June 27, 2023 • 17 mins
Did you know that the average person has 75,000 thoughts per day and over 90% of them are identical to the thoughts of the previous day?! Instead of leaving your brain on auto-pilot, take control of your thoughts and you can start improving your life right now!
In this episode, we unpack the power of our thoughts and how they shape our destiny. Our conversation dives deep into the art of cultivating positivity, even when things go south, and how a simple conscious choice to discover the silver lining in a bad situation can steer us in a different, more constructive direction.
We also discuss the 4 Major Positive Thoughts: Gratitude, Love, Laughter, and Faith. These emotions do not just bring joy; they evolve us into the best versions of ourselves, making us more resilient in the face of adversity. We share insights on an age-old wisdom, "love thy neighbor," and discuss how we can love the person but not their actions. We highlight the therapeutic power of laughter, and how it elevates our mood, helping us sail through challenging circumstances.
As we conclude, we discuss how gratitude, love, laughter, and faith can revolutionize the world around us and how these emotions, when expressed daily, can create a profound ripple effect.
So, pop in your earbuds and join us on this enlightening journey as we chase our dreams together!
In this episode, we unpack the power of our thoughts and how they shape our destiny. Our conversation dives deep into the art of cultivating positivity, even when things go south, and how a simple conscious choice to discover the silver lining in a bad situation can steer us in a different, more constructive direction.
We also discuss the 4 Major Positive Thoughts: Gratitude, Love, Laughter, and Faith. These emotions do not just bring joy; they evolve us into the best versions of ourselves, making us more resilient in the face of adversity. We share insights on an age-old wisdom, "love thy neighbor," and discuss how we can love the person but not their actions. We highlight the therapeutic power of laughter, and how it elevates our mood, helping us sail through challenging circumstances.
As we conclude, we discuss how gratitude, love, laughter, and faith can revolutionize the world around us and how these emotions, when expressed daily, can create a profound ripple effect.
So, pop in your earbuds and join us on this enlightening journey as we chase our dreams together!
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Eric (00:01):
This is the Dream Chasers Show.
Hey everybody, welcome back tothe Dream Chasers Show, where
our mission is to inspire andimprove the lives of those who
dare to chase their dreams.
I wanted to make one quick noteabout dreams because I think
it's kind of interesting to mehow, as kids, most of us are
excited about life.
(00:22):
We can't wait to grow up.
We have this dream and thisvision of something we want to
be or do when we're older.
Right, it might be a careerlike oh, i can't wait to be a
fireman or policeman or emulatemy favorite baseball football
player.
whatever.
We have these visions as kids.
Mine was to be a big, strongbodybuilder.
I always loved ArnoldSchwarzenegger and I watched all
(00:46):
those different types ofdocumentaries and stuff.
But it's something that'sinteresting because, as we go
throughout our lives, thingsstart to happen to us, good or
bad, and it starts to kind ofchange the direction of our
lives.
And what happens is we look upyears later and we have this
life that we never reallyanticipated.
(01:06):
Right, we didn't really want toget into debt or we didn't want
to go bankrupt.
We weren't envisioning having afailing marriage or anything,
instead of anything that's badthat's currently happening to
you or has happened to you inthe past.
It's not something that we wereexcited for or wanting in our
(01:27):
lives, but it happens.
It happens.
It's like seasons in life.
Winter is going to happen.
We can't always, we can'tchange winter, we can't make it
go away, and we can't makespring go away and summer go
away.
It's just going to happen.
We just need to learn how todeal with these different
seasons in our life.
So that's what I want to talkto you guys about today.
(01:49):
And with regards to thethoughts and how strong the
brain is, it's a powerful thing.
It's powerful Right.
Most of us have heard of thisthing called the placebo effect,
and it's where two different anexperiment is ran with two
different parties And one partyis given the placebo, the water
(02:10):
pill Literally, it's just a pillwith water in it And then the
other party is given the actualpill, the real one that's going
to cure whatever illness orwhatever pain that they're
having, and they run the twoexperiments.
They run them side by side Andwhat most of the time they find
out is, by the end of theexperiment, the party that was
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given the placebo, the waterpill, has just as much effect on
them in the positive way,sometimes even more so than the
party that was given the actualpill.
This water pill has cured themRight And it's because they
believe it to be working.
They think that it's workingand they believe it to be
working and therefore it works.
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That's something to reallyreflect on.
I mean, it's a big deal.
I know it sounds a little weird,because we've all heard this
placebo effect, but I think mostof us don't realize how much
our thoughts and our belief andour faith affects our future.
It changes everything.
So when we're having negativethoughts and we're thinking
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negatively, your body what itdoes is it has a feedback
mechanism and it's called yourfeelings.
So if you're feeling sad down,depressed, anxious, angry,
impatient, you're going to.
Maybe you're having actual likebody aches, headaches, pains,
(03:38):
nausea, these different types ofthings.
If you could really trace theroot back.
most of the time, in factalmost all the time, it's
because of your thoughts Andit's hard to tie them two
together because it's usually adelayed effect.
You don't think a bad thoughtand then immediately have
headaches.
It just doesn't work like that.
But it might take days, weeks,months, years, but it becomes
(04:03):
like this certain thought thatwe have in our head this story
that we're telling ourselvesover and over and over again,
because studies have shown thatthe average person has like
75,000 thoughts and over 90% ofthem are the exact same from
yesterday.
So it's just this.
we just repeat our thoughts dayto day, day to day, day to day,
and if we're not careful westart, we could develop this
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negative thought process, thisnegative mentality, and then it
starts to perpetuate it into ourfeelings And that's where we
start getting these feelings andpatience and feeling down,
depressed, hopeless, these badfeelings.
But the beauty of it is it canwork the exact opposite way.
If we're focusing on ourthoughts, we can start to alter
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them and have positive thoughts.
Sometimes have to force itright, sometimes we have to
really look for the positive ina bad situation, but we start to
find these things that we'rehappy about and then they start
to create happy feelings and youstart to feel better about
yourself.
You start looking in the mirrorand seeing positive things
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about yourself.
like hey, i really love my eyestoday.
My eyes are popping today,right, i'm having a great hair
day.
I really love my body, whatever.
And you start to feel betterabout yourself And that's the
way to really change because,like, for instance, if we want
to lose weight, it does us nogood by sitting there telling
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ourselves man, i just need tolose weight, i'm fat, i'm what I
.
these love handles are drivingme nuts, right.
That doesn't do us any goodbecause it just perpetuates bad
feelings about ourselves And,like the placebo effect, it's
going to create more badfeelings about ourselves.
So, again, like I said, thegood news is we can begin to
begin to change our future bythink, changing our thoughts and
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thinking about positive things.
And there are four majorpositive thoughts that I want to
throw out there for you guys tokind of think about and digest
as you go throughout your day.
The first one is gratitude.
The best way to change yourthinking and start having
positive feelings and changingyour life is by having thoughts
of gratitude.
Thank you for my family, youknow.
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thank you that I have niceclothes.
I'm so thankful that I was ableto.
I had food on the table.
I have food in my fridge.
I'm so thankful that I get tostep outside and breathe fresh
air.
I'm so thankful for whatever.
there's something in all of ourlives that we can be thankful
for, and so that's a big one,and it can literally be anything
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that you're thankful for.
And if you start to have thesethoughts of gratitude, it starts
to create this habit, thisneuro pathway in your brain, and
then you start looking for morethings to be thankful for, and
the scientific term for it'sactually called the reticular
activation system.
And once you start tellingyourself, hey, this is what I
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want in my life, this is whatI'm thinking about, your brain
starts to grab onto yourthoughts and say, oh, they want
more of that thing.
And then the reticularactivating system kicks in and
it starts looking for things tomake yourself right, if that
makes any sense.
I might have butchered that,but if you think about someone
in your life that bad thingsalways happen to them and oh,
(07:15):
why me?
and oh, my tire just blew outand of course this would happen.
I ripped my favorite shirt Well, they're thinking about those
things.
And then their brain is lookingfor excuses for them to
complain.
If you want to complain aboutanything, it's easy to do, we
can all do it.
It's too hot out, it's too coldout.
Yeah, it's raining too much.
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Oh, it's not raining enough.
So pay attention to yourthoughts, because your RAS, your
reticular activating system, isnow looking for things in your
world to prove yourself correctand prove true.
So enough about that.
The next major positive thoughtis love.
Love is the number one fixtureto being happy And there's a
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reason that the Bible states it.
I think 714 times.
it's in the Bible, the wordlove.
And when Jesus is beingquestioned about hey, what's the
number one commandment toremember, he says the number one
is love the Lord, your God,with all your heart, with all
your soul and with all your mind.
And equally important to thisis love thy neighbor as thyself.
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And when I sit and think aboutthis, i'm just Sometimes I
struggle with that, because whenthey say love your neighbor,
they don't literally just meanyour neighbor, they mean
everybody around you, includingthe person who's wronged you,
the person who stabbed you inthe back.
It's not just love the peopleyou like.
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right, you got to love thepeople you dislike.
and how hard is that?
Sometimes that feels like animpossible task.
but one of the things I tellmyself is we're meant to love
people But hate the sin.
so if somebody wronged us, thatdoesn't mean we forgive them,
but we need to understand andhave patience with them because
they're imperfect, just like weare.
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we have bad habits, we havefaults, we've wronged somebody
in one way or another, but weneed to love each other and
forgive each other.
We don't necessarily need toforget, right.
so we love the people, we hatethe sin, and so when we begin to
love each other, a lot of thatmeans having compassion,
patience, grace, peace, mercy,just as our father has shown us
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right.
our own father, whether whetherit's the tangible father, your
actual dad or God, like theyhave these, these traits.
when we love somebody so deeply, we have compassion, patience,
grace and mercy, and so and partof that means bringing a best
version of ourselves to thosethat we love.
so that means giving themloyalty, showing them trust,
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kindness, integrity and beingfriendly, and, and it also means
finding good things about theminstead of finding faults.
That's one good way to start toshift your mentality.
if you're having a difficulttime loving people, because
sometimes it can be really hardLook for something good about
that person, like, look for agood trait that you like about
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them, and then I'll starttelling your brain Hey, i'm
looking for more good traits inother people, right, the RAS
starts kicking in.
I instead of finding faultsbecause they're easy to find,
instead of complaining aboutthem and spreading gossip about
them.
And oh, they did this.
did you hear today?
did that?
that stuff's easy to do.
the hard part is finding goodthings about them and spreading
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those things.
so Remember love people,because people are what make
this world go around.
people Have the opportunitiesthat you need.
people you know they're youremployers.
people are, they're yoursignificant other.
people are important.
So we want to draw people to us, not repel them.
The next major positive thoughtis laughter.
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now, this one I've.
I love this one because I loveto laugh, but sometimes I find
myself being too serious.
So I got to remind myself Heyman, life isn't meant to be so
serious.
We got to laugh at ourselvessometimes.
I think most of us have heardthe phrase laughter is the best
medicine and It's much more thanjust a saying.
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it's a truth and it's beenactually proven through science.
There's been, there's beenstudies about this where Where a
patient was told they have xamount of time to live because
they have a terminal disease, acancer Or something like that,
that that medication cannot fixand they're gonna die no matter
what, but then somethingmiraculous happens a couple
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months later they're healed andDoctors have literally written
in their diagnosis that it wasnothing short of a miracle.
There was no reason that theyshould have came out of this.
I think there's a guy calledthe miracle man I don't know all
the ins and outs about this,but you can look it up where he
was paralyzed.
I mean the guy they told him hewas gonna be a vegetable and he
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was even on a ventilator.
He couldn't even breathehimself, so he all he was left
with was his thoughts.
no medication was gonna healhim and He just kept telling
himself over and over breathedeeply, breathe deeply.
I'm gonna be off thisventilator.
and in fact he told himself inhis Ment, in his brain, over and
over, that by Christmas he wasgonna walk out of there, which
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seemed a virtual impossibilityto all the providers around.
and Lo and behold, by ChristmasHe walked out of there on his
own two feet.
And I know that sounds a littlebit crazy and unbelievable, but
it's true.
It's a real story and there'shundreds of stories like that.
And it's because of what?
the internal dialogue we havein our head.
So Back to laughter.
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What's interesting aboutlaughter is it's hard to have
bad feelings almost impossibleto have bad feelings and stress
when you're laughing, right,when you're just laughing and
you're smiling and you can justfeel The uplifting spirit of
laughter.
I Think of it like this and youguys ever had like a deep, rich
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laugh with a best friend whereyou just you're crying almost
and and You're just you'resmiling ear to ear, your mouth
hurts Like you got the musclesand your jaw hurt from smiling
and laughing and you can barelybreathe.
But once all that dust settles,all that excitement settles,
how do you feel?
How do you feel?
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You just feel lighter, right,you just feel like a weight's
been lifted off your shoulder.
You just feel good, deep, deep,deep down in your soul, and
it's not something that you canreally like put to paper.
It's not something that you canjust scientifically say, oh,
i'm going to try to have thisfeeling all the time.
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No, it's because it's like thisrich laughter, this rich pause
of emotion that is just takenover from your heart all the way
out to your fingertips and yourtoes And you just feel lighter
and you feel happier, and solaughing truly is one of the
best medications that you canhave.
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So find ways to laugh, find waysto smile more.
One of the things that I foundinteresting that I read recently
is smiling more with both yourmouth and your eyes.
And when you see other peoplein your past and other people on
the side of the road or likewherever you're walking or at
work, and you smile at theminstead of just giving like the
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head nod like what's up, youknow that just becomes like part
of our day to day what's up orhi.
But if you smile at them andnot only with your mouth but
with your eyes, because the eyesare the windows to our souls
And in the Bible it says Matthew6.22, it says the eye is the
lamp of the body You draw lightinto your body through your eyes
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and light shines out to theworld through your eyes.
So if your eye is well, itshows what is true And the whole
body will be filled with light.
But if your eyes clouded orevil, your body will filled with
evil and dark clouds And thedarkness that takes over a body
of a child of God who has goneastray.
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that is the deepest darkestthere is.
I'll let you kind of processthat for a moment, but if that
is interesting how the eye isthe lamp of the body.
you bring things in through youreyes.
what you look at, what youwatch on TV, what you watch on
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YouTube and now all thesedifferent social media platforms
, tiktok, blah, blah, blah whatyou bring into your eyes, it's
going to reflect out throughyour eyes.
So if you're watching smut, badthings, right stuff that you
know you shouldn't be watching,but you do anyway, i think we've
all been guilty of that.
I'm trying to clear a lot ofthat out of my life, some of the
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crap that's on TV.
But if you start focusing onthat, that's what becomes your
mentality.
That's what comes out of youreyes, that's what comes out of
your mouth, that's what you talkabout.
And one of the things I thinkabout, too, is we've all known
somebody who has like abrightness, right brightness or
spirit in their eyes.
It's said that they have atwinkle in their eyes.
And then we've all known ormaybe seen someone who has the
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exact opposite, like movies willtalk about it.
some of these documentaries ofserial killers where people that
know them said they just had ananger or hatred or evil in
their eyes.
Sometimes it's described asdarkness in their eyes.
That's real stuff.
That's real stuff.
The eyes are viewers andprojectors, so pay attention to
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what you bring in through youreyes of the big deal.
Now I kind of want to wrap thisup because this is starting to
get a little bit long, butremember those are some of the
big major positive thoughtsGratitude, love, laughter, and
the last one.
I said there's four.
The last one is faith, and whenI talk about faith, what I mean
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is believing in something thatyou can't necessarily see.
right, And most of us attachthat to God.
And if you don't believe, well,i'm not here to try to sway you
one way or the other, but oneof the things I think about is
atoms.
Never seen one, never seen anelectron.
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I've never seen the wind, butyou can feel the wind.
right, but you can't feel atomsnecessarily.
Believing in stuff that youcan't see.
Why?
Because you've been told.
it's true, we've been told thatatoms exist.
We've been told by scientiststhat they exist and we have
faith that they exist.
Another good example is faith inthe roof of your house.
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right, most of us weren't thereto build our house or the
structure that we're currentlystanding in or the car that
we're driving in, but we havefaith that it's been built by
smart engineers, people who knowwhat they're doing, that the
roof isn't going to collapse,that the wheels won't fall off
of our vehicle.
We're living by faith every day, in small ways, whether we
believe it or not, whether wethink about it or not, but faith
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makes up a huge part ofourselves, of our futures, And
Henry Ford said whether youbelieve you can or you can't,
you are correct.
And so just having faith inyourself, believing that you can
do something, believing thatyou can achieve your goals and
accomplish great things, justhaving that faith is powerful.
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So, gratitude, love, laughterand faith Hope that helps you
guys.
Try to make those a daily,something that you think about
daily.
Make your world better, makeother people's world better that
come into contact with you,because really, after all,
that's what we're here to do,right, spread love.
So, guys, get out there, have agreat day.
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Look forward to seeing you nexttime.
Thanks for listening.
This is the Dream Chasers Show.
Hey everybody, welcome back tothe Dream Chasers Show, where
our mission is to inspire andimprove the lives of those who
dare to chase their dreams.
I wanted to make one quick noteabout dreams because I think
it's kind of interesting to mehow, as kids, most of us are
excited about life.
(00:22):
We can't wait to grow up.
We have this dream and thisvision of something we want to
be or do when we're older.
Right, it might be a careerlike oh, i can't wait to be a
fireman or policeman or emulatemy favorite baseball football
player.
whatever.
We have these visions as kids.
Mine was to be a big, strongbodybuilder.
I always loved ArnoldSchwarzenegger and I watched all
(00:46):
those different types ofdocumentaries and stuff.
But it's something that'sinteresting because, as we go
throughout our lives, thingsstart to happen to us, good or
bad, and it starts to kind ofchange the direction of our
lives.
And what happens is we look upyears later and we have this
life that we never reallyanticipated.
(01:06):
Right, we didn't really want toget into debt or we didn't want
to go bankrupt.
We weren't envisioning having afailing marriage or anything,
instead of anything that's badthat's currently happening to
you or has happened to you inthe past.
It's not something that we wereexcited for or wanting in our
(01:27):
lives, but it happens.
It happens.
It's like seasons in life.
Winter is going to happen.
We can't always, we can'tchange winter, we can't make it
go away, and we can't makespring go away and summer go
away.
It's just going to happen.
We just need to learn how todeal with these different
seasons in our life.
So that's what I want to talkto you guys about today.
(01:49):
And with regards to thethoughts and how strong the
brain is, it's a powerful thing.
It's powerful Right.
Most of us have heard of thisthing called the placebo effect,
and it's where two different anexperiment is ran with two
different parties And one partyis given the placebo, the water
(02:10):
pill Literally, it's just a pillwith water in it And then the
other party is given the actualpill, the real one that's going
to cure whatever illness orwhatever pain that they're
having, and they run the twoexperiments.
They run them side by side Andwhat most of the time they find
out is, by the end of theexperiment, the party that was
(02:31):
given the placebo, the waterpill, has just as much effect on
them in the positive way,sometimes even more so than the
party that was given the actualpill.
This water pill has cured themRight And it's because they
believe it to be working.
They think that it's workingand they believe it to be
working and therefore it works.
(02:52):
That's something to reallyreflect on.
I mean, it's a big deal.
I know it sounds a little weird,because we've all heard this
placebo effect, but I think mostof us don't realize how much
our thoughts and our belief andour faith affects our future.
It changes everything.
So when we're having negativethoughts and we're thinking
(03:15):
negatively, your body what itdoes is it has a feedback
mechanism and it's called yourfeelings.
So if you're feeling sad down,depressed, anxious, angry,
impatient, you're going to.
Maybe you're having actual likebody aches, headaches, pains,
(03:38):
nausea, these different types ofthings.
If you could really trace theroot back.
most of the time, in factalmost all the time, it's
because of your thoughts Andit's hard to tie them two
together because it's usually adelayed effect.
You don't think a bad thoughtand then immediately have
headaches.
It just doesn't work like that.
But it might take days, weeks,months, years, but it becomes
(04:03):
like this certain thought thatwe have in our head this story
that we're telling ourselvesover and over and over again,
because studies have shown thatthe average person has like
75,000 thoughts and over 90% ofthem are the exact same from
yesterday.
So it's just this.
we just repeat our thoughts dayto day, day to day, day to day,
and if we're not careful westart, we could develop this
(04:25):
negative thought process, thisnegative mentality, and then it
starts to perpetuate it into ourfeelings And that's where we
start getting these feelings andpatience and feeling down,
depressed, hopeless, these badfeelings.
But the beauty of it is it canwork the exact opposite way.
If we're focusing on ourthoughts, we can start to alter
(04:46):
them and have positive thoughts.
Sometimes have to force itright, sometimes we have to
really look for the positive ina bad situation, but we start to
find these things that we'rehappy about and then they start
to create happy feelings and youstart to feel better about
yourself.
You start looking in the mirrorand seeing positive things
(05:06):
about yourself.
like hey, i really love my eyestoday.
My eyes are popping today,right, i'm having a great hair
day.
I really love my body, whatever.
And you start to feel betterabout yourself And that's the
way to really change because,like, for instance, if we want
to lose weight, it does us nogood by sitting there telling
(05:26):
ourselves man, i just need tolose weight, i'm fat, i'm what I
.
these love handles are drivingme nuts, right.
That doesn't do us any goodbecause it just perpetuates bad
feelings about ourselves And,like the placebo effect, it's
going to create more badfeelings about ourselves.
So, again, like I said, thegood news is we can begin to
begin to change our future bythink, changing our thoughts and
(05:48):
thinking about positive things.
And there are four majorpositive thoughts that I want to
throw out there for you guys tokind of think about and digest
as you go throughout your day.
The first one is gratitude.
The best way to change yourthinking and start having
positive feelings and changingyour life is by having thoughts
of gratitude.
Thank you for my family, youknow.
(06:11):
thank you that I have niceclothes.
I'm so thankful that I was ableto.
I had food on the table.
I have food in my fridge.
I'm so thankful that I get tostep outside and breathe fresh
air.
I'm so thankful for whatever.
there's something in all of ourlives that we can be thankful
for, and so that's a big one,and it can literally be anything
(06:32):
that you're thankful for.
And if you start to have thesethoughts of gratitude, it starts
to create this habit, thisneuro pathway in your brain, and
then you start looking for morethings to be thankful for, and
the scientific term for it'sactually called the reticular
activation system.
And once you start tellingyourself, hey, this is what I
(06:53):
want in my life, this is whatI'm thinking about, your brain
starts to grab onto yourthoughts and say, oh, they want
more of that thing.
And then the reticularactivating system kicks in and
it starts looking for things tomake yourself right, if that
makes any sense.
I might have butchered that,but if you think about someone
in your life that bad thingsalways happen to them and oh,
(07:15):
why me?
and oh, my tire just blew outand of course this would happen.
I ripped my favorite shirt Well, they're thinking about those
things.
And then their brain is lookingfor excuses for them to
complain.
If you want to complain aboutanything, it's easy to do, we
can all do it.
It's too hot out, it's too coldout.
Yeah, it's raining too much.
(07:36):
Oh, it's not raining enough.
So pay attention to yourthoughts, because your RAS, your
reticular activating system, isnow looking for things in your
world to prove yourself correctand prove true.
So enough about that.
The next major positive thoughtis love.
Love is the number one fixtureto being happy And there's a
(08:01):
reason that the Bible states it.
I think 714 times.
it's in the Bible, the wordlove.
And when Jesus is beingquestioned about hey, what's the
number one commandment toremember, he says the number one
is love the Lord, your God,with all your heart, with all
your soul and with all your mind.
And equally important to thisis love thy neighbor as thyself.
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And when I sit and think aboutthis, i'm just Sometimes I
struggle with that, because whenthey say love your neighbor,
they don't literally just meanyour neighbor, they mean
everybody around you, includingthe person who's wronged you,
the person who stabbed you inthe back.
It's not just love the peopleyou like.
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right, you got to love thepeople you dislike.
and how hard is that?
Sometimes that feels like animpossible task.
but one of the things I tellmyself is we're meant to love
people But hate the sin.
so if somebody wronged us, thatdoesn't mean we forgive them,
but we need to understand andhave patience with them because
they're imperfect, just like weare.
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we have bad habits, we havefaults, we've wronged somebody
in one way or another, but weneed to love each other and
forgive each other.
We don't necessarily need toforget, right.
so we love the people, we hatethe sin, and so when we begin to
love each other, a lot of thatmeans having compassion,
patience, grace, peace, mercy,just as our father has shown us
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right.
our own father, whether whetherit's the tangible father, your
actual dad or God, like theyhave these, these traits.
when we love somebody so deeply, we have compassion, patience,
grace and mercy, and so and partof that means bringing a best
version of ourselves to thosethat we love.
so that means giving themloyalty, showing them trust,
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kindness, integrity and beingfriendly, and, and it also means
finding good things about theminstead of finding faults.
That's one good way to start toshift your mentality.
if you're having a difficulttime loving people, because
sometimes it can be really hardLook for something good about
that person, like, look for agood trait that you like about
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them, and then I'll starttelling your brain Hey, i'm
looking for more good traits inother people, right, the RAS
starts kicking in.
I instead of finding faultsbecause they're easy to find,
instead of complaining aboutthem and spreading gossip about
them.
And oh, they did this.
did you hear today?
did that?
that stuff's easy to do.
the hard part is finding goodthings about them and spreading
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those things.
so Remember love people,because people are what make
this world go around.
people Have the opportunitiesthat you need.
people you know they're youremployers.
people are, they're yoursignificant other.
people are important.
So we want to draw people to us, not repel them.
The next major positive thoughtis laughter.
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now, this one I've.
I love this one because I loveto laugh, but sometimes I find
myself being too serious.
So I got to remind myself Heyman, life isn't meant to be so
serious.
We got to laugh at ourselvessometimes.
I think most of us have heardthe phrase laughter is the best
medicine and It's much more thanjust a saying.
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it's a truth and it's beenactually proven through science.
There's been, there's beenstudies about this where Where a
patient was told they have xamount of time to live because
they have a terminal disease, acancer Or something like that,
that that medication cannot fixand they're gonna die no matter
what, but then somethingmiraculous happens a couple
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months later they're healed andDoctors have literally written
in their diagnosis that it wasnothing short of a miracle.
There was no reason that theyshould have came out of this.
I think there's a guy calledthe miracle man I don't know all
the ins and outs about this,but you can look it up where he
was paralyzed.
I mean the guy they told him hewas gonna be a vegetable and he
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was even on a ventilator.
He couldn't even breathehimself, so he all he was left
with was his thoughts.
no medication was gonna healhim and He just kept telling
himself over and over breathedeeply, breathe deeply.
I'm gonna be off thisventilator.
and in fact he told himself inhis Ment, in his brain, over and
over, that by Christmas he wasgonna walk out of there, which
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seemed a virtual impossibilityto all the providers around.
and Lo and behold, by ChristmasHe walked out of there on his
own two feet.
And I know that sounds a littlebit crazy and unbelievable, but
it's true.
It's a real story and there'shundreds of stories like that.
And it's because of what?
the internal dialogue we havein our head.
So Back to laughter.
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What's interesting aboutlaughter is it's hard to have
bad feelings almost impossibleto have bad feelings and stress
when you're laughing, right,when you're just laughing and
you're smiling and you can justfeel The uplifting spirit of
laughter.
I Think of it like this and youguys ever had like a deep, rich
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laugh with a best friend whereyou just you're crying almost
and and You're just you'resmiling ear to ear, your mouth
hurts Like you got the musclesand your jaw hurt from smiling
and laughing and you can barelybreathe.
But once all that dust settles,all that excitement settles,
how do you feel?
How do you feel?
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You just feel lighter, right,you just feel like a weight's
been lifted off your shoulder.
You just feel good, deep, deep,deep down in your soul, and
it's not something that you canreally like put to paper.
It's not something that you canjust scientifically say, oh,
i'm going to try to have thisfeeling all the time.
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No, it's because it's like thisrich laughter, this rich pause
of emotion that is just takenover from your heart all the way
out to your fingertips and yourtoes And you just feel lighter
and you feel happier, and solaughing truly is one of the
best medications that you canhave.
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So find ways to laugh, find waysto smile more.
One of the things that I foundinteresting that I read recently
is smiling more with both yourmouth and your eyes.
And when you see other peoplein your past and other people on
the side of the road or likewherever you're walking or at
work, and you smile at theminstead of just giving like the
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head nod like what's up, youknow that just becomes like part
of our day to day what's up orhi.
But if you smile at them andnot only with your mouth but
with your eyes, because the eyesare the windows to our souls
And in the Bible it says Matthew6.22, it says the eye is the
lamp of the body You draw lightinto your body through your eyes
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and light shines out to theworld through your eyes.
So if your eye is well, itshows what is true And the whole
body will be filled with light.
But if your eyes clouded orevil, your body will filled with
evil and dark clouds And thedarkness that takes over a body
of a child of God who has goneastray.
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that is the deepest darkestthere is.
I'll let you kind of processthat for a moment, but if that
is interesting how the eye isthe lamp of the body.
you bring things in through youreyes.
what you look at, what youwatch on TV, what you watch on
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YouTube and now all thesedifferent social media platforms
, tiktok, blah, blah, blah whatyou bring into your eyes, it's
going to reflect out throughyour eyes.
So if you're watching smut, badthings, right stuff that you
know you shouldn't be watching,but you do anyway, i think we've
all been guilty of that.
I'm trying to clear a lot ofthat out of my life, some of the
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crap that's on TV.
But if you start focusing onthat, that's what becomes your
mentality.
That's what comes out of youreyes, that's what comes out of
your mouth, that's what you talkabout.
And one of the things I thinkabout, too, is we've all known
somebody who has like abrightness, right brightness or
spirit in their eyes.
It's said that they have atwinkle in their eyes.
And then we've all known ormaybe seen someone who has the
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exact opposite, like movies willtalk about it.
some of these documentaries ofserial killers where people that
know them said they just had ananger or hatred or evil in
their eyes.
Sometimes it's described asdarkness in their eyes.
That's real stuff.
That's real stuff.
The eyes are viewers andprojectors, so pay attention to
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what you bring in through youreyes of the big deal.
Now I kind of want to wrap thisup because this is starting to
get a little bit long, butremember those are some of the
big major positive thoughtsGratitude, love, laughter, and
the last one.
I said there's four.
The last one is faith, and whenI talk about faith, what I mean
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is believing in something thatyou can't necessarily see.
right, And most of us attachthat to God.
And if you don't believe, well,i'm not here to try to sway you
one way or the other, but oneof the things I think about is
atoms.
Never seen one, never seen anelectron.
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I've never seen the wind, butyou can feel the wind.
right, but you can't feel atomsnecessarily.
Believing in stuff that youcan't see.
Why?
Because you've been told.
it's true, we've been told thatatoms exist.
We've been told by scientiststhat they exist and we have
faith that they exist.
Another good example is faith inthe roof of your house.
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right, most of us weren't thereto build our house or the
structure that we're currentlystanding in or the car that
we're driving in, but we havefaith that it's been built by
smart engineers, people who knowwhat they're doing, that the
roof isn't going to collapse,that the wheels won't fall off
of our vehicle.
We're living by faith every day, in small ways, whether we
believe it or not, whether wethink about it or not, but faith
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makes up a huge part ofourselves, of our futures, And
Henry Ford said whether youbelieve you can or you can't,
you are correct.
And so just having faith inyourself, believing that you can
do something, believing thatyou can achieve your goals and
accomplish great things, justhaving that faith is powerful.
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So, gratitude, love, laughterand faith Hope that helps you
guys.
Try to make those a daily,something that you think about
daily.
Make your world better, makeother people's world better that
come into contact with you,because really, after all,
that's what we're here to do,right, spread love.
So, guys, get out there, have agreat day.
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Look forward to seeing you nexttime.
Thanks for listening.
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