March 11, 2024 • 33 mins
In this inspiring episode of the "Do Hard Things" podcast, Jay and Angi talk about the importance of mindset, from the starting line of race day to the continuous path of everyday life, exploring the transformative power of endurance. Drawing from the rich terrain of endurance sports, Jay and Angi reveal how the principles that lead to athletic success—such as embracing a growth mindset, the art of visualization, strategic goal setting, and the resilience to bounce back—are invaluable tools for navigating the marathon of daily existence.
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Speaker 1 (00:42):
All right, welcome back everybody to another
episode of the Do Hard Thingspodcast.
I'm JT, he's running coach,certified high performance coach
, and our mission here at the DoHard Things nation is to
upgrade and empower you toupgrade your life through health
, wealth, relationships, throughmindset and movement.
And I have with me the lovelyAngie Petrae and Angie, how you
doing this morning?
Speaker 2 (01:02):
I'm doing good.
I'm here.
I got my coffee.
I got coffee this morning.
I got my water in.
I'm good.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Every Monday.
I never know how these aregoing to go.
I never know how I'm going todo it.
I'm tired, but I'm feelingreally good.
This morning I got up at I wasup at four.
I did a little riding.
I got a shower in, which isgood.
It's always good to start off.
It was a good shower, right.
Yeah, I got a cold shower inand took a little.
I'm going to get my workoutrinse.
(01:30):
I took a little pre-workout soit's kicking in here.
So as soon as this is over with.
I'm going to go crush a workout.
I feel really good this morning.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Good yeah, that's good, that's good.
I saw that you were because yousent me the StreamYard invite
at five o'clock am.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
I was like today's going to be a good day for Jay
yeah, If it's like five, 50,it's going to be a train Like oh
God, jay is not having a goodmorning.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
But when it comes early I'm like, oh yeah, it's
going to be a good day.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Probably is a pretty good indicator there.
Yeah, because I never know, man, these Monday mornings could be
rollercoaster, so they are.
Yeah, well, today we're goingto be talking about mindset and
from race day to every day.
So, taking your mindset, whichis required for endurance sports
and how to amplify it every day, and just really focusing on
(02:17):
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some form of information,something that'll help you
improve your life throughmindset and movement.
So, that being said, any coachin either business or athletics
will tell you that a positivemindset is the key to reaching
your goal.
So how do you cultivate that?
Because I think a lot of peopleleave that for they don't have
(04:48):
a deliberate plan to upgradetheir mindset.
It might be just as far as,like you know, reading a book or
a podcast, but there are otherways that you can do to sharpen
that saw, and I don't know.
What are your thoughts?
How has mindset impacted youand improved your life, angie?
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Well, let me back up just a little bit.
I want to say that I don'tthink people realize how
important your mindset is toevery little thing that you do,
including your physical fitnessand reaching your goals.
Like you know, some people arejust kind of sitting here
growing and going duh, like weknow this.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
But let's, let's, no shit, yeah right, tell us
something.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
But I really think it's.
I know people personally whotalk a great talk but their mind
is not in it and they wonderwhy they're not getting anywhere
, they're not getting results,they're not achieving the goals
that they're set out to do andit's kind of like that obvious
thing that's staring you in theface.
It's like you got to get yourmind in it and for me, mindset
(05:53):
has been every flipping thingthat got me to where I am today.
And I'm not a professionalathlete, don't get me wrong.
I am a 47-year-old, middle-agedwoman who kicks ass and it's
only because of what I put in mybrain to do it Like if I.
(06:14):
I am constantly on a path ofself-improvement and I celebrate
and I tell this to people allthe time celebrate the
incremental improvements,celebrate the increment.
Don't do not compare yourselfto anyone else, which luckily I
am.
I'm good at not doing that LikeI have.
I feel like for myself, I'vemastered that I don't compare
myself to anybody else and Iconstantly, if I'm doing
(06:37):
something better today than Idid yesterday, I celebrate it,
I'm excited about it and I set anew goal for myself.
And it's not about eating thewhale.
You eat the whale one bite at atime I don't even know.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
Elephant.
So thank you, the elephant.
The elephant, yes, I'm gonnarate one before I don't know
what to taste like.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
I don't know either.
I don't know, I don't reallywant to, because they're cute
and cuddly and big and awesome.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
I like the cow.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Yes, I will eat the cow for sure, but like and this
goes for.
So what got me thinking aboutthis was mindset.
I mean, we talk about mindsetall the time, right, but for us
it's a duh.
But I was listening to theReady State podcast and Tia Tumi
, who's a professional CrossFitGames champion even at that high
(07:22):
level, sometimes people forgetabout that and she had to get a
mindset coach and she said shegrew up and her dad was always
telling her feed your mind.
And she thought that meant sheneeded to eat the right
nutrients to feed her body.
That would translate into ahealthy brain.
What she didn't realize wasthat she needed the mindset
piece.
She was lacking the mindsetpiece and I just think that
people forget about it becauseit's the thing that's in your
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face that's going hey, hey, dothis, do this, do this.
And you're like I'm doingeverything, what am I supposed
to be doing?
And then you wake up and you'relike good, I've got to go do
this, I have to get a workout, Ihave to do this.
And it's like no, you get to doit, you get to do it, you get
to do it, I'm sorry, I'm on it,no, you're good, I love it, I'm
on it.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Yeah, no, I love it.
I think.
What people fail to realize, Ithink, is that their mindset,
like you have an operatingsystem for your hard drive, like
your brain, is a computersystem, and you have been.
You have installed a hard drivethat has been cultivated from
years of external conditioning,both good and bad, and there are
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things that you do that it'sall about your mind.
There's a lot of things thatyou're doing that are on
autopilot.
You don't even realize.
It's just like your computer isoperating.
It's doing things, it's workingin the background and if it's
not primed and optimized, if youdon't have the latest software,
if you don't have it defraggedright, it's going to run.
You ever operate a computerthat was like old, out of date,
(08:45):
clunky, like it's got a bunch ofstuff on it.
That's how a lot of people areoperating.
They don't even realize it.
Now, the good news is is thatyou can upgrade the software.
You can, you know, defrag itand make sure it's primed and
optimized.
But most people aren'tdeliberately going about it.
And, to your point, you knowyou're talking about a
world-class crossfitter, peoplethat are operating at the elite
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level.
They all have a mindset coach.
They're all a part of a programand if you want to
significantly upgrade your life,I could not recommend that
enough.
To focus on the mindset I wastalking about energy last week I
was having I was doing mysessions with my group coaching
(09:31):
sessions.
Last week we're talking aboutenergy, and energy comes in four
forms spiritual, emotional,physical and mental.
And a lot of people, when theythink about amplifying energy,
they go right to physical andthey don't think about the
others.
But the most important is themental energy, because it's the
mental stamina that it gives youthe sense of awareness and
(09:53):
control.
To focus on your physical, tofocus on your spiritual and your
relationship with God, to focusand have awareness of your
emotional well-being and yourmental state and the hard drive
that you're operating with iskey.
If you don't feel like workingout, it's usually got to do with
your mental state and beingtired and not being able to
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process, having the disciplineof starting the workout.
It's you know, and in endurancesports, like we know this, like
when you're feeling tired andyou hit the wall, your mind is
going to quit before the body.
It's all about the mindset andso having that primed and
optimized is critical to yourperformance.
Yes absolutely 100%.
(10:37):
And mindset, you know, a greatstarting point, you know, is and
this is the great book calledMindset from oh, what's is it
Dweck?
No, that's grit.
Ah, anyway, I can't rememberthe author's name, but the book
is mindset.
It's got purple on the front.
What I love about the book, itexplains the differences between
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a fixed mindset and a growthmindset, and that's number one.
Like you got to determinewhether or not you have a fixed
mindset or a growth mindset.
A fixed mindset the individualbelieves that their abilities
are static and unchangeable,like what you have is what you
have and that's it.
They avoid challenge becausethey don't want to fail.
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They, they.
If they fail, they see it as areflection of their own current
capabilities.
A growth mindset they believethat all of your abilities can
be developed.
They tend to embrace challengeand they don't get knocked down
with setbacks.
They see everything as apathway for improvement.
That's critically importantbecause most people fall into
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one of two buckets and yourconversation with that person
will be incredibly differentdepending on you know what type
of mindset that they have.
And I think that you, if youhave a fixed mindset, I think I
think there's a you can recoverfrom that and obtain a growth
mindset.
But having that growth mindsetmeans that you can embrace
learning, that you can be alifelong learner.
(12:04):
And I don't know.
That book helped me out a lotbecause it talked about mindset
from a business perspective,from a child's perspective, from
a endurance athlete perspective, and it really really helped me
enable.
It gave me a lot of confidencethat, no matter what, I have the
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ability to learn, I have theability to reprogram my mindset
if I choose to.
And I don't know that that thatwas a.
That was a book that reallyunlocked a lot of confidence for
me personally, because I knewthat I had more control over my
mindset.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
I didn't really think about it much earlier in my
life, so Same and I'm glad youbrought that up because I, I
mean, we, we all read the booktogether.
So I think I'm gonna revisitthat book because I really
enjoyed it.
And every time I go back to abook and re-listen because I do
a lot of listening, audio, audioreading, ears, reading with my
ears Any time I go back and andre-listen to a book or reread a
(13:05):
book, I get additional nuggetsfrom it, I get really good
reminders and that is a reallygood book.
Mindset is a good book and, andto your point, listen, I ran
with some, some teachersrecently and even a school
principal of elementary schoolkids and folks, if you're, if
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you're adults in the 30s and 40srange, maybe you're, you're as
resilient, right, but they'reseeing this trend in kids about
oh yeah, there's the book, carol, yeah, carol.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Tawak, I was right yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
That kids want to give up so quickly, and I see
this in my own seven-year-oldgranddaughter If she does not
get it right, if she does notwin immediately, if she does not
complete the task immediately,she's just ready to throw her
hands up and move on.
She just wants to do it.
Her way is what she says.
Nani, I just wanted to play itthe way I want to play it and
I'm like no, we're gonna play itthe way the rules say, we're
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gonna play it and it's okay ifwe don't get it right.
We don't get it right and wehave to learn how to do it.
We're not born learning how todo it.
But I'm saying this as if youare one of these people that
maybe are stuck in that thatfixed mindset.
These actions translate down tothe next generation, and we
don't want a next generation ofof people that are given up and
quitting.
(14:22):
Because if you give up and quitat the first sign of oh man,
listen, I was 100 poundsoverweight for most of my life,
most of my adult life, and myknees are just jacked, my back
is jacked, right I.
I now have to understand thatwhen I run I'm gonna have a
level of discomfort, but I enjoyrunning so much I push through
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that and I continue doing it.
I've got arthritis in my back,I know.
When I go out for long runs I'mI'm probably gonna feel it, but
that's not gonna stop me fromgoing out and enjoying what I'm
doing.
And we need to really make surethat we're instilling in these
kids nowadays that you've got topush through, you've got to
push through in your, in yourmind, you've got to keep going,
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you've got to be resilient,you've got to have grit and
you've got to want it and justkeep going, don't give up.
Anyway, yeah, that was a longway to get there.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
And that's.
It's easier to do that if you,as the parent, are demonstrating
that and finding opportunitiesto demonstrate that in front of
your kids, because you can tellyour kids, tell your blue in the
face, you need to do this, youneed to do that, that that
doesn't work Like.
You've got to demonstrate it.
You've got to be out theredemonstrating it.
So it's so incredibly importantto focus on it, to make you
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know, make it a daily effort,and that's one of you know the
do hard things Hard.
As a mnemonic for the fourlines of effort in your life
health and wellness, affluenceand wealth, relationships and
development.
And development is the mindsetcomponent.
It really is.
How are you skilling up everyday?
How are you?
Are you listening to podcasts?
Are you, are you enrolled in acourse or how are you educating
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yourself and upgrading thismindset, because it is so
incredibly important to everyother aspect of your life?
It's critical and I know, youknow just my own personal well
being like when I was in mylowest points of life, I wasn't
focused on my mindset at all.
I didn't know that that wassomething that I should.
It's just most people areoperating on autopilot and by
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focusing on mindset.
You know I've, I've, I'm moreaware and living life more on
offense, because I'm too to beaware to my thinking patterns
and I can, you know I can, I canmake transitions easier because
of my, my mindset, and betweenlearning and then applying
through, like pushing myselfphysically and mentally and
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endurance sports, like I justfeel, like I've, I don't know,
it goes hand in hand.
Like you know, it has enabledme to accomplish some amazing
things physically and finishsome races and those lessons I
feel like I can bring those backinto everyday life and then
apply them to relationships, tobusiness and and then helping
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other people and it's justpowerful.
I just feel like it's a superproud like being able to upgrade
and know.
Knowing that you have thecapability of upgrading your
mindset is a superpower and itgives a lot of confidence and
peace.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
There's so many examples outthere.
So you know we talk aboutlistening to podcasts.
Well, what podcasts are youlistening to?
I mean, what are you feedingyour brain?
What are you feeding your brainAre you listening to?
You know people that get onpodcasts and they're just
spewing all this negativity.
And they're spewing negativityabout the world.
(17:45):
I mean what?
How are you choosing to viewthe world?
How are you choosing to viewyour life?
How are you choosing to viewanything?
Really, when you think aboutgoing out and let's say, you've
set a goal to run a halfmarathon I'm just using that
because I better run one nextweekend I could wake up and say,
oh my God, I have to go runtoday.
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I don't want to do this.
I just I have to do it, or Icould look in the mirror and I
may not.
I don't always want to go outand run.
I love running, but I don'talways want to get out and do
physical activity.
Let's just be real.
I'm human.
Or I could look in the mirrorand put my shoes on and go hey,
get your shit together.
You get to go run today.
You get to complete this.
How many people are going to goout and just run a half
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marathon today.
How many people are going to dothis?
You know, in our circle ofpeople that do endurance sports,
a half marathon is likedrinking a eight ounce cup of
water.
Because, you know, the peoplethat we know are just completely
awesome and their, their brains, are trained and they run 100
milers and 50 milers likenobody's business, which I
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thought was not possible.
I don't know, six years ago, ifyou would have told me that I
would have been friends withpeople that do this on a regular
basis, I would have been likeyou're insane.
People don't do that, but theydo.
But it's because they'vetrained their mind to do it.
You know they've, they've gotit.
They've got it right.
They figured out the formulaand the formula is getting your
mind right in order to completethe things that you want to
complete and not lettingadversity stop you.
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You know we're all.
We're all human.
I'm not a psychologist and Iknow that.
You know sometimes bad thingshappen and shit happens in life
and sometimes you got to sit andwallow in discomfort and
sadness and fear and whateveryou're going through.
But you can't stay thereforever and you have to
acknowledge I mean you have toacknowledge the feelings, you
have to feel the feelings andthen you have to pull yourself
out of that and you have to say,hey, look, it's time to it's
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time to keep going.
Let's, let's get out of that.
You know, honor, whatever it isyou're going through, and then
work through it, figure out apath to work through it,
whatever way works best for you.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
To your point.
Yeah, I look as you're.
I was reviewing my socialcircle then.
Like what we're doing, likeSaturday night, like it's
Saturday night, we're outrunning, like it's it the course
route that we had for the therun, the running for daylight
course, which was in St Robert,like it ran past the Taco Bell
and like all of these likescooters and you could just tell
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the people were like who arethese people like out running
like tonight, like what is goingon, like weaving around this
and stuff.
It was just funny because, likethose people there, like most
people there, they at least rana half marathon before they went
home or call it.
But anyway, yeah, half marathonhas become like just training
run, right, yeah, a lot ofpeople.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
Yeah, and I wish I was so sad, so okay, so Saturday
I wasn't there because I haveto give my team a shout out.
The Rollin Rockets roller derbyteam kicked ass.
On Saturday night we played anamazing game against Cape
Gerardo.
Cape Gerardo is an amazingroller derby team up near St
Louis, I believe.
Maybe no, I don't remember Capeis here in Missouri, but that
team was so much fun to play andeven though they lost, they
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were not bad sports on sport.
They did not display badsportsmanship on or off the
track.
They continued to smile.
Our teams continued to highfive one another, smiled each
other on the track, crackedjokes even when they were
getting knocked down, even whenwe were getting knocked down,
and that just.
I was so proud to watch bothteams, our team and their team.
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We did take home a win Yay, goRollin Rockets.
But it was just so nice becausewe have played teams in the
past who were just straight upassholes, like their mindset was
trash and it.
It makes you not enjoy thesport, it makes you not have a
good time and, yes, we're.
You know we are here for thewin, but not everybody can be a
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winner and how you take thatloss is a huge, huge testament
of who you are and how you train, and so I mean, it's just, it
transcends across everything.
But anyway, driving home, I sawyou guys out there.
I saw y'all and I was like oh,there's everybody, I see them
out there doing racing fordaylight.
I my kids came into town thisweekend so I went and hung out
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with them, or I would have.
My original plan was to go home, sneaker up, lace up and get
out there and join you guys,because I knew you're out there
till seven o'clock in themorning.
But my kids came in to visit soI spent some time with them.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
I had my kids so I didn't stay out as late as many.
I was home by nine but I did geta few miles in so it was good.
But to your point about wellone, I mean roller derby like I
don't know much about it, but Ido know that it's a full contact
and the team that you haveassembled is pretty freaking
awesome.
I just love seeing people doinghumans need to be doing gritty,
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like difficult things, and Ithink that this is another
avenue.
And it's so cool to see a wholegroup of women that are just
out there getting after it,playing full contact, but then
doing it in a way that is like,like you said, good
sportsmanship right, like takingthe loss with strike.
You see it in professionalsports, right Growing men
throwing like temper tantrums.
(22:50):
It's pretty sad to see that,and so seeing people being able
to play full contact and thenhave good sportsmanship after
the fact is awesome and thatspeaks to good mindset, right,
and part of your training andcoaching with the team has been
focused on mindset andsportsmanship right.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
That's a lot of what we talk about, yeah, so it's so
incredibly important becausethat's a key indicator.
If you lose your emotionalcontrol, that's a sign that you
know and it happens to people.
I mean, I'm not going to say Ihave perfect days, but my losing
my emotional control now islike few and far between
compared to what it used to be,and that speaks to mindset.
That's why we do that training.
So you don't, you know, youhave fewer of those moments of
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weakness.
I think having a strong mindset, you know, mitigates a lot of
that.
And yeah, that's why that that'sthe case for working on it.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
Yeah, so it's funny because part of my part of my my
hype speech before every gameis like listen, we're all here,
we're not sitting in jail rightnow, and why is that?
Because we have self controland, yes, tensions are going to
run high and we're going to getfrustrated because this is a
full contact sport.
However, we have managed tostay out of jail because we are
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all adults here and we cancontrol ourselves.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
Well, in that that pep talk, you know it goes to
one of the the key signaturecomponents of mindset is
visualization.
And visualizing, you know, forfor the athlete, like how the
event is going to go, andrealizing that you're going to
have highs and lows, you'reprobably going to have a moment
where you're going to want tolose your emotional control and
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you've got to rein it.
In Same with like towing, likeyou know, a big race, like you
know that at the very beginningyou're going to be amped up.
At some point you're going tohit the wall.
How are you going to navigatethat wall or that circumstance
that you may find yourself in?
And visualizing yourselfthrough that.
So, when it does happen, likeyou've already rehearsed it,
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you've already rehearsed it inyour mind and it's so incredibly
important to be able to do that, yeah, and so it.
It'll boost your confidence andmotivation and significantly
enhance your performance aheadof time, which is which is
really important to do.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
So I'm super excited about this week's weekly winner
and I know we normally like waita little bit later in the show,
like almost till we're done,but can we go ahead and announce
this week's weekly winner?
Yep, give me a second here.
Speaker 1 (25:19):
Let me show the screen, yeah.
Okay so almost there, almostthere here we go.
And boom.
Speaker 2 (25:28):
There you go.
There we go.
Benjamin Kirk Rudy.
I nominated Benjamin Kirk Rudybecause this human I met him
when he was active duty oh, Ican't get back to my screen Act
in active duty service memberand he was like the epitome of
fit, like he was just like superfit and just like one of those
(25:49):
gunhole soldiers.
And you know you could tell thathe really cared about his
career and himself and he wasjust.
You know, you look at peopleand you're like, oh yeah, that's
a, that's a fit person rightthere.
And then, I'm not sure you know, he went through some things
and I saw him and I was like,bro, oh yeah, you're showing him
on TikTok.
And I was in my mind I'm like,oh man, he must have gotten
injured or something, because Isaw him and he was walking with
(26:10):
a cane.
And you know this, I went fromseeing him from the super fit
person to someone that was likereally, maybe facing some
adversity and maybe some healthchallenges, I don't know because
I never asked him.
But then I see him again andhe's out there and he's doing
couch to 5k.
He's showing up weekly, he'sshowing up for himself, he, he's
just smiling, he's happy.
(26:32):
He was the complete opposite ofhow I saw him the last time, and
Saturday he ran a marathon.
He went out to race him fordaylight, he ran his first
marathon and he just kicked.
But man, he's just he's, he's.
He's showing up, he's biking,he's shown up for himself, he
showed up for his family, he's.
He's back to being the personthat I first met and I just want
(26:56):
to say Congratulations, I amsuper proud of you.
I feel like you've got a growthmindset.
You are just man, you'rekicking ass and taking names and
you are just being a reallygood role model of how to come
back from whatever challengesyou were facing and Just doing
it.
And I and we are super proud ofyou and we're gonna send you a
(27:16):
shirt and thank you so much forFor just putting in the hard
work.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Yeah, appreciate your service and I think that Speaks
volumes.
I think a lot of people.
This is where at some point inpeople's lives we have like an
injury, some type of majorsetback, and for some people it
can define you and you can justkind of give up or you can come
(27:41):
back and you can fight throughit and figure out what the new
normal is is for you, and youknow and adjust accordingly.
And you know a testament isgoing out there and getting
after it and demonstrating thatand I think that's freaking
awesome.
So we appreciate you and thankyou so much for your service to
our country and we're gonnadefinitely send you a shirt.
(28:01):
So that's awesome.
I love hearing stories likethat.
Like don't let your these,these things limit you.
Like you can be limited if youallow it to, and that's where
the the mindset comes in.
You can overcome thesechallenges that you have and I
keep getting after it.
That's what's all about.
Do hard things Absolutely,absolutely so Awesome, yeah Well
(28:23):
, yeah, well, that's, I mean,that's.
That's what it's all about.
It's all about, you know,upgrading your life through
mindset and movement.
And don't discount the, theimportance of mindset and
cultivating that and focusing onthat every day.
And you know, if you you readbooks, listen to podcast, find a
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course, you should always belearning something, whether it
be traditional ornon-traditional, and there are
other means to improving yourmindset.
You know, like a mindset Coachor a mastermind group is like
going to a gym specifically forthe mind and working with a
mindset coach is like going to apersonal trainer specifically
for the minds.
If you really want to amplifythat, you want to upgrade it and
(29:06):
up that to the next level, youknow, find, find someone, and I
know a guy.
So if you're interested, youknow reach out to me directly.
But if it's not me, you knowfine, find someone to go work
with or find some type ofaccountability group, because
here's the here's that what I'velearned about the mindset
community or or just the societyin general.
(29:26):
If you tell people that you'rereading a book, they most people
will laugh at you.
Or if you know it feels verylonely if you're out running on
a Saturday night.
People will laugh at you, rightit's, we're kind of.
That's the unique thing is thatwe're kind of a few and far
between.
Hence why we created acommunity, so you don't feel
like an outsider.
I've got great friends I love togo drink beer with and have a
(29:47):
good time with, but they want totalk about football scores.
I want to talk about you knowMindset and what I the nugget
that I got from Carol Dweck andthey're looking me like what are
you talking about, dude?
Yeah, and I love them, and butI need a space where I can talk,
where I can talk about you knowreal life, and the fact of the
matter is most people are anautopilot and they don't care.
And you need a community.
(30:09):
You need a like-minded tribe ofpeople where you can, you know,
talk about fitness, not getmade fun of.
Talk about how you you know you, you skipped out on the cake
and you did the workout in.
People are cheering you versuslaughing at you.
Yeah, and I know that theydon't mean it in a negative way,
but it can feel lonely outthere.
Hence why we created a growthmindset community around.
(30:30):
You know growth, mindset andmovement.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
So I have a quick challenge for people this week,
since we're talking about growthmindset.
A very Easy and simple place tostart if you're on social media
, as I want you to look at.
Just take a step back and Scrubyour social media.
I want you to look at whatyou're, how you're responding on
social media.
What are you putting on socialmedia?
(30:54):
What tone does it have?
Does it have a positive so atone?
Does it have an argumentativetone?
Are you always looking for that?
Next, are you looking for a postor Something to jump on to
argue with people and to showand approve how right you are
and how wrong they are, or whatare you putting out there?
(31:15):
That's just a really easy andquick place to start.
If you're on social media,check, check yourself and and
see how you can change that tone, see how you can change what
you're putting out there, andthen that's just one small step.
Also, another thing that I'mgonna challenge you to do is get
out there and smile, makeyourself smile, make somebody
(31:35):
else smile.
I'm wearing the shirt.
You might smile when you'rescrubbing your social media,
because you might be like Jesus,I am an asshole.
Or you might be like bro, I'mkilling it like I'm not an
asshole, but that's just areally easy, easy, way, easy
place to start.
Just gonna challenge everybodyto do that.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
I'm very aware of what I put out on social media
and you know, if I look it backmy social media 15 years ago I'm
absolutely embarrassed in whatI used to post and talk about.
And I you see people you knowthat they're in your Feet and
you look like, did you?
It's cringy, like you know whatare you saying, like, do you
really have to like complainabout that?
(32:13):
People that complain all thetime.
That's the.
That's the one thing that wearsme out.
It's just the Complaining,especially when it's like first
world problems and things likethat.
And I got it.
People complain from time totime, but you know that
personally, complains all thefreaking time and that's just a
indicator of mindset.
And you can use your.
You can use your social mediafor good and you can here's a
cool thing you can actuallycurate your social media.
(32:36):
So if people are driving younuts, you can still be their
friend and you can unfollow themand you can kind of make your
social media a super positiveplace if you want to and you
should so and Find yourself abunch of people that make you
smile.
That's right, do it all about,so, all right.
Well, that's it for today'sepisode.
If you gained any wisdom oranything like that, or a nugget?
(32:57):
We'd love to hear about it and,in the meantime, make someone
smile.
Keep kicking ass.
Do hard things, upgrade yourlife through mindset movement
and we will see you all in thenext episode we love.
Do our things, steve.
All right, welcome back everybody to another
episode of the Do Hard Thingspodcast.
I'm JT, he's running coach,certified high performance coach
, and our mission here at the DoHard Things nation is to
upgrade and empower you toupgrade your life through health
, wealth, relationships, throughmindset and movement.
And I have with me the lovelyAngie Petrae and Angie, how you
doing this morning?
Speaker 2 (01:02):
I'm doing good.
I'm here.
I got my coffee.
I got coffee this morning.
I got my water in.
I'm good.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Every Monday.
I never know how these aregoing to go.
I never know how I'm going todo it.
I'm tired, but I'm feelingreally good.
This morning I got up at I wasup at four.
I did a little riding.
I got a shower in, which isgood.
It's always good to start off.
It was a good shower, right.
Yeah, I got a cold shower inand took a little.
I'm going to get my workoutrinse.
(01:30):
I took a little pre-workout soit's kicking in here.
So as soon as this is over with.
I'm going to go crush a workout.
I feel really good this morning.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
Good yeah, that's good, that's good.
I saw that you were because yousent me the StreamYard invite
at five o'clock am.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
I was like today's going to be a good day for Jay
yeah, If it's like five, 50,it's going to be a train Like oh
God, jay is not having a goodmorning.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
But when it comes early I'm like, oh yeah, it's
going to be a good day.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Probably is a pretty good indicator there.
Yeah, because I never know, man, these Monday mornings could be
rollercoaster, so they are.
Yeah, well, today we're goingto be talking about mindset and
from race day to every day.
So, taking your mindset, whichis required for endurance sports
and how to amplify it every day, and just really focusing on
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and performance, but also howit improves your everyday life
we're going to talk about someaspects of it.
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some form of information,something that'll help you
improve your life throughmindset and movement.
So, that being said, any coachin either business or athletics
will tell you that a positivemindset is the key to reaching
your goal.
So how do you cultivate that?
Because I think a lot of peopleleave that for they don't have
(04:48):
a deliberate plan to upgradetheir mindset.
It might be just as far as,like you know, reading a book or
a podcast, but there are otherways that you can do to sharpen
that saw, and I don't know.
What are your thoughts?
How has mindset impacted youand improved your life, angie?
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Well, let me back up just a little bit.
I want to say that I don'tthink people realize how
important your mindset is toevery little thing that you do,
including your physical fitnessand reaching your goals.
Like you know, some people arejust kind of sitting here
growing and going duh, like weknow this.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
But let's, let's, no shit, yeah right, tell us
something.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
But I really think it's.
I know people personally whotalk a great talk but their mind
is not in it and they wonderwhy they're not getting anywhere
, they're not getting results,they're not achieving the goals
that they're set out to do andit's kind of like that obvious
thing that's staring you in theface.
It's like you got to get yourmind in it and for me, mindset
(05:53):
has been every flipping thingthat got me to where I am today.
And I'm not a professionalathlete, don't get me wrong.
I am a 47-year-old, middle-agedwoman who kicks ass and it's
only because of what I put in mybrain to do it Like if I.
(06:14):
I am constantly on a path ofself-improvement and I celebrate
and I tell this to people allthe time celebrate the
incremental improvements,celebrate the increment.
Don't do not compare yourselfto anyone else, which luckily I
am.
I'm good at not doing that LikeI have.
I feel like for myself, I'vemastered that I don't compare
myself to anybody else and Iconstantly, if I'm doing
(06:37):
something better today than Idid yesterday, I celebrate it,
I'm excited about it and I set anew goal for myself.
And it's not about eating thewhale.
You eat the whale one bite at atime I don't even know.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
Elephant.
So thank you, the elephant.
The elephant, yes, I'm gonnarate one before I don't know
what to taste like.
Speaker 2 (06:55):
I don't know either.
I don't know, I don't reallywant to, because they're cute
and cuddly and big and awesome.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
I like the cow.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Yes, I will eat the cow for sure, but like and this
goes for.
So what got me thinking aboutthis was mindset.
I mean, we talk about mindsetall the time, right, but for us
it's a duh.
But I was listening to theReady State podcast and Tia Tumi
, who's a professional CrossFitGames champion even at that high
(07:22):
level, sometimes people forgetabout that and she had to get a
mindset coach and she said shegrew up and her dad was always
telling her feed your mind.
And she thought that meant sheneeded to eat the right
nutrients to feed her body.
That would translate into ahealthy brain.
What she didn't realize wasthat she needed the mindset
piece.
She was lacking the mindsetpiece and I just think that
people forget about it becauseit's the thing that's in your
(07:44):
face that's going hey, hey, dothis, do this, do this.
And you're like I'm doingeverything, what am I supposed
to be doing?
And then you wake up and you'relike good, I've got to go do
this, I have to get a workout, Ihave to do this.
And it's like no, you get to doit, you get to do it, you get
to do it, I'm sorry, I'm on it,no, you're good, I love it, I'm
on it.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Yeah, no, I love it.
I think.
What people fail to realize, Ithink, is that their mindset,
like you have an operatingsystem for your hard drive, like
your brain, is a computersystem, and you have been.
You have installed a hard drivethat has been cultivated from
years of external conditioning,both good and bad, and there are
(08:25):
things that you do that it'sall about your mind.
There's a lot of things thatyou're doing that are on
autopilot.
You don't even realize.
It's just like your computer isoperating.
It's doing things, it's workingin the background and if it's
not primed and optimized, if youdon't have the latest software,
if you don't have it defraggedright, it's going to run.
You ever operate a computerthat was like old, out of date,
(08:45):
clunky, like it's got a bunch ofstuff on it.
That's how a lot of people areoperating.
They don't even realize it.
Now, the good news is is thatyou can upgrade the software.
You can, you know, defrag itand make sure it's primed and
optimized.
But most people aren'tdeliberately going about it.
And, to your point, you knowyou're talking about a
world-class crossfitter, peoplethat are operating at the elite
(09:08):
level.
They all have a mindset coach.
They're all a part of a programand if you want to
significantly upgrade your life,I could not recommend that
enough.
To focus on the mindset I wastalking about energy last week I
was having I was doing mysessions with my group coaching
(09:31):
sessions.
Last week we're talking aboutenergy, and energy comes in four
forms spiritual, emotional,physical and mental.
And a lot of people, when theythink about amplifying energy,
they go right to physical andthey don't think about the
others.
But the most important is themental energy, because it's the
mental stamina that it gives youthe sense of awareness and
(09:53):
control.
To focus on your physical, tofocus on your spiritual and your
relationship with God, to focusand have awareness of your
emotional well-being and yourmental state and the hard drive
that you're operating with iskey.
If you don't feel like workingout, it's usually got to do with
your mental state and beingtired and not being able to
(10:14):
process, having the disciplineof starting the workout.
It's you know, and in endurancesports, like we know this, like
when you're feeling tired andyou hit the wall, your mind is
going to quit before the body.
It's all about the mindset andso having that primed and
optimized is critical to yourperformance.
Yes absolutely 100%.
(10:37):
And mindset, you know, a greatstarting point, you know, is and
this is the great book calledMindset from oh, what's is it
Dweck?
No, that's grit.
Ah, anyway, I can't rememberthe author's name, but the book
is mindset.
It's got purple on the front.
What I love about the book, itexplains the differences between
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a fixed mindset and a growthmindset, and that's number one.
Like you got to determinewhether or not you have a fixed
mindset or a growth mindset.
A fixed mindset the individualbelieves that their abilities
are static and unchangeable,like what you have is what you
have and that's it.
They avoid challenge becausethey don't want to fail.
(11:20):
They, they.
If they fail, they see it as areflection of their own current
capabilities.
A growth mindset they believethat all of your abilities can
be developed.
They tend to embrace challengeand they don't get knocked down
with setbacks.
They see everything as apathway for improvement.
That's critically importantbecause most people fall into
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one of two buckets and yourconversation with that person
will be incredibly differentdepending on you know what type
of mindset that they have.
And I think that you, if youhave a fixed mindset, I think I
think there's a you can recoverfrom that and obtain a growth
mindset.
But having that growth mindsetmeans that you can embrace
learning, that you can be alifelong learner.
(12:04):
And I don't know.
That book helped me out a lotbecause it talked about mindset
from a business perspective,from a child's perspective, from
a endurance athlete perspective, and it really really helped me
enable.
It gave me a lot of confidencethat, no matter what, I have the
(12:24):
ability to learn, I have theability to reprogram my mindset
if I choose to.
And I don't know that that thatwas a.
That was a book that reallyunlocked a lot of confidence for
me personally, because I knewthat I had more control over my
mindset.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
I didn't really think about it much earlier in my
life, so Same and I'm glad youbrought that up because I, I
mean, we, we all read the booktogether.
So I think I'm gonna revisitthat book because I really
enjoyed it.
And every time I go back to abook and re-listen because I do
a lot of listening, audio, audioreading, ears, reading with my
ears Any time I go back and andre-listen to a book or reread a
(13:05):
book, I get additional nuggetsfrom it, I get really good
reminders and that is a reallygood book.
Mindset is a good book and, andto your point, listen, I ran
with some, some teachersrecently and even a school
principal of elementary schoolkids and folks, if you're, if
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you're adults in the 30s and 40srange, maybe you're, you're as
resilient, right, but they'reseeing this trend in kids about
oh yeah, there's the book, carol, yeah, carol.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Tawak, I was right yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
That kids want to give up so quickly, and I see
this in my own seven-year-oldgranddaughter If she does not
get it right, if she does notwin immediately, if she does not
complete the task immediately,she's just ready to throw her
hands up and move on.
She just wants to do it.
Her way is what she says.
Nani, I just wanted to play itthe way I want to play it and
I'm like no, we're gonna play itthe way the rules say, we're
(14:01):
gonna play it and it's okay ifwe don't get it right.
We don't get it right and wehave to learn how to do it.
We're not born learning how todo it.
But I'm saying this as if youare one of these people that
maybe are stuck in that thatfixed mindset.
These actions translate down tothe next generation, and we
don't want a next generation ofof people that are given up and
quitting.
(14:22):
Because if you give up and quitat the first sign of oh man,
listen, I was 100 poundsoverweight for most of my life,
most of my adult life, and myknees are just jacked, my back
is jacked, right I.
I now have to understand thatwhen I run I'm gonna have a
level of discomfort, but I enjoyrunning so much I push through
(14:44):
that and I continue doing it.
I've got arthritis in my back,I know.
When I go out for long runs I'mI'm probably gonna feel it, but
that's not gonna stop me fromgoing out and enjoying what I'm
doing.
And we need to really make surethat we're instilling in these
kids nowadays that you've got topush through, you've got to
push through in your, in yourmind, you've got to keep going,
(15:06):
you've got to be resilient,you've got to have grit and
you've got to want it and justkeep going, don't give up.
Anyway, yeah, that was a longway to get there.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
And that's.
It's easier to do that if you,as the parent, are demonstrating
that and finding opportunitiesto demonstrate that in front of
your kids, because you can tellyour kids, tell your blue in the
face, you need to do this, youneed to do that, that that
doesn't work Like.
You've got to demonstrate it.
You've got to be out theredemonstrating it.
So it's so incredibly importantto focus on it, to make you
(15:42):
know, make it a daily effort,and that's one of you know the
do hard things Hard.
As a mnemonic for the fourlines of effort in your life
health and wellness, affluenceand wealth, relationships and
development.
And development is the mindsetcomponent.
It really is.
How are you skilling up everyday?
How are you?
Are you listening to podcasts?
Are you, are you enrolled in acourse or how are you educating
(16:03):
yourself and upgrading thismindset, because it is so
incredibly important to everyother aspect of your life?
It's critical and I know, youknow just my own personal well
being like when I was in mylowest points of life, I wasn't
focused on my mindset at all.
I didn't know that that wassomething that I should.
It's just most people areoperating on autopilot and by
(16:27):
focusing on mindset.
You know I've, I've, I'm moreaware and living life more on
offense, because I'm too to beaware to my thinking patterns
and I can, you know I can, I canmake transitions easier because
of my, my mindset, and betweenlearning and then applying
through, like pushing myselfphysically and mentally and
(16:48):
endurance sports, like I justfeel, like I've, I don't know,
it goes hand in hand.
Like you know, it has enabledme to accomplish some amazing
things physically and finishsome races and those lessons I
feel like I can bring those backinto everyday life and then
apply them to relationships, tobusiness and and then helping
(17:09):
other people and it's justpowerful.
I just feel like it's a superproud like being able to upgrade
and know.
Knowing that you have thecapability of upgrading your
mindset is a superpower and itgives a lot of confidence and
peace.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
There's so many examples outthere.
So you know we talk aboutlistening to podcasts.
Well, what podcasts are youlistening to?
I mean, what are you feedingyour brain?
What are you feeding your brainAre you listening to?
You know people that get onpodcasts and they're just
spewing all this negativity.
And they're spewing negativityabout the world.
(17:45):
I mean what?
How are you choosing to viewthe world?
How are you choosing to viewyour life?
How are you choosing to viewanything?
Really, when you think aboutgoing out and let's say, you've
set a goal to run a halfmarathon I'm just using that
because I better run one nextweekend I could wake up and say,
oh my God, I have to go runtoday.
(18:09):
I don't want to do this.
I just I have to do it, or Icould look in the mirror and I
may not.
I don't always want to go outand run.
I love running, but I don'talways want to get out and do
physical activity.
Let's just be real.
I'm human.
Or I could look in the mirrorand put my shoes on and go hey,
get your shit together.
You get to go run today.
You get to complete this.
How many people are going to goout and just run a half
(18:30):
marathon today.
How many people are going to dothis?
You know, in our circle ofpeople that do endurance sports,
a half marathon is likedrinking a eight ounce cup of
water.
Because, you know, the peoplethat we know are just completely
awesome and their, their brains, are trained and they run 100
milers and 50 milers likenobody's business, which I
(18:50):
thought was not possible.
I don't know, six years ago, ifyou would have told me that I
would have been friends withpeople that do this on a regular
basis, I would have been likeyou're insane.
People don't do that, but theydo.
But it's because they'vetrained their mind to do it.
You know they've, they've gotit.
They've got it right.
They figured out the formulaand the formula is getting your
mind right in order to completethe things that you want to
complete and not lettingadversity stop you.
(19:13):
You know we're all.
We're all human.
I'm not a psychologist and Iknow that.
You know sometimes bad thingshappen and shit happens in life
and sometimes you got to sit andwallow in discomfort and
sadness and fear and whateveryou're going through.
But you can't stay thereforever and you have to
acknowledge I mean you have toacknowledge the feelings, you
have to feel the feelings andthen you have to pull yourself
out of that and you have to say,hey, look, it's time to it's
(19:34):
time to keep going.
Let's, let's get out of that.
You know, honor, whatever it isyou're going through, and then
work through it, figure out apath to work through it,
whatever way works best for you.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
To your point.
Yeah, I look as you're.
I was reviewing my socialcircle then.
Like what we're doing, likeSaturday night, like it's
Saturday night, we're outrunning, like it's it the course
route that we had for the therun, the running for daylight
course, which was in St Robert,like it ran past the Taco Bell
and like all of these likescooters and you could just tell
(20:07):
the people were like who arethese people like out running
like tonight, like what is goingon, like weaving around this
and stuff.
It was just funny because, likethose people there, like most
people there, they at least rana half marathon before they went
home or call it.
But anyway, yeah, half marathonhas become like just training
run, right, yeah, a lot ofpeople.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
Yeah, and I wish I was so sad, so okay, so Saturday
I wasn't there because I haveto give my team a shout out.
The Rollin Rockets roller derbyteam kicked ass.
On Saturday night we played anamazing game against Cape
Gerardo.
Cape Gerardo is an amazingroller derby team up near St
Louis, I believe.
Maybe no, I don't remember Capeis here in Missouri, but that
team was so much fun to play andeven though they lost, they
(20:49):
were not bad sports on sport.
They did not display badsportsmanship on or off the
track.
They continued to smile.
Our teams continued to highfive one another, smiled each
other on the track, crackedjokes even when they were
getting knocked down, even whenwe were getting knocked down,
and that just.
I was so proud to watch bothteams, our team and their team.
(21:10):
We did take home a win Yay, goRollin Rockets.
But it was just so nice becausewe have played teams in the
past who were just straight upassholes, like their mindset was
trash and it.
It makes you not enjoy thesport, it makes you not have a
good time and, yes, we're.
You know we are here for thewin, but not everybody can be a
(21:33):
winner and how you take thatloss is a huge, huge testament
of who you are and how you train, and so I mean, it's just, it
transcends across everything.
But anyway, driving home, I sawyou guys out there.
I saw y'all and I was like oh,there's everybody, I see them
out there doing racing fordaylight.
I my kids came into town thisweekend so I went and hung out
(21:55):
with them, or I would have.
My original plan was to go home, sneaker up, lace up and get
out there and join you guys,because I knew you're out there
till seven o'clock in themorning.
But my kids came in to visit soI spent some time with them.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
I had my kids so I didn't stay out as late as many.
I was home by nine but I did geta few miles in so it was good.
But to your point about wellone, I mean roller derby like I
don't know much about it, but Ido know that it's a full contact
and the team that you haveassembled is pretty freaking
awesome.
I just love seeing people doinghumans need to be doing gritty,
(22:28):
like difficult things, and Ithink that this is another
avenue.
And it's so cool to see a wholegroup of women that are just
out there getting after it,playing full contact, but then
doing it in a way that is like,like you said, good
sportsmanship right, like takingthe loss with strike.
You see it in professionalsports, right Growing men
throwing like temper tantrums.
(22:50):
It's pretty sad to see that,and so seeing people being able
to play full contact and thenhave good sportsmanship after
the fact is awesome and thatspeaks to good mindset, right,
and part of your training andcoaching with the team has been
focused on mindset andsportsmanship right.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (23:07):
That's a lot of what we talk about, yeah, so it's so
incredibly important becausethat's a key indicator.
If you lose your emotionalcontrol, that's a sign that you
know and it happens to people.
I mean, I'm not going to say Ihave perfect days, but my losing
my emotional control now islike few and far between
compared to what it used to be,and that speaks to mindset.
That's why we do that training.
So you don't, you know, youhave fewer of those moments of
(23:30):
weakness.
I think having a strong mindset, you know, mitigates a lot of
that.
And yeah, that's why that that'sthe case for working on it.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
Yeah, so it's funny because part of my part of my my
hype speech before every gameis like listen, we're all here,
we're not sitting in jail rightnow, and why is that?
Because we have self controland, yes, tensions are going to
run high and we're going to getfrustrated because this is a
full contact sport.
However, we have managed tostay out of jail because we are
(24:04):
all adults here and we cancontrol ourselves.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
Well, in that that pep talk, you know it goes to
one of the the key signaturecomponents of mindset is
visualization.
And visualizing, you know, forfor the athlete, like how the
event is going to go, andrealizing that you're going to
have highs and lows, you'reprobably going to have a moment
where you're going to want tolose your emotional control and
(24:29):
you've got to rein it.
In Same with like towing, likeyou know, a big race, like you
know that at the very beginningyou're going to be amped up.
At some point you're going tohit the wall.
How are you going to navigatethat wall or that circumstance
that you may find yourself in?
And visualizing yourselfthrough that.
So, when it does happen, likeyou've already rehearsed it,
(24:49):
you've already rehearsed it inyour mind and it's so incredibly
important to be able to do that, yeah, and so it.
It'll boost your confidence andmotivation and significantly
enhance your performance aheadof time, which is which is
really important to do.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
So I'm super excited about this week's weekly winner
and I know we normally like waita little bit later in the show,
like almost till we're done,but can we go ahead and announce
this week's weekly winner?
Yep, give me a second here.
Speaker 1 (25:19):
Let me show the screen, yeah.
Okay so almost there, almostthere here we go.
And boom.
Speaker 2 (25:28):
There you go.
There we go.
Benjamin Kirk Rudy.
I nominated Benjamin Kirk Rudybecause this human I met him
when he was active duty oh, Ican't get back to my screen Act
in active duty service memberand he was like the epitome of
fit, like he was just like superfit and just like one of those
(25:49):
gunhole soldiers.
And you know you could tell thathe really cared about his
career and himself and he wasjust.
You know, you look at peopleand you're like, oh yeah, that's
a, that's a fit person rightthere.
And then, I'm not sure you know, he went through some things
and I saw him and I was like,bro, oh yeah, you're showing him
on TikTok.
And I was in my mind I'm like,oh man, he must have gotten
injured or something, because Isaw him and he was walking with
(26:10):
a cane.
And you know this, I went fromseeing him from the super fit
person to someone that was likereally, maybe facing some
adversity and maybe some healthchallenges, I don't know because
I never asked him.
But then I see him again andhe's out there and he's doing
couch to 5k.
He's showing up weekly, he'sshowing up for himself, he, he's
just smiling, he's happy.
(26:32):
He was the complete opposite ofhow I saw him the last time, and
Saturday he ran a marathon.
He went out to race him fordaylight, he ran his first
marathon and he just kicked.
But man, he's just he's, he's.
He's showing up, he's biking,he's shown up for himself, he
showed up for his family, he's.
He's back to being the personthat I first met and I just want
(26:56):
to say Congratulations, I amsuper proud of you.
I feel like you've got a growthmindset.
You are just man, you'rekicking ass and taking names and
you are just being a reallygood role model of how to come
back from whatever challengesyou were facing and Just doing
it.
And I and we are super proud ofyou and we're gonna send you a
(27:16):
shirt and thank you so much forFor just putting in the hard
work.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
Yeah, appreciate your service and I think that Speaks
volumes.
I think a lot of people.
This is where at some point inpeople's lives we have like an
injury, some type of majorsetback, and for some people it
can define you and you can justkind of give up or you can come
(27:41):
back and you can fight throughit and figure out what the new
normal is is for you, and youknow and adjust accordingly.
And you know a testament isgoing out there and getting
after it and demonstrating thatand I think that's freaking
awesome.
So we appreciate you and thankyou so much for your service to
our country and we're gonnadefinitely send you a shirt.
(28:01):
So that's awesome.
I love hearing stories likethat.
Like don't let your these,these things limit you.
Like you can be limited if youallow it to, and that's where
the the mindset comes in.
You can overcome thesechallenges that you have and I
keep getting after it.
That's what's all about.
Do hard things Absolutely,absolutely so Awesome, yeah Well
(28:23):
, yeah, well, that's, I mean,that's.
That's what it's all about.
It's all about, you know,upgrading your life through
mindset and movement.
And don't discount the, theimportance of mindset and
cultivating that and focusing onthat every day.
And you know, if you you readbooks, listen to podcast, find a
(28:43):
course, you should always belearning something, whether it
be traditional ornon-traditional, and there are
other means to improving yourmindset.
You know, like a mindset Coachor a mastermind group is like
going to a gym specifically forthe mind and working with a
mindset coach is like going to apersonal trainer specifically
for the minds.
If you really want to amplifythat, you want to upgrade it and
(29:06):
up that to the next level, youknow, find, find someone, and I
know a guy.
So if you're interested, youknow reach out to me directly.
But if it's not me, you knowfine, find someone to go work
with or find some type ofaccountability group, because
here's the here's that what I'velearned about the mindset
community or or just the societyin general.
(29:26):
If you tell people that you'rereading a book, they most people
will laugh at you.
Or if you know it feels verylonely if you're out running on
a Saturday night.
People will laugh at you, rightit's, we're kind of.
That's the unique thing is thatwe're kind of a few and far
between.
Hence why we created acommunity, so you don't feel
like an outsider.
I've got great friends I love togo drink beer with and have a
(29:47):
good time with, but they want totalk about football scores.
I want to talk about you knowMindset and what I the nugget
that I got from Carol Dweck andthey're looking me like what are
you talking about, dude?
Yeah, and I love them, and butI need a space where I can talk,
where I can talk about you knowreal life, and the fact of the
matter is most people are anautopilot and they don't care.
And you need a community.
(30:09):
You need a like-minded tribe ofpeople where you can, you know,
talk about fitness, not getmade fun of.
Talk about how you you know you, you skipped out on the cake
and you did the workout in.
People are cheering you versuslaughing at you.
Yeah, and I know that theydon't mean it in a negative way,
but it can feel lonely outthere.
Hence why we created a growthmindset community around.
(30:30):
You know growth, mindset andmovement.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
So I have a quick challenge for people this week,
since we're talking about growthmindset.
A very Easy and simple place tostart if you're on social media
, as I want you to look at.
Just take a step back and Scrubyour social media.
I want you to look at whatyou're, how you're responding on
social media.
What are you putting on socialmedia?
(30:54):
What tone does it have?
Does it have a positive so atone?
Does it have an argumentativetone?
Are you always looking for that?
Next, are you looking for a postor Something to jump on to
argue with people and to showand approve how right you are
and how wrong they are, or whatare you putting out there?
(31:15):
That's just a really easy andquick place to start.
If you're on social media,check, check yourself and and
see how you can change that tone, see how you can change what
you're putting out there, andthen that's just one small step.
Also, another thing that I'mgonna challenge you to do is get
out there and smile, makeyourself smile, make somebody
(31:35):
else smile.
I'm wearing the shirt.
You might smile when you'rescrubbing your social media,
because you might be like Jesus,I am an asshole.
Or you might be like bro, I'mkilling it like I'm not an
asshole, but that's just areally easy, easy, way, easy
place to start.
Just gonna challenge everybodyto do that.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
I'm very aware of what I put out on social media
and you know, if I look it backmy social media 15 years ago I'm
absolutely embarrassed in whatI used to post and talk about.
And I you see people you knowthat they're in your Feet and
you look like, did you?
It's cringy, like you know whatare you saying, like, do you
really have to like complainabout that?
(32:13):
People that complain all thetime.
That's the.
That's the one thing that wearsme out.
It's just the Complaining,especially when it's like first
world problems and things likethat.
And I got it.
People complain from time totime, but you know that
personally, complains all thefreaking time and that's just a
indicator of mindset.
And you can use your.
You can use your social mediafor good and you can here's a
cool thing you can actuallycurate your social media.
(32:36):
So if people are driving younuts, you can still be their
friend and you can unfollow themand you can kind of make your
social media a super positiveplace if you want to and you
should so and Find yourself abunch of people that make you
smile.
That's right, do it all about,so, all right.
Well, that's it for today'sepisode.
If you gained any wisdom oranything like that, or a nugget?
(32:57):
We'd love to hear about it and,in the meantime, make someone
smile.
Keep kicking ass.
Do hard things, upgrade yourlife through mindset movement
and we will see you all in thenext episode we love.
Do our things, steve.
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