Divorce: The First Six Months with Peter Maestrey

In our final episode with Segev, we begin with a mantra he follows. "I am man and I serve love." He shares how this helped him, how it shaped him and how he just more of that now. As we begin to realize that we are completing our conversation, we get a side of Segev that shares insight into what it was like to be divorced with children and how expectations are a building block to what you want to make happen. 

We hear how a ...

In this episode, we look at the elements that made his life liveable. How finding himself again began with a choice and how the actions of that choice led him here. We learn the importance of reconnecting with one's self and how Segev discovered that. We also learn the perspective he nurtured to achieve the freedom around remembering who he is and what that looked like for him back when. 

Segev has done a lot of work on himself ...

In this episode, we look into expectations and the many things that showed up around it with Segev. From being obese with skin issues and diagnosed with an autoimmune deficiency disease to the start of his healing, which began when he stopped giving a shit.

Learn how he began to honor himself and stopped being guided by expectations. Find out how he began trusting himself and most importantly owning who he was. The road is never eas...

In this episode, we listen to Segev speak about how important it is for him that his kids know that they are loved. He shares how he used to think that being in their lives all the time meant being a good father, especially during the first six months. He shares how being present for them, Chaperoning field trips, picking up, dropping off. Parent-teacher conferences. How this made him feel like a good father. 

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Segev is the first person we have a conversation with within DTF6M that is technically not divorced, but has gone through or is going through what a divorced person goes through. He has two boys, the youngest with special needs and he is a Masculine Embodiment Relationship Coach. 

What I learned from Segev in this episode and the ones to come which I hope you will listen to was the acceptance of what life places on his doorstep. He ...

In our final episode with Daniel, we close this series by looking back at the beginning and saying out loud what most don’t admit. We don’t know how to navigate a divorce. No one goes into it a marriage thinking about this ending as an option. We don’t prep for the process, or the life that comes after divorce, it’s new territory. 

He also talks about dating after divorce and how that was for him. Giving some suggestions on what he ...

In this episode, Daniel talks about the importance of finding your tribe. Describe what that looks like, what qualities they should have to understand your situation, and how important it is for them to have been divorced. How having that common ground makes a difference. He talks about dating right after the divorce and how that is not the best idea, considering the healing process and what dating entails. 

This episode is about th...

In this episode of the Nugget, we explore what the Unicorn Divorce is, how to create it, and I also share some tools that you can apply today.  From the moment you decide this is something you want to consider, all the way through to the day-to-day management. Please understand that the Unicorn divorce begins and ends with you. Having this kind of divorce does not happen without effort from one of the parties involved. It takes cle...

In this episode, Daniel shares how he discovered himself and what that process looked like for him. From living in a 600 sq. ft. apartment to driving a beat-up car with 180k miles on it. He speaks about the different phases one goes through in the beginning and how taking actions plays an important role. He shares how he invested more time with the people he loves and less time with those he didn't. 

After the divorce, he began ...

In this episode, Daniel shares about his relationship with the ex during the divorce. How they agreed on things and how they communicated instead of lunging towards representation and pettiness. He reveals how they kept the same parenting styles, shared time with the kids together, and did it all against the advice of legally inclined relatives and advising friends. 

This episode is filled with hope and kindness, and it has their ki...

In this nugget, we travel to the reasons for the topic. Where did it begin, how has it evolved, and why it is so important that we understand it. Marriage is a beautiful union of two souls into a commitment that ends in death do you part. Pretty heavy stuff. This conversation, I believe, brings some clarity to the bigger picture, which is why did we choose to begin this journey that ultimately brought you to my doorstep, podstep in...

In this episode, Daniel speaks about what it was like living alone. The moment when the eerily quiet arrived and the feelings started to come in as he settled into his new apartment. He shares how he watched a lot of Netflix and did anything he could to not embrace the loneliness. He also shares what it was like when he realized all the responsibilities he would assume as a single dad, that he didn’t have before. From doing the acc...

Meet Daniel Herrold, father of 3 young women, and a divorce conversation active participant.  Daniel is a successful man, both on and off the divorce platform, and in this series of episodes, you are going to see what it was like for him to embrace the challenges that he faced during his divorce. From learning to cook for himself, the kids, to dating again. He walks us through the process of starting over from day one.

In this speci...

In this episode, we look at fear from a different perspective. Distinguishing what it is by definition, what it could look like inside of a divorce, and what can be done to not have it be so consuming.  Anything that stops you from moving in the direction you want to move towards, or inhibits you from being the person you want to be, usually carries some sort of fear around it. The beauty about fear is that once you distinguish it,...

In our final episode with Amy, we begin with the conversation with what the common link between domestic survivors often is, and then complete our episode with happiness is possible. An arc worthy of a rainbows path is how I would share this episode. Amy shares how when you go through one aspect of abuse, it often has more to it, that is hidden deeper. She advises to not try to heal from one isolated incident, but as a whole.

Her e...

In this episode, we start with what’s important, which is the values you live by. Amy shares how being guided by those values gave her something far greater than the reality of the situation. For example, in her story, she has spoken of what it was like to be abused. How it looked like and what she did in the process of when it was her reality. Back then it was important to try to make it work. Whereas today, it is important that s...