Growing Up with a Narcissistic Parent: What I’ve Learned About Shame, Healing, and Worthiness with Claudia Noriega-Bernstein

In this heartfelt and eye-opening episode of Don’t Shrink to Fit,  I reflect on the deep emotional wounds caused by growing up with a narcissistic parent—a topic that resonates with many, especially in the days following Mother’s Day. I share my personal story and break down what narcissism really is through the lens of Dr. Brené Brown’s research, highlighting the powerful connection between narcissism, shame, and empathy.

This episode is not about blame—it’s about understanding, healing, and reclaiming your worth. I explain the lasting effects narcissistic parenting can have on a child’s self-worth, emotional health, and ability to form healthy relationships, and offers insight on how to begin the journey back to self-love and freedom.

✨ If you’ve ever felt unseen, unworthy, or like love had to be earned—this episode is for you.

🛠️ Key Takeaways:

• Narcissism is rooted in shame—not confidence—and stems from a fear of being ordinary or unworthy.
• The difference between guilt and shame is crucial: guilt says “I did something bad,” while shame says “I am bad.”
• Children of narcissistic parents often struggle with self-worth, boundaries, emotional regulation, and people-pleasing behaviors.
• Narcissists lack empathy because shame blocks self-awareness and accountability.
• Healing doesn’t come from blaming or shaming—it comes from setting boundaries, grieving what was lost, and choosing empathy for your inner child.
• As narcissists age, their shame often intensifies, sometimes resulting in increased cruelty or, in rare cases, reflection.
• You don’t have to fix the person who hurt you. Your healing begins when you choose you.
• Empathy for yourself is a powerful, necessary antidote to the pain caused by narcissistic abuse.

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