Divorce: The First Six Months with Peter Maestrey
This conversation is about Divorce and understanding the emotional and physical spaces you go through. You will learn what to expect of Divorce from people who have experienced it. They talk about what happened and what they would do differently. It's raw and it is really vulnerable.
Episodes
In this episode I pick up the mic and say what is there for me. No reason, no theme, just words from the heart. I talk about what it is like to speak into an empty space without feedback. Knowing that the information is quality, but scared of showing my face. I ask you, the audience, to say something to me so that I know that I am not alone.
We begin this episode where we left off. Dr. Banks was learning from her ex that he was going to be married again. She expresses her concern about it, not about him getting remarried, but about her wanting to meet this new woman who is going to be in her child’s life.
I’ll let you hear how she tells her ex, but if you are like me, it will make you laugh. Dr. Banks brings up a valid point in this episode. It’s important to meet th...
In this episode Dr. Banks explains how divorce is a grieving process. You grieve and then you forgive. She talks about acceptance and how that looks post divorce. She shares about what it was like to deal with the dating apps, as well as, the expectations of when she would be in a relationship again.
We talk about wanting the other person to be happy, about acceptance, and accepting the situation. All the things she learned and cr...
In this episode we explore the benefits of being active from the perspective of mind, body, and soul. I talk about thinking and thoughts. How they affect you and what you are creating. What happens when you are not active and what happens when you are active. The importance of activity and the ripple effect of what happens when you are intentional about it. Stay tuned till the end, where I explain how to transition what you learned...
In this episode Dr. Banks really lets loose and speaks about her daughter and how she reacted to the divorce. There is a great story between her and her daughter. Dr. Banks shares that it took place in the kitchen, where they cried, and then both agreed. I will not reveal more because it is worth finding it yourself, instead of me telling you. I will say this, she also expresses how valuable her therapist was and the many things th...
In this episode we learn details about the moment Dr. Banks tells her ex that she is done. What she was doing to plan the exit and how she finally chose to tell him. We talk about the biggest take away and what it was for her. What it was like to be a person of faith, black, and in a community where the concept of divorce is that you do not get divorced. All this and more are inside this episode, so press play and stay tuned.
In this episode we explore what it looks like to be hard on yourself, what it looks like and some examples from my own personal life. What happened to me and how I handled it successfully. Looking at it from the perspective of what to do, how to stop it, or at least understand it.
Welcome the episode 24 series with Dr. Kay Banks. A college professor and mother who before she got on the plane to go to Italy, thought her life was over. Eight years of marriage with little to no arguments, her then husband just put her suitcases on the curb.? Dr. Banks talks about the process of when it happened, the thoughts behind the decisions, and what she did when she got back from Italy. The apps, Netflix, and the reading ...
In this episode we complete our interview with Philip. He shares his last few insights before we play a game with words and say goodbye till next time. He has an amazing reflection on how when we get older and as we look back we have memories. He then asks what memories do you want to create right now.?
He reflects on how their is not a lot of men speaking about their feelings and how what he has heard out in the world by others spe...
In this episode we explore the emotional stages from my perspective. What they meant, how they showed up, and what I did to face them. The stages, each unique, and all of them a phase of the divorce process represent a different obstacle inside the divorce. Looking back at them now and analyzing, great insight can be gained in what to expect and how to prepare for it.
In this episode we start off with addressing how men do not talk about their feelings. How we do not address that side of the healing process with each other and how we could really learn from women in that area. We look at the importance of thoughts and how they translate into actions, how we can be responsible for what we think and ways to be more intentional about what we think.
This episode shares valuable insights into thinkin...
In this episode we talk about opportunity, perspective, and the past. We talk about being conscious and what that looks like. Philip also shares an exercise he does with his alarm clock to keep him grounded throughout the day. It’s the little insights that are shared with us that give us a chance to do something different.
This episode gives you a lot of little nuggets to look at and examine. It provides us with Philip’s way of han...
In this episode we explore the rules of divorce and creating a context of game around it. From the initial moment you know it is over to the final judgement I share some examples of what happened to me, how I reacted and what was created. In this conversation you can expect to see things from a different perspective, hopefully one that allows you to have more play and freedom around the inevitable.
In this episode, Philip shares a powerful insight that stemmed from a comment his mom had made to him. She told him that every woman he had ever loved had left him. This was a very important moment for Philip, he distinguished that it wasn’t all of them that had left him, something was going on with him. When he started to look at the why, he began to realize that he had more going on inside him that he knew. He began to do the wo...
In this episode we start to understand what it felt like for Philip to be alone within the first hour of not being with his daughter. The cold empty apartment and what he did in his sadness to cope. What his experience was like dating five girls at the same time and how he finally arrived at doing things for himself.
This episode starts with losing everything and ends with him realizing that things have meaning because he gives it ...
In this episode we look into who we are. What makes us, us. What makes us strong. What are the boundaries that limit us and when was the last time you felt awesome. We explore what that looks like and what causes it. I like looking at these times in our life because it reveals that it is possible to be awesome, especially when we remember the last time it happened. I also share a personal story of how this distinction made a diffe...
Say hello to Philip Turner, a single dad who sacrificed what he wanted so that his daughter could have more. Faced with the reality that he worked so much and was not able to be home when it counted. He agreed with his ex about moving with his daughter to another state where they knew would be supported instead of fighting to keep her near and not see her. He admits to not knowing what to do but wanting to create the best situatio...
In our last episode with Michele we look to the future and ask for advice. Today’s Michele talks to the Michele from yesterday and shares what to look out for, how to be grateful, and where to find beauty. This is a bonus episode. Sometimes you end up talking more than you agreed to because that is what happens, so enjoy!
Thank you again for tuning in, downloading, and anything else you have done that has shared your time with me...
In this episode I talk about writing a letter. I share what I did, where I was mentally, and emotionally. Something about the process of doing the simple act is refreshing and rewarding at the same time. I happened to be on a camping trip with my when I discovered this and it was an amazing experience to share with moms. Who if you haven't heard her amazing story, she is episode 1 of my podcast.
In this episode we ride shotgun through Michele’s relationship with a married man as she discusses her guilt, his wife, and the connection she shared with him that she wanted to keep. She tells you flat out what happened, no hiding, no dancing around the facts. She gives you front row seating to what it was like to be her in that moment of her life.
Then in a subtle moment she distinguishes the reasons for her want. The thing that...
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