People Pleasing is f**king you up way more than you think.
In this episode, John Oakes explores the concept of people pleasing, revealing that it is often not about making others happy but a survival mechanism rooted in childhood. He discusses how this behavior can significantly affect mental health, weight loss goals, and overall wellbeing. Through the example of a character named Cindy, John illustrates the consequences of prioritizing others over oneself and offers steps to reclaim personal freedom and assertiveness. He also shares insights into the deep-rooted fears that drive people pleasing and provides guidance on how to begin breaking free from these patterns.
00:00 Introduction to People Pleasing
00:45 Personal Story and Mission
01:34 Understanding People Pleasing and Weight Struggles
04:22 The Case of Cindy: A People Pleaser's Life
14:43 Childhood Roots of People Pleasing
19:19 The Impact of People Pleasing in Adulthood
23:45 Understanding the Nature of Control and People Pleasing
24:17 Steps to Break Free from People Pleasing
27:06 Facing Your Fears and Setting Boundaries
29:45 The Importance of Self-Care and Personal Wellbeing
33:50 Accepting Your Reality and Needs
38:45 The Journey to Emotional Freedom
40:51 Conclusion and Coaching Information
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