April 17, 2025 • 38 mins
Marriage is a journey best taken with divine guidance, something we discovered firsthand over our two decades together. Celebrating our 20th anniversary this year prompted us to open up our wedding album and share the authentic, sometimes hilarious truth about our special day.
When we decided to get married, we didn't just follow our feelings. We individually sought God through prayer, receiving separate confirmations that we were meant for each other. This spiritual foundation became crucial as we navigated life together – a practice we strongly recommend for anyone considering marriage. God's tangible presence during our ceremony remains our most cherished wedding day memory, that divine stamp of approval setting the tone for our years together.
Our wedding journey had its amusing moments, particularly when we moved our date up from July to April, prompting immediate pregnancy assumptions from friends and family! With just 14 months from meeting to marriage, we understood their concerns, but we moved forward with confidence in God's direction. The entire celebration cost roughly $4,000, proving you don't need extravagant spending for meaningful beginnings. The night ended not with romantic fireworks but with us crashed out in our hotel room, still in wedding clothes, Burger King wrappers nearby – a perfectly imperfect start that makes us laugh to this day.
Perhaps our most unconventional choice was foregoing a honeymoon to purchase our first home. Closing just two weeks before the wedding, this decision gave us a place to build our family and proved to be an investment we've never regretted. Twenty years later, we can honestly say marriage has been a wonderful rollercoaster – challenging at times but ultimately fulfilling and joyful.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Really seek God in your relationships and don't
just marry somebody or jump intoa relationship because you like
that person a lot.
You can like a lot of people,but it doesn't mean that's the
one God has for you.
Welcome to Doing it With theDaniels, the podcast where we
navigate life, marriage andministry.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
I'm Charles and I'm Tisa.
Join us as we share insights,wisdom and practical advice to
strengthen your marriage,empower your life and enrich
your ministry.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Let's dive in together and discover the joys
of doing it with the Daniel.
Hey, welcome to doing it withthe Daniels, where we help
couples get it on in life,marriage and ministry.
We are so glad to have you joinus today.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Today is exciting.
We're having a fun time today.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Today is exciting.
Today is going to be different,very different.
Right, are you ready forsomething different?
I?
Speaker 2 (00:53):
am ready.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Today's episode is kind of an impromptu.
We just kind of jumping in,doing our thing, kind of show
today, right, so so so, as youknow and we've been talking
about it for the last few weeksthat we are celebrating 20 years
of marriage, 20 years of thisyear yes, 20 years of marriage
(01:14):
this year.
So this is kind of ouranniversary edition right.
Well, we're not really going totalk about well I mean, we
always, I think, drop some goodnuggets to help people, but
really we're just going to sharekind of our marriage journey
with people, our wedding, reallyMore of our wedding, because I
think in season one we talkedabout how we met and our journey
, but we did go into the weddingday and what that looked like
(01:37):
for us, and so today we get tokind of go into our wedding day
and talk about that.
So what's your fondest memoryof the wedding day?
The fondest memory of thewedding day, the fondest yeah, I
know I'm just throwing it atyou, so just just just off top
of your head, what's yourfondest memory?
Speaker 2 (01:52):
I don't know what's so much going on that day.
Um, I think my fondest memorywould be um us at the altar and
the uh, the pastor, praying forus.
I think that was my fondestmemory.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Why was that your fondest memory?
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Because the presence of God came in and it was
tangible.
It was amazing doing thatmoment.
It was like God sealing it,putting a stamp of approval on
it and saying, yeah, I ordainthis.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
So I really enjoyed that moment yeah, I, I agree,
that was probably, I know, forme, even back then that was kind
of my prayer.
I said, god, I just want you toapprove this wedding, just you
show up and just let us knowthat you're with us as we go
forward.
And he did that for us.
(02:43):
He, he showed up and I don'tknow what, what happened or why
it happened that way, but you'reabsolutely right, as he was
praying for us, the presence ofgod just filled the room, filled
the church, yeah and uh.
And then it was like okay, yeah, okay, god is with us we good
to go now.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
Yeah, I was excited and I was very pleased with that
.
I was very thankful to God forthat.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
So yeah, now and I will say this we didn't just
wait for that approval, we evenleading up to it.
We may have already talkedabout in a previous episode, so
you gotta have to go back andwatch early episodes, but we
talked about how we prayed, yes,about even being married.
We didn't just jump into this,although some people think we
just kind of jumped in.
It was like oh let's get marriedfor fun.
(03:28):
But really we started out Idon't even know we were dating,
because when I asked you, mygirlfriend, you told me no.
So I think we were just likefriends Liking each other.
Yeah, we were liking each otherand spending time together.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
A lot of time.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Yeah, all of that and I don't know.
I think I think we decided like, hey, let's look what are we
doing here, and we started.
We said let's pray about it tosee what this is.
Should we be together, shouldwe be married or should we stop
playing and wasting each other'stime?
Exactly, and as we begin topray, god spoke to us and told
(04:05):
us yeah, this was it.
I think you said he spoke toyou first.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
Yeah, he spoke to us separately, I would say that you
know he spoke to me.
I felt like he spoke to mefirst.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Yeah, but you didn't say anything to me.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
No, didn't say anything to you Then you and
then it was confirmed by ourpastor yeah you know, at church
so and it was crazy the way itwas done.
He was about to dismiss and hestopped and he called us to the
front.
So it was it was.
It was god was in it the wholetime.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
I was in the whole way and so it was a blessing.
That's why we encourage couplesto put god first, like really
seek god in your relationshipsand don't just marry somebody or
jump into a relationshipbecause you like that person a
lot.
You can like a lot of people,but it doesn't mean that's the
one God has for you and ifyou're going to get married, you
want to marry the person whoGod has ordained for your life
(04:55):
and God is saying yes, I approveyou.
To go forward, I still believekind of old school you can marry
who you want to marry.
Like like you got freedom ofchoice.
But I still believe kind of thebiblical model of where, uh,
god brought eve to adam, youknow.
In other words, god selectedhis wife and said this is who I
(05:16):
have for you.
And I believe, in a certainsense, you know, with regard to
our culture and current culture,I believe god still has the
ability to put us in connectionwith yeah the one he has
ordained for our life's purposeexactly.
So I think that's a really bigdeal for me some people take it
lightly that's a big deal.
I think it's important, and sowe encourage any couples that we
(05:38):
offer guidance to make sure godis in this exactly at the end
of the day, not just y'all likeeach other.
Real good, all right, so anyway.
So let's talk about thiswedding thing.
So we decided initially that wewere going to get married in I
think it was July, rightsummertime summertime we wanted
to be nice weather, so wethought, and all that good stuff
(06:00):
, and uh, what ended uphappening?
Speaker 2 (06:03):
uh, we moved the date up to april we did, we did.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Why did we move the date up?
Do you remember?
Speaker 2 (06:11):
I think we was just like why are we waiting till
july?
Yeah we're waiting like we'rewaiting for yeah, because there
was really no reason.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
It was just us picking a date yeah, we just
picked a day in july and we waslike, okay, this is a good day,
we'll jump in, go this, go fromhere.
And um, I mean we had set thatday and we started planning for
that day, we had booked thechurch for that day and then all
of a sudden uh well, it wasn'tall of a sudden one day we were
at church and I don't know if Itold you I may have told you
(06:40):
this.
We were at church and I wassitting in the office with our
pastor at the time and he saidto me you know what's your date?
And I told him the date.
He's like why so long?
Because it was kind of out.
He was like why so long?
I was like just give us time toplan whatnot.
He was like I think you need tomove that date up.
And uh, and I was like really,he was like yeah, yeah, I feel
(07:01):
like the lord want y'all to movethat up a little bit closer to
help y'all.
I said okay and I was all forit, because an earlier date
means I can touch you sooner.
So I was like I believe that'sGod, pastor.
I believe I believe that's God.
So, yeah, let's, let's movethat date up.
(07:23):
And so, kathy, I came to youand was like what you think
about moving the date up, andyou was like I guess, if you
want to, the only thing I wasconcerned about was probably
finances.
Finances and getting everythingorganized.
But the first thing we did wascheck the venue, yeah, and it
was open and it was open, theylet us move the date up at the
(07:44):
church.
And then we kind of informedeverybody else and everybody
adjusted and I think people werelike why?
Speaker 2 (07:51):
They was like why she pregnant?
You know that's the first thingthey go to.
What's wrong she pregnant.
Like why y'all moving this dateup?
And I think everybody was likecool until we moved the date up.
Because they were expecting usto make it to July, what you
know.
So I was like, yeah, this isinteresting, and you know,
(08:11):
because we got married quick.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
You know what I'm saying, so it was in within 14
months 14 months of us meeting.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
You know we got married and I don't think our
parents, our families were.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
They weren't ready.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
They wasn't ready because they didn't know me.
Yeah, and you know your familydidn't know me.
My family knew you because wewere here and they were around
you a lot, so they were okay.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
But your folks was like Wait a minute.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
What's the rush?
Hold up, I don't know her.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
I don't know if I like her yet.
You know all of that.
So it was.
It was an interesting time I'mlaughing about.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Is she pregnant, like no, she's not pregnant.
We just want to move the dateup.
You know, hey, for me I'm likeworks, for me, I'm all for it,
move it up, and uh.
So we did that and we ended upmoving it to april april 16th,
(09:04):
and we ended up moving it toApril April 16th.
Right, did I get it right?
Yes, april 16th is ouranniversary day, and yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
We were trying to maneuver around because I think
your dad's birthday is in Apriland you got.
Easter.
And I think you know, it's justkind of how that day felt, but
then it was like tax day.
And so we were like, oh, whatare we going to do, how are we
going to do this?
And we just picked that one.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Yeah, it was just a lot going on, but it worked out.
It worked out.
It ended up being a beautifulday.
It was a beautiful day.
The weather was nice.
I mean, everything was reallynice, even people traveling from
different places.
It turned out really good onthat day.
It on that day.
So let's let's talk through it.
So let's talk about this calls,because everybody looks at
(09:48):
their wedding and they considercalls what?
What would you say?
What was our calls like?
Did we spend a lot of moneybecause we had a nice wedding?
I mean, the church setting wasnice already.
Yeah, um, just everything wasreally nice.
How much money did we spend?
Yeah, not a lot not a not a lotcompared to what people are
spending now yes, yes and um.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
I don't regret that no, not at all.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Not at all.
I think we've often said, if wecould do it over, we would
actually yeah, we'd actually doit a little different.
Like you know what it was coolwe spent about?
We spent about four thousanddollars, I think it was about
four thousand dollars, yeah, forour entire wedding everything
just paid like no loans, noborrowing.
You know nothing yeah, I thinkthe only thing we had left to
(10:33):
pay after the wedding was thephotographer right, and I think
my mother ended up paying thatfor us and covering that.
But that was pretty much it.
That was it.
Yeah, that was pretty much it,and I mean I'm happy with it.
I think the biggest cost waswhat most people end up paying
(10:53):
for.
Well, now it's different.
The biggest cost for us wasfood.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
Catered food, being able to feed everybody, all of
our guests.
That was the significant cost.
The church, which was ablessing, was free.
We weren't charged for thechurch, even the fellowship hall
.
We weren't charged to use thefellowship hall.
We had to pay, like we said,for food.
We had to pay for our weddingplanner, we had to pay for
(11:20):
flowers.
Photographer, photographer, thevideographer was free.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
I think we had maybe, like, did we have some columns
maybe?
Speaker 1 (11:30):
probably rented some columns, yeah, or some kind of
little decorations, but itwasn't a lot of decoration
because the church didn't need alot of stuff to look nice.
But we had a little bit hereand there, but for the most part
it was food.
It was, it was food, yep, anduh, you know, we had to get out
that tuxedo for me and, tyler,your dress.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
And it wasn't expensive.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
We didn't buy expensive stuff, we didn't rent
expensive things, it just wasn't.
You can make it look nicewithout being overly expensive,
like now some people spending$50,000, $60,000, $70,000,
$80,000 on a wedding and comingout of that wedding date in debt
yeah, and I'm glad we didn't dothat.
I don't recommend doing thatnow, I mean unless that's just
(12:12):
what you want to do and youdon't mind bills.
You know we don't like bills,we don't like debt, so that's
just not our thing.
But it was really nice on thatday, um, doing that, being able
to pay and be done with it andnot have the stress of all that.
Um, I will tell people now what, what, what advice would you
give for?
I say that, what advice wouldyou give people now regarding
(12:36):
how much they spend on a wedding?
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Well, you know people , I feel like people are going
to do what they want to do.
And sometimes people have thisdream of what they dream that
their wedding is going to belike, and so I I try not to give
people advice.
I pretty much tell them to dowhatever they want to do,
because I don't want people tohave regrets, right, you know,
and sometimes if they listen tothis person or that person,
(12:59):
they'll be like well, I wish Iwould have did this, because
this is what I really wanted todo.
Yeah, you know.
So I just try to tell people,you know, I tell them my story
but then I tell them hey, thisis your day, so, whatever you
want to do, what, what do your?
What do you think, your day,you know what is.
What does that look like?
Speaker 1 (13:17):
for you.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
You know what do you envision, what do you envision
your day to look like, and youknow what do you want, and so I
feel like you know those twospouses need to talk about what
they want during that time.
So I don't like to tell peopledon't do this and don't do that,
and you know so.
It's just hard.
You know you want people to dowhat they want to do.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Yeah, I can agree with that.
I think that's wisdom in that.
I think for me I'd be justthrowing out advice.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I'd be like leave these folks alone.
Let them do what they want todo.
But I understand, at the sametime you're trying to give them
wisdom on.
You know this is one day.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
This is one day.
This is your day.
You can still make it look niceand it can be nice, but you
don't have to spend so muchmoney.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Yeah, like you, you said unless that's what you want
to do, unless that's what theywant.
You know, some people got itlike that.
They got it, go for it.
Yeah, and it's their dream day.
Yeah, so, like you said, it'syour dream day.
Make your dream a reality.
I think for us, looking backnow, in hindsight we often say
it's 2020.
I think, looking back, for us,we just would have done some
things different.
(14:21):
Um, I think we often talk aboutI don't know how serious we are
, but we often say we could havedone a destination wedding.
Yeah, say hey, whoever can getthere, get there.
We're going here, we're gonnaget married and we come back.
That's a wrap yeah, you know.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
Yeah, I and I always go back in my mind about um
having the wedding, you know,out of town.
Yeah, you know.
Sometimes I wonder you know outof town.
Yeah, you know, sometimes Iwonder you know what would it
have been?
Like if we would have did ithere instead of there, yeah, but
.
I think I was trying to giveyou, you know, something going
back to where you were from,instead of you know everything
being here.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
Yeah, you know, at the end of the day, we don't
know what we were doing.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
We were just, we were young and we were just getting
it done and the cheapest waypossible.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Yeah, we just kind of just, we just did, did it.
You know, it wasn't a whole lotof oh, it's got to be this, got
to be that.
It's just we just made ithappen, you know, and so for us
it works.
Yeah, that may not work foreverybody.
Some people are very meticulousand I want it this way and I
want it here and I want this.
We just weren't like that.
(15:32):
No, so, and I'm happy with it,I'm I'm pleased with our wedding
day.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
I was cool with, so you can look back at our
pictures and be okay with thatand not feel no kind of way.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
No, not at all I don't feel any kind of way about
our wedding day.
All I wanted for me, I justwanted you.
I wanted god to be with us andI just wanted to marry you.
Everything else was notimportant to me.
It just didn't matter.
Because here we are, 20 yearslater, and it's still just me
and you.
Yeah that's right and all ofwhat happened and all the people
(16:04):
, it's still just me and you.
It's been me and you.
Yeah.
So for me going into it, that'sall it was.
It was just you.
Seeing you come down that aisle, having you stand next to me
shaking yeah, you were shakinghaving us look in each other's
eyes and commit to to betogether yeah, forever, for the
(16:26):
rest of our lives.
That was that's the only thingI wanted.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
I just wanted you.
That's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
And I still got you.
But since you mentioned lookingback at the pictures and all of
that, I got a surprise for you.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
Come on, dug it out.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Got the wedding book, the wedding book From 20 years
ago.
So look, let me see, see, letme show the people y'all may not
be able to see this anyway,this is our wedding book.
(17:06):
You're so crazy, blow the dustoff of it.
So look, let me see here.
Oh, let me see.
Oh yeah, I gotta read this.
So this is what.
This is what we wrote abouteach other.
Oh, this is good.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
That's all I guess didn't we write that about each
other?
Speaker 1 (17:21):
that was a scripture no, it's not a script.
We wrote this about each other.
This, this was your sentiment Ithink we got that off the
internet I don't know where wegot it from, I don't know, but
anyway it was for us, she said.
And answer prayer he is to me.
My greatest blessing shallalways be, and so this day will
(17:45):
pledge our love in front offriends and God above.
Oh, that was good right there.
That was good, did we?
Speaker 2 (17:56):
get off.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Was Google around.
Okay, when do you think we gotmarried?
Speaker 2 (18:04):
20 years ago, I hope.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Google was around, I don't know, I can't remember,
maybe.
So Okay, so here we go.
We got pictures.
So, listen, we know, as we'regoing through this, we're just
going to kind of walk throughthis a little bit.
Y'all can't see this, but we'lltry to put some pictures up so
y'all can see what we're talkingabout here.
But we're looking at the signin front of the church.
We got married at True LightChurch of April 16th and I love
(18:29):
this saying Look I know it hasnothing to do with our wedding.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
They didn't have our names up there.
Congratulations, Charles andTisa.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
But what they had?
This look, they had church thenext day, so they were operating
as a church.
On the sign it said gossip runsdown more people than cars.
So when people pulled up to ourwedding, that's what they saw
Gossip runs down more peoplethan cars.
So when people pulled up to ourwedding, that's what they saw
Gossip runs down more peoplethan cars.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
Meaning shut your mouth.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
That's right.
Quit talking about people.
Look, that was fitting If yougot a problem with this wedding.
Look, be quiet.
So they got pictures of thechurch here, which is really
good.
Then they got your boy.
They got your boy standingthere.
They got your boy looking allgood with the tux on, smiling.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
That's a nice picture of you.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
You like that.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
Look at all that hair .
I wish y'all could see thatLook.
Oh, my goodness.
You still look cute man.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
Thank you, thank you, thank you, come on.
Oh, you still look cute, man.
Thank you, thank you thank you,come on.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Oh, look at this little guy right here the little
guy.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
That's the little guy at a wedding party, tyler dunn
20 years ago, so he had to be.
If he's 25 now, he was fivewhen we got married he was five
turns yeah yeah, like I said,we'll show y'all some pictures
so y'all can see.
This is just us reminiscing overour wedding day 20 years ago,
(19:56):
as we celebrate our anniversarythis year.
Yeah, my sister, come on Kimand charity.
Oh, that's so cute.
Oh, come on, pops Me and my dad, my dad, 20.
My dad, he's 80 this year.
He's turning 80 this year, sothat means he was like 60.
(20:18):
Getting ready to turn 60.
Look how young he looking.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
Very young, he still look good, he still look good.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
Got a little extra weight on him, buddy, just a tad
, but still look good.
He still look good.
Got a little extra weight onhim buddy, just a tad.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
Just a tad, yeah, but he look all right.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
Oh, there go the bride right there.
How you going to skip?
You trying to skip the pictureof the bride.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
Ooh, trying to skip.
Ooh, you know some of thesepictures.
I was like I got tired ofsmiling.
Ooh, lord, yeah you smiling.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
Oh lord, you still get tired of smiling now, after
so many pictures.
You'd be like you lookbeautiful though, babe oh thank
you?
Oh, I keep trying to turn mypage okay, I got you going I got
every picture right here you.
Oh, look at the back.
(21:09):
Come on, got the back out onthe dress, you being fast that
day.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
I was not.
That's a very classy dress.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
You know the old thing.
I'm going to show all this skin.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
What kind of dress you want me to have.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
You cover from here you reparatin.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
I thought I did pick one that was very covered.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
No, it's beautiful.
I like the dress.
I like you in the dress.
Thank you, it's very nice whatelse we got.
Who else in here?
Speaker 2 (21:40):
My grandparents.
Come on, grandparents.
Granddaddy will be 90 this yearon his birthday.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Wow, so he was 70.
Well, get ready to be 70.
When we got married and my mamaand Mr George Come on, they
look good.
Come on, that's my sweetmother-in-law.
Come on, there you go, pastorHarris.
Really appreciate him Took timeto counsel us.
(22:10):
He did that's another thing weencourage people to do.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Listen before you get married go to counseling Get
the tool.
Counseling is not to say youdon't know how to have a great
marriage Although we could saythat, because none of us, I
don't believe, know how to gointo a marriage, and just you
just do it right.
So go get the tools and thestrategies that are tested and
(22:37):
proven to help you succeed inyour marriage.
Don't just jump in and thinkyou're going to do what your
parents did and it's going towork for you.
It may not work that way or youmay do what others did.
Some of us didn't have healthyexamples in marriage right some
of you never saw your parentsmarried.
So go, go talk to somebody thatcan give you guidance.
I'm talking about a truecounseling or a spiritual
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advising type program formarriage that will, that will
equip you to have a successfulmarriage.
And that's what pastor harrisdid for us.
He took the time to minister tous, to teach us.
He and his wife, mother harris,they sat with us and they
talked to us about marriage.
They gave us a whole outline,yeah, of marriage and and and.
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When we started guiding andoffering guidance and counsel to
couples, that that outline thatthey gave us was was one of the
first things we drew from.
Yeah, to begin helping others,and we just expanded on it from
there.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Yeah, it was good, it was really good.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
Yeah, oh, yeah for that, yeah, it's nothing like
having godly wisdom.
Marriage is an institution thatwas established by god, so if
god created, you're going toneed God to do it the way God
wants it done and to besuccessful at it.
I just believe that.
I have a conviction about that.
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I push people to do that.
Come on, look at you and yourdaddy.
He took great pride in walkingyou down that aisle.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
He did, he did, he's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Come on, there we go at the altar.
Babe, you was up there justshaking, I was shaking.
Oh, if y'all could have seen mywife on that day, she would
just.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
I was nervous.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
I'm like, babe, why are you shaking?
I'm just nervous.
What were you nervous about?
Were you afraid that you wasmaking the wrong decision?
Speaker 2 (24:35):
I mean, you never know.
It's a, it's a risk, so youdon't know, and I think that
this, this is the decision thatyou need to take very serious,
like this ain't for play, likethis ain't for fun, this ain't
like, oh, I'm getting married,like this is a serious thing,
because you're making a covenantor oath before God, like I just
was, like you know, and Iwanted it to be one time, and
it's a risk, like I don't knowif you're gonna flip out on me.
I, you know, you just don'tknow, I don't know if you're
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gonna flip out on me.
Okay, well, that's why I'm notup there, like, yeah, I'm up
there, like I don't know.
So I just, I really took itserious and you know, I was just
nervous, yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
I think, and I think that's it's.
We say nerves, but it was ahealthy nervousness because it
was around just making sure youknow you're connecting your life
to the right person.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
And not only that, it's not all about you, but am I
ready?
Yeah, you know, because it's'sa big, it's a big thing, it's
not you know nothing that youjust enter in.
I think people just like theI'm getting married and they're
so excited in the wedding andit's just all about the wedding
and all of that.
And you know people be wedding,wedding, wedding, wedding
wedding, just everything aboutthat and not about what you're
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about to enter into.
So so I was just like no.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
So this is where we jump in, and we came down to
light the unity candle.
That's when the two flamesbecome one flame.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
Oh, we're getting ready to do that, and the
individual, flame ceases to burnforever.
So we're getting ready to dothat now.
He must be talking.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
Yeah, you got that, look on your face like, am I
sure, do I really want to dothis?
Speaker 2 (26:16):
there, it is right lightning, right yeah that's
where we lit it one.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
The two flames became one.
That's a beautiful shot rightburning come on, look at that.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
See, that looks really nice yeah, just yeah, it
wasn't nothing you can seeeverything.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
It's really nice.
And then, oh, there it is,there's the finale.
Come on, it's done now we needto, we need to remake that we
need to remake that yeah, justthe kiss part.
We ain't got dressed up okayjust the kiss.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
Look at tyler oh, that's tyler at like what are
they?
Speaker 1 (26:48):
doing and then we kind of walk out.
It was good and we went to.
We took some more picturesafterwards and I think you know
I really love the way people doit.
Now I don't think people dolike the keep the bride
concealed they have what theycall the first look.
Yeah, first look where it's justthem two together yeah, and
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then they can kind of dopictures if they want to, to
kind of kill all these picturesafter because we took a lot of
pictures afterwards and it tooka lot of time, yeah, and I guess
our food was cold.
I guess we're waiting for awhile, you know?
Hey, it was our day, we didwhat we had to do, but that's
just the way it was done backyeah, it's a better way to do it
.
I think people do it better now,so that's good.
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So at the end we kind of wentdownstairs of the church, we had
a nice fellowship hall set up,we ate.
We had a nice wedding cake.
Your cake you had like threetiers and you know they say
traditionally you take that toptier and you keep it.
We kept our top tier and wefroze it for a year.
I don't know how many couplesreally do that, but we did it.
Yeah.
But when we took it out that ayear later we had no desire to
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eat it.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
Yeah, we were like we straight, we thought it out.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
It's like I'm not eating this, you know, but uh,
but we did keep it and it waskind of a reminder that first
year we made it a year ofmarriage and it was good, it was
exciting, whoo.
Just to sit back and reflect.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
It's been a year.
Speaker 1 (28:09):
You know, even now, 20 years later, to sit back and
reflect on that day.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
It's just like man we really did that.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
you know, we talked about earlier the cost of it and
and all that you do, but theday was like that yes, it goes
by so fast it was here and gonelike gone and it's like wow it
goes by so fast, and I thinkthat's why you're so adamant on
telling people don't spend a lotof money man, eighty thousand
(28:40):
dollars for that, that's.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
That's the quickest way to spend it's more so, I
think, the reception it's like aparty you know, and so that's
where the bulk of the moneycomes in family really came out
and supported yeah, we had a lotof support from my family.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
That was really good.
Oh, don't leave out nana.
She was mad she wouldn't smileat first because we uh we waited
to the end to do pictures withher.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
Take a picture with her.
Speaker 1 (29:04):
And she was like y'all take a picture with
everybody else and then save mefor last.
I don't want no picture.
But she finally smiled and gotwith the program.
But it was so good to have herthere.
Yeah, she's deceased now andmiss her.
Just her love.
The love that she showed was,you know, incomparable.
But it was good to be able tohave this memory that my
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grandmother was present when wemade this major decision in our
life.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
You know that meant a lot.
She got to see you get married.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
Mm-hmm.
All right, this is weddingparty Wedding wedding party and
then you get down to thereception.
There's a wedding cake, yourcake, my little bride cake and
the groom cake.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
That was so nice it was good, so we had a.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
We had a great time, had a few fireworks.
Yeah, my grandmother, she wasin a wheelchair.
They almost they let.
She almost went rolling downthe hill.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
The church sits on a hill.
The church sits on a big hilland, um, and it was my, my
cousin, who actually ran.
I think she took her shoes offor something no, that was your
aunt.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
So my uncle was trying to carry her down to get
to the fellowship hall and losthis grip and she was moving kind
of quickly in the wheelchairand your aunt ran and was able
to catch her and stop.
Stop it from being catastrophicyes, thank god for that.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
Oh, I thank god for that.
Yeah, oh, that's pretty picture.
Come on, I love when you say afew fireworks a few fireworks.
Speaker 1 (30:40):
Hey was what it was.
It was, but it was good.
Everything was wonderful.
Yeah, and, like I said, this isgreat.
Even just going back andreflecting, it's almost like you
relive it over Now, towards theend of our wedding day.
You remember it was crazy.
Everybody left, except us.
Yes, everybody left, our limo.
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What happened to the limo?
The?
Speaker 2 (31:01):
limo was late or something.
It was an accident or something.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
Something happened.
Speaker 2 (31:05):
Something about traffic or an accident.
The limo was late getting to us.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
So everybody was gone .
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Everybody was gone.
We didn't get a.
You know how you do thefireworks or the send off and
you're running down the aisleand everybody's like screaming.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
We did none.
None of that.
It was like we just walked tothe limo, just me and you, yeah,
like everybody was gone.
We walked to the limo, limotook us to the hotel and we got
to the hotel and we crashed out.
Crash in our clothes we were sotired I know everybody and see
this is maybe I shouldn't tellpeople this, maybe it ruins the
day for them.
But not just us, but a lot ofcouples have had this experience
.
We, we got back to the hoteland we were hungry.
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I remember my friend daniel hewas like we called him.
I was like, man, we hungry, wedon't have any transportation
because the limo took us there.
And he was like what y'all need?
It was like we don't know, itwas late.
He was like, well, nothing'sreally open but burger king.
And so we ate burger king inthe hotel, laid in the hotel bed
with our clothes on and went tosleep, went to sleep, passed
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out and after we were talkingall that trash about, ooh, the
wedding night is going to be on.
You know how people think ooh,can't wait for the wedding night
, our wedding night.
We went to sleep.
Speaker 2 (32:17):
Sleep, we was tired, it was just.
I mean, that day just reallywears you it wore us out.
Speaker 1 (32:24):
We didn't mean to go to sleep, no, I think we laid
down and we were just talkingand next thing we were asleep
and we woke up in the middle ofthe night.
Remember, we woke each other upin the middle of the night.
We took off our clothes, put onour pajamas and went back to
sleep like so over all of this.
So everybody's like man, thewed night gonna be.
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The wed night was a night ofrest rest and relaxation and
recuperation we was like, hey,we got the rest of our lives for
all the, all the other stuff.
We tired but but it was justgood.
It was good, I mean, just thatrelief of we did it.
We got it done.
We did it.
(33:07):
We are together.
You stuck with me forever, andhere it is, 20 years later 20
years later, you're still stuckwith me.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
Hey, I'm glad I wouldn't change it.
I'm glad to be stuck with you.
Yeah, me too.
Speaker 1 (33:19):
It was good though it was, it was good anything else,
you just go, you just goingdown memory lane again, just
flipping through we alreadylooked at it anyway thank y'all
for joining us.
We hope you've enjoyed justhearing us share our journey
over the last 20 years and whatour wedding day was like 20
years ago.
So this year we're celebrating20 years of marriage and we're
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just grateful and thankful toGod that he's allowed us to come
to this place.
We we can both say we've had agood marriage.
Speaker 2 (33:48):
Yes, you agree with that, I agree with that we've
had a good marriage over 20.
Speaker 1 (33:53):
It has not been 20 hard years.
It hasn't been 20 miserableyears.
It's been 20 loving years,though it's had its challenges.
I don't want to ever create theidea that that, yeah, that is
perfect.
It hasn't been perfect, ithasn't been without challenges,
but God has been with us and ithas been a good I would say
really a great and a wonderfulexperience that I would not
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trade right, I wouldn't change,appreciate, um, doing life with
you yeah, I think we've been,it's been, it's been good.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
Like you said, fun, exciting.
You know a lot of ups and a lotof downs and you know, I think
we always say it's like a rollercoaster it is, it is, man, it
is, and you just got to strap mein and and hang on for the ride
the velocico, almost like theVelocicoaster, that's what I say
.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
Well, I was sick after that.
After my first round on that, Ithought I was going to go
through.
And there's some times inmarriage you feel like.
Speaker 2 (34:52):
You know, I just think about that how you know
you go through that tunnel andit speeds up really fast, and
then you know it kind of Wait aminute.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
You talking about the velocicos or?
Speaker 2 (35:03):
the hulk, the velocicos, it's got a tunnel.
Yeah, you go through thatlittle thing and it goes fast.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
I almost closed my eyes because I was sick.
I don't know it was fun thoughI just think about the hulk when
you come out where it goes upslow.
That's how marriage starts.
So I tell, oh, this is nice,and then you better hold on for
the ride.
Speaker 2 (35:23):
We love universe studios, as you guys can see.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
Yeah, yeah anyway, we just being silly now.
Anyway, I love you.
I'm so glad you stuck with meall these years and I'm excited
about the next 20 years.
We still young.
I still got a lot, a lot ofenergy, a lot of life left in me
, so I hope you do too.
I do.
Speaker 2 (35:39):
So we make the these next 20 better than the first
yeah, we didn't tell them aboutthe, the what we went after the
wedding oh, lord Jesus, okay,tell them where we went.
Speaker 1 (35:50):
No, we'll tell them later no, don't tell them where
we went.
No, no, we in here.
Come on, we're gonna wrap up.
Tell them about.
Tell them about the honeymoon,the destination honeymoon the
destination honeymoon was.
Casa de Daniels.
So instead of instead of goingon a honeymoon, we actually
bought a home.
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So about what was it about?
Two weeks, two weeks before ourwedding day, we closed on a
home, and so when we left thehotel after our wedding, we
didn't get on a plane and go outof town islands.
Speaker 2 (36:29):
This is all that, yeah we.
Speaker 1 (36:31):
We opted.
We was like honeymoon house.
We chose a house.
We're like we get more out of ahouse and we'll do a honeymoon
later.
We bought a house and when wecame home, we came home to our
house, our very first home thatwe purchased, and it was a
blessing.
I mean, I wouldn't change that,to be honest with you.
No, I'm grateful if I had to goon a honeymoon and come back to
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an apartment.
Uh, no, I wouldn't be happywith that.
But I'm pleased with theinvestment that we made.
I'm pleased with the payoffwhen we sold it and I was really
glad that we did it.
After we did, I was like, yeah,this is the right move right
here.
So so it was a blessing.
So we bought a home.
So you got to always thinkabout what your next move is,
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what you want to, what you wantto do in your life, and and
thank God for our pastor who waspreaching home ownership to us
and teaching god wants you toown land, to own property, and
so that's that's really what ledus, because we were looking for
an apartment, but we just feltum a tugging or nudging from the
holy spirit that we needed togo look for a house to have a
(37:36):
home, yeah, and so we juststarted looking, not you know
what we were doing we had noclue.
Speaker 2 (37:40):
No, idea and we just kind of god just took us step by
step yep, he put us with theright agent.
Speaker 1 (37:47):
He opened the door for us gave us favor they was
all kind of favor and next thingwe know we were home on crazy
yeah, so we went into themarriage with a home and where
we could build our family, andit's like I said, god has been
with us all the way.
I'm grateful for it.
All right, look, I think that'sit.
Let's wrap this up.
We love y'all.
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Thank y'all again.
We can't wait to see you nexttime for doing it with the
Daniels.
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
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Speaker 2 (00:44):
Today is exciting.
We're having a fun time today.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Today is exciting.
Today is going to be different,very different.
Right, are you ready forsomething different?
I?
Speaker 2 (00:53):
am ready.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Today's episode is kind of an impromptu.
We just kind of jumping in,doing our thing, kind of show
today, right, so so so, as youknow and we've been talking
about it for the last few weeksthat we are celebrating 20 years
of marriage, 20 years of thisyear yes, 20 years of marriage
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this year.
So this is kind of ouranniversary edition right.
Well, we're not really going totalk about well I mean, we
always, I think, drop some goodnuggets to help people, but
really we're just going to sharekind of our marriage journey
with people, our wedding, reallyMore of our wedding, because I
think in season one we talkedabout how we met and our journey
, but we did go into the weddingday and what that looked like
(01:37):
for us, and so today we get tokind of go into our wedding day
and talk about that.
So what's your fondest memoryof the wedding day?
The fondest memory of thewedding day, the fondest yeah, I
know I'm just throwing it atyou, so just just just off top
of your head, what's yourfondest memory?
Speaker 2 (01:52):
I don't know what's so much going on that day.
Um, I think my fondest memorywould be um us at the altar and
the uh, the pastor, praying forus.
I think that was my fondestmemory.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Why was that your fondest memory?
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Because the presence of God came in and it was
tangible.
It was amazing doing thatmoment.
It was like God sealing it,putting a stamp of approval on
it and saying, yeah, I ordainthis.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
So I really enjoyed that moment yeah, I, I agree,
that was probably, I know, forme, even back then that was kind
of my prayer.
I said, god, I just want you toapprove this wedding, just you
show up and just let us knowthat you're with us as we go
forward.
And he did that for us.
(02:43):
He, he showed up and I don'tknow what, what happened or why
it happened that way, but you'reabsolutely right, as he was
praying for us, the presence ofgod just filled the room, filled
the church, yeah and uh.
And then it was like okay, yeah, okay, god is with us we good
to go now.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
Yeah, I was excited and I was very pleased with that
.
I was very thankful to God forthat.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
So yeah, now and I will say this we didn't just
wait for that approval, we evenleading up to it.
We may have already talkedabout in a previous episode, so
you gotta have to go back andwatch early episodes, but we
talked about how we prayed, yes,about even being married.
We didn't just jump into this,although some people think we
just kind of jumped in.
It was like oh let's get marriedfor fun.
(03:28):
But really we started out Idon't even know we were dating,
because when I asked you, mygirlfriend, you told me no.
So I think we were just likefriends Liking each other.
Yeah, we were liking each otherand spending time together.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
A lot of time.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Yeah, all of that and I don't know.
I think I think we decided like, hey, let's look what are we
doing here, and we started.
We said let's pray about it tosee what this is.
Should we be together, shouldwe be married or should we stop
playing and wasting each other'stime?
Exactly, and as we begin topray, god spoke to us and told
(04:05):
us yeah, this was it.
I think you said he spoke toyou first.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
Yeah, he spoke to us separately, I would say that you
know he spoke to me.
I felt like he spoke to mefirst.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
Yeah, but you didn't say anything to me.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
No, didn't say anything to you Then you and
then it was confirmed by ourpastor yeah you know, at church
so and it was crazy the way itwas done.
He was about to dismiss and hestopped and he called us to the
front.
So it was it was.
It was god was in it the wholetime.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
I was in the whole way and so it was a blessing.
That's why we encourage couplesto put god first, like really
seek god in your relationshipsand don't just marry somebody or
jump into a relationshipbecause you like that person a
lot.
You can like a lot of people,but it doesn't mean that's the
one God has for you and ifyou're going to get married, you
want to marry the person whoGod has ordained for your life
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and God is saying yes, I approveyou.
To go forward, I still believekind of old school you can marry
who you want to marry.
Like like you got freedom ofchoice.
But I still believe kind of thebiblical model of where, uh,
god brought eve to adam, youknow.
In other words, god selectedhis wife and said this is who I
(05:16):
have for you.
And I believe, in a certainsense, you know, with regard to
our culture and current culture,I believe god still has the
ability to put us in connectionwith yeah the one he has
ordained for our life's purposeexactly.
So I think that's a really bigdeal for me some people take it
lightly that's a big deal.
I think it's important, and sowe encourage any couples that we
(05:38):
offer guidance to make sure godis in this exactly at the end
of the day, not just y'all likeeach other.
Real good, all right, so anyway.
So let's talk about thiswedding thing.
So we decided initially that wewere going to get married in I
think it was July, rightsummertime summertime we wanted
to be nice weather, so wethought, and all that good stuff
(06:00):
, and uh, what ended uphappening?
Speaker 2 (06:03):
uh, we moved the date up to april we did, we did.
Speaker 1 (06:08):
Why did we move the date up?
Do you remember?
Speaker 2 (06:11):
I think we was just like why are we waiting till
july?
Yeah we're waiting like we'rewaiting for yeah, because there
was really no reason.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
It was just us picking a date yeah, we just
picked a day in july and we waslike, okay, this is a good day,
we'll jump in, go this, go fromhere.
And um, I mean we had set thatday and we started planning for
that day, we had booked thechurch for that day and then all
of a sudden uh well, it wasn'tall of a sudden one day we were
at church and I don't know if Itold you I may have told you
(06:40):
this.
We were at church and I wassitting in the office with our
pastor at the time and he saidto me you know what's your date?
And I told him the date.
He's like why so long?
Because it was kind of out.
He was like why so long?
I was like just give us time toplan whatnot.
He was like I think you need tomove that date up.
And uh, and I was like really,he was like yeah, yeah, I feel
(07:01):
like the lord want y'all to movethat up a little bit closer to
help y'all.
I said okay and I was all forit, because an earlier date
means I can touch you sooner.
So I was like I believe that'sGod, pastor.
I believe I believe that's God.
So, yeah, let's, let's movethat date up.
(07:23):
And so, kathy, I came to youand was like what you think
about moving the date up, andyou was like I guess, if you
want to, the only thing I wasconcerned about was probably
finances.
Finances and getting everythingorganized.
But the first thing we did wascheck the venue, yeah, and it
was open and it was open, theylet us move the date up at the
(07:44):
church.
And then we kind of informedeverybody else and everybody
adjusted and I think people werelike why?
Speaker 2 (07:51):
They was like why she pregnant?
You know that's the first thingthey go to.
What's wrong she pregnant.
Like why y'all moving this dateup?
And I think everybody was likecool until we moved the date up.
Because they were expecting usto make it to July, what you
know.
So I was like, yeah, this isinteresting, and you know,
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because we got married quick.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
You know what I'm saying, so it was in within 14
months 14 months of us meeting.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
You know we got married and I don't think our
parents, our families were.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
They weren't ready.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
They wasn't ready because they didn't know me.
Yeah, and you know your familydidn't know me.
My family knew you because wewere here and they were around
you a lot, so they were okay.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
But your folks was like Wait a minute.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
What's the rush?
Hold up, I don't know her.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
I don't know if I like her yet.
You know all of that.
So it was.
It was an interesting time I'mlaughing about.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Is she pregnant, like no, she's not pregnant.
We just want to move the dateup.
You know, hey, for me I'm likeworks, for me, I'm all for it,
move it up, and uh.
So we did that and we ended upmoving it to april april 16th,
(09:04):
and we ended up moving it toApril April 16th.
Right, did I get it right?
Yes, april 16th is ouranniversary day, and yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
We were trying to maneuver around because I think
your dad's birthday is in Apriland you got.
Easter.
And I think you know, it's justkind of how that day felt, but
then it was like tax day.
And so we were like, oh, whatare we going to do, how are we
going to do this?
And we just picked that one.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Yeah, it was just a lot going on, but it worked out.
It worked out.
It ended up being a beautifulday.
It was a beautiful day.
The weather was nice.
I mean, everything was reallynice, even people traveling from
different places.
It turned out really good onthat day.
It on that day.
So let's let's talk through it.
So let's talk about this calls,because everybody looks at
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their wedding and they considercalls what?
What would you say?
What was our calls like?
Did we spend a lot of moneybecause we had a nice wedding?
I mean, the church setting wasnice already.
Yeah, um, just everything wasreally nice.
How much money did we spend?
Yeah, not a lot not a not a lotcompared to what people are
spending now yes, yes and um.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
I don't regret that no, not at all.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Not at all.
I think we've often said, if wecould do it over, we would
actually yeah, we'd actually doit a little different.
Like you know what it was coolwe spent about?
We spent about four thousanddollars, I think it was about
four thousand dollars, yeah, forour entire wedding everything
just paid like no loans, noborrowing.
You know nothing yeah, I thinkthe only thing we had left to
(10:33):
pay after the wedding was thephotographer right, and I think
my mother ended up paying thatfor us and covering that.
But that was pretty much it.
That was it.
Yeah, that was pretty much it,and I mean I'm happy with it.
I think the biggest cost waswhat most people end up paying
(10:53):
for.
Well, now it's different.
The biggest cost for us wasfood.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
Catered food, being able to feed everybody, all of
our guests.
That was the significant cost.
The church, which was ablessing, was free.
We weren't charged for thechurch, even the fellowship hall
.
We weren't charged to use thefellowship hall.
We had to pay, like we said,for food.
We had to pay for our weddingplanner, we had to pay for
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flowers.
Photographer, photographer, thevideographer was free.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
I think we had maybe, like, did we have some columns
maybe?
Speaker 1 (11:30):
probably rented some columns, yeah, or some kind of
little decorations, but itwasn't a lot of decoration
because the church didn't need alot of stuff to look nice.
But we had a little bit hereand there, but for the most part
it was food.
It was, it was food, yep, anduh, you know, we had to get out
that tuxedo for me and, tyler,your dress.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
And it wasn't expensive.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
We didn't buy expensive stuff, we didn't rent
expensive things, it just wasn't.
You can make it look nicewithout being overly expensive,
like now some people spending$50,000, $60,000, $70,000,
$80,000 on a wedding and comingout of that wedding date in debt
yeah, and I'm glad we didn't dothat.
I don't recommend doing thatnow, I mean unless that's just
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what you want to do and youdon't mind bills.
You know we don't like bills,we don't like debt, so that's
just not our thing.
But it was really nice on thatday, um, doing that, being able
to pay and be done with it andnot have the stress of all that.
Um, I will tell people now what, what, what advice would you
give for?
I say that, what advice wouldyou give people now regarding
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how much they spend on a wedding?
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Well, you know people , I feel like people are going
to do what they want to do.
And sometimes people have thisdream of what they dream that
their wedding is going to belike, and so I I try not to give
people advice.
I pretty much tell them to dowhatever they want to do,
because I don't want people tohave regrets, right, you know,
and sometimes if they listen tothis person or that person,
(12:59):
they'll be like well, I wish Iwould have did this, because
this is what I really wanted todo.
Yeah, you know.
So I just try to tell people,you know, I tell them my story
but then I tell them hey, thisis your day, so, whatever you
want to do, what, what do your?
What do you think, your day,you know what is.
What does that look like?
Speaker 1 (13:17):
for you.
Speaker 2 (13:18):
You know what do you envision, what do you envision
your day to look like, and youknow what do you want, and so I
feel like you know those twospouses need to talk about what
they want during that time.
So I don't like to tell peopledon't do this and don't do that,
and you know so.
It's just hard.
You know you want people to dowhat they want to do.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Yeah, I can agree with that.
I think that's wisdom in that.
I think for me I'd be justthrowing out advice.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
I'd be like leave these folks alone.
Let them do what they want todo.
But I understand, at the sametime you're trying to give them
wisdom on.
You know this is one day.
Speaker 1 (13:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
This is one day.
This is your day.
You can still make it look niceand it can be nice, but you
don't have to spend so muchmoney.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
Yeah, like you, you said unless that's what you want
to do, unless that's what theywant.
You know, some people got itlike that.
They got it, go for it.
Yeah, and it's their dream day.
Yeah, so, like you said, it'syour dream day.
Make your dream a reality.
I think for us, looking backnow, in hindsight we often say
it's 2020.
I think, looking back, for us,we just would have done some
things different.
(14:21):
Um, I think we often talk aboutI don't know how serious we are
, but we often say we could havedone a destination wedding.
Yeah, say hey, whoever can getthere, get there.
We're going here, we're gonnaget married and we come back.
That's a wrap yeah, you know.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
Yeah, I and I always go back in my mind about um
having the wedding, you know,out of town.
Yeah, you know.
Sometimes I wonder you know outof town.
Yeah, you know, sometimes Iwonder you know what would it
have been?
Like if we would have did ithere instead of there, yeah, but
.
I think I was trying to giveyou, you know, something going
back to where you were from,instead of you know everything
being here.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
Yeah, you know, at the end of the day, we don't
know what we were doing.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
We were just, we were young and we were just getting
it done and the cheapest waypossible.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Yeah, we just kind of just, we just did, did it.
You know, it wasn't a whole lotof oh, it's got to be this, got
to be that.
It's just we just made ithappen, you know, and so for us
it works.
Yeah, that may not work foreverybody.
Some people are very meticulousand I want it this way and I
want it here and I want this.
We just weren't like that.
(15:32):
No, so, and I'm happy with it,I'm I'm pleased with our wedding
day.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
I was cool with, so you can look back at our
pictures and be okay with thatand not feel no kind of way.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
No, not at all I don't feel any kind of way about
our wedding day.
All I wanted for me, I justwanted you.
I wanted god to be with us andI just wanted to marry you.
Everything else was notimportant to me.
It just didn't matter.
Because here we are, 20 yearslater, and it's still just me
and you.
Yeah that's right and all ofwhat happened and all the people
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, it's still just me and you.
It's been me and you.
Yeah.
So for me going into it, that'sall it was.
It was just you.
Seeing you come down that aisle, having you stand next to me
shaking yeah, you were shakinghaving us look in each other's
eyes and commit to to betogether yeah, forever, for the
(16:26):
rest of our lives.
That was that's the only thingI wanted.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
I just wanted you.
That's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (16:33):
And I still got you.
But since you mentioned lookingback at the pictures and all of
that, I got a surprise for you.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
Come on, dug it out.
Speaker 1 (16:45):
Got the wedding book, the wedding book From 20 years
ago.
So look, let me see, see, letme show the people y'all may not
be able to see this anyway,this is our wedding book.
(17:06):
You're so crazy, blow the dustoff of it.
So look, let me see here.
Oh, let me see.
Oh yeah, I gotta read this.
So this is what.
This is what we wrote abouteach other.
Oh, this is good.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
That's all I guess didn't we write that about each
other?
Speaker 1 (17:21):
that was a scripture no, it's not a script.
We wrote this about each other.
This, this was your sentiment Ithink we got that off the
internet I don't know where wegot it from, I don't know, but
anyway it was for us, she said.
And answer prayer he is to me.
My greatest blessing shallalways be, and so this day will
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pledge our love in front offriends and God above.
Oh, that was good right there.
That was good, did we?
Speaker 2 (17:56):
get off.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Was Google around.
Okay, when do you think we gotmarried?
Speaker 2 (18:04):
20 years ago, I hope.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Google was around, I don't know, I can't remember,
maybe.
So Okay, so here we go.
We got pictures.
So, listen, we know, as we'regoing through this, we're just
going to kind of walk throughthis a little bit.
Y'all can't see this, but we'lltry to put some pictures up so
y'all can see what we're talkingabout here.
But we're looking at the signin front of the church.
We got married at True LightChurch of April 16th and I love
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this saying Look I know it hasnothing to do with our wedding.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
They didn't have our names up there.
Congratulations, Charles andTisa.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
But what they had?
This look, they had church thenext day, so they were operating
as a church.
On the sign it said gossip runsdown more people than cars.
So when people pulled up to ourwedding, that's what they saw
Gossip runs down more peoplethan cars.
So when people pulled up to ourwedding, that's what they saw
Gossip runs down more peoplethan cars.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
Meaning shut your mouth.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
That's right.
Quit talking about people.
Look, that was fitting If yougot a problem with this wedding.
Look, be quiet.
So they got pictures of thechurch here, which is really
good.
Then they got your boy.
They got your boy standingthere.
They got your boy looking allgood with the tux on, smiling.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
That's a nice picture of you.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
You like that.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
Look at all that hair .
I wish y'all could see thatLook.
Oh, my goodness.
You still look cute man.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
Thank you, thank you, thank you, come on.
Oh, you still look cute, man.
Thank you, thank you thank you,come on.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Oh, look at this little guy right here the little
guy.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
That's the little guy at a wedding party, tyler dunn
20 years ago, so he had to be.
If he's 25 now, he was fivewhen we got married he was five
turns yeah yeah, like I said,we'll show y'all some pictures
so y'all can see.
This is just us reminiscing overour wedding day 20 years ago,
(19:56):
as we celebrate our anniversarythis year.
Yeah, my sister, come on Kimand charity.
Oh, that's so cute.
Oh, come on, pops Me and my dad, my dad, 20.
My dad, he's 80 this year.
He's turning 80 this year, sothat means he was like 60.
(20:18):
Getting ready to turn 60.
Look how young he looking.
Speaker 2 (20:24):
Very young, he still look good, he still look good.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
Got a little extra weight on him, buddy, just a tad
, but still look good.
He still look good.
Got a little extra weight onhim buddy, just a tad.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
Just a tad, yeah, but he look all right.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
Oh, there go the bride right there.
How you going to skip?
You trying to skip the pictureof the bride.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
Ooh, trying to skip.
Ooh, you know some of thesepictures.
I was like I got tired ofsmiling.
Ooh, lord, yeah you smiling.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
Oh lord, you still get tired of smiling now, after
so many pictures.
You'd be like you lookbeautiful though, babe oh thank
you?
Oh, I keep trying to turn mypage okay, I got you going I got
every picture right here you.
Oh, look at the back.
(21:09):
Come on, got the back out onthe dress, you being fast that
day.
Speaker 2 (21:11):
I was not.
That's a very classy dress.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
You know the old thing.
I'm going to show all this skin.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
What kind of dress you want me to have.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
You cover from here you reparatin.
Speaker 2 (21:27):
I thought I did pick one that was very covered.
Speaker 1 (21:30):
No, it's beautiful.
I like the dress.
I like you in the dress.
Thank you, it's very nice whatelse we got.
Who else in here?
Speaker 2 (21:40):
My grandparents.
Come on, grandparents.
Granddaddy will be 90 this yearon his birthday.
Speaker 1 (21:48):
Wow, so he was 70.
Well, get ready to be 70.
When we got married and my mamaand Mr George Come on, they
look good.
Come on, that's my sweetmother-in-law.
Come on, there you go, pastorHarris.
Really appreciate him Took timeto counsel us.
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He did that's another thing weencourage people to do.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Listen before you get married go to counseling Get
the tool.
Counseling is not to say youdon't know how to have a great
marriage Although we could saythat, because none of us, I
don't believe, know how to gointo a marriage, and just you
just do it right.
So go get the tools and thestrategies that are tested and
(22:37):
proven to help you succeed inyour marriage.
Don't just jump in and thinkyou're going to do what your
parents did and it's going towork for you.
It may not work that way or youmay do what others did.
Some of us didn't have healthyexamples in marriage right some
of you never saw your parentsmarried.
So go, go talk to somebody thatcan give you guidance.
I'm talking about a truecounseling or a spiritual
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advising type program formarriage that will, that will
equip you to have a successfulmarriage.
And that's what pastor harrisdid for us.
He took the time to minister tous, to teach us.
He and his wife, mother harris,they sat with us and they
talked to us about marriage.
They gave us a whole outline,yeah, of marriage and and and.
(23:22):
When we started guiding andoffering guidance and counsel to
couples, that that outline thatthey gave us was was one of the
first things we drew from.
Yeah, to begin helping others,and we just expanded on it from
there.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Yeah, it was good, it was really good.
Speaker 1 (23:38):
Yeah, oh, yeah for that, yeah, it's nothing like
having godly wisdom.
Marriage is an institution thatwas established by god, so if
god created, you're going toneed God to do it the way God
wants it done and to besuccessful at it.
I just believe that.
I have a conviction about that.
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I push people to do that.
Come on, look at you and yourdaddy.
He took great pride in walkingyou down that aisle.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
He did, he did, he's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
Come on, there we go at the altar.
Babe, you was up there justshaking, I was shaking.
Oh, if y'all could have seen mywife on that day, she would
just.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
I was nervous.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
I'm like, babe, why are you shaking?
I'm just nervous.
What were you nervous about?
Were you afraid that you wasmaking the wrong decision?
Speaker 2 (24:35):
I mean, you never know.
It's a, it's a risk, so youdon't know, and I think that
this, this is the decision thatyou need to take very serious,
like this ain't for play, likethis ain't for fun, this ain't
like, oh, I'm getting married,like this is a serious thing,
because you're making a covenantor oath before God, like I just
was, like you know, and Iwanted it to be one time, and
it's a risk, like I don't knowif you're gonna flip out on me.
I, you know, you just don'tknow, I don't know if you're
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gonna flip out on me.
Okay, well, that's why I'm notup there, like, yeah, I'm up
there, like I don't know.
So I just, I really took itserious and you know, I was just
nervous, yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:11):
I think, and I think that's it's.
We say nerves, but it was ahealthy nervousness because it
was around just making sure youknow you're connecting your life
to the right person.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
And not only that, it's not all about you, but am I
ready?
Yeah, you know, because it's'sa big, it's a big thing, it's
not you know nothing that youjust enter in.
I think people just like theI'm getting married and they're
so excited in the wedding andit's just all about the wedding
and all of that.
And you know people be wedding,wedding, wedding, wedding
wedding, just everything aboutthat and not about what you're
(25:46):
about to enter into.
So so I was just like no.
Speaker 1 (25:52):
So this is where we jump in, and we came down to
light the unity candle.
That's when the two flamesbecome one flame.
Speaker 2 (26:01):
Oh, we're getting ready to do that, and the
individual, flame ceases to burnforever.
So we're getting ready to dothat now.
He must be talking.
Speaker 1 (26:09):
Yeah, you got that, look on your face like, am I
sure, do I really want to dothis?
Speaker 2 (26:16):
there, it is right lightning, right yeah that's
where we lit it one.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
The two flames became one.
That's a beautiful shot rightburning come on, look at that.
Speaker 2 (26:25):
See, that looks really nice yeah, just yeah, it
wasn't nothing you can seeeverything.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
It's really nice.
And then, oh, there it is,there's the finale.
Come on, it's done now we needto, we need to remake that we
need to remake that yeah, justthe kiss part.
We ain't got dressed up okayjust the kiss.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
Look at tyler oh, that's tyler at like what are
they?
Speaker 1 (26:48):
doing and then we kind of walk out.
It was good and we went to.
We took some more picturesafterwards and I think you know
I really love the way people doit.
Now I don't think people dolike the keep the bride
concealed they have what theycall the first look.
Yeah, first look where it's justthem two together yeah, and
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then they can kind of dopictures if they want to, to
kind of kill all these picturesafter because we took a lot of
pictures afterwards and it tooka lot of time, yeah, and I guess
our food was cold.
I guess we're waiting for awhile, you know?
Hey, it was our day, we didwhat we had to do, but that's
just the way it was done backyeah, it's a better way to do it
.
I think people do it better now,so that's good.
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So at the end we kind of wentdownstairs of the church, we had
a nice fellowship hall set up,we ate.
We had a nice wedding cake.
Your cake you had like threetiers and you know they say
traditionally you take that toptier and you keep it.
We kept our top tier and wefroze it for a year.
I don't know how many couplesreally do that, but we did it.
Yeah.
But when we took it out that ayear later we had no desire to
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eat it.
Speaker 2 (27:52):
Yeah, we were like we straight, we thought it out.
Speaker 1 (27:55):
It's like I'm not eating this, you know, but uh,
but we did keep it and it waskind of a reminder that first
year we made it a year ofmarriage and it was good, it was
exciting, whoo.
Just to sit back and reflect.
Speaker 2 (28:09):
It's been a year.
Speaker 1 (28:09):
You know, even now, 20 years later, to sit back and
reflect on that day.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
It's just like man we really did that.
Speaker 1 (28:18):
you know, we talked about earlier the cost of it and
and all that you do, but theday was like that yes, it goes
by so fast it was here and gonelike gone and it's like wow it
goes by so fast, and I thinkthat's why you're so adamant on
telling people don't spend a lotof money man, eighty thousand
(28:40):
dollars for that, that's.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
That's the quickest way to spend it's more so, I
think, the reception it's like aparty you know, and so that's
where the bulk of the moneycomes in family really came out
and supported yeah, we had a lotof support from my family.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
That was really good.
Oh, don't leave out nana.
She was mad she wouldn't smileat first because we uh we waited
to the end to do pictures withher.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
Take a picture with her.
Speaker 1 (29:04):
And she was like y'all take a picture with
everybody else and then save mefor last.
I don't want no picture.
But she finally smiled and gotwith the program.
But it was so good to have herthere.
Yeah, she's deceased now andmiss her.
Just her love.
The love that she showed was,you know, incomparable.
But it was good to be able tohave this memory that my
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grandmother was present when wemade this major decision in our
life.
Speaker 2 (29:36):
You know that meant a lot.
She got to see you get married.
Speaker 1 (29:38):
Mm-hmm.
All right, this is weddingparty Wedding wedding party and
then you get down to thereception.
There's a wedding cake, yourcake, my little bride cake and
the groom cake.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
That was so nice it was good, so we had a.
Speaker 1 (29:53):
We had a great time, had a few fireworks.
Yeah, my grandmother, she wasin a wheelchair.
They almost they let.
She almost went rolling downthe hill.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
The church sits on a hill.
The church sits on a big hilland, um, and it was my, my
cousin, who actually ran.
I think she took her shoes offor something no, that was your
aunt.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
So my uncle was trying to carry her down to get
to the fellowship hall and losthis grip and she was moving kind
of quickly in the wheelchairand your aunt ran and was able
to catch her and stop.
Stop it from being catastrophicyes, thank god for that.
Speaker 2 (30:32):
Oh, I thank god for that.
Yeah, oh, that's pretty picture.
Come on, I love when you say afew fireworks a few fireworks.
Speaker 1 (30:40):
Hey was what it was.
It was, but it was good.
Everything was wonderful.
Yeah, and, like I said, this isgreat.
Even just going back andreflecting, it's almost like you
relive it over Now, towards theend of our wedding day.
You remember it was crazy.
Everybody left, except us.
Yes, everybody left, our limo.
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What happened to the limo?
The?
Speaker 2 (31:01):
limo was late or something.
It was an accident or something.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
Something happened.
Speaker 2 (31:05):
Something about traffic or an accident.
The limo was late getting to us.
Speaker 1 (31:08):
So everybody was gone .
Speaker 2 (31:09):
Everybody was gone.
We didn't get a.
You know how you do thefireworks or the send off and
you're running down the aisleand everybody's like screaming.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
We did none.
None of that.
It was like we just walked tothe limo, just me and you, yeah,
like everybody was gone.
We walked to the limo, limotook us to the hotel and we got
to the hotel and we crashed out.
Crash in our clothes we were sotired I know everybody and see
this is maybe I shouldn't tellpeople this, maybe it ruins the
day for them.
But not just us, but a lot ofcouples have had this experience
.
We, we got back to the hoteland we were hungry.
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I remember my friend daniel hewas like we called him.
I was like, man, we hungry, wedon't have any transportation
because the limo took us there.
And he was like what y'all need?
It was like we don't know, itwas late.
He was like, well, nothing'sreally open but burger king.
And so we ate burger king inthe hotel, laid in the hotel bed
with our clothes on and went tosleep, went to sleep, passed
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out and after we were talkingall that trash about, ooh, the
wedding night is going to be on.
You know how people think ooh,can't wait for the wedding night
, our wedding night.
We went to sleep.
Speaker 2 (32:17):
Sleep, we was tired, it was just.
I mean, that day just reallywears you it wore us out.
Speaker 1 (32:24):
We didn't mean to go to sleep, no, I think we laid
down and we were just talkingand next thing we were asleep
and we woke up in the middle ofthe night.
Remember, we woke each other upin the middle of the night.
We took off our clothes, put onour pajamas and went back to
sleep like so over all of this.
So everybody's like man, thewed night gonna be.
(32:47):
The wed night was a night ofrest rest and relaxation and
recuperation we was like, hey,we got the rest of our lives for
all the, all the other stuff.
We tired but but it was justgood.
It was good, I mean, just thatrelief of we did it.
We got it done.
We did it.
(33:07):
We are together.
You stuck with me forever, andhere it is, 20 years later 20
years later, you're still stuckwith me.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
Hey, I'm glad I wouldn't change it.
I'm glad to be stuck with you.
Yeah, me too.
Speaker 1 (33:19):
It was good though it was, it was good anything else,
you just go, you just goingdown memory lane again, just
flipping through we alreadylooked at it anyway thank y'all
for joining us.
We hope you've enjoyed justhearing us share our journey
over the last 20 years and whatour wedding day was like 20
years ago.
So this year we're celebrating20 years of marriage and we're
(33:40):
just grateful and thankful toGod that he's allowed us to come
to this place.
We we can both say we've had agood marriage.
Speaker 2 (33:48):
Yes, you agree with that, I agree with that we've
had a good marriage over 20.
Speaker 1 (33:53):
It has not been 20 hard years.
It hasn't been 20 miserableyears.
It's been 20 loving years,though it's had its challenges.
I don't want to ever create theidea that that, yeah, that is
perfect.
It hasn't been perfect, ithasn't been without challenges,
but God has been with us and ithas been a good I would say
really a great and a wonderfulexperience that I would not
(34:16):
trade right, I wouldn't change,appreciate, um, doing life with
you yeah, I think we've been,it's been, it's been good.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
Like you said, fun, exciting.
You know a lot of ups and a lotof downs and you know, I think
we always say it's like a rollercoaster it is, it is, man, it
is, and you just got to strap mein and and hang on for the ride
the velocico, almost like theVelocicoaster, that's what I say
.
Speaker 1 (34:41):
Well, I was sick after that.
After my first round on that, Ithought I was going to go
through.
And there's some times inmarriage you feel like.
Speaker 2 (34:52):
You know, I just think about that how you know
you go through that tunnel andit speeds up really fast, and
then you know it kind of Wait aminute.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
You talking about the velocicos or?
Speaker 2 (35:03):
the hulk, the velocicos, it's got a tunnel.
Yeah, you go through thatlittle thing and it goes fast.
Speaker 1 (35:06):
I almost closed my eyes because I was sick.
I don't know it was fun thoughI just think about the hulk when
you come out where it goes upslow.
That's how marriage starts.
So I tell, oh, this is nice,and then you better hold on for
the ride.
Speaker 2 (35:23):
We love universe studios, as you guys can see.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
Yeah, yeah anyway, we just being silly now.
Anyway, I love you.
I'm so glad you stuck with meall these years and I'm excited
about the next 20 years.
We still young.
I still got a lot, a lot ofenergy, a lot of life left in me
, so I hope you do too.
I do.
Speaker 2 (35:39):
So we make the these next 20 better than the first
yeah, we didn't tell them aboutthe, the what we went after the
wedding oh, lord Jesus, okay,tell them where we went.
Speaker 1 (35:50):
No, we'll tell them later no, don't tell them where
we went.
No, no, we in here.
Come on, we're gonna wrap up.
Tell them about.
Tell them about the honeymoon,the destination honeymoon the
destination honeymoon was.
Casa de Daniels.
So instead of instead of goingon a honeymoon, we actually
bought a home.
(36:11):
So about what was it about?
Two weeks, two weeks before ourwedding day, we closed on a
home, and so when we left thehotel after our wedding, we
didn't get on a plane and go outof town islands.
Speaker 2 (36:29):
This is all that, yeah we.
Speaker 1 (36:31):
We opted.
We was like honeymoon house.
We chose a house.
We're like we get more out of ahouse and we'll do a honeymoon
later.
We bought a house and when wecame home, we came home to our
house, our very first home thatwe purchased, and it was a
blessing.
I mean, I wouldn't change that,to be honest with you.
No, I'm grateful if I had to goon a honeymoon and come back to
(36:52):
an apartment.
Uh, no, I wouldn't be happywith that.
But I'm pleased with theinvestment that we made.
I'm pleased with the payoffwhen we sold it and I was really
glad that we did it.
After we did, I was like, yeah,this is the right move right
here.
So so it was a blessing.
So we bought a home.
So you got to always thinkabout what your next move is,
(37:14):
what you want to, what you wantto do in your life, and and
thank God for our pastor who waspreaching home ownership to us
and teaching god wants you toown land, to own property, and
so that's that's really what ledus, because we were looking for
an apartment, but we just feltum a tugging or nudging from the
holy spirit that we needed togo look for a house to have a
(37:36):
home, yeah, and so we juststarted looking, not you know
what we were doing we had noclue.
Speaker 2 (37:40):
No, idea and we just kind of god just took us step by
step yep, he put us with theright agent.
Speaker 1 (37:47):
He opened the door for us gave us favor they was
all kind of favor and next thingwe know we were home on crazy
yeah, so we went into themarriage with a home and where
we could build our family, andit's like I said, god has been
with us all the way.
I'm grateful for it.
All right, look, I think that'sit.
Let's wrap this up.
We love y'all.
(38:08):
Thank y'all again.
We can't wait to see you nexttime for doing it with the
Daniels.
Take care, god bless.
Hey, thank you for joining usfor doing it with the Daniels.
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