May 28, 2025 • 27 mins
Summer memories have a way of revealing our deepest family dynamics, don't they? Kerry and Chrisy peel back the layers of their childhood summer traditions to expose the complex family relationships underneath. Their stories—from pool opening rituals to fishing mishaps—are both hilarious and surprisingly poignant.
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DJ Nick (00:07):
Welcome to the Dysfunction Junkies podcast.
We may not have seen it all,but we've seen it all.
And now here are your hosts,chrisy and Kerry.
Kerry (00:20):
Hello Junkies, welcome back.
I'm Keri
Chrisy (00:23):
and I'm Chrisy
Kerry (00:24):
.
Summer is finally here.
I think we can safely say that.
Chrisy (00:29):
No, I bet you we're going to get some snow still you
know sadly, that could verywell be true.
Kerry (00:38):
It could be, you never know.
Chrisy (00:39):
Plan for it.
I guess Hope it doesn't show up, though.
You never know Plan for it.
I guess Hope it doesn't show upthough.
Kerry (00:48):
Got any exciting things happening for this summer?
No, no.
Well, we always go on our bigvacation in June, so we got that
coming up, but it kind of justbrought some nostalgia.
This past weekend was MemorialDay weekend and I know that's
kind of like a big officialkickoff for summer and getting
things ready.
(01:08):
So we were busy at the farm, asas always.
You know, starting to getthings out, get things summer,
you know, get the patio swingout and the patio tables and
stuff kind of made me reminisceabout what we used to do as kids
for opening up of summer.
What was your experience?
Chrisy (01:25):
with that.
Memorial Day is the start,that's like the official start.
Yeah, everybody in the worldtells you this, and people
really do celebrate Memorial Day, which is lovely.
Yeah, well, I grew up with apool.
Yeah, again, nothing fancy.
It was an above ground pool.
We lived in a nice area, though, where we had a lot of property
(01:46):
, so I mean, it was nice.
We enjoyed it very much and hada great time with it.
My father was meticulous abouttaking care of it, so, but the
opening of it yes, likeeverything else, generally my
family it required all of us toparticipate in something
together.
Okay, it was a bit of an ordeal.
Kerry (02:05):
It was a bit of an ordeal .
Chrisy (02:06):
It was a family bonding experience no, no, it was
basically our opportunity toknow how much we just can't
stand being around each other.
Probably the dad could reallybe a pain in the old ass when it
came to this, but because hewas very particular about this
and we to all fairness to him,we all well, probably more me
(02:29):
than any of my- siblings uh, Iwas the one that was going to be
in that pool the most yeahbecause I stayed.
I lived at home longer than theother two, right, and I of
course didn't have kids rightaway, although if I did, they
would have been enjoying it tooat that time and just it was
important for me.
And then, when I was married,to go over and I did have some
(02:51):
nice time with my parents,sundays were generally the day
you would go over there and wehad dinner with everybody
usually on Sunday.
My siblings would come overlater in the day, but my husband
and I and I really appreciatethat I had this opportunity with
my parents was Sunday morningsbecause we didn't have kids,
right, we would make it a pointto go over there for breakfast
(03:14):
and my other two sisters did notget moving.
That early.
Kerry (03:18):
Well, because my one sister had kids and stuff.
Chrisy (03:20):
And so we would have the paper and we would all sort of
toss the sections of the paperwith a sort of alternate around
the table Right, and we wouldeat breakfast together and just
talk about some things, and thenusually my husband and I would
go home for a little bit andthen we would come back for
dinner later.
But I'm, I am glad we had thosemoments in the morning.
(03:42):
That was just me and my husbandand my parents.
Yeah, I appreciate that.
But the pool opening thing was,it was interesting, it was an
event, it was a little bit of anevent.
What made it such an event?
Well, you had to get the coveroff of it.
That's first and foremost.
And my father had, like these,inflatables in it that would
(04:03):
keep the cover from being ableto sag in the middle right after
you've gone through a fall,winter and spring of rain and
snow and everything else andleaves falling, yes, so that way
it was more manageable.
So it didn't scoop down in themiddle right because then you'd
be worried if the weight of itwould all be concentrated in one
place, it would break throughand you'd have a whole problem
(04:24):
so the gucky water would prettymuch go to the sides.
And the one thing during thosetime periods when we would get a
lot of rain or snow, that myfather was so nice to ask of you
but he did it himself too, buthe expected you to do it as well
.
He had like a hose himself to,but he expected you to do it as
(04:48):
well.
He had like a hose.
It was like this clear hosethat he stuck on the cover with
like this brick to hold it down.
Okay, so basically now he wasgoing to siphon the water off.
It basically sat in the middleof that gook and he would go out
, or he would ask you to go outand you would take the hose that
was running out of the top ofthe pool onto the ground and he
would tell you to put it in yourmouth.
Kerry (05:08):
Oh, you had to start the siphon.
You had to start it.
Chrisy (05:12):
And so you didn't question it.
Dad said to do it your butt'sgoing to be in that pool this
summer.
You're going to do that, soyou'd go out there and you'd
pull the water through and you'dspit it all out and be like, oh
good, I guess I can't believe Ijust did that.
That's what we would do.
So usually you could come overto my parents house at some
point and see somebody out there.
(05:33):
You'd be like what the hell arethey doing back there?
it don't look good we don't talkabout that so, yeah, you had to
get the stuff off the top ofthe pool, and when we were
taking the cover off, the wholegoal was to be able to take the
cover off in a way where nothinggot in the pool.
Kerry (05:48):
My father you didn't want that gook in the pool.
Chrisy (05:50):
No, and even when you get the liquid off of it, it
still had dried crap all over it.
And my father prided himself onhaving crystal clear water from
the word go.
And I don't remember everhaving that pool opened up where
it was cloudy or anything andthere was a lot of yelling and a
lot of you know.
Kerry (06:10):
don't let that fall in there it was a lot of stress.
Chrisy (06:13):
Yeah, in fact, one year, I do remember, my husband came
to the rescue because the coverwas going and nobody had the one
end and it was going to go downand a bunch of damn yucky stuff
was about to pour into thatcrystal blue water and god love
him, he jumped nick saved theday that water was probably only
(06:34):
about 50 degrees.
If you're lucky because it was.
Kerry (06:38):
You jumped all the way in the pool.
Chrisy (06:39):
Oh yeah, he had to jump in to hold it up and it stopped
it.
He, he and my father reallyappreciated that and my father
would bring it up.
Yeah, I definitely got my goldstar for that summer.
Kerry (06:50):
You got brawny points that day.
Chrisy (06:51):
Well, that was the whole summer he would refer to yeah.
Nick got in there and got themleaves out of there.
I was in good after that, yeah,probably.
Well, you always were kind of alittle bit better than me, yeah
, probably favorite child.
So yeah, so the pool would comeoff and then it would be all.
(07:13):
It would be.
Go time for us to get the.
Kerry (07:18):
Never had a heater on the yeah, cool, that might have
been hard, though, in ohiothough well, believe it or not,
because most pools in Ohio,probably especially nowadays, do
have heaters Right.
Chrisy (07:29):
Because how are you going to get your monies?
Kerry (07:31):
That's what I'm saying, so it might have.
It was hard, for how did hekeep it so you could use it?
So much, did you have a solarcover.
Chrisy (07:36):
We did have that for a little while when they first
came out.
My father of father, of course,always liked to get the brand
new toys that were out and Iremember we had it, but those
things were a pain in the buttbecause you had to put it on and
then you had to take it off.
But we did have it and but Ithink he actually stored it one
year in a shed and I think somerats or mice must have gone into
the shed and they basicallyripped holes all through it so
(07:59):
he threw it away.
He never replaced it.
We were fortunate enough towhere the pool was located in
the yard.
Kerry (08:04):
Yeah.
Chrisy (08:04):
It pretty much got sun all day.
That's good, so it would getwarm.
When I was a kid I didn't carewhat the temperature of the
water was Right exactly.
I could get now if the water'snot like covering near 90, it's
like I just really don't want tobe in it.
That's being old, but beingyounger if it was in the
seventies you suffer through, oh, I'll get used to it, I'll get
(08:26):
used to it.
Yeah, I mean, my lips are blueand, yes, I'm freezing to death,
but it just, it takes time.
You get used to it.
So, so, yeah, that that wasgenerally a stressful day.
Yeah, it was usually held onour Sunday when he knew
everybody was going to at leastcome around, so you had more
hands.
Kerry (08:42):
Well then they'd have a meal afterwards.
Chrisy (08:44):
I mean there was incentive, I guess.
Right so yeah, so the poolopening, it was the start of
summer and it was a big deal andit was generally unpleasant
while it happened.
Kerry (08:54):
But you got through it.
It was worth it yeah.
Chrisy (08:56):
Yeah.
Kerry (08:58):
So what did you guys do?
Well, we didn't have.
The.
One of the things that my dadhad when I was growing up was he
did have a boat.
So he had gotten this boat.
Who knows how he got it To thisday.
I'm not really sure how heafforded it because, again, we
didn't have a lot of money.
He probably had a scratch-offticket or something that hit.
So he got some money.
So he got this little metalfishing boat type of thing and
(09:20):
it was nothing fancy, trust me,it was nothing fancy.
Trust me, it was nothing fancy.
But so we had this boat that wewould take out.
So I remember the beginning ofthe summer we would, you know,
had to get the boat ready to getit all cleaned up and again
getting all the from thecritters over the winter that
found safe haven in there andyou'd be finding, like you know,
nuts and you know these walnutsand stuff the shells were all
(09:45):
in there from some critter thatgot their way in there.
So we're digging all that out,cleaning that out, but I'll
never forget one of the firstoutings, when we got the boat
ready.
So we go out to the lake andwe're going to go fishing
because my dad wanted to.
He liked to fish and we fisheda lot growing up and we were on
the boat and I had one of thosefishing pools that was for kids
that had the little like button.
So so when you went to cast it,would you just the button and
(10:05):
then you would let go and itwould cast out instead of the
reel.
Oh, because my dad was in theback of the boat.
I was in the front of the boatand we get, you know, spent the
whole previous day getting theboat ready, getting ready for
the summer, our first summerouting.
And we go out to the lake, weget in, we get out to the middle
of the lake okay, we're gonnastart fishing.
He's casting out the back.
I went to cast out the front.
(10:26):
I hit the button and threw itout there.
Well, the button got stuck andso the line didn't keep going.
It stopped and so it swung, andthe line swung all the way
around behind and it hooked mydad and oh, oh, it's better.
It only hooked them, but itliterally hooked him right on
the mouth.
(10:46):
Oh my gosh and it had a littleminnow on it and the little
minnow was hanging out the sideof his mouth.
And I just remember turningaround like we both turned
around to look at each other andI thought, oh, I'm gonna die,
this is gonna be the last day Ilive.
And he just reached up, tookthe little fishing hook with the
minnow on from his mouth.
(11:08):
We're going in.
And that's all he said.
And we very quietly drove backto shore, seven, 10 miles into
town.
Get home.
I'm the whole time like, oh,I'm going to get a beating, I'm
going to get a beating, this isgoing to be bad.
Never said a word Now to thisday.
He will.
Well, obviously not now becausehe's passed away, but up until
he died he would tell that storyand laugh and laugh and laugh.
(11:31):
But not when it happened, oh,not that day, not that weekend.
It probably took a couplemonths.
And I think when we firstwalked into the house, I walked
in first and mom's like what areyou doing back at home?
And I'm like I hooked dad inthe mouth and he's going to beat
me.
I'm like hysterical.
Dad comes in, he was quiet, hedidn't say a word.
(11:53):
I'm telling you.
For like two days he didn't saya word, and then afterwards,
then he finally laughed about it.
Chrisy (11:59):
But I mean it's totally an accident.
Kerry (12:02):
Oh, it was totally an accident.
But the irony of it all to beto land, not only just get stuck
and to hit him, but to hit himand land in the like right there
in the corner of the mouth, andto this day I can see that
little minnow.
Oh my gosh, yeah, I never wentout on the boat.
I don't really remember muchgoing on the boat after that
(12:23):
fishing.
Chrisy (12:24):
Aw, that's a bummer.
I'm kind of bummed out for you.
I did go not with my.
My father was that would not besomething he would do, he
wasn't ever into fishing oranything.
I had neighbors that werereally into it and they would
sometimes take me for a weekend,gentleman and his wife we were
really close with and they had aplace it was called lake
(12:44):
tomahawk.
And uh, what county was that?
I was gonna say, where's thatup?
Kerry (12:48):
that's in Columbiana.
It was in Columbiana, so theyhad like a cabin there.
Chrisy (12:51):
Yeah, and he was a big time fisher.
Yeah, and he that was.
He loved fishing, and so it wasfun to learn to do that from
him.
Kerry (13:02):
Yeah, my dad wasn't into it.
Chrisy (13:03):
So I did get some time fishing with him.
We used to.
I always wanted one of thosepoles.
Yeah, that would be like eventhe casting.
Yeah, because to me in my mind,that's what fishing is supposed
to look like casting.
He's not sitting.
The gentleman didn't have those.
His name was george.
George didn't have those kindof poles for me, right, and I'm
sure he probably used thembecause he was fairly schooled
(13:24):
with doing this.
Yeah, but he used this kind too.
It was a.
To my mind it seemed like itwas as high as a building.
It was a bamboo, oh, and onthis bamboo pole that to me
seemed to be 20 feet long yeah,yeah, yeah had different areas
yes of hooks, yes, and you wouldtake it and then being a kid
(13:45):
again.
That I was able to do this isprobably a testament to his
patience.
He was fairly patient man.
I had to be the one that putthe worm on it.
Oh yeah, I was required to dothis.
If I wanted to participate inthis activity and he, you didn't
just put a whole worm right, hein the saving.
You would like quarter it right, or with your finger pieces,
(14:06):
yeah, and slide it on.
Kerry (14:08):
I can't believe I did this stuff.
I did it though.
I could do it as a kid all daylong.
But now, if we go fishing, I'mlike to Jim, I'm like, okay, you
need to bait my hook for me.
Chrisy (14:17):
Well, you're better than me, because there's just no way
in hell I'm going fishing atall, yeah, and then you would
catch we do blue there's perchand rainbow trouts and bluegill.
I mean the lake was fairly wellstocked.
The only thing I could never dowas I could never, ever, take
the fish off the hook.
Kerry (14:34):
He always had to do that for me.
Chrisy (14:35):
I think I tried one time and I totally panicked.
I couldn't get the hook off ofit and I was afraid that the
scales were going to, because Iknow you had to like reach and
push the scales or the fin orwhatever the hell you were
touching on there.
Kerry (14:53):
And hell, you were touching on there and slimy and
wet, and I mean think, okay,well, you did the worm, what's
wrong with this?
But, and you know, and you feellike you're hurting it, we
never kept the fit.
Chrisy (14:55):
Well, I did, we would throw them back, which is really
actually horrible becauseyou're like damaging something
and then hopefully it's going tosurvive after you've did what
you did to it.
Yeah, I could never, ever dothe taking the fish off.
Yeah, but I do remember thattime, him and his wife, betty.
George passed away quite awhile ago.
Betty probably within the lasteight years maybe, I think she's
(15:16):
probably passed away.
Yeah, we always stayed veryclose with them.
Like I said, they wereneighbors of mine growing up and
just great people.
So, yeah.
So the fishing thing you'retalking about, the fact that you
did this to your father, yeah,and he didn't say anything.
Yeah, total silence.
This, going along with myswimming pool summer story, is
my father was fairly meticulousin his appearance.
(15:37):
Okay, which is a nice thing.
I appreciate the fact that myfather but most people I'm sure
your dad was he took care of.
Everybody takes care ofthemselves.
Yeah, my father, I just feellike took it another level.
Like his time in the morning toget ready for the day was
actually longer than my mother.
Oh, I mean, he had to.
(15:57):
He had a ritual.
He had a ritual.
His hair had to be styled andmy father had beautiful hair.
Kerry (16:03):
Yeah, he did.
Chrisy (16:04):
And you probably looked at it and thought it wasn't even
real because it was that nice?
Yeah, but it was, and he wouldstyle his hair and hairspray it
and he was very well cologned.
Kerry (16:16):
I was just going to say didn't your dad have a whole
bunch of colognes?
Chrisy (16:21):
Yes, I remember something about a whole bunch of
bottles.
Yeah, he liked to have hisfragrances.
So we were in the pool and myfather was a very good swimmer
and he actually used to sort ofdo some competitive diving
nothing real serious, but Ithink just with like the one of
the watering holes they used tofrequent.
he would compete with diving andstuff with other boys and
people remember him being ableto do it fairly well.
(16:41):
We were in the pool.
Now you didn't know for sure.
There were days, most of thetime dad did not get his hair
wet.
Right he was in the pool withyou and he would like to enjoy.
But there were times when hewould full-on swim right and get
his hair wet and everything andhe liked to sort of pick at you
a little bit in the pool.
And so he would do this thingwhere he would cup his hands and
he would pound right down withhis hands real hard and it would
(17:05):
shoot the water up very yeswell, he would do this so many
times at you where it just wouldbe like almost like water,
torture, waterboarded.
Yes, I mean he would sit thereand just continually do it at
you and you're just getting hitconstantly in the face.
Well, the one time I finallyjust had had enough, and maybe
the rules weren't completelyexplained to me until after this
(17:27):
incident, so I went back at himand I splashed him to try and
get him to stop splashing me,and I got his hair all wet.
He stopped, he got out of thepool and he walked away and
never said a word to me See,isn't that like the worst?
Well, I mean, I was just likewhat's the fairness in this,
though I wasn't afraid he wasgoing to do anything to me
(17:49):
except maybe yell.
But the silence sometimes isworse than the yelling, that's
what I'm saying.
Kerry (17:53):
The worst is that silence , that just they walk and they
stop talking and they walk away.
Chrisy (17:58):
Yeah.
Kerry (18:00):
Now, for me, the worry was what's going to happen when
he comes back, and that was justbecause of the cycle of the
situation I was in.
Chrisy (18:07):
Right, but still I didn't have that.
Kerry (18:09):
But see, for me that's where it was probably why the
silence was scary, because itwas like, well, what comes after
the silence?
Chrisy (18:16):
I was more offended that we were not on a playing, an
even playing level here Right.
But again, my understanding toowas, though, that I generally
did have a good understandingthat I was the kid.
Yeah, was though that Igenerally did have a good
understanding that I was the kidyeah, and that you could not
retaliate.
And he was the dad.
Yeah, that's why he always gotfirst dibs on the food and first
dibs on what we were watchingwhen we had to share a
(18:38):
television.
Oh, and you only watched what,dad?
was watching dad's rules untilthey finally threw me a bone and
got me my own tv.
Yeah so yeah, but I was alwayskind of bummed out about that.
Kerry (18:47):
I was like man, I'm a sore loser did you ever talk
about that with your dad laterin life?
No, oh, that's a hard.
Chrisy (18:54):
No, no no, I don't remember ever being able to do
that with my dad, and I'm notsaying it's a personality defect
or that it speaks volumes aboutmaybe the dysfunction, but with
the uncomfortable situationsthat maybe occurred, like that,
where he, in his way, eitherdisciplined or treated you with
(19:15):
silence because he didn'tapprove of what you did, you
didn't bring it up again.
Kerry (19:20):
No, so even as an adult, you're never able to go back and
talk about some of thesedysfunctions or whatever.
No, that was one.
That was kind of one thingwhere, as dysfunctional as
things were as we got older andI and I can't say that maybe my
sisters do and maybe it was justme, because I'm just open and I
want to talk about things youknow but we did talk about, like
(19:40):
that that story with the fishwould would come up a lot you
know and you know, or otherthings we would talk about in.
Yeah, like one time, what youwant to talk about being naughty
here's, here's something I didall right, here we go.
It's not that bad, but still thegirl that was bullying me, the
one that I talked about in theprevious episode about the
glockenspiel that she clack, Iclack and spilled her.
(20:00):
Yeah, nick nick so one.
After that happened, she wouldprank phone, call the house to
explain this to people.
Chrisy (20:09):
I know.
Kerry (20:09):
This is true.
So you know, back in the day,when you had the phone on the
wall with the line and peoplewould call, you know your number
, and you'd pick up hello, hello, and there'd be nobody there.
Or they would say somethingstupid Say something really
stupid or whatever you know andhang up and you didn't have a.
What number it is?
Chrisy (20:27):
There was a little while where you didn't have caller ID
.
You didn't have caller ID.
Kerry (20:30):
Once in a while you could at one point do the reverse
dial.
I got home from school it wasthat week that she was suspended
and the phone kept ringing andkept ringing and it was nobody
there.
Nobody there, nobody there.
I was home by myself.
It was right after school andmy mom was out of town.
I don't know where she was at,but I just remember she was out
(20:58):
of town.
So it was just me and dad, butdad was not home from work yet.
I picked up the phone.
I got so irritated it keptbeing nobody there and I knew.
I just knew it had to be thisgirl.
I went off and I did.
You know, that's that scenefrom the Christmas story where
the dad's swearing all thesewords.
You know well, that was, thatwas me.
I just said everything.
I was like you bleepity, bleep,bleep, bleep, and you effing
bleep, bleep, bleep.
I just I went off, hung thephone up.
Phone rings again.
(21:18):
I pick up.
It was my dad.
Oh, is that who you?
Chrisy (21:21):
said all those words to yes.
Oh timing is bad.
Kerry (21:27):
Well, here he got stuck at work or something and there
was some bad connection.
So he could hear me, but Iwasn't hearing him.
So he kept calling to try totell me that he was going to be
late or whatever.
And then he hears me, just thiswhole string of words.
He probably never thought thathis daughter knew much about
(21:48):
anything.
But I remember years later wehad a conversation about that
story and here he never.
He said he was going to tell mymom, but he never did tell my
mom.
But would she have punished you?
Oh, probably, really probably.
I would have probably beensentenced to extra masses and
more hail, marys and rosariesand god knows what but?
(22:11):
but going back to the talkingabout things with your parents
after the fact, so we did wewould have occasions where we
would talk about things likethat.
Chrisy (22:19):
I would have that and I still do have that.
Sometimes things that I didthat actually horrified my
mother.
Kerry (22:25):
And so you talked.
You can talk to your mom,because you never had a chance
to talk to your dad about those.
Chrisy (22:29):
Yeah, the chances might've been there, but that,
just that wasn't how ourrelationship was, yeah, and you
just didn't do that.
You kind of had to know.
Yeah, dad was willing to talkto you.
I mean, I had some greatconversations with my father
don't get me wrong and I feel ingeneral I had a good
relationship with him you know,nobody's perfect.
Kerry (22:46):
Yeah, that that wouldn't have been any sort of part of
our talking back and forth, orWell, this morphed into a little
bit different than just talkingabout summer, talking about our
relationships there with ourdad.
So any other summer traditionsthat you did.
Chrisy (23:01):
When I was younger.
No, the pool was basicallypretty much it.
You know we didn't really dothe vacation thing on a regular
basis.
We had kind of talked aboutthat before and generally
vacation was in the fall becausethat's when their anniversary
was and if I got pulled intohaving to go with them because
my sisters were out of the housealready, so you just enjoyed,
you know, the swimming pool andyou know, just having fun with
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neighborhood kids, yeah, orbeing tortured by these, this
other dysfunctional family.
You had to hang around with orhurting people's fingers and
look forward to that.
Kerry (23:32):
And bikes a typical kid of that time period swimming
bikes you know, I think Irealized after the fact one of
the reasons why I so lookforward to summer is I had a lot
of alone.
That was when I had my alonetime because both parents worked
.
I would be left home alone fromnine-ish in the morning until
one or two in the afternoon, somy mom might work a half day or
(23:54):
whatever, but I had a lot oftime to myself.
And I think that's kind ofsometimes why I think why I like
summertime so much and enjoylike going on vacations or just
enjoy spending my time outsideby myself.
That was my solace.
That was like recovery timefrom everything I went through
in the previous year at schoolor whatever.
You know, yeah, that was mysolace.
That was like recovery timefrom everything I went through
in the previous year at schoolor whatever.
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You know, yeah, that summer.
So I love summer.
It's my favorite time of year.
Chrisy (24:19):
Yeah, no it's, I don't have any.
I have pretty much just goodmemories of summer for the most
part, and, you know, do you goto movies.
It didn't do too many drive.
We had drive in movies.
Yeah, movies, yeah we did, butmainly you would just go to the
theater.
Yeah, a lot, and you know itwas.
Summers were good, what can yousay?
(24:39):
We played.
We had a patio and I doremember, uh, fingers slash,
natalie.
We would play a lot of monopolyor trivial pursuit, oh yeah,
and we would have some real goodgames down there with that.
So in between swimming, wewould do that, that's fun.
Kerry (24:54):
Yeah, good times, good times, absolutely.
Do you think your kids are kindof like summer people?
Yeah, like you get people thatprefer winter in the cold or
summer outside warm.
How do you think it'stransitioned to them?
Chrisy (25:07):
Yeah, no, I think they do like to be out, they like the
outdoors.
My, I think they do like to beout, they like the outdoors.
My oldest, she played baseballfor a while.
Then she's real involved withtennis and she started into some
track too.
But she definitely likes to goout.
She roller.
She has a skateboard, yeah, andshe amazes me.
She just basically gets on thisshe's got her phone, yeah,
(25:31):
she's holding on to her phoneand she just takes that
skateboard out, jumps on it, itis down and texting and
everything, and she's her handsand she's completely balanced on
the thing and she skateboards.
That's awesome, we have it.
This is a nice.
Where we live now is a goodneighborhood.
We have good families here andthere's kids here, yeah, and
she'll usually go and hang withsome of the kids.
She's kind of the oldest by ayear or two, but there are still
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kids close enough to her agewhere she can sort of relate to
them and hang around with them.
That's fun, and we have a golfcart now, which is fun.
Kerry (25:58):
I was thinking about your golf cart because I'm training
for this marathon, been doing acouple of 5Ks, have a half
marathon that I'm going to bedoing just to kind of help train
and stuff.
But I was thinking about whenwe run the marathon.
I was like, oh yeah, one ofthese, one of these shows or
whatever one of these episodesor times we're here, we should
do a Facebook Live of mepracticing for the marathon and
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you could be following me in thegolf cart encouraging me.
Chrisy (26:23):
As soon as people think of how can I find someone who
will encourage me, I'm the firstperson that probably comes into
their mind, of course, ofcourse, so reassuring, it'll be
an episode of Carrie go, yeah,go faster.
Kerry (26:40):
No, faster.
Chrisy (26:41):
You look like you're getting tired.
Do you want this water?
Nah, you don't want no water.
Look at me drink the water,carrie, yummy.
Kerry (26:48):
Well, I am just so excited that summer is here.
We've got some great topicscoming up over the summer that
we're going to be talking aboutsharing with you, and more
events to come, so please besure to keep tuning in.
Check us out on our Facebookpage, share with us your summer
traditions, your opening summertraditions or things you'd like
to do in the summer.
We want to hear it all.
Chrisy (27:08):
Yes, and make sure you get a lot of vitamin D.
Everybody, wear sunscreen.
We want to hear it all.
Kerry (27:11):
Yes, and make sure you get a lot of vitamin D.
Everybody, wear sunscreen.
Oh, yes, please do.
All right, everyone, have agreat week.
We'll see you next time.
Bye-bye, everybody.
Welcome to the Dysfunction Junkies podcast.
We may not have seen it all,but we've seen it all.
And now here are your hosts,chrisy and Kerry.
Kerry (00:20):
Hello Junkies, welcome back.
I'm Keri
Chrisy (00:23):
and I'm Chrisy
Kerry (00:24):
.
Summer is finally here.
I think we can safely say that.
Chrisy (00:29):
No, I bet you we're going to get some snow still you
know sadly, that could verywell be true.
Kerry (00:38):
It could be, you never know.
Chrisy (00:39):
Plan for it.
I guess Hope it doesn't show up, though.
You never know Plan for it.
I guess Hope it doesn't show upthough.
Kerry (00:48):
Got any exciting things happening for this summer?
No, no.
Well, we always go on our bigvacation in June, so we got that
coming up, but it kind of justbrought some nostalgia.
This past weekend was MemorialDay weekend and I know that's
kind of like a big officialkickoff for summer and getting
things ready.
(01:08):
So we were busy at the farm, asas always.
You know, starting to getthings out, get things summer,
you know, get the patio swingout and the patio tables and
stuff kind of made me reminisceabout what we used to do as kids
for opening up of summer.
What was your experience?
Chrisy (01:25):
with that.
Memorial Day is the start,that's like the official start.
Yeah, everybody in the worldtells you this, and people
really do celebrate Memorial Day, which is lovely.
Yeah, well, I grew up with apool.
Yeah, again, nothing fancy.
It was an above ground pool.
We lived in a nice area, though, where we had a lot of property
(01:46):
, so I mean, it was nice.
We enjoyed it very much and hada great time with it.
My father was meticulous abouttaking care of it, so, but the
opening of it yes, likeeverything else, generally my
family it required all of us toparticipate in something
together.
Okay, it was a bit of an ordeal.
Kerry (02:05):
It was a bit of an ordeal .
Chrisy (02:06):
It was a family bonding experience no, no, it was
basically our opportunity toknow how much we just can't
stand being around each other.
Probably the dad could reallybe a pain in the old ass when it
came to this, but because hewas very particular about this
and we to all fairness to him,we all well, probably more me
(02:29):
than any of my- siblings uh, Iwas the one that was going to be
in that pool the most yeahbecause I stayed.
I lived at home longer than theother two, right, and I of
course didn't have kids rightaway, although if I did, they
would have been enjoying it tooat that time and just it was
important for me.
And then, when I was married,to go over and I did have some
(02:51):
nice time with my parents,sundays were generally the day
you would go over there and wehad dinner with everybody
usually on Sunday.
My siblings would come overlater in the day, but my husband
and I and I really appreciatethat I had this opportunity with
my parents was Sunday morningsbecause we didn't have kids,
right, we would make it a pointto go over there for breakfast
(03:14):
and my other two sisters did notget moving.
That early.
Kerry (03:18):
Well, because my one sister had kids and stuff.
Chrisy (03:20):
And so we would have the paper and we would all sort of
toss the sections of the paperwith a sort of alternate around
the table Right, and we wouldeat breakfast together and just
talk about some things, and thenusually my husband and I would
go home for a little bit andthen we would come back for
dinner later.
But I'm, I am glad we had thosemoments in the morning.
(03:42):
That was just me and my husbandand my parents.
Yeah, I appreciate that.
But the pool opening thing was,it was interesting, it was an
event, it was a little bit of anevent.
What made it such an event?
Well, you had to get the coveroff of it.
That's first and foremost.
And my father had, like these,inflatables in it that would
(04:03):
keep the cover from being ableto sag in the middle right after
you've gone through a fall,winter and spring of rain and
snow and everything else andleaves falling, yes, so that way
it was more manageable.
So it didn't scoop down in themiddle right because then you'd
be worried if the weight of itwould all be concentrated in one
place, it would break throughand you'd have a whole problem
(04:24):
so the gucky water would prettymuch go to the sides.
And the one thing during thosetime periods when we would get a
lot of rain or snow, that myfather was so nice to ask of you
but he did it himself too, buthe expected you to do it as well
.
He had like a hose himself to,but he expected you to do it as
(04:48):
well.
He had like a hose.
It was like this clear hosethat he stuck on the cover with
like this brick to hold it down.
Okay, so basically now he wasgoing to siphon the water off.
It basically sat in the middleof that gook and he would go out
, or he would ask you to go outand you would take the hose that
was running out of the top ofthe pool onto the ground and he
would tell you to put it in yourmouth.
Kerry (05:08):
Oh, you had to start the siphon.
You had to start it.
Chrisy (05:12):
And so you didn't question it.
Dad said to do it your butt'sgoing to be in that pool this
summer.
You're going to do that, soyou'd go out there and you'd
pull the water through and you'dspit it all out and be like, oh
good, I guess I can't believe Ijust did that.
That's what we would do.
So usually you could come overto my parents house at some
point and see somebody out there.
(05:33):
You'd be like what the hell arethey doing back there?
it don't look good we don't talkabout that so, yeah, you had to
get the stuff off the top ofthe pool, and when we were
taking the cover off, the wholegoal was to be able to take the
cover off in a way where nothinggot in the pool.
Kerry (05:48):
My father you didn't want that gook in the pool.
Chrisy (05:50):
No, and even when you get the liquid off of it, it
still had dried crap all over it.
And my father prided himself onhaving crystal clear water from
the word go.
And I don't remember everhaving that pool opened up where
it was cloudy or anything andthere was a lot of yelling and a
lot of you know.
Kerry (06:10):
don't let that fall in there it was a lot of stress.
Chrisy (06:13):
Yeah, in fact, one year, I do remember, my husband came
to the rescue because the coverwas going and nobody had the one
end and it was going to go downand a bunch of damn yucky stuff
was about to pour into thatcrystal blue water and god love
him, he jumped nick saved theday that water was probably only
(06:34):
about 50 degrees.
If you're lucky because it was.
Kerry (06:38):
You jumped all the way in the pool.
Chrisy (06:39):
Oh yeah, he had to jump in to hold it up and it stopped
it.
He, he and my father reallyappreciated that and my father
would bring it up.
Yeah, I definitely got my goldstar for that summer.
Kerry (06:50):
You got brawny points that day.
Chrisy (06:51):
Well, that was the whole summer he would refer to yeah.
Nick got in there and got themleaves out of there.
I was in good after that, yeah,probably.
Well, you always were kind of alittle bit better than me, yeah
, probably favorite child.
So yeah, so the pool would comeoff and then it would be all.
(07:13):
It would be.
Go time for us to get the.
Kerry (07:18):
Never had a heater on the yeah, cool, that might have
been hard, though, in ohiothough well, believe it or not,
because most pools in Ohio,probably especially nowadays, do
have heaters Right.
Chrisy (07:29):
Because how are you going to get your monies?
Kerry (07:31):
That's what I'm saying, so it might have.
It was hard, for how did hekeep it so you could use it?
So much, did you have a solarcover.
Chrisy (07:36):
We did have that for a little while when they first
came out.
My father of father, of course,always liked to get the brand
new toys that were out and Iremember we had it, but those
things were a pain in the buttbecause you had to put it on and
then you had to take it off.
But we did have it and but Ithink he actually stored it one
year in a shed and I think somerats or mice must have gone into
the shed and they basicallyripped holes all through it so
(07:59):
he threw it away.
He never replaced it.
We were fortunate enough towhere the pool was located in
the yard.
Kerry (08:04):
Yeah.
Chrisy (08:04):
It pretty much got sun all day.
That's good, so it would getwarm.
When I was a kid I didn't carewhat the temperature of the
water was Right exactly.
I could get now if the water'snot like covering near 90, it's
like I just really don't want tobe in it.
That's being old, but beingyounger if it was in the
seventies you suffer through, oh, I'll get used to it, I'll get
(08:26):
used to it.
Yeah, I mean, my lips are blueand, yes, I'm freezing to death,
but it just, it takes time.
You get used to it.
So, so, yeah, that that wasgenerally a stressful day.
Yeah, it was usually held onour Sunday when he knew
everybody was going to at leastcome around, so you had more
hands.
Kerry (08:42):
Well then they'd have a meal afterwards.
Chrisy (08:44):
I mean there was incentive, I guess.
Right so yeah, so the poolopening, it was the start of
summer and it was a big deal andit was generally unpleasant
while it happened.
Kerry (08:54):
But you got through it.
It was worth it yeah.
Chrisy (08:56):
Yeah.
Kerry (08:58):
So what did you guys do?
Well, we didn't have.
The.
One of the things that my dadhad when I was growing up was he
did have a boat.
So he had gotten this boat.
Who knows how he got it To thisday.
I'm not really sure how heafforded it because, again, we
didn't have a lot of money.
He probably had a scratch-offticket or something that hit.
So he got some money.
So he got this little metalfishing boat type of thing and
(09:20):
it was nothing fancy, trust me,it was nothing fancy.
Trust me, it was nothing fancy.
But so we had this boat that wewould take out.
So I remember the beginning ofthe summer we would, you know,
had to get the boat ready to getit all cleaned up and again
getting all the from thecritters over the winter that
found safe haven in there andyou'd be finding, like you know,
nuts and you know these walnutsand stuff the shells were all
(09:45):
in there from some critter thatgot their way in there.
So we're digging all that out,cleaning that out, but I'll
never forget one of the firstoutings, when we got the boat
ready.
So we go out to the lake andwe're going to go fishing
because my dad wanted to.
He liked to fish and we fisheda lot growing up and we were on
the boat and I had one of thosefishing pools that was for kids
that had the little like button.
So so when you went to cast it,would you just the button and
(10:05):
then you would let go and itwould cast out instead of the
reel.
Oh, because my dad was in theback of the boat.
I was in the front of the boatand we get, you know, spent the
whole previous day getting theboat ready, getting ready for
the summer, our first summerouting.
And we go out to the lake, weget in, we get out to the middle
of the lake okay, we're gonnastart fishing.
He's casting out the back.
I went to cast out the front.
(10:26):
I hit the button and threw itout there.
Well, the button got stuck andso the line didn't keep going.
It stopped and so it swung, andthe line swung all the way
around behind and it hooked mydad and oh, oh, it's better.
It only hooked them, but itliterally hooked him right on
the mouth.
(10:46):
Oh my gosh and it had a littleminnow on it and the little
minnow was hanging out the sideof his mouth.
And I just remember turningaround like we both turned
around to look at each other andI thought, oh, I'm gonna die,
this is gonna be the last day Ilive.
And he just reached up, tookthe little fishing hook with the
minnow on from his mouth.
(11:08):
We're going in.
And that's all he said.
And we very quietly drove backto shore, seven, 10 miles into
town.
Get home.
I'm the whole time like, oh,I'm going to get a beating, I'm
going to get a beating, this isgoing to be bad.
Never said a word Now to thisday.
He will.
Well, obviously not now becausehe's passed away, but up until
he died he would tell that storyand laugh and laugh and laugh.
(11:31):
But not when it happened, oh,not that day, not that weekend.
It probably took a couplemonths.
And I think when we firstwalked into the house, I walked
in first and mom's like what areyou doing back at home?
And I'm like I hooked dad inthe mouth and he's going to beat
me.
I'm like hysterical.
Dad comes in, he was quiet, hedidn't say a word.
(11:53):
I'm telling you.
For like two days he didn't saya word, and then afterwards,
then he finally laughed about it.
Chrisy (11:59):
But I mean it's totally an accident.
Kerry (12:02):
Oh, it was totally an accident.
But the irony of it all to beto land, not only just get stuck
and to hit him, but to hit himand land in the like right there
in the corner of the mouth, andto this day I can see that
little minnow.
Oh my gosh, yeah, I never wentout on the boat.
I don't really remember muchgoing on the boat after that
(12:23):
fishing.
Chrisy (12:24):
Aw, that's a bummer.
I'm kind of bummed out for you.
I did go not with my.
My father was that would not besomething he would do, he
wasn't ever into fishing oranything.
I had neighbors that werereally into it and they would
sometimes take me for a weekend,gentleman and his wife we were
really close with and they had aplace it was called lake
(12:44):
tomahawk.
And uh, what county was that?
I was gonna say, where's thatup?
Kerry (12:48):
that's in Columbiana.
It was in Columbiana, so theyhad like a cabin there.
Chrisy (12:51):
Yeah, and he was a big time fisher.
Yeah, and he that was.
He loved fishing, and so it wasfun to learn to do that from
him.
Kerry (13:02):
Yeah, my dad wasn't into it.
Chrisy (13:03):
So I did get some time fishing with him.
We used to.
I always wanted one of thosepoles.
Yeah, that would be like eventhe casting.
Yeah, because to me in my mind,that's what fishing is supposed
to look like casting.
He's not sitting.
The gentleman didn't have those.
His name was george.
George didn't have those kindof poles for me, right, and I'm
sure he probably used thembecause he was fairly schooled
(13:24):
with doing this.
Yeah, but he used this kind too.
It was a.
To my mind it seemed like itwas as high as a building.
It was a bamboo, oh, and onthis bamboo pole that to me
seemed to be 20 feet long yeah,yeah, yeah had different areas
yes of hooks, yes, and you wouldtake it and then being a kid
(13:45):
again.
That I was able to do this isprobably a testament to his
patience.
He was fairly patient man.
I had to be the one that putthe worm on it.
Oh yeah, I was required to dothis.
If I wanted to participate inthis activity and he, you didn't
just put a whole worm right, hein the saving.
You would like quarter it right, or with your finger pieces,
(14:06):
yeah, and slide it on.
Kerry (14:08):
I can't believe I did this stuff.
I did it though.
I could do it as a kid all daylong.
But now, if we go fishing, I'mlike to Jim, I'm like, okay, you
need to bait my hook for me.
Chrisy (14:17):
Well, you're better than me, because there's just no way
in hell I'm going fishing atall, yeah, and then you would
catch we do blue there's perchand rainbow trouts and bluegill.
I mean the lake was fairly wellstocked.
The only thing I could never dowas I could never, ever, take
the fish off the hook.
Kerry (14:34):
He always had to do that for me.
Chrisy (14:35):
I think I tried one time and I totally panicked.
I couldn't get the hook off ofit and I was afraid that the
scales were going to, because Iknow you had to like reach and
push the scales or the fin orwhatever the hell you were
touching on there.
Kerry (14:53):
And hell, you were touching on there and slimy and
wet, and I mean think, okay,well, you did the worm, what's
wrong with this?
But, and you know, and you feellike you're hurting it, we
never kept the fit.
Chrisy (14:55):
Well, I did, we would throw them back, which is really
actually horrible becauseyou're like damaging something
and then hopefully it's going tosurvive after you've did what
you did to it.
Yeah, I could never, ever dothe taking the fish off.
Yeah, but I do remember thattime, him and his wife, betty.
George passed away quite awhile ago.
Betty probably within the lasteight years maybe, I think she's
(15:16):
probably passed away.
Yeah, we always stayed veryclose with them.
Like I said, they wereneighbors of mine growing up and
just great people.
So, yeah.
So the fishing thing you'retalking about, the fact that you
did this to your father, yeah,and he didn't say anything.
Yeah, total silence.
This, going along with myswimming pool summer story, is
my father was fairly meticulousin his appearance.
(15:37):
Okay, which is a nice thing.
I appreciate the fact that myfather but most people I'm sure
your dad was he took care of.
Everybody takes care ofthemselves.
Yeah, my father, I just feellike took it another level.
Like his time in the morning toget ready for the day was
actually longer than my mother.
Oh, I mean, he had to.
(15:57):
He had a ritual.
He had a ritual.
His hair had to be styled andmy father had beautiful hair.
Kerry (16:03):
Yeah, he did.
Chrisy (16:04):
And you probably looked at it and thought it wasn't even
real because it was that nice?
Yeah, but it was, and he wouldstyle his hair and hairspray it
and he was very well cologned.
Kerry (16:16):
I was just going to say didn't your dad have a whole
bunch of colognes?
Chrisy (16:21):
Yes, I remember something about a whole bunch of
bottles.
Yeah, he liked to have hisfragrances.
So we were in the pool and myfather was a very good swimmer
and he actually used to sort ofdo some competitive diving
nothing real serious, but Ithink just with like the one of
the watering holes they used tofrequent.
he would compete with diving andstuff with other boys and
people remember him being ableto do it fairly well.
(16:41):
We were in the pool.
Now you didn't know for sure.
There were days, most of thetime dad did not get his hair
wet.
Right he was in the pool withyou and he would like to enjoy.
But there were times when hewould full-on swim right and get
his hair wet and everything andhe liked to sort of pick at you
a little bit in the pool.
And so he would do this thingwhere he would cup his hands and
he would pound right down withhis hands real hard and it would
(17:05):
shoot the water up very yeswell, he would do this so many
times at you where it just wouldbe like almost like water,
torture, waterboarded.
Yes, I mean he would sit thereand just continually do it at
you and you're just getting hitconstantly in the face.
Well, the one time I finallyjust had had enough, and maybe
the rules weren't completelyexplained to me until after this
(17:27):
incident, so I went back at himand I splashed him to try and
get him to stop splashing me,and I got his hair all wet.
He stopped, he got out of thepool and he walked away and
never said a word to me See,isn't that like the worst?
Well, I mean, I was just likewhat's the fairness in this,
though I wasn't afraid he wasgoing to do anything to me
(17:49):
except maybe yell.
But the silence sometimes isworse than the yelling, that's
what I'm saying.
Kerry (17:53):
The worst is that silence , that just they walk and they
stop talking and they walk away.
Chrisy (17:58):
Yeah.
Kerry (18:00):
Now, for me, the worry was what's going to happen when
he comes back, and that was justbecause of the cycle of the
situation I was in.
Chrisy (18:07):
Right, but still I didn't have that.
Kerry (18:09):
But see, for me that's where it was probably why the
silence was scary, because itwas like, well, what comes after
the silence?
Chrisy (18:16):
I was more offended that we were not on a playing, an
even playing level here Right.
But again, my understanding toowas, though, that I generally
did have a good understandingthat I was the kid.
Yeah, was though that Igenerally did have a good
understanding that I was the kidyeah, and that you could not
retaliate.
And he was the dad.
Yeah, that's why he always gotfirst dibs on the food and first
dibs on what we were watchingwhen we had to share a
(18:38):
television.
Oh, and you only watched what,dad?
was watching dad's rules untilthey finally threw me a bone and
got me my own tv.
Yeah so yeah, but I was alwayskind of bummed out about that.
Kerry (18:47):
I was like man, I'm a sore loser did you ever talk
about that with your dad laterin life?
No, oh, that's a hard.
Chrisy (18:54):
No, no no, I don't remember ever being able to do
that with my dad, and I'm notsaying it's a personality defect
or that it speaks volumes aboutmaybe the dysfunction, but with
the uncomfortable situationsthat maybe occurred, like that,
where he, in his way, eitherdisciplined or treated you with
(19:15):
silence because he didn'tapprove of what you did, you
didn't bring it up again.
Kerry (19:20):
No, so even as an adult, you're never able to go back and
talk about some of thesedysfunctions or whatever.
No, that was one.
That was kind of one thingwhere, as dysfunctional as
things were as we got older andI and I can't say that maybe my
sisters do and maybe it was justme, because I'm just open and I
want to talk about things youknow but we did talk about, like
(19:40):
that that story with the fishwould would come up a lot you
know and you know, or otherthings we would talk about in.
Yeah, like one time, what youwant to talk about being naughty
here's, here's something I didall right, here we go.
It's not that bad, but still thegirl that was bullying me, the
one that I talked about in theprevious episode about the
glockenspiel that she clack, Iclack and spilled her.
(20:00):
Yeah, nick nick so one.
After that happened, she wouldprank phone, call the house to
explain this to people.
Chrisy (20:09):
I know.
Kerry (20:09):
This is true.
So you know, back in the day,when you had the phone on the
wall with the line and peoplewould call, you know your number
, and you'd pick up hello, hello, and there'd be nobody there.
Or they would say somethingstupid Say something really
stupid or whatever you know andhang up and you didn't have a.
What number it is?
Chrisy (20:27):
There was a little while where you didn't have caller ID
.
You didn't have caller ID.
Kerry (20:30):
Once in a while you could at one point do the reverse
dial.
I got home from school it wasthat week that she was suspended
and the phone kept ringing andkept ringing and it was nobody
there.
Nobody there, nobody there.
I was home by myself.
It was right after school andmy mom was out of town.
I don't know where she was at,but I just remember she was out
(20:58):
of town.
So it was just me and dad, butdad was not home from work yet.
I picked up the phone.
I got so irritated it keptbeing nobody there and I knew.
I just knew it had to be thisgirl.
I went off and I did.
You know, that's that scenefrom the Christmas story where
the dad's swearing all thesewords.
You know well, that was, thatwas me.
I just said everything.
I was like you bleepity, bleep,bleep, bleep, and you effing
bleep, bleep, bleep.
I just I went off, hung thephone up.
Phone rings again.
(21:18):
I pick up.
It was my dad.
Oh, is that who you?
Chrisy (21:21):
said all those words to yes.
Oh timing is bad.
Kerry (21:27):
Well, here he got stuck at work or something and there
was some bad connection.
So he could hear me, but Iwasn't hearing him.
So he kept calling to try totell me that he was going to be
late or whatever.
And then he hears me, just thiswhole string of words.
He probably never thought thathis daughter knew much about
(21:48):
anything.
But I remember years later wehad a conversation about that
story and here he never.
He said he was going to tell mymom, but he never did tell my
mom.
But would she have punished you?
Oh, probably, really probably.
I would have probably beensentenced to extra masses and
more hail, marys and rosariesand god knows what but?
(22:11):
but going back to the talkingabout things with your parents
after the fact, so we did wewould have occasions where we
would talk about things likethat.
Chrisy (22:19):
I would have that and I still do have that.
Sometimes things that I didthat actually horrified my
mother.
Kerry (22:25):
And so you talked.
You can talk to your mom,because you never had a chance
to talk to your dad about those.
Chrisy (22:29):
Yeah, the chances might've been there, but that,
just that wasn't how ourrelationship was, yeah, and you
just didn't do that.
You kind of had to know.
Yeah, dad was willing to talkto you.
I mean, I had some greatconversations with my father
don't get me wrong and I feel ingeneral I had a good
relationship with him you know,nobody's perfect.
Kerry (22:46):
Yeah, that that wouldn't have been any sort of part of
our talking back and forth, orWell, this morphed into a little
bit different than just talkingabout summer, talking about our
relationships there with ourdad.
So any other summer traditionsthat you did.
Chrisy (23:01):
When I was younger.
No, the pool was basicallypretty much it.
You know we didn't really dothe vacation thing on a regular
basis.
We had kind of talked aboutthat before and generally
vacation was in the fall becausethat's when their anniversary
was and if I got pulled intohaving to go with them because
my sisters were out of the housealready, so you just enjoyed,
you know, the swimming pool andyou know, just having fun with
(23:23):
neighborhood kids, yeah, orbeing tortured by these, this
other dysfunctional family.
You had to hang around with orhurting people's fingers and
look forward to that.
Kerry (23:32):
And bikes a typical kid of that time period swimming
bikes you know, I think Irealized after the fact one of
the reasons why I so lookforward to summer is I had a lot
of alone.
That was when I had my alonetime because both parents worked
.
I would be left home alone fromnine-ish in the morning until
one or two in the afternoon, somy mom might work a half day or
(23:54):
whatever, but I had a lot oftime to myself.
And I think that's kind ofsometimes why I think why I like
summertime so much and enjoylike going on vacations or just
enjoy spending my time outsideby myself.
That was my solace.
That was like recovery timefrom everything I went through
in the previous year at schoolor whatever.
You know, yeah, that was mysolace.
That was like recovery timefrom everything I went through
in the previous year at schoolor whatever.
(24:15):
You know, yeah, that summer.
So I love summer.
It's my favorite time of year.
Chrisy (24:19):
Yeah, no it's, I don't have any.
I have pretty much just goodmemories of summer for the most
part, and, you know, do you goto movies.
It didn't do too many drive.
We had drive in movies.
Yeah, movies, yeah we did, butmainly you would just go to the
theater.
Yeah, a lot, and you know itwas.
Summers were good, what can yousay?
(24:39):
We played.
We had a patio and I doremember, uh, fingers slash,
natalie.
We would play a lot of monopolyor trivial pursuit, oh yeah,
and we would have some real goodgames down there with that.
So in between swimming, wewould do that, that's fun.
Kerry (24:54):
Yeah, good times, good times, absolutely.
Do you think your kids are kindof like summer people?
Yeah, like you get people thatprefer winter in the cold or
summer outside warm.
How do you think it'stransitioned to them?
Chrisy (25:07):
Yeah, no, I think they do like to be out, they like the
outdoors.
My, I think they do like to beout, they like the outdoors.
My oldest, she played baseballfor a while.
Then she's real involved withtennis and she started into some
track too.
But she definitely likes to goout.
She roller.
She has a skateboard, yeah, andshe amazes me.
She just basically gets on thisshe's got her phone, yeah,
(25:31):
she's holding on to her phoneand she just takes that
skateboard out, jumps on it, itis down and texting and
everything, and she's her handsand she's completely balanced on
the thing and she skateboards.
That's awesome, we have it.
This is a nice.
Where we live now is a goodneighborhood.
We have good families here andthere's kids here, yeah, and
she'll usually go and hang withsome of the kids.
She's kind of the oldest by ayear or two, but there are still
(25:51):
kids close enough to her agewhere she can sort of relate to
them and hang around with them.
That's fun, and we have a golfcart now, which is fun.
Kerry (25:58):
I was thinking about your golf cart because I'm training
for this marathon, been doing acouple of 5Ks, have a half
marathon that I'm going to bedoing just to kind of help train
and stuff.
But I was thinking about whenwe run the marathon.
I was like, oh yeah, one ofthese, one of these shows or
whatever one of these episodesor times we're here, we should
do a Facebook Live of mepracticing for the marathon and
(26:19):
you could be following me in thegolf cart encouraging me.
Chrisy (26:23):
As soon as people think of how can I find someone who
will encourage me, I'm the firstperson that probably comes into
their mind, of course, ofcourse, so reassuring, it'll be
an episode of Carrie go, yeah,go faster.
Kerry (26:40):
No, faster.
Chrisy (26:41):
You look like you're getting tired.
Do you want this water?
Nah, you don't want no water.
Look at me drink the water,carrie, yummy.
Kerry (26:48):
Well, I am just so excited that summer is here.
We've got some great topicscoming up over the summer that
we're going to be talking aboutsharing with you, and more
events to come, so please besure to keep tuning in.
Check us out on our Facebookpage, share with us your summer
traditions, your opening summertraditions or things you'd like
to do in the summer.
We want to hear it all.
Chrisy (27:08):
Yes, and make sure you get a lot of vitamin D.
Everybody, wear sunscreen.
We want to hear it all.
Kerry (27:11):
Yes, and make sure you get a lot of vitamin D.
Everybody, wear sunscreen.
Oh, yes, please do.
All right, everyone, have agreat week.
We'll see you next time.
Bye-bye, everybody.
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