June 11, 2025 • 30 mins
Wedding cakes on chandeliers, fondant masterpieces smuggled from Las Vegas hotels, brides dirty dancing with everyone except the groom—these are just a few highlights from our laugh-out-loud part two exploration of wedding dysfunctions.
We're picking up where we left off last week, diving into the evolution of wedding cake trends from the elaborate fountain-adorned creations of the 80s to today's artistic fondant designs. Kerry reveals the great cake escape story from her Mandalay Bay wedding, complete with seashells and brown sugar "sand" that had to be wheeled through the casino and smuggled home.
Have wedding stories of your own? Share your cake photos or cookie table memories for our upcoming Thankful Sunday episode. Because when it comes to wedding dysfunction, misery loves company—and makes for excellent podcast material!
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DJ Nick (00:07):
Welcome to the Dysfunction.
Junkies Podcast.
We may not have seen it all,but we've seen it all.
And now here are your hosts,Chrisy and Kerry.
Kerry (00:22):
Hello Junkies, I'm Kerry
Chrisy (00:24):
and I'm Chrisy
Kerry (00:25):
.
Well, we went down the rabbithole of weddings and we didn't
get to talk about half of whatwe wanted to.
So here we are, part two, Parttwo.
Chrisy (00:34):
Weddings Of the greatest event in everyone's life.
Kerry (00:41):
Yes, well, let's see, I think, where we left off is we
were starting to talk about.
We were talking about thereception and you guys falling
for each other literally as youwere exiting the room, and so
what's good where we want topick up with.
How about the cake?
Chrisy (00:56):
Yeah, the cake is, it's wonderful.
And boy, I tell you what theydo with cakes now.
Kerry (01:01):
I'm jealous.
Yeah, so we didn't have thoseoptions.
You were cheated.
Chrisy (01:06):
A little bit.
Yeah, I mean, cause my cakewasn't anything fancy and the
only thing that was fancy aboutit and it was kind of a thing.
And boy does this date Like.
I remember my my oldest sisterwhen she got married.
It was those typical earlyeighties, late seventies, 80s,
late 70s, early 80s cakes thathad, like all the wedding party
was represented by a littlefigurine.
Kerry (01:27):
Oh, okay.
Chrisy (01:28):
With the.
Usually there was a littlefountain in the middle.
And there were like littlestaircases and you put all the
little bridesmaids and groomsmen, with the bride and groom on
top.
I mean, that's what she had.
Kerry (01:38):
Right.
Chrisy (01:39):
And that was like wonderful then, right.
I mean, if you saw that nowyou'd probably be like, oh my
God, this is so horrible.
But then it was what you had,right?
I think there was a little bitof a time period that this was
sort of popular when I gotmarried in the early 90s,
putting your cake on achandelier.
I never saw that was actuallylighted.
Mine was on a chandelier thatwas actually lit up Really.
Kerry (02:02):
Yeah, a chandelier, like you mean, like it was like the
cake stand was crystal and thecake stand was like I think it
was actually maybe gold, uh huh,like a can, like a chandelier,
that was hanging from theceiling.
Chrisy (02:16):
My cake was not hanging from the ceiling.
That's what I'm imagining itwas basically taking the
chandelier off the ceiling,putting it on top of a table and
then placing your little cakepieces around it.
And it was illuminated.
We can post this.
I guess I have the rights tothat now, since I did purchase
my negatives.
(02:36):
And so that was kind of a thing.
But I tell you, if I had to doit again, again, here you just
sort of think oh, if I could doit again.
I tell you, if I had to do itagain again here you just sort
of think, oh, if I could do itagain, just with the use of
fresh flowers, or even just thesimplicity of some of these,
that speaks volumes, even morethan the extreme extravagance
that people used to do or maybestill do.
(02:59):
Yeah, I don't understand thefondant thing.
Kerry (03:01):
Well, I have.
Actually, we had fondant on onmy well, jim and i's wedding.
So, from here on out, when Isay my wedding, we're just going
to talk about the third one,the most important one, right?
Okay, so, but we actually wehave a funny thing about our
cake.
Okay, because we had to sneakit out of the hotel.
Chrisy (03:19):
Wait a minute, here we.
What are you talking about?
Kerry (03:26):
Okay, so we got married at the Mandalay Bay in Las Vegas
and this is when they had theirown chapel.
That was out by, and theMandalay Bay if you've never
been there is very like tropicalthemed and they have a big,
huge pool that's like palm treesall around it has a sand bottom
pool and like it looks likeyou're sitting at the beach.
You know, all around it has asand bottom pool and like it
looks like you're sitting at thebeach.
(03:46):
You know.
Well, they had a buildingseparate from the casino and the
hotel.
That was their wedding chapeland it was beautiful.
So, even though we got marriedin Las Vegas and we were at one
of the casinos, it didn't feellike you were in a casino and
you weren't doing the drive byand you didn't have Elvis and
you didn't.
You know it was actually it was.
You know I'd want Elvis, I knowyou would, but that's why we
(04:08):
picked this one chapel.
So of course they have weddingpackages.
So whenever you get marriedthere, you've got, you know, you
get the chapel, you get theflowers included, you know.
So they have this basic package.
Well, part of it was you couldhave, you know, your cake.
Well, like I mentioned beforeis, we got married and we all
went to the bar where they had alittle band playing, so we had
(04:29):
a little, you know, a little,get together.
Right afterwards, the next dayis really when we had the
reception and we basically had abig cookout at our house and
that's when we wanted the cake.
They brought the cake up to ourroom because that's where we
were gonna like, we had this bigsuite, so the reception was
supposed to be in our room.
(04:50):
They brought the cake up to theroom and it was on this
beautiful, like you know,rolling nice table and it had
this very simple two-layerfondant covered cake that was
all like beachy.
It had like seashells and itwas.
It was really beautiful.
They had like brown sugar thatlooked like sand.
Chrisy (05:08):
Yes, I do, we should.
I can post it.
Kerry (05:11):
Post it okay yeah, I took the picture so I can post it.
I own the rights to the picture.
so we're like, oh, we neverthought about how we were gonna
get this cake home.
You know, like that just neverended our mind.
So here we are, rolling thiscake down the hall of the you
know 30 something floor of theMandalay Bay, down the escalator
(05:34):
, rolling it out to the valetparking lot.
It was a big cake and it was onthis nice like, oh, I'm sure
it's just fake marble plastic,but you know.
So we're like shoot, how are wegoing to?
Well, we're just going to justtake it like this.
So we snuck it out.
And now I say snuck.
We bought the damn cake.
It wasn't, you know, but it wasnot intended for transfer, it
(05:55):
was meant to be eaten at thehotel.
So, but yeah, that was ourfondant cake.
It was really pretty.
Chrisy (06:03):
So what were your?
Did you have a specific color,oh, no Theme, or was it just the
nice simple like ivory or white?
Kerry (06:12):
It was just very simple, yeah, yeah, my sister-in-law
made my dress and it was kind oflike a silvery, like a bluish,
silvery, simple dress.
She made it for me.
It was, you know, not the bigkind of a dress, but it was.
(06:32):
It was nice for a third wedding.
It wasn't white because, again,third wedding, because
everything was already decorated.
The hotel was very liketropical themed, you know.
But it was elegant, but yeah,but the cake was a beach theme
wonderful.
Chrisy (06:39):
Well, I knew there are people who have been married
more than once that continuallygo back to the white wedding
white cake, not cake dress.
Kerry (06:47):
Yeah, this is my wedding, I wore a white dress yeah lace
yeah, so I don't know but notfroofy, right?
Well, yeah, no, they probablyget less froofy.
Chrisy (06:55):
I guess I don't yeah, the fondant, because maybe I
didn't, maybe it wasn't really,it wasn't maybe really a thing
yet yeah, it right, correct,back when we got you have so
much the capability of what youcan do.
Yes, with how you're going todecorate your cake.
Yes, the fondant offers awonderful flexibility and
(07:15):
options with that and I guesswhen I got married it was still
old school, so you just wantedall the lovely frosting, yes,
and the sweeter, the better andthe better.
And the other way I was a realtraditionalist.
Sometimes you go to theseweddings and they have these
wonderful cake flavors Like andthere'll be more than one.
Oh wait, do you have?
Kerry (07:32):
a picture of it.
I have a picture.
Oh yeah, oh, you have it rightthere, yeah.
Chrisy (07:50):
It had like all these were like seashells'm glad
because now I got a good idea ofwhat that looks like.
That that is beautiful.
I am jealous because, again, mycake was lovely and it was very
good and you know, we took partin what was, I guess, sort of
the the theme of the time withthe chandelier thing, and uh,
chandelier I can't wait to see apicture of that.
Yeah, it was what it was.
You know again, if you had todo it again when you got married
(08:10):
as an older person, yeah, mycake would have been much
different.
Yeah, would you let me smash itin your face this time?
Oh, yeah.
Kerry (08:17):
Okay, so here's where this goes.
Chrisy (08:19):
You just if you've been at a wedding where this occurs
and everybody sort of eggs onthe couple with doing this.
Usually by the time you get tothe cake, people have had a few
beverages by then.
Everybody's a little bit hyperand intense and they really want
to see someone get nailed withthis.
Kerry (08:38):
And I was like.
Chrisy (08:39):
I was so like, first of all, I spent a lot of money on
my dress, Did a lot of time withmakeup, Again with my makeup, I
wasn't spent a lot of money onmy dress, did a lot of time with
makeup again with my makeup?
I wasn't going to get the asheson my head.
Kerry (08:50):
So now why am I going?
Chrisy (08:51):
to wear cake, I'm opting out again.
Horrible human being not therefor your entertainment.
So I did pretty much threatenmy future husband slash husband
with his life if he dare smushthat thing.
So we had the most probablyboring and most civilized the
(09:11):
cake exchange in the history ofthe cake cutting, bride and
groom sharing.
Thank you for being kind.
I think if we did get marriednow probably would be fun to
smush cake at each other.
Kerry (09:25):
And I'm sure we probably, maybe we should just do this
for the hell of it.
Chrisy (09:28):
I don't know, yeah, but so yeah, but I mean gosh, some
of these people they get yeah.
Kerry (09:35):
Oh, I have an issue with that Again, I think personally,
my personal opinion is, if thebride and groom smush the cake
on their faces, each other'sfaces, I think that is a first
sign of dysfunction in theirmarriage and they will end in
divorce.
And I always, I cringe, I'malways like, oh god, please.
(09:57):
You know, especially if Ireally like the couple and I we
get to the cake part, I'm likeoh god, please, don't, please,
don't do it, please, don't getit.
And I am like I'm, I'm gettingall worked up until they do the
cake.
And then, you know, if it'scivil, then it's like, oh good,
okay, yeah, they're gonna makeit good they got a chance this
fascinating.
Chrisy (10:13):
I think this would make an incredible study for somebody
who was doing a research orsomething like that, and maybe
even your personal, becauseyou've been to weddings.
Yes, so just you don't have toname names or anything else, but
just like shuffle back in yourmemory with these weddings.
And who did the extreme?
Do you know if you have thedata that supports your idea
(10:34):
that the worse off people aresmushing that cake at each other
.
Are they still married now I?
Kerry (10:40):
have to think Because, I will tell you, most all the
weddings I've been to they havenot smushed and all of those
people are still married.
So I'm trying, I know I've beento some where they have smushed
but they were not like close,like it might have been someone
like Jim knew, or extended, youknow.
So and I'm trying to thinkabout like those ones, if they
smushed, and then do I know themenough now?
(11:00):
No, they're not married.
I'm gonna start keeping trackof that yeah, that's a good
that's a good one like a overyears
Chrisy (11:06):
yeah at a thing you need to mark okay, smush cake.
Kerry (11:09):
Five years, ten years, oh nope, divorced off the and I
will tell you when jim and I didour vow renewal and they had a
cake there.
No, no, no, no, you didn't, no,no no, no, no okay.
but but I can say I could see insome relationships where that
could be okay, like so it's a nofor me personally, but I could
(11:30):
see, like how you guys weresaying like I could see that
being totally like oh yeah,that's, we've grown into that
and it would be OK.
It's just on a personalpreference.
No, I still don't want that andit didn't happen.
But I could see as a vowrenewal or 2050 anniversary or
50th anniversary doing it thengiven that you've had several
years of like.
Chrisy (11:48):
you know you've made it in your evasion.
And there's that one thing thatbothers you about this person.
You know they snore too much.
The damn toilet seat you leftup again.
You never put the toilet seatdown and I think then it's
humorous.
Kerry (12:02):
Right.
Chrisy (12:02):
You know what another telltale sign is that probably a
marriage isn't going to workout.
What when you go to a weddingand the bride is dirty dancing
with every other person at thewedding except the groom?
Yes, and I've been to such athing.
No.
First of all, a theme wedding'sgreat and, if you like, a
(12:24):
rustic wedding, yes, absolutely.
Kerry (12:26):
Yeah.
Chrisy (12:26):
You know it's all about what means to you and your, your
future husband, your futurespouse.
Kerry (12:32):
Right.
Chrisy (12:32):
This was at a, and this is more about me.
It has nothing to do with them,their choice.
I was going to a wedding andremember I was much younger too
this was quite a long time agowhere I was not told what type
of wedding it was Right.
Kerry (12:46):
Okay.
And when we got there, so youdidn't get a hint by the
invitation, or it didn't sayblack tie or casual, or wear a
costume, or where you know itwas.
Just here's the date.
Chrisy (12:57):
Here we are, boom, here's the wedding okay, and I
expected, uh, because I waswearing a dress that I actually
had bought at bloomingdale's.
Kerry (13:05):
Oh, my word you were going all out well, I, what am I
?
Chrisy (13:09):
I hate to say this my first credit card, because my
mom told me I had an establishedcredit which I was kind of mad
at her because I was like nowyou want me to be committed to
paying a bill.
All the time I've had my lifehas been so easy, you've been
paying everything.
Now you want me to pay forsomething.
So I said I'll show you myfirst credit card.
No, it's not JCPenney, it's not, no, no, bloomingdale's.
(13:29):
Thank you.
Kerry (13:32):
We don't even have a.
Chrisy (13:33):
Bloomingdale's around here.
They had a catalog.
They mailed me a catalog.
Oh okay, and I ordered andstuff was delivered and I had
the card, oh my God.
So I wore a very nice dress andI would have to venture to say
that my dress probably cost waymore than the bride's, although
she was in a legitimate weddingdress, right.
But it was also in like thiswhen you say barn, you think of
something lovely.
(13:53):
So in like this, when you saybarn you think of something
lovely?
Yeah, but this was more like afarm equipment garage.
Oh, it was a very nice open,large space.
Kerry (14:01):
Okay.
Chrisy (14:08):
But in my mind, when I walked in, I could see very
large, big tractors and maybelike a little puppy dog and a
horse walking around saying youknow E-I-E-I-O, but hey,
whatever, but yes, this bridewas like I don't know if she had
too much to drink.
I don't know if this was justin her personality, okay, but we
were sitting at the table andjust people watching.
Kerry (14:31):
Oh, that's the best, that's the best to do.
Chrisy (14:34):
Bride was skirt up gyrating oh, no all over, I'm
like is that the groom?
Kerry (14:41):
no, that's not there, oh my oh wait, there's a new.
Chrisy (14:44):
That's the groom right oh, no, oh oh my, it was just a
bunch.
Is that the groom?
No I just kept getting no'sfrom Nick and there she goes
again after like 14 guys.
I was like whoa and then Ilooked at him and I said Guess
who's not dancing tonight.
(15:05):
You're grounded, unless you areconnected to me with a nice
mellow slow dance.
I'm not going out there todance because as soon as that
girl enters your personal space,I'm entering hers.
Kerry (15:20):
You're going to go all Beth Dutton on her.
Chrisy (15:24):
It was intimidating.
Kerry (15:25):
I wasn't going to go.
Wait, who was intimidating morewasn't going to go.
Wait, who was intimidating more, Chrissy or the bride?
Chrisy (15:32):
That's what I want to know.
No, the bride Chrissy didn'thave to do that I wasn't going
to go up there.
Kerry (15:38):
No, but I mean Chrissy threatening you that if you got
on the floor was moreintimidating than the bride
gyrating on everybody but hernow husband he probably really.
That was probably the one timewhere I laid the law down and he
didn't think.
Chrisy (15:51):
You know you're being a little overbearing.
I think he was like you'realready telling me something I
you don't even have to wasteyour breath on.
So pretty sure nick did updateme shortly thereafter.
Yeah, uh that didn't work outthere we go.
Kerry (16:04):
The writing was kind of on the wall with that one See,
when you were saying barn, atfirst I'm because, see, I love a
good rustic theme and they'relovely and I totally am on board
because it's all about whatmeans to you and some of them.
They, I mean, they really arebeautiful.
But now that you're describingit as a, you know, more of
(16:24):
engine tractor kind of garage,yeah, that does kind of have a
whole different feel.
Chrisy (16:30):
You know how you go to a wedding too, and generally, no
matter where you have it in a in, like a rustic theme, or you
know a social hall, or maybeeven outdoor in, like a gazebo
type thing there's a specifickind of lighting that you expect
when you know you'recelebrating, you're having
dancing, you're having a lovelymeal yeah, it's usually,
generally it's a romantic themeit's a wedding.
(16:53):
So usually the lighting is likeat a certain level.
But this had like Bright LED,because somebody has to work on
this flipping tractor.
They need enough light here.
So the light never came down.
I mean it was like you sawevery blemish and flaw on
everybody.
It was like so bright in thereI mean it was almost like you
stood outside just to sort ofget a break from the brightness,
(17:15):
you know.
Kerry (17:17):
So wow, hey, it is, it is what it is, but the theme
weddings.
Chrisy (17:21):
now you did mention a little bit.
Yeah, I mean, have you everbeen to anything that you really
thought was like really clever,or that you like really were
impressed by the idea of doing atheme type thing?
Kerry (17:30):
I haven't personally, but I've known of people that have
had them.
You know, like this one couplewas really into the oh, what are
those?
Like Renaissance fair, okay,you know.
So everyone was, you know,dressed in the Renaissance fair
and the, you know, the dinnerwas goblets and turkey legs and
(17:51):
stuff, and so it was.
It really was cute.
They were really into it, wasyou know?
So I, I totally can get intothings like that if that's what
they want.
I've just never been invited tosomething like that, right.
And then I also do know somebodythat had a more of a star wars
themed wedding so again, I thinkthose are very yeah again,
personally not my thing, but Ithink if that's what you guys
both love and everything, I haveno problem with themed weddings
(18:12):
like that.
But I do think it's importantto tell your guests so that they
know what to expect.
Right, so you know, if you senda very elegant, you know
calligraphy, beautifulinvitation and then you show up
and it's a hoedown, that wasmisleading to your invitation.
Chrisy (18:30):
Well, I do have to say, with the theme idea of that, I
think that actually does reallyspeak volumes about that couple
getting married.
Because they had a connectionwith something.
Probably might have been whatbrought them together in the
first place.
So to have a wedding thatfollows in with that.
Kerry (18:47):
Yes.
Chrisy (18:48):
I think it's lovely.
Kerry (18:49):
I think those are going to be people that would be on
the more likely to survive theirmarriage list.
Chrisy (18:54):
Yes, as long as the bride's not, you know, dirty
dancing on all the male guests.
Kerry (19:02):
What's your take on honeymoons?
Well, planning.
Chrisy (19:06):
I guess you do a lot of planning for that and where are
you going?
What you know?
Kerry (19:12):
What do you feel about these people that say well,
we're not going to take ourhoneymoon for two years later?
Well, if you really To methat's not a honeymoon.
No, probably not at that point.
Chrisy (19:22):
But you obviously feel like it's something, there's a
place that you really want to go.
But you obviously feel likeit's something, there's a place
that you really want to go, andmaybe the timing is right,
because maybe work or othercommitments are stopping you
from being able to go for aslong as you want, right?
So you have to delay it, right?
Maybe it's a such a anextravagant thing that you dream
of that you want to do and youjust need to save up more money.
(19:43):
You're trying to be responsiblewith it.
Kerry (19:44):
Right so.
Chrisy (19:52):
But don't call it a honeymoon.
No, that's my thing, because bythen you've had enough time
living together.
Although you know people,they're together before weddings
anyhow, so maybe it doesn'treally matter.
But, yeah, they're getting away.
Probably just the idea ofbecause you've planned so much
for a wedding, yeah, and thenjust to have the two of you and
the noise is gone.
Yes, the, the pressure is sortof gone.
Yes, I think that it is nice.
Kerry (20:09):
That was the one thing that I remember that you know we
used to have this place inYoungstown.
That was really, really nice tostay.
I'm sure you would probablyremember it was right across the
street from where our highschool was Wick Pollock yes, the
Wick Pollock.
Chrisy (20:23):
Inn.
That's where I went there mywedding night.
Yes, yes, the Wickpullock Inn,that's right, I went there my
wedding night?
Kerry (20:26):
Yes, so I remember that was like, oh my God, that was
the place to stay.
We're going to stay there onour wedding night.
Well, that was like one of theworst decisions because, first
of all, by the time we checkedin and got there, it was already
like I don't know midnight, onein the morning, and then we
left for our honeymoon that nextday.
(20:46):
So we had to be out by likeeight o'clock in the morning
because we had to go do thebreakfast and get the car and
then get to the airport orwhatever.
So we got in there, we crashed,that was like there was no
honeymooning, but I was like butwe didn't even get to enjoy
this beautiful place and so Iwas like, man, that was not
(21:07):
proper thinking.
Chrisy (21:09):
Well, we chose that.
Like you said that was sort ofthe place that was highly
recommended at that time.
The one thing that we did do,because of the way just our
flight was going to be scheduled, we didn't leave the very next
day to go on our honeymoon, sothat Sunday we were still in
town.
Okay.
(21:30):
So you might've got to enjoy ita little bit, so yeah, so we,
you know, and the fact that myfather said you're leaving and
don't come back, so we didn'thang, you know, and so, yeah, I
mean, but it was, it was a niceplace and now, well, they used
to have a big hotel attached tothat building.
Kerry (21:49):
Yes.
Chrisy (21:50):
And I know the Wick Pollock very well.
On another reason we didn'ttalk about it I probably should
have mentioned it, but it's notthere anymore.
Kerry (21:55):
No, it's not.
Chrisy (21:56):
It was the president's house for a while for the.
Youngstown State, but they usedto have the best Mother's Day.
Yes, we went for Mother's Daythere for a very long time and I
can never say anything badabout it.
It was always lovely.
Kerry (22:10):
Yeah.
Chrisy (22:11):
Yeah, it was very nice, but we left on the Monday.
Yeah, after our wedding.
Kerry (22:16):
Yeah, you know, and speaking of the honeymoon, I
have no problem too with theones that want to do the
destination weddings, becausenow that to me is even more
ideal, especially now as I'molder.
It's the same thing.
It's just like me andeverything else in my life If I
want to get away or if I'mhaving anxiety over big group
events, I just go and go on atrip somewhere.
(22:37):
Here you go.
You can avoid all thedysfunction of all the wedding
planning and a lot of the drama,because now only few people are
going to probably make thatflight to your destination
wedding in Fiji or wherever, andthe fact that you don't, you're
already at your honeymoon.
Yes, you're already there.
(22:58):
Yes, so I have great admirationfor that.
I have no problem and, honestly, as far as like the wedding day
is, it's your day, so why areyou doing all this for everybody
else, you know.
So get there, have yourhoneymoon If other people happen
to be there to see it right,but it's you guys.
So I'm definitely all for thedestination wedding and getting
(23:21):
away and yeah if I wasn't such achicken about going places it
sounds great to me too.
Chrisy (23:28):
The one thing, too, I remember that you kind of miss
out on is after the wedding issaid and done.
We were able to hear thestories of what occurred after
with the wedding party generallyyes, and I do know that our
wedding party, because where wegot our reception was at a hall
which is still over there, mrAnthony's.
Oh yeah, so a big time hallthere in our area and across the
(23:50):
street from that back in theearly 90s was a very popular
night spot.
Oh yes, nick, you got to remindme of the name of it.
It was the Magic Twanger.
Kerry (24:04):
I knew that one.
Chrisy (24:05):
I couldn't remember Big time place and a lot, because of
its location next to that hall.
Kerry (24:12):
And now the Magic Twanger is iHeartRadio, which is one of
the people that, or one of thecompanies that, broadcast our
podcast.
Chrisy (24:19):
Yeah, no, it's definitely that, and sometimes
you have to wonder, because thatthing was a multi-level, I know
, with all that space.
I know have to wonder, becausethat thing was a multi-level, I
know, with all that space, Iknow, but in the day and we went
there a couple of times when itwas still the magic twanger,
but we didn't go, probablybecause it was a little bit out
of the way and yeah, it was, itwas a lot, there was a lot
happening, there was, but theyhad volleyball courts, yeah, and
(24:42):
a lot of people were talkingabout playing volleyball in
their dresses, like my br, mybridesmaids.
Kerry (24:48):
We weren't single anymore .
That's why.
That's why I wasn't.
Chrisy (24:51):
Oh, maybe, but quickly we probably need to check,
because we're not talking somuch about the dysfunction.
Yes, let's talk about all thesecrazy wedding guests that just
get out of sorts and fights andother things.
It's people watching it ispeople watching it is.
Kerry (25:09):
It's just like a funeral.
You get the other half at thewedding.
So yeah, I've not seen.
I don't think I've actuallywitnessed a fight at a wedding
Closer to one at a funeral, butnot at a wedding, I don't think
I have either believe it or not.
Chrisy (25:24):
Yeah, the one thing I do remember is that there was a
person at my wedding who wasvery much intoxicated.
Kerry (25:31):
Oh yes.
Chrisy (25:32):
Like overly intoxicated.
Yeah, and almost to the pointwhere some of the other guests
were worried and my boss at thetime, who was at my wedding.
I remember her coming up to meand saying, coming to the bride
to try and intervene with thisissue and said you know,
so-and-so is really intoxicated.
They look like a wet noodlebecause they're just like not
(25:54):
even able to like stand up as aperson anymore.
They've turned into some othertype of creature and they said
we're just so worried that she'seither going to pass out in the
middle of our table or she'sgoing to be sick or something
like that.
They're like can you really?
Maybe you need to haveintervene.
And I do believe that somepeople just said it wasn't
carrying her out because shewasn't really fighting or
(26:16):
anything.
She's just, it was just bad.
Oh, my.
Kerry (26:18):
So she had to be like basically carried out, and at
that time we didn't have Uber,you know.
Chrisy (26:23):
So you just usually park them somewhere, like in the
lobby on a sofa until you got tothem With a wastebasket next to
them.
Yeah, and you're like okay, sojust hang here, don't move, and
we'll get you home at some point.
Aw.
You know one of our episodesdoes have to be we're not going
to do it today because of timebut I just thought of another
great thing we need to talkabout.
(26:43):
I can't believe we didn't thinkof it.
Bachelor slash, bacheloretteparties oh yes.
I got a doozy with this mansitting over here.
I wasn't there, but, boy, I didhear the backstory on it.
It's a good one, uh-oh, allright.
Kerry (27:00):
We'll save that for a future one that will have to be
coming soon.
Chrisy (27:02):
Yes, I plead the fifth.
I bet you do, sir.
Kerry (27:06):
Well, I can't believe it.
We did make two whole episodesout of weddings.
Chrisy (27:10):
And I bet there would be .
Maybe down the road we go to acouple weddings, yep, there'll
be more.
We might have some more fun.
Kerry (27:15):
Same with funerals.
Chrisy (27:17):
Same with all of them.
Kerry (27:17):
But hey, we have to talk about two things that are coming
up that we have to acknowledgeBecause it's going to happen
between now and our next episodeis.
First of all, father's Day iscoming up this Sunday, so we do
want to give a shout out to allthe fathers out there.
So, dj Nick, happy Father's Day.
Happy Father's Day, farm boyJim.
(27:37):
Both of our fathers, chrissyand I's fathers, have passed
away, so that will be a shoutout up to the heavens of Happy
Father's Day to them.
But we also have coming upChrissy's birthday is coming up.
Now, I wish, I could wish you ahappy birthday, but I can't.
(27:58):
We're a weird place here, yeah,but just to know that her
birthday is coming up thiscoming Tuesday, the 17th.
So we'll talk about thatdefinitely a little bit more
next week, because then I'll beallowed to acknowledge your
birthday.
Chrisy (28:14):
It's really hard because all those people partying hard
for Watergate Remembrance Day,you know I am really hostile.
You want to know about myhusband Having to share.
It was never with Father's Day.
It was the people who were outthere just totally partying for
Watergate the break-in.
Yeah, you're so funny.
Yeah, it was just.
You know.
Geez, oh man, really, again, Iknow, wow.
Kerry (28:35):
Yep and anniversaries.
Jim and I have ouranniversaries.
That's right On your birthday.
That to me, see, now that'scelebrating the birthday thing
should take it back.
Chrisy (28:50):
So I'm trying to think, maybe we'll, maybe, I don't know
, should I do a vow renewal.
I'll say, maybe it sounds likewe have some new ideas we want
to explore.
We do so I think, couldn't itbe funny?
We could be like the Bradygirls, we could have a double
vow.
Oh yeah, we do our vowstogether.
And a birthday and a yeah, justdo the whole thing.
Kerry (29:04):
Woo, carrie Chrissy, woo Carrie Chrissy.
Yeah, carrie Chrissy, go,carrie go, yeah.
Alrighty, well, what we do wantto know is we want to know more
about your wedding stories.
Chrisy (29:14):
Share those pictures of your wedding cakes, your, your
dresses oh, the one thing Ididn't mention real quick, but
just to give a credit to wherewe're from, our area
specifically Youngstown,pittsburgh area the one thing we
are known for, we didn't talkabout it.
The cookie table, oh my gosh itis one out of many things that
(29:35):
we really appreciate and loveabout where we're from.
Kerry (29:37):
Yes, and the sad thing is a lot of the women who used to
do this yes have gone,unfortunately, but it's still a
tradition that a lot of peoplehold dear, and so if you know
about the wedding tape or thecookie table and you had a
cookie table at your wedding wewant to see those pictures too,
yes, so absolutely, and thenmaybe we can talk about those on
(29:58):
our uh thankful sunday episode.
Chrisy (30:01):
Uh next month yes, that would be great all right.
Kerry (30:03):
Everybody have a fabulous week.
Thanks for listening.
Chrisy (30:06):
Thank you, bye-bye.
Welcome to the Dysfunction.
Junkies Podcast.
We may not have seen it all,but we've seen it all.
And now here are your hosts,Chrisy and Kerry.
Kerry (00:22):
Hello Junkies, I'm Kerry
Chrisy (00:24):
and I'm Chrisy
Kerry (00:25):
.
Well, we went down the rabbithole of weddings and we didn't
get to talk about half of whatwe wanted to.
So here we are, part two, Parttwo.
Chrisy (00:34):
Weddings Of the greatest event in everyone's life.
Kerry (00:41):
Yes, well, let's see, I think, where we left off is we
were starting to talk about.
We were talking about thereception and you guys falling
for each other literally as youwere exiting the room, and so
what's good where we want topick up with.
How about the cake?
Chrisy (00:56):
Yeah, the cake is, it's wonderful.
And boy, I tell you what theydo with cakes now.
Kerry (01:01):
I'm jealous.
Yeah, so we didn't have thoseoptions.
You were cheated.
Chrisy (01:06):
A little bit.
Yeah, I mean, cause my cakewasn't anything fancy and the
only thing that was fancy aboutit and it was kind of a thing.
And boy does this date Like.
I remember my my oldest sisterwhen she got married.
It was those typical earlyeighties, late seventies, 80s,
late 70s, early 80s cakes thathad, like all the wedding party
was represented by a littlefigurine.
Kerry (01:27):
Oh, okay.
Chrisy (01:28):
With the.
Usually there was a littlefountain in the middle.
And there were like littlestaircases and you put all the
little bridesmaids and groomsmen, with the bride and groom on
top.
I mean, that's what she had.
Kerry (01:38):
Right.
Chrisy (01:39):
And that was like wonderful then, right.
I mean, if you saw that nowyou'd probably be like, oh my
God, this is so horrible.
But then it was what you had,right?
I think there was a little bitof a time period that this was
sort of popular when I gotmarried in the early 90s,
putting your cake on achandelier.
I never saw that was actuallylighted.
Mine was on a chandelier thatwas actually lit up Really.
Kerry (02:02):
Yeah, a chandelier, like you mean, like it was like the
cake stand was crystal and thecake stand was like I think it
was actually maybe gold, uh huh,like a can, like a chandelier,
that was hanging from theceiling.
Chrisy (02:16):
My cake was not hanging from the ceiling.
That's what I'm imagining itwas basically taking the
chandelier off the ceiling,putting it on top of a table and
then placing your little cakepieces around it.
And it was illuminated.
We can post this.
I guess I have the rights tothat now, since I did purchase
my negatives.
(02:36):
And so that was kind of a thing.
But I tell you, if I had to doit again, again, here you just
sort of think oh, if I could doit again.
I tell you, if I had to do itagain again here you just sort
of think, oh, if I could do itagain, just with the use of
fresh flowers, or even just thesimplicity of some of these,
that speaks volumes, even morethan the extreme extravagance
that people used to do or maybestill do.
(02:59):
Yeah, I don't understand thefondant thing.
Kerry (03:01):
Well, I have.
Actually, we had fondant on onmy well, jim and i's wedding.
So, from here on out, when Isay my wedding, we're just going
to talk about the third one,the most important one, right?
Okay, so, but we actually wehave a funny thing about our
cake.
Okay, because we had to sneakit out of the hotel.
Chrisy (03:19):
Wait a minute, here we.
What are you talking about?
Kerry (03:26):
Okay, so we got married at the Mandalay Bay in Las Vegas
and this is when they had theirown chapel.
That was out by, and theMandalay Bay if you've never
been there is very like tropicalthemed and they have a big,
huge pool that's like palm treesall around it has a sand bottom
pool and like it looks likeyou're sitting at the beach.
You know, all around it has asand bottom pool and like it
looks like you're sitting at thebeach.
(03:46):
You know.
Well, they had a buildingseparate from the casino and the
hotel.
That was their wedding chapeland it was beautiful.
So, even though we got marriedin Las Vegas and we were at one
of the casinos, it didn't feellike you were in a casino and
you weren't doing the drive byand you didn't have Elvis and
you didn't.
You know it was actually it was.
You know I'd want Elvis, I knowyou would, but that's why we
(04:08):
picked this one chapel.
So of course they have weddingpackages.
So whenever you get marriedthere, you've got, you know, you
get the chapel, you get theflowers included, you know.
So they have this basic package.
Well, part of it was you couldhave, you know, your cake.
Well, like I mentioned beforeis, we got married and we all
went to the bar where they had alittle band playing, so we had
(04:29):
a little, you know, a little,get together.
Right afterwards, the next dayis really when we had the
reception and we basically had abig cookout at our house and
that's when we wanted the cake.
They brought the cake up to ourroom because that's where we
were gonna like, we had this bigsuite, so the reception was
supposed to be in our room.
(04:50):
They brought the cake up to theroom and it was on this
beautiful, like you know,rolling nice table and it had
this very simple two-layerfondant covered cake that was
all like beachy.
It had like seashells and itwas.
It was really beautiful.
They had like brown sugar thatlooked like sand.
Chrisy (05:08):
Yes, I do, we should.
I can post it.
Kerry (05:11):
Post it okay yeah, I took the picture so I can post it.
I own the rights to the picture.
so we're like, oh, we neverthought about how we were gonna
get this cake home.
You know, like that just neverended our mind.
So here we are, rolling thiscake down the hall of the you
know 30 something floor of theMandalay Bay, down the escalator
(05:34):
, rolling it out to the valetparking lot.
It was a big cake and it was onthis nice like, oh, I'm sure
it's just fake marble plastic,but you know.
So we're like shoot, how are wegoing to?
Well, we're just going to justtake it like this.
So we snuck it out.
And now I say snuck.
We bought the damn cake.
It wasn't, you know, but it wasnot intended for transfer, it
(05:55):
was meant to be eaten at thehotel.
So, but yeah, that was ourfondant cake.
It was really pretty.
Chrisy (06:03):
So what were your?
Did you have a specific color,oh, no Theme, or was it just the
nice simple like ivory or white?
Kerry (06:12):
It was just very simple, yeah, yeah, my sister-in-law
made my dress and it was kind oflike a silvery, like a bluish,
silvery, simple dress.
She made it for me.
It was, you know, not the bigkind of a dress, but it was.
(06:32):
It was nice for a third wedding.
It wasn't white because, again,third wedding, because
everything was already decorated.
The hotel was very liketropical themed, you know.
But it was elegant, but yeah,but the cake was a beach theme
wonderful.
Chrisy (06:39):
Well, I knew there are people who have been married
more than once that continuallygo back to the white wedding
white cake, not cake dress.
Kerry (06:47):
Yeah, this is my wedding, I wore a white dress yeah lace
yeah, so I don't know but notfroofy, right?
Well, yeah, no, they probablyget less froofy.
Chrisy (06:55):
I guess I don't yeah, the fondant, because maybe I
didn't, maybe it wasn't really,it wasn't maybe really a thing
yet yeah, it right, correct,back when we got you have so
much the capability of what youcan do.
Yes, with how you're going todecorate your cake.
Yes, the fondant offers awonderful flexibility and
(07:15):
options with that and I guesswhen I got married it was still
old school, so you just wantedall the lovely frosting, yes,
and the sweeter, the better andthe better.
And the other way I was a realtraditionalist.
Sometimes you go to theseweddings and they have these
wonderful cake flavors Like andthere'll be more than one.
Oh wait, do you have?
Kerry (07:32):
a picture of it.
I have a picture.
Oh yeah, oh, you have it rightthere, yeah.
Chrisy (07:50):
It had like all these were like seashells'm glad
because now I got a good idea ofwhat that looks like.
That that is beautiful.
I am jealous because, again, mycake was lovely and it was very
good and you know, we took partin what was, I guess, sort of
the the theme of the time withthe chandelier thing, and uh,
chandelier I can't wait to see apicture of that.
Yeah, it was what it was.
You know again, if you had todo it again when you got married
(08:10):
as an older person, yeah, mycake would have been much
different.
Yeah, would you let me smash itin your face this time?
Oh, yeah.
Kerry (08:17):
Okay, so here's where this goes.
Chrisy (08:19):
You just if you've been at a wedding where this occurs
and everybody sort of eggs onthe couple with doing this.
Usually by the time you get tothe cake, people have had a few
beverages by then.
Everybody's a little bit hyperand intense and they really want
to see someone get nailed withthis.
Kerry (08:38):
And I was like.
Chrisy (08:39):
I was so like, first of all, I spent a lot of money on
my dress, Did a lot of time withmakeup, Again with my makeup, I
wasn't spent a lot of money onmy dress, did a lot of time with
makeup again with my makeup?
I wasn't going to get the asheson my head.
Kerry (08:50):
So now why am I going?
Chrisy (08:51):
to wear cake, I'm opting out again.
Horrible human being not therefor your entertainment.
So I did pretty much threatenmy future husband slash husband
with his life if he dare smushthat thing.
So we had the most probablyboring and most civilized the
(09:11):
cake exchange in the history ofthe cake cutting, bride and
groom sharing.
Thank you for being kind.
I think if we did get marriednow probably would be fun to
smush cake at each other.
Kerry (09:25):
And I'm sure we probably, maybe we should just do this
for the hell of it.
Chrisy (09:28):
I don't know, yeah, but so yeah, but I mean gosh, some
of these people they get yeah.
Kerry (09:35):
Oh, I have an issue with that Again, I think personally,
my personal opinion is, if thebride and groom smush the cake
on their faces, each other'sfaces, I think that is a first
sign of dysfunction in theirmarriage and they will end in
divorce.
And I always, I cringe, I'malways like, oh god, please.
(09:57):
You know, especially if Ireally like the couple and I we
get to the cake part, I'm likeoh god, please, don't, please,
don't do it, please, don't getit.
And I am like I'm, I'm gettingall worked up until they do the
cake.
And then, you know, if it'scivil, then it's like, oh good,
okay, yeah, they're gonna makeit good they got a chance this
fascinating.
Chrisy (10:13):
I think this would make an incredible study for somebody
who was doing a research orsomething like that, and maybe
even your personal, becauseyou've been to weddings.
Yes, so just you don't have toname names or anything else, but
just like shuffle back in yourmemory with these weddings.
And who did the extreme?
Do you know if you have thedata that supports your idea
(10:34):
that the worse off people aresmushing that cake at each other
.
Are they still married now I?
Kerry (10:40):
have to think Because, I will tell you, most all the
weddings I've been to they havenot smushed and all of those
people are still married.
So I'm trying, I know I've beento some where they have smushed
but they were not like close,like it might have been someone
like Jim knew, or extended, youknow.
So and I'm trying to thinkabout like those ones, if they
smushed, and then do I know themenough now?
(11:00):
No, they're not married.
I'm gonna start keeping trackof that yeah, that's a good
that's a good one like a overyears
Chrisy (11:06):
yeah at a thing you need to mark okay, smush cake.
Kerry (11:09):
Five years, ten years, oh nope, divorced off the and I
will tell you when jim and I didour vow renewal and they had a
cake there.
No, no, no, no, you didn't, no,no no, no, no okay.
but but I can say I could see insome relationships where that
could be okay, like so it's a nofor me personally, but I could
(11:30):
see, like how you guys weresaying like I could see that
being totally like oh yeah,that's, we've grown into that
and it would be OK.
It's just on a personalpreference.
No, I still don't want that andit didn't happen.
But I could see as a vowrenewal or 2050 anniversary or
50th anniversary doing it thengiven that you've had several
years of like.
Chrisy (11:48):
you know you've made it in your evasion.
And there's that one thing thatbothers you about this person.
You know they snore too much.
The damn toilet seat you leftup again.
You never put the toilet seatdown and I think then it's
humorous.
Kerry (12:02):
Right.
Chrisy (12:02):
You know what another telltale sign is that probably a
marriage isn't going to workout.
What when you go to a weddingand the bride is dirty dancing
with every other person at thewedding except the groom?
Yes, and I've been to such athing.
No.
First of all, a theme wedding'sgreat and, if you like, a
(12:24):
rustic wedding, yes, absolutely.
Kerry (12:26):
Yeah.
Chrisy (12:26):
You know it's all about what means to you and your, your
future husband, your futurespouse.
Kerry (12:32):
Right.
Chrisy (12:32):
This was at a, and this is more about me.
It has nothing to do with them,their choice.
I was going to a wedding andremember I was much younger too
this was quite a long time agowhere I was not told what type
of wedding it was Right.
Kerry (12:46):
Okay.
And when we got there, so youdidn't get a hint by the
invitation, or it didn't sayblack tie or casual, or wear a
costume, or where you know itwas.
Just here's the date.
Chrisy (12:57):
Here we are, boom, here's the wedding okay, and I
expected, uh, because I waswearing a dress that I actually
had bought at bloomingdale's.
Kerry (13:05):
Oh, my word you were going all out well, I, what am I
?
Chrisy (13:09):
I hate to say this my first credit card, because my
mom told me I had an establishedcredit which I was kind of mad
at her because I was like nowyou want me to be committed to
paying a bill.
All the time I've had my lifehas been so easy, you've been
paying everything.
Now you want me to pay forsomething.
So I said I'll show you myfirst credit card.
No, it's not JCPenney, it's not, no, no, bloomingdale's.
(13:29):
Thank you.
Kerry (13:32):
We don't even have a.
Chrisy (13:33):
Bloomingdale's around here.
They had a catalog.
They mailed me a catalog.
Oh okay, and I ordered andstuff was delivered and I had
the card, oh my God.
So I wore a very nice dress andI would have to venture to say
that my dress probably cost waymore than the bride's, although
she was in a legitimate weddingdress, right.
But it was also in like thiswhen you say barn, you think of
something lovely.
(13:53):
So in like this, when you saybarn you think of something
lovely?
Yeah, but this was more like afarm equipment garage.
Oh, it was a very nice open,large space.
Kerry (14:01):
Okay.
Chrisy (14:08):
But in my mind, when I walked in, I could see very
large, big tractors and maybelike a little puppy dog and a
horse walking around saying youknow E-I-E-I-O, but hey,
whatever, but yes, this bridewas like I don't know if she had
too much to drink.
I don't know if this was justin her personality, okay, but we
were sitting at the table andjust people watching.
Kerry (14:31):
Oh, that's the best, that's the best to do.
Chrisy (14:34):
Bride was skirt up gyrating oh, no all over, I'm
like is that the groom?
Kerry (14:41):
no, that's not there, oh my oh wait, there's a new.
Chrisy (14:44):
That's the groom right oh, no, oh oh my, it was just a
bunch.
Is that the groom?
No I just kept getting no'sfrom Nick and there she goes
again after like 14 guys.
I was like whoa and then Ilooked at him and I said Guess
who's not dancing tonight.
(15:05):
You're grounded, unless you areconnected to me with a nice
mellow slow dance.
I'm not going out there todance because as soon as that
girl enters your personal space,I'm entering hers.
Kerry (15:20):
You're going to go all Beth Dutton on her.
Chrisy (15:24):
It was intimidating.
Kerry (15:25):
I wasn't going to go.
Wait, who was intimidating morewasn't going to go.
Wait, who was intimidating more, Chrissy or the bride?
Chrisy (15:32):
That's what I want to know.
No, the bride Chrissy didn'thave to do that I wasn't going
to go up there.
Kerry (15:38):
No, but I mean Chrissy threatening you that if you got
on the floor was moreintimidating than the bride
gyrating on everybody but hernow husband he probably really.
That was probably the one timewhere I laid the law down and he
didn't think.
Chrisy (15:51):
You know you're being a little overbearing.
I think he was like you'realready telling me something I
you don't even have to wasteyour breath on.
So pretty sure nick did updateme shortly thereafter.
Yeah, uh that didn't work outthere we go.
Kerry (16:04):
The writing was kind of on the wall with that one See,
when you were saying barn, atfirst I'm because, see, I love a
good rustic theme and they'relovely and I totally am on board
because it's all about whatmeans to you and some of them.
They, I mean, they really arebeautiful.
But now that you're describingit as a, you know, more of
(16:24):
engine tractor kind of garage,yeah, that does kind of have a
whole different feel.
Chrisy (16:30):
You know how you go to a wedding too, and generally, no
matter where you have it in a in, like a rustic theme, or you
know a social hall, or maybeeven outdoor in, like a gazebo
type thing there's a specifickind of lighting that you expect
when you know you'recelebrating, you're having
dancing, you're having a lovelymeal yeah, it's usually,
generally it's a romantic themeit's a wedding.
(16:53):
So usually the lighting is likeat a certain level.
But this had like Bright LED,because somebody has to work on
this flipping tractor.
They need enough light here.
So the light never came down.
I mean it was like you sawevery blemish and flaw on
everybody.
It was like so bright in thereI mean it was almost like you
stood outside just to sort ofget a break from the brightness,
(17:15):
you know.
Kerry (17:17):
So wow, hey, it is, it is what it is, but the theme
weddings.
Chrisy (17:21):
now you did mention a little bit.
Yeah, I mean, have you everbeen to anything that you really
thought was like really clever,or that you like really were
impressed by the idea of doing atheme type thing?
Kerry (17:30):
I haven't personally, but I've known of people that have
had them.
You know, like this one couplewas really into the oh, what are
those?
Like Renaissance fair, okay,you know.
So everyone was, you know,dressed in the Renaissance fair
and the, you know, the dinnerwas goblets and turkey legs and
(17:51):
stuff, and so it was.
It really was cute.
They were really into it, wasyou know?
So I, I totally can get intothings like that if that's what
they want.
I've just never been invited tosomething like that, right.
And then I also do know somebodythat had a more of a star wars
themed wedding so again, I thinkthose are very yeah again,
personally not my thing, but Ithink if that's what you guys
both love and everything, I haveno problem with themed weddings
(18:12):
like that.
But I do think it's importantto tell your guests so that they
know what to expect.
Right, so you know, if you senda very elegant, you know
calligraphy, beautifulinvitation and then you show up
and it's a hoedown, that wasmisleading to your invitation.
Chrisy (18:30):
Well, I do have to say, with the theme idea of that, I
think that actually does reallyspeak volumes about that couple
getting married.
Because they had a connectionwith something.
Probably might have been whatbrought them together in the
first place.
So to have a wedding thatfollows in with that.
Kerry (18:47):
Yes.
Chrisy (18:48):
I think it's lovely.
Kerry (18:49):
I think those are going to be people that would be on
the more likely to survive theirmarriage list.
Chrisy (18:54):
Yes, as long as the bride's not, you know, dirty
dancing on all the male guests.
Kerry (19:02):
What's your take on honeymoons?
Well, planning.
Chrisy (19:06):
I guess you do a lot of planning for that and where are
you going?
What you know?
Kerry (19:12):
What do you feel about these people that say well,
we're not going to take ourhoneymoon for two years later?
Well, if you really To methat's not a honeymoon.
No, probably not at that point.
Chrisy (19:22):
But you obviously feel like it's something, there's a
place that you really want to go.
But you obviously feel likeit's something, there's a place
that you really want to go, andmaybe the timing is right,
because maybe work or othercommitments are stopping you
from being able to go for aslong as you want, right?
So you have to delay it, right?
Maybe it's a such a anextravagant thing that you dream
of that you want to do and youjust need to save up more money.
(19:43):
You're trying to be responsiblewith it.
Kerry (19:44):
Right so.
Chrisy (19:52):
But don't call it a honeymoon.
No, that's my thing, because bythen you've had enough time
living together.
Although you know people,they're together before weddings
anyhow, so maybe it doesn'treally matter.
But, yeah, they're getting away.
Probably just the idea ofbecause you've planned so much
for a wedding, yeah, and thenjust to have the two of you and
the noise is gone.
Yes, the, the pressure is sortof gone.
Yes, I think that it is nice.
Kerry (20:09):
That was the one thing that I remember that you know we
used to have this place inYoungstown.
That was really, really nice tostay.
I'm sure you would probablyremember it was right across the
street from where our highschool was Wick Pollock yes, the
Wick Pollock.
Chrisy (20:23):
Inn.
That's where I went there mywedding night.
Yes, yes, the Wickpullock Inn,that's right, I went there my
wedding night?
Kerry (20:26):
Yes, so I remember that was like, oh my God, that was
the place to stay.
We're going to stay there onour wedding night.
Well, that was like one of theworst decisions because, first
of all, by the time we checkedin and got there, it was already
like I don't know midnight, onein the morning, and then we
left for our honeymoon that nextday.
(20:46):
So we had to be out by likeeight o'clock in the morning
because we had to go do thebreakfast and get the car and
then get to the airport orwhatever.
So we got in there, we crashed,that was like there was no
honeymooning, but I was like butwe didn't even get to enjoy
this beautiful place and so Iwas like, man, that was not
(21:07):
proper thinking.
Chrisy (21:09):
Well, we chose that.
Like you said that was sort ofthe place that was highly
recommended at that time.
The one thing that we did do,because of the way just our
flight was going to be scheduled, we didn't leave the very next
day to go on our honeymoon, sothat Sunday we were still in
town.
Okay.
(21:30):
So you might've got to enjoy ita little bit, so yeah, so we,
you know, and the fact that myfather said you're leaving and
don't come back, so we didn'thang, you know, and so, yeah, I
mean, but it was, it was a niceplace and now, well, they used
to have a big hotel attached tothat building.
Kerry (21:49):
Yes.
Chrisy (21:50):
And I know the Wick Pollock very well.
On another reason we didn'ttalk about it I probably should
have mentioned it, but it's notthere anymore.
Kerry (21:55):
No, it's not.
Chrisy (21:56):
It was the president's house for a while for the.
Youngstown State, but they usedto have the best Mother's Day.
Yes, we went for Mother's Daythere for a very long time and I
can never say anything badabout it.
It was always lovely.
Kerry (22:10):
Yeah.
Chrisy (22:11):
Yeah, it was very nice, but we left on the Monday.
Yeah, after our wedding.
Kerry (22:16):
Yeah, you know, and speaking of the honeymoon, I
have no problem too with theones that want to do the
destination weddings, becausenow that to me is even more
ideal, especially now as I'molder.
It's the same thing.
It's just like me andeverything else in my life If I
want to get away or if I'mhaving anxiety over big group
events, I just go and go on atrip somewhere.
(22:37):
Here you go.
You can avoid all thedysfunction of all the wedding
planning and a lot of the drama,because now only few people are
going to probably make thatflight to your destination
wedding in Fiji or wherever, andthe fact that you don't, you're
already at your honeymoon.
Yes, you're already there.
(22:58):
Yes, so I have great admirationfor that.
I have no problem and, honestly, as far as like the wedding day
is, it's your day, so why areyou doing all this for everybody
else, you know.
So get there, have yourhoneymoon If other people happen
to be there to see it right,but it's you guys.
So I'm definitely all for thedestination wedding and getting
(23:21):
away and yeah if I wasn't such achicken about going places it
sounds great to me too.
Chrisy (23:28):
The one thing, too, I remember that you kind of miss
out on is after the wedding issaid and done.
We were able to hear thestories of what occurred after
with the wedding party generallyyes, and I do know that our
wedding party, because where wegot our reception was at a hall
which is still over there, mrAnthony's.
Oh yeah, so a big time hallthere in our area and across the
(23:50):
street from that back in theearly 90s was a very popular
night spot.
Oh yes, nick, you got to remindme of the name of it.
It was the Magic Twanger.
Kerry (24:04):
I knew that one.
Chrisy (24:05):
I couldn't remember Big time place and a lot, because of
its location next to that hall.
Kerry (24:12):
And now the Magic Twanger is iHeartRadio, which is one of
the people that, or one of thecompanies that, broadcast our
podcast.
Chrisy (24:19):
Yeah, no, it's definitely that, and sometimes
you have to wonder, because thatthing was a multi-level, I know
, with all that space.
I know have to wonder, becausethat thing was a multi-level, I
know, with all that space, Iknow, but in the day and we went
there a couple of times when itwas still the magic twanger,
but we didn't go, probablybecause it was a little bit out
of the way and yeah, it was, itwas a lot, there was a lot
happening, there was, but theyhad volleyball courts, yeah, and
(24:42):
a lot of people were talkingabout playing volleyball in
their dresses, like my br, mybridesmaids.
Kerry (24:48):
We weren't single anymore .
That's why.
That's why I wasn't.
Chrisy (24:51):
Oh, maybe, but quickly we probably need to check,
because we're not talking somuch about the dysfunction.
Yes, let's talk about all thesecrazy wedding guests that just
get out of sorts and fights andother things.
It's people watching it ispeople watching it is.
Kerry (25:09):
It's just like a funeral.
You get the other half at thewedding.
So yeah, I've not seen.
I don't think I've actuallywitnessed a fight at a wedding
Closer to one at a funeral, butnot at a wedding, I don't think
I have either believe it or not.
Chrisy (25:24):
Yeah, the one thing I do remember is that there was a
person at my wedding who wasvery much intoxicated.
Kerry (25:31):
Oh yes.
Chrisy (25:32):
Like overly intoxicated.
Yeah, and almost to the pointwhere some of the other guests
were worried and my boss at thetime, who was at my wedding.
I remember her coming up to meand saying, coming to the bride
to try and intervene with thisissue and said you know,
so-and-so is really intoxicated.
They look like a wet noodlebecause they're just like not
(25:54):
even able to like stand up as aperson anymore.
They've turned into some othertype of creature and they said
we're just so worried that she'seither going to pass out in the
middle of our table or she'sgoing to be sick or something
like that.
They're like can you really?
Maybe you need to haveintervene.
And I do believe that somepeople just said it wasn't
carrying her out because shewasn't really fighting or
(26:16):
anything.
She's just, it was just bad.
Oh, my.
Kerry (26:18):
So she had to be like basically carried out, and at
that time we didn't have Uber,you know.
Chrisy (26:23):
So you just usually park them somewhere, like in the
lobby on a sofa until you got tothem With a wastebasket next to
them.
Yeah, and you're like okay, sojust hang here, don't move, and
we'll get you home at some point.
Aw.
You know one of our episodesdoes have to be we're not going
to do it today because of timebut I just thought of another
great thing we need to talkabout.
(26:43):
I can't believe we didn't thinkof it.
Bachelor slash, bacheloretteparties oh yes.
I got a doozy with this mansitting over here.
I wasn't there, but, boy, I didhear the backstory on it.
It's a good one, uh-oh, allright.
Kerry (27:00):
We'll save that for a future one that will have to be
coming soon.
Chrisy (27:02):
Yes, I plead the fifth.
I bet you do, sir.
Kerry (27:06):
Well, I can't believe it.
We did make two whole episodesout of weddings.
Chrisy (27:10):
And I bet there would be .
Maybe down the road we go to acouple weddings, yep, there'll
be more.
We might have some more fun.
Kerry (27:15):
Same with funerals.
Chrisy (27:17):
Same with all of them.
Kerry (27:17):
But hey, we have to talk about two things that are coming
up that we have to acknowledgeBecause it's going to happen
between now and our next episodeis.
First of all, father's Day iscoming up this Sunday, so we do
want to give a shout out to allthe fathers out there.
So, dj Nick, happy Father's Day.
Happy Father's Day, farm boyJim.
(27:37):
Both of our fathers, chrissyand I's fathers, have passed
away, so that will be a shoutout up to the heavens of Happy
Father's Day to them.
But we also have coming upChrissy's birthday is coming up.
Now, I wish, I could wish you ahappy birthday, but I can't.
(27:58):
We're a weird place here, yeah,but just to know that her
birthday is coming up thiscoming Tuesday, the 17th.
So we'll talk about thatdefinitely a little bit more
next week, because then I'll beallowed to acknowledge your
birthday.
Chrisy (28:14):
It's really hard because all those people partying hard
for Watergate Remembrance Day,you know I am really hostile.
You want to know about myhusband Having to share.
It was never with Father's Day.
It was the people who were outthere just totally partying for
Watergate the break-in.
Yeah, you're so funny.
Yeah, it was just.
You know.
Geez, oh man, really, again, Iknow, wow.
Kerry (28:35):
Yep and anniversaries.
Jim and I have ouranniversaries.
That's right On your birthday.
That to me, see, now that'scelebrating the birthday thing
should take it back.
Chrisy (28:50):
So I'm trying to think, maybe we'll, maybe, I don't know
, should I do a vow renewal.
I'll say, maybe it sounds likewe have some new ideas we want
to explore.
We do so I think, couldn't itbe funny?
We could be like the Bradygirls, we could have a double
vow.
Oh yeah, we do our vowstogether.
And a birthday and a yeah, justdo the whole thing.
Kerry (29:04):
Woo, carrie Chrissy, woo Carrie Chrissy.
Yeah, carrie Chrissy, go,carrie go, yeah.
Alrighty, well, what we do wantto know is we want to know more
about your wedding stories.
Chrisy (29:14):
Share those pictures of your wedding cakes, your, your
dresses oh, the one thing Ididn't mention real quick, but
just to give a credit to wherewe're from, our area
specifically Youngstown,pittsburgh area the one thing we
are known for, we didn't talkabout it.
The cookie table, oh my gosh itis one out of many things that
(29:35):
we really appreciate and loveabout where we're from.
Kerry (29:37):
Yes, and the sad thing is a lot of the women who used to
do this yes have gone,unfortunately, but it's still a
tradition that a lot of peoplehold dear, and so if you know
about the wedding tape or thecookie table and you had a
cookie table at your wedding wewant to see those pictures too,
yes, so absolutely, and thenmaybe we can talk about those on
(29:58):
our uh thankful sunday episode.
Chrisy (30:01):
Uh next month yes, that would be great all right.
Kerry (30:03):
Everybody have a fabulous week.
Thanks for listening.
Chrisy (30:06):
Thank you, bye-bye.
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