Divorce Isn’t Personal—It’s Structural! AJ Maddeny Explains for Men 40+ || DPTSP #115 || David M. Webb

Welcome to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast with your host, David! If you’re a man over 40 navigating the rough waters of divorce, you’re in the right place. In this episode, I sit down with AJ Maddeny—strategic conflict advisor, author of Divorce Emergency Protocol, and a true authority in helping men like you recover with clarity and confidence.

Why Watch This? Divorce after 40 isn’t just emotionally devastating—it can feel like your life’s been upended. But here’s the truth: most of what’s keeping you stuck isn’t about you. It’s the invisible structures—misaligned roles, societal pressures, outdated expectations—that trip up even the strongest men. AJ breaks it all down with real-world stories and actionable frameworks—no therapy cliches or empty advice.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why men over 40 experience unique challenges in divorce—and how to flip the script

• The difference between personal and structural conflict (and why this matters)

• How to shift from “panic mode” to “planning mode” and regain real control over your future

• The five roots of conflict and how to pinpoint your biggest stumbling block

• AJ’s step-by-step method to map out conflict patterns so you avoid repeating the same old mistakes

• Why boundaries can backfire—and what to set up instead for authentic healing

• How to prioritize what really matters (hint: it’s not the house, it’s your kids and your peace of mind)

• Myths about justice, fairness, and why the legal system can’t give you closure

• Real success stories from AJ’s practice—men who went from powerless to purposeful, even after the worst breakups

Meet AJ Maddeny AJ brings a powerhouse background: graduate degree in conflict analysis, executive MBA, former senior policy analyst for the State Department, and the practical experience of guiding hundreds of men through divorce recovery. His “Divorce Emergency Protocol” isn’t just a book—it’s a lifeline for guys ready to stop spinning their wheels.

Bonus for Listeners! AJ is offering an exclusive discount for his upcoming “Divorce Exit Plan” course. Use code EXIT25 at maddeny.com for special pricing!

Ready To Stop Picking the Scab? Don’t just survive your divorce—strategize your comeback. Hit play now and get the tools, stories, and strategies you need to rebuild with confidence.

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Have you struggled with feeling powerless during divorce? What’s the hardest part for you—emotions, finances, co-parenting, or something else? Drop your thoughts in the comments. I read every one and want to hear your story!

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