust myself to makedecisions that are rooted in
alignment and not anxiety.
So some actionable steps foryou.
I would say ask your intuitioninstead of asking five different
people.
I remember when I was at a timein my life when I needed
everyone's permission orconfirmation around me to do
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something, to make a decision,big or small.
But I honestly don't ask anyoneanymore.
I just ask myself.
Literally pause, put your handon your heart, and ask, what do
I already know?
Your inner voice is wiser thanyou've been led to believe and
you can trust it, okay?
You could also get into tarot ororacle.
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Like I love pulling tarot cards.
You can ask, what am I beingguided to do or understand right
now?
Tarot is literally justconfirmation of what you already
know and it's so helpful to seeit like right there in front of
you sometimes.
Also use your body as a compass.
You can literally ask your bodyyes or no questions and feel
your body's response, okay?
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If you feel light and open, it'sa yes.
If you feel excited, it's a yes.
If you feel heavy, intense, orconfused, that's a no.
Your body knows.
You just aren't asking.
You can also practice intuitiveaction.
I think I have an episode onthis.
But even if it's small, send theDM.
Say the thing.
Book the trip.
Take the nap.
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Flex that trust muscle and watchit work out.
You just have to do it.
And then...
For affirmations, you could say,I trust my inner knowing.
I don't need proof to act on mytruth.
The more you honor yourintuition, the louder it gets,
baby, and the less you needoutside validation to trust your
next step.
This is how you stop spiraling,and this is how you start
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leading yourself.
Next intention is I choose ease.
I build from devotion, noturgency.
This is the grounding force ofmy year.
Everything flows from here.
Ease, trust, alignment, rootedself-worth, no more pushing, no
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more proving, just becoming,okay?
And those are all my coreintentions.
Now, one of the most healing,grounding, and joyful things I
did before my birthday was makea full-on art piece for my 23rd
year.
I call it my 23rd yearintentions or manifesto, but
honestly, it's like a littlelove letter to myself, a spell,
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a mirror.
Yeah, like I said, a manifesto.
And it's hanging on my fridgelike a sacred reminder of who
the hell I am and where I'mgoing.
I wrote affirmations over everysingle aspect of my life, my
relationships, my my work, myart, my abundance.
I wrote the truth that I want toembody, that I am embodying, not
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as a fake it till you make itthing, but as a reprogramming
thing, okay?
Now, anytime limiting beliefshave been popping up, I just
walk to my fridge, I read myaffirmations out loud, and I
interrupt the pattern.
I speak those affirmations likea spell because I'm remembering
who I am and because I know whatI build from fear will drain me.
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But what I build from trust willbe sustainable and magnetic,
okay?
So...
Here's your invitation.
Get a little artsy.
Create your own art piece foryour next chapter.
You can call it whatever youwant, whatever makes your soul
feel seen.
Decorate it, doodle it, addaffirmations, symbols, colors,
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quotes, dreams, manifestations,numbers, totems.
Make it fun.
Make it you.
Channel your inner child andyour higher self at the same
time.
Then hang it up somewheresacred, somewhere that you're
going to see it every day, okay?
On your fridge, your mirror,your altar, your closet door.
Let it anchor you, baby.
And every time you feel small orstuck or scattered, go back to
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it.
Read it out loud.
Let it remind you that you'rebecoming the woman you once
prayed to be.
This is art as alchemy.
This is your reminder that youare the magic.
You are the creator of your ownreality, okay?
So yeah, that's everything Ihave for you.
23 is that girl.
She is soft and strong.
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She is rooted and radiant.
She builds slowly and receivesabundantly.
She moves from self-trust, notfrom self-doubt.
She creates from overflow, notfrom obligation.
And so do I.
And if you're listening to this,whether you're 23, 33, 19, 42,
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or rebirthing at any damn age,let this be your reminder.
You are not behind.
You are not too much.
You're not too late.
You are becoming exactly ontime.
And this life you crave...
You're not chasing it.
You're remembering it.
You're rooting into it.
You are ready for it.
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And this is your invitation tobuild a life that feels like
sunshine on your skin.
To move at the pace of yourpeace.
To let alignment be thestrategy.
To only say yes when it is afull body hell yes.
welcome to my expansion era babyi hope it sparks the beginning
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of yours okay and if you want tokeep growing together you know
where to find me at divine bydesign podcast we're rising
let's rise softly let's riseslowly but let's rise okay i
love you thank you for beinghere i'm sending you all my love
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and gratitude so deeply gratefulfor you so happy to be back on
the mic All right, that's it.
That's all.
Have a good rest of your day, agood rest of your week.
Goodbye.
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