In this episode we travel with Matt into his therapy sessions, the moment when he decided the marriage wasn’t worth it, and the reasons that he had for staying as long as he did. He talks about the changes that happened, how covid has changed the landscape with his own mother babysitting and the new commitment for his kids.

At the end of the episode, he gives credit to his ex for something. You really want to find out what that is. ...

Say hello to Matt Kostel, the kid from Queens that moved to Brooklyn shares his story of what happened and the harsh realities of getting a divorce, his process and how he created pure gold. He begins by sharing that his first six months were some of his most honest moments and ends with how he thought having kids would make it better.

He talks about how he sat on his hands and swallowed his pride, and then takes responsibility for ...

The WEEKEND NUGGET is a new format to the conversation of Divorce: The First Six Months that will come out every Friday till it doesn't. I will cover the details of what to expect from divorce while sharing another piece of what I did in my story. 

The goal is to source all the information our guests have shared and packaging it in a way that any human being can listen to an episode and be equipped to handle life a bit better by...

In this episode Chris speaks the truth and uncovers some of the things he did that felt horrible when he did them. He shares how he went from being destructive to understanding with the ex, the step dad and himself. I could write more, but the simple truth about divorce is what this episode is all about. Get help. Don't do it alone.

Listen to this episode and share it. This is the episode where you really see and hear a man who ...

In this episode we talk about kids, life lessons, and experience. Chris talks about therapy and the work he had to do to get to where he is today. Being a man meant letting go of the little boy and admitting where he didn’t know what to do. In the conversation he mentions how “your feet have to take you to the solution” and I believe this episode is just that. It’s the feet that take you to his solutions. 

Listen till the end, he ge...

The WEEKEND NUGGET is a new format to the conversation of Divorce: The First Six Months that will come out every Friday till it doesn't. Hopefully, if it succeeds, we will cover the details of what to expect from divorce while sharing another piece of what we did in our stories.  A one on one recap of what happened, what we did, and what we would do differently inside a specific topic.

The goal is to source all the information o...

In this episode we open with an aggressive threat and end with a loving support. Chris really cements the importance of having actionable tools as opposed to thoughts or good spirits. He talks about how he grew up and how that influences how he parents. He mentions the value in being of service and how he creates that for himself and practices it in his philosophy. 

He talks about his ex and her new man and what that was like. How t...

In this episode we talk about tools. What Chris had and didn’t have available to him and we he could do to navigate himself away from being a victim of the drama. He talks about what acceptance is like and how investing in himself gave him strength. How details how he shaped it and in that process it provided him a loving perspective, which gave the day to day an easier way of living .  

It was noticing how powerless he was, putting...

The WEEKEND NUGGET is a new format to the conversation of Divorce: The First Six Months that will come out every Friday till it doesn't. Hopefully, if it succeeds, we will cover the details of what to expect from divorce while sharing another piece of what we did in our stories.  A one on one recap of what happened, what we did, and what we would do differently inside a specific topic.

The goal is to source all the information o...

Say hello to Chris Northup, a father of two beautiful kids and a dual divorcee. As a friend and a colleague, Chris has represented leadership and laughter since I’ve known him. This is the first time we learn of his story and what he endured during the first marriage. I am both amazed and shocked. 

He starts off almost immediately by admitting that he wore being a victim like a badge within his first six months. Told in a manner onl...

As we reach the end of our time with Jenni, we touch on her foundation. How she embraced the small changes made so that she could love herself. The importance of how you behave in the good times and the bad and how those are the times that make you who you are. She expresses how grateful she is and how when things seemed like they were going wrong, it was the fastest way to get to the life she wanted. 

She talks about the healing pr...

The WEEKEND NUGGET is a new format to the conversation of Divorce: The First Six Months that will come out every Friday till it doesn't. Hopefully, if it succeeds, we will cover the details of what to expect from divorce while sharing another piece of what we did in our stories.  A one on one recap of what happened, what we did, and what we would do differently inside a specific topic.

The goal is to source all the information o...

In this episode, Jenni details what it was like to overcome the experiences in her divorce that took place within herself.  Where she drew inspiration from and how she sees society has shaped how we view struggle.  She talks about how she couldn’t say no to anyone who showed interest in her and why.  How she transformed that way of being and where she had to look to do it. She talks about the importance of having support and also o...

In this episode we explore how it was never her intention of ending the marriage. What was important for the healing process to take hold and how she chose to not place herself in this kind of situation anymore. It’s about seeing a future worth living into and taking the steps, one at a time, to grow from the past that had you being less than the potential. 

This conversation is so good that if you will want to listen to it many tim...

In this episode we discover how having an affair was the communication. It was how she told herself and him that she wasn’t happy. She details how if she had gone to that extent to communicate, imagine how big of a need there was to take care of herself. A need sometimes given less significance when guided to make something work. An illusion we often get advised on without the adviser knowing all the details. 

Since then, Jenni  has...

In this episode we meet Jenni Kephart, who has been divorced for 10 years and is a mother of a beautiful four year old boy. This interview was very special for me because of the content we speak of and who Jenni is. When I learned that she had cheated on her then husband a nerve was struck on my side and it wasn’t till the end of episode 19.1 that I realized why. I had never spoken with someone or understood what someone who cheats...

In this final episode with Maria we summed up the secrets to her successful divorce process. The story of what it takes. It is the episode that brings everything together within her story and allows you to be complete about what she went through, how she got there and who she needed to be to have what she has. It’s the episode that tells you what happens when you stop asking the universe "why?".

Maria is a guest that I will ...

In this episode we learn the importance of asking for help and how Maria found her ability to ask.  She speaks about what she had to do and become in order to have help become available.  How time and circumstance shaped who she would become as a person.

She shares her story about being overweight and her then drinking problem.  How having her head right was the only answer to her most visible problem, her weight. She shares about w...

In this episode we define how Maria went from rolex and yachts to not knowing how to set a goal. How being lonely is a choice and the point in the divorce where she just gave up and didn’t want the fight anymore. She explains how she was about to give it all away just to have peace. Then, on her 10th anniversary she walked into a lawyers office and learned that writing a letter to her husband would give her the ____________ she was...