Doing It Wrong

Oh 2020, you venomous assailant with a penchant for dismay. We’ll be processing this trip around the sun long into our 80s, but for now, we assemble young people across the globe to discuss lessons they found as a consolation prize for the hardship, loneliness, and grief the year provided. 

The year’s daily activities included fending off cockroach infestations, managing isolation, and negotiating with TSA agents about taking your l...

The season of Spotify Wrapped is upon us. Get ready to click through hundreds of “top artist” instagram stories and analyze why and how a niche 80s rock band is your most played. Instead of taking that algorithm seriously, we decided to choose emblematic songs of 2020 ourselves, with an agenda that includes Cher, The Jackson 5, and Pharell. Breadth and depth as we like to say. 

We also discuss the under discussed in a new segment, N...

No one depicts a high powered dweeb experiencing the agony of identity dysphoria and unrequited love better than Wes Anderson himself. So this week, we analyze another coming of age film whose beloved and complex protagonist is in crisis. 

We'll explore the ways in which we see ourselves in Rushmore’s leading man, Max Fischer, in all his glory, absurdism, wisdom, naivete, and painfully relevant flaws. 

It's love, it's los...

Ever wondered what it’s like to execute a Robert Di Niro Scorsese film level performances, engineer theatre kid reality tv shows, and spoof the greatest mid-2000s Australian mermaid show of all time within 60 second time frames? Today's your day. The aforementioned list is a reflection of the creative brilliance of Vienna Ayla: a woman who defies reality itself.   

This week we talk to rising comedienne Vienna about the circumst...

Let’s talk politics. If you've already voted, good on you, you shining example of civic engagement and participatory democracy, this will give you further insight on some of those decisions. If you haven't voted, we forgive your procrastination, there's still time to be a civic hero, and we produced this episode to give you precious intel on all those bubbles you're about to fill in. Consider this your quick n dirty...

Moments of startling clarity can come at unexpected times. Like last weekend when I was standing on the porch of a home that wasn’t mine and someone asked me where I was going. I quite obviously took the question figuratively and realized with a jolt that I have absolutely no idea where I am going at any given time. 

This week we talk to Miranda Whitney, who experienced a critical moment of clarity standing in the doorway of her mot...

Another week as a twenty something, another week getting bitch slapped by your own short- comings. We’ve talked about romance and sexual chaos, but this week we discuss what is arguably the joy and nectar of the universe: Friends. They make it all bearable. They give you life, they push you to go out when you shouldn’t, they hold you accountable, they contribute to your personhood, but they also change. And you change. In your twen...

The journey to journaling, doesn’t always have to entail navigating a collection of bizarre and disturbing events that culminate in a sea of despair, but for Rainie it did, and we couldn’t be prouder. Her path included but was not limited to: cats bleeding out in alleyways, speaking with the National Guard naked, the discovery of a tragic food allergy, and, of course, The Hunger Games trilogy. This week as we enter the gateway of h...

Oh, the Modern Day Villain--you know who we’re talking about-- finance guy who aggressively orders to-go salads on his bluetooth headset, and believes in both meritocracy and nepotism. Do we despise him? But of course. Do we have darker, complicated desires to emulate his power? Have sexual fantasies about him? The answer is probably yes. Today, our neighborhood friend Anna Stenson, joins us to discuss judging character through car...

As a college soccer player, serial monogamist, engineering major, American male who does the dishes, and all-around golden boy, we can’t really relate to Darcy’s brother, Luke. Except, of course, in humanity’s common denominators, such as rejection, breakups, and fear of being alone. This week we take a peek into the mind of Darcy’s younger brother, a Good Guy who just can’t seem to get out of long term relationships. What makes hi...

Yes, we are two zillenials facing existential quandaries. But, like many mortals, we also have siblings, and those siblings are also navigating their very own crises. Join us for our very first live-action interview with our  Gen Z correspondent, May Toll-- tech expert, activist, and craftswoman extraordinaire. Also Rainie’s sister. We dive into the urgent issue that is TikTok and discuss how tech and the internet have shaped our l...

Loneliness is a pillar of twenty somethings, a staple of a pandemic, and a ramification of the age of the internet. Rainie’s socially distanced bumble date turns on its head, predominantly due to the lengthy list of assumptions she’d made prior. But can you blame her? Assumptions and disappointment are online dating’s most consistent accessories. Darcy ruminates on the importance of owning what you want romantically and the escapis...

Last week, a serene and joyful lake house right outside Geneseo, New York was visited for the last time. Darcy and her extended family packed up the furniture and moved out. Sigh. To make matters worse, Darcy’s grandmother served up a little criticism that allegedly had been cooking for years. It did not taste good. On this episode, we discuss how to sit through feedback in the name of self-improvement. Then, to remedy the pains of...

If you want to be my lover, you gotta be Jon Stewart. Silver fox alert. This week we discuss the role of recreational sports in our collegiate and then post-collegiate lives and beg the question: must we join a rec frisbee golf league to meet someone new? Oy. Next, we’ll unpack our running habits and our running emotions: Is running about feeling like you’re in the movie Rocky or is it about meditating? Or both? Then, we’ll take a ...

Responsibility from left field. You’re bouncing along, thinking you’re  a crusader of truth and justice. “Pure intentions”. You’ve reached the Scott Disick mentality: “Maybe I’m just perfect and it’s everyone else that’s the problem.” And then all of a sudden, responsibility, the one you had shunned, smacks you in the face. Not so fast she says, you’re at fault too. This week, we each think about instances where responsibility is a...

A pillar of twenty-something existence is failing. Wildly. Repeatedly. With grace and without grace. On your face. Publicly. Privately. This is our first (and most definitely not our last) foray into analyzing failure, what it means, how it's shaped us so far, and how we commit to it as an essential practice. 

Topics included: Running a marathon five days after breaking up with toxic bf, elections for 10th-grade class president,...

It’s book club, baby! We discuss Defining Decade, the book about why your twenties “matter” and how to “make the most of them”. Author and therapist and Meg Jay, PhD, urges urgency, dismantles reckless relationships, and tells us to network like Benjamin Franklin. We weigh the merits of her suggestions with indignation. Mostly, Meg Jay tells us we’re doing it wrong.

Topics included: How to get out of a metaphoric ocean (cont.), iden...

Rainie was ghosted in 2017 and so quite logically, she penned a seethingly well researched academic paper about how hookup culture perpetuates toxic masculinity and gendered power structures. On this episode, we break down multiple f*ckboy crimes and then we mull over the best ways to deal with the riffraff who wronged us (who we also can’t stop thinking about).

Topics included: The definition of a f*ckboy, the disrespect, the utte...