Divorce: The First Six Months with Peter Maestrey
This conversation is about Divorce and understanding the emotional and physical spaces you go through. You will learn what to expect of Divorce from people who have experienced it. They talk about what happened and what they would do differently. This conversation is unique and the people sharing are real. Learn what we did, so that you do not have to make the same mistakes.
Episodes
In this episode I talk about something personal and what it means. I read you something I wrote and then reflect on how that makes me feel. I shed a layer of thoughts that I believe makes my situation transparent. As I listened to it prior to posting, I was thinking if I should release it, then moments later chose to do it. I chose to do it because being transparent is important to me. It's the line between being vulnerable or ...
In this last episode with Sadie I find myself talking more, which is rare for me. I normally listen and ask questions that relate with the conversation. Something happened over the course of our conversation where it just felt like we were old buddies shooting the shit together. That is a priceless experience. As an audience you should still expect to be contributed to, especially around journaling, observations, and the importance...
In this episode we look at what could have been done differently through Sadies eyes. What that looks like, and what it looked like for her. For instance, Sadie admits that she would’ve been braver and bolder, and less pleasing. Stating the importance of how ,if she had done that for herself back then, she would have had freedom much sooner. She advocates for others to find a way and do what you want to do. Reinforcing the value of...
In this episode I talk about our default saying of I'm sorry inside my context. What it made me feel, what I did, and what I would do differently knowing what I know today. I experienced an abundance of freedom when I spoke to people during my process when they shared those words with me. 9 out of 10 times whomever spoke with me understood why I wanted to transform that language most of us use as a default. It became yet anothe...
In this episode we look at the past and begin to see where it can be altered. Sadie and I just talked about what it looked like to live for someone else, as women have done for hundreds of years. We explore the root of how women were conditioned to take care of everyone else except themselves, and we both say FUCK THAT!
It’s 2021 and although it is nice and rewarding to be of service to others, we MUST be first when it comes to our...
In this episode we start with Sadie distinguishing how she was conditioned from childhood to be fearful. To think that everything was going to go wrong. She explains how it carried over to her marriage, waiting for the next thing to go wrong. She talks about the ripple effect of that thought process and how it affected her health, and everything else.
She also gives you insights into how she changed that old way of being with speci...
In this NUGGET I look back at the last two years and tell you more about myself.
In this episode we begin with the perspective of how the divorce process can be ugly, but that in the end, it is worth it. The amount of beauty in getting to create that life that you love is powerful. Sadie tells us how she knows that she made mistakes along the way, choices that she would never make again. She doesn’t toss out the reality of what the experience is, but she does relish in what the experience can provide...If you a...
Say hello to Sadie Marie, a single mother of two kids, a boy (11) and a girl (9). She has been divorced for about 3 years, and she is also a business owner. In our conversation with Sadie, we begin with identifying when her first six months started and what that looked like and felt like for her. She calls it “the honeymoon stage.” Sadie explains how her home was the starting place for her new life and she gives us the story of how...
In this episode Stacie and I dig deep into how we were bullied and our why. Our discovery of what happened, and what we did once we learned it was happening, and what we still do. How we prevent it. Standing up to bullies is not easy when you don't know what to do, but once you can speak up, you have a voice. With a voice you can move mountains.
If you don't know you're being a bully, ask yourself if you're wanting s...
This entire conversation with Stacie has been a unique experience for me. It was unique in the sense of how much she spoke about her trials within the marriage, her victories, and how amazing her life is now that she has faced them. How she applied herself utilizing what she knew, and stopped using what wasn’t working for her. She made a choice to not hide or protect what was ugly in her life anymore. But, none of the above is what...
In this episode with Stacie, we begin with a statement that is quite powerful. “Give people the freedom to be who they are.” She said this right before she began to talk about how she chooses to spend her time and energy. How she chooses to be responsible, or how being responsible for herself is liberating. She talks about what she wants to do more of, and what that looks like. While also admitting to what she sucks at, and how tha...
In this episode we explore what the word expectations means to us, specifically inside the context of divorce. We each share a an insight and talk about what we think is a tool to have when you are dealing with an expectation. But, mostly it's just my mom and having a regular conversation.
In this episode we begin with trusting that the kids you helped raise, his and hers, know who the players are and were. We touch on what taking the high road was like then, to what it is now. How she had to bite her tongue on the many occasions with his ex wife during their marriage and the strain it placed. At one point even her therapist at that time said how are you getting through this.
The times were tough for her, from sleepi...
In this episode we explore the feeling of being independent and what it was like to let go of the other children you helped raise and who are now divided from you. We talk about what it’s like when the relationship has to end. Stacie even admits that the end was not what she wanted, but chose it when faced with having to choose. She admits to many things inside this episode, the most important, her granting space to the children s...
In this Nugget we have a special guest, really special, my MOM! In one of our deep conversations when she visited me out here in California this past Mother's Day. We talked about regrets off camera and what that looked like, how most people handle it and what there is to learn about it. Like tools used to build something, what are some of the tools we could use to understand regrets. She was cool enough to allow me to turn on...
In this episode we learn how Stacie decided to leave the marriage, where she went first, and how quickly she began to remember who she was and how important her happiness is. We hear what she has to say about what it was like when she finally decided to separate. The terror she had that something could happen and the pressure to make things work out. Most of all she talks about trying to be perfect and what that felt like.
This ep...
In this episode we continue where we left off and dig a little deeper into the details of what trying to help looks like. It seemed that the more she tried, the more pissed off he would get. The shock value behind knowing that your significant other is hiding something and the frustration of seeing your time being subtracted.
After he stopped touching her, she knew they were heading towards a bad place. In March she was aware that...
In this episode I look at the level of attention that I give to being conscious of this question. When we begin to look at what makes us happy and the moments when we were happy. We look at the elements that are present and see what we have around us, the atmosphere, and who we are in those moments. With this observation of the past we can look at how we want to design the future ahead of us.
Stacie Wimer is a single mother with a teenage daughter who lived with her ex for eight years before realizing he was addicted to alcohol. In this episode we learn about what she finds important in life and what reality looked like for a while. How they met and what the glue was that kept them together. The complications and the burden it was until she gave the ultimatum. What you are about to listen to is the journey of woman try...
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