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September 30, 2025 34 mins

Divorce can be one of life’s most overwhelming transitions—but it can also be an opportunity for growth, strength, and transformation. In this episode of Divorce Diaries: Lessons from the Trenches, host Cary Jacobson sits down with Heather Quick, founder and CEO of Florida Women’s Law Group, to discuss why women often feel pressure to “give in” during divorce and how they can reclaim their power in the process. Heather shares her journey from prosecutor to women’s advocate, the most common challenges women face during divorce, and practical strategies for shifting from victimhood to authorship of your next chapter.

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Heather Quick (00:00):
I just watched, I'm like you're just caving in
and whatever.
But you know she just wants tobe done.
She wanted to be done.
And so then, as I recognizedthat with women and I was like
no, like don't quit.
Now we're almost there, I knowwhat you're entitled to.
Like don't walk away from this.
And I felt as though I couldoffer that you know as their

(00:24):
attorney and build a practicelike where we have got your back
.

Intro/Close (00:31):
Welcome to Divorce Diaries, where attorney Cary
Jacobson brings you real stories, hard truths and practical
advice on navigating divorce andfamily law.
Whether you're going through it, considering it or just curious
, this is your place for clarity, confidence and resilience.

Cary Jacobson (00:53):
Welcome back to Divorce Diaries Lessons from the
Trenches, the podcast where wetalk about the real challenges,
lessons learned from divorce andhow to move forward with
strength, clarity and peace.
I'm your host, Cary Jacobson,divorce attorney, mediator and
advocate for out-of-courtresolutions.
Today's episode is all aboutwomen's empowerment through

(01:15):
divorce and how the process canlook different for women
compared to men.
My guest, Heather Quick, is thefounder and CEO of Florida
Women's Group, and Heather is anincredible background.
She began her career as aprosecutor and later practiced
family law, criminal law andeven medical malpractice
litigation before opening herown firm in 2006.

(01:36):
Since then, she's dedicated hercareer to advocating for women
in divorce and family lawmatters.
Heather is also the author offour books with a fifth on the
way including Women's Guide toDivorce in Florida and Time to
Fly the Untold Stories ofCourageous Women Conquering
Divorce.
She's also the creator andpodcast host of Women Winning

(01:59):
Divorce.
Heather, welcome so much to thepodcast today.

Heather Quick (02:04):
Thank you so much for having me.
I am really excited to be here.

Cary Jacobson (02:08):
Absolutely Well.
I would love for you to sharewith our listeners a little bit
about your journey and why youended up starting Florida
Women's Law Group.

Heather Quick (02:30):
Sure.
So this was back in, I think,2010.
And I was really trying tofigure out what to do.
As far as you know, legalcareer, I had been a prosecutor,
worked in all these places andI needed to do something and,
for those that recall, theeconomy was not in a great spot
at that time.
And so I, you know my firstthought, which I think you know

(02:51):
is normal for most people ohwell, maybe I'll just go back
and work for the firm that I didbefore Not really whether or
not I love that job or it wasgreat for me.
I was like I probably should godo that, and they really
weren't hiring, met with apartner, and so my husband
encouraged me to open my ownpractice.
Now, at the time, I was like,all right, I'll do it.

(03:12):
You know he's like, oh, youhave all this flexibility which
we know is true, right, saturday, sunday, night, morning, day,
all the you know, seven days aweek, all the time.
But I did, and you know webegan doing that and I was
really trying to find somethingthat you know what would I
practice.
So I'd done criminalprosecution, I'd been a

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prosecutor, I had done a littledefense, I'd definitely done
family law.
And then, of course, medmal.
Well, I wasn't going to do PI,that didn't even meet the top 10
or anything.
But then I was thinking it wascriminal law, because I really
enjoyed that, but I failed torecognize.
I'm a prosecutor at heart, not adefense attorney, and and also,

(03:56):
for whatever reason, I just wasreally getting more family law
cases through my connections andthey were coming and so I did
that and I did what most everyprobably practitioner does when
they first start family Irepresented either side.
It didn't even occur to me atthat time to do anything

(04:16):
different and you know, theevolution of representing women
only came through just a lot ofreally examining what kind of
cases I had, what kind of casesgave me the most fulfillment, to
where I felt like I could makethe biggest difference.
And that's really when I madethe decision that we're going to
represent women.

(04:37):
Only because I really noticedthat women kept going through
the same patterns same patternsthat I'd watch my mother go
through when she had beenthrough a couple of divorces and
I thought I think we can.
We can really make a differencehere and in a difference that
means something to me, byhelping other women.

Cary Jacobson (04:57):
Absolutely, and it's always.
I do find, as practitioners, itis often an evolution, you know
, taking on all of the cases atfirst and then kind of deciding
what niche really speaks to us.
I, you know, did something verysimilar and I just got out of
the point, got to a point wherethe litigation was not

(05:20):
fulfilling anymore, and sothat's why we now focus on all
out of court resolutions.
But I think we all go throughthat to determine, you know kind
of what our quote unquotespecialty is going to be.

Heather Quick (05:34):
Right, right, I agree.

Cary Jacobson (05:37):
What are some of your personal and professional
experiences that have reallyshaped that mission to empower
women in the divorce process?

Heather Quick (05:46):
Well, as I mentioned, you know my mother
had been through a divorce, somy parents were divorced from
one another when I was young,and then they subsequently both
had been remarried a couple oftimes and then divorced a couple

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of times and then divorced.
And so I remember watching mymom go through the divorce and
felt like she didn't reallystand, she wasn't really
standing up for herself, right,valuing what she had brought to
the marriage and and it really,you know, it was upsetting for
her, really emotional, and therewere no children from any of
her other marriages, right, itwas just financial.
So it can still be extremelyemotional.

(06:30):
And you know there had been a,you know, power dynamic in the
relationship and so she justfelt, you know, from my
perspective I don't know thatwe've ever really talked about
it, but, like I just watched,I'm like you're just caving in
and whatever, but you know shejust wants to be done, she
wanted to be done.
And so then, as I recognizethat with women, and I was like

(06:51):
no, like don't quit.
Now we're almost there, um, Iknow what you're entitled to,
like don't walk away from thisand I felt as though I could
offer that, you know, as theirattorney, and build a practice
like where we have got your back, like you want, I know you want
to quit, you think now isbetter, but if you'll, you know,

(07:14):
for the cases that work thatway or this is the best
settlement, like, do it now,right Before you know you end up
maybe not having as great anopportunity.
And I really care about women.
I think what they bring to themarriage has a lot of value.
I at the time I was probablyfocusing more on my marketing at
the time speaking to women, youknow who are more stay-at-home

(07:37):
moms and alimony, and you knowwhen you if I think what you're,
if your listeners don't know Iwill tell you your attorney does
matter.
And you know, if you have areally good attorney on those
contested issues and you go totrial, it will make a difference
.
And so I just felt like becausefor me I really wanted to do

(08:01):
something that meant somethingto me, just like you said.
You know, you kind of youevolve into that where I don't,
I'm not going to just run abusiness and do that Like if it
doesn't have some purpose, forme that really makes it so much
more important.
And so that's really how thathappened and it allowed.
So it was my personalexperiences and it was really

(08:23):
like those had been long beforeI was a lawyer, you know.
And then I'm representing thewomen.
I'm like I'm seeing thesepatterns and you know, you
really start thinking about itand seeing the patterns and
that's when I was like that's it.
I can apply all that I learnedgrowing up and observing these
different ideas and then nowwhat I've seen in the legal

(08:47):
arena and I can be helpful inthat way.

Cary Jacobson (08:50):
Right, yeah, how do you work with women who have
that pattern of wanting to giveup, wanting to give in, because
it is something that I recognizeas well.
I do tend to find that it'sprimarily women, as opposed to
men though sometimes it is menas well that want to, you know,

(09:12):
move the case along and kind ofget it over and done with.
But how do you support them inknowing when it's right to
proceed and when it's time to Idon't want to say give in, but
to, you know, to settle inessence?

Heather Quick (09:33):
Well, I think it really matters Like one.
Obviously, you know what's thewhat are we talking.
You know what are the issuesthe finances or the children and
you know, understanding theirparticular situation, what they
told me they wanted.
You know, understanding theirparticular situation, what they
told me they wanted.
You know we really work on whatare your goals, objectives, and
then, okay, how does that fitin with your case, the law, and

(09:54):
what's the offer on the table?
You know we in Florida, we havemandatory mediation in all
family law cases, so there'salways going to be an
opportunity to settle.
And you know it's kind of likeif the offer is somewhere in
between your best day and yourworst day in court.

(10:15):
Let's talk about the pros andcons.
We really do try to work withour clients before mediation.
Hey, what's the bottom?
Like, where are you likewalking away?
Because then now, if we knowahead of time, right, we can
look at that.
But then, um, you know if In alot of cases it's like their
worst day in court, and you knowwe weren't, we're not doing

(10:37):
that, and so you know this comeswith the premise that we have a
trusting relationship with ourclient.
They trust us, they you know,and that's what we talk about.
Obviously you've hired us.
You want our advice.
You know, if you don't want togo forward, if anything was that
drastic I haven't had anybodynot I might you know if, if you
don't want to go forward, ifanything was that drastic I
haven't had anybody not I mightyou know I would probably make

(10:59):
them sign a letter that this isagainst my advice and I don't
recommend it.
But like that doesn't makeanybody feel any better after
they've made a deal that theydidn't want to do.
So I think it's more of.
You know we got to weigh youroptions.
Know what, in a lot of casesback in the day I hate to date
myself like that, but like thereit was just the law was very

(11:20):
favorable to alimony and it wasvery much dependent on what you
could litigate.
You know how good your attorneywas and so we.
I knew they had a very goodchance and it was going to be,
and the other guy's offeringlike nothing right, I mean it
was really that crazy, becausesometimes when we're in the
middle, you know we got to lookat both sides.

(11:43):
The law has changedsignificantly in Florida and
maybe you know, as I've gottenolder and more experienced.
I am a I've never been againstsettling.
I'm always a huge proponent,and now, though, I I really am
even more inclined because Ifeel like the judges make a lot
of mistakes, they're really slowand it it's maybe not, it's

(12:06):
probably not going to be yourbest outcome, if there's any
opportunity at all.
Right, Like, sometimes, youknow you, we have those clients.
The husband is just off, likeit's never going to work, right,
and that's just what it is.
Everybody buckle up becausewe're going to litigation, and
it's just the way it is, whichis usually more dependent on
their husband, and they canprobably predict that very early

(12:27):
on.
So I think that's it.
And now it's really one of thethings that you know we talk to
our clients about, especiallywhen settling or mediation.
It's like, listen, you'retelling me, these certain things
are important to you, right?
Okay, you're not going to getthose in front of a judge.
He's never going to do it LikeI or she.
I promise you, I know enoughlike, these are very specific

(12:50):
things you want.
So if he's willing to give youthat, like, if we can reach that
, where are you willing to give?
And let's keep in mind, inmediation there's an opportunity
to be creative and getsomething that you're not going
to get elsewise.
So let's work towards that and Ithink that helps people with,

(13:11):
especially when it comes tochildren.
You know we've all got our ownspecific things and things that
are special and that they want,because the money is what it is
and you might have to give onthe money or whatever in order
to do that.
But you know people know whatthey want.
I try to really help them getclarity on if we can come to a
settlement and not everybody hasall these special requests but

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if there are things that arereally, really important to you,
um, you know this is a placewhere you can get that Right and
you have to be very clear withclients.
We also do like that's nothappening in front of a judge.
Never, any day of the week, ishe ever, ever, ever going to
carve out every single Wednesdayafternoon for you two to go to

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church together?
Like it's never happening.
So, but it's that importantThen let's try to work through.
So, because things you know,there are certain things that
are so important and that's whymediation is such a wonderful,
wonderful tool.

Cary Jacobson (14:09):
Absolutely, because they can really craft
that agreement that fits theirparticular family's needs that
they're, like you said, are nototherwise going to even come
close to getting in court,because oftentimes you know the
schedules, specifically incustody matters, are pretty
cookie cutter when it comes to acourt making the decision as to

(14:31):
what the schedule is going tolook like.
Yeah, it's going to be theguidelines on as to what the
schedule is going to look like.

Heather Quick (14:36):
Yeah, it's going to be the guidelines on the
holidays, the summer, all thisstuff Like you're getting.
You're not getting the firsttwo weeks of July every year,
because that's the year that'swhen your family goes on
vacation.
They just it would be just sovery unlikely because you know
for them to do it.

Cary Jacobson (14:50):
Yeah, what are some of the most common
challenges that you find thatwomen face during divorce,
whether it's emotional,financial or legal?

Heather Quick (15:03):
It's probably all of them, right.
You know especially, and Ithink, the majority of our
clients it doesn't matter howeducated you know anything you
are.
You could even have a lawdegree.
You know doctors.
It really is.
It's different because it's one.
It's not your specialty withinthis area of law and it's your

(15:25):
life.
It's your life and the emotionsdo take over so often.
I find that to be verychallenging for our clients and
for us to help them.
And I'm not saying don't haveemotion, you're going to have
them.
You don't have control overthat.
But it's recognizing when thismight be more of a emotional
decision rather than a logicalone.

(15:47):
And you know how we proceed.
I think oftentimes women some ofthe challenge financially, with
the cost of representation, andthey'll say well, I can't,
you're for women, how are youcharging me this much?
But it's like, well, we arewomen and we run a great

(16:08):
business, provide excellentservice.
We ought to be paid as well andwe will be.
And you know that sometimeshappens.
They're like I just can'tbelieve this, but it they
there's that you know, mindsetof I don't know what, like I
should be getting this for free.
It's kind of a victim thing.
Um, that we try to work throughyou know and and help them

(16:33):
understand.
But it's like you deserve tohave legal representation and be
advised.
So that's a big one and youknow, I think, just as you know
and for your listeners you knowthe legal.
Once you kind of get into thatlegal system, it's foreign, it
is so crazy different, it's very, can be intimidating.
We have a different language.

(16:53):
We have all these rules andprocedures that make no.
It's very, can be intimidating.
We have a different language.
We have all these rules andprocedures that make no sense
right To regular people.
Why is this taking so long?
It's like, well, really, it'salmost been six months, we're
almost done, like that's great,you know, and they're like what
you know?
Or why does it take so long toget this?
And it's like it does?
It seems unreasonable for aregular, you know, for anybody

(17:15):
who's not in it, and so I thinkthat's a challenge because you
know we work really hard toeducate our clients, I'm sure,
as you do, but there's only somuch we can, you know, and we're
trying to give you like on aneed to know basis, right,
because there's so muchinformation coming at you.
So we are trying to help youalong.
It's just a lot and noteverybody can hear it all, or

(17:41):
they try, but it's a lot toprocess because it is your life,
so that also comes up with it.
And that, I think, is theinteresting challenge in
particular family law, whichmakes it to me mean, you know,
hey, we're really here to helpyou.
You are a person, we're tryingto help you grasp everything

(18:01):
we've got you know to decide,and it is a lot and you know, I
think that's what makes itreally special and for people
who really like family law isbecause they know they can
really, you know, helpindividuals.
It's like their worst thingthat's ever happened to them,
you know, like they're at theirworst.
They're just really can be sad,mad, you know, just, you know,

(18:24):
confused, lots of things.

Cary Jacobson (18:26):
Yes, there's so many emotions that go into it,
whether it's because of custodyrelated issues or even, you know
, when we only have financialissues, there's still an
emotional component.
Do you ever have your clientswork with either a therapist or
a divorce coach throughout theprocess?

Heather Quick (18:47):
Yes, ideally.
Yes, can't make anybody doanything.
And they say, well, it'salready so expensive, you know
it's like, well, it'll reallymake your legal cost less.
Well, it's already so expensive, you know it's like, well,
it'll really make your legalcost less.
We very encourage it so much.
I wish more people would.
I think there's a place for boththerapy and coaching and

(19:09):
ideally you would have one ofeach right.
But you know, I think part ofI've wondered this so often,
Cary, I'd love to know, likeyour experience, like cause, we
see as it is, anytime you're onthe outside looking in, but I
see all the things that you needand all the things that I know
will be helpful.
But for our clients, theconclusion I've come to is

(19:31):
they're overwhelmed and there'sjust only so much.
Yeah, right, like, like, Ireally do.
I have all these books.
I was like I want you to readthis, I have all these resources
, like I want you.
They're only willing and ableto do so much and they don't
always use the coaching or thetherapy.

(19:54):
It's unfortunate, because I dothink it can help in so many
ways and really maybe evenreduce their attorney sees, you
know, if they had that.
But I, I, I strongly encourageit.
I talk about it all the time,like on our podcast, with guests
like you know who?
I have a lot of the guests thatare doing that right.
They are the coaches, they arethe mental health professionals,
because this is your like, thisis a major, you know, traumatic

(20:19):
event in your life that willaffect you forever and it can
affect your health.
Certainly you know your mentalhealth, but also your physical
health and really, when you havethose lined up, I do think
those clients are the mostsuccessful Right and probably
more successful sooner.
Right Because they had thoseresources to help them.

Cary Jacobson (20:43):
Yeah, I agree, when they're really working with
that support team, the attorneyor the mediator or, and the
mediator and the coach, you know, having all of those team
members in place, I agree A lotof people believe, well, isn't
that overkill?
It's a lot of money, but in thelong run it helps you get to

(21:08):
the result quicker becauseyou're dealing with those
emotional components with, youknow, with the professional that
deals with the emotionalcomponents, so that you're ready
to deal with the legalcomponents, with the
professional that deals with thelegal components, finding the

(21:32):
make sure that they can, youknow, have access to all those
resources and understand, youknow kind of the why behind it
is sometimes hard to get across.

Heather Quick (21:46):
It is, and I do think it is really a situation
of how much bandwidth do I have?
Right, I don't have the mentalenergy, I don't have the
emotional energy to add thatright now, and I, I completely
understand that I get that, I do, and I.
That's why it's like, well, notthat I could make anybody do it

(22:07):
anyway, but, um, you know, it'slike I, I hear you, I I'm here
to support you.
It's just we think this wouldbe very helpful think this would
be very helpful.

Cary Jacobson (22:25):
Yeah, you mentioned earlier sometimes
women feeling like they are thevictim.
How can women begin shiftingfrom feeling like the victim to
being the authors of their nextchapter?

Heather Quick (22:35):
That's a big question, right.
That's like a whole episode.
So it I think it's just takingthat first step and honestly,
like a lot of things.
Right, that's like a wholeepisode.
So I think it's just takingthat first step and honestly,
like a lot of things right.
Like, okay, acknowledgingunderstanding really what that
role is and if you believe andyou're willing to take

(22:55):
responsibility for you know that, 100% responsibility A lot of
coaches talk about that andreally take that on and willing
to do that and really begin tolook at certain roles Maybe
you've played, just because it'sbeen a pattern, you know.
If you're willing to look atthat, I think that is the first

(23:17):
step and in determining thatmaybe that doesn't serve you
right, because I think if youcontinue in that role, even if
maybe you're not in awarenessabout it right now right, and
that would be most likely it,because nobody hears that word
and says, oh, I want to be avictim, that I would believe.

(23:38):
I think that you're just not anawareness of that.
But when you see that we alloperate under patterns and that
maybe you could do somethingdifferent and act in a different
way, and what would that looklike for your life?
I think it starts with a like,you know, and that's why divorce
is such a great time, which, Iknow that sounds terrible, but

(23:58):
like it's an opportunity youhave.
Like you have such anopportunity to really understand
yourself, understand how youshowed up in a relationship,
understand just who you are andand give yourself the time and
grace to figure out who you areand who you want to be.
And maybe you were playing thatrole subconsciously, just

(24:20):
because that was kind of a roleyou'd always played in your
family.
And then you know, throughcoaching, through there's so
many resources, so many greatpodcasts and so many great
coaches and therapists out therebut, like you know, listening
to things and maybe reflectingon how, how do you want to show
up later?
And I think then that's theinvitation that somebody who's

(24:43):
going through something that isreally difficult, challenging,
life-changing, all those thingsit's an opportunity there where
you can say, hey, maybe I wantto do something different,
because don't you think?
I think, as the victim, you'rejust always getting the raw end
of the deal.
So if you could flip thatscript that you know won't be

(25:04):
your story anymore, which couldbe amazing for your life.

Cary Jacobson (25:08):
A hundred percent and I agree that the divorce,
while we don't want you know, wenever wish divorce on anyone
but we recognize that it can bea time of such growth
opportunity because things areshifting and now you know you
can create that next chapter inany way that you truly want it

(25:31):
to look like.

Heather Quick (25:32):
Yeah, which is amazing because you know you got
married.
You know things happen fast.
All of a sudden you're in arole that maybe maybe you did
envision, maybe it's not asgreat as you thought, maybe it
was wonderful, but, like nowit's changing.
Or maybe you got your.
You're like, wow, how did I gethere?
And this isn't what I thoughtit would be like right, when I
was getting married 10, 15 yearsago.
But that's okay.

(25:53):
You know we, you have so muchopportunity to you know you
might have to like, look at howyou identify yourself.
Right, you're not going to be awife or I mean you're still be
a mother, but you want to likewho are you?
What else?
What else are you have theopportunity now to, to be and do
.
And that's where I think is,you know, a great opportunity

(26:17):
that when we have that in ourlife to really begin to tap into
our full potential of what wecan be and you know what we can,
how we can show up forourselves and others it's
amazing, absolutely.

Cary Jacobson (26:30):
And also really take a minute to reclaim what
brought me joy, right, andreally lean into that.

Heather Quick (26:38):
Yeah, because that's like we were just joy,
right, and and really lean intothat.
Yeah, because that's, um, likewe were just talking right, you
and I've done that with ourpractices.
We were like, hey, we don'thave to just show up and do
something we don't want to doevery day.
We can, we can reshape that andmake it something that gives us
joy, has purpose for us.
Everybody can do that, you know, and just in their own way,

(26:59):
with their life, and I thinkthat's what's awesome.

Cary Jacobson (27:02):
Absolutely Well.
I know that you are also thehost of a podcast Women Winning
Divorce.
What conversations there haveresonated most with your
audience?

Heather Quick (27:15):
Well, you know a lot of it.
We try to deliver a lot ofcontent about the process.
You know, certainly in thebeginning, right, what to expect
, but now we've really evolvedand I think we've gotten a lot
of really good feedback onepisodes that do talk about how
you can begin to heal yourselfand ways you can reinvent

(27:38):
yourself.
I've also had some amazingguests, like you know, and
talking about you know, maybeeven how to show up better or
how to, you know, be morepresent or get more out of your
marriage and how that can happen, and I think you know it's
definitely positive, right.

(27:59):
We've had some you know we havesome heavy topics, but, you
know, trying to really provide aplace for women that it's a
resource where they can learnmaybe they're in the divorce or
maybe they're out of it now, andthere's still a lot there about
you know becoming who youreally want to be, and so I
think those are some of our mostpopular episodes where maybe

(28:24):
there's something talking abouta new healing thing that you can
do, and I think people reallylike that.
They listen to it.
So those are some of the thingsthat have been real popular.

Cary Jacobson (28:35):
That's awesome.
You know everyone's who mightbe going through it or has or is
in the process or recoveringfrom divorce.
Um, you know, having thoseresources and tools is always
super helpful.

Heather Quick (28:50):
And it's really nice, cause, you know, with
divorce, um, we're not going toput that on the TV in the living
room, right?
So a podcast, it's such way toconsume because you can put your
AirPods in or you can be inyour car by yourself, you can.
You know, maybe you're thinkingabout it, you don't know,
you're trying to educateyourself, which is great.
You don't have to do thatpublicly, right?
Right?
You don't have to be on awebinar where anybody can see

(29:12):
your name or a FaceTime.
Instagram Live, instagram live.
You can consume thisinformation on your own and make
your own decisions, so that, tome, it allows for people in
private space, you know, tolearn.

Cary Jacobson (29:26):
Right and to take it in as, so it's not so
overwhelming as well.

Heather Quick (29:33):
It's true, it's true, and I think that's where I
you know, where I say I meanI'm very much into education and
helping our clients.
Like that's really a lot of itI want to resource, I want you
to learn and from you know theprocess is going to be, because

(30:05):
then I feel like then you knowclients can make better
decisions for themselves andfeel better about the decisions,
because there's so much of theunknown, you know, in their
divorce.

Cary Jacobson (30:16):
Absolutely own, you know, in their divorce.
Absolutely Well, if you couldgive one piece of advice to a
woman who is just beginning thedivorce process and feels a
little overwhelmed, what wouldthat be?

Heather Quick (30:29):
Okay, oh my God, there's so many good things I
could say, so I hope.
I hope your listeners aren'tmad at me for saying this but
start writing stuff down.
I'm not even going to I mean, Ican use the word journal but,
like, start writing some of thethings you are experiencing and
feeling down, because what Ireally will promise you is

(30:52):
there's going to be growth, evenif you're kicking and screaming
the whole way.
It's inevitable through adivorce, right, because it
usually does end up happening.
But you'll see a transformationin yourself and you know, I
think if you can write thingsdown because there is a lot
coming at you during a divorceand write, even if it's just

(31:13):
your questions or you know,allowing yourself to be curious
about who you could be, and bywriting that down, you are
putting it out there in theuniverse and you're taking those
first steps to.
You know, dealing with theemotions and the flood of
information and decisions.

(31:34):
And I have found that ourclients who do write stuff down
sometimes they come to me withtheir list.
I'm like bring it on, bring iton, let's go through them all.
And then you feel you know,then you feel like, oh, okay, I
I've been giving it the thoughtand writing it down, so that is.
I think if there was only onething you could do, you're right

(31:55):
.
Like don't tell me, do anythingelse, Like turn to me a list.
That would be the thing that Ithink will really make a
difference for you in yourfuture.

Cary Jacobson (32:05):
That's a great piece of advice.
Well, Heather, thank you somuch for joining us today and
the incredible work that you'redoing to empower women during
and after divorce.
You've shown us that, whiledivorce can be one of life's
most difficult transitions, itcan also be an opportunity for
growth, courage andtransformation.
Tell people where they can findyou.

Heather Quick (32:26):
Absolutely so.
Our websitefloridawomenslawgroup.
com, and we are also across allthe social media and LinkedIn
and my name, Heather Quick.
You can find us, and thepodcast is Women Winning Divorce
.
Because I think you can win andyou don't have to make somebody
else lose, right?
If you can achieve your goals,that's a win.

(32:48):
And I believe in celebratingour, our wins, as small as they
are, every day, because that I'mcompetitive.
Probably, really, if we'regoing to be honest, I'm just
competitive but and I like towin.
So thank you so much for havingme.

Cary Jacobson (33:01):
Absolutely Well for all of our listeners.
Thanks again for tuning in todivorce diaries lessons from the
trenches.
I'm your host, Cary Jacobson.
Until next time, remember,divorce doesn't define you, it
refines you.

Intro/Close (33:15):
Thanks for joining us today on this episode of
Divorce Diaries.
Remember every journey isunique, but you don't have to
navigate it alone.
Visit JacobsonFamilyLaw.
com or call 443-726-4912 forsupport and guidance.
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