July 4, 2024 • 10 mins
Today, we kick off our "Survive or Thrive" summer series with an episode that explores the summer bucket list. From the craziness of over-scheduled activities with little ones to a more relaxed, balanced approach as our kids grow, we share our personal journeys with summer bucket lists and how to we approach them.
In this episode, we cover:
1. The concept of a summer bucket list
2. Parenting strategies for summer
3. Tailoring activities to fit your family's diverse preferences
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Speaker 1 (00:03):
Welcome to Don't Call Me Midlife.
This summer we're shakingthings up a bit with our special
series called Survive or Thrive.
We know moms are extra busyduring the summer, so we're
bringing you shorter, bite-sizedepisodes focused on one hot
topic at a time.
Join us as we share tips,stories and laughs, helping you
decide if you're just getting byor truly thriving this summer.
(00:23):
Hi, nicole, good morning.
It is summer, summer, summertime, okay, and we are going to
change up this podcast.
We want to let you ladies knowfor the summer and we are going
to be making shorter, sort oflike bite-sized episodes this
summer, talking about one topicin particular and all the things
(00:47):
about that topic.
Now, these topics are thingsthat midlife women, moms, will
experience specifically duringthe summer, and when you're
listening to this episode, wewant to know if, with the topic,
if you thrive with this topicin the summertime, or you're
just surviving, and that's whatwe're going to talk about at the
end.
Yeah, I find most of my summersI've been in survival mode.
(01:10):
When they were younger, I putthem in a lot of summer camp,
like the day camps, and theyloved it.
But as they got older, theywanted to do it less and less,
and so, you know, during thosetimes it's been a little bit
more survival mode.
But now that my kids are alittle bit older, it's a little
bit more enjoyable and theysleep in, and so that's where
(01:31):
I'm at.
How about you?
I'm the same way.
We travel a lot during thesummertime, but I think it's
switching that mindset right nowof not overbooking them,
because my kids are always likeOK, mom, just chill, we want to
chill, like we don't need tohave a whole schedule, but we
still have that need to be likewell, we need to get outside, we
need to go to the pool, we needto do this and that you know.
(01:52):
So I think it's just aninteresting time and that's what
we're going to talk about thissummer, all these interesting
times, right?
Yes, exactly, I think I thinkwe should touch on the summer
bucket list, you know, becausethat could produce, I feel like,
angst for some of our ladieshere.
Or it could be like give me asummer bucket list, give me the
(02:15):
ideas.
I don't know.
When I say summer bucket list,what does it evoke to you?
I love that idea.
I think talking about summerbucket list would be an awesome
first topic for this episode.
Yes, yes, yes.
Do you talking about summerbucket list would be an awesome
first topic for this episode.
Yes, yes, yes, do you do asummer bucket list?
I used to Same thing when mykids were little, but I like to
still do it.
I just do it in a different way.
(02:35):
I mean it's not like alaminated Pinterest, you know
list type of thing.
But I do ask my kids what arethe three things that you want
to do this summer, and itdoesn't have to be an
extravagant thing, right?
A couple of my kids will say Iwant to go to the local ice
cream shop here which is called,like, dairy Joy.
I think the expectations thereare no expectations.
(02:56):
Actually, Like our kids havethe best summer ever.
I want to be our kids, so I domake it.
I mean, I may put it on apost-it this year and put it on
the fridge, but that's good.
I love post-its.
Yeah, I love that idea.
I actually have a friend thatused to do the Pinterest summer
bucket list where she wouldcreate her own.
She would do it with her familyand she would take it to a
(03:18):
place like Kinko's and it wasprobably like 36 by 54.
I don't know, no exaggeration,it was huge and it was colorful
and I believe it was laminatedso they could check it off and
write things on it, and that wasmy like, what I thought my goal
was when I had younger kids.
But you know, I also don't havekids that want to be on the go
(03:41):
either, like go, go, go.
So they do, they want theirdowntime, but I do ask them too,
and so we do have three things,and only three things.
Like they come up with a couplethings and then we all have to
agree on because, honestly,their personalities are so
different.
And I also noticed that, lookingat if my kids are more
introverted versus extroverted,that really, really makes a lot
(04:05):
of sense for us, because my oneson he wants to go to like every
single festival, he wants to doeverything like like carnivals
and this and the other one Notthat he hates it, but that's not
what he wants to do all thetime, like he wants to have like
quiet heights and and so Ireally have to be mindful of
everyone's personality andwhat's their capacity like, even
(04:29):
the day of.
Okay, I can guess who thosekids are.
You bring Eris to my house andI will keep him busy.
We have similar littles.
Oh, that is a great idea.
We have similar littles.
It's like you know what a goodidea would be, nicole, is to
have our sort of mom midlifebucket list and then our family
(04:50):
bucket list.
Right, because there are thingsthat, as as you know, midlife
women and moms that we want tomaintain.
Almost.
It's almost like a bucket listto maintain over the summertime,
because whether you work insideor outside the home Right you
still want to have taken care ofyourself a little bit too.
So there are definitely thingsthat I want to do as well.
(05:12):
So I think the summer bucketlist is a great idea.
It's in a different capacity atthis point of our life, but I
do love your friend thatlaminates her bucket list.
I need to be friends with her.
I really love that idea of likejust maintaining like.
I don't know that anythingreally needs to be new on my
bucket list, maybe some travel,but I really want to maintain
like my morning routine ritualand walking.
(05:35):
So I got back into like 10,000steps a day and that's what I
want to maintain.
So I know like it doesn't haveto be over the top or like super
fun, but to me you just likenailed it for me.
Oh good, check, check.
I just like to put down someideas of things that you can do
just in the summertime.
That's the way I sort of view abucket list right, it is going
(05:55):
like berry picking.
It is going to that certain icecream shop.
You know the things, really theoutdoor, sunny things that you
have access to in the summermonths, as opposed to not all
year long.
You know, I won't necessarilyput go to the Museum of Science
on my bucket list, because I cando that in the middle of
December.
It may be good for thoseintroverted people that don't
(06:17):
like the sun, though that istrue, you are more thoughtful
with your kids.
I'm like guys, this is whatwe're doing.
No, I don't even mean for myfamily, just like people in
general.
I was like doing a littleresearch and a lot of.
There was like some breakdownswith like introverted versus
extroverted, so it really makesme look at things a little
differently.
I did take Megan Sumrall'sMaster, your Morning masterclass
(06:39):
and she talked about differentpersonality types in the morning
.
So it really kind of likeopened my eyes to different
types of activities and thingsfor your family, though I like
that.
You know what You're making methink about.
The morning with my boys.
I think on the bucket list Ineed to be like wake up before
10 am.
Your kids may be like, you know, the thriver, survive, smash or
(07:02):
pass.
We'll be like, pass, they'regoing to pass that one.
But I do feel like I do want totake advantage of the days.
You know my kids would wake upat 9 or 10 and then go to bed at
1 in the morning, where youknow it's just a little bit
different.
I do want to take advantage,have that good balance between
the chilling out which we knowthe boys love and girls love,
but also, you know, doing thingstogether.
(07:25):
And I like your idea of makingit simple.
It doesn't have to be someextravagant trip or some you
know extravagant excursion, sortof what everyone enjoys and
taking advantage of where youare right and what is around you
, where you live.
Yes, 100%, I agree with you,all right.
Well, this has been a littlefun, little get together with
(07:47):
you and talking about our littlesummer bucket list.
And are we going to thrive orsurvive this summer?
What do you think I am thriving?
I just put out a summer, aseasonal summer guide called
Savor your Summer.
On my Instagram that has asummer bucket list that has to
do with family dinner.
So I view the bucket list asmore of like, sort of like goal
(08:09):
setting and just sort of funthings and the pressure not
having the pressure, like wesaid when you were younger, but
putting on the couple.
Doable things, not like ahundred, you know a hundred
things just put on a couple andalso bring your family in on it.
Bring your spouse, bring yourkiddos you know, if you spend
summers with grandparents, bringthem along and get everyone.
(08:29):
I feel like when you buy in it,just it makes it more fun and
it's like they'll be proud tolike oh, we went to that certain
beach that we love or we gotsea glass or you know whatever
is on it.
So, 100 percent thriving with abucket list, make it.
I encourage you to do it.
Have fun with it.
Same same, okay, okay.
(08:49):
So tell everybody where theycan get your guide.
It's, it's Tridish and you cango get the summer bucket list
and let us know if you ladieshave any topics that you want us
to discuss.
So we would love to bring upall sorts of fun summer topics
and we're just going to play,survive or thrive every week
through the summer on Thursday.
So be sure to listen to us All.
(09:10):
Right Bye, ladies.
Enjoy your summer.
And that's a wrap for today'sepisode of Don't Call Me Midlife
.
We hope you had as much fun aswe did.
If you're just waiting in thecarpool line, don't forget to
follow the show, and if you'refeeling extra spicy today, leave
us a rating and review Beforewe part ways.
Join our newsletter to stay inthe loop with all things Midlife
(09:32):
, magic, bonus content and more.
Head on over to the show notesfor how to sign up.
We can't wait to keep theconversation going and, of
course, don't forget to fill upyour own cup first.
Cheers you.
Welcome to Don't Call Me Midlife.
This summer we're shakingthings up a bit with our special
series called Survive or Thrive.
We know moms are extra busyduring the summer, so we're
bringing you shorter, bite-sizedepisodes focused on one hot
topic at a time.
Join us as we share tips,stories and laughs, helping you
decide if you're just getting byor truly thriving this summer.
(00:23):
Hi, nicole, good morning.
It is summer, summer, summertime, okay, and we are going to
change up this podcast.
We want to let you ladies knowfor the summer and we are going
to be making shorter, sort oflike bite-sized episodes this
summer, talking about one topicin particular and all the things
(00:47):
about that topic.
Now, these topics are thingsthat midlife women, moms, will
experience specifically duringthe summer, and when you're
listening to this episode, wewant to know if, with the topic,
if you thrive with this topicin the summertime, or you're
just surviving, and that's whatwe're going to talk about at the
end.
Yeah, I find most of my summersI've been in survival mode.
(01:10):
When they were younger, I putthem in a lot of summer camp,
like the day camps, and theyloved it.
But as they got older, theywanted to do it less and less,
and so, you know, during thosetimes it's been a little bit
more survival mode.
But now that my kids are alittle bit older, it's a little
bit more enjoyable and theysleep in, and so that's where
(01:31):
I'm at.
How about you?
I'm the same way.
We travel a lot during thesummertime, but I think it's
switching that mindset right nowof not overbooking them,
because my kids are always likeOK, mom, just chill, we want to
chill, like we don't need tohave a whole schedule, but we
still have that need to be likewell, we need to get outside, we
need to go to the pool, we needto do this and that you know.
(01:52):
So I think it's just aninteresting time and that's what
we're going to talk about thissummer, all these interesting
times, right?
Yes, exactly, I think I thinkwe should touch on the summer
bucket list, you know, becausethat could produce, I feel like,
angst for some of our ladieshere.
Or it could be like give me asummer bucket list, give me the
(02:15):
ideas.
I don't know.
When I say summer bucket list,what does it evoke to you?
I love that idea.
I think talking about summerbucket list would be an awesome
first topic for this episode.
Yes, yes, yes.
Do you talking about summerbucket list would be an awesome
first topic for this episode.
Yes, yes, yes, do you do asummer bucket list?
I used to Same thing when mykids were little, but I like to
still do it.
I just do it in a different way.
(02:35):
I mean it's not like alaminated Pinterest, you know
list type of thing.
But I do ask my kids what arethe three things that you want
to do this summer, and itdoesn't have to be an
extravagant thing, right?
A couple of my kids will say Iwant to go to the local ice
cream shop here which is called,like, dairy Joy.
I think the expectations thereare no expectations.
(02:56):
Actually, Like our kids havethe best summer ever.
I want to be our kids, so I domake it.
I mean, I may put it on apost-it this year and put it on
the fridge, but that's good.
I love post-its.
Yeah, I love that idea.
I actually have a friend thatused to do the Pinterest summer
bucket list where she wouldcreate her own.
She would do it with her familyand she would take it to a
(03:18):
place like Kinko's and it wasprobably like 36 by 54.
I don't know, no exaggeration,it was huge and it was colorful
and I believe it was laminatedso they could check it off and
write things on it, and that wasmy like, what I thought my goal
was when I had younger kids.
But you know, I also don't havekids that want to be on the go
(03:41):
either, like go, go, go.
So they do, they want theirdowntime, but I do ask them too,
and so we do have three things,and only three things.
Like they come up with a couplethings and then we all have to
agree on because, honestly,their personalities are so
different.
And I also noticed that, lookingat if my kids are more
introverted versus extroverted,that really, really makes a lot
(04:05):
of sense for us, because my oneson he wants to go to like every
single festival, he wants to doeverything like like carnivals
and this and the other one Notthat he hates it, but that's not
what he wants to do all thetime, like he wants to have like
quiet heights and and so Ireally have to be mindful of
everyone's personality andwhat's their capacity like, even
(04:29):
the day of.
Okay, I can guess who thosekids are.
You bring Eris to my house andI will keep him busy.
We have similar littles.
Oh, that is a great idea.
We have similar littles.
It's like you know what a goodidea would be, nicole, is to
have our sort of mom midlifebucket list and then our family
(04:50):
bucket list.
Right, because there are thingsthat, as as you know, midlife
women and moms that we want tomaintain.
Almost.
It's almost like a bucket listto maintain over the summertime,
because whether you work insideor outside the home Right you
still want to have taken care ofyourself a little bit too.
So there are definitely thingsthat I want to do as well.
(05:12):
So I think the summer bucketlist is a great idea.
It's in a different capacity atthis point of our life, but I
do love your friend thatlaminates her bucket list.
I need to be friends with her.
I really love that idea of likejust maintaining like.
I don't know that anythingreally needs to be new on my
bucket list, maybe some travel,but I really want to maintain
like my morning routine ritualand walking.
(05:35):
So I got back into like 10,000steps a day and that's what I
want to maintain.
So I know like it doesn't haveto be over the top or like super
fun, but to me you just likenailed it for me.
Oh good, check, check.
I just like to put down someideas of things that you can do
just in the summertime.
That's the way I sort of view abucket list right, it is going
(05:55):
like berry picking.
It is going to that certain icecream shop.
You know the things, really theoutdoor, sunny things that you
have access to in the summermonths, as opposed to not all
year long.
You know, I won't necessarilyput go to the Museum of Science
on my bucket list, because I cando that in the middle of
December.
It may be good for thoseintroverted people that don't
(06:17):
like the sun, though that istrue, you are more thoughtful
with your kids.
I'm like guys, this is whatwe're doing.
No, I don't even mean for myfamily, just like people in
general.
I was like doing a littleresearch and a lot of.
There was like some breakdownswith like introverted versus
extroverted, so it really makesme look at things a little
differently.
I did take Megan Sumrall'sMaster, your Morning masterclass
(06:39):
and she talked about differentpersonality types in the morning
.
So it really kind of likeopened my eyes to different
types of activities and thingsfor your family, though I like
that.
You know what You're making methink about.
The morning with my boys.
I think on the bucket list Ineed to be like wake up before
10 am.
Your kids may be like, you know, the thriver, survive, smash or
(07:02):
pass.
We'll be like, pass, they'regoing to pass that one.
But I do feel like I do want totake advantage of the days.
You know my kids would wake upat 9 or 10 and then go to bed at
1 in the morning, where youknow it's just a little bit
different.
I do want to take advantage,have that good balance between
the chilling out which we knowthe boys love and girls love,
but also, you know, doing thingstogether.
(07:25):
And I like your idea of makingit simple.
It doesn't have to be someextravagant trip or some you
know extravagant excursion, sortof what everyone enjoys and
taking advantage of where youare right and what is around you
, where you live.
Yes, 100%, I agree with you,all right.
Well, this has been a littlefun, little get together with
(07:47):
you and talking about our littlesummer bucket list.
And are we going to thrive orsurvive this summer?
What do you think I am thriving?
I just put out a summer, aseasonal summer guide called
Savor your Summer.
On my Instagram that has asummer bucket list that has to
do with family dinner.
So I view the bucket list asmore of like, sort of like goal
(08:09):
setting and just sort of funthings and the pressure not
having the pressure, like wesaid when you were younger, but
putting on the couple.
Doable things, not like ahundred, you know a hundred
things just put on a couple andalso bring your family in on it.
Bring your spouse, bring yourkiddos you know, if you spend
summers with grandparents, bringthem along and get everyone.
(08:29):
I feel like when you buy in it,just it makes it more fun and
it's like they'll be proud tolike oh, we went to that certain
beach that we love or we gotsea glass or you know whatever
is on it.
So, 100 percent thriving with abucket list, make it.
I encourage you to do it.
Have fun with it.
Same same, okay, okay.
(08:49):
So tell everybody where theycan get your guide.
It's, it's Tridish and you cango get the summer bucket list
and let us know if you ladieshave any topics that you want us
to discuss.
So we would love to bring upall sorts of fun summer topics
and we're just going to play,survive or thrive every week
through the summer on Thursday.
So be sure to listen to us All.
(09:10):
Right Bye, ladies.
Enjoy your summer.
And that's a wrap for today'sepisode of Don't Call Me Midlife
.
We hope you had as much fun aswe did.
If you're just waiting in thecarpool line, don't forget to
follow the show, and if you'refeeling extra spicy today, leave
us a rating and review Beforewe part ways.
Join our newsletter to stay inthe loop with all things Midlife
(09:32):
, magic, bonus content and more.
Head on over to the show notesfor how to sign up.
We can't wait to keep theconversation going and, of
course, don't forget to fill upyour own cup first.
Cheers you.
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