Don't Force It: How to Get into College without Losing Yourself in the Process

Don't Force It: How to Get into College without Losing Yourself in the Process

For all the stressed-out parents trying to help their teenagers navigate the complicated world of college admissions. Each episode offers insightful and in-depth conversations with admissions experts and professional educators with practical advice for getting through the process without losing sight of yourself, your kid, or your sanity. From building a strong academic and extracurricular profile, developing the college list, managing standardized tests, to crafting the perfect essay, we've got you covered. Whether you're a seasoned high school parent or a first-timer, join us for candid conversations and expert guidance on making it to, through, and beyond college.

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July 3, 2025 53 mins

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a recent webinar I had with testing expert Akil Bello on how rising juniors can approach standardized testing strategically. We walk through the steps families can take this summer to avoid stress later and keep more college options open. Whether you’re considering test-optional or full prep, this session will help you make a smart, informed decision. Tune in!

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In today’s episode, I’m joined by Holly Schreiber, Joanna Graham, and Andy Friedman for a deep dive into what really makes a college essay stand out. We share why students should start early—way before senior year kicks in—and how the best personal statements reveal something real, not rehearsed. From creative brainstorming techniques to honest talk about why AI won’t cut it, we cover what works (and what doesn’t). If you want the ...

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In today’s episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Elizabeth Hamblet, a leading expert in college disability services, about what families often don’t realize when it comes to accommodations in college. We unpack how support systems shift after high school, which accommodations students can and can’t expect, and how to help your student build the self-advocacy and independence they’ll need to thrive. Whether your student has a...

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May 22, 2025 32 mins

In today’s episode, I sit down with Alison Slater to explore the evolving role of college interviews. Alison shares practical advice for students on how to prepare—from researching schools to refining key talking points—and explains why strong interview skills are becoming even more critical as AI reshapes the admissions process. Whether you're a student or a parent, this is a must-listen conversation about how to stand out in...

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In today’s episode, college admissions expert Holly Schreiber and I discuss how to transform college visits into strategic tools. We break down the three key types of visits—Fit Finder, Test Drive, and Gut Check—and how they help students not only clarify their preferences but also stand out to schools. Tune in for expert advice on making the most of college visits and keeping your student engaged in the process!

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Raising a teenage son comes with its challenges—shifting moods, boundary-pushing, and the constant pull of screens. So how do you guide them through high school while keeping your relationship strong? In this episode, I sit down with a panel of experts to tackle the biggest parenting struggles, from getting them to open up to setting rules that actually work. Tune in for practical strategies to navigate these years with more confid...

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How many extracurriculars are enough? Does my teen need to be a star athlete or a club president to stand out? What do colleges actually care about? In today’s webinar, Emmaline and I tackle these burning questions and more. We break down how to choose the right activities, what truly matters in the college admissions process, and how to help your teen find a balance that works. If you’ve ever wondered whether your student is doing...

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In today’s episode, I’m sharing a replay of a recent webinar on test prep. I break down key updates to the SAT and ACT, including the ACT’s shift to digital and its new optional science section coming in April 2025. I also discuss test-optional policies, when to start prepping, and how to use the Common Data Set to make informed decisions. Plus, I share tips on managing stress throughout the process. Don’t miss this essential guide...

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In today’s episode, I sit down with Dr. Anjalee Galion, a pediatric neurologist and sleep medicine specialist, who shares her inspiring educational journey and her insights about the importance of sleep for teenagers. We talk about the crucial role sleep plays in adolescent health, and how consistent sleep habits and exercise can improve overall well-being. Don’t miss these valuable insights to help your child thrive!

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February 26, 2025 42 mins

In today’s episode, I sit down with one of Signet’s admissions consultants, Brittney, and her cousin, a high school junior, to explore practical strategies for moving through her anxiety about the ACT and actually getting started with preparing for it. We discuss performance-boosting approaches—from targeted study plans and tutoring to exploring test-optional admissions and building a well-rounded college application.

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In today’s episode, I share how middle schoolers can build strong academic and life skills to set themselves up for success—without rushing into college prep. From reading and executive function to healthy habits and mentorship, I’ll walk through practical ways to support your child’s growth and confidence. Plus, I’ll offer tips for parents on working with teachers and knowing when to seek extra help. Tune in for actionable insight...

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In today’s episode, we’re bringing you a special replay of our recent webinar, where I dive into the intricacies of the college admissions process with expert insights from Joanna Graham and James Hayashi. Together, we explore how admissions officers review applications, the role of test scores and AI tools, and what truly matters in crafting a standout application. If you’re navigating the college admissions journey, this episode ...

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January 15, 2025 28 mins

Happy New Year! In this year’s first episode, I sit down with Chris, the Director of College Counseling at Stony Brook School, and Lisa, a high school counselor, to discuss the mental health challenges Asian American students face. We explore how early support and open conversations with parents can make a difference. Tune in to discover practical ways to support our students and create a healthier path forward.

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In today’s episode, I sit down with Alia, a daughter of immigrants who navigated her way from Canada to Harvard to PhD in anthropology, and who now coaches high achievers to balance their careers with their true desires. Tune in to hear how following your heart can lead to extraordinary transformation.

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In this special replay, I’m diving back into the topic of early application notifications—acceptances, denials, and deferrals—and how to handle them. These moments can feel overwhelming, but they’re just a step in the process. Join me as I share insights on what these decisions mean and how to guide your child through them with clarity and confidence. Let’s tackle this pivotal time together!

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December 4, 2024 36 mins

In today's episode, Signet’s admissions consultant, Joanna Graham, shares expert tips on how to craft a standout college list. From setting achievable goals to building strong study habits and embracing a growth mindset, Joanna offers practical tips that can make a real impact. Tune in for advice that could change the way your student approaches learning—and set them up for success!

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In today’s episode, I sit down with Jamie Beaton, founder of Crimson Education. Jamie shares his impressive academic journey and dives into the complexities of college admissions.

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Jamie has earned Bachelor’s and Master’s degrees at Harvard, as well as Master’s degrees at Stanford, UPenn, Princeton, and Tsinghua, a PhD at Oxford, and JD at Yale Law School. He has grown Crimson into the world’s most successful unive...

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In today’s episode, we preview a live coaching session with a student fresh off submitting early college apps! Together, we tackle time management, tailoring essays, and balancing a college list—plus, we strategize for regular deadlines right around the corner. Listen in for essential tips and insights on managing the college app process with confidence!

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November 7, 2024 32 mins

In today's episode, we have Signet's Director of Operations and Academic Coach, Andrea West discuss how to stop the shame spiral—breaking free from negative thought patterns and embracing a more productive mindset. Tune in to discover how you can boost your productivity while nurturing a healthier, more positive approach to your work and studies!

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October 31, 2024 30 mins

In today's episode, we revisit an insightful webinar on the college application process and the crucial importance of early preparation. Plus, I introduce my “match pyramid” framework to help students align their academics, values, and unique qualities with college priorities. Tune in for practical resources and tools to empower both parents and students on this exciting journey!

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